Divorced 10 years...Now wife wants more maintenance, what are my options?

[manymanee]

dont know the background to this, so only think i can think of its go legal.

[shinysword85]

Yes, best to consult a professional in the field to know your options.

[supershaft]

i feel u TS.

Even go legal expert to advise also need to pay..

this society is really pay and pay till drop

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by bravoguy

Hi all, looking for advice from all the bros out there....

I'm 50yrs old and divorced 10 years, with two school going kids. Maintenance was at 1/3 of my income at divorce, and I have been regular and never missed it.

Now wife asking to double it. I'm not making much. And it's a strain.

Anyone out there has gone through this before and can share advice?

My take is this.. If she is not spending on herself or new boy friend, but if she is asking because of inflation and as kids school progress needs more money, and if you can afford it, do it for your kids lor. If you feel it is beyond your means, then let her know your difficulty. Dun let the kids think that you completely abandon them.

[AnnieYJL]

Originally Posted by BushTracker

My take is this.. If she is not spending on herself or new boy friend, but if she is asking because of inflation and as kids school progress needs more money, and if you can afford it, do it for your kids lor. If you feel it is beyond your means, then let her know your difficulty. Dun let the kids think that you completely abandon them.

Why suddenly can ask for double? Is that how it works

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by AnnieYJL

Why suddenly can ask for double? Is that how it works

Women in general are under the (false) impression that the law will always be on their side when it comes to maintenance. So they ask for the sky thinking that the law will always grant all their wishes - just because they are the ones with a pussy.

The bitter truth is that each maintenance application is re-evaluated for both necessity and affordability. Even if the expenses have truly doubled - the husband may not be forced to pay double, simply because he cannot afford it.

[AnnieYJL]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

Women in general are under the (false) impression that the law will always be on their side when it comes to maintenance. So they ask for the sky thinking that the law will always grant all their wishes - just because they are the ones with a pussy.

The bitter truth is that each maintenance application is re-evaluated for both necessity and affordability. Even if the expenses have truly doubled - the husband may not be forced to pay double, simply because he cannot afford it.

Interesting. I am not really familiar

[supershaft]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

Women in general are under the (false) impression that the law will always be on their side when it comes to maintenance. So they ask for the sky thinking that the law will always grant all their wishes - just because they are the ones with a pussy.

The bitter truth is that each maintenance application is re-evaluated for both necessity and affordability. Even if the expenses have truly doubled - the husband may not be forced to pay double, simply because he cannot afford it.

yup... and when period is longer after the divorce, it becomes very stranger-like between 2 persons... with the charter intact till she remarry, the motivation to get more $$ become compelling due to kc feelings die down n less sympathy to eat into ex hubby's savings.. so moral of story is, its a huge bet when getting married so think carefully before signing dotted line.

[wh1tejade]

Originally Posted by AnnieYJL

Why suddenly can ask for double? Is that how it works

May not get the full amount asked, so might as well "lioness open big mouth"

[AnnieYJL]

Originally Posted by wh1tejade

May not get the full amount asked, so might as well "lioness open big mouth"

Haha! I presume she has reasons because she has children. Next time if I divorce, I probably get 0 since I don’t have children. Haha! So much be independent already since cannot open mouth at all

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by AnnieYJL

Haha! I presume she has reasons because she has children. Next time if I divorce, I probably get 0 since I don’t have children. Haha! So much be independent already since cannot open mouth at all

This is technically not true - a woman's right to alimony is based on the lifestyle to which she is accustomed to during marriage.

If, for example you regularly receive a sum of money every month in your bank account and you are free to spend it in any way you like and you can prove what you usually spend it on, that can be used to claim for maintenance after the divorce.

If a man is stupid enough to do that for the wife during marriage, usually they end up negotiating a lump-sum, often this is a bigger share of the matrimonial home in exchange for what would otherwise be an escalating and potentially never-ending monthly payments.

So I hope this become a useful guide on what a married guy should not do, and what a married woman should try to do.

I always think this is a bit of a silly move - if the wife is really keen on taking a lot of money from the husband, the best way is to get the husband to buy another property under joint tenancy, and cover this under an MRTA. Then kill the husband, so that way she gets a fully paid house. That will really be gg.

[fallen11]

rule of thumb:

if your income has not increased since the divorce judgement is made, there is no case for her to increase the child maintainence from you.
And she also has to pay the legal fees to engage a lawyer to start the case of revising the child maintainence.
Usually people wont do it so unless its very obvious that the ex husband's income has increased a lot to make it worthwhile to pay for a lawyer to engage the case to increase the child maintainence.

how much the judge assign for child maintainence not only depends on the child maintainence cost, but also the payer's income level.

[Garage1]

any updates bro?
stay strong

im divorced too.. (almost 1 year )
no kids..

everyone said i dodge a bullet

[JacqueMerlin]

Chances are... TS will end up paying. That was why I rather pay my ex wife 1 time fee to close everything and refused to include any maintenance clause during my divorce. fucking bottomless pit.

[Pixelboy]

tell her that real life is different...an ex-wife can't be a doubt forever!!!