How to break up or shld i brake up with him??

[goodpartner]

Just thinking aloud...

If a bro starts a thread with the following story:

been with this girl for almost half year but I'm married with an infant son + one more comin soon. DUnno why sometimes gg out with her feel some kind of guilty, even when I sms her sweet stuff...

in a dilema on the current situation on what to do.... how?
btw,we do work in de same company but at different locations

(which btw is such a common scenario with bros here where none will give a hoot to start a thread about)

There'll be mostly envy responses like "treat her as a fb, just carry on and steal-eat as long as don't jeopardize the family...blah blah". Basically, all the married bros here will welcome such a fb. Only risk for bros is thinking with their small head - be it FB or FL - in terms of sacrificing the family for her.

So sis, bottom line is that HE will not initiate the break off.

[rice_jockey]

It's very clear that we have double standards here. While it's ok for men to do such things, but for women to do so, it is frowned upon. My suggestions is that if you want to stay with him, why don't you level the playing field. Get another boyfriend too. Yes, I know you love him, and can't imagine being intimate with another man. The very thought may repulse you, but think of it as your insurance, or your back up plan. It will keep you sane, trust me.

It's obvious that he does not want/ cannot be with you full time. So you should not be available to him full time, lest you go nuts.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by rice_jockey

why don't you level the playing field.

Hmm... now that's some adviCe! I'm impressed

Originally Posted by rice_jockey

It's very clear that we have double standards here.

Actually not really double standards (in favour of guys) lah, if a bro write a story something lidat:

been with this pregnant women with a husband and infant son + one more comin soon for almost half year. DUnno why sometimes gg out with her feel some kind of guilty,even when she sms-es me sweet stuff...

in a dilema on the current situation on what to do.... how?
btw,we do work in de same company but at different locations

Then he'll be fcuk upsize down with EVEN WORST cursing responses here and kanna zapped till timbaktu...

The "double standard" then will be less favourable for bros than for sis. At least TS still haven't get much responses like she's a bitch to risk breaking up the guy's family. On the other hand, a bro with the above story will be condemned to hell for fcuking someone's preggy wife and be cursed with bad karma and retribution blah blah.

[icYcreamj]

Originally Posted by Newbie129

I am in the same situation as you....but i am leaving him...
you shd too....it's painful but we dun have a choice....

yup,painful & wrong. i know staying on is nt right,but sil cant think of how to break it up ...

[goodpartner]

Okie, seems like you've accepted and got your "shld i brake up" portion of the question answered

Now, for the "How to break up" portion... it's easy.

Check this website out: How to Break Up with Someone Using Style and Sensitivity - wikiHow

[angelous]

u nt in ur 40's i hope...if nt where r ur confident in findin better guy??if u'r lookin for cheap trill u can hang on to tat ass hole that mite hv treated u as a sex toy whn his wife is unable to give him...sorry to b rude on tis first reply bt i tik u can hv better man thn him...not unless he is earnin big bucks to spend on u...if nt i stil believe u can find better choices thn him...


Sorry for this harsh words...hope u find ur truth knight in shining armor soon...-.-

[icYcreamj]

Originally Posted by rice_jockey
why don't you level the playing field.


what does it means by level the playing field?

[JavTalk]

during the good times, u thin abt all the love and ur heart says stay. During the bad times, every single action and words will irritate and make u hate each other. I dun know have u reach the extreme end of each spectrum.

I speaking from a personal experience. I left her ti her hubby becos we quarrel and fought so much, we really hated each other to the core. And it wasn't so long ago that we wnted to be together and she was contemplating divorce. In the end, nothing happen and we move on.

[puieh]

breaking up would be easier. but standing on ur point would be hard if he sweet talks you back and u took it. it really depends on u alot..

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by xyhan

Sis,

No one can exactly understand the delima that you are in now..But for sure, everyone has given you their very best and concerned advise.

Should be ".... everyone has given you their very best and concerned ADVICE.".

"Advise" is a verb.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by icYcreamj

.....what does it means by level the playing field?

Little girl, I think it means Put a brake with him.

Mowing instead of Moaning. This is a good suggestion. While you’re at it, mowing grass leveling the field, ponder on your affairs with a married man, and how much hurt you will bring to yourself and his family.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Actually, a bit off topic but do you folks notice that the SHEs who posts in our forum regardless of section SUCKS big time in England?????
Wonder if they can compensate in kind for their poor literacy

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Hi icYcreamj, this married man is the same guy in Sept or a new one?

http://thesbf.shop/matters...ml#post4092808

[xyhan]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Should be ".... everyone has given you their very best and concerned ADVICE.".

"Advise" is a verb.

Thank you Brother for your correction. Hehe, I am still open to learning. Thank you.

[JIU XING]

ts, if everyone here say u should give up, then u will give up meh??
just do watever u wan la, if u are happy, then just carry on, but always be prepared to face the music la... if u dun carry on, kekeke u will hurt urself, if u carry on, u will hurt others.... make ur choice, nobody can decide for u...