Friendships between WLs and Us?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by xyz1001

I was wondering why the sudden change in your signature. haha.
Can still go la kopi ya?

Nottin, latest pic taken only last week plus the siggy is the truth hahaha
Kopi no prob, but 1st you must learn how to answer calls & reply SMSs hor.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by DTCEPL

It really true.......I can back this phase up through my own personal experience of 2 long years with a gal She gave me up the day I lost my financial capabilities. The very day, I called her to tell her the bad news, thats the end of a two years relationship.

Well she is stupid, I managed to stand up again, even better, after 3 weeks of worries on my end. F**k those gals who made used of men, and worst hurt our emotions. Losing the money is no big deal, but hurting the emotions is so painful and it cuts our heart so deeply. Really curse them to hell But it end up....like what the contract always said....willing buyer willing seller.....we can't blame anybody but ourself for being an idoit, unwise, stupid etc.. We are too blinded by 'Love' which the gals sees only Money in us.

Haha bro, thanks for your agreement thru your personal life experience.
As the saying goes, you got the $$$ she got the honey....so its kinda fair trade except for the emotional aspect.
Do not hate, live and let live and you'll find the peace you seek.
Good luck my friend.

[colins]

Originally Posted by thunter

Well, at this stage (I only know her less than 3 months) I not gonna give her money (not more than a few hundred anyway, if she really needs it).
...
And to be honest, I was the one who KC her before this, even after she went back. Thinking to bite the bullet and ask her how much money she need to come over.

Translated: I'm not giving her money cos I know her for less than 3 months, but I'm prepared to give her a few hundreds...

Translated: I want to pay for her trip back to sg so I can continue to KC her...

Boy, full of contradictions.

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by thunter

Lend, if big amount, also I afraid.

And to be honest, I was the one who KC her before this, even after she went back.

Thinking to bite the bullet and ask her how much money she need to come over.

Bro, pls remember in this game of relationship it is not a matter of who KC who? becos the end result is the same, you will fall deeper into it. And you had.

You wanted to give her the money anyway. However, your instinct is telling you it is not right. So when your gut feeling tells you this, you are probably right. Trust your inner self tots, they are like guardian angel protecting us.

[xyz1001]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Nottin, latest pic taken only last week plus the siggy is the truth hahaha
Kopi no prob, but 1st you must learn how to answer calls & reply SMSs hor.

Oh... my working area network not very good. Didn't receive sms too leh. Think must change to Singtel

Hmmm... i thought colin going overseas??

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by xyz1001

Oh... my working area network not very good. Didn't receive sms too leh. Think must change to Singtel

Hmmm... i thought colin going overseas??

Yup, psychically here but spiritually floating somewhere over the sea hahaha

[cablesnwires]

Bro thunter,

Forgive me for being blunt in this:

She need help and want $$$ from you.
You give $$$ to her, thinking by doing so she will treat you better. will be thoughtful and kind to you.
You feel happy after thinking about this.

But actual situation:

She need help and want $$$ from you.
You give $$$ to her, thinking by doing so she will treat you better, will be more thoughtful and kind to you.
You feel happy after thinking about this.
She not thoughtful and kind to you, because the $$$ you send her she oredi give you attention before. That is what she has rightfully earn and therefore no need to be more thoughtful and kind, just maintain status quo.
You feel something not right, feel she does not reciprocate your kind gesture.
You think you may not be doing enough, gives her more money.
She gladly accepts but still act the same.
You get upset, but tell her you give so much but still you don't feel you are special to you.
She can either, stop right there OR continue to milk you further.
She can give you a bit more KC to you.
You feel she got change, and therefore you very happy.
The vicious cycle starts again.
It will stop when no more milk.
She say she lose interest liao....

Believe it or not, tat will happen....

One point to note, if you don't give $$$ so much the better. But if you really want to do it, nobody can stop you. But please a word of advice
"YOU CAN GIVE, BUT NEVER NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN. BE PREPARED TO LOSE THIS AMOUNT."

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by cablesnwires

"YOU CAN GIVE, BUT NEVER NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN. BE PREPARED TO LOSE THIS AMOUNT."

Well said...when dealing wif such people apply the following:
不能有要求
不能有希望
不能有代价
Else, be ready for a world of pain......
Do it only if you are mentally prepared for it with not wanting anything in return.
As mentioned before, selflessness

Very well said...upz u dude.

[cablesnwires]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Well said...when dealing wif such people apply the following:
不能有要求
不能有希望
不能有代价
Else, be ready for a world of pain......
Do it only if you are mentally prepared for it with not wanting anything in return.
As mentioned before, selflessness

Very well said...upz u dude.

Bro DYBJ, you have explained it very well too, and thanks for the upz.

Of course what we say is easy, but to do is going to take a lot of discipline and clear mind.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by cablesnwires

Of course what we say is easy, but to do is going to take a lot of discipline and clear mind.

Ah yes of cos.
That's Y in such playing fields, some are meant to be players and some are meant to be playees.
There'll always be a winner n looser in these games.

[Wooden_Handle]

Bro cablesnwires really good summary of WLs psychology in 1 post.

Giving them $$$ is like throwing it to the sea, it will float for a while and disappear, and the waves (demands) will be back. So the more you give (throw), the more it disappears. Also dont forget they have many sources of income as well, they sure dont come here and milk 1 cow.

Think about it: why must pay $$$ to entertain them instead of they entertain us??

Originally Posted by cablesnwires

One point to note, if you don't give $$$ so much the better. But if you really want to do it, nobody can stop you. But please a word of advice
"YOU CAN GIVE, BUT NEVER NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN. BE PREPARED TO LOSE THIS AMOUNT."

[wodemama]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Ah yes of cos.
That's Y in such playing fields, some are meant to be players and some are meant to be playees.
There'll always be a winner n looser in these games.

True. But i reckon some of them are willing to delude themselve and allow the prc to continue telling lies and then act like they don't know about it.

[colins]

Originally Posted by xyz1001

Oh... my working area network not very good. Didn't receive sms too leh. Think must change to Singtel

Hmmm... i thought colin going overseas??

Supposedly, but becos I suffered a minor accident, now requiring a tongkat to walk. So far, nobody calls me Ali yet, if got any, I will whack them with the stick.

BRO, MAYBE YOU SHOULD USE A SATELLITE PHONE INSTEAD. Call and call, in my mind, I thought you dropped into the sea or something.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by wodemama

True. But i reckon some of them are willing to delude themselve and allow the prc to continue telling lies and then act like they don't know about it.

When in this stage, its already called KC TRAPPEDEDEDEDEDED!
hahaha

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by colins

Call and call, in my mind, I thought you dropped into the sea or something.

Bwahahahaha