Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 325

SingViet · #**4861** 10-01-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by slaughter

hi all,

would appreciate if anyone can help me translate the following:

"hi em. an com chua? anh rat nho em. dang voi mot ban. ban dang buon chuyen con trai. anh nghe roi cung buon cho ban ma ma cam on ong tro 2 minh that su thuong ngiao."

many thanks in advance.

had a busy morning, turned on this forum and got this:

Just a simple rough translation:

Hi em. Have you eaten? I missed you a lot. I am with a friend now. My friend is now very sad over a man. I listen to my friend and i am sad too. But thank god, we two are honestly in love '

Hmmm.. sounds tricky Bro

jackbl · #**4862** 10-01-2009, 01:31 PM

Good work!!! I called back vn to ask my teacher thats what teacher also translated....

But teacher said there are some spelling mistakes "... anh nghe roi cung buon cho ban ma ma cam on ong troi 2 minh that su thuong nhau."

Bro singviet, do u find that most of them dun like to use full stop, comma, exclaimation mark, etc.... this make us difficult to understand the sentence hor ...

Quote:

Originally Posted by SingViet

had a busy morning, turned on this forum and got this:

Just a simple rough translation:

Hi em. Have you eaten? I missed you a lot. I am with a friend now. My friend is now very sad over a man. I listen to my friend and i am sad too. But thank god, we two are honestly in love '

Hmmm.. sounds tricky Bro

slaughter · #**4863** 10-01-2009, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Darkstorm

My viet language is lousy.

But I will try to help you translate a bit until the experts here can tell you more.

The translation is (She says):"Hi. Have you eaten? I miss you a lot."

I am not sure about this part, so probably I am translating wrongly: "I am with a few of my friends. When you are bored or sad, you can tell me"

ok thanks bro darkstorm. any recommendations in sg where i can go for viet lessons?

SingViet · #**4864** 10-01-2009, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by jackbl

Good work!!! I called back vn to ask my teacher thats what teacher also translated....

But teacher said there are some spelling mistakes "... anh nghe roi cung buon cho ban ma ma cam on ong troi 2 minh that su thuong nhau."

Bro singviet, do u find that most of them dun like to use full stop, comma, exclaimation mark, etc.... this make us difficult to understand the sentence hor ...

Bro, you are right.

slaughter · #**4865** 10-01-2009, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

had a busy morning, turned on this forum and got this:

Just a simple rough translation:

Hi em. Have you eaten? I missed you a lot. I am with a friend now. My friend is now very sad over a man. I listen to my friend and i am sad too. But thank god, we two are honestly in love '

Hmmm.. sounds tricky Bro

yes indeed. i don't know whether should i trust her with the explaination she gave me. she's not a wl. just a normal countryside girl who is working in the city with a decent job. i've been with her for 6 mths now and i've seen her work place, all her family members, her home, her hometown etc. from what i observed, i think i'm in a situation whereby i have to think whether should i take the risk to trust her this once and risk myself getting cheated or i should just stop everything. when i say observe, i did observe her in a clear minded state.

i'm at quite a loss now struggling to come to a decision. if i let go and in the end she isn't lying, i'll regret it for life. if i don't and get cheated in the end, i'll feel damn stupid to fall into the trap after reading all the experiences from fellow bros here. she's supposed to come over in march to see my family but right now i really don't know what to do.

anyway, is there anywhere in sg that i can take up courses for vn language? preferrably a course that is with flexible timing to suit my working schedule. and how come my posts have to go through a mod before it is shown? anyway to overcome that? lol.

sincerely thanks to bros who posted here and helped out fellow bros to gain more experience on vn relationships before heading on blindly. esp bro singviet for the valuable advise you gave me earlier on.

Hurricane88 · #**4866** 11-01-2009, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by slaughter

yes indeed. i don't know whether should i trust her with the explaination she gave me. she's not a wl. just a normal countryside girl who is working in the city with a decent job. i've been with her for 6 mths now and i've seen her work place, all her family members, her home, her hometown etc. from what i observed, i think i'm in a situation whereby i have to think whether should i take the risk to trust her this once and risk myself getting cheated or i should just stop everything. when i say observe, i did observe her in a clear minded state.

Take it with your eyes and heart open...nothing venture nothing gain...

BTW, she din ask you for money so how she cheat you...

slaughter · #**4867** 11-01-2009, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Take it with your eyes and heart open...nothing venture nothing gain...

BTW, she din ask you for money so how she cheat you...

well, actually i'm sending money over to her every mth. and also i visit her every 2 mths in hcm. occasionally will buy her gifts. latest one being a digi cam. not that it's alot but the main thing is i'm serious about her. for me i would never get serious with any wl. and this girl is really a decent girl from what i've seen. so the main thing is not about money. is whether she feels the same as well or she has other bfs. afterall it's only after reading through this forum that i've learnt from so many bro's experiences that tells me one can never be too careful. better safe than sorry.

ray_lee · #**4868** 11-01-2009, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by slaughter

yes indeed. i don't know whether should i trust her with the explaination she gave me. she's not a wl. just a normal countryside girl who is working in the city with a decent job. i've been with her for 6 mths now and i've seen her work place, all her family members, her home, her hometown etc. from what i observed, i think i'm in a situation whereby i have to think whether should i take the risk to trust her this once and risk myself getting cheated or i should just stop everything. when i say observe, i did observe her in a clear minded state.

i'm at quite a loss now struggling to come to a decision. if i let go and in the end she isn't lying, i'll regret it for life. if i don't and get cheated in the end, i'll feel damn stupid to fall into the trap after reading all the experiences from fellow bros here. she's supposed to come over in march to see my family but right now i really don't know what to do.

anyway, is there anywhere in sg that i can take up courses for vn language? preferrably a course that is with flexible timing to suit my working schedule. and how come my posts have to go through a mod before it is shown? anyway to overcome that? lol.

sincerely thanks to bros who posted here and helped out fellow bros to gain more experience on vn relationships before heading on blindly. esp bro singviet for the valuable advise you gave me earlier on.

Bro,
I am in the same situation with u. With this Hanoi gal for close to 8mths already. She's working as a model in hanoi decent job non hanky panky type because stay with parents, came sg to work coz she wants to earn money to buy a house. Working in orchard tower as a dancer and get tips. First time in sg only went hotel with men not more than 5 times as she claims. I was attracted to his gal coz i saw her rejecting customers to hotel. Said she loves me and wants to be with me after i'm with her. Everyday sms, call and gets very very sticky with me..c. 2nd time when she came sg juz 2mths back almost didn't work at all. Every night was with me. Last mth i went hanoi stay at her home and saw that she's truely working as a model, very down to earth country gal. So its really up to you whether u want to trust that gal of yours. At times human are lonely so if she's true to u, accept her for what she is and more important accept her past. To me, i knew friends who married viet wife. They are very good wifes and they dun expect much from you really..Tats my advice bro..

jackbl · #**4869** 11-01-2009, 04:41 PM

Good luck to u too..... I hv a fren visited "gf" at hanoi... she can arranged Auntie to meet my fren to give "good/false" impression.... put up a lot of Acts... so its good to take your time before Committing....

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Originally Posted by ray_lee

With this Hanoi gal for close to 8mths already. .

2nd time when she came sg juz 2mths back almost didn't work at all. Every night was with me. Last mth i went hanoi stay at her home and saw that she's truely working as a model, very down to earth country gal. So its really up to you whether u want to trust that gal of yours. At times human are lonely so if she's true to u, accept her for what she is and more important accept her past. To me, i knew friends who married viet wife. They are very good wifes and they dun expect much from you really..Tats my advice bro..

SingViet · #**4870** 11-01-2009, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by jackbl

Good luck to u too..... I hv a fren visited "gf" at hanoi... she can arranged Auntie to meet my fren to give "good/false" impression.... put up a lot of Acts... so its good to take your time before Committing....

Same old thing again, it takes time to know a person better. Just that vietnamese have more tricks in hand. Make judgement based on yr big head, not yr small head. Don't marry because you can have sex free, there's nothing free in this world.

slaughter · #**4871** 11-01-2009, 05:38 PM

wow. thanks to bros who gave advise. she hasn't been out of vn before. she will come over sometime this year to stay with me. anyway i will try to observe more careful. for the time being after some thinking i decided to just trust her and see what goes. hopefully things turn out right. if not then only can blame myself in the end.

erm. so does any bros here know of places to go for viet courses in sg? need to take up some courses to help in observation and also communicate with her family.

sammyboyfor · #**4872** 12-01-2009, 03:25 AM

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Originally Posted by slaughter

wow. thanks to bros who gave advise.

Should be "..Thanks brothers who gave ADVICE.".

"Advise" is a verb.

Tony Stark · #**4873** 12-01-2009, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by jackbl

Good luck to u too..... I hv a fren visited "gf" at hanoi... she can arranged Auntie to meet my fren to give "good/false" impression.... put up a lot of Acts... so its good to take your time before Committing....

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Same old thing again, it takes time to know a person better. Just that vietnamese have more tricks in hand. Make judgement based on yr big head, not yr small head. Don't marry because you can have sex free, there's nothing free in this world.

Recently I had a similar experience with "acting". It takes time to tell their true colours. So bros better don't commit too fast to anything. Observe for a period of time first. Check for consistencies.

Yes nothing is FOC. Only Fuck On Credit.

ekemono · #**4874** 12-01-2009, 06:02 AM

IMHO only.
No matter which gal it is from whatever nationality, or a guy for that matter. When it comes to love and marriage, it is always a gamble.
No doubt it is wise to observe a person before jumping into the ship, but no ship in this world is made gaurantee not to sink. Even SG couples of compatible attributes also end up in divorce.

Making a decision to choose a Vietnamese, Indo or PRC gal for a life partner gets more trickier cos some often associate them with marriage for a permanent ticket to reside in SG, or a gold digger. And some bros with ex working gals, consideration gets more critical as the ultimate question isn't about her, but of ourselves if we can truely forget her past.

It is good to love and protect yourself, but too much of it and your heart has no more room for others, even with a local gal.

Reminds me of a song " A different corner" by Goerge Michael, where one part of it sings:

And if all that there is, is this fear of being used
I should go back to being lonely and confused
If I could, I would, I swear

Hurricane88 · #**4875** 12-01-2009, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by slaughter

wow. thanks to bros who gave advise. she hasn't been out of vn before. she will come over sometime this year to stay with me. anyway i will try to observe more careful. for the time being after some thinking i decided to just trust her and see what goes. hopefully things turn out right. if not then only can blame myself in the end.

erm. so does any bros here know of places to go for viet courses in sg? need to take up some courses to help in observation and also communicate with her family.

Once again take your time and spent time more with her. Visit her once every two months is definitely not enough. Also not sure how many days you spent with her. Do you know her family and frens well.

If you dun feel good then can use Singviet advice, get ppl to trail her for one month and see what she does.