Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Hi all

I’m new to the forum, thus please pardon me if I offend anyone.

As my name suggests, I’m frustrated. Frustrated with my current situation at home and despite many attempts to fix it, it is still not ideal.

Thus I hope to find a confidant whom I can share my secrets with. She should hopefully be married like me and face a similar situation at home. It will be on a NSA basis, fuss free, no obligations. If we click we can explore further, like physical intimacy for example.

About me
32, M, Local Chinese
Working professional in CBD

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Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Got pic to show???:D

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Yes but not here. I’m married and wish to keep things P&C. Will share a pic with serious PMs.

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

What are you frustrated with ???

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Why would you specifically need a female to be a confidante? Bros can't be good listeners and advisors?

And more importantly, why would physical intimacy be on the table in the first place if all you wanted was to talk about your problems? Why should your female confidante be married and facing marital issues as well? Are you trying to prey on vulnerable people?

You can always post about your marital issues in the Matters of the Heart forum here. There are pretty decent folks out there who will be willing to listen to you, and offer you a second opinion on how to "fix things". You would be posting anonymously and your identity remains a secret. No need for these shenanigans about looking for a 2-in-1 confidante + fuck buddy BS.

You should clarify these points before people write you off as just another desperado looking for free fucks.

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Isnt it obvious? So can have a free pussy to fuck while bitching abt his wife la.


TS, can intro ur wife? Dun mind free fucking her n bitching abt u too.

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

He's looking for a pity fuck.

TS, how is playing the pity card working out for you, whether in getting a 'confidante' or in real life?

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Bump bump bump

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Damn! 1st thing that ran through my mind too! Lol!

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Probably his terrible spelling..
Btw it’s ‘confidante’ not confidant...poor spellers get no pussy!

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Check the dictionary before you embarrass yourself dude.

Anyway to all the haters, I just don’t think I want to air my dirty linen in public and I’m not ready to confide in another man that’s all.

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Did you check the dictionary before you posted that?
Normally if I gets corrected by bros, I take a breath.. check myself, double confirm.. and if all good.. then I flame..
Fyi I will refrain from scolding you coz I earn nothing from that. My ego is still intact and in fact it’s bigger now since some some frustrated dude tried to ‘chut pattern’ on my engerlund!
Also here’s a link!
https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/confidante

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Pwned! lol. Find a bro to flame your wife dude. Women are better company when no words are spoken. =)

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Dude your link also clearly says

“In fact, you could call a male or a female "secret keeper" your confidant (without the "e").“

I think we should stop this pointless argument.

Re: Seeking a confidant - New 32M here
 

Nobody is telling you to post intricate details with a face pic just to talk about your problems. In fact, meeting up with someone - the hypothetical lady you are looking for - has a much higher chance of getting your "dirty linen" out into the public.

And wtf with "not ready to confide in another man"? Why so sexist? You're saying there are no sincere, empathetic guys out there ready to lend a listening ear? And maybe even help you with your problems in tangible ways?

Oh wait... there's no way they can help you cos what you're looking for is a pity fuck. (Unless you swing that way of course...)

Sarcasm aside, if you are honest with your intentions, I doubt you will be attracting "haters". Its your prerogative to stay on a sinking ship, but I can tell you straight in the face that chances are you'll remain "frustrated" for a damn long time.

Good luck.

PS. FYI, when I got back into the forum after my recent divorce, the first real friend I made here is a guy. He has been an awesome, supportive pal to me over the last few months. If you're sincerely looking for a confidant/e, you need to get over your gender prerequisites. Quite frankly, you're looking like a creepy despo dude that way.