Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 854

SingViet · #**12796** 05-02-2012, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by deptrai4u

The BIGGEST failure of a typical Vietnamese person is their Lack of Intelligence and their failure to ADMIT it. And it will show up as UN-NEGOTIABLE attitude.

Your one sentence sums up everything...

KangTuo · #**12797** 05-02-2012, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by deptrai4u

The BIGGEST failure of a typical Vietnamese person is their Lack of Intelligence and their failure to ADMIT it. And it will show up as UN-NEGOTIABLE attitude.

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Your one sentence sums up everything...

but if you met an untypical Vietnamese person who ADMIT thier lack of intelligence and has a NEGOTIABLE attitude, you must grab her and not let go

lucky my girfriend is an untypical Vietnamese girl

SingViet · #**12798** 05-02-2012, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by KangTuo

but if you met an untypical Vietnamese person who ADMIT thier lack of intelligence and has a NEGOTIABLE attitude, you must grab her and not let go

lucky my girfriend is an untypical Vietnamese girl

Not yet marry and stay together for long time, don't be so sure yet......

Golden question · #**12799** 05-02-2012, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Not yet marry and stay together for long time, don't be so sure yet......

haha,marry stay together and single stay seperatley is not the same same roi,everything become patient,close one eye,understanding and communication liao after stay together

Golden question · #**12800** 05-02-2012, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Golden question

haha,marry stay together and single stay seperatley is not the same same roi,everything become patient,close one eye,understanding and communication liao after stay together

even the smallest thing like who suppose to sweep the floor can also become a big quarrel

Golden question · #**12801** 05-02-2012, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by deptrai4u

The BIGGEST failure of a typical Vietnamese person is their Lack of Intelligence and their failure to ADMIT it. And it will show up as UN-NEGOTIABLE attitude.

sometime must really let them 'bit the bullet' then they know or learn not to be so stubborn next time and listen to reason.They are so stubborn until they say u are wrong and against them.I use to let my wife 'bite the bullets' until she now learn not to be so stubborn when doing things.As long as i know the outcome is manageable for me,i let her bite,the most i vomit blood only

KangTuo · #**12802** 05-02-2012, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Not yet marry and stay together for long time, don't be so sure yet......

understand her character... so she no problem
problem is my character...

SingViet · #**12803** 05-02-2012, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by KangTuo

understand her character... so she no problem
problem is my character...

Then i will encourage you to quit the habit and stay faithful to her. Its better to have a happy family than to have fun outside.

Hurricane88 · #**12804** 05-02-2012, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Then i will encourage you to quit the habit and stay faithful to her. Its better to have a happy family than to have fun outside.

haha...tough tough for KT to remain faithful...his loves for VBs is insatiable-addiction appetitie...

jackbl · #**12805** 05-02-2012, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by KangTuo

lucky my girfriend is an untypical Vietnamese girl

Everyone will say his wife is the best and different from other's wife

shysaint · #**12806** 05-02-2012, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

I think bros who have viet spouse should have experience this before, or still experiencing it till now. I think i have also discussed it many times in this thread. Unless your viet spouse is highly educated, or else their knowledge is seriously lacking and we have to keep my stance clear and strong.

My wife likes to watch TV drama series. When i first married her and was staying in VN, she will spend a lot of time on TV. One drama series after another, non stop. When it comes to news, she will shut the TV down. No interest in current affairs at all. The mind is always on TV, TV and TV. We employed her relatives as maids for our house, they will always `stop working' when its time for drama series. The next time is they will turn on the TV volume to damm loud, as if they are deaf. I always have to tell them to lower the volume as i need to do something and needs concentration. Things didn't start to become better when we moved back to Singapore. She's still always on TV. Until my daughters started P1, i restricted them to watching TV only for 1 hour a day. This makes my wife mad as she also cannot watch TV as it will distract my kids from revising their school work. I have to explain to my wife that Singapore is very much unlike Vietnam province where education is not important. Kids education is very impt in Singapore. Now at P2, my kids watch little TV and my wife is also used to it. Nowadays, i asked her to log on the internet to read online newspaper from Vietnam. She understands more.

When you ask a vietnam province gal what business to do? they will tell you cafe or small karaoke. because of their lack of education, they can only do this. When i started my Education Consultancy business in VN in 2003, i remember my wife have no idea on how to explain to customers at all. I have to employ 2 to 3 other educated staffs to do the work. I could sense from the customers comments on how they rate a person who hasn't had much education , its from the way they speak. Then in 2010, my wife wanted to start cafe again. I was actually quite against the idea. But my wife insisted. Then in a mere 6 months, we lost $50k. 3 years ago, i went to view condos with my wife. After viewing many, she insisted on a unit. I told her that unit is not good as its next to the lift and the sound from the lift will affect the apt. Also do not want to listen. We sold the apt just a couple of months ago at a price that is around 20% lower than other apts from the same block. The reason most buyers cited is the close proximity of the apt to the lift. I was pissed and keep nagging at my wife. She just kept quiet.

It took me many years to educate my wife. She learns really slowly, but at least, now she learnt a lot. The typical vietnamese gal without much education can be very stubborn, but as their husband, we need patience to talk to them.

So if you think certain thing is correct, insist on your opinion. They seriously have knowledge that is tilted and unpolished. I told my wife just a few months ago that i will make major decision when it comes to buying big items like house, car and business. She says `ok' as she knows she already flush much of my money down the vietnam `kampong' drain roi.

To sum up ...

Great write-up .. cannot don't agree more ...

LIke I always said ...

Time ... Patience .... Communications ... Perserverance ... Willingness ...

Every household have its own prayers ...

Sootbird · #**12807** 05-02-2012, 11:46 PM

mine is keep thinking n thinking.. told her reservist she say i go malaysia.. told her i at home she say i outside. when she miss call me 2 times she will turn angry and start her nonsence again. when i busy with work and never call her she will say i don miss her.. aiyo i really donno how to deal with her sia. make me so stress of being with her.

rudolf · #**12808** 06-02-2012, 02:35 AM

simplify to sums up their knowledge towards life is they hardly trust anyone not just husband. even their family or relatives sometime.

Bro sootbird, your this experience I believe all bro whom have vn bx sure have gone through this stage.

Don ever ever argue back or lose your head as you will turn a bird to become a super angry bird... trust me... Just explain & explain & joke around abit...the situation will be reverse..