Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[jackbl]

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Originally Posted by bonkers69

anh hieu roi , Cam on nguoi ban

[Torres_Mok]

What is the disadvantage of having a viet life-time partner:

1 language barrier?
2 different culture?
3 age gap too wide? (majority of the viet gals married to SG r quite young)
4 mistaken as Working Lady?
5 hv to feed their family members after marriage?
6 cannot fanancial contribute to household? (Most viet gals r not working after married)
7 hatred by SG gal? (quite a number of SG men r marrying viet gals now)
8 difficult in obtaining PR?

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

1 language barrier?
2 different culture?
3 age gap too wide? (majority of the viet gals married to SG r quite young)
4 mistaken as Working Lady?
5 hv to feed their family members after marriage?
6 cannot fanancial contribute to household? (Most viet gals r not working after married)
7 hatred by SG gal? (quite a number of SG men r marrying viet gals now)
8 difficult in obtaining PR?

1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. No
8. No

[dec82]

based on my personal experiences n friends who married vietnam girls.. there r alot of things to take into consideration when u chose to spend the rest of your life with any foreign girl not just viets..

firstly, language is usually a major problem but can be overcome if both parties r willing to learn each other's culture n language.. communication breakdown can cause unnecessary quarrels especially when the girl doesnt fully understand what u r trying to imply or your true intentions..

age gap wise, I don't think its an issue for most viet girls as long as the guy is not as old as their grandpa.. viet girls tend to have a harder than our spoilt spore girls so i feel they wouldnt mind the guy as long as he loves her an d can provide for her..

thirdly, i hate the misperception of sporeans towards viet girls.. not all WL r bad n not all viet girls r WL.. these applies to other foreign girls also.. there is simply just prejudice towards viet girls in sg.. blame it on the media who expliot this fact.. it is deemed by the media that all viet girls come here to work as WL... as there were various reports on telly n in the papers.. totally unfair to them!

once we marry them, we r expected of the basic role of wat a husband would do.. putting bread on the table.. that is to provide for her n her family.. it can b stressful at times knowing that ur meager pay is used to feed not only your wife n kids but also her family back in vietnam.. just hope that the wife will understand it is not that easy supporting her family.. wat is worst is when the whole family stops working n depend only on you to provide financially... u can go crazy man!

y bother wat fellow sg girls think abt u when u marry viet or foreign wife.. most of them r too materialistic, career minded, dun think girls nowadays can take care of the family as well as our moms did (doing housechores would b a torture) etc.. till one day they r left on the shelve like canned food in NTUC then it will b too late to regret...

lastly, from what i know PR can be obtained easily if u have a salary of 2.5k n a HDB flat 3 room or bigger under your name... but i reckon actually it depends on ICA.. All these info r wat i gathered from friends n my personal opinion... hope no one gets offended...

[Torres_Mok]

[QUOTE=dec82;2019063]based on my personal experiences n friends who married vietnam girls..

i somehow agree wif u. up u.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

What is the disadvantage of having a viet life-time partner:

Bro, you tot of so many disadvantage..... than what are the advantages?
Is there any?

[Botarbolampar]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Bro, you tot of so many disadvantage..... than what are the advantages?
Is there any?

hi bro,

i can only think of 1 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

cheers

[SingViet]

[QUOTE=dec82;2019063]based on my personal experiences n friends who married vietnam girls.. there r alot of things to take into consideration when u chose to spend the rest of your life with any foreign girl not just viets../QUOTE]

Bro, i agree with you totally. In every case, there's always two sides of a coin. Nothing is 100% good. If you choose to have singaporean wife, communication and lifestyles may not be much problem, but problems will arise from other areas. The same goes to marrying vietnamese, they may be strong in certain areas, but lacking in others. It will depend on what qualities you want in your future life partner

[SingViet]

From my personal experience and that of my friends with vietnamese spouse, the main complain they have is having to feed their in-laws. Although not all vietnamese in-laws are the same, but the majority are very much in need of money. Having their daughter married to a foreigner, they feel that they have solved their financial problems from then onwards. They will stop working, i mean not just the parents, but other siblings staying with the parents. They will expect the daughter to remit a few hundred USD a month to `help' them. From time to time, they will have extra demands like wanting to buy a `motorbike' or even grandma needs to see doctor.

The educated and non-educated in vietnam see a lot of difference. The educated are more understanding and often stay in the city while the non-educated are directly opposite. But like what were discussed before, they are more ways than one to minimise such extra burden.

[SingViet]

Foreigners to be permitted to buy houses in Vietnam
14:38' 08/05/2007 (GMT+7)
VietNamNet Bridge – The Ministry of Construction has completed a draft scheme on the housing policy for foreigners in Vietnam.

According to this draft, foreigners can buy houses in Vietnam. However, they must be among the following subjects: people who directly invest in Vietnam; those who contribute to the development of Vietnam (receive medals from the Vietnamese government); scientists working in Vietnam; experts and highly-skilled workers working in Vietnam; and those who get married to Vietnamese citizens.

Foreign economic organisations operating in Vietnam can also buy houses for their foreign employees. Foreigners who buy houses in Vietnam must meet the three following conditions as well: living and working in Vietnam; already in Vietnam and allowed to live in Vietnam one year more at least; and buying a house to serve themselves and their families.

Nguyen Manh Ha, Chief of the Ministry of Construction’s Housing Management Agency, said that this policy would be applied first in Hanoi, HCM City and some cities and provinces which have attracted many foreign-invested projects.

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Bro, you tot of so many disadvantage..... than what are the advantages?
Is there any?

The Advantages are:

1. Less arguments becos viet gals not like SG gals who like to fight for their rights.
2. prettier life partner becos viet gals r prettier than SG gals (No prejudice against them).
3. less demanding.
4. more royality as i believe SG gals hv tendancy to hv affairs outside.
5. viet gals unaware of women chattered association.
6. treasure SG man more.
7. easier to please than SG gals.
8. easier to woo.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

The Advantages are:

1. Less arguments becos viet gals not like SG gals who like to fight for their rights.
2. prettier life partner becos viet gals r prettier than SG gals (No prejudice against them).
3. less demanding.
4. more royality as i believe SG gals hv tendancy to hv affairs outside.
5. viet gals unaware of women chattered association.
6. treasure SG man more.
7. easier to please than SG gals.
8. easier to woo.

1. less arguement not because they don't fight for their rights. but because language barrier means talk less means less arguement.

2. Not all viet are pretty, and not all SG gals are ugly. My viet gf is not pretty or sexy at all.

3. less demanding in terms life style. They dun need to dine at posh resturant, they dun need big cars and houses... simple food and shelter is good enuff. As for cash, alot bro here feel that viet partner need alot cash for her family.

4. yes.. % of royal viet gals are more the % of royal sg gal. SG gals having affair?... i feel is that SG man have more tendacy to have affair.

5. if they stay in modern city like sg long enuff... they will know.

6. true.... any will treat man well. SG gals only want man to treat them like a queen.

7. try harder if you did something really wrong

8. because $$ and can get away from poverty in vn.

But i still like viet gal...esp my viet gf mainly because of reason 6

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

The same goes to marrying vietnamese, they may be strong in certain areas, but lacking in others. It will depend on what qualities you want in your future life partner

IMHO, most guys looks for viet partner because they would make u king/man of the house. They are just like the sg gals of the past (parents era)... traditional in their thinking.

example:
When we guys finish work and call our partner... 'Hello, where are you? dinner ready?'

SG gal of modern era: ' I am shopping in orhcard. Come and fetch me and we go dinner in xxx resturant. I buy many things and need you to carry for me.'

Viet gal: 'i am at home. dinner is ready for you. you are tired after work, so come back and i massage for you.'

Why marriage of our parents last for so many years and in modern time, so many divorce cases... i feel this is the main reason. Sg gals treat us men like slave, so when we finish work, we would rather go look for good companion than going home or calling our sg partner.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Why marriage of our parents last for so many years and in modern time, so many divorce cases... i feel this is the main reason. Sg gals treat us men like slave, so when we finish work, we would rather go look for good companion than going home or calling our sg partner.

Bro, this i agree totally with you. Viet gals are more traditional in their thinking and believe that treating husband well is part of their duty as a wife. Viet gals understand that its not easy for the man to earn money outside, so they have to treat their man well. So its 2 way traffic. As for singapore gals, they believe that they are contributing to the family too and thus they need not treat man well. Sg gals believe that it should be the man treating them well. If you have some disagreement with a viet lover, the tendency of them arguing all the way is low. They may argue for a short while but will keep quiet. Singapore gals are totally different, they will argue all the way thru till you apologise to them.

[Torres_Mok]

But i still like viet gal...esp my viet gf mainly because of reason 6[/QUOTE]

Having a viet partner hv its advantages and disadvantages, after comparing the adv and disadv, i still prefer viet life parnter.