Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by cashier

Please trust bro Singviet more. He always give more prudent advice with especially with matters concernibg the wallets

Thanks bro. But i do see the point in Bro Sha Gua's arguments too. No matter what, we share our views and experiences. The final decision will be taken by Bro KT.

[haojian]

Got married this year to a vietnamese. now shes pregnant, expecting our baby next year. her mum will be coming over to look after for her 1st month.
she have a friend that brought her mum-in-law to stay and look after his baby of 3 months old, while his wife goes to work.

now she asking me to do the same for her mum
she wants to work so that she can send money home to fix the house, and to buy land for her parents. after that she can take it easy as she don't have to worry about her parents livelihood.

currently i am sending some money to her parents to help them once every few months.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by haojian

Got married this year to a vietnamese. now shes pregnant, expecting our baby next year. her mum will be coming over to look after for her 1st month.
she have a friend that brought her mum-in-law to stay and look after his baby of 3 months old, while his wife goes to work.

now she asking me to do the same for her mum
she wants to work so that she can send money home to fix the house, and to buy land for her parents. after that she can take it easy as she don't have to worry about her parents livelihood.

currently i am sending some money to her parents to help them once every few months.

i think your wife is more concerned about her parents than you and the baby. You have to do lots of explanation and brain washing. May take quite a long time but do start soon

[sevenhabits]

Originally Posted by haojian

Got married this year to a vietnamese. now shes pregnant, expecting our baby next year. her mum will be coming over to look after for her 1st month.
she have a friend that brought her mum-in-law to stay and look after his baby of 3 months old, while his wife goes to work.

now she asking me to do the same for her mum
she wants to work so that she can send money home to fix the house, and to buy land for her parents. after that she can take it easy as she don't have to worry about her parents livelihood.

currently i am sending some money to her parents to help them once every few months.

My own experience is, you have to read your wife's character. Is she the type who is grateful, or ungrateful?

If she is grateful, go for it - help her. You'll never know, the good things will come when it is your turn in need.

And being in marriage means togetherness, isn't it. Her parents are also your parents. If you adopt that attitude, your in-laws will love you and your marriage will be on even more solid grounds.

Trust me - I always tell my V wife we put her parents' interest on par with the interests of my parents. Equal. She is convinced and we'll last together.

[slk_angelz]

I have a bit of problem here .. I dont really understand Vietnam girls tat well .. I recently had a relationship with a Viet .. She started out to be very nice .. But after she get to know another man who feed her drugs everytime they meet, she seems to be more hot-tempered and says she feels happy when with him .. When I quarrel with her over this, she totally ignore me and changed her contact .. Now i cant find her at all and I am worried .. Is Vietnam girls like this ?? Well .. Actually she is here in Singapore to work in KTV .. Maybe a lot of bros will say Viet gers who come Singapore to work in KTV are mostly after money .. But this girl reject me whenever I tried to give her money .. I really dont understand .. But because of her, I now feel I really would like to be together with a Viet wife, best will be her as my feelings is very strong for her .. Now what I need to know is more about how Vietnamese girls think .. Why she can email me to assure me that she love me truly n I am forever in her heart, but there she change her contact n go with another man and leave me to feel sad over here ?? Is all of them like this ?? Being too nice to them is no good ?? I need some advice on this .. Thanks !!

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by slk_angelz

I have a bit of problem here .. I dont really understand Vietnam girls tat well .. I recently had a relationship with a Viet .. She started out to be very nice .. But after she get to know another man who feed her drugs everytime they meet, she seems to be more hot-tempered and says she feels happy when with him .. When I quarrel with her over this, she totally ignore me and changed her contact .. Now i cant find her at all and I am worried .. Is Vietnam girls like this ?? Well .. Actually she is here in Singapore to work in KTV .. Maybe a lot of bros will say Viet gers who come Singapore to work in KTV are mostly after money .. But this girl reject me whenever I tried to give her money .. I really dont understand .. But because of her, I now feel I really would like to be together with a Viet wife, best will be her as my feelings is very strong for her .. Now what I need to know is more about how Vietnamese girls think .. Why she can email me to assure me that she love me truly n I am forever in her heart, but there she change her contact n go with another man and leave me to feel sad over here ?? Is all of them like this ?? Being too nice to them is no good ?? I need some advice on this .. Thanks !!

This is part of their kc game. Since you had not suffered financially might as well move on to new targets. If you want to marry viet then find those non WL. Read this thread thoroughly. There are enough examples in this thread.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by sevenhabits

My own experience is, you have to read your wife's character. Is she the type who is grateful, or ungrateful?

If she is grateful, go for it - help her. You'll never know, the good things will come when it is your turn in need.

And being in marriage means togetherness, isn't it. Her parents are also your parents. If you adopt that attitude, your in-laws will love you and your marriage will be on even more solid grounds.

Trust me - I always tell my V wife we put her parents' interest on par with the interests of my parents. Equal. She is convinced and we'll last together.

Different people has different ways of doing things. My own experience being if you treat your in laws too well, they will treat you like ATM machine. But maybe you are different

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by sevenhabits

Trust me - I always tell my V wife we put her parents' interest on par with the interests of my parents. Equal. She is convinced and we'll last together.

You are going to be your in-law ATM soon if you are not careful. Let's see how often you can say yes.

I concur with Bro SingViet, always say no to the in-laws. Just give them token for festivals such as CNY, etc.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by SureScore

You are going to be your in-law ATM soon if you are not careful. Let's see how often you can say yes.

I concur with Bro SingViet, always say no to the in-laws. Just give them token for festivals such as CNY, etc.

Yes, u are right. Its not that we do not wish to place the in-laws to be on par as our parents, but its just that the lower class vietnamese always think that foreigners have a lot of money as money `fall from the skies' in the foreigner's home country. Asking the son-in-law to built new houses, buy new bikes etc are just too common. Then the `what-so-ever relative will be sick' and this and that, how much they can take from the foreigner SON-IN-LAW ATM, they will take.

My way of showing respect is to give token sums of money each year, for example, during TET, Moon Cake Festival and also some months when i feel like giving. Each time, i give around S$100, unless got special occasion like my brother-in-law's wedding when i give 4 million VND as a special ang pao.

[Shoot To Target]

Things r always taken for granted if u always say the magic words YES.

[mao86]

hey guys got a very big problem... now i fall in love with a viet gurl and its like she becums part of my life.I am thinking of marrying her but the problem is she is older than me.. and i am scare that later she alibaba mi.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by mao86

hey guys got a very big problem... now i fall in love with a viet gurl and its like she becums part of my life.I am thinking of marrying her but the problem is she is older than me.. and i am scare that later she alibaba mi.

You better have the means to support her if you want to marry her. If you are borned in the year of 1986, i do not think you know the responsibilities that come with marriage at the tender age of 23. Reconsider many many times before you tie the knot. Don't let the viet gal alibaba you to get long term stay here .

[cashier]

i agree with bro singviet n surescore. it takes time to know another person. Just ask urself, u everyday working with your colleagues. more time with them than others, but do u know them well enough?

U know the person u also dun noe their heart. vietnamese are 2nd the china woman on mind and penis game...

trust the wise word of the bro here n you wont go wrong..

[mao86]

well i myself also dunoe wt i am doing man so young n i fall in love wif a gurl older than me.. she treat mi damm nice lah but tings usually changes once u get married rite.. i really love her so much that every nite we tok on phone for 2 hrs. Just to check with u all so after marriage do u all regret ? and after hw long in sg can they get out PR. I tink i am the youngest here falling in love wif a vietnamese which i shouldnt be doing so... my parents noe roughly abt it and hard to make choice. Even like i am in spore but rite now my heart is wif her in viet.. i also canot explain y. It seems like i miss vietnam alot also and u nnoe that i even like bought ticket to go back 1day, travelling alone and after tat i flew back to sg.. wonder if my previous life is a vietnamese. I think i am having sum sort of addiction travelling to viet. well i tink in this forum i must call all of u older brother rite cos i am only 23.. wahhaa..

[Shoot To Target]

Puppy love huh? I think u better think twice b4 commit. ROM door is always open 4 u but ICA door is made steel. Mayb u should go vietnam to c c look look 4 much more better choice.

Is not a trend to marry a vn gal but is a trend to suffer after married.