Double Standards

[acidicavex]

Nothing is fair in this world..... it is just like cases

example: A woman got high not to the extend of losing her sense commited a 1 time adultery out of fear she went to file a rape report the truth can be twisted to the way of the female advantage. And the law will slap the guy for taking advantage while the female is in intoxication stage.

frankly it is a new era but for men i would say is ego. Most men would not be able to tolerate it unless both have discuss in such swinging activity. Or like some said Open marriage system. Singapore here no doubt is very fast forwards but the mindset is still quite far from being accepting such openess.

Even both parties have agreement but if let say the husband came to know and the wife or gf explain what she and his lover do........ And some detail she forgotten to erase and mention stuff like the husband or bf want to do with the wife/gf and the wife or gf always say not comfortable but yet did it with the lover and enjoy it....... the men ego will be crush blab blab blab

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by Darina

I know that most men cannot accept it if their gf/wife plays the field even though they might be doing it themselves.

Anyway, what would you do if you found out your gf/wife is playing the field?

Just curious

Would you like to be confronted with the revelation by your husband or rather be left status quo despite you being cocksure he knows of your misendeavours? Becomes psychological eh...you wonder why has he remained silent? Is he plotting a revenge or does he not give a shit about me anymore? Is he gonna retaliate when I least expect?

I have had this discussion with a chum previously, he said he would not confront the issue with the wife until it becomes unavoidable. Point being, you raise the question, it then compels you to make a decision what follows. Usually, two options: (One) Undo the entanglement and attempt to repair the damage or (Two) go your separate ways which is complicated with children, which of course applies to many married couples.

There are of course tit-for-that, act oblivious but these are generally temporal and when the problem comes back to roost, it still requires a decision/action. It is physically possible for each other to know the other is messing about outside and not give a damn but why cling onto such an unhealthy/unsatisfactory marriage.

Back to your question after a round of verbal diarrhea...I think I would ask her if there is a problem and if she sees a way ahead to resolve those issues. If its a dead end, let's go our separate ways and she can continue to go what she likes without the assurance that there is a safety net at home. Parting ways...no fuss, no outbursts, just a good old fashioned neat break and walk away. My way of letting her know she matters little anyway.

[els13]

Originally Posted by Darina

Simple, only meet the guy when the husband is not around.
Do not go to places you frequent.
I believe you guys should know enough tricks to keep smses etc discreet.
As long as the woman knows what she wants and what she will lose she will know how to be discreet about it.
Helps to make things very very clear at the start and keep reminding the guy and herself works too

Yeah Sis I like your style too.ahaha.
As I mention previously, cannot cover your tracks then dun even try cos you dun have the standard to.
One Bro mention about after sometime man will become careless n get caught
I strongly disagree la, its very simple why most of these man fail big time.
Firstly most of us will lie that we are single in order to have the chance to bed another woman, even those who admit that they are married or have a gf
will give stories like unhappy marriage la or hv a lot of problems with gf making ur current RS sounds very unstable.
Lets face it that how many of you out there will come clean about yes I am attached but I still want your CUNT?
When ever I am having fun outside, I will come clean becos I must always be on the upper hand. Even its a fling,ONS, fb or whatever we name them at least I will give them a mutual respect. I will make sure they know that we are only having fun, or be it moment of lust or whatever.
We are to only enjoy each others company and do things that I would say my partner dun like, dun allow or wont do it with me.
If they are ok with it fine if not then too bad, I wont want to lie my way or hide this hide that just to get that moment of lust and end up a lot of headaches.
Lets be fair, The kind of fuck up feeling we have when we actually caught our partner in bed with someone else is the same for both man and woman.
If you are out there bedding someone else then dun expect your partner to be a saint.
If you want to fuck around do it the smart way, dun go around breaking peoples heart and create trouble for yourself.

[Darina]

Originally Posted by Beaman

You are a woman many men will desire cos your attitude and mannerism rocks.

You mean desire for affairs. Not good :P

Originally Posted by jonrai

Sis, you are dangerous

Only if you are the hubby or bf

Originally Posted by els13

Yeah Sis I like your style too.ahaha.
As I mention previously, cannot cover your tracks then dun even try cos you dun have the standard to.
One Bro mention about after sometime man will become careless n get caught
I strongly disagree la, its very simple why most of these man fail big time.
Firstly most of us will lie that we are single in order to have the chance to bed another woman, even those who admit that they are married or have a gf
will give stories like unhappy marriage la or hv a lot of problems with gf making ur current RS sounds very unstable.
Lets face it that how many of you out there will come clean about yes I am attached but I still want your CUNT?
When ever I am having fun outside, I will come clean becos I must always be on the upper hand. Even its a fling,ONS, fb or whatever we name them at least I will give them a mutual respect. I will make sure they know that we are only having fun, or be it moment of lust or whatever.
We are to only enjoy each others company and do things that I would say my partner dun like, dun allow or wont do it with me.
If they are ok with it fine if not then too bad, I wont want to lie my way or hide this hide that just to get that moment of lust and end up a lot of headaches.
Lets be fair, The kind of fuck up feeling we have when we actually caught our partner in bed with someone else is the same for both man and woman.
If you are out there bedding someone else then dun expect your partner to be a saint.
If you want to fuck around do it the smart way, dun go around breaking peoples heart and create trouble for yourself.

Agree with you bro

[auntygranny]

My husband actually "allowed" me to do so...

He gives me 100% freedom... He will not ask:
Why I go out with in the middle of the night
Who I went with for holiday
Who keep calling me
Etc.

He told me if I am having an affair, he don't want to know and will not investigate. He wants me to do my due diligent to keep the rs low...

But I am feeling guilty, I want to tell him so much. Not bcos I want to be with my fling, purely bcos I want to be fair to him, I want him to find his true love...

[jolenekoh]

there is no double standards involved. go to a library for research before posting these motherfucking dumbass questions

[els13]

Originally Posted by auntygranny

My husband actually "allowed" me to do so...

He gives me 100% freedom... He will not ask:
Why I go out with in the middle of the night
Who I went with for holiday
Who keep calling me
Etc.

He told me if I am having an affair, he don't want to know and will not investigate. He wants me to do my due diligent to keep the rs low...

But I am feeling guilty, I want to tell him so much. Not bcos I want to be with my fling, purely bcos I want to be fair to him, I want him to find his true love...

You are very sure that you are the only woman he sleeps with?

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by auntygranny

My husband actually "allowed" me to do so...

He gives me 100% freedom... He will not ask:
Why I go out with in the middle of the night
Who I went with for holiday
Who keep calling me
Etc.

He told me if I am having an affair, he don't want to know and will not investigate. He wants me to do my due diligent to keep the rs low...

But I am feeling guilty, I want to tell him so much. Not bcos I want to be with my fling, purely bcos I want to be fair to him, I want him to find his true love...

your hubby still alive?

[Darina]

Originally Posted by auntygranny

My husband actually "allowed" me to do so...

He gives me 100% freedom... He will not ask:
Why I go out with in the middle of the night
Who I went with for holiday
Who keep calling me
Etc.

He told me if I am having an affair, he don't want to know and will not investigate. He wants me to do my due diligent to keep the rs low...

But I am feeling guilty, I want to tell him so much. Not bcos I want to be with my fling, purely bcos I want to be fair to him, I want him to find his true love...

My husband gives me my freedom as well.
He don't ask either who I'm with etc but I tell him out of respect
However, he will not be able to accept it if he finds out I'm sleeping with someone else.

[Higal]

Originally Posted by aseandude

Whiplash,

After the late 20th century the women in the east got smarter,

They are voicing, if the man wants them to commit they can't accept man being polygamous.

Women have started to fight for equality hence, what men can do they want to prove they can do as well if not better.

Therefore, they start to question reasons for infidelity.

Perhaps its all in the hormones and instinct kicks in. If its the guy's nature being so, the more the wife controls the more stress he gets or the more/better he will lie and cover his tracks.

Nuff said, girls are beginning to be like boys as well.

You'll know if you dated a playgirl.

true enough.

[acidicavex]

Originally Posted by auntygranny

My husband actually "allowed" me to do so...

He gives me 100% freedom... He will not ask:
Why I go out with in the middle of the night
Who I went with for holiday
Who keep calling me
Etc.

He told me if I am having an affair, he don't want to know and will not investigate. He wants me to do my due diligent to keep the rs low...

But I am feeling guilty, I want to tell him so much. Not bcos I want to be with my fling, purely bcos I want to be fair to him, I want him to find his true love...

If that was the way why not just end the marriage wouldn't it do both of you good???