Confused and lost on documentations at ROM marrying minor VN

[newyorker88]

Originally Posted by zichuan

now market so bad many people got retrench including me, what do goverment expect now from the citizen? daily there is people with the same scenario going down to kpkb with the officers. my parents does have 100k+ of cpf. lol.

Congrates to you on your first kid. Minor? 21 soon? Well, that shouldn't be a big problem for ROM.

THe bigger issue is PR in singapore.

I have a friend did this way. He went to a consultant to "fix" his past income tax records. i.e. He resubmit the incometax again, higher income tax. Paid to govenment. Wife got PR very fast.

Marrying a foreign bride is not a big problem in singapore, but gov wants to see $$$ first.

Best if your bride has higher education too, easier. Hmm... 1 child on the way? Maybe that will boast you chances.

Worst case, try to look for your MP, usually, their letters are powerful.

Hope these helps.

[zichuan]

anyway i just sign up for a civil servant job.

[zichuan]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Govt also must protect foreign bride so that their welfare is taken care. If u cant support her, and then ask her to go xxxxx then how? OR she see the family here so poor, she go to work....

baby gonna due on july, crazy go work.. u think every singaporean marry a viet girl expect so harsh decision? mind your words, i expect helpful reply rather then so insulting words.

[Mrxhub]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Govt also must protect foreign bride so that their welfare is taken care. If u cant support her, and then ask her to go xxxxx then how? OR she see the family here so poor, she go to work....

Govt will sure ask you not to marry foreign bride if you can't even support yourself, if Govt done in your way of asking, I think foreign babes will die die love to marry here, how to protect local babes here. Like that, many of us would love to born male babies....Hope u understand. U are LUCKY to be a SINGAPOREAN...There is no benefits in Mainland/HK/TW.

[zichuan]

Mrxhub its okay, i just ignore what the guy said. Maybe he got bad experiences with viet girls and thought most of the local guys know viet girls in singapore are working in the trade that he is talking about. I just felt kinda insult from his mouth lor.

Imagine i shoot back to him, that his wife is pregnant with 6months, then he cannot support his wife he ask his wife to go **** and earn $. .. this sentences is enough for him to feel what i am feeling now lor.

[SingViet]

Aiyoh argue for what? The main thing is singaporeans view vietnamese gals in a very negative way. But we have to correct their thinking. Not all Vietnamese spouse are from joo chiat and not all Singaporean man who marry Vietnamese ladies are poor.

Like i mentioned in my earlier in my thread, when my friends, neighbours or relatives came to know that i went to Vietnam in 2002, they called me SIAO! Standard criticisms include `why go to war torn country? got money to earn there meh? go to vietnam means he cannot survive in Singapore...' `Study till Postgraduate degree also no use' All sorts of statements were made. When i married my wife, they started to criticise again `wah lao, marry viet gal... the wife must be a hooker!' `he cannot find singapore gals so marry viet gal lor'

Thru the years, i fly between Singapore and Saigon. These people started to change their statement when i bought my first Toyota Camry in Singapore. Because i come back Singapore often then, so i bought a toyota camry to make travelling easier in Singapore. At least its still cheaper than renting a toyota camry. When i am back in Saigon, my mum will drive my car and she herself has another car too. I returned to Singapore in 2006 with my wife and kids. I also brought 2 maids back. They got to know my wife and they feel my wife is not bad.

Things started to change when i bought a Toyota Prado last year and i moved into a terrace house just last month. people changed their views totally and started to asked me about money making opportunities in Vietnam.

The thing is , we don't need to rebute what others have said. We prove thru actions. Brothers who have vietnamese spouses or gf, ask them to dress properly and behave properly in public. Don't wear those BE BE dresses where half the breast pop out. If you want others to respect you, u have to prove to them that you can be respected.

[jackbl]

Wow kind advice leads to your "bombardment"? I am protecting the gals instead of u ok?! I meant that if u cant have a good income then dun marry her cos this will caused her more hardship. Standard of living in sgp is much much higher than vn. Everyday u wake up in sgp, its about $$$. Since u dun like my comment then forget it!!!

Originally Posted by zichuan

baby gonna due on july, crazy go work.. u think every singaporean marry a viet girl expect so harsh decision? mind your words, i expect helpful reply rather then so insulting words.

[Megatronzombie]

Bro TS and Bro jackbl, cool down you guys, I am sure both of you are looking out for the security and wellbeing of the VN wife...

Bro jackbl, perhaps you can tone down your message.

Bro TS, much as I hate to admit it, Singapore is all about money. No money, you can't even spend one day in SG living unless you are relying on your parents. Think twice before you bring your wife over as its much cheaper to maintain her in VN than SG especially now you are without work. Working as a civil servant unless you are like very high up does not pay well. HOWEVER, the good thing is if you get her a PR or citizenship by virture of marriage, the baby will enjoy tons of benefits in SG.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Megatronzombie

Bro TS and Bro jackbl, cool down you guys, I am sure both of you are looking out for the security and wellbeing of the VN wife...

Bro jackbl, perhaps you can tone down your message.

Bro TS, much as I hate to admit it, Singapore is all about money. No money, you can't even spend one day in SG living unless you are relying on your parents. Think twice before you bring your wife over as its much cheaper to maintain her in VN than SG especially now you are without work. Working as a civil servant unless you are like very high up does not pay well. HOWEVER, the good thing is if you get her a PR or citizenship by virture of marriage, the baby will enjoy tons of benefits in SG.

You are right. Everything in Singapore cost money. Even when you are sleeping at night, money is also involved. If everything depends on parents, its really quite shameful. I always believe that if i want to get married, i have to be able to provide for her. If i have to depend on my parents to feed my wife, then its really shameful. I have seen some bros who party every other night, drink like no one's business and bonk WL weekly. But of course, he stays with parents, no need to pay mortgage, no need to pay utility bills, no need to give parents pocket money and drives dad's car. Most importantly,he is over 30 years old. Simply no pride.