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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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Is it common for married/attached viet girl to find flings/fuck buddy/part-time bfs in their homeland? (eg HCM, Hanoi)
yes very common... some even when they have baby they still go out find bf...so must really understand the gal well
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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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what other advice do you need more from us??

just go there with eyes wide open, ears open, mouth shut and wallet thin...just listen to your gal and discuss what to do in any case...dun be too smart...

very common to report to local district police that a foreigner is coming to live in a house...if not when police come then sure problem...on the other hand you only stay a few days and not often....why bother to report...unless her neighbours are all scums who will be busy bodies...
Hi,

Can you help with the following questions

1) Keeping wallet thin. Where is the line ? Does it mean I just go there and let them settle all my meals for me ? Will it be polite or compulsory to give them a dinner treat at a restaurant ? Or is that considered too much ? If her niece and nephews asks for sweets or presents will i be seen as stingy if i do not get them anything . i do get the meaning of keeping wallet thin. It is really not to appear too flashy or wealthy. Perhaps i need a guideline which i hope to understand from you guys here. Also, there may be intricacies of a "dinner treat". I am not sure if will give her family a wrong impression.

2) Keeping eyes open and mind open... this i believe I have a better idea. I would perhaps like to know if there are any outright tell tale signs that i should look out for in a unhealthy family situation. For example : her big brother trying too hard to get close to me to get benefits and stuff. I need some pointers here on what i shoult stay away from.

3) Is bring a lot of goodies from Singapore ( for example bangawan solo etc etc ) a misleading sign of them to think that i am well off ? How should i dress like ? If i am on a sloppy tshirt and shorts and sippers, will it be seen as disrespectful ? Should i always be in shirt and pants and shoes when going around ?

4) Is it normal for the parents to ask me any set of standard questions revolving on my job, salary, family etc etc ? Where is the line ? Is it normal for them to probe into my salary straight away ? And will this be a telltale sign for anything ?

I hope this will be able to shine more light on what i want to gather from the brothers here. from the way it is with my limited knowledge of the country, I am just concerned that i may step on someones tail and get pull away into the jungles and be shot by the vietcongs.

Thanks all for helping. Awaiting responses.

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Old 15-09-2012, 06:06 PM
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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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Can you help with the following questions

1) Keeping wallet thin. Where is the line ? Does it mean I just go there and let them settle all my meals for me ? Will it be polite or compulsory to give them a dinner treat at a restaurant ? Or is that considered too much ? If her niece and nephews asks for sweets or presents will i be seen as stingy if i do not get them anything . i do get the meaning of keeping wallet thin. It is really not to appear too flashy or wealthy. Perhaps i need a guideline which i hope to understand from you guys here. Also, there may be intricacies of a "dinner treat". I am not sure if will give her family a wrong impression.

Its perfectly alright to give them a treat in the province restaurant, but order NORMAL food, not expensive food like crabs. Ask your gal to keep the food simple and if she has your interest at heart, she will help you save money. Their normal meals are very simple too. Some local beers for the guys are alright too, but NO NO to hard liquor. Some chocolates and sweets for the little ones are encouraged too, sometimes, little red packet of 50K VND for kids are good too. No way to save a lot of money, from personal experiences. Don't expect them to treat you daily. next way is to give your gal some money, like 500K VND to cook up a dinner at home.

2) Keeping eyes open and mind open... this i believe I have a better idea. I would perhaps like to know if there are any outright tell tale signs that i should look out for in a unhealthy family situation. For example : her big brother trying too hard to get close to me to get benefits and stuff. I need some pointers here on what i shoult stay away from.

Don't be shocked if you find old folks walking to you to tell you they are very poor and want money from you. Its very normal. Old folks that are close family members, if your gal expect you to give, 200K VND is alright. Keep your wallet close to you and don't give out money like running water tap.

3) Is bring a lot of goodies from Singapore ( for example bangawan solo etc etc ) a misleading sign of them to think that i am well off ? How should i dress like ? If i am on a sloppy tshirt and shorts and sippers, will it be seen as disrespectful ? Should i always be in shirt and pants and shoes when going around ?

goodies like sweets and chocolates for kids, 555 cigarattees for gal's father are very normal. Dress code wise, wear properly but not overdressed. Short sleeves with pants if you want to be formal (also good at keeping off the mosquitoes) Bermudas are alright too. They understand as weather is hot .

4) Is it normal for the parents to ask me any set of standard questions revolving on my job, salary, family etc etc ? Where is the line ? Is it normal for them to probe into my salary straight away ? And will this be a telltale sign for anything ?

They won't ask you much and even if they ask you, don't tell also. $3k salary to us is nothing, but to them is huge money. If you tell them the truth, you will have hard times in the future if you marry the gal. Be humble and friendly, but not stupid and boastful. I hope this will be able to shine more light on what i want to gather from the brothers here. from the way it is with my limited knowledge of the country, I am just concerned that i may step on someones tail and get pull away into the jungles and be shot by the vietcongs.

Thanks all for helping. Awaiting responses.

Regards

You do not want them to look down on you , neither do you want them to think you are very rich and rip you off. just be normal and be careful of your wallet. Their families are very big, and if you don't keep your wallet with you, it may end up somewhere. Don't stress yourself , go and enjoy.
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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

Thanks bro Singviet . Appreciate it a lot ! Very good pointers indeed. I will just go and enjoy.
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yes very common... some even when they have baby they still go out find bf...so must really understand the gal well
but... how to know? Esp when both of you are in different countries separately...

In front you behave like angel, but behind could be a devil in disguise. I've such encounter before.
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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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I think i have mentioned in this thread about this before. Ladies look for the feeling of security in their man, if they cannot find this in their man, they will be up to looking for other avenues. Work hard to provide for her and your children, quit cheonging, communicate with her and gain her understanding on your situation. If she loves you, she will not go look for extra banana.
This is what i like to hear.
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Old 15-09-2012, 11:24 PM
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em co 1 nguoi chi ten katy ngoc,26 tuoi ,cao142cm ,38kg .van chua lap gia dinh .hien gio chi dang o singapo dang tim ban trai .ai quan tam den va muon tim hieu chi xin lien he ; goi 82328481 jolene ngoc

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em co 1 nguoi chi ten katy ngoc,26 tuoi ,cao142cm ,38kg .van chua lap gia dinh .hien gio chi dang o singapo dang tim ban trai .ai quan tam den va muon tim hieu chi xin lien he ; goi 82328481 jolene ngoc

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em co 1 nguoi chi ten katy ngoc,26 tuoi ,cao142cm ,38kg .van chua lap gia dinh .hien gio chi dang o singapo dang tim ban trai .ai quan tam den va muon tim hieu chi xin lien he ; goi 82328481 jolene ngoc

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Wah, my thread become matchmaker thread . That gal got ISO 9002 or VN Quality Class ?
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em co 1 nguoi chi ten katy ngoc,26 tuoi ,cao142cm ,38kg .van chua lap gia dinh .hien gio chi dang o singapo dang tim ban trai .ai quan tam den va muon tim hieu chi xin lien he ; goi 82328481 jolene ngoc

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haha...now like this also can...

Name - Katy Ngoc
Age - 26 yrs (should be 25yrs ang moh)
Height - 142 cm (dun know why so short)
Weight - 38kg (very light)
Comment - yet to marry have no family yet...looking for bf...who wants to contact...pls call ....number above...

photos in the link shot in Singapore...think this is a scam...gal already in Sinkie...haha...no longer innocent ma...
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haha...now like this also can...

Name - Katy Ngoc
Age - 26 yrs (should be 25yrs ang moh)
Height - 142 cm (dun know why so short)
Weight - 38kg (very light)
Comment - yet to marry have no family yet...looking for bf...who wants to contact...pls call ....number above...

photos in the link shot in Singapore...think this is a scam...gal already in Sinkie...haha...no longer innocent ma...
Hmmm.... don't mind me saying, quality like this that's why need matchmaking.
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Hmmm.... don't mind me saying, quality like this that's why need matchmaking.
hmm....wonder how she knew how to post here..must be some smart alec samsters created for her...this is no good...

my advice to all samsters...dun bother to do this...you are not helping her....or helping us...
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hmm....wonder how she knew how to post here..must be some smart alec samsters created for her...this is no good...

my advice to all samsters...dun bother to do this...you are not helping her....or helping us...
maybe she's the SIL of some samster here.
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haha...now like this also can...

Name - Katy Ngoc
Age - 26 yrs (should be 25yrs ang moh)
Height - 142 cm (dun know why so short)
Weight - 38kg (very light)
Comment - yet to marry have no family yet...looking for bf...who wants to contact...pls call ....number above...

photos in the link shot in Singapore...think this is a scam...gal already in Sinkie...haha...no longer innocent ma...
another big mistake i mentioned many times..... her surname is Ngoc ?
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but... how to know? Esp when both of you are in different countries separately...

In front you behave like angel, but behind could be a devil in disguise. I've such encounter before.
yeah it really hard... I also dont know how
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