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its a different story for me. i keep all the money and pass my wifey 2 million vnd for her to keep in her wallet. same when we are in singapore, she will have $200 in her wallet while i keep the rest. i am sure i can manage finances better than my wifey
Hi bros and Bro SingViet, I'm back! I have been working my ass off the last few months since I found a job. Thus inactive for awhile, sorry always have to turn to you guys for help...
Quoted above from bro SingViet back in YR2010, How do you guys convinced your bx that you can manage finances better than her? To my bx, if I don't give her some allowance, she feels insecure...
Thus, to prove that my current job is able to provide for our son's future, she convinced me to pass $2k of my pay to her for my son's education. Of cos, she have access to the account, as I felt that she could use the money to buy for son and other daily necessity if needed. I trust that she wouldn't misuse it.
Just a couple of days ago, we had a small quarrel. She took my son back to Vietnam and withdrew all the money in the bank $8k. She said she wants a divorce; every time we quarrel. I am trying to take control of the marriage but always Kenna Jiak as she's always threaten to take my son away from me.
Anyone here faced same situation and managed to counter? can advise? I think I Kenna Jiak GAO GAO, now seems like I can't do anything about it. My bank dry Liao. Now she asking me fly to Vietnam find her and she's sorry abt what she had done, but I can't afford to do so, my bank left a few hundred. This month no hit target (no mood to work), no money for next month.
Okay I admit, indeed I am a sillyporean.
Last edited by littleleroy; 19-03-2014 at 01:59 AM.
For you my friend ... this is the time for exploration, understand your wife, understand your baby ... Don't be too stress about it ... otherwise I can GUARANTEE you WILL Missed alot during his growing up ... I probably have missed some parts on my previous 2 daughters ... so I can tell you ... what you have missed will never gona to come back ... Make full use of the time you have and enjoy the journey ..
IF here don't work out, maybe go back to Vietnam for a while and relax and enjoy the growing up ...
Look at wider picture and think thru' what you want to do ...
Thanks bro shysaint for the tips! My son is very well now, very fat and cute, can eat porridge now, he doesn't cry as much too, very active. I feel proud to witness his growing... Cannot go back Vietnam la, need earn money feed family haha I still think sillypore is better for his education (eng and Chinese) though stressful.
Hi bros and Bro SingViet, I'm back! I have been working my ass off the last few months since I found a job. Thus inactive for awhile, sorry always have to turn to you guys for help...
Quoted above from bro SingViet back in YR2010, How do you guys convinced your bx that you can manage finances better than her? To my bx, if I don't give her some allowance, she feels insecure...
Thus, to prove that my current job is able to provide for our son's future, she convinced me to pass $2k of my pay to her for my son's education. Of cos, she have access to the account, as I felt that she could use the money to buy for son and other daily necessity if needed. I trust that she wouldn't misuse it.
Just a couple of days ago, we had a small quarrel. She took my son back to Vietnam and withdrew all the money in the bank $8k. She said she wants a divorce; every time we quarrel. I am trying to take control of the marriage but always Kenna Jiak as she's always threaten to take my son away from me.
Anyone here faced same situation and managed to counter? can advise? I think I Kenna Jiak GAO GAO, now seems like I can't do anything about it. My bank dry Liao. Now she asking me fly to Vietnam find her and she's sorry abt what she had done, but I can't afford to do so, my bank left a few hundred. This month no hit target (no mood to work), no money for next month.
Okay I admit, indeed I am a sillyporean.
sorry dude, but it looks like it was all premeditated and planned 2k/mths, she took 8k, so you think its only takes 4mths for someone to think abt divorce...i think she was planning the escape much longer and she been unhappy much longer...i dont know how u get your son, but the lady i would say let her go
Hi bros and Bro SingViet, I'm back! I have been working my ass off the last few months since I found a job. Thus inactive for awhile, sorry always have to turn to you guys for help...
Quoted above from bro SingViet back in YR2010, How do you guys convinced your bx that you can manage finances better than her? To my bx, if I don't give her some allowance, she feels insecure...
Thus, to prove that my current job is able to provide for our son's future, she convinced me to pass $2k of my pay to her for my son's education. Of cos, she have access to the account, as I felt that she could use the money to buy for son and other daily necessity if needed. I trust that she wouldn't misuse it.
Just a couple of days ago, we had a small quarrel. She took my son back to Vietnam and withdrew all the money in the bank $8k. She said she wants a divorce; every time we quarrel. I am trying to take control of the marriage but always Kenna Jiak as she's always threaten to take my son away from me.
Anyone here faced same situation and managed to counter? can advise? I think I Kenna Jiak GAO GAO, now seems like I can't do anything about it. My bank dry Liao. Now she asking me fly to Vietnam find her and she's sorry abt what she had done, but I can't afford to do so, my bank left a few hundred. This month no hit target (no mood to work), no money for next month.
Okay I admit, indeed I am a sillyporean.
When i married my wife 10 years ago, my MIL keep asking my wife to take over my finances. My wife asked me a few times, i declined. As i only started doing business in vietnam then, my finances were very tight. I told my wife i hold postgraduate degrees in finance, i can manage my finances better than her. Everyday, i will give my wife a certain amount of money to go to market. I will also place some money in her wallet. We go out together all the time, so i know what she spent on. She can ask from me again when she finishes the money. After coming back to Singapore, i always let my wife have around $100 to $200 in her wallet. My wife also have access to NETS, but there's only a few hundred dollars in that account. She also has supplementary credit cards from me, but with limited credit. All these years, i have learnt to trust my wife but still finances need to be controlled as she has a soft spot for her family. I have seen some Singaporean husband who doesn't give his wife a cent, this is very wrong. Different spouse have different character, but its best to keep finances to yourself and give her some pocket money. Also do not let her know how much you have in your bank till many years later when you feel you can trust her.
I agree with the other brother that your wife has planned this long time back. You got to think over again if you want your wife back. Many Singaporean man are totally controlled by their viet spouse. What their wife wants, they will give. Viet spouse also know how to control their husbands, mostly thru sex. Marriage is about mutual respect, but i have observed, in most cases of viet spouse, the wife and her family is more equal than the husband.
Thanks bro shysaint for the tips! My son is very well now, very fat and cute, can eat porridge now, he doesn't cry as much too, very active. I feel proud to witness his growing... Cannot go back Vietnam la, need earn money feed family haha I still think sillypore is better for his education (eng and Chinese) though stressful.
Different parents have different ideas about education for their children. Most want their children to study in Singapore and learn more of english and chinese. To me, i hold a no compromise attitude towards my children's education. I do not allow my children to go back to Vietnam during TET as holidays in Singapore is only 2 days. I have witnessed many Viet spouse bringing their children back to VN for more than 1 month for TET. The children got to miss lessons. This is not about stress, but how we parents manage responsibilities towards our children's education. Many of my children's teachers find it surprising on how my children can do well in school. My twin daughters are in Primary 4 now and has been awarded Academic Excellence Awards for the past 3 years. They are also constantly in the first class. There are 2 other children with viet mothers in the same school, but both are doing very badly. Many fellow samsters find me a chore as i hold a totally different idea towards vietnam and my children.
Hi bros and Bro SingViet, I'm back! I have been working my ass off the last few months since I found a job. Thus inactive for awhile, sorry always have to turn to you guys for help...
Okay I admit, indeed I am a sillyporean.
Dun worry u not alone... I saw a facebook account on a American whose ex wife run road with his kids.. search Kenn Smith if u interested. .
Letting wife knows how much u earn is ok.. but always get her involved in financial plannings so that she understands that living in singapore involved so h8gh cost. But ultimately the money must still be in ur hands.. giving her only a budget to manage. ..
Littleleroy, maybe ur bx is just finding excuse to go home..as for the money u gotta ask her.. hope u can resolve soon..
Dun worry u not alone... I saw a facebook account on a American whose ex wife run road with his kids.. search Kenn Smith if u interested. .
Letting wife knows how much u earn is ok.. but always get her involved in financial plannings so that she understands that living in singapore involved so h8gh cost. But ultimately the money must still be in ur hands.. giving her only a budget to manage. ..
Littleleroy, maybe ur bx is just finding excuse to go home..as for the money u gotta ask her.. hope u can resolve soon..
but do you know kenn smith, ie is constantly befriending young girls on fb plus he a dodgy character, his wife leaving him is no suprise to me.
18-03-2014, 05:08 AM
Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
