Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 190

carmeo88 · #**2836** 06-03-2008, 03:10 PM

This always worry me as I have the intention to marry one but not a rich or educated gal.

Honey Boon · #**2837** 06-03-2008, 03:22 PM

In summary: true love, faitfulness, loyalty to partners are very very rare ????

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, i don't mean `loose' by nature. But what i mean is playing tricks with foreigners is just in their culture. Vietnamese society is divided into the rich and educated, rich and uneducated and the poor and uneducated. Marrying a rich foreigner and having many undisclosed activities behind the husband's back is just too common among the vietnamese. Stay with the foreigner husband while he is doing well and leaving him if he's broke. Marrying a foreigner is to provide an income source for the family. Not all are like that, but its quite a number.

Torres_Mok · #**2838** 06-03-2008, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by carmeo88

This always worry me as I have the intention to marry one but not a rich or educated gal.

The more u think the more u will not hv a viet wife.

IMHO there is no more true love in this world. Love i thk is associate with $$$$, if u not a foreigner, do u thk a viet gal will like u? Even worst if u intent to marry a SG gal.

If one day u r jobless and no income do u think the viet gal wil stay with u! the answer is likely no. I thk having a SG gal as wife is even worst if u r jobless and no income. IMHO a SG gal will not leave u, but will look down on u.

carmeo88 · #**2839** 06-03-2008, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

The more u think the more u will not hv a viet wife.

IMHO there is no more true love in this world. Love i thk is associate with $$$$, if u not a foreigner, do u thk a viet gal will like u? Even worst if u intent to marry a SG gal.

If one day u r jobless and no income do u think the viet gal wil stay with u! the answer is likely no. I thk having a SG gal as wife is even worst if u r jobless and no income. IMHO a SG gal will not leave u, but will look down on u.

bro you are rite. Now for me is just wait for things to happen. Nothing seen to be real anymore, maybe that's my fate.

Torres_Mok · #**2840** 06-03-2008, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by carmeo88

bro you are rite. Now for me is just wait for things to happen. Nothing seen to be real anymore, maybe that's my fate.

U can thk of some test to gauge whether ur viet gf really love u or not.

I suggest to u that u can tell ur viet gf that u hv kidney failure and whether she can donate one to u or not? if she really love u she will secrifice.

Sha_Gua75 · #**2841** 06-03-2008, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

I suggest to u that u can tell ur viet gf that u hv kidney failure and whether she can donate one to u or not? if she really love u she will secrifice.

I think you watch too much movie

Thom07 · #**2842** 06-03-2008, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

I think you watch too much movie

Hmm then any possible suggestion?

But then, I think only time will tell.

Lonelydick · #**2843** 06-03-2008, 09:21 PM

Maybe you are right, only times will tell. It will depends on how you move her heart as they have feelings too. I would say if she really loves you, she will stick to you all the way as marrying a foreigner and staying in their country is not an easy decision to make and she will need all your care and attention to this relationship.

papillon30 · #**2844** 06-03-2008, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

actually younger wife is not the main problem. If the wife loves the man dearly, she will be able to withstand the temptation outside. Its just in the vietnamese culture la. When i saw the advertisement of New Paper on The Straits Times in the morning, they didn't put the nationality. But straight away in my mind, i guess it should be vietnamese. If you know the vietnamese well, u will know this happens frequently and is considered normal among vietnamese ladies

Young or old wife is not the main problem. As I have mentioned earlier,
Vietnamese are very practical people; survival instinct is very strong.

During the great escape from Vietnam after South Vietnam fell, the whole
family will pool all their resources, $$$$$ & gold bars, and select one candidate from the family to escape. If he is successful(he didn't drown), after a few years, he will send money back and will sponsor one by one over.

Remember the case about Angelina Jolie adopting a Vietnamese boy from
an orphanage. The boy's mother demanded $$$ from Angelina Jolie for "taking
his son away from her". Before the adoption, the mother was uncontactable.

Not all Vietnamese are like that; the majority are like that. There are good ones(minority).......it takes time and effort to look for them. Happy hunting!

Sha_Gua75 · #**2845** 06-03-2008, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Thom07

Hmm then any possible suggestion?

But then, I think only time will tell.

Personal opinion: no one can say that is one's faithful wife till the day one party die...only the day one party die...then u can say " yes that is my wife"

Want to trust then trust....if dont trust then why get married? If want test, then what happen if the girl is trustworthy but leave u when she know that u are testing her?

KangTuo · #**2846** 06-03-2008, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by papillon30

Vietnamese are very practical people; survival instinct is very strong.

This is a plus point.....

SingViet · #**2847** 07-03-2008, 06:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

Personal opinion: no one can say that is one's faithful wife till the day one party die...only the day one party die...then u can say " yes that is my wife"
Want to trust then trust....if dont trust then why get married? If want test, then what happen if the girl is trustworthy but leave u when she know that u are testing her?

Bro Sha Gua is right to say that only till the day one party dies then you can say she/he is my spouse. Often in marriage, we will choose to trust. No trust will lead to a lot of problems in marriage. If you have chosen her, then love her , but if she chooses to lie to you and eventually let the marriage break down, then she has to pay a price too.

Not all are bad. remember, some not so bad ones can be educated

Torres_Mok · #**2848** 07-03-2008, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro Sha Gua is right to say that only till the day one party dies then you can say she/he is my spouse. Often in marriage, we will choose to trust. No trust will lead to a lot of problems in marriage. If you have chosen her, then love her , but if she chooses to lie to you and eventually let the marriage break down, then she has to pay a price too.

Not all are bad. remember, some not so bad ones can be educated

All the while I thought that viet gals r loyal types; is only when they started to 'eat outside' is becos their hubby cannot give financial support to them or their family in vietnam.

SingViet · #**2849** 07-03-2008, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

All the while I thought that viet gals r loyal types; is only when they started to 'eat outside' is becos their hubby cannot give financial support to them or their family in vietnam.

Bro, you know what sort of financial support their families back in Vietnam wants? If you can afford, all their family members want to rest at home and you better give them US$1000 a month. Maybe US$1000 not enuff as their families are damm big. To add on, every few months, this sibling wants a few thousnad USD for new motorbike or the mother wants another few thousand USD for this and that. Who can satisfy their thirst for money? Many vietnamese ba xa's family back in VN are like that. The wife needs to know how to think for her own family in Singapore. She needs to spare a thought for her children and husband. Because of their big thirst for money, many singaporean husbands cannot support them and thus giving them the excuse to `makan' outside.

BS KTV · #**2850** 07-03-2008, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, you know what sort of financial support their families back in Vietnam wants? If you can afford, all their family members want to rest at home and you better give them US$1000 a month. Maybe US$1000 not enuff as their families are damm big. To add on, every few months, this sibling wants a few thousnad USD for new motorbike or the mother wants another few thousand USD for this and that. Who can satisfy their thirst for money? Many vietnamese ba xa's family back in VN are like that. The wife needs to know how to think for her own family in Singapore. She needs to spare a thought for her children and husband. Because of their big thirst for money, many singaporean husbands cannot support them and thus giving them the excuse to `makan' outside.

Never marry a vietnamese women

I rather go for Sg, Msia or even PRC women. Vietnamese women are just like animals