hi bro, allow me to point you in the right direction, there's nothing wrong with BDSM albeit not widely accepted by the public...
the activities you listed are called your fetishes and your role in such a scenario is called a dominitrix like bro priest said, refer to the below thread and you will find many like minded bros like yourself, myself included, so you can find a consenting partner to carry out the activities you like and both can enjoy at the same time, in a safe and legal way...
https://thesbf.shop/showthread.php?p=...1#post18987361