Sad Man - Page 2

silverblue · #16 29-03-2009, 01:38 AM

by the way, how's the sex life with her?

NewandLost · #17 29-03-2009, 08:00 PM

Guys, you all made great points. Many which I acknowledge but have a hard time believing bucause I am clouded. I find myself coming to her defense sometimes. Guess the reason is I dont want to believe. Anyway Im doing better these days. Remember this was her attempt to get back together which I basically rejected. I let her leave the first time with high benefit of the doubt. Forgot to mention what changed is had met another gal who said she had a BF while we were dating but that guy had no $$. Im not sure whether to believe the other gal because I actually dated her for awhile as a rebound but lost interest and cut it off. The abscences bothered me a lot but this was also her way of coping with problems and sometimes the problems were caused by me. The ex had said many times she was not materialistic like her other GFs. I can honestly say her demands were more practical. Also when I met her she was not dressed well looked poor in my opinion and jsut striked me as a nice CH girl. I know the other type and steer clear. So maybe I was mistaken or things started to change quickly.

HCKing · #18 29-03-2009, 11:14 PM

TS it will be wise if u can heed bros advice and have a clean break with her. its obvious tat u r just ATM in her eyes. there r no 'things may turn better' or 'she may change 4 the better' in this case. its all clear as ice.

xyman · #19 30-03-2009, 12:11 AM

Just spend the money that you will be spending on her on other prc gals la.. u get to bonk and also buy some happiness...anyway u will be spending money.

U want to spend it and get the same fustrations and demands or spend it and get some happiness???..

sammyboyfor · #20 30-03-2009, 03:25 AM

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Originally Posted by NewandLost

Guys, you all made great points. Many which I acknowledge but have a hard time believing bucause I am clouded.

Instead of "clouding" yourself with all this sort of lovey dovey nonsense, why don't you concentrate on making a success of your life and achieving financial independence as quickly as possible.

Once you're retired with money in the bank, you can then start enjoying life to the fullest.

FL Lover · #21 30-03-2009, 12:16 PM

TS, you call yourself SAD MAN but how miserable are you as to compare to pple who alredy got cheated by their FLs gfs or KTVs gfs or even those who got themselves retrenched and constantly worrying for their next meals?

Are you crazy or what? Crying over someone who treats you like an ATM and yet dont even know how to cherish you. There are plently of gers around who might treats you better than her AT LEAST.

You have forgotten one very important thing... Why do a ger go back to KTVs or FLs again? There is only one reason and that reason is because you did not manage to give her what she wants and thats y she went back to her old trade..

My advice to you.... DUMP HER NOW, GET YOURSELF A GOOD GER, AND GO TO THE TEMPLE, PRAY TO GOD ON HOW LUCKY U R TO SEE HER TRUE COLOR BEFORE MORE DAMAGES ARE DONE. YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG.

Panamera · #22 30-03-2009, 12:35 PM

Bro T.S, cut loss and don't hope for improvement. Find a better one.

As mentioned in previous thread, a friend of mine was like you but was too clouded, he ended up marrying her and now he is more miserable than before. Bit by bit, his ex-WL wife showing true colors - Not single color but rainbow colors...

NewandLost · #23 30-03-2009, 06:24 PM

Thanks guys. This is helpful. Made me see the light. Reality out of the cloud. The bottom line is its hard to be interested in a woman (good or bad gal) motivated by only money, that causes so many emotional ups and downs for me. Just not someone I would marry. No way in hell would I let a woman bankrupt me nor destroy my friendships and family. I think I stepped into another world which is really dark and dont want to go that route again. Frankly no more PRC women period. Take my chances on more familiar turf where I know whats real and whats bull s it.

NewandLost · #24 03-04-2009, 12:38 PM

I recall one of the things said to me in the past was for CH women its common for men to spend all their money and then when there is no more left then the guy and the girl get married. This is what she told me. I was like you are insane.

DO_YOU_BJ · #25 03-04-2009, 12:52 PM

Good that u see the lite.
Remember 2 things, you love her but she loves u not.
Thus u r weak to her...PERIOD.
2, there is a very high tendancy that she'll seek you out again, this, as another bro has warned you.

This period, clear your mind and build your own foundations and strength again, why?
Cos the time for meeting your demon will come again....
Pass that stage, can celebrate liao but 99% will fall back into it again cos she'll come and do things to make you weak again.

Good luck

xyz1001 · #26 03-04-2009, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by NewandLost

Also some of the reasons why I think it was not an ATM play are she cried a lot when we parted, cried when I wouldn't cave into her requests. But I have also seen this girl disrespect me like after an argument the next day she wanted a new mobile phone. The other one really did drop in the toilet. Just confused and sad guys.

TS, there are many and i mean really many pple who are able to cry within 15 seconds... they are really good at what they do for a living...

I believe some of the bros here also reach this level long time ago

NewandLost · #27 03-04-2009, 03:24 PM

Thanks guys You are my strenght in dealing with this. So far so good but I have my moments. I can just see in my head and my heart how in the past tears would burst out. Can one really do that? I know I cant force myself to fake it. Having said that I have tried calling enough times before starting this tread and sort of think well if I reach out so much and its not reciprocated then someting is not right. Tearful gal turns into strong gal and no need to respond to calls and SMS'?

Panamera · #28 03-04-2009, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by NewandLost

Thanks guys You are my strenght in dealing with this. So far so good but I have my moments. I can just see in my head and my heart how in the past tears would burst out. Can one really do that? I know I cant force myself to fake it. Having said that I have tried calling enough times before starting this tread and sort of think well if I reach out so much and its not reciprocated then someting is not right. Tearful gal turns into strong gal and no need to respond to calls and SMS'?

Don't look back, move forward, find a right gal.

Your testing time will be "When she call you back", bookmark this thread of yours, come back here, reflect on it and strengthen urself. You will need to fight your own demonic voices when or if "she call you back"....your heart better not be soft and back to square 1 AGAIN.

Good luck to you. Bro T.S.

DO_YOU_BJ · #29 03-04-2009, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by NewandLost

tears would burst out. Can one really do that? I know I cant force myself to fake it.

Its easier than you think.
I for one have used this tactic on countless women from all parts of the globe.....kekekekeke

So for u, when she cries, u shud just react as hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
If you react as oh baby dun cry me here, me here...you're fucked!

NewandLost · #30 03-04-2009, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Its easier than you think.
I for one have used this tactic on countless women from all parts of the globe.....kekekekeke

So for u, when she cries, u shud just react as hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
If you react as oh baby dun cry me here, me here...you're fucked!

But thats rather cold hearted if she is in fact a good girl. Like I said the demon or the good girl did already try to contact me for CNY but I declined. I figured as you guys said it was a major setup to be KCed, thinking about all the past times I gor disrespected but no answer, no apology, no defense of perceived or real cheating only didnt want to think about it nor discuss, its your imagination , etc.

So I called about the time i started this thread and the result has been no response. maybe i hurt her? But then again the reactions fall outside of the normal realm of thinking. That is why I have a tendency to beleive I dealt with the devil.