Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by leo_ng77

i also know my viet gf for a month and she wants to meet my mum...sometime i really dunn know how true is it....and whether they are true about you...it is very hard to determine and all depends on the gals.

Anyway, my gal already 29 and eager to get married.....hmm....but I still yet to know her enough...any advise??? Im thinking of stopping this relationship...before it goes too deep...

I met my gf's parents after knowing her for about a year. Spend more time knowing your girl if you are serious about her. Perhaps,you love her out of a crush for 1 month. So giving up may be a better option.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Niaoren

Oic! too costly leh. Any cheaper means?

It is just 1 price for your happiness.... If u r cheap, then live with it. Will u be happy? If u can't afford then live life as it is... or try other means.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Niaoren

I do have a viet gf in tay ninh. Am still trying to find out/test if she really loves me. She brought me to see her parents and wanted me to marry her. But I told her to wait for 3 years. Marriage is not a game. So being cautious is better. I am looking forward to see her in viet in Sep.

Any advice for me to find out if she is true?

Viet gals do have good virtues that we cannot find in Singapore gals. I have personally experienced these virtues for the past many years

Its very common for viet gals to bring their foreigner bf to see their parents, so this meeting parent part is very common.

Most viet gals will want to get married to their foreigner bf asap, so asking her to wait for 3 years may be a bit too long for her. But its also a good way to test if she is willing to commit to this relationship w/o marriage for the next few years. Marrying and divorcing, to vietnamese, are nothing. Its just a process of signing papers.

Like what some brothers say, test her with money. For a month or two, tell her u are very tight and has no money to send to her. See what's her response.

No matter what, just be cautious and have a clear mind.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Niaoren

My gf used to work in Sg pubs and ktvs before. When I first got to know her at a pub a year ago, she was not a happening girl. I went out with her a few times and wanted to kiss her but she refused. I find her a smart girl and hard to get type.

I have bad experiences with viet girls before. Many tell lies. That's why seeking advice here from those who have viet wives.

Hope my story is detailed enough now.

If that's how you met her then all the more you need to be very cautious...since her family is quite well to do then why did she went out to work as a WL...did she sleep with her client?...do you know if she still contacts her previous clients?...did you know what she do when you are not with her?...how often you visit her in Vn?...I think you need to have all the answers before you can even trust her and talk about marriage...

Besides all the good things about Vn lady virtues you still have to worry about the above...dun think you knew her well enough yet...

[strikeking]

Originally Posted by Niaoren

I met my gf's parents after knowing her for about a year. Spend more time knowing your girl if you are serious about her. Perhaps,you love her out of a crush for 1 month. So giving up may be a better option.

niaoren, wake up, all vb the same, they want yr $, no pt talking abt marriage.

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by strikeking

niaoren, wake up, all vb the same, they want yr $, no pt talking abt marriage.

Haha! You're BROKE!!!!

[CuteBuns]

Originally Posted by strikeking

niaoren, wake up, all vb the same, they want yr $, no pt talking abt marriage.

How many people you know dont marry for economic advancement? Singapore gals also the same, think they wanna marry u if you earn much less than them?

Give me a few million US$ I also marry any girl of any nationality/religion. Cut foreskin and change name also can (if muslim)

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by strikeking

niaoren, wake up, all vb the same, they want yr $, no pt talking abt marriage.

You got a lot of money for vb to take?

[strikeking]

bros, me juz give warning to niaoren lah, coz he is 1 of my disciples in cheonging. I do nt want to see him sink deeper n deeper.....

[jackbl]

I agreed with u...

If the position changed, do u wan to marry a sporean who can't feed himself well?

Originally Posted by CuteBuns

How many people you know dont marry for economic advancement? Singapore gals also the same, think they wanna marry u if you earn much less than them?

Give me a few million US$ I also marry any girl of any nationality/religion. Cut foreskin and change name also can (if muslim)

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

If that's how you met her then all the more you need to be very cautious...since her family is quite well to do then why did she went out to work as a WL...did she sleep with her client?...do you know if she still contacts her previous clients?...did you know what she do when you are not with her?...how often you visit her in Vn?...I think you need to have all the answers before you can even trust her and talk about marriage...

Besides all the good things about Vn lady virtues you still have to worry about the above...dun think you knew her well enough yet...

I agree with your comments. Anyway, I am not in the rush to get married. Still happy being single and anytime, anyhow and anywhere. I just find her a good companion to be with when I visit vietnam. Her parents are not rich but her grandfather is rich. Most of her aunts migrated to USA. So I suppose she work in sg to help her parents. Not sure if she slept with her client before. I have not bedded her anyway. Haha! So for me to find out soon.

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Viet gals do have good virtues that we cannot find in Singapore gals. I have personally experienced these virtues for the past many years

Its very common for viet gals to bring their foreigner bf to see their parents, so this meeting parent part is very common.

Most viet gals will want to get married to their foreigner bf asap, so asking her to wait for 3 years may be a bit too long for her. But its also a good way to test if she is willing to commit to this relationship w/o marriage for the next few years. Marrying and divorcing, to vietnamese, are nothing. Its just a process of signing papers.

Like what some brothers say, test her with money. For a month or two, tell her u are very tight and has no money to send to her. See what's her response.

No matter what, just be cautious and have a clear mind.

Thanks for your sound advice. I have tested her a few times say I am tight and have no money. She did not pressure me to give her at all. I only sent her money $200 once for the past 1 year I knew her. Anyway, I will still be cautious and will not be carried away. As I am single and cho bo, going vietnam to see her is a good way to cure my time. Always pubbing also boring. Lost confidence in Singapore girls. haha!

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by strikeking

niaoren, wake up, all vb the same, they want yr $, no pt talking abt marriage.

I know la. If one day I really get married with her, can you be my best man? I will find a pretty vietnames to partner you hor...hehehe. It is thrilling to go vietnam see my lxh-gf. Anytime, anyhow and anywhere. Pay a bit of $ is worth! Else life is boring for single men like myself.

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by CuteBuns

How many people you know dont marry for economic advancement? Singapore gals also the same, think they wanna marry u if you earn much less than them?

Give me a few million US$ I also marry any girl of any nationality/religion. Cut foreskin and change name also can (if muslim)

Wow! you hit the nail mann. In this world, no money no talk. Nationality does not matter at all.

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by casannova03

Haha! You're BROKE!!!!

Your viet love story is very interesting! Keep it going...