Are guys generally ok if their partner has multiple sex partners?

[golf]

Originally Posted by warduckie1999

However, when I was exposed to the story in this forum like Peterpan story and watching porn from Thisav.com . I grew an interest in my gf also having multiple partner, but must let me know what happened.

Hope this help!

Same here....

Originally Posted by fallenmemory

So my point is this : I think it is absolutely fair for girls to have fun, as what guys are doing. This is call equality.

Agreed...!

[d(^_^)b]

Originally Posted by naturegreen

I share my FB with my one of my buddy. I am ok with it. In fact I have another friend who shares his gf with me as well. If you are interested can PM me but please don't share your bf with me. I am a straight guy.

LOL.

Really love Ur answer.

[Deena]

Originally Posted by helloworld11

As long as she don't mind me having multiple partners as well I won't mind. Fair is fair afterall :P

Having said that my gf has recently been asking me if I have other partners and ask me to be honest she won't mind. I lie and say no (visited some fls b4) cause scared she wanna test me. But then again our sex life become quite mundane already so I won't be surprised she's asking me this cause she herself want some fun too? Ts can you share what's your feeling like now since my gf might actually be feeling e same way as you?

I agree that if I were to have multiple partners, my bf should be able to do the same. I did mention to him that I didn't mind... but his answer was "too troublesome". Not sure if that was just for me to hear or if he really meant it.

In regards to your question, I just feel that while my dearest bf care for me a lot, there's still something lacking in the sex department. For instance, he doesn't want to try anal sex (says doesn't want to hurt me), doesn't want me swallowing (says it doesn't "suit my tastebuds"), etc. As a bf, these are all sweet traits... but when it comes to sex... I think I'm looking for someone who can kinda take charge.

Not sure if this answers your question?

[sgspycam]

hi,

don't mind me adding my 2 cents, but i think then the solution is probably to find a new bf rather than going out to find a FB etc.

granted, your current bf might be sweet, etc. but if his sexual chemistry with u doesnt click, then i don't think that the r/s might work in the long run because even if you stay together with him, you'll always be wanting something more or someone else in the sexual department..

there are so many guys out there, surely one has to be a better fit for you...

otherwise, u can try training your BF... but that would obviously require alot of work...

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by Deena

In regards to your question, I just feel that while my dearest bf care for me a lot, there's still something lacking in the sex department. For instance, he doesn't want to try anal sex (says doesn't want to hurt me), doesn't want me swallowing (says it doesn't "suit my tastebuds"), etc. As a bf, these are all sweet traits... but when it comes to sex... I think I'm looking for someone who can kinda take charge.

question is why not you take charge once in a while ?
give his the suck of his lifetime, i swear he would slowly develop the fetish of cim in the future

but if it is sexual compatibility that you're looking for, then is time to change a bf.

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Any guy would be really against sharing, its just a guys natural instinct. But he won't mind being shared between girls. Unless your boyfriend is really open minded in which i don't think he is right.

Honestly don't even tell him unless you want to start an argument. But if you ask and he somehow says okay or doesn't seem to care means he no longer loves you. Well you could always have a FB on the down low and still be with your bf for the emotional attachment, thats what alot of my Fwbs do. They don't want to leave their bf cause they are emotionally attached to them but their bf just simply can't satisfy their physical sexual needs.

They turn to me and i discourage them, but if they are really persistent and are sure of what they are doing then i give them a helping hand. But if they want to stop whatever we have then i respect their decision.

Hope this helps you and all the best with your relationship! 8)

[Loving_It]

Originally Posted by Deena

I agree that if I were to have multiple partners, my bf should be able to do the same. I did mention to him that I didn't mind... but his answer was "too troublesome". Not sure if that was just for me to hear or if he really meant it.

In regards to your question, I just feel that while my dearest bf care for me a lot, there's still something lacking in the sex department. For instance, he doesn't want to try anal sex (says doesn't want to hurt me), doesn't want me swallowing (says it doesn't "suit my tastebuds"), etc. As a bf, these are all sweet traits... but when it comes to sex... I think I'm looking for someone who can kinda take charge.

Not sure if this answers your question?

Well, try something new? u guys can explore more... i bet there is always something new. For anal sex, it is still save not to try. u should google abt anal prolapse... not a nice sight. and for swallowing, u can kinda force it on him lolx! show him u love it and u want it, might turn him on and he will do it

and like what some of the guys have said, how would u feel if he goes around having sex with other girls? If both of you dont mind, its ok. But how would u feel if u contacted HIV and u pass it to him? or vice verse?

[Deena]

@ sgspycam & arsenal_84; yea... will probably try the whole ''training" thing before taking much more drastic actions. *fingers crossed*

I've previously always assumed such 'problems' were only faced by guys - who knew it happens both ways!

[naturegreen]

Well the people nowadays are getting to be more and more open-minded. I did propose to my OC before why not try a 3P or 4P, she said I was crazy. I told her I was joking but that was enough to shut me from making any more such proposals till today. I proposed to several of my FBs and in the beginning they were all shy but you will be surprise of the number of girls who were willing to try it out.

I don't call this a trick but more of an assurance. Usually I arrange for a drinking session with my guy or girl friends for a chill out session to get to know each other better. The agenda is made clear to all parties right before the arrangement. If you are not comfortable, we just drink and go home. If the coast is clear and everyone enjoy each other's company, we proceed slowly and gradually.

There are getting more and more couples nowadays who do not mind sharing their partners. You may think these people are crazy. This is your own thinking. They have their own set of thinking which may be :-
a) Life is short, just enjoy
b) Sex life is getting boring. Doing something to enhance it
c) We want both of us to get to enjoy sex and sexperience it with different people. Who will not get sick of eating chicken rice at every meal?
d) They enjoy the feeling of jealousy yet aroused by the scene of another guy fucking his girl or his guy fucking another girl.

But of course this must come with consentment from both parties.

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by fallenmemory

Well... Don't mind if I give my 1 cent advice. (hope it helps in some way...)

Firstly, I think it is kinda unfair to female out there when it comes to stuff relating to sex. I think I speak for my gf and like-minded women when I meant UNFAIR. Below are some of the reason why I think its' unfair, especially in the 21st century context where males and females are of equal status.

Reason no. 1 - Guys have been fooling arounf with other girls, while they expect their girl to stay truth and "solely" theirs. Why can't girl do likewise ? Also, I think it is human rights to live your life the way you want, and not be constrain by what other think or say.

Reason no. 2 - Whenever a girl hang out with other guy, her partner will for a sure give her hell. But when a guy do more than just "hang out" with other girls, they expect their female counterpart to accept it. This is rather unjusted and unfair for females as they have to be "blindly loyal" to their spouse/bf with no abilities/rights to stop them. But when such a thing happen to girls, I believe history will tell you that girl gets the harsher treatment.

So my point is this : I think it is absolutely fair for girls to have fun, as what guys are doing. This is call equality.

Should get Scientists to implant some hormone into you and let you have menses every month. If this is what you called - EQUALITY.

Be it whatever, in work, in life, in whatever you do.. do you find equality? The baseline is NO. However, we should seek to live in a co-exist environment and work things out that suits both parties.

Why you don't wanna try exploring other options to enhance your sex-life instead? If there's such a stain in a r/s, it might end the r/s. Going out with guys is ok... but having sex with other guys ... is a slut. Sorry, but ya, i feel this way

[helloworld11]

Originally Posted by Deena

I agree that if I were to have multiple partners, my bf should be able to do the same. I did mention to him that I didn't mind... but his answer was "too troublesome". Not sure if that was just for me to hear or if he really meant it.

In regards to your question, I just feel that while my dearest bf care for me a lot, there's still something lacking in the sex department. For instance, he doesn't want to try anal sex (says doesn't want to hurt me), doesn't want me swallowing (says it doesn't "suit my tastebuds"), etc. As a bf, these are all sweet traits... but when it comes to sex... I think I'm looking for someone who can kinda take charge.

Not sure if this answers your question?

hmm so are you saying if he were to try the things with you then you would not actually think of having another just for sex partner? then again don't know why once you get into that dreaded 'routine' sex there's kind of a 'mental laziness' to spice things up (i know from firsthand experience :P) there's just more of an element of 'sexcitement' with someone new i suppose?

[comm]

i used to think its ok for my gf to satisfy her body urges with other guys as long as i have her 'soul' and loyalty

but now im not so sure......

[orneryjoe]

The best evidence that we have seems to say that humans are not meant to be monogamous. In the old cave-dwelling days, men probably slept with many women in the tribe. Likewise, women had many sex partners within the tribe. The important thing is that this went on for hundreds of thousands of years and is therefore part of our genetic inheritance.

Several thousand years ago however, man discovered agriculture, and everything changed. Monogamy gradually the only acceptable paradigm in many parts of the world.

But if we look around at these parts, monogamy is actually not doing very well. High divorce rates, serial marriages, a booming commercial sex industry and widespread addiction to porn -- all these are signs that humans crave for sexual variety.

Get your bf to read the book "Sex At Dawn" by Ryan and Jetha. It is available at many branches of our National Library.

[ck1961]

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[songsongsong]

I dun mind...... haha...... but im just one out of the normal... Already lost count of how many she got