Marriage First or Career First?

[Kaiser1000]

Woman come and go, Success you build with your hands stay if you manage it well.

[squiggle]

You can either just stay as friends or date her first while working hard for your work at the same time. Then you can have the best of both worlds, is all up to you and how you manage.

To me, I would rather stay as single for life if I can't even perfect myself/taking care of myself for money, studies and behaviour. These 3 things I will work hard to make them better first before I would even date, as I don't want later all the problems/conflicts pop ups because of all these, unable to handle and maintain the relationship.

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

Scenario


I have not reached my lifelong filthy rich target yet. Should I make my move on her (or let her make her move, which won’t happen)? Will proposing straight away frighten her? I’m actually afraid to communicate with girl; any pointers on how to behave, talk, do, don’t etc during courtship?

When you reach your filthy rich target , trust me , you wont wanna get married.

[spoonge]

Single? You Missed the Girl in the Corner:

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-c...e-corner-kcon/

Single? Are you wondering how to make contact with an emotionally available woman beyond swiping right or swiping left?

In my professional and personal life, I meet single men who are Millennials, single dads, dating after divorce, and widows. One question appears universal, “where are all the decent single women?”

You didn’t notice her; she is the woman in the corner. How do I know this? My whole life I have been one of the women in the corner. Unlike Baby in Dirty Dancing, no one put me here. Some of us corner girls who understand the Dirty Dancing reference wonder if a man with the swagger of Patrick Swayze will extend his hand out to us to say hello.

Who is the girl or woman in the corner? Look around next time you go to the bar, a networking event, your workplace cafeteria, restaurant, or local coffee shop. She’s hanging out focused on what brings her joy- reading a book, sipping on a cup of tea, or laughing with her friends. She may be quirky, tell corny jokes, or not have mastered the art of flirting. Beneath all of these endearing traits, she has a heart of gold.

Initially, the woman many men are drawn to is the “attention-grabber.” An attention-grabber is the female on one mission. She wants to get noticed not only by you but also by every man and woman in the room. She is likely dressed provocatively, talking loudly, and every straight man turns their head in appreciation. Now the hunt is on. Who is the lucky man to get the attention-grabber to notice him first? Whose phone number will she accept? Will you come in second place as the backburner man?

We women in the corner just smile with knowing, watching the game unfold in front of us. We don’t engage in similar behavior, and it does not have to do with a lack of confidence. In fact, we likely share a deeper level of self-worth, dignity, and grace. You just didn’t stop to notice.

If you want to play chase like a cat and mouse go ahead–I have no judgment. If you are ready for a steady alternative, let me clue you in on a few secrets about us women in the corner.

1. Women in the corner do not lack confidence.

Contrary to popular belief, just because we are quiet, it does not mean we lack confidence. Just because we didn’t sashay into the room like a member of Beyonce’s Superbowl squad, it doesn’t mean we don’t feel sexy. In fact, most of us corner girls are secure in our intelligence, talents, sexuality, and the gifts we have to offer a man in a relationship. We are clear about what we are looking for in a relationship, and are not into playing games.

2. Don’t mistake modesty for lack of a sex drive.

I think of myself and my friends who are “corner girls.” We are professional women, pillars of our communities, and women who are often in the public eye. We are not likely to send half-naked selfies to men we barely know. We are not going to make a sexy or drunk spectacle in public for the world to watch on YouTube later. This does not mean that we are shut down sexually or have a low sex drive. In fact, we understand that seduction is an art and likely have a surprise waiting for you–if you make it that far.

3. Your mother, sister, or married female friends want you to date or marry this woman.

You are sitting here thinking, “okay Dr. Romie, I want to meet a corner woman, but all the good ones are already taken.” Reassess the women that have been presented to you. Did you ignore the suggestions of your mom, sister, married co-worker, or hairdresser? We, women, notice other corner women, respect them and want the men we love to find happiness. Make a list of three-five non-negotiables, and then approach the women you trust. Allow them the opportunity to introduce you to women in their circles.

4. Corner girls quickly get put in the “friend zone.”

As a “friend,” she gave you her shoulder to lean on while you spilled all your darkest secrets, dating dilemmas, and life dreams to this woman. She knows your kid’s favorite ice cream flavor and reminds you that it is your mother’s Birthday. Sound familiar? Don’t give me the excuse that you are scared to start a relationship and ruin the friendship. Fear cannot lead to love. Fear leads to loneliness. Replace that fear with faith, and ask your friend out on a date. Chances are, if you ask her out on a date, you will get to meet a whole other side of this woman that you never knew existed. 5. Her kindness is not a sign of weakness. Kindness is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. In a world that is often cold and divisive, she brings compassion into the room and to the people she loves. A corner girl is often labeled as the “nice girl”, “sweetheart”, or a female with a “heart of gold.” This is the woman who will visit sick friends in the hospital or help a neighbor in need. Make her your woman, and you will have a fiercely loyal companion who will make your dreams her own.

In honor of all the other single women in the corner, I invite you over to say hello. May love be just around the corner for you, and maybe even with the woman of your dreams sitting in the corner.

(http://goodmenproject.com/ )


How to Make the First Move?:



Should a man always be the aggressor, or is it okay for a woman to make the first move? According to “The Real” ladies, sometimes making the first move is golden! Watch as they share a few tips and tricks on how to successfully take the plunge.

(The Real Daytime)

[Kenny87]

I hope you will take my humble opinion.

My background is abit different from you. But i have been poverty stricken before. My family fell on very hard times when my father left the army. An officer of very high rank, he decided not to continue and refuse to find work because jobs offered were "beneath" him. He just couldnt find something that paid the same and provided the same type of power.

We lived in a condo that was not paid in full. My mom worked, and i was in poly. It came so bad in a time when my family was nearly bankrupt that i pulled out of school because it came down to either me or my sisters.

We lived in a huge condo, but my sisters had nothing to eat. my father was proud and refused help from family nor tell anyone what was going on. I worked 3 jobs to sustain my family for the 2 years that my father refused to work and sit home and play shares all day. My mother was earning just enough to pay the condo so that we wont be on the streets.

In my mind at that time, career come first. I dated but only because the guy could feed me and my sisters.

I worked hard and like a crazy person. I rarely slept because my second job was me being in a call centre for ppl to call in to chat with girls.

I never intended to get married until i am rich enough to never depend on anyone. Have my own home and take care of my family easily. But now that im married, what i can tell you is that, being married, offers me a kind of stability that i need to work even harder.

Why? That sounds so oxymoron right?

because. once you are married, you will realize that you have someone to depend upon, you are rarely stressed or worried during work that someone is quarrelling with you over some stupid missed calls or missed messages. The time for dating is over and you die die have to concentrate at work.

of course, finding the right person is important too.

just my long long 2 cents.

[JacqueMerlin]

Career first. Without career, no marriage to talk about.

[spoonge]

SK-II: Marriage Market Takeover (Please turn on subtitle):



Published on Apr 6, 2016
Watch how single women in China courageously #changedestiny by standing up against the pressure of being labelled “Sheng Nu”, or “leftover woman”. Learn more about SK-II’s #changedestiny movement: http://www.sk-ii.com.sg/en/changedest...

Today, Chinese women face immense pressure to get married before they turn 27. In many Chinese cities, so called marriage markets are a common sight, where parents go to post and match personal ads. A number of brave Chinese women have finally stood up to speak their mind against society’s labels and their parents' pressures. A marriage market in Shanghai’s People’s park was taken over by personal messages from hundreds of independent women, stating that they want to control their own destiny.

Find out what these women courageously say to reconstruct the mutual respect between generations and increase society’s understanding to finally change their destiny in the film.

(SK-II)

[spoonge]

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Published on Mar 21, 2016
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(Ask Kimberly)

[spoonge]

愛情和事業，妳選哪一個？:




內向害羞無法把妹？無論內向與外向都能成功吸引女生的方法 - 約會診療室DatingDoc.info:



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有很多內向的朋友，都會覺得自己的問題是天生，而且無法改變的。
我今天就要來告訴你真正內向與外向的分野到底是什麼，
並且告訴你如果你跟我以前一樣也是個內向害羞的人，該怎麼樣一步一步從害羞地獄爬出來­。
另外我也會告訴外向的人該注意什麼，才能讓你不管內向或者外向，
都能夠輕易地帶領女生和你一起享受愛情！

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(約會診療室TV)


People Who Don't Want to Fall in Love:




How And Why Do People Fall In Love?:




Why You’re Attracted To Certain People:

Love is a beautiful thing, but what causes it? Well, it might all just be in your head.

Read More:
Attracted to Your Opposite? Brain Chemicals May Tell
http://www.livescience.com/40254-bra...ttraction.html
“What makes people fall in love with one person and not another?”

What Your Brain Looks Like After 20 Years of Marriage
http://healthland.time.com/2011/01/1...=huffpo-direct
“Contrary to popular opinion, people who say they are still madly in love with their spouses after more than two decades are not crazy.”

Love, Lust, and the Brain
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...-and-the-brain
“Before Mark Sanford, there was Elliot Spitzer, Rudy Guilliani, Bill Clinton, and Jack Kennedy to name a few.”

The Science of Love
http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/hottopics/love/
“Flushed cheeks, a racing heart beat and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of being in love. But inside the body there are definite chemical signs that cupid has fired his arrow.”

(DNews)

[Harvest]

Establishing a career before marriage in today's society is paramount because love does not survive on fresh air and sunshine!

[spoonge]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

Scenario

Recent years, I often bump into an ex secondary school classmate during weekend window shopping. She was (& still is) the nerdy girl that nobody will ever notice her existence. The very 1st time I saw her after 15 years, we do have chemistry for each though eye contact; love at 1st sight. Later, she opens a Facebook & added me.

Right now, we always hinted our feelings for each other through eye contact & Facebook post. But we have not PM each other in Facebook or physically talk to each other.

Love at First Sight - Science on the Web #94:




The Science Behind Love At First Sight:




Does Love at First Sight Exist?:

[Ernnie]

The immediate rationale for most people is to rise in career first before marriage.

But sometimes when a really great girl comes along - capable, positive, humble and fits your character. Then you should really marry first because both of you can synergize and move on to greater heights.