Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Move on with your life. Today u will doubt this and tomorrow u will doubt another. Guess u meet your neighbors more than u meet her daily so how do u nourish your relationship and marriage Damn why do present guys rush into marriage when the couples only met a few times?

Me too wondering what is happening to guys nowadays.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by banana81sg

not sure if i at the right place to ask.......lets see

i get know my gf throught internet dating......knw her for comin to 2 years....been hcmc n met her n family afew time

the problem is till now i still feel i dont knw her well ( dont know where she work, her friends etc) as she seem doesnt like to talk abt things when asked, like secretive......becaz of this sometime even she answer, she make me feel she lying. is it viet girls are lke this?

Nw she asking me to marry her. should I? i mean i do like her, but becaz of above issue, i worring abt it especially our future.

as mention, i know her through net, i thought of setting up another account to test if she really into me. Is it a good idea? my friend say what i think of doin is bad as if she finds out ( though i doubt unless i tell), she will not be happy, in fact no girls will b happy. But i wish to try n test her to put my mind at ease before commiting anything.

just seekin some opinions.........especially bros with viet bride........good /bad doesnt matter tks

Don't you think you should get to know her better before rushing into marriage? When she is secretive about her work, it shows that the job is not a `normal' job or maybe, she is jobless, living off foreigners.

Marriage is a lifetime committment. Its not just about living together and having sex. Lots of marriages between Singaporean man and Viet spouse break down just a few years into the marriage. Most of them do not know the gal well and also do not know their culture well. One example will be the number of relatives of viet spouse flying in and out of Singapore, on the context of taking care of the viet spouse children. Think about it, buy air ticket, salary and gift of cash and presents when they go back, isn't it more expensive than hiring a maid here? But viet spouse do not agree, always cite reason its better for their mother to take care of their children. The main reason is that they want some money for their mother / relatives. They take care of your kids, speak TV to your kids and you will realise that your kid speaks TV most of the time and is detached from the norm in Singapore. When its time for school, language barrier will be another problem.

I have also known of tertiary educated Singaporean man who changed their lifestyle totally after marrying Viet Spouse. They become like a `viet farmer' living in Singapore. Started to seat on the floor to eat, drinking lots of alcohol, late for work daily etc. From a bright young man become a typical province viet just because he married a viet spouse. Reason given? If do not give in to wife, no sex given. Haiz....

This is just one of the examples. Lots of differences when staying together. So better be prepared to CHANGE after marrying your viet spouse. Spend more time to know her better before committing.

[jackbl]

Chúc Ngày Tình Nhân Vui Vẻ !

[banana81sg]

Thanks all for views and opinions.

[cleanshave]

Bro, think thrice and consider carefully about marrying a vietnamese girl. I know there are some good girl out there who makes a good wife. But remember, we are of different cultures and upbringing. They all cares so much for their families, more then they care for you. All they want is money, money and more money. It is never enough. Is not like us we only take care of our wife when we marry her. What I am talking now is of a decent good vietnamese wife who loves you take care of you and only have you. What about a lot of them who have two to three lovers while loving you. Besides, sharing your love you still have to support the families.

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by cleanshave

Bro, think thrice and consider carefully about marrying a vietnamese girl. I know there are some good girl out there who makes a good wife. But remember, we are of different cultures and upbringing. They all cares so much for their families, more then they care for you. All they want is money, money and more money. It is never enough. Is not like us we only take care of our wife when we marry her. What I am talking now is of a decent good vietnamese wife who loves you take care of you and only have you. What about a lot of them who have two to three lovers while loving you. Besides, sharing your love you still have to support the families.

You are right and what you said was spot on. You very experienced with Vietnam scene? Care to share more.

[skyfree]

Originally Posted by banana81sg

not sure if i at the right place to ask.......lets see

i get know my gf throught internet dating......knw her for comin to 2 years....been hcmc n met her n family afew time

the problem is till now i still feel i dont knw her well ( dont know where she work, her friends etc) as she seem doesnt like to talk abt things when asked, like secretive......becaz of this sometime even she answer, she make me feel she lying. is it viet girls are lke this?

Nw she asking me to marry her. should I? i mean i do like her, but becaz of above issue, i worring abt it especially our future.

as mention, i know her through net, i thought of setting up another account to test if she really into me. Is it a good idea? my friend say what i think of doin is bad as if she finds out ( though i doubt unless i tell), she will not be happy, in fact no girls will b happy. But i wish to try n test her to put my mind at ease before commiting anything.

just seekin some opinions.........especially bros with viet bride........good /bad doesnt matter tks

i think u should test her out before marrying her.
You only seen her family? her friends no see?
she pop the qns of marriage, what u reply?

[elth]

Originally Posted by skyfree

i think u should test her out before marrying her.
You only seen her family? her friends no see?
she pop the qns of marriage, what u reply?

yeah testing is very important else wanna reject also jia liat

[elth]

Originally Posted by cleanshave

Bro, think thrice and consider carefully about marrying a vietnamese girl. I know there are some good girl out there who makes a good wife. But remember, we are of different cultures and upbringing. They all cares so much for their families, more then they care for you. All they want is money, money and more money. It is never enough. Is not like us we only take care of our wife when we marry her. What I am talking now is of a decent good vietnamese wife who loves you take care of you and only have you. What about a lot of them who have two to three lovers while loving you. Besides, sharing your love you still have to support the families.

well said... clap clap

[xiaoqiang]

Anyone can enlighten me whether is it possible for my qns belows as i couldn't find any lights after spending 2-3hrs surfing the forum.
Much appreciation in advance.

1) Do i need to get my wife which is a vietnamese's Birth Cert / Edu Cert to be endose into english before submitting an applicant of "Applying for PR" for my wife thru ica?

2) Is it possible that my wife's sister / my sis-in-law able to come to sg on dependent pass in the mean time looking for a job in singapore? If so, does my sis-in law need to endose her doc such as (Birth cert / Edu Cert) to English before coming over to sg?

Kindly advise. Thanks again in advance.

[naemlo]

I am not expert but I am using my common sense to answer your questions. U are better off checking with the relevant authorities.

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

1) Do i need to get my wife which is a vietnamese's Birth Cert / Edu Cert to be endose into english before submitting an applicant of "Applying for PR" for my wife thru ica?

Of cause u need, S'pore is a English educated country, how will u expect someone in ICA to read your wife cert, in this case in Vietnamese?

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

2) Is it possible that my wife's sister / my sis-in-law able to come to sg on dependent pass in the mean time looking for a job in singapore? If so, does my sis-in law need to endose her doc such as (Birth cert / Edu Cert) to English before coming over to sg?

Same as above and for dependent pass, how will your sis in law gets the dependent pass????

[xiaoqiang]

Been ages we chat, thanks for the info

To add up, I can't find anything other than parents of my wife, so it's possible to be on social visit pass while looking for a job in sg ?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

2) Is it possible that my wife's sister / my sis-in-law able to come to sg on dependent pass in the mean time looking for a job in singapore?

sisters and brothers or sis in-laws and bro in-laws cannot qualify for dependent pass apply by you...you can act as sponsors when they come in as tourist visa...

only immediate family ie. parents and children can qualify to apply dependent pass by you...

as for looking for job...well good luck to them...dun think their degrees are recognised...worst if they cannot speak fluent english or singlish...

most Vietnamese who worked here now usually have to go thru education here...either public or private colleage to be employable...

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by xiaoqiang

Anyone can enlighten me whether is it possible for my qns belows as i couldn't find any lights after spending 2-3hrs surfing the forum.

2) Is it possible that my wife's sister / my sis-in-law able to come to sg on dependent pass in the mean time looking for a job in singapore? If so, does my sis-in law need to endose her doc such as (Birth cert / Edu Cert) to English before coming over to

Haiz thats the prob of having foreign wife.. Their relatives thot its easy over here, all wishes to come... I reject 3applicants this Tet (one want husband, 2 wan job)... I told my wife "Dun ever promise them anything"

[Singkieu]

Interesting read for those who can (in Vietnamese):

http://afamily.vn/tinh-yeu-hon-nhan/...n-yeu-4986.chn

Article is titled: Sao trai Việt nhiều tính xấu mà gái Việt vẫn lấy, vẫn yêu?
Translation: Why do Vietnamese Women still Marry, still Love Vietnamese Men, Despite Their Many Bad Qualities?

Insightful article written by a Vietnamese woman who compares Vietnamese men to Western men and gives her opinion on why, despite the many bad qualities of Vietnamese men, Vietnamese women ultimately still prefer Vietnamese men.

For those who can't, copying and pasting into google translate will give you an idea, but the translation is quite poor and will not read smoothly.