SEX after Marriage & Childbirth???

[analog539]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

I beg to differ.

Sex after marriage, whether before the birth of your child or after, depends on how you make it out to be.

I've enjoyed every love-making session I had with my wife and I now have 2 sons with a third child on the way (3 month's pregnant).

Before my wife was pregnant, we had our showers together practically every week, our love-making sessions regularly and also on various special occasions, etc. Our love-making sessions were never routine, and we enjoyed them just as we enjoyed them before getting married.

Of course during the 1st 2 months after childbirth, we didn't engage in sex as this is her recovery period as recommended by the doctor.

Also during her pregnancy, I refrain from love-making although the doctor's advice was that it is safe but I'm not a sex maniac so I rather that it be safe than sorry for my coming child.

As for helping out with the child, I find it a joy rather than a chore.

My 1st son is my stepson and I wasn't around when my son was born. Was only able to see him when he's 7 days old and I swear to God that when I first laid eyes on him, he was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life.

If my wife puts the children before and relegate me to second division, I would be proud of her as that would have been the right thing to do and I wouldn't have it any other way.

My 2 cents worth.
thaivisitor

Hi Mr. Thai:

I agree and disagree. The parts I agree with you on are the taking are of the children, I have no problem with that from changing dirty nappies to getting up several times in the middle of the night, doesn't bother me in the least, they are my offspring and I love them. No problem there..

The problem is with my wife, she is simply not interested in sex anymore. And that gets up my nose. I didn't get married so I could PCC for the rest of my life, that's bullshit. There are such things as duty and responsibilities for both hunsbands and wives. I'm maintaining my end of the bargin and I'm getting pissed off the she is not. Yah, she's a good mother but she's more interestedin her job than servicing her husband and THAT is a problem. And my case IS NOT ISOLATED. You have a great sex life with your Missus and I envy you for it. I want to have one with mine, we had a great sex life before number 1 was born and while she was expecting number 1, but after that...finish lah. I'm getting frustrated and pissed.

Cheers,
jim

[analog539]

Originally Posted by machoman

I think that what is basically wrong with many marriages as more often than not, the wifey puts the needs of the child/children first before the hubby's.I personally believe that the needs of the hubby should come first like just it was before they became parents.

I also believe that this factor accounts for the breakdown in some marriages and even divorces as the hubby is somewhat alienated from the wifey after childbirth.

IMHO, the lack of sex life due to childbirth, amongst other factors like finance and stress have lead to the declining population.

At the same time, because of the lack of sex due to childbirth, amongst other factors like lust, the sex industry will never be completely eradicated even if it is illegal.

Well said my man, well said.

jim

[kingcopa]

Originally Posted by analog539

Hi Mr. Thai:

I agree and disagree. The parts I agree with you on are the taking are of the children, I have no problem with that from changing dirty nappies to getting up several times in the middle of the night, doesn't bother me in the least, they are my offspring and I love them. No problem there..

The problem is with my wife, she is simply not interested in sex anymore. And that gets up my nose. I didn't get married so I could PCC for the rest of my life, that's bullshit. There are such things as duty and responsibilities for both hunsbands and wives. I'm maintaining my end of the bargin and I'm getting pissed off the she is not. Yah, she's a good mother but she's more interestedin her job than servicing her husband and THAT is a problem. And my case IS NOT ISOLATED. You have a great sex life with your Missus and I envy you for it. I want to have one with mine, we had a great sex life before number 1 was born and while she was expecting number 1, but after that...finish lah. I'm getting frustrated and pissed.

Cheers,
jim

Bro Jim u r not alone

[Big Sexy]

contradicting yourself here huh????... perhaps you should then change your answer in your "How to completely destroy your sex life?" thread to

Ans :Get married. You've been warned.

to

Ans : having kids.

Originally Posted by analog539

we had a great sex life before number 1 was born and while she was expecting number 1, but after that...finish lah. I'm getting frustrated and pissed.

[crazyops]

Actually it's not the end of sex after marriage. I feel it's more of a suspension rather that the end.

It's usually avoidence during the pregnancy stage as there'll be fears of harming the baby.

Then comes the delivery and it's also no no for sex as the wound needs time to heal.

Afterthat, it's gonna be inconvenient to do it especially if the wife breastfeed the child. Unless the wife does it with the bra on.

Kinda tough cos it's visually not stimulating and you also can't stimulate the tits with the bra on.

I guess after the whole breastfeeding process is over, it's back to normal again.

I have 2 kids and that's the sequence I've encounter after my first one. Now actually at the last stage cos wife is still breastfeeding.