Divorce...

[hugs]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

That's what most women want. The man is merely a tool to be manipulated till impregnation is complete.
Once the deed is done and a woman's maternal instincts are taken care, the man is disposed of.

Maternal instincts taken care, other instincts waiting to get discovered Look on the bright side

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

That's what most women want. The man is merely a tool to be manipulated till impregnation is complete.

Once the deed is done and a woman's maternal instincts are taken care, the man is disposed of.

Very true......Woman instincts seeking a powerful man.

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Bro

At times i also buay tahan my wife. But thing can work it out after she recover from emotional to rational state of mind

Importantly everybody must have good rest, deserve to recover from overwork and maintain rational state of mind.

In whatever planning, make sure do not introduce chance for caught up. Unhappiness begin with having problem thus give no chance to problem. (I believe no one have choosen an iron teeth wife). No problem mean no argument.

Most importantly try not to divorce.

Originally Posted by assster

I've been married about 2 years. Things not really working out...

Someone can advise on the procedure shd I decide to get a divorce?

What about alimony etc? We have no No kids yet, bto flat. I'm earning about 3x more than her and everything has been paid for by me so far

[Kuan Aik Hong]

When comes to divorce man will be in losing edge....

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I heard some divorced man lost alot of money

Originally Posted by Kuan Aik Hong

When comes to divorce man will be in losing edge....

[IamZapped]

Don't divorce. Life is never perfect

[damong777]

Anyway divorce is common nowadays

Court also want both parties to settle via mediation where ur lawyers would be bargaining for positioning.

Simple to say man lawyer would start low and women lawyer ask for sky and try to find middle ground. Simple reason is cannot comprise go court waste even more time and money.

And if u really preparing for a divorce, find a good lawyer who deals specifically in family laws. If not u r going waste time and money like my friend whose divorce case is super messy. And dun agreed anything with your wife without writing as it can be turned against you.

If you are charged with evidence of adultery in ur case where u r earning and providing for her current lifestyle, be prepared ur lump sum or monthly alimony will not be low. As for house calculation, the judge would also indirect contribution to household in % not just 1% per year of marriage e.g.she do all the household and maintain house. Then % will go higher than just basis of how much each paid for house +% in years of marriage. Anyway is not always 50% vs 50%. Mine ended in 35% for my wife. 18% for her paid %, 5% for year of marriage and 12% for indirect contribution. Never accept lump sum + $1 from your wife lawyer. If lump sum just lump sum. Lesser painful in long run if u can afford it. Alimony is payable and reviewable till she re marry, u die or she die or u prove u cannot work anymore due to illness etc. Dun think u re marry dun need pay u still need to.

If can, dun d. If cannot better prepared for it.

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by IamZapped

Don't divorce. Life is never perfect

If both adults cant live together I see no point staying together ...will have lots of problems and suffering . As for children they will still grows up and have their own life . Is better to live separately than let them see u guys has no communications and fighting .

[IamZapped]

I grown up with single-parent. i understand that the child will zap the irresponsible parent.

[joajas]

Why not go for marriage counseling? There is no perfect marriage. Find out what the problems are and work on those problems. Ts think about why you and your wife got married in the first place.

Anyway all the best to you.

[IamZapped]

Possible problem are "Command and control", "Deserve the rights and refuse give way", "Always question why" and "purposely destroy" etc

[Botakhead]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

If both adults cant live together I see no point staying together ...will have lots of problems and suffering . As for children they will still grows up and have their own life . Is better to live separately than let them see u guys has no communications and fighting .

To avoid paying out too much with a divorce, can also work out a agreeement for each other to have fun outside without any worry, you can happy, she also can happy. Nothing to be messy about.

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by assster

thanks all for the info and PM.

Lastly, i wanna know how they determine my assets? I have some offshore funds and properties i never told her about.. but i paid taxes on them, will they be able to trace?

Dude, the onus is on the other party to find and provide proof. If you don't declare the stinking familee cock can't bother. Everything is according to affidavit, you can sumpah, tell a lie, who going to proven, of course if proven you kena but again not for the court to go round and find out if what you have declare in affidavit is true or not. end of the day stupid fucking cock is only going to assume you are law abiding shitizens willing to tell the true the whole true and nothing but the true....

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by MILFrocks

I have gone through a divorce without kids. Married for about 4 years. I was earning about 2.5 times more than her. Judge ruled that 4 years was not considered long and considering that her salary of about 3-4k was sufficient, I did not have to pay monthly maintenance, despite her demanding for 2k a month. In fact, she was so demanding that my lawyer told me that the judge commented that she was asking for too much.

As for my flat, I bought over her share as I was already 35 (the minimum age for a single to buy over a flat as an individual).

It is better for the other party to initiate the divorce if you want to save cost. the person initiating it usually have to pay more. If both of you are agreeable to divorce, let her initiate. She will write all kinds of nasty things as her ground for divorce. My advice is to ignore them and just accept the grounds. Some people are so upset about this that they waste money arguing on the grounds. Since both parties want to split, then just accept the grounds. Not worth arguing over the reasons since they will not be made public anyway. Don't waste money arguing for such stuff. Better to spend time and money on determining how to plsit the assets.

PM me if you want more advice or have queries.

you lucky bro, my case pay cost for all....even thou she initiate

[Soul_Reaper]

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

Dude, the onus is on the other party to find and provide proof. If you don't declare the stinking familee cock can't bother. Everything is according to affidavit, you can sumpah, tell a lie, who going to proven, of course if proven you kena but again not for the court to go round and find out if what you have declare in affidavit is true or not. end of the day stupid fucking cock is only going to assume you are law abiding shitizens willing to tell the true the whole true and nothing but the true....

The other party can apply to the Family Court to conduct a discovery process of your assets. You will be asked to declare all your assets including those stashed overseas and those willed or held in trust by your beneficiaries. Usually the side applying for the order will engage a PI to countercheck your declaration and dig out other hidden assets. In some extreme cases, the FC has subpoenaed siblings, relatives & close friends if the other party can show proof that they may have assisted you to hide your assets. And it is jail time if you are caught lying in your declaration.