Advice needed

[darkice]

Originally Posted by sweet_pea

I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year already.
He has very high sex drive I would say. We do it every night 2 times minimum except for the standard few days in a month.

he doesn't watch porn and neither does he gets high watching porn.
it's very natural that he hugs me close when we sleep every night and sometimes when I totally falls asleep, he will undress me and awakes me by arousing me.
The weak point about me is, I fall into very deep sleep once I knock out and whenever he sorta awakes me in the midst of undressing me, I hardly have the strength to push him away and the next day, I am always tired when I go to work.

Much as I already tone down my dressing, it still gets him hard. It was worst last time. I don't even apply body lotion in the bedroom now. I make sure I apply after bath in the shower room and come out clothed. I don't know why it seems like my usual daily habits can get him so turned on, when it's nothing? Or I did it unknowingly to make him turned on. Guys, avice please. Even in the lift in shopping malls sometimes when it's crowded and he hugs me, I can feel the vibes of him wanting to make love to me very strongly.

What should I do or tell him in a way, not to want me so much? Sometimes when we go for walks in the park, he hugs me so tight and I know what he wants. I can only use my hands to push him gently away at his chest and tells him to hold it.

The best things about him though is that he doesn't force it on me. When I am really tired, he lets me have a good sleep. But being tired everyday is not the excuse for him right?

Talk to him nicely. Tell him your feelings. Women sometimes need to be in a mood to do it. If the mood and atmosphere is not there, even though the deed is done, sex may not be actually great.

If you BF demands for it, learn to say NO. However, relationship it's like a kite, you need to know when to pull it back when it gets too high up.

Other thing you can do is to just give him a BJ or HJ when you are not in the mood. See if it will work out for you

[sweet_pea]

I think exercises makes him even more horny! Because he hits the gym in the morning before work and goes wake boarding!

I guess it's my stamina that's not on par with him..

[BonEx]

sweet_pea da jie you need to go train hard for Marathon already, then can match up to your boyfriend's demands.

Nothing is ever easy, i think lots of bros gave you good advises, try them out one by one.

And i am also serious about going out to keep fit. Perhaps use keeping fit as an excuse sometimes then you can go work out go home and sleep

[snowbunny]

erm..jus so that i get it right, u are seeking help because u cant handle him that many times right?

If so, u jus have to let him know that you are tired but u got to let him know that u do love him as well, jus that your body cant keep up with him..

And its nt that only young guys have that stamina, basically most asian guys dont have that kind of stamina..no offense but in westerns countries, even married couples of decades still have sex 3 times a week..

Just talk to him, he'll understand where u are coming from if he really loves u...

maybe in his mind its like the more he wants you, the more u will feel he loves you..and we cant exactly blame guys for that cant we..given that sometimes when its their turn to be tired we get paranoid..lol

[sweet_pea]

Hi Guys!

I think I will work out more so I can match up to my beau's stamina and also to start saying No No NO! hahaha!
I guess working out should work for me meanwhile..

[ch33zy]

all the best to you, sis sweet_pea.. hope everything will work out fine for you..

[walle]

maybe he just wan sex not love?????

[kragb]

Originally Posted by sweet_pea

Hi Guys!

I think I will work out more so I can match up to my beau's stamina and also to start saying No No NO! hahaha!
I guess working out should work for me meanwhile..

Ur bf is 31, what abt u? The cycle for male and female are quite different as human aged, thus will need to communicate in order to meet each others' needs.

Believe me, once you get married and need to do household chores and look after kids, etc. Everything will mellow down... provided he contributes to the chores of course!

[sweet_pea]

@kragb: i am 26. I haven't thought of settling down. Too far to talk about.

@walle: then he can just source outside, he can always get a chance if he wants to, but he doesn't. Even my daily schedule is pretty much watched by him, meaning he knows my movements throughout the day.

I asked him why he needs to have it every night. He says cos it's me. Everytime when we are together, there's a desire to have me and he wants every inch of me, his.
So much so to an extent, if I lost weight he knows when he grabs. My butt is also firmer now, used to be flat like a pancake. After being with him for a year, my ass started to rise like cupcakes, due to the pounding of a certain mating position.

He said alot girls can't withstand sex every night and it's physically taxing, that's why when I am tired, he restrain himself and let me have a good sleep, but actually he very much wants to get close to me and be intimate.

Then I asked whether it will be better if I don't go over his place at night, say cut down to 2-3 nights per week, he said he is already used to me sleeping beside and I am actually to help him sleep better, although I am always the first to doze off.

How brothers?

[ch33zy]

hmm.. ur bf has some weird justifications from his point of view.. well, it's really up to you.. if you can continue to withstand his daily needs, then i believe that your relationship will last for long as long as there is communication between the 2 of you..

[sweet_pea]

@ch33zy: what weird justifications? Like?

[ch33zy]

hmm.. u are ok with him knowing fully ur daily movements? every night sex.. sounds like him enjoying most of the time.. as for sleeping better, i dun see the point here.. unless its after the sexsion, then that is understandable..

[Alf1977]

TS, I guess u must be very pretty n slim that your bf wants to do it with u every night.. I m sure bros here don't even do it every night with their wives/gfs... Coz ultimately will get bored with the same face/body..

You are one lucky one that your bf wants you so much.. Sex is meant to enjoy,maybe when you reach 30, u will be able to catch up with his high sex drive.. Coz women in their 30s will have a higher sex drive compared to their younger days..

I guess if your bf don't give you much, then you should start worrying..

Isn't good to have sexercise every night? like burning calories every night..

I wish I have the desire n stamina of your bf towards my gf..
At least now if your bf don't want sex everyday, you know there is something wrong with him..

Cheer up, and enjoy your love making sessions every night..

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by kragb

Believe me, once you get married and need to do household chores and look after kids, etc. Everything will mellow down... provided he contributes to the chores of course!

True wat Bro kragb said above...tats why so many bros here & outside SBF are suffering from their OCs wif little or no sex leading to bros here eventually divorcing or eating out.. but I contributed to the housework, oso like dat...not appreciated by OC...sometimes even got scolded by her...taken for granted tat its my duty to her to help in the household chores..and must do it her way some more...sigh

Originally Posted by Alf1977

TS, I guess u must be very pretty n slim that your bf wants to do it with u every night.. I m sure bros here don't even do it every night with their wives/gfs... Coz ultimately will get bored with the same face/body..

You are one lucky one that your bf wants you so much.. Sex is meant to enjoy,maybe when you reach 30, u will be able to catch up with his high sex drive.. Coz women in their 30s will have a higher sex drive compared to their younger days..

Cheer up, and enjoy your love making sessions every night..

Yes, tink Bro Alf1977 is rite for women in their 30s...but believe the younger 1s oso hav similarly HSD... but most of them go downhill after they reach the age of menopause i.e. 48 yo and above..not so interested in having sex or ML anymore after tat...if bros still need sex, they wil hav to DIY or eat out...tats the only choices left for them...sigh

[sweet_pea]

@ ch33zy: it's normal for the partner to know your whereabouts no? as in know when she has night outs, gatherings and etc... It's the intimacy he wants when he sleeps and when he sleeps. Hmm..