Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 364

Honey Boon · #**5446** 20-04-2009, 11:57 AM

not easy to change their mindset, but still must "force" her to be selfish.... if really cannot tahan liao, force her to choose between you or her family. the most, only take care her own parents, other "attached" members of the family, ask them go fly kites.

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Originally Posted by David_Villa

I shall say it is not easy to change their mindset, and it also takes time. Alot of viet-sing marriage can't work up is becos these $$$ problems from their family members. 99% Viet gals always placed their family members as top priorites, and husband is only secondary.

Honey Boon · #**5447** 20-04-2009, 12:03 PM

i am sure you know how to make them "suong" nhieu nhieu ....

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Originally Posted by KangTuo

The difficult part I am facing now is to ask them to let me go...

I told the my whole forest (except 1) that i have a girlfriend in VN and planning for married. I told them I am a flirt and have many gals. I told them not to contact me anymore... but than still a few say its ok, they still like to continue seeing me. Big headache in future...

jackbl · #**5448** 20-04-2009, 12:21 PM

Not just physically, also mentally and ...... He's good at that... He can be Teacher of many when come to viet gals

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Originally Posted by Honey Boon

i am sure you know how to make them "suong" nhieu nhieu ....

Honey Boon · #**5449** 20-04-2009, 12:37 PM

i think because he can speak vietnamese well, so the girls feel at home with him ....

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Originally Posted by jackbl

Not just physically, also mentally and ...... He's good at that... He can be Teacher of many when come to viet gals

Hurricane88 · #**5450** 20-04-2009, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, this is the key point. If she feels frustrated that she is being made used by her family to make money and that her parents don't sayang her, then she will be a good wife after marriage. When my wife married me, this was how she felt. Even till now, my wife feels that her mum only wants money from her and doesn't sayang her. If yr gal feels that way, she will place u and yr family above hers and it will be a good thing.

hahaha...sounds familiar...alot of daughters were neglected since young...favoritism happening all the time...bias towards one daughter to the others...these gals lived with depression...thinking to escape their family all the time...thinking of marrying foreigner...

SingViet · #**5451** 20-04-2009, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Honey Boon

.... if really cannot tahan liao, force her to choose between you or her family.

Bro, u still have to learn a lot about vietnamese as spouse leh

u ask yr gal to choose between u and her family, she will ask u to FXXK OFF. she will surely choose her family. How i know this? from real life experience... hahahha... BIG MISTAKE... marriage almost ended but thank god, i managed to save it.

Hurricane88 · #**5452** 20-04-2009, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, u still have to learn a lot about vietnamese as spouse leh

u ask yr gal to choose between u and her family, she will ask u to FXXK OFF. she will surely choose her family. How i know this? from real life experience... hahahha... BIG MISTAKE... marriage almost ended but thank god, i managed to save it.

ya...fail big time...never ask the gal to choose between family and you...bound to fail...even those gals who had been neglected since young will tend to choose family over you until you had married the gal for some years....

NewandLost · #**5453** 20-04-2009, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

ya...fail big time...never ask the gal to choose between family and you...bound to fail...even those gals who had been neglected since young will tend to choose family over you until you had married the gal for some years....

could also be the neglected girl will use your $$$ to regain status within the family so she will want to cave into family pressure for $$$$. you are between a rock and a hard place.

Hanoi-Kid · #**5454** 20-04-2009, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, u still have to learn a lot about vietnamese as spouse leh

u ask yr gal to choose between u and her family, she will ask u to FXXK OFF. she will surely choose her family. How i know this? from real life experience... hahahha... BIG MISTAKE... marriage almost ended but thank god, i managed to save it.

Dear Bro,

I did ask the few gals I dated about who she will put 1st, the BF/Husband or her family..and the answer was BF....but I guess its still the 'honey moon' period and at this stage,,gals all want to say stuff guys want to hear,,,but if she say it,,means u can always remind her of what she says right?

NewandLost · #**5455** 20-04-2009, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Hanoi-Kid

Dear Bro,

I did ask the few gals I dated about who she will put 1st, the BF/Husband or her family..and the answer was BF....but I guess its still the 'honey moon' period and at this stage,,gals all want to say stuff guys want to hear,,,but if she say it,,means u can always remind her of what she says right?

shes making a sale so what do you expect her to say. look for actions not words.

ekemono · #**5456** 20-04-2009, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

ya...fail big time...never ask the gal to choose between family and you...bound to fail...even those gals who had been neglected since young will tend to choose family over you until you had married the gal for some years....

Agreed with you on this bro.
Some of you who are going to or am just newly wed; please dun expect your lovey dovey wife to be 100% for you only. Their family will always comes first no matter what shit she told you from day one how they mistreated her.

Therefore, learn to manage your expectation first, then when you mastered it then manage her expectation. It will take years....

NewandLost · #**5457** 20-04-2009, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ekemono

Agreed with you on this bro.
Some of you who are going to or am just newly wed; please dun expect your lovey dovey wife to be 100% for you only. Their family will always comes first no matter what shit she told you from day one how they mistreated her.

Therefore, learn to manage your expectation first, then when you mastered it then manage her expectation. It will take years....

whats te point in gettting married to her then?

RUNROAD · #**5458** 20-04-2009, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ekemono

Agreed with you on this bro.
Some of you who are going to or am just newly wed; please dun expect your lovey dovey wife to be 100% for you only. Their family will always comes first no matter what shit she told you from day one how they mistreated her.

Therefore, learn to manage your expectation first, then when you mastered it then manage her expectation. It will take years....

u r right bro.

i came to realised that most girls who grew up in poorer families tend to appreciate and love their families much more. likely reasons could be during their growing up process..they had witnessed all the hardships their parents and family members had to endure and the amount of sacrifices they had made in order to bring home their bread. some got to work their socks off for the sake of paying for their children education expenses..the wonder of parental love.

which is why i agree that to these girls, family ties rank top priority..and they are equally willing to sacrifice themselves in times of needs for their families.

NewandLost · #**5459** 21-04-2009, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by RUNROAD

u r right bro.

i came to realised that most girls who grew up in poorer families tend to appreciate and love their families much more. likely reasons could be during their growing up process..they had witnessed all the hardships their parents and family members had to endure and the amount of sacrifices they had made in order to bring home their bread. some got to work their socks off for the sake of paying for their children education expenses..the wonder of parental love.

which is why i agree that to these girls, family ties rank top priority..and they are equally willing to sacrifice themselves in times of needs for their families.

so that justifies bankrupting some Singaporean or non PRC, destroying their marragie, spreading STDS, and maybe even driving someone else to suidice? You guys say it takes 2 hands to clap but doe they not have a consience on the detrimental effects to the other party? I mean even if the PRC knows the effects are not good seems to me should just take a measured damage approach rather than omploding someone's life?

Jonas21 · #**5460** 21-04-2009, 03:53 AM

Hi Bros anybody out here can translate the below vietnam sentance for me?

"neu y em that long thi hay lo cho e va gap gia dinh e. neu that long thi e cung that long den voi a"

Could not translate it using online translator, any Bros here know of any web page that can help to translate?