Sexually frustrated

[subidowa]

I think TS is just wanting a green light to go stray and look for other guys behind his back since the bf cannot satisfy her anymore.... She is here to vent out her frustration but seriously, kpkb here no use. She needs to solve her needs problem. So she is seeing what comments we are inputing and whether is it right to fuck behind his bf back.

Therefore my vote goes to it is ok to find other guys outside but keep it a secret. U will solve ur needs and u still have ur bgr intact. However, dun ever get caught. Ur bf is doing his business now which means he is gonna to be successful if he is that hardworking on his business... Many girls will wait for u to get dump and replace u.

[justanothergirl]

Originally Posted by subidowa

I think TS is just wanting a green light to go stray and look for other guys behind his back since the bf cannot satisfy her anymore.... She is here to vent out her frustration but seriously, kpkb here no use. She needs to solve her needs problem. So she is seeing what comments we are inputing and whether is it right to fuck behind his bf back.

Therefore my vote goes to it is ok to find other guys outside but keep it a secret. U will solve ur needs and u still have ur bgr intact. However, dun ever get caught. Ur bf is doing his business now which means he is gonna to be successful if he is that hardworking on his business... Many girls will wait for u to get dump and replace u.

I'm offended that you think of me that way when you don't even know me. I've already stated I'm not looking for FB/ONS/Lover. I just thought that many people in this forum have gone through what I've gone through and may have advice/solutions as they are more experienced. I'm only here to seek advice, if I wanted to fuck behind my bf's back I would have just done so instead of posting here.

[Haliotidae]

If I put myself in you BF shoes... I would be very lucky... I only know of another friend of mine who has a gf like that... She is pretty hot too. Lucky him. But he is not running his own biz.

Normally a guy who has been through 2 yrs of relationship would stabilize... Means his "nua" pattern comes out... Everything is plain sailing. It usually happens after the "honeymoon" period. Same for marriage too. Furthermore, he is now on his own biz, all precious time is spent on making it a success.

If both of you love each other, then some things gotta give. You have to give in a bit on less love-making and makeup that demand from somewhere or turn that energy to something else. He has to give up his health and time a bit and focus on biz. Work something out on schedule... After your work you can visit him for a spontaneous quickie after dinner. If you can help him on some paperwork together and turn into something spontaneous... The point is pleasantly intrude into his life to make up for lost time/sex... Win-win for both.

If he still cunt get it... I give up.

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

Hi all~ Been a silent reader for quite awhile and been contemplating whether I should seek advices from fellow samsters.

A little background:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. Sex was amazing initially but have started to dwindle about a year ago. I'm 23, he's 25. I'm 101% sure he isn't cheating on me. Just that since he started his own business, he became quite busy and had put on a lot of weight. He used to workout everyday but none at all now.

Before, we had sex everyday or almost everyday. He could last for at least half an hour. Now when we have sex, he comes quite fast although he tries to delay it the best he can and always makes sure I come first. We can't have rough sex like before which is what I like. Sex is limited to once or twice week at best, or occasionally once a fortnight.

Would really appreciate any advices at all as I feel like I'm going crazy at times as my sex drive is quite high.

[H2001]

Ts u should be understanding towards your bf
. You just focus on your needs but have you sit down and understand the stress level your bf facing . Starting a business is not easy .

The time spend on his business have overtaken his workout life as well
. Try to have a personal talk with him and understand each other without you trying to be aggressive towards him

[darthadrvis]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

And no, I'm not looking for FB or part time lover or anything like that at all. Please don't PM me regarding those.

More info: We did have a good talk about it. He went back to working out after that but stopped after a few months as things were getting busy again. Sex did improve during those few months. Is exercising and eating healthy the only way?

Hi TS. Its good that you have a talk with him and sounds like he is understanding and trying his best.

Having your own business is not an easy task. I bet he is working real hard to provide for you. And giving you the best sex life.

And yes, exercising and eating healthy can improve on one sex life.

I would suggest that you can do other things aside from sex to make his life better. A simple cooked meal from you or a back rub would made a difference. All the best TS.

[justanothergirl]

Originally Posted by peekaboo

TS, having to own a business is not so simple as working for others. The amount of stress level is difficult to imagine. I wonder what type of business can put on weight? I can only think of food. Maybe you can advice him to sell his business away and get a full time job. Then he will have more time for you. good luck.

Hey peekaboo. Sorry if I mislead with my post but I don't mean the business is directly making him put on weight. He has always been on the chubby side and maintained himself by working out. Just that he stopped when he started his own business as he doesn't have the time anymore. And when there is, he just wants to kick back and relax.

[jialatjinjin]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

And no, I'm not looking for FB or part time lover or anything like that at all. Please don't PM me regarding those.

More info: We did have a good talk about it. He went back to working out after that but stopped after a few months as things were getting busy again. Sex did improve during those few months. Is exercising and eating healthy the only way?

exercising and eating healthy is the RIGHT way.

of course your bf could eat sex enhancing pills or etc. but thats going to squeeze him dry. will die young or old age creep up faster.

alternatively both of you can try other ways of sex. everyday same style of sex can get quite boring.

some cosplay, quickie in public toilets, bj in the cinema all will bring back EXCITEMENT in sex life.

[subidowa]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

I'm offended that you think of me that way when you don't even know me. I've already stated I'm not looking for FB/ONS/Lover. I just thought that many people in this forum have gone through what I've gone through and may have advice/solutions as they are more experienced. I'm only here to seek advice, if I wanted to fuck behind my bf's back I would have just done so instead of posting here.

U haven't done it bcause u haven't got an official green light from the rest of us that it is ok to do so. THats why u are here. If u dun need the green light and definitely wont fuck behind his back then u come to this sex forum to share ur problem for what. U already have an idea what u can do what u cannot do liao what. Besides, most of the horny brains here can offer u what advices....

Anyway i think u are also another typical asking too much sporean girl. Ur bf i assume is not ugly, should be successful cause he is starting his own business. Good in sex (as least last time he used to), not very very fat only recently then got fat. Sex with u regularly and pay attention to u. U also confident that he won't eat outside. Now because of ur tiny cannot be satisfied sexual problem u come here to kbkp. What kind of gf are u???? Not say ur bf didn't do sex with u or impotent. Its just a simple case of u can't get enough. So since u need it so much, u better go f other pple lo. Worry for u bf sia. Being so busy yet his gf coming to a sex forum to seek advice from horny pple here lol.

[A_Nobody]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

Hi all~ Been a silent reader for quite awhile and been contemplating whether I should seek advices from fellow samsters.

A little background:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. Sex was amazing initially but have started to dwindle about a year ago. I'm 23, he's 25. I'm 101% sure he isn't cheating on me. Just that since he started his own business, he became quite busy and had put on a lot of weight. He used to workout everyday but none at all now.

Before, we had sex everyday or almost everyday. He could last for at least half an hour. Now when we have sex, he comes quite fast although he tries to delay it the best he can and always makes sure I come first. We can't have rough sex like before which is what I like. Sex is limited to once or twice week at best, or occasionally once a fortnight.

Would really appreciate any advices at all as I feel like I'm going crazy at times as my sex drive is quite high.

Guys with a high sex drive need a breather once in a while.

Perhaps you should explore other options like picking up a new hobby or doing things that you wanted to do but have not done.
Or maybe catching up with old friends can help you take your mind off.

Whenever I have urges and do not have an avenue for relief, I would usually go out to the mall to take a walk.
Drop by Starbucks to have coffee and pastries and many times I would bump into old friends, acquaintances and we talk for hours.
And usually after that I would feel better.

[Johnston]

The Great Red Dragon has been breathing fire an avg of 3 times a day since the age of 15 or so...... Nothing has deterred my from daily live firing, except first few days in ns and couple days when i got too drunk or fever to live fire

I eat a full meat based diet, full of protein and carbo, smoke like chimney and drink like a fish - no exercise at all except daily bath in sun pretend to do work

No problems at all - in fact i think im going to live fire again right nao

[ah rat]

TS,have a nice talk with yr BF.Tell him yr problem,that u have high sex drive.
My OC have low sex drive but I have high sex drive. I have a nice talk with her.Now If I want ,I just ask or body language.She will says OK!

[justanothergirl]

Originally Posted by subidowa

U haven't done it bcause u haven't got an official green light from the rest of us that it is ok to do so. THats why u are here. If u dun need the green light and definitely wont fuck behind his back then u come to this sex forum to share ur problem for what. U already have an idea what u can do what u cannot do liao what. Besides, most of the horny brains here can offer u what advices....

Anyway i think u are also another typical asking too much sporean girl. Ur bf i assume is not ugly, should be successful cause he is starting his own business. Good in sex (as least last time he used to), not very very fat only recently then got fat. Sex with u regularly and pay attention to u. U also confident that he won't eat outside. Now because of ur tiny cannot be satisfied sexual problem u come here to kbkp. What kind of gf are u???? Not say ur bf didn't do sex with u or impotent. Its just a simple case of u can't get enough. So since u need it so much, u better go f other pple lo. Worry for u bf sia. Being so busy yet his gf coming to a sex forum to seek advice from horny pple here lol.

Omg.. I can't even.. I don't know why you are making such assumptions.

First of all.. If I wanted to cheat on my bf, why would I need people's permission here? If someone wants to cheat, they will either way. And why is it not okay to ask advice here? Every person have a different perspective and approach to things. Just because you or some others don't have any good advice, doesn't mean all of the people here don't. There's no harm done is there? Does coming to a sex forum mean that I'm 100% cheating? What about those who just TCSS here?

And please don't just make assumptions. You don't even know if I'm actually Singaporean. You don't know my bf much less how he looks like. I was with him when he had nothing. So if I'm a typical 'ask too much girl', why would I even be with him much less be together through thick and thin? I have never asked him for anything more than $300 in these 3 years. I earn my own keep. You can say I'm just making it all up but I have no reason to lie here.

Why is asking for advice also counted as kpkb? If anyone can improve their own sex lives I'm sure they would be more than glad to. What harm is there in trying? If I can't have it then fine, I won't die. Am I a bad girlfriend for wanting to improve on it?

The problem is not only of infrequent sex. It is also of premature ejaculation. I'm pretty sure no guy wants that. If asking here even has ONE advice that would work, isn't it good for both of us?

Okay I feel like I just wrote an entire essay. I'm not trying to argue here but I just feel you have something against me making all these false assumptions and I want to clear everything up. Thank you.

[fudgeholic]

How about having a day of getaway?

You do not have to go out of the country - bungeeing off Little Guilin, kayaking at Ubin, snorkelling at St John Island for example...?

Let him have some adrenaline rush to release his inner negativity.

[bastardball]

Dear TS,

I know ur problem, and ur bf might face the same situation as me though.

In the begining of the relationship, my ex and I could hump each other a few times a day. I was fucking good, made her real horny. Tried various stunts (arse, mouth etc) and places (car, toilets, washing machine, balcony etc)....this carried on for around 3 to 4 more months....until the whole thing died down.

I simply lost interest....but my ex was still very horny and at times frustrated when I rejected her advances or came up with excuses to avoid sex. For me, I need variety, so I don't find much of a sexcitment if I keep bonking the same person. That's me....so I don't really find it sexually arousing.

Another reason, perhaps my ex came too strongly at me...when she is horny, sometimes she will "rape" me...seems fun at first...but eventually I got turned off as I like to rape people, not people rape or dominate the sex session. If the girl seem too aggressive, I don't seem too keen. At times my ex will also masturbate to fulfill her sexual needs, guess this is the road that you are heading.....

We just have to adjust our expectations. The girl before my ex was the opposite...I always wanted sex but she didn't want...I had like sex with her a total of less than 10 times over 3 years...too sexually frustrating...that's why we broke off. I find it a turn-on in the beginning that she didn't want sex, but soon it became a sexual frustration that I still didn't get sex even being so turn-on.....

For ur situation, ur bf sex drive will always remain at this level eventually despite what you do (e.g. holiday, long talk with him, nice romantic dinner, massage etc..), no point doing so much....the effort you made to entice him or make the sex happen can be draining, to the point of not worth the effort. My advice is to adjust your expectations that your fingers is going to provide most of the sexual pleasure for you instead of your bf's dick.

Good luck

[iceage]

Originally Posted by bastardball

Dear TS,

For ur situation, ur bf sex drive will always remain at this level eventually despite what you do (e.g. holiday, long talk with him, nice romantic dinner, massage etc..), no point doing so much....the effort you made to entice him or make the sex happen can be draining, to the point of not worth the effort. My advice is to adjust your expectations that your fingers is going to provide most of the sexual pleasure for you instead of your bf's dick.

Good luck

I agree that TS needs to manage her expectations.

If you can use your fingers and provide most of the sexual pleasure, maybe you can try to guide him to use his fingers to help you. That way, even if his dick is soft after he come, his fingers can help you to enjoy the session too.