A Question to ask??

[cockenadan]

babe, don't worry too much..maybe he is just too tired from taking care of kid and work stress....just keep yourself happy will do

[darylcch]

firstly, hows your frequency?
secondly, during ML, are you just lying on the bed doing nothing?

[sin.is.fun0]

Hey your husband is truthful to you! He told you what he is really gong through! I think u Shud just try different things n spice up u sex life again, bj is just a small variation. Why don't u guys play games - he wins, he gets his bj, he loses, he still gets his bj after he fucks you
You can add a lot of variety with the same person, and don't look for hidden meanings!

[geckoSG]

If you had done your part to initiate sex and he dun, then find yourself a FB.
I'm HSD, but wifey simply is not, so I had to settle outside. It works well
for me so far. So U can consider that too.

Since both of you are on the possible verge of divorce, pls do not do raw and
risk pregnancy. No point taking such risk and uses that to hold the marriage.

[bonkster]

Sorry to hear about your marital woes. Regardless of whether he eats out, if the relationship aspect of a marriage is under stress, the sexual aspect is naturally affected.

Many years ago when my OC and i were less established in our careers and trying to cope with our stressful jobs, we had a major communication breakdown. Back then we just couldn't seem to share anything with each other without getting into an argument.

The result from that was a somewhat passive-aggressive response from both parties. She either ignored me or was annoyingly sarcastic when she wasn't happy. I, on the other hand, wasn't keen on ML to her as i felt it's hardly enjoyable ML to a woman who was stressing me up with all those annoying antics.

It's a vicious cycle, the more crap from her, the less i feel like ML to her, the more she suspected i was eating out, then more crap from her and so on. And FYI, i wasn't wasting out at that time.

All the best to u TS! Hope u can sort it out.

[Draculito]

Originally Posted by geckoSG

If you had done your part to initiate sex and he dun, then find yourself a FB.
I'm HSD, but wifey simply is not, so I had to settle outside. It works well
for me so far. So U can consider that too.

Since both of you are on the possible verge of divorce, pls do not do raw and
risk pregnancy. No point taking such risk and uses that to hold the marriage.

Find yourself a FB???

Bro gecko, wat a suggestion?

[Toyota Honda]

Originally Posted by Higal

hi brothers/sisters

We are married for coming to 5.5years and i was puzzled by what my husband said . Anyone can enlighten me on this hidden meaning.

he mentioned that he dont wish to do the ML frequently as he finds it (our ML) boring. On the other hand he likes my BJ skill and the way i do can turn him on high.

Sis,

Dun worry lah. I am like him and its not because you are at fault. He could be going through a period of low sex drive. I have been like that for quite some time liao. Dun say my girl, even outside ECAs, female friends jio me I also no mood to go hotel with them. My girl even give me the ultimatum that I have to do her at least once in Dec, else she will leave me. Its that bad. But the only thing I am interested in getting is bbbj. Been like that for a few months now.

Its his psychological problem. Or that he is simply too tired physically to even get into the mood. If he is tired of you, he wouldn't even want to get physical with you. Not every man will die die want to go for the ML action. For me, I would appreciate if the girl would just give me a tight hug and kiss instead of doing any deeds during this period of low sex drive period.

Most impt, as a wife, be understanding.

[michaelrocksam]

Originally Posted by waiwaiz

haha........yo bro sam, don say like tat la.a simple statement like tat can cause her many sleepless nite...

sis don think theres any hidden meaning to it la. juz rate your own ML skill and how often is your often..........everytime do also sian de ma...i also feel abit sian doing with my gf after dating 10 yrs le........

maybe u very very gd in bj leh....lols

bro,

i dun mean to make things look bad for her. I did some reading on her past 4 postings before I made my comments.

I can see that she is a really sad and unhappy woman, trapped inside a loveless relationship.

Her husband has not touch her for sometime.

Anyway, she said these facts herself.

I am just stating the facts, let her see whats reality. Many ppl in sg are hunting for excitement, can her hubby be an exception? From what she has related it is plain to see.

[pokeman71]

I have to try out ML and BBBJ with you before I can make any comment. There are too many, 'maybe'.

Off hand I give you one first until I try out with you.

- some man(include me) sometime just want a quickie or just blow away. At time in the morning, I will ask my wife can bbbj for me but she only suck one or 2 times only.

So maybe goes on........

[abracadebra]

From a women's perspective, trust your instinct is what i would suggest. because no matter what you ask him, he will deny, be it yes or no. which man so stupid to admit he eat out?

Ask yourself if you felt that u 2 were truely happy together with every moment spent. That should be the key. If yes, then perhaps he is really just tired...ask him more about why he so tired, blah blah blah...be more understanding

if no, then i think its better to talk about it as well.

For me, i think if not happy, just say la...dont like to drag.

Hope it helps!

[damienadam]

maybe you can think of some erotic moves that can spice up during ml. doing ml with same person over years can be bored. its juz like eating the same food everyday.

[VanGogh]

Originally Posted by geckoSG

If you had done your part to initiate sex and he dun, then find yourself a FB.
I'm HSD, but wifey simply is not, so I had to settle outside. It works well
for me so far. So U can consider that too.

Nice suggestion Bro

[Higal]

Originally Posted by songsongsong

Sympathised with u but from the way you had written, probably 90% getting outside. just throw some $$$ and all the girls will flock to him and some may service him like a king.

Coming home to a nagging wife will instantly kills off all kicks... but can't blame you as problem seems to fall on his side.. He isn't helping to clap at all... Wake him up before it gets too deep that you can't turn back..... sorry to say, he just did NOT care for your needs nor interest

me nagging... maybe so...
song song son u r rite... he never spare a thought for me. he only think of himself first and here i m clearing the heap of shit and even begged my family for help in $$$ issues.
what the f@@k

[Higal]

Originally Posted by cockenadan

babe, don't worry too much..maybe he is just too tired from taking care of kid and work stress....just keep yourself happy will do

oh baby, he dun even help out with kid or housechores nowadays but i have to do all the kid stuff and house chores after work and at times on top of these, i also got time to entertain my bf too whenever he is back on shore...

[naturegreen]

Originally Posted by Higal

this last question- i long suspected but he totally denied.

Which guy in the right state of mind will admit?