For my case it’s worse than the girl I used to date, when I was dating a normal girl, I know she loved me very much. She would text me proactively, ask for long video call, show jealousy when I was too close to another girl. She gave me the “I really love you” signals. I am not saying my ex is perfect(I am not either, how can I demand her to be), but I have zero doubt that she loved me.
this “relationship” is more one sided. It’s really hard to believe a person can be so busy that she has no time to reply to a message, unless she has other bros to entertain as well. I have so many self doubt going on with this.
It’s only been a year or so for me and it’s already so torturing. How do you survive for a decade bro?
Is it then a case of things are not so painful that you don’t feel compelled to leave? It is a simplistic way of looking at things of course, but when there is no end game and it is so torturous, what are you hanging around for? Hope you will find peace one day man.
Bro it’s not competition. I don’t think there’s better or worse off in my book. As long as we’re getting heartache, emotion turbulence and scars, we’re the same here..
Agree with the holding part. I’m just number 50 spare tires. A lot of times I wonder why I keep it going despite knowing the harsh truth, I guess that’s what makes us human, we’re creatures with emotions
Paiseh, ya not competition. Just heartache.. she just replied me.. like add 1 or 2 babe inside the conversation. makes my heart flutter.. then same shit happen again.. oh mannnn.
For my case it’s worse than the girl I used to date, when I was dating a normal girl, I know she loved me very much. She would text me proactively, ask for long video call, show jealousy when I was too close to another girl. She gave me the “I really love you” signals. I am not saying my ex is perfect(I am not either, how can I demand her to be), but I have zero doubt that she loved me.
this “relationship” is more one sided. It’s really hard to believe a person can be so busy that she has no time to reply to a message, unless she has other bros to entertain as well. I have so many self doubt going on with this.
It’s only been a year or so for me and it’s already so torturing. How do you survive for a decade bro?
bro, no need to doubt, they are not so busy with proper things, just too busy to entertain you because they are busy with someone else.
when mine was busy, cannot reply or switch off phone
Last time, this manic gambler in casino. Gamble till collapse then hospital call me. She don't dare tell her family, old mother and son. Sometimes I wonder how come got so much money to gamble so many days. Maybe at casino, she lose all, then she flirt with some man, see got room go and fuck get money and continue.
Joke is I thought she was at work, and I went to all the retail outlets of the company to look for her, then they told me she is not at work, when she told me she is.
Couple of times, don't reply, switch off, don't pick up. Over the years, numerous times New year eve or when she go out with her cheap slut sisters, she snug out, go to disco looking for men, or just going out with other guys. She will pretend to tell me she is at home, sleeping after work, very tired
This year eve, 31th Dec 2023, she went out with some fucker to countdown, so 1130 pretend to say tired after work, go sleep. But together so long, I know her shit pattern, so I call her again, 12am. phone off.
130am then she turned on. Didn't give any reason.
you want to date this kind of woman, you going to get a hell load of pain emotional, financial, plus the KC and sex you love. Don't ever trust, or believe what they say.
Someone will always ask, why you don't leave, I think if your heart allow you to, get out. If cannot, then lan lan.
Don't get me wrong, I have left her many times, she has left me too. But somehow KNN we still end together. thought when she younger, she flirt, now almost 50 will change. Nope, still same old ah lian, ex FL that I met.
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bro, no need to doubt, they are not so busy with proper things, just too busy to entertain you because they are busy with someone else.
when mine was busy, cannot reply or switch off phone
Last time, this manic gambler in casino. Gamble till collapse then hospital call me. She don't dare tell her family, old mother and son. Sometimes I wonder how come got so much money to gamble so many days. Maybe at casino, she lose all, then she flirt with some man, see got room go and fuck get money and continue.
Joke is I thought she was at work, and I went to all the retail outlets of the company to look for her, then they told me she is not at work, when she told me she is.
Couple of times, don't reply, switch off, don't pick up. Over the years, numerous times New year eve or when she go out with her cheap slut sisters, she snug out, go to disco looking for men, or just going out with other guys. She will pretend to tell me she is at home, sleeping after work, very tired
This year eve, 31th Dec 2023, she went out with some fucker to countdown, so 1130 pretend to say tired after work, go sleep. But together so long, I know her shit pattern, so I call her again, 12am. phone off.
130am then she turned on. Didn't give any reason.
you want to date this kind of woman, you going to get a hell load of pain emotional, financial, plus the KC and sex you love. Don't ever trust, or believe what they say.
Someone will always ask, why you don't leave, I think if your heart allow you to, get out. If cannot, then lan lan.
Don't get me wrong, I have left her many times, she has left me too. But somehow KNN we still end together. thought when she younger, she flirt, now almost 50 will change. Nope, still same old ah lian, ex FL that I met.
Bro, not sure if you watched Star Trek before (I suspect we are about the same age). If you did watch before, you probably would remember Spock’s race of Vulcans, known for processing everything with cold logic. Sometimes I wish I could work that way too, so I wouldn’t end up being hurt or hurting others. Alas, we are just vulnerable humans, prone to fucking ourselves up…
Bro, not sure if you watched Star Trek before (I suspect we are about the same age). If you did watch before, you probably would remember Spock’s race of Vulcans, known for processing everything with cold logic. Sometimes I wish I could work that way too, so I wouldn’t end up being hurt or hurting others. Alas, we are just vulnerable humans, prone to fucking ourselves up…
By profession, I dealt with logic everyday. Every cause and effect has to be calculated precisely. Every decision making has to be based on reasons.Yet...
By profession, I dealt with logic everyday. Every cause and effect has to be calculated precisely. Every decision making has to be based on reasons.Yet...
I wish to give you a pat on the back. Really. A virtual pat for now I guess.
I am by nature an emotional person, so I do have to keep forcing myself to think rationally on a consistent basis. I probably have saved myself from the scarring you guys have felt or are feeling, but I think I had hurt genuinely good girls by just running away. Not a good feeling either. The latest conversations in this thread throw me into an emotional whirlpool by retrieving past memories. Oh heart….
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The Best Way to overcome heart break is in the arms of another. You focus on making money, you get girls, you focus on your body, you get sex, you focus on the girl, you get NOTHING but heartache and disappointment
Is it then a case of things are not so painful that you don’t feel compelled to leave? It is a simplistic way of looking at things of course, but when there is no end game and it is so torturous, what are you hanging around for? Hope you will find peace one day man.
I still feel happy from time to time when she gives me attention. Truth be told, I am just lonely(I still have friends and colleagues to talk about stuff, just a different kind of lonely, not sure you can relate), so I crave attention from her.
Paiseh, ya not competition. Just heartache.. she just replied me.. like add 1 or 2 babe inside the conversation. makes my heart flutter.. then same shit happen again.. oh mannnn.
No need to be paiseh bro, just want to let you know you're not alone out there. We all feel the same. This problem may come with different shapes and sizes, but still the same problem nonetheless..
Haha I can relate to that problem. Add babe, I miss you etc. KO d
bro, no need to doubt, they are not so busy with proper things, just too busy to entertain you because they are busy with someone else.
when mine was busy, cannot reply or switch off phone
Last time, this manic gambler in casino. Gamble till collapse then hospital call me. She don't dare tell her family, old mother and son. Sometimes I wonder how come got so much money to gamble so many days. Maybe at casino, she lose all, then she flirt with some man, see got room go and fuck get money and continue.
Joke is I thought she was at work, and I went to all the retail outlets of the company to look for her, then they told me she is not at work, when she told me she is.
Couple of times, don't reply, switch off, don't pick up. Over the years, numerous times New year eve or when she go out with her cheap slut sisters, she snug out, go to disco looking for men, or just going out with other guys. She will pretend to tell me she is at home, sleeping after work, very tired
This year eve, 31th Dec 2023, she went out with some fucker to countdown, so 1130 pretend to say tired after work, go sleep. But together so long, I know her shit pattern, so I call her again, 12am. phone off.
130am then she turned on. Didn't give any reason.
you want to date this kind of woman, you going to get a hell load of pain emotional, financial, plus the KC and sex you love. Don't ever trust, or believe what they say.
Someone will always ask, why you don't leave, I think if your heart allow you to, get out. If cannot, then lan lan.
Don't get me wrong, I have left her many times, she has left me too. But somehow KNN we still end together. thought when she younger, she flirt, now almost 50 will change. Nope, still same old ah lian, ex FL that I met.
bro you have very strong heart and emotion tolerance. Not sure I can tahan like you do.
Well said bro. This is exactly me currently. I feel happy whenever I see her reply my message. I feel even happier when she asks to video call with me (even though it's usually short call).
I feel really bad when she doesn't reply my message, and a lot of times she doesn't reply my enquiry/questions and only reply goodnight end of day, making me feel even worse. I suspect she uses boardcast feature on wechat to send out to a lot of bros at the same time.
Even though I know there's no future, but I can't stop myself keeping in touch with her.
Mine don't use text on WeChat. She can speak Chinese but can't type it so she either use voice or video chat. She don't have many contacts on her mobile. Her regulars are really just those walk-in uncles or aunties who mainly do foot massage.
It is bad, even now I started a new relationship, we still exchange messages. We both understand we can't have a future even while I was single but simply can't forget. I tried not to message her much, but still can't get rid of my habit.
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I wish to give you a pat on the back. Really. A virtual pat for now I guess.
I am by nature an emotional person, so I do have to keep forcing myself to think rationally on a consistent basis. I probably have saved myself from the scarring you guys have felt or are feeling, but I think I had hurt genuinely good girls by just running away. Not a good feeling either. The latest conversations in this thread throw me into an emotional whirlpool by retrieving past memories. Oh heart….
bro.. I am no better than you. I had hurt great girl by chiong-ing.. Small head takes over big head. Now I am lost.. Your post also reminds me of past memories..