Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[yookevinyoo]

Hi again to all seniors and bros,

Spent few days browse through the last 300+ pages of this thread, realised that most bros here encountered bad experiences and think that VBs are good liar, stubborn, money-sucker, family orientated bla bla bla. Well, I do believe that most of vb are like this cos I met one before and my bros also encountered some of these money-sucker vbs.

My main story will start from here, hopefully not too long winded, if not I shall split into few parts.

As to say my this vb gf, started to call me Ox when I met her on the second time, she is 26 yr old this yr, as I already verified her passport and VN IC, but dunno its real or not cos she doesn’t look like 26, and she got abit of milf look which I kinda like it LOL, my bros already said I have a weird taste, cos gf really not a looker, the most I only can rate her 6, kinda cute, very short and slim body, but tummy quite big think drink beer a lot and nv exercise, divorcee with 1 boy child who is 3 yrs old, I know her when I cheong local ktv, and I know she also doing bia om in her hometown, where is 2hr bus ride away from HCM.

As we already together for 3 months, now start 4th month and on-going, my observation to her for this short period is that , she is very stubborn, but she is very out-going person, she talk a lot sometimes, she can chat with every taxi drivers we took, chat with waiter, room cleaner etc, and she like to shout to her frens using her unique rough voice, like wet market auntie like that, sometimes I cant really tahan her auntie pattern, somemore she can dig her nose, toothpicking and wipe her armpit in front of me and other people, nv feel shy at all, anyway I already used to it lol…

She seldom talk about problem she faced, also seldom ask money from me, but she did ask me to buy Samsung smart phone for her because she lost it when she riding the motor to work last time, she was sad I think, as she is tooo use to video chat with me everyday, and she had to borrow phone from her fren or her young sister to video call me. That’s the most expensive thing I bought for her, cost SGD 400+ which I bought online, but retail price is 600 to 700+ as i checked.

End of part 1

[Uncouth]

Originally Posted by yookevinyoo

Hi again to all seniors and bros,
As to say my this vb gf, started to call me Ox when I met her on the second time, she is 26 yr old this yr, as I already verified her passport and VN IC, but dunno its real or not cos she doesn’t look like 26, and she got abit of milf look which I kinda like it LOL, my bros already said I have a weird taste, cos gf really not a looker, the most I only can rate her 6, kinda cute, very short and slim body, but tummy quite big think drink beer a lot and nv exercise, divorcee with 1 boy child who is 3 yrs old, I know her when I cheong local ktv, and I know she also doing bia om in her hometown, where is 2hr bus ride away from HCM.

As we already together for 3 months, now start 4th month and on-going, my observation to her for this short period is that , she is very stubborn, but she is very out-going person, she talk a lot sometimes, she can chat with every taxi drivers we took, chat with waiter, room cleaner etc, and she like to shout to her frens using her unique rough voice, like wet market auntie like that, sometimes I cant really tahan her auntie pattern, somemore she can dig her nose, toothpicking and wipe her armpit in front of me and other people, nv feel shy at all, anyway I already used to it lol…

She seldom talk about problem she faced, also seldom ask money from me, but she did ask me to buy Samsung smart phone for her because she lost it when she riding the motor to work last time, she was sad I think, as she is tooo use to video chat with me everyday, and she had to borrow phone from her fren or her young sister to video call me. That’s the most expensive thing I bought for her, cost SGD 400+ which I bought online, but retail price is 600 to 700+ as i checked.
End of part 1

so far in 3 months you did not really spend much but I am just curious about her working in an bia om in her own hometown as this is usually a big taboo for Viet families. They dont work such jobs in their own hometown. They usually travel to another town to work in such line.

They are afterall more kampong so digging nose, putting their legs up when eating etc are very common BUT that shows she is comfortable around you.

I think can continue to KIV and if you are equally serious then maybe you should visit her family one day.

Best of luck if you are serious in this.

[yookevinyoo]

Now goes Part 2

I met her in local vn ktv at the beginning of Oct 2015, few days ago I still talking to gf how we met at that point of time, she said that I rejected her twice when she came into my ktv room and ask if she can sit with me or not, I told her I totally couldn’t recall at all, what I rmb ( we rmb ) is that that time I haven’t choose any gal which I want, but my bros already chose, and one of my bro’s vb said she got sister can intro me, so she went out, and come back in a while with another vb( which is my gf ), the first sight I cant really look clearly cos room is dark, I also forgot whether I got said yes or no to her, I only remember her fren use force to push her towards me and I think my gf not really want to sit with me I assumed.

So eventually she still sit with me, hug hug abit and in the end she even French kiss with me, made me feel so gd and got the GFE feeling ( GF told me that actually at that time she already quite drunk and high, that’s why she was so open towards me ) so the end of ktv session, tip her and got her wechat. Exchanged few normal greetings with her at the night, but nv chat a lot..

The next day I received my first ever video call from her, I was thinking whether should pick up or not because I don’t know what to talk her cos she don’t know how to speak English and Chinese at that time. Anyway I still picked up the video call while on my way home from work and walking under HDB blocks. When I pick up, saw the image of her(gf ) and the gal who sit with my bro last night( this gal is gf’s close fren, who can speak really gd Chinese and my gf’s translator between us ), so we start to chat, both looked at me happily and fren asking whether I remember gf and her or not, ( actually to my surprise I didn’t know that my gf looks quite chui at the first sight I see her cos last night I hardly see her face only her side view and the night that room is quite dark ) , LOL I laughed quite loud and said of course I remember her, we 3 talked awhile then her fren ask when me and my bro will come back ktv find them, I told them maybe coming Friday or weekend lo, Gf said smth and her fren translate to me that gf said me dep and want to see me again LOL.

The next few days I go ktv went with my buddies, and I wechat her if she is working today, she initially told me she is working so I waited, and tell my buddies I will sit her again, but after quite sometimes I wechat her again what time she come, she then tell me she is offday nv work, I heard liao quite sad, so that day nv sit with other gal, somemore I still lie to my buddies she is coming lol but in the end they know she off and ask me order other gal, but I don’t want haha.

End of Part 2

[senters89]

Originally Posted by yookevinyoo

Now goes Part 2

I met her in local vn ktv at the beginning of Oct 2015, few days ago I still talking to gf how we met at that point of time, she said that I rejected her twice when she came into my ktv room and ask if she can sit with me or not, I told her I totally couldn’t recall at all, what I rmb ( we rmb ) is that that time I haven’t choose any gal which I want, but my bros already chose, and one of my bro’s vb said she got sister can intro me, so she went out, and come back in a while with another vb( which is my gf ), the first sight I cant really look clearly cos room is dark, I also forgot whether I got said yes or no to her, I only remember her fren use force to push her towards me and I think my gf not really want to sit with me I assumed.

So eventually she still sit with me, hug hug abit and in the end she even French kiss with me, made me feel so gd and got the GFE feeling ( GF told me that actually at that time she already quite drunk and high, that’s why she was so open towards me ) so the end of ktv session, tip her and got her wechat. Exchanged few normal greetings with her at the night, but nv chat a lot..

The next day I received my first ever video call from her, I was thinking whether should pick up or not because I don’t know what to talk her cos she don’t know how to speak English and Chinese at that time. Anyway I still picked up the video call while on my way home from work and walking under HDB blocks. When I pick up, saw the image of her(gf ) and the gal who sit with my bro last night( this gal is gf’s close fren, who can speak really gd Chinese and my gf’s translator between us ), so we start to chat, both looked at me happily and fren asking whether I remember gf and her or not, ( actually to my surprise I didn’t know that my gf looks quite chui at the first sight I see her cos last night I hardly see her face only her side view and the night that room is quite dark ) , LOL I laughed quite loud and said of course I remember her, we 3 talked awhile then her fren ask when me and my bro will come back ktv find them, I told them maybe coming Friday or weekend lo, Gf said smth and her fren translate to me that gf said me dep and want to see me again LOL.

The next few days I go ktv went with my buddies, and I wechat her if she is working today, she initially told me she is working so I waited, and tell my buddies I will sit her again, but after quite sometimes I wechat her again what time she come, she then tell me she is offday nv work, I heard liao quite sad, so that day nv sit with other gal, somemore I still lie to my buddies she is coming lol but in the end they know she off and ask me order other gal, but I don’t want haha.

End of Part 2

Woah brother, this story line very familiar,

don fall for the trap la....

[yookevinyoo]

Continue with part 3

One fine Friday night, meet my horny bros for dinner and after that we went to same ktv again, before reaching I wechat her again, then gf video call me , saw gf and her fren inside a taxi, I asked them where are they, she say “ tanjong pagong”, I heard liao “ HUH u 2 go Tanjong Pagar for what” then ask them faster come ktv, they said ok. ( after that I realized she said is tanjong Katong where they rent and stay place)

After while, me and bros singing and drinking inside the room, and they come, my gf dam happy to see me and shout “ Ox!” hug me tightly and kiss a lot…my bro see liao say my gf kan er xin ( dam disgusting ), LOL I was happy too, so nv bother so much. But actually I already forgot when she started to call me ox, cos until now she already used to call me ox everyday, and vice versa I also call her bx.

In the middle of drinking session, bros and I went to outside smoke, and they told they already planned later on go eat vn supper and tabao their gal hotel after ktv, Then I tot, WTF u all horny fark already planned sui sui already ah…farkers LOL…then I told them I don’t know, maybe my gf will follow her fren go supper since they stay together, but hotel part I think I will skip I tell them.

So back to room, gf also butterfly abit then come back, I ask her if she wanna go supper with me since her fren also go supper with my bro, she said she ok, my cb bros and gf fren also start to psyco my gf if wanna lam tinh with me after that or not, my gf laughed so loud and seems that she nv reject their idea. I tot maybe she knew that they are making jokes with us, but I purposely with abit of serious tune ask her really wan go hotel with me meh, She said ok can, I feel so shocked, cos I nv bring vb go supper b4, not even go hotel with them also( my previous vb I also nv bring out ) Reasons why cos I know that everytime my fren dabao vb cost at least 250 LT, exclude hotel fee, I don’t want to spend such amount on gal, and that’s why I don’t bother to bring them out for supper through this 1 yr of cheonging ktv, another major reason is that I have a quite serious skin prob at that period of time, a lot new wounds and old patches all over my body, that’s the reason why it’s very rare for me go find massage or ktv WL or FL to fulfill my thirst of horniness.

After KTV, my bros and me, with the gals, total I think 9 or 10 ppl I cant rmb, cab down to orchard to eat VN food, while eating the food, she really treated me like her bf, feed me well, peel off the seafood shell for me, I really feel like a kind LOL.

The hunger of the food was filled with the food, but not the hunger of sex, I meant not myself LOL, it was my bros hunger for sex, my bros and gf fren again psyco her go hotel with me, she still the same, laugh loudly and seems willing to go with me, I still shocked to see her like tat, keep asking her really or not, she keep saying ok. In the end, I looked at her with the most serious face, “ Are you serious to go hotel with me? “ She replied “ yes.” I stunned LOL

Bo bian, small head win big head, flag the cab, “ Uncle, GL please “

Part 3 ended

[yookevinyoo]

Originally Posted by Uncouth

so far in 3 months you did not really spend much but I am just curious about her working in an bia om in her own hometown as this is usually a big taboo for Viet families. They dont work such jobs in their own hometown. They usually travel to another town to work in such line.

They are afterall more kampong so digging nose, putting their legs up when eating etc are very common BUT that shows she is comfortable around you.

I think can continue to KIV and if you are equally serious then maybe you should visit her family one day.

Best of luck if you are serious in this.

Actually I just asked her this question 1 or 2 days ago, she said that her ex-husband no work, she no work, she still need to feed the child, so... Bo Bian, she started to do bia om 1 year ago.

u will realise how comfortable she with me when you continue to read my story haha, and next week I will go HCM to find her again, then her family, maybe..

And I really appreciated your well wish...Thanks alot bro!

[yookevinyoo]

Originally Posted by senters89

Woah brother, this story line very familiar,

don fall for the trap la....

Familiar or not, please continue to read my story, thank you.

[yookevinyoo]

Here goes Part 4

Reached hotel, she bath first then I bath, she covered with towel but I wear my cloth back. Lay down, looked at each other, she asked why I don’t want to take off the cloth ( as I mentioned before, I have kind of serious enzyma skin problem at that time, I afraid if girl see me like that will scare hell out of them) , I said I don’t want. Then I showed her my wounds, she see liao like not scare at all, then we hug abit, kiss abit, she asked me to take out cloth again, I insisted I don’t want, but she started to use force to take off my shirt, LOL sounds like kenna raped by her, Bo Bian, so you know what would happened next, haha.

Next morning woke up, we tried very hard to communicate with each other, cos I don’t TV at all, and she also suck at Chinese and English, very limited Chinese she knows, so no choice we need to use google translate, but as all bros know that google always anyhow translate one, so everytime I will give blur face if I cant really understand what she really means, then we look at each other blankly.

Out of sudden, she start to cry, which gave me a shock, tried to comfort and hug her, asked her why she cry, she said that she likes me, want to be with me, want me to be her Ox (Bf I presumed ). Walan eh, lai liao, she gave dam strong KC, beh tahan sia, bo bian promised her to be her Ox lo… As the check out time nearer, She still said to me that she don’t want leave, don’t want to go back home…Omg I feel like I couldn’t get out of her hand already LOL…

Sent her back to her place, then she asked what time I can meet her later ( yesterday promised her and her gd frens that me and my bro will bring them go see Merlion ) , told her I need go home wash up, rest then meet her in the evening, quite exhausted after the bonk somemore I took a dam long bus ride home.

At night pick gf and her fren at their place, cab down to Merlion, take some pics, like couple like tat, my bro joined us later on take more pics, then we 2 pair of couple meet our another bro for dinner. Talk abt after event, I ask my bro when we only 2 of us smoking, he like ai mai ai mai like that, so in the end we send them back home, walk with them to the door of their place. Wanna say bye bye to them. Suddenly gf fren say don’t want to go home, I asked her dun wan go home do wat? She said hotel la make love…Wa lau, me and my bro puzzled then looked blankly at each other then looked at them,” Serious huh? “ I looked at my gf, She also looked at me happily said that she dun wan go home, hotel ok ma? I fainted LOL

In the end, both of us went hotel open room, me and my bro still scold them said that U 2 horny VB want go hotel nv say earlier knn LOLOLOL

Part 4 ended

[yookevinyoo]

Sorry to all bros here, it seems that my story like nv end like that LOL, pleae bear with it ya

Part 5

So hotel again, bonk her, chat with her ( then I forgot tell bros here that the previous bonk session I nv tip her at all, cos when I tell her I want give her money, she act blur, I want take out my wallet, she stopped me doing that, then I lan lan bo bian no give her $ ) this time also same, I take my wallet, take out money give her, she refused to take and asked me keep, I blanked out sia, ask her why, she said its not right to take my money. I was like “ Huh cos I am her bf now? “ same things happened again, she cry again said bla bla bla, I comfort her again la la la…checked out then me and bro send them back again.

My bro asked me whether I got give money to vb or not, I said no lo…both bonk also nv give…he also no give to gf fren, and he said I dam lucky, first time dabao then get free fark liao, then he spread this news to all our cheongster buddies group chat lol then all my frens come and laugh at me said I m the chief of VB amount them…found True Love, Got Free Fark…I dam heng la bla bla bla….speechless!!

It was the day me and my gf started video call routine everyday, I mean EVERYDAY! Without fail until now! No Joke serious! Even my bros see me think that I kenna VB’s poison! Ya I think so. She will video call me every night when she finished her work, usually 1 or 2 am, I will wait for her if I not tired not yet sleep, she will video call me when she working also, if no customer. Video call me when she wake up in the next day noon, I will be in office or lunch outside, I still need to find hidden place to video chat with her… bla bla bla…this video call routine nv stop until now, everyday…..
After a few days, 1 day before she going back to VN, my bros suggest that ktv find her, and joke with me that I should get the last Free Fark from her…KNN my pubor frens LOL…And ya…they are correct, I got the free fark again, that night she cried a lot…cried stop cried stop…then next morning she asked if I will send her to airport or not, I said Ya I would as I promised you ma….she cried again….haiz…KC…hw to not be trapped by her…

Sent her back home, wait for her and her fren to pack, cos they go back together, so awhile we on cab to airport, take a few photos…gf cried again walao…so they proceed to custom, cry even worse…the face all tears..need her fren to pull her until they clear the custom. Received her call when she going to board the plane, told me she will call me when reach HCM, but her sound calm down already. Haiz…started to fall for her liao me…

Part 5 ended

[xiaoqiang]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Let me post here stories recently which I sort of involved or advise others...

Disclaimer - the story may relate a certain person but no name mentioned and just for discussion sake as case studies.

Story 1

A Singaporean married a Viet gal and have a baby after 3 years of marriage. Now the girl already has PR approved. Recently due to disagreement with MIL the wife run away and stay with friends. The disagreement is always about money. Wife working earning 1.5k per month and need to send 1k back to her mother in Vietnam who build a house base on loan.

This guy cannot speak tieng viet and no way to talk to his MIL not to pressure his wife to send so much money. Also never really spent enough time to learn Viet culture and understand viet gals before marriage.

I had given some advice and not sure what else I can advise him more.

next story to be continue.

Thanks h88 for sharing my case.

I have to add on as some of the info are not accurate.

My Wife earning $1.8k
My wife took a loan $20ksgd without me knowing from my mum and my mum also nv tell me until $ is on my wife hands.

In the initial stage, as agreed by my wife that she will return $1k to my mum for the loan.

After the loan, my mil went to build a house. I told them I do not agree on this, but if u all want to do things ur way, I will not bother to help in any case.

So in the end they own blood suckers Abt 40k and need to repayment monthly for Abt $1.2k for a period of 3 years if I m not wrong.

I also remember my core value not to use $ to impress.

Been 2 week since my wife left, but I'm feeling more happier and relax. Dunno why also lol, seem like all the issue are gone tgt with her.

My only concern is, how to get my wife to return the $ back to my mum only.

And I have 1 question, after the pr expired, can she renew her own or get her company to do so? As I'm her sponsor for this pr application.

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by senters89

Woah brother, this story line very familiar,

don fall for the trap la....

The familiar line is she say she's working but after some time she say she is off that day .....

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

So in the end they own blood suckers Abt 40k and need to repayment monthly for Abt $1.2k for a period of 3 years if I m not wrong.

I think either your info is incorrect or your wife lies to u. I dun mind loaning from the blood sucker. Their interest is even lower than bank. 3200 interest for 3 yrs.

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

Been 2 week since my wife left, but I'm feeling more happier and relax. Dunno why also lol, seem like all the issue are gone tgt with her.

Most married men will feel shiok when wife not around for days or weeks, including me.

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

My only concern is, how to get my wife to return the $ back to my mum only.

Chances of getting back is low or nil. As mentioned she needs to return to blood suckers for 3 yrs then after your mum turn.

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

As I'm her sponsor for this pr application.

Dun think so but others might be in better position to answer u.

[yookevinyoo]

Woot…finally she was back to hometown, bros here may think I finally finished my stupid story LOL, but as I mentioned that my r/s with gf still on-going and she still video call me everyday, days and nights.
I can say that I already finished about 50% of the story, maybe bros here will think that , walan this newbie love story kan pua long still not finish, later he post somemore I go the zap him, LOL, paiseh paiseh leh…until now I should long story cut short, just tell u all how I get along her this vb, indicate how special and different she is for me, compared to the other WL VB. What problems we facing now and what problem s she gave me…Wont go into narrative story liao la…. Sorry La!

From part 1 to 5 of my post, was talking abt how I encountered with this WL VB in sg and kenna KC-ed quite jialat on oct 2015, and she went back home town, video call me everyday, and my bros and I arranged short trip to HCM for holiday and I asked her to accompany me for 5 days in HCM on Dec last yr, after the 5 days short trips, she pre-planned to return SG with me, I only got confirmed with her if she really serious plan so when I landed HCM. So then she followed me back, still went back work in the same ktv, I nv stop her doing so to work as WL cos my inability to provide her allowance in sg, and I quited my previous job on Nov, almost use up my saving while finding new job until I found new job and start work on 2nd Jan 2016, she knows my financial condition and so she nv ask me for money, she only afraid that I don’t want her cont to work in ktv as WL.

Bo Bian, If I am rich enough, my parents silver spoon feed me, definitely I wont ask her to work as WL anymore, She told me she nv do LT or ST before and promised me she will never ever doing that as she already has me as her “ Ox” I listen listen only, I kinda sure she wont do that as she video call me every days and nights when she finished work in sg and her hometown, unless she go do ST or go Ang Gu customer then I would nv know la.. maybe I just simply believe in her, cos she is not really a looker and she is consider old in vn.

Frankly speaking, my thinking start to change few days ago, I started to really fall for her, really give my heart to her, thinking abt her every mins, start to get suspicious of her if she did lie to me anything she told me, start to rethink back if I got cheated by her or not. “Fall in love” is the term, before that I only play along with her, treat her like my fling, but she changes me.

Why I got this drastic changes?

Days ago I got her video call, Saw her cried really badly, my heart dropped abit, asked her why, she said that her family give her a lot of headache, her ex-husband, her mother, MIL, FIL, and even her baby also keep asking her for money, everyone is ask her for money, but she is the only one who working, she said she really don’t want to stay in VN anymore, she hope she can faster come sg find me and stay with me. She even shout at me ask if I can really marry her not, I told her Yes ( not lie ) but need to wait at least until end of this yr.

She calm down abit, and she told me that she dun wan me to angry with her, she don’t want me to be sad, don’t want me worry abt her. She only want me to happy when I with her, she like my smile, she said all the unhappiness happened to her, she can take it all, she don’t want me to be affected cos of her.

What could I say? What could I think? What could I don’t love her?

[milfmilf]

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

Been 2 week since my wife left, but I'm feeling more happier and relax. Dunno why also lol, seem like all the issue are gone tgt with her.

how about the trip?

[katong]

Originally Posted by yookevinyoo

Woot…finally she was back to hometown, bros here may think I finally finished my stupid story LOL, but as I mentioned that my r/s with gf still on-going and she still video call me everyday, days and nights.
I can say that I already finished about 50% of the story, maybe bros here will think that , walan this newbie love story kan pua long still not finish, later he post somemore I go the zap him, LOL, paiseh paiseh leh…until now I should long story cut short, just tell u all how I get along her this vb, indicate how special and different she is for me, compared to the other WL VB. What problems we facing now and what problem s she gave me…Wont go into narrative story liao la…. Sorry La!

From part 1 to 5 of my post, was talking abt how I encountered with this WL VB in sg and kenna KC-ed quite jialat on oct 2015, and she went back home town, video call me everyday, and my bros and I arranged short trip to HCM for holiday and I asked her to accompany me for 5 days in HCM on Dec last yr, after the 5 days short trips, she pre-planned to return SG with me, I only got confirmed with her if she really serious plan so when I landed HCM. So then she followed me back, still went back work in the same ktv, I nv stop her doing so to work as WL cos my inability to provide her allowance in sg, and I quited my previous job on Nov, almost use up my saving while finding new job until I found new job and start work on 2nd Jan 2016, she knows my financial condition and so she nv ask me for money, she only afraid that I don’t want her cont to work in ktv as WL.

Bo Bian, If I am rich enough, my parents silver spoon feed me, definitely I wont ask her to work as WL anymore, She told me she nv do LT or ST before and promised me she will never ever doing that as she already has me as her “ Ox” I listen listen only, I kinda sure she wont do that as she video call me every days and nights when she finished work in sg and her hometown, unless she go do ST or go Ang Gu customer then I would nv know la.. maybe I just simply believe in her, cos she is not really a looker and she is consider old in vn.

Frankly speaking, my thinking start to change few days ago, I started to really fall for her, really give my heart to her, thinking abt her every mins, start to get suspicious of her if she did lie to me anything she told me, start to rethink back if I got cheated by her or not. “Fall in love” is the term, before that I only play along with her, treat her like my fling, but she changes me.

Why I got this drastic changes?

Days ago I got her video call, Saw her cried really badly, my heart dropped abit, asked her why, she said that her family give her a lot of headache, her ex-husband, her mother, MIL, FIL, and even her baby also keep asking her for money, everyone is ask her for money, but she is the only one who working, she said she really don’t want to stay in VN anymore, she hope she can faster come sg find me and stay with me. She even shout at me ask if I can really marry her not, I told her Yes ( not lie ) but need to wait at least until end of this yr.

She calm down abit, and she told me that she dun wan me to angry with her, she don’t want me to be sad, don’t want me worry abt her. She only want me to happy when I with her, she like my smile, she said all the unhappiness happened to her, she can take it all, she don’t want me to be affected cos of her.

What could I say? What could I think? What could I don’t love her?

Typical case of KC max trap. Intention is to get to Singapore to work long term. More pattern will start to come... Well afterall, these are just stereotyping on my side as i've been through it too.

Love or not love, only you will know. But then again, when you yourself is really "Kc-ed" by her, you won't know until you are married.

Think hard about the future. If you are able to live it up as a man, u find ways to support her. Don't tell me you are going to let her to continue to work as ktv after you eventually married her. Think about that and manage her expectation. Come to a consensus on the future in terms on financial aspect. It's very important.