Advice from bros

[AdamApple82]

Originally Posted by hardpoke

hope you won't become the next victim.. bro.. she may not be a cheat but better play safe right? how many of such girls are of good nature? you won't know since 99% put up a front..

if you frequent sbf, we ever had a bro who got in love with this prc.. she even let him bonk her for free, which eventually led him to believe she's true to him not for money.. end up? cook up a story about her family problem in china and need money for this and that.. her tears flow, your heart melt, your wallet open, money gone, char bor gone..

spend your effort on a real gf bah..

Ya agree. U cannot really tell if she's out to cheat at such a early stage. So my plan will be not even bonk her and just let nature take its course.

So even if things turn out not good, at least both parties has nothing to lose. I do not have a wife neither a GF now, so yeah.

I dun wanna owe her anything also.

I've read quite a few stories about fellow bros here to kena jialiat jialiat. I feel for them. Hope my story can give some bros here some idea on how's its like and to bros who has been through this before to give some advice.

CHeers!

[AdamApple82]

Originally Posted by Sammmysiao

She treat u like boyfriend , u should treat her like yr gal friend ......
she treat u like Carrot head, u should treat her like prostitube........

Ya. Well said. How u treat me then it will be how i treat you lol

[AdamApple82]

Originally Posted by Sammmysiao

swim 4 times......F 1 time nia.....

F in the pool?

[JoySeeker]

Originally Posted by AdamApple82

Ya agree. U cannot really tell if she's out to cheat at such a early stage. So my plan will be not even bonk her and just let nature take its course.

So even if things turn out not good, at least both parties has nothing to lose. I do not have a wife neither a GF now, so yeah.

I dun wanna owe her anything also.

I've read quite a few stories about fellow bros here to kena jialiat jialiat. I feel for them. Hope my story can give some bros here some idea on how's its like and to bros who has been through this before to give some advice.

CHeers!

sorry but i've to disagree with this...wasting the precious time is one thing, but u shd think forward, wat do u wan from this relationship...a hapi or unpleasant ending...oso there's no who owe who in a relationship, if u're reali interest in her then go for it, open up n talk t her about how u feel n think unless u jus wan some excitment dats all...anyway, think about it...

[beerrox]

Be fair to these girls!
If they spent good time with you, pay them reasonably.
Don't expect to bonk for free.
Also don't demand that they only serve you only.
They also need money to survive here.
They also need to repay their loan back home.
We should curse thosed middlemen who triked them here to serve us and charged them huge fees like S$10,000.
Ofcourse they can find better husbands back home.
But, true also they prefer Singapore men.
Singapore men are better behaved, better educated, better manner, many are good family men, ....
Divorce rate is very high in China.
In China, comon for men to stay out drinking, smoking and womenising, while the wives have to look after the home and kids. Many husbands are violent too.
Have difficulty to give $20 for the home but can afford or to borrow to spend $Hundreds of dollars on themseves.
There are many bad girls here out to earn as much money as they can, but many girls here are real good girls too.
But control your symphaty.
We are not rich enough to help them very much.
Buy them fishing rods and teach them how to fish so that they will have fish to eat every day. Buy them sewing machines so that they can sew back home to earn a living when they return home. Don't buy them branded accessories. They don't need these unless they are richer than you.
Help within your reach and don't ill threat them.
They are our sisters too!

[kelvin123456789]

Originally Posted by beerrox

Be fair to these girls!
If they spent good time with you, pay them reasonably.
Don't expect to bonk for free.
Also don't demand that they only serve you only.
They also need money to survive here.
They also need to repay their loan back home.
We should curse thosed middlemen who triked them here to serve us and charged them huge fees like S$10,000.
Ofcourse they can find better husbands back home.
But, true also they prefer Singapore men.
Singapore men are better behaved, better educated, better manner, many are good family men, ....
Divorce rate is very high in China.
In China, comon for men to stay out drinking, smoking and womenising, while the wives have to look after the home and kids. Many husbands are violent too.
Have difficulty to give $20 for the home but can afford or to borrow to spend $Hundreds of dollars on themseves.
There are many bad girls here out to earn as much money as they can, but many girls here are real good girls too.
But control your symphaty.
We are not rich enough to help them very much.
Buy them fishing rods and teach them how to fish so that they will have fish to eat every day. Buy them sewing machines so that they can sew back home to earn a living when they return home. Don't buy them branded accessories. They don't need these unless they are richer than you.
Help within your reach and don't ill threat them.
They are our sisters too!

make it short...play hard, play smart...

[sixnine]

Originally Posted by AdamApple82

Yo bros,

I need some advice from the seniors here. Its about going out with a KTV girl. I went out with one before, treated her to a movie and was thinking of bringing her to a nice place to eat when she suddenly wanted to buy some cosmatics and ended up she asked me to pay for her as she doesn't have enuff money for her rent. Lucky the damage is only $60+ haha so end up i told her i need to go meet a friend of mine and thus no dinner.

Now thinking of going out with another one which i like more but afraid will kena again. Normally how u guys reject this kind of request? Do you say first before hand or what?

I only just want a normal date, movie + dinner. Dun mind paying for those but not those branded stuffs thou.

Please dun flame me as i'm new here. Mercy pls!

These things are unavoidable if you ask them out, they will try their luck with small amounts first. Once they are confident you are willing to pay, they will go more expensive things.

Bottomline, don't get emotional if you want to last long in the world of cheonging. My motto is fire and forget, best if FOC....

[AdamApple82]

Originally Posted by JoySeeker

sorry but i've to disagree with this...wasting the precious time is one thing, but u shd think forward, wat do u wan from this relationship...a hapi or unpleasant ending...oso there's no who owe who in a relationship, if u're reali interest in her then go for it, open up n talk t her about how u feel n think unless u jus wan some excitment dats all...anyway, think about it...

Did open up to her on some points. She did say her stay in singapore is expiring next month and she may apply for a student pass and study english here, so i told her she should stop working in this line if she wants to be with me. But then she said at the most she will work 2 days per week and she will change her number so that the old clients won't look for her.

I hear liao i a bit wth. Then again like what some bros said, if i've no money then what right do i have to stop her completely from working in this line again?

[AdamApple82]

Originally Posted by sixnine

These things are unavoidable if you ask them out, they will try their luck with small amounts first. Once they are confident you are willing to pay, they will go more expensive things.

Bottomline, don't get emotional if you want to last long in the world of cheonging. My motto is fire and forget, best if FOC....

I went out with 1 before this one.

nb go watch movie liao then about to bring her go eat she said she wants to look at cosmetics, my head start to spin "nb the knife coming liao". So bring her to watsons and she see see look look. Saw a set she liked then she said too ex and went off. Head to another store also ex and she said airport cheaper as got duty free.

Then she recongised carrefore cause china also have. Went there the price was ok and she choose what she wants and even the free gift bag also want to choose and bargain....i damm paisei and the salesgirl lucky was patient enuff to serve her. I really feel like digging a hole in the ground and put my head inside.

Then end up she took what she wants and went to the cashier to Q up. When she was queuing i was looking around stuffs and after awhile she asked me come over and she asked if i could pay for her anot. ZZzzzzzZZZzzzZZzz

As the item was not expensive i also sua just pay. Since then that was the first and last date i went out with her lol

[sixnine]

Originally Posted by AdamApple82

I went out with 1 before this one.

nb go watch movie liao then about to bring her go eat she said she wants to look at cosmetics, my head start to spin "nb the knife coming liao". So bring her to watsons and she see see look look. Saw a set she liked then she said too ex and went off. Head to another store also ex and she said airport cheaper as got duty free.

Then she recongised carrefore cause china also have. Went there the price was ok and she choose what she wants and even the free gift bag also want to choose and bargain....i damm paisei and the salesgirl lucky was patient enuff to serve her. I really feel like digging a hole in the ground and put my head inside.

Then end up she took what she wants and went to the cashier to Q up. When she was queuing i was looking around stuffs and after awhile she asked me come over and she asked if i could pay for her anot. ZZzzzzzZZZzzzZZzz

As the item was not expensive i also sua just pay. Since then that was the first and last date i went out with her lol

Do you think she really felt that it was too expensive when she went to so many stores before deciding to buy the item at carrefour? She is just testing you, to see if you are willing to pay for her at the very first store with the more expensive ones. Since you did not make any move, she no choice has to move to other stores to test you further, slowly by going to cheaper and cheaper stuff.

I've seen lots of such scenarios happening....

[SomandrisIsDead]

Originally Posted by AdamApple82

Did open up to her on some points. She did say her stay in singapore is expiring next month and she may apply for a student pass and study english here, so i told her she should stop working in this line if she wants to be with me. But then she said at the most she will work 2 days per week and she will change her number so that the old clients won't look for her.

I hear liao i a bit wth. Then again like what some bros said, if i've no money then what right do i have to stop her completely from working in this line again?

Wah bro, Din know you are so deep into this "relationship" to the point of asking her to stop working as WL.

Now you are really in deep blue sea. Gotta see if this lady turns out to be a mermaid, or a shark in mermaid's clothing loh...

Am advising you against putting 100% affection in it. test water first, and dont worry about being a robert as long as not too much harm to your wallet. You need to sacrifice a little to access situation rite? Even wooing a "normal" lady, you need to fork out time, monay and resource.

Btw, this thread may well be rewarding for you. Since it's up and running, bros may up you if the updates from you gets jucier.

[gelek_king]

you should be reading up in matters of the heart thread!!

[JoySeeker]

Originally Posted by AdamApple82

Did open up to her on some points. She did say her stay in singapore is expiring next month and she may apply for a student pass and study english here, so i told her she should stop working in this line if she wants to be with me. But then she said at the most she will work 2 days per week and she will change her number so that the old clients won't look for her.

I hear liao i a bit wth. Then again like what some bros said, if i've no money then what right do i have to stop her completely from working in this line again?

at least she try to stay (but not sure whether for u or $$)...she still needs to work for her studying fees unless u can pay for her, if not, let her work and build up the relationship from there n slowly change the situation...it's also not a crime to work in this line n i've seen a lots of m'sia fre which their spouse is oso in the same line (#1 rules: no sex with cust) n still hv a good time together...nevetheless, nv give up if u reali think she is the one but act with cautious n calmness...cheers ok...

[AdamApple82]

Thanks bros for all ur feedbacks

Yesterday i whole day never contacted her until 1am then i give her a missed call. She called back today at around 4+pm to ask how am i. Did asked her if this coming weekend's outing still on or not, she said she'll be confirming with me again.

Haha from "ONz" now become "will confirm again", i think most likely bo liao. See how it goes.

Cheers!

[NobleEagle]

Originally Posted by AdamApple82

Thanks bros for all ur feedbacks

Yesterday i whole day never contacted her until 1am then i give her a missed call. She called back today at around 4+pm to ask how am i. Did asked her if this coming weekend's outing still on or not, she said she'll be confirming with me again.

Haha from "ONz" now become "will confirm again", i think most likely bo liao. See how it goes.

Cheers!

haha bro take my advise move on, go with her only when she comes calling dun waste ur time, she really interested in u would have called immediately after her work tat day or early next day and not 4pm