Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by chris8080

we cant get angry towards them and they will get angry when u did some things wrong

Sometimes in a relationship, a gal knows she has the upper hand when they understood that using either sex, intimacy or tender-loving-care as bargaining power were effective to get what they want.

OR..

in another way that the Hokkiens says it:

"Endure anger, beg for luck. Endure lady, beg for pussy"

paiseh i am chinese illiterate

[Leeson]

Originally Posted by ekemono

Up to date, we are registering our ROM on January 2009. And because of the longer booking date, she has to go back and come again. She is currently at HCM for a few days with her gf whom I have spoke to you about. Nice gal, soft-spoken, and minimum family problems

best wishes to you in advance! i'm so envious heheh..

Originally Posted by chris8080

oic thx bro eke for the information u so early login liao hor ..... but there's still some others problem like what bros say b4 le .... they gets angry very easy too as what u told me that time when we met at gl , we cant get angry towards them and they will get angry when u did some things wrong

why cannot get angry with them leh? try getting angry at them getting angry at you!

[Honey Boon]

bro, how much is this BESTA pocket device?

Originally Posted by ekemono

Hi bro,
you mean you are having communication problems with her as in language barrier? If so then maybe you need a translation machine like those BESTA pocket device. I saw one (not BESTA brand) at Sim Lim Square that can translate Viet to English and vice versa. The shop is at 5th floor named Bell, near the escalator. Just avoid too much eye contact with the PRC gal that promotes it cos you may end up trying to buy her dinner instead

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by Leeson

best wishes to you in advance! i'm so envious heheh.

Thanks bro Leeson. Appreciate your good wishes

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

bro, how much is this BESTA pocket device?

bro, its not under BESTA brand.
I just contacted the shop, they have move the display counter to #05-51 Sim Lim Square. The quoted price is $199/-
Pls go the next day onwards

[Honey Boon]

Originally Posted by ekemono

Thanks bro Leeson. Appreciate your good wishes



bro, its not under BESTA brand.
I just contacted the shop, they have move the display counter to #05-51 Sim Lim Square. The quoted price is $199/-
Pls go the next day onwards

Bro, do u have their contact number? Thanks in advance.

[chanyboy]

Originally Posted by David_Villa

Finally u appear!

hi..yea, it's been a while. Hibernating myself to overcome personal problems & tackling workload.. Haiz.. (nothing to do with the current financial thing though..)

Anyway, I still keep up-to-date on the bros' entries here.. When the mind is freer, just post an opinion or two..

[hjy_19]

hi everybody !!

just come back from vietnam last week,totally different from singapore.Went my gf hometown took 6hrs to reach angiang Long Xuyên City. thought can take bus there in the end took taxi waste $160 damn the most expensive taxi i ever took.at 1st thought of rom with her so just go c c look look c hw 1st whether she got blur me?
1 day reach there just hang around, 2 day her parent took me go seaside thought 1 hr can reach who kw early in the morning 4plus need wake up liao travel on motorcycle until afternoon still havent reach sit until bottom pain lucky i switch with my gf wait she ride later i ride reach there halfway go drink coffee then find out we r on the wrong track had to travel back to another way around 3plus then arrive swim 4 a while then went back wat the hell travel so far swim a while need continue journey. on the way back still raining somemore their helmat no vessel can imaginr raining falling on ur face is pain loh.until at night bottom continue pain somemore tire punture wat koh already so late in the night where to find ppl to change tire lucky we travel around 20mins reach a place where can drink coffee beside had a tire shop but had to change ourself.on the home still had to buy crab 4 her brother, n shit their seafood is almost the same price as spore loh.
3rd day just sleep until total cannot sleep wake up eat the crab n few hrs her uncle say wan drink then pay again 4 the beer. evening went to her aunt hse sleep then morning took minibus to ho chi minh reach evening perpare take back spore.
1.vietnam many mosquite
2.seafood expensive,food not that accept by our taste
3.when u go there perpare to pay n pay,spent $500 but get nothing at night sleep by urself unless u r marry with her their thinking is oli couple can sleep together.

NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

[RJ2004]

Originally Posted by hjy_19

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

no one can tell you how much she is worth, ask your heart

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by hjy_19

hi everybody !!

just come back from vietnam last week,totally different from singapore.Went my gf hometown took 6hrs to reach angiang Long Xuyên City. thought can take bus there in the end took taxi waste $160 damn the most expensive taxi i ever took.at 1st thought of rom with her so just go c c look look c hw 1st whether she got blur me?
1 day reach there just hang around, 2 day her parent took me go seaside thought 1 hr can reach who kw early in the morning 4plus need wake up liao travel on motorcycle until afternoon still havent reach sit until bottom pain lucky i switch with my gf wait she ride later i ride reach there halfway go drink coffee then find out we r on the wrong track had to travel back to another way around 3plus then arrive swim 4 a while then went back wat the hell travel so far swim a while need continue journey. on the way back still raining somemore their helmat no vessel can imaginr raining falling on ur face is pain loh.until at night bottom continue pain somemore tire punture wat koh already so late in the night where to find ppl to change tire lucky we travel around 20mins reach a place where can drink coffee beside had a tire shop but had to change ourself.on the home still had to buy crab 4 her brother, n shit their seafood is almost the same price as spore loh.
3rd day just sleep until total cannot sleep wake up eat the crab n few hrs her uncle say wan drink then pay again 4 the beer. evening went to her aunt hse sleep then morning took minibus to ho chi minh reach evening perpare take back spore.
1.vietnam many mosquite
2.seafood expensive,food not that accept by our taste
3.when u go there perpare to pay n pay,spent $500 but get nothing at night sleep by urself unless u r marry with her their thinking is oli couple can sleep together.

NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

I felt giddy after having read the above.

[happy000]

Now you have become her God of Fortune

By the way how you know this girl friend? I hope it's not from KTV or JC.

Originally Posted by hjy_19

NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

[jackbl]

I agreed with u 2. Do what u deem right. No one knows her better than u

Originally Posted by RJ2004

no one can tell you how much she is worth, ask your heart

[vlover]

Originally Posted by hjy_19

NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

My view is that if you chose love over money but all this issues should not be a problem.. But then again, if these persists, then mayb next when you guys get married already, quarrels over money will be inevitable.. She MAY come up with more money issues then you expect..

like bro jack say, do as you deem right.. mayb after marriage, you are able to convince with your love and sincerity that her vietnam family is not everything afterall.. In future, you and your baby will be her everything? I learnt this after reading thru this thread with advices from the seniors .. so marry liao chop chop shoot in.. and have beby

Regards,
vlover

[ekemono]

Hi bro, I can understand you still giddy over the moto-ride. I have tried it b4. So dun mind I help you out to add in the paragraph and some words to simplify the story. Story still intact.

Originally Posted by hjy_19

hi everybody !!

just come back from vietnam last week, it was totally different from singapore. Went to my gf hometown and it took 6hrs to reach angiang Long Xuyên City. thought can take bus there in the end took taxi and wasted $160. Damn this is the most expensive taxi i ever took. At 1st thought of roam around with her so just go c c look look c how 1st whether she got blur me or not?

1st day reach there just hang around, 2nd day her parent took me to seaside and I thought 1 hr can reach who knows early in the morning 4plus need wake up liao travel on motorcycle until afternoon still havent reach.
I sat until bottom pain. But luckily i switch with my gf and she ride later i ride reach there halfway go drink coffee then find out we r on the wrong track. So we had to travel back to another way, then around 3plus then arrive to swim 4 a while then went back. Wat the hell travel so far swim a while.

On the way back still raining somemore their helmat no visor can imagine raining falling on ur face is pain loh, until at night bottom continue pain somemore tire punture.
wat koh already so late in the night where to find ppl to change tire? lucky we travel around 20mins and reached a place where can drink coffee beside had a tire shop but had to change ourself. On the home still had to buy crab 4her brother, n shit their seafood is almost the same price as spore loh.

3rd day just sleep until total cannot sleep wake up eat the crab n few hrs her uncle say wan drink then pay again 4 the beer. evening went to her aunt hse sleep then morning took minibus to ho chi minh reach evening perpare take back spore.
1.vietnam many mosquite
2.seafood expensive,food not that accept by our taste
3.when u go there perpare to pay n pay,spent $500 but get nothing at night sleep by urself unless u r marry with her their thinking is oli couple can sleep together.

NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

[casannova03]

an giang?? nostalgic feeling!!! haha cos my wife is from there too....but still one an giang is damn damn big....which part of an giang you went to?? any small crossing of river on the wooden boats??

anyway, the $160 you spent is because you 'bao' or book the car ma....there is a cheaper alternative by taking the bus (not those lao kok kok 40 seaters) but the 15 seaters Mercedes Vito converted bus...per person is around 15-20 dollars i think...

as to your questions on whether to marry her, i would say from your posts you are not ready yet bro....i feel la...if not you will not be asking bros here...

when i was about to marry my wife, i borrow around 10k just for her to settle her house payments and paid back monthly after that(think i mentioned somewhere b4 liao la)..all these without her asking me...and in turn i asked nobody....why i did it i dunno....but something inside me tells me that she is not out to 'blur'(using your term) me... i was right!

of course, you have to take into account the after marriage expenses...like i always say and bro singviet also adviced...talk to her about her expectations after marriage.. let her know how much you earn, what expenses you have here in SG and tell her you cannot provide for her whole family...they have to earn their keep! but you dun mind sending back money once in a while but strictly to her parents for household expenses...things like new motor, hi-fi, are out of question.....

over and above all, tell her what marriage means to you and ask her what it means to her....TALK, COMMUNICATE! its between you and her...no bros here will know her better than yourself...you get the idea???

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by hjy_19

NOW MY QUESTION 4 EVERYONE??
at 1st thought everything will be very simple just pay their debt then marry,who know now lot of problem i can think of,
1st need send $ 4 her 2 brother study in ho chi minh $500 every mth,
2nd need settle her mother debt for their house around $9k,
3rd if arrange her come back need perpare $ again 4 her to buy ticket back vietnam
4th if after rom can stay 4 3 or 6 mth, after tat she went back there stay 4 a mth then can come back also need $ 4 her expense
5th now she run out of $ again due to she settle debt 4 her brother n her tooth surgney although i pass few hundred to her be4 im come back.

WAT TO DO EVERYWHERE NEED $ $ $
Should i still continue rom with her?

Bro, after reading up yor thoughts on the ROM thing. The reason as to why you are asking us whether you should ROM seems to suggest that you are having doubts on her love for you and as well as your trust for her...

Secondly, I got the feeling that $ issue is going to be a problem to you cause you will not be asking us for our view on yor ROM if you love her and if you have the $ to support her for their family debts as well as her expenses.

Thirdly, looking at what you have describled. Seems that their family is treating u like a big carrot head. Ask yourself why should you be paying for their debts when you are not even married to their daughter? Also How can you be sure that they REALLY OWNED so much DEBTS? Is this a scam?

Lastly, just put the $ issue aside. Ask yourself. How well did she treat you when you are at her village? Did she bugs u to pay for everything? Did she try to stay close to you whenever there are chances?

If you are able to ask yourself these few qns, I guess you will know the answer by now. But IMHO, if I got such gf, I will be the first one running away. Thank God. I really need to be the MONEY GOD to fulfill her debts issue.