Dilemma in getting an FB

[MCPL]

bro TS i envy you,

but from one bro to another,
take my advice and dont end up like me.

i may not be on the same level as you,
i used to be engaged once,
love my fiancee alot too
but xiao didi dont want to settle down yet
so i had about 2 FB

one day i was careless and my fiancee caught me red handed
i lost everything after that
only married or engaged guys knows this feeling
how we took her for granted
how we ignore her
well i guess its punishment for me and its too late for amends

2 years has passed but the guilt still remains
FYI shes already married with a kid.

so my advice be faithful to your wife.
treasure her.

[indomitable]

I have read your post over and over again but I can't fathom what you are trying to say. What is this quandary that you are in.

[hickeybites]

Your so-called dilemma is very much a self-created one & I wouldn't even call it a dilemma in the first place -- more like a pipe dream.
You said it yourself: you miss the hunt, you miss the adrenaline rush, you miss being a predator.
What seems to get you high is your presumed ability to attract & hook women with your perceived gift-of-the-gab & thereby overcoming the "looks matter" mantra.
Your ability to experience the "shiok-ness" of encountering a non-existent FB in grp outings -- that shows the rosiness of your FB-mirage, dude

Your wife is seriously one of the most magnanimous & open-minded woman that I've yet to hear of. There's nothing at home to complain of & you're already hankering for trouble.
Is the thrill of the chase really worth it?

[EatPrayLove]

Originally Posted by hickeybites

Your so-called dilemma is very much a self-created one & I wouldn't even call it a dilemma in the first place -- more like a pipe dream.
You said it yourself: you miss the hunt, you miss the adrenaline rush, you miss being a predator.
What seems to get you high is your presumed ability to attract & hook women with your perceived gift-of-the-gab & thereby overcoming the "looks matter" mantra.
Your ability to experience the "shiok-ness" of encountering a non-existent FB in grp outings -- that shows the rosiness of your FB-mirage, dude

Your wife is seriously one of the most magnanimous & open-minded woman that I've yet to hear of. There's nothing at home to complain of & you're already hankering for trouble.
Is the thrill of the chase really worth it?

well said! couldn't agree much with you.

TS, guys at your age, you should really focus on building your career and not fooling around. it's really a blessing that you have such a open-minded wife, please cherish it and not abused the trust she gave you.

it might be fun to have a fb beyond your marriage, but the consequences might be too costly for you to bear.

[sulphur]

The potential FBs are really those that have already sort of hinted. I am sure you guys know what I mean.

After reading all of these, I think I will just stick to commercial ones if there is really a need to be "naughty". If I am not sure whether I can handle it, then I think I most probably can't!!!

Thanks all brudders for the advice I will stop thinking of this until the right time arrives, if it does.

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[wally888]

Originally Posted by sulphur

For my wife though, she is definitely open about me having short flings outside. All my massages(with HJs) and the occasional KTV outings I will inform her too. She used to work in a company that she has to go down to KTVs and pay the bill for her company for entertainment, hence she understands that guys will always need varieties.

Last time, I know a friend's friend who cheong the now defunct Dongguan KTV, wife sent him to cheong. Could u b that guy?

[LovePotion]

Originally Posted by 4am'rs

I have to agree with him Girls like stable men who can provide and depend-able.

guys, how much income is consider financially stable and dependable?? for lets say between 25-28 yrs old

[sexresearcher]

I also want to add that the door swings both ways. Your wife can accept your wild KTV and massage parlor behavior. Can you also accept it when she said 'you did it and why not me?'. The question is, what will you say and do FB lover?

[sulphur]

Originally Posted by hotstuffm8

Refer to bolded sections in your OP. Basically, your "dilemma" is 1 - you worry about the consequences of approaching someone to be a FB. 2 - you're not able to find WLs who can satisfy your cravings nowadays.

Firstly, what is this bullshit about wanting a FB, but getting worried about the "consequences"? 要偷吃又怕死? Cmon bro, whassup with that cowardly nonsense? Secondly, your 2nd fear is unfounded. As long as there's a demand, there will be a supply. Just look at the number of new threads on this forum every day. If you can't find anything suitable, maybe you aren't looking hard enough?



That whole paragraph doesn't make sense. Lemme get this straight:

1. You are attracted to your potential FB for their conversational skills.
2. But you want to bed them eventually, hoping they are "nice and wild" in bed.
3. But you claim that your marital status is secure (i.e. "do not want any changes"), just wanna fuck around. Oh, and talk to your FBs.
4. But you feel horny when you meet up with your potential FBs, who are acquaintances.
5. Meeting the potential FBs, even as in group, gives you a "shiok" feeling.

WTF are you saying bro? WTF.



From my understanding, you're saying that you wanna bed some of your friends, but is afraid of the social consequences. Forget about "being a male predator", I'm questioning your maleness. Dude just go bang the chick already. Or drop the idea totally instead of whining about it on the internet.

My apologies if I sound harsh here, but I prefer to be frank about the situation. After all, you did ask for our opinions on this matter. I hope you take the advice of the bros here into consideration. Please man, you are young and have a really understanding wife. Don't wreck your life by fucking a friend in your social circle when you're married. Never shit where you eat.

And since your fantastic wife has already given you a free hall pass to visit KTVs and WLs, I'm not even sure what your problem is here?

Hey bro, chill. I came in and declared I am confused. Addtionally I am not whining, just wanted to talk about it and listen to more opinions. It easier sometimes to listen to another person's logical view when I myself is not being logical anymore.

Being able to read things from everyone's reply just made me more sure of certain things. Maybe I have a screwed up mind, but at least give me a chance to recognise it.

Thanks anyway for your comments.

[sulphur]

Originally Posted by wally888

Last time, I know a friend's friend who cheong the now defunct Dongguan KTV, wife sent him to cheong. Could u b that guy?

LOL no bro. Actually my favourite is TN massages with the following variables:

- 5-8 WLs
- Late twenties WLs
- Shower (Shared or attached not an issue)
- Hard Massages

Hard to find after my fav joint in Joo Chiat(All the above variables were fulfilled) was killed. The few joints I tried after that were either too little WLs, too old WLs or lousy massages. Nevermind, this one I will slowly recce.

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[sulphur]

Originally Posted by hotstuffm8

Looking back at my post, I think yar man, maybe I'm abit harsh. Sorry about that man. But y'know, I think bros gotta tell other more confused bros to "wake up your idea!" sometimes. That's what bros are for ya?

Personally, I go by a simple rule: You can do anything you want, but you must be able to handle the consequences. This goes for everything in life. Want to smoke? Can. But don't complain if kena lung cancer. Want to eat super deep fried stuff everyday? Can. But don't complain if kena high cholesterol/blood pressure. Want to slack in school? Can. But don't complain if fuck up studies. Want to do raw with WL? Can. But don't complain if kena AIDS.

Its the same with your situation. I hope you are more clear-headed now and will be able to work on being a happier person. Please don't get offended by the tone of my earlier post.

Good luck with life! =)

Yupz bro, agree. I think I am off for the idea. Focus on commercialised services I will be.

Thanks!! I really appreciate every SBF brudders comments and I take them seriously.

[RedOmega]

Originally Posted by guess67

I am now tired of meet up and have FB, why?

Missing that little spice to spring board that feeling again? Find that ignition spark again.

[LovePotion]

in the past, i used to think that with good looks + 6 pacs.... girls will flock to me.. yes, they did but not as hiong as i thought it would be... now... (not that i am fat or ugly), i dont bother so much on appearance but more on making money... girls still flock to me


challenge accepted... go chiong for money first !!