Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Honey Boon]

two hokkien words for him if he can understand : Kiam Kan

Originally Posted by shysaint

I dare to challenge all the BROs here ... your posting will receive many negative feedback ... reason ??? it's not for me to comment .... you find out soon ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Giving parents money wasn't just Vietnamese gals way of showing filial duty to their parents. I knew many youngters here giving monthly allowance to their parents and if you have not done so, May i remind you of the is a Maintenance of Parents Act.

While there was no such a law in Vietnam that requires Viet gals to do so, they did it for the following reasons:

1) Vietnamese women have higher traditional asian standard of filial piety and family bonding.
yes, you are right to say that giving monthly allowances to parents is a part of filial piety. but excessive giving in to the parent's demands and feeding lazy siblings is surely not an asian culture.

2) They often feel insecured living in the foreign land without family members and friends around who can help them when in need and they need to build the bridge back to their Vietnam family just in case.
so how do you explain the annual 8 billion USD of remittance by overseas vietnamese to vietnam? they remitted so much because they feel super insecure overseas? if you do have experience, their family members will only help when you have money, when you're down n out n back in vn, no one wants you too. bridges built will be broken and crash


You should encourage your partner to do this but within your mean and tell your kids about that, this is not only for your partner own good but it will benefit yourself when you get old in the later stage of life and expect some "Filial Duty" from your children.

we all do explain to our viet partners about doing it within our means. but the family members back in vn does not understand. they think overseas means $$$

You should spend less time here TCSS and more with your life partners, love here, try to understand her, make her feel less "insecured", make your mother, father, your sisters, brothers to accept her as part of your extended family.

my wife is well accepted by my family members. does it bother you that i TCSS here? for all i know, i spend good quality time with my spouse n kids.

well said ....

[shysaint]

BROs ...

Now in airport waiting for 1320 flight to HCMC ... wife in labour , rushing to HCMC now ...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by shysaint

BROs ...

Now in airport waiting for 1320 flight to HCMC ... wife in labour , rushing to HCMC now ...

good luck bro. congrats on the arrival of your bundle of joy.

[Honey Boon]

Congra... happy happy rabbit baby

Originally Posted by shysaint

BROs ...

Now in airport waiting for 1320 flight to HCMC ... wife in labour , rushing to HCMC now ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

Congra... happy happy rabbit baby

Originally Posted by SingViet

good luck bro. congrats on the arrival of your bundle of joy.

Thanks for your well wishes

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

Congra... happy happy rabbit baby

rabbit or cat? May I know baby follows father or mother's surname ? I heard in VN, baby girl can follow mother's surname, is it true ?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Seletar

rabbit or cat? May I know baby follows father or mother's surname ? I heard in VN, baby girl can follow mother's surname, is it true ?

Follow mother's surname if father and mother not officially married. Birth cert of the kid will omit father's name. If parents are officially married, then will follow father's surname.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Seletar

rabbit or cat? May I know baby follows father or mother's surname ? I heard in VN, baby girl can follow mother's surname, is it true ?

In Vn is Cat .....

My junior was born today evening ....

Now back home after a tiring day at the hospital ...

One word comment on the hospital ... EXCELLENT !!!!!

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by shysaint

My junior was born today evening ....

One word comment on the hospital ... EXCELLENT !!!!!

Congrats again...cigars all around...your son born on lunar chu 7 - ren ren sheng re...everybody birthday in Tan Mao 2011...solar calendar is 10 Feb 2011...

[Honey Boon]

welcome to the club ..............

Originally Posted by shysaint

In Vn is Cat .....

My junior was born today evening ....

Now back home after a tiring day at the hospital ...

One word comment on the hospital ... EXCELLENT !!!!!

[VietnamLover]

Originally Posted by shysaint

My junior was born today evening ....

Now back home after a tiring day at the hospital ...

One word comment on the hospital ... EXCELLENT !!!!!

Congratulations to your new born baby! Which hospital is it?

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by VietnamLover

Congratulations to your new born baby! Which hospital is it?

Thnaks Bro

Hanh Phuc Children & Women Hospital (Managed by Singapore Thomson Medical Centre)

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Congrats again...cigars all around...your son born on lunar chu 7 - ren ren sheng re...everybody birthday in Tan Mao 2011...solar calendar is 10 Feb 2011...

Thanks Bro Hurricane

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by shysaint

My junior was born today evening ....
Now back home after a tiring day at the hospital ...
One word comment on the hospital ... EXCELLENT !!!!!

Congratulations to you.