Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by volcano

aiyohhhhhhhh....bcos u guys dunno him lah...this year,he is targetting 21 yrs old,next year will be 20 yrs old....

and of cos he is "dep"....

me n him are the infamous duo "deptrai" in VN which is "dep" in another way...

tio bo blue monster.....

fuck man!!! everytime i show some girls ur photo, they either say that is my picture or my twin brother... until i finally forced to accept the fact that i not so handsome.... haiz....

so u take care of Q7, me squatting in Q8. please dun come Q8 to kar cheow too much, otherwise one day some VB sent people to kill u end up killing me by mistake!!!!

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, if i have offended you in any way, my apologies. I don't throw smoke bombs la, no intention to.

Alamak Bro SV ...

1. You did not offend me ; and

2. I am Not talking about you lah .... Me where got 资格 says you ...

So pls dun misunderstood my posting ...

[Genomes]

why viet girls want marry so fast?

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by Genomes

why viet girls want marry so fast?

Cos u r a good catch n they afraid u will slip away from their grasp so fast hand fast leg marry u loh.

[greener]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Not all WL are bad, but most as untrustworthy. You will be the luckiest man if you marry a good one. But for a 19 year old, the risk is very much higher as their maturity level is not there yet. A few months of `feeling good and romantic' may turn out to be a disaster. Personally, i will not marry a 19 year old. If a WL has reached the age of 25 and above, the maturity level may be there and they will be more stable. To us, we may not feel that there's anything wrong to marry someone that's much younger. The viet lady may just keep quiet about it. But the truth will be out when she mixes around with her same group and start complaining about the age difference of her and her husband and start to say `my husband is sooooo old' .

Hi,

Thanks for the advice and opinion. There is certainly a lot of uncertainty about the age gap. I did ask her before about the age but she said that it is perfectly ok. Again we will never know how " ok " is this " ok " .

Again thanks all for giving me your feedback and opinion.

I got to see it and feel it for myself if I am able to understand and accept and like the family she is in. This is probably the most important part as acceptance and understanding can be developed thru more interaction.

I was looking at the map of vietnam .... 90 million people yet she is the one I met.

I will definitely be spending sometime understanding her family and mindset first before coming to a more concrete decision.

Regards

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Alamak Bro SV ...

1. You did not offend me ; and

2. I am Not talking about you lah .... Me where got 资格 says you ...

So pls dun misunderstood my posting ...

hhahaha bro, i read your post 5 more times again then i understand. A bit chim leh...... Aiyoh, friends talk about what 资格?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Cos u r a good catch n they afraid u will slip away from their grasp so fast hand fast leg marry u loh.

I think you are right....

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by greener

Hi,

Thanks for the advice and opinion. There is certainly a lot of uncertainty about the age gap. I did ask her before about the age but she said that it is perfectly ok. Again we will never know how " ok " is this " ok " .

Again thanks all for giving me your feedback and opinion.

I got to see it and feel it for myself if I am able to understand and accept and like the family she is in. This is probably the most important part as acceptance and understanding can be developed thru more interaction.

I was looking at the map of vietnam .... 90 million people yet she is the one I met.

I will definitely be spending sometime understanding her family and mindset first before coming to a more concrete decision.

Regards

As i have said b4, not only it is important for u to understand her n her family but also for her family to understand u n yur situation and also most importantly, for yur family to understand her n her family. Its gonna be a tough road ahead.

Seems like already have made a decision. All the best to u.

Cheers.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by greener

Hi,
I was looking at the map of vietnam .... 90 million people yet she is the one I met.

I will definitely be spending sometime understanding her family and mindset first before coming to a more concrete decision.

just a little bit more insignt...most of the VBs who I knew over the past 5 yrs want to have babies with me even without marriage...yet I had lost count how many I had before...and these VBs are decent gals and not WL...so morale of the stories...it doesn't matter if she is 1 out of 90 mil population...but in Vietnam female is about 51% out of 90 mil...and if you discount the old and young left 15mil of suitable VB for you to choose as bride...my advice as you already said so...visit Vietnam more often...then you will realized things are very different from sinkie...also dun read too much into getting to know her family....it doesn't matter till you need to marry her...just enjoy your courtship and love...go in to Vietnam with your eyes wide open, ears also open, mouth shut and wallet thin...

by the way...i am still making monthly trips to hcm for the past 5 yrs plus...I am such a frequent traveller that most airlines accord me more than frequent flyers...haha...btw, I also know many brothers who are VB lovers here fly monthly to hcm but I cannot tell you who they are unless they come here to admit themselves...hehe...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by greener

Hi,

Thanks for the advice and opinion. There is certainly a lot of uncertainty about the age gap. I did ask her before about the age but she said that it is perfectly ok. Again we will never know how " ok " is this " ok " .

Again thanks all for giving me your feedback and opinion.

I got to see it and feel it for myself if I am able to understand and accept and like the family she is in. This is probably the most important part as acceptance and understanding can be developed thru more interaction.

I was looking at the map of vietnam .... 90 million people yet she is the one I met.

I will definitely be spending sometime understanding her family and mindset first before coming to a more concrete decision.

Regards

Since you have decided, i wish you the best. Go try her out and let time show you her character . If after some time, you still feel she's the one for you, then go all out for her. If you feel she's not the one, do not let your little head decide, think logically as its no fun rushing into marriage and rushing out of it.

All the best !!

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

hhahaha bro, i read your post 5 more times again then i understand. A bit chim leh...... Aiyoh, friends talk about what 资格?

Read extra 5 more times ... Wah liao .. got so chim anot ....

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by greener

Hi,

Thanks for the advice and opinion. There is certainly a lot of uncertainty about the age gap. I did ask her before about the age but she said that it is perfectly ok. Again we will never know how " ok " is this " ok " .

Again thanks all for giving me your feedback and opinion.

I got to see it and feel it for myself if I am able to understand and accept and like the family she is in. This is probably the most important part as acceptance and understanding can be developed thru more interaction.

I was looking at the map of vietnam .... 90 million people yet she is the one I met.

I will definitely be spending sometime understanding her family and mindset first before coming to a more concrete decision.

Regards

In order to learn and understand more about them, u need to start learning the language and more importantly the culture as well. Embrace them as Vietnamese people rather than try to tell them to become Singaporean (which will never work).

Whatever u see there, DO NOT compare it with similar things in Singapore and start talking about it... and DO NOT judge and say their way is stupid... if u could just throw away ur very Singaporean thinking, there are a lot u can learn about them.

Most importantly... and this is something i really find it hard to understand... many green-green-wet-behind-the-ears naive Singaporean guys when kenna KC by VB, will want to quickly marry them, ROM and all... and in less than 2 years, divorce with lots of bitterness.

If u see a blender in Harvey Norman.. if u like it, u have to buy it before u can take it home to use... but for VB, the same rule does not apply... u no need to buy the cow first and later realise its a bad cow!!! There are many options available for u which various people are talking about in HCMC Thread 2... some say can "Borrow(for free)", some can "rent(pay a monthly fee)", and some even "Hire Purchase (pay by installments)". Marriage is paying FULL SUM upfront and expose urself to all the bad risks with no safety net at all... always remember that ROM = Registry Of Mistake!

Let me also tell u that, there are some brudders who go thru the process and finally married the VB of their dream... and then they buy house, start business put under their VB wives name and then things gone all wrong!

From what i see u wrote... u are a long long way to this learning process and to be frank... slim chance of success.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

From what i see u wrote... u are a long long way to this learning process and to be frank... slim chance of success.

to add what deptrai had said...I am now guiding a bro here who had been like you...fell in love with a WL and then kena cheated...felt so hurt and lousy...now i guiding him to happiness...introduce him how to hook decent gals in hcm...then yesterday he told me that he fell in love again...I told him that you will have to fall in love again many times...just like I fell in love every 6 months...he read your case here...he wanted to post but felt that malu or embarrassed because he had posted alot of things which now he had to eat his words...he tasted bitter medicine and once bitten twice shy...so please take your time...only time will tell what will happen...

no way he will fell in love with another WL...as he has tons of dep dep lam decent gals to choose...

my famous quote..."if you trust a WL then pigs can climb trees..."

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

just a little bit more insignt...most of the VBs who I knew over the past 5 yrs want to have babies with me even without marriage...yet I had lost count how many I had before...and these VBs are decent gals and not WL...so morale of the stories...

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

just like I fell in love every 6 months...

morale of the story is nevermind the WL come sillypore to XNN sillypore guys...
we also have H88 going to vn to XNN the decent gals every 6 mths for the pass 5 years

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

morale of the story is nevermind the WL come sillypore to XNN sillypore guys...
we also have H88 going to vn to XNN the decent gals every 6 mths for the pass 5 years

i think when it comes to XNN, no one can compare to you la. You are the SUPER GRAND MASTER You put your bx toi So 1, she so good and special, yet you still go out look for extra...... i think she need to give birth to 5 kids to tie you really down .. hihihi