How often you screw your wife ?

[TopSage]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

[cancum]

How often you screw your wife ?


How often can I screw my wife ? Am i pitiful too ?

[durian]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

I don't screw my wife. I make love. :D

[deptrai4u]

Q: How often do you screw your wife?

A: Which wife???

[silverblue]

i seldom screw my wife coz i usually screw by her. everytime i didnt wash the dish she'll say 'fuck u'

[sundial]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

worst still ... its fuck and sleep over and done in 5 - 10 mins

[superchevy]

Q: How often do you screw your wife?

A: Which wife???

good question ....:)ups u...

[Sexmachines]

Once per week.Now my wife request more,think she suspect me got eat outside,because before we married,i always want more....

[Wizard69]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

Bro - tat's is there and there is this proliferation of OKT offering services... mighty good services too I might add.

[gahs]

rare, once a mth.. Today i realise she is still a syt too!

[Cdr Bacara]

Hahaha I screw her 5-6 times a mth but she screw me everytime she goes shopping. :D

[Link]

Once per week.Now my wife request more,think she suspect me got eat outside,because before we married,i always want more....

Lol I guess she is right? :p

[desbear]

bro u are not pitiful .... i ever heard of a married couple that being together for a few years but only have sex from less than your fingers and toes add together ... isn't that worse off????

[Spiderboy]

sex makes the relationship closer.... lesser sex, the more u will drift away.

[TopSage]

I enjoyed fucking my wife.
I am the one who normally eat her pussy + do all the jobs.
Unfortunately, she rarely BBBJ me nowadays.

And i am too scared go to health center or something like this.
How i envy you all.

[meowy_ger]

BEing a wife so ke lian de ar?
kena screw like once a week....
-_-"

[David_Ginola]

As and when we r horny....so SBF makes me horny....so after this i go make love. Hehe:D

[pokeman71]

I would not use the word screw. I would say now is more a regimental duty once a week loh.

[bigpotbelly]

I hated it whenever she cum to me with a screwdriver... haha

[CUM2ME]

Hmmmm... so the report in Straits Times is true... We are not bonking enough.

Ever since our first child... it 's almost non existent... Have not touched OC for almost 2 yrs liaoz.... :(

Now come to SBF, read some Sex stories and jerk it off... Luckily still got my "Shi2 Jie3 Mei4" 10 Sisters.... :D

[fenwick]

To be frank my ex is a horny slut + LWFM ( Little White Fucking Machine! )! Only a few close buddy of mine like Bro Tenggiri will know ! We were together for more than 3 or 4 years, not a single day that we are not having SEX ! Even when her menses come! She'll CIM me ( Beat the red light a few times also :D ) And somehow it becomes an addiction ! Now that we've already broke off. I have to switch to FL but also jialat cos will go broke leh:( I'm telling the truth! Cos happen to come across this thread ! But to bros who don't believe ( maybe i'll get zap ! ) It's ok , cos even i myself don't believe i got this kind of stamina to fuck everyday !

Remarks: I think maybe it's also becos of this health supplement i'm taking for the pass few years " Zest for Men " by Kordels. Hope will be useful tips for other bros :) Take every day and double ur dose if u have sex frequently !;)

[Bangster]

Whenever the night weather's cool, especially when it's raining the whole day and night. Sex is exceptionally good when that happens.

[Xfactor]

To be frank my ex is a horny slut + LWFM ( Little White Fucking Machine! )! Only a few close buddy of mine like Bro Tenggiri will know ! We were together for more than 3 or 4 years, not a single day that we are not having SEX ! Even when her menses come! She'll CIM me ( Beat the red light a few times also :D ) And somehow it becomes an addiction ! Now that we've already broke off. I have to switch to FL but also jialat cos will go broke leh:( I'm telling the truth! Cos happen to come across this thread ! But to bros who don't believe ( maybe i'll get zap ! ) It's ok , cos even i myself don't believe i got this kind of stamina to fuck everyday !

Remarks: I think maybe it's also becos of this health supplement i'm taking for the pass few years " Zest for Men " by Kordels. Hope will be useful tips for other bros Take every day and double ur dose if u have sex frequently !
During my late 20s, i've a FB for 3-4 yrs, we screw everyday...whatever pattern , style we have explore most. After 15 years we parted, i realise good fucking partners r hard to come by:)

Till now, i only get to screw my wife once every 1-2 months...damn the spark isn't there.

[fenwick]

During my late 20s, i've a FB for 3-4 yrs, we screw everyday...whatever pattern , style we have explore most. After 15 years we parted, i realise good fucking partners r hard to come by:)

Till now, i only get to screw my wife once every 1-2 months...damn the spark isn't there.

Totally AGREE bro ! That's why i did something i feel wrong the day b4. Go to thread " What the most daring place you ever make love ! " and you'll know why. At least now i know another bro with so high sex drive like me ! Cheers :D ( but bro some of my buddy advice me to consult a doctor they say it is abnormal ! Please advice. ):)

[Serpents]

This topic ask Samsters not reflective of Sporeans, most samsters naturally got steal eat, so naturally will have less for wives .... and most naturally will hv wives who are not performing .... thats y here ...

[sensuality2007]

bro u are not pitiful .... i ever heard of a married couple that being together for a few years but only have sex from less than your fingers and toes add together ... isn't that worse off????

brother, I agree with what you said. I hear of many stoies and even real life from my colleagues, that the husband and wife never ave sex for at least last 5 years...its just merely sharing a bed where you sleep your area and I sleep my area only or you don't touch me and I don't touch you type of affair. Sounds pitiful right - "husband and wife in name only" and the hubby don;t go out and screw around with other women nor is he a gay.

[civiccat]

This topic ask Samsters not reflective of Sporeans, most samsters naturally got steal eat, so naturally will have less for wives .... and most naturally will hv wives who are not performing .... thats y here ...

brother, I agree with what you said. I hear of many stoies and even real life from my colleagues, that the husband and wife never ave sex for at least last 5 years...its just merely sharing a bed where you sleep your area and I sleep my area only or you don't touch me and I don't touch you type of affair. Sounds pitiful right - "husband and wife in name only" and the hubby don;t go out and screw around with other women nor is he a gay.


hi all, me a newbie though me not young anymore. Had been married for more than 16 years already but a couple of years back, my wife and I stopped having sex and it happened naturally, not out of resentment, infidelity, third party etc. In short, we are happily married (really)and still are, most of my times are spent with my wife, communicated with her daily, watch DVDs with her and every thing EXCEPT no SEX (I dun have a galfriend on the quiet though I bonk thru samster friend's recommendation of FL) and the beauty of it all is that it happened so naturally if u know what I meant.

It started with - not tonight, me tired then come weekend, many household things to do, tired etc until her menses comes and goes and oh god then I realised... holy shit...it becomes months and years....

I kept this secret but I think about 2 years ago, me decided to share this fact with my good friend who had 2 kids ...and he finally decided to end his silence... he said to me .. u know my youngest dotter... aged 7 now.... the day she was borned was the time I stopped having sex with my wife .i.e. 7 years 9 mths ago :eek:

I am not cooking up this story and in my wildest imagination never thought of starting a thread on this but now there is such a thread, I decided to pen my
thought.

My friend and I.. are we just the small minority or not, I really wonder.

Hope more samsters can come out to air their views though I believe some samsters having met up la kopi may not be so candid in their views.

Thank you for reading.

[Bangster]

Sounds pitiful right - "husband and wife in name only" and the hubby don;t go out and screw around with other women nor is he a gay.

I believe this type of men are something like closet pervs.

Which normal guy does not have a average to high sex drive? I imagine these type of 'good men' as being very restrained, suppressed when it comes to their sexuality.

[sensuality2007]

I believe this type of men are something like closet pervs.

Which normal guy does not have a average to high sex drive? I imagine these type of 'good men' as being very restrained, suppressed when it comes to their sexuality.

could be no more husband and wife love anymore - maybe because of some serious issues that have occurred and got emotionally hurt so ended us as "husband and wife" in name only.

given the choice, I agree with yuo such guys sure will want to enjoy sex but because of emotional hurt, maybe they rather not have sex with their wives. Maybe the sight of the wives already cause so much hurt to them and what more for sex......

[monster.cookie]

Bro TS,

post wrong forum le la.

I think majority of us here do not have that great a sex life at home, hence our visits to SBF to look for alternatives. If at home get it everyday, doubt this forum will be so successful.

Regarding pitiful or not, that is subjective. Only you will know. If you everyday also want but get it once a week, then it becomes pitiful. But if you are just doing your duty cos it is a responsibility then that is 1 time too many per week.

I reach a stage that i dont really think le. If both got mood then do and hope it is a good. If no mood then dont do. No point going through the motions. If really gian and no supply and u dont dare to use WLs,

1. find a mistress (exclusive so relatively safer..note relatively)
2. DL Porn and activate your favorite hand.
3. Drink a lot till you cannot do even if Jessica Elba strips in front of you

All the best. Hope everything works out for ya!

Cheers

[Dunhill_11]

After married for 10 yrs with 2 kids, that's normal :D

[Xfactor]

Totally AGREE bro ! That's why i did something i feel wrong the day b4. Go to thread " What the most daring place you ever make love ! " and you'll know why. At least now i know another bro with so high sex drive like me ! Cheers :D ( but bro some of my buddy advice me to consult a doctor they say it is abnormal ! Please advice. ):)
Nothing wrong with high sex drive..it will slowly die down. When my younger days, everyday i must jerk otherwise my day will not be complete:p Yet again, your drive will go even further if your partners are good at exploring sex too. But kind of rare to find a spore gals who r good, creative & love exploring for more love making session. Looking at feedback from bros here, we should know the ratio for good sex after marriage is close to zero.

[blackwhack]

married 20 yrs liao and doing about 4 times a month :rolleyes: in between diy as and when required :p

[heatingup]

It started with - not tonight, me tired then come weekend, many household things to do, tired etc until her menses comes and goes and oh god then I realised... holy shit...it becomes months and years....


To add on, disputes over childcare, money, problems with naughty kids, maids, in-laws, work stress... --> Wife became non-sexual for many months. Not even once a week for a minimum or go thru the motion. Hence I suffer from premature ejaculation (handjob by masseur also less than a min) and was extremely fed up and turned to FLs.

[michael_368]

Hi ,

I share the same fate with most of the bros here. After married about 15yrs, my sex life with wife naturally die down..the most is she Hj me and if her mood is good only.:(
Why like that...cant imagine what the logic behind.

[Punter888]

Hi ,

I share the same fate with most of the bros here. After married about 15yrs, my sex life with wife naturally die down..the most is she Hj me and if her mood is good only.:(
Why like that...cant imagine what the logic behind.

Looks like I'm not the only guy in this situation,got to say if good mood after some rubba rubba I will get it if not kana slap on my hand and goes to sleep :D

[beetlebum]

could be no more husband and wife love anymore - maybe because of some serious issues that have occurred and got emotionally hurt so ended us as "husband and wife" in name only.

given the choice, I agree with yuo such guys sure will want to enjoy sex but because of emotional hurt, maybe they rather not have sex with their wives. Maybe the sight of the wives already cause so much hurt to them and what more for sex......

Screw Wife? more like wife screw me.. Some how it end up being a weekly chore.. :mad:

Not sure if all guys want to enjoy sex, maybe its the new trophy thing.. new one sure on, after a while esp with some resentment thrown in.. most of the time not turned on la..

Err who dun get turn on by wife anymore?

[hyashi]

[QUOTE=civiccat;2967085]the day she was borned was the time I stopped having sex with my wife .i.e. 7 years 9 mths ago :eek:
QUOTE]

Brother i feel you.

I can only imagine how you feel after seeing your post about you not having sex with your wife for 2 yrs (7 yrs for your buddy).

Its not a sense of pity anymore, rather its a dissapointment in my own girlfrd. You see we have been cohabitating for 7 yrs now, ever since we have been in uni. spent afew yrs apart as i was in a longer course in australia.

We have had a great sex life. We do it almost every other day whilst we were still in uni. In recent months however, she has been rejecting me almost every time. Sex went from every alternate night to just the weekends because we both started working.

Long story short my headcount is now 2 per week. so 6 in a month because one week menses hit weekend and that week she auto skipped our love making weekend.

If this is b4 marriage i dread to think what would happen after marriage. We have quarreled over this many times and nearly ended it last week. We love each other very much other than this sexual issue, which we just dont have a solution for.

I'm very close to proposing but i just dont know how to solve this problem. Is sexual frequency a good enough reason to end a relationship of 7-8 years? right now i'm thinking it is. In fact she just rejected sex again tonight and thats why i have the time to write this in the middle of the night.

She has explained to me b4 that her work is giving her stress and she has to sleep early. oh pls, so we cant make love earlier? cannot spend 20mins a night to kimochi? I compromise 5 nights a week, she only compromises 2.

I have no idea why i am writing to you also bro. Maybe i am extremely frustrated and have no one else to turn to. Afraid to even consult my closest buddy.

Anyways, you are not alone bro. Even tho i still get some frequency, i seriously think i may end up in your footsteps. And recently because of all the quarrels, i ended up starting to bed some FLs last month. I feel guilty for a moment yes. But it takes 2 hands to clap. I dont feel that i am totally to blame for eating out.

You are not alone bro, you are not alone.

[cremecrm]

Hi ,

I share the same fate with most of the bros here. After married about 15yrs, my sex life with wife naturally die down..the most is she Hj me and if her mood is good only.:(
Why like that...cant imagine what the logic behind.

Me after 15 years of marriage, no sex with her since 4 years ago.At least you got a HJ but for me not even one and asked to sleep in my son room. :(

[HayHot]

Read this from somewhere before.

How important is sex to a marriage ?

1. Very Important ?
-Then make sure your spouse get enough of it.

2. Not Important ?
-Then you shouldn't mind if he/she get it from somewhere else since you already think it is not important in a marriage.

So decide for yourself how important it is to you and act accordingly.

[hyashi]

[QUOTE=hyashi;2969942]

Am married for 21 years with 2 grown up children...

Before marriage and without children, you already cannot tahan going reducing sex time....

How to tahan the 10 month pregnancy period and how to tahan the process of children bearing & daily chores which will cost 101% of your wife's
time & stamina ????

Sorry, hope this is not too hard for you....

You are not ready for love or marriage yet, at least your mind is not....

I think you are right. Will keep my proposal plans shelved for the time being.

Just very dissapointed that us men have to accept type of situation. The government keeps promoting and accouraging us to have more babies. I think the problem isnt with us or the money, the problem is our girls have 0 sex drive.

I've thought of the slogan for their next campaign.

"Shop less, ride more"

[yang punk]

Me after 15 years of marriage, no sex with her since 4 years ago.At least you got a HJ but for me not even one and asked to sleep in my son room. :(

Better start checking up on her movements...she maybe fucking her colleague!

[Real07]

hi all, me a newbie though me not young anymore. Had been married for more than 16 years already but a couple of years back, my wife and I stopped having sex and it happened naturally, not out of resentment, infidelity, third party etc. In short, we are happily married (really)and still are, most of my times are spent with my wife, communicated with her daily, watch DVDs with her and every thing EXCEPT no SEX (I dun have a galfriend on the quiet though I bonk thru samster friend's recommendation of FL) and the beauty of it all is that it happened so naturally if u know what I meant.

It started with - not tonight, me tired then come weekend, many household things to do, tired etc until her menses comes and goes and oh god then I realised... holy shit...it becomes months and years....


Hi Bro Civiccat,

I think we are in the same boat except we only have sex like abt 3-5 months. We had been together for 10 yrs and our activities reduces the moment we got married.

First she said we are staying with my parent scared our parent might hear us. Then when we moved into our new home our activities doesnt improve. Is really like what u mention "It started with... Not tonite, maybe weekend...then weekend too busy or tired after shopping... then few weeks later menses comes and goes... my mood just slowly die off and it become normal if we doesnt have sex....:confused:

So each time my wife will ask me to pcc if I got the urges.. really knn..:mad:

The best part is we are still a lovely couple as at now (Just minus off the sex)...we just discuss it yesterday nite and was puzzle whether are we normal cos we nvr discuss these with any of our friends.

Now my parent think the problem is with me cos after 6 yrs of marriage still got no children... :o

[unsung80]

Hi Bro Civiccat,

I think we are in the same boat except we only have sex like abt 3-5 months. We had been together for 10 yrs and our activities reduces the moment we got married.

First she said we are staying with my parent scared our parent might hear us. Then when we moved into our new home our activities doesnt improve. Is really like what u mention "It started with... Not tonite, maybe weekend...then weekend too busy or tired after shopping... then few weeks later menses comes and goes... my mood just slowly die off and it become normal if we doesnt have sex....:confused:

So each time my wife will ask me to pcc if I got the urges.. really knn..:mad:

The best part is we are still a lovely couple as at now (Just minus off the sex)...we just discuss it yesterday nite and was puzzle whether are we normal cos we nvr discuss these with any of our friends.

Now my parent think the problem is with me cos after 6 yrs of marriage still got no children... :o

Visit Sammyboy forum more often to learn the art of seduction. ;)

[Real07]

Visit Sammyboy forum more often to learn the art of seduction. ;)

I am doing that now, but I doubt she will like it... cos everytime we have sex she will just laid flat like a dead fish and expect me to do all the licking but when ask her to do BBJ for me she just refuse and said is dirty.

I try to propose different style of making love she just refuse and prefer to lay back.... so most of the time our session only last abt 15 mins...:eek:

I had try to have romatic dinner (but she reach home after 9pm), played some jazz music and red wine but still couldnt bring out her sex drive...

Can any bro/sister here gave me more suggestion... else my little brother will die from pcc too much. :o

[williamangkh]

It is depend on how you create a good atmosphere prior to having sex.
I married for more than 12 years and with daugthers but still having it every 3 days and sometime twice a day in the morning and before sleep.

Things to do;

1. buy sexy lingerie for her, especially g-string, see-through bras, etc then ask her to put it on for you in the night before you sleep.

2. See sex movie together.

3. short weekend getaway

4. Ask her to sleep nake

5. Occasionally, bring her along during biz trip.

6. Ocassionally night out to party

Hope this can help the bros out.

My two cents worth!

[jit singapore 1]

Me married 15 years with 2 kids. But still make love with my wife not less than 2 times per week unless she's mense come or we are in sick. We enjoy sex very much even we have 2 kids to busy. Normally at the week end we will ask our parents to help up to take care of 2 our lovely kids for let say 1/2 day or whole day, then we will go somowhere for our so call "二人世界"。We love sex and enjoy sex very much....... my wife is sexy and she know how to seduce me :)

I admit I am not a very faitful husband cos even I have a nice, good, capable and sexy wife but still steal to eat outside food :P You guy like me too?

[3m3m3m]

most of the wives if they really love you (my opinion), they will be very worry if too long time never have sex. my wife will always ask " wah.. almost 1-2 weeks never have sex can tahan meh?" or " so long no sex activities liau...outside makan liau issit thats why nv ask for it?"

so for me boh pian almost every week atleast 1 time lor to avoid the suspisious.. for me,most of the weekend will enjoy it .. as some bro said.. take innitiative lar .. like send short sms like " tonite little dragon will awake" .. or sometime she will send " wash ur bro tonite as will hamtam it kau kau" to me .. so the chemistry must have ..

or sometimes when i enter the room after surfing sbf, when saw her wear sexy lingerie..signal come liau lor as she normal wear tshirt to sleep nia.

:D

[Real07]

Things to do;

1. buy sexy lingerie for her, especially g-string, see-through bras, etc then ask her to put it on for you in the night before you sleep. (Try liao she dont like and mention if you wan ask other woman to wear) :mad:
2. See sex movie together. (We used to do that and have sex but now her sex drive jus went down)

3. short weekend getaway

4. Ask her to sleep nake (Definitely NO NO to her) :(

5. Occasionally, bring her along during biz trip.

6. Ocassionally night out to party (Maybe I shld try this..) :rolleyes:

Hope this can help the bros out.

My two cents worth!

Sometime I wonder is it true woman sex drive will diminished when they get older??? :confused:

[Frankiestine]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

omg 3x a month...u poor thing ur dick must be feeling sore from all the screwing...yea bro believe me yours is the exception rather then the norm...ask around most of us only managed to get to screw our wife once every full moon, some of us only after a few full moons...dun noe why maybe full moon makes them feel hornier...:(:(:(

[Frankiestine]

I would not use the word screw. I would say now is more a regimental duty once a week loh.

bro if sex is liken to regimental duties then i think my wife has gone AWOL for a long time...

[dirtbag_26]

bro 3m,i think your wife is good wife!!!!!!

most of the wives if they really love you (my opinion), they will be very worry if too long time never have sex. my wife will always ask " wah.. almost 1-2 weeks never have sex can tahan meh?" or " so long no sex activities liau...outside makan liau issit thats why nv ask for it?"

:D

[KingBong]

I think guys is 80% physical need, whereas women is 80% psychological need. If still asking "why" after a few years, it means both don't really understand each other. Mostly when a guy needs it, he can shut out other thoughts and just get off, but if a woman is preoccupied with other stuff, she will shut off sexual thoughts. This might start marital problems, even before marriage. So it actually takes effort for both persons if they want to keep the flames going. Need to find out what is the inhibitor (problems or things bothering a person), assuming there isn't any medical problems, and find ways to suppress it before having sex.

[sinfulguy]

Me married 15 years with 2 kids. But still make love with my wife not less than 2 times per week unless she's mense come or we are in sick. We enjoy sex very much even we have 2 kids to busy. Normally at the week end we will ask our parents to help up to take care of 2 our lovely kids for let say 1/2 day or whole day, then we will go somowhere for our so call "二人世界"。We love sex and enjoy sex very much....... my wife is sexy and she know how to seduce me :)

I admit I am not a very faitful husband cos even I have a nice, good, capable and sexy wife but still steal to eat outside food :P You guy like me too?

sounds like me....I am married almost 10 yrs....we hav pretty good sex...but I sometimes still steal to eat outside....

[travelmate4720]

i think most of married men steal eat outside too.i think that life, u cant expect to eat chicken rice everyday right.

[civiccat]

Brother i feel you.....

You are not alone bro, you are not alone.


bro hyashi

Indeed i think u may hv a potential problem on hand and like what bro Budgetcock had said - maybe u are not ready for marriage. U see, other than a marriage certificate on hand, u are in a way already married if u know what i mean. That is how the 7-yr itch comes about.. u see bro, man separate sex and love whilst women tend to see sex as part of love so therefore can curb their desire to have sex when they are emotional distracted say from work stress etc. For us if we dun get our sperm out, sometimes it seems our mental alignment oso a bit off.

Personally I dun think it is a valid reason to call it quit...try to understand the real reason behind it - work stress or she is having someone in mind due to infatuation or affair etc. Sex life after married is definitely not very exciting cos the flame of desire is long gone.... even if she is wearing a new lingerie, u may not even notice.

There are STILL many valid reasons for getting married like companionship or the desire to have kids.... one thing for sure is that all these will definitely oso mean your sex with your spouse will be downtrending but then again there is SBF

nice to hear from u though.


Take care.

point to note.. maybe have a heart to heart no hold back talk with your gf and find out what is the cause....remember sex with wife will eventually be like scratching a place where the itch isnt there anymore :rolleyes::D... just joking..

Courtship>>>> Romance>>>> Sex>>>>> Marriage>>>> Companionship

[civiccat]

I agreed with you and speaking from same angle...

Why complain ??? actually we men are already much more lucky compared to our wife...

Bro Budgetcock, dun get me wrong, I din complain.. just wanna know if it is the norm.



The government keeps promoting and accouraging us to have more babies. I think the problem isnt with us or the money, the problem is our girls have 0 sex drive.

Bro hyashi, it is not true that our girls have 0 sex drive but sometimes u need to appreciate the many roles that our wives have to perform.... a mother, a housekeeper, a daughter in law, a working lady (let alone a career minded one)

Hi Bro Civiccat,

Is really like what u mention "It started with... Not tonite, maybe weekend...then weekend too busy or tired after shopping... then few weeks later menses comes and goes... my mood just slowly die off and it become normal if we doesnt have sex....

So each time my wife will ask me to pcc if I got the urges.. really knn..:mad:

The best part is we are still a lovely couple as at now (Just minus off the sex)...we just discuss it yesterday nite and was puzzle whether are we normal cos we nvr discuss these with any of our friends.

Now my parent think the problem is with me cos after 6 yrs of marriage still got no children... :o

bro, same same here too.... only difference is my parents no longer around to pester me to have kids and neither do I have the intention to have kids..

I am doing that now, but I doubt she will like it... cos everytime we have sex she will just laid flat like a dead fish and expect me to do all the licking but when ask her to do BBJ for me she just refuse and said is dirty.

bro, same same here too. :o


Things to do;

1. buy sexy lingerie for her, especially g-string, see-through bras, etc then ask her to put it on for you in the night before you sleep.

2. See sex movie together.

4. Ask her to sleep nake



bro, point 1 doesnt help cos machiam like playing poker, u know the base card. Point 2 - she refused and called me Tiko DOM & point 4.... she scared of cockroaches and spideys.

Sometime I wonder is it true woman sex drive will diminished when they get older??? :confused:

I heard woman's sex drive increased once after 30 - 35 yrs of age - guess mine was an exception.


I think guys is 80% physical need, whereas women is 80% psychological need. If still asking "why" after a few years, it means both don't really understand each other. Mostly when a guy needs it, he can shut out other thoughts and just get off, but if a woman is preoccupied with other stuff, she will shut off sexual thoughts. This might start marital problems, even before marriage. So it actually takes effort for both persons if they want to keep the flames going. Need to find out what is the inhibitor (problems or things bothering a person), assuming there isn't any medical problems, and find ways to suppress it before having sex.

Bro, concurred fully with what u said.

[ekemono]

Errr.., just a tot.
To all the bros who's wife isn't very interest to have sex, could we not draw her to our attention by making ourselves "wanted" by other gals if we wanted to?

But dun blame me if both of you starts to quarrel hor.. :D

[porcupine]

Errr.., just a tot.
To all the bros who's wife isn't very interest to have sex, could we not draw her to our attention by making ourselves "wanted" by other gals if we wanted to?

But dun blame me if both of you starts to quarrel hor.. :D

bro ekemono, i think it is a damn lousy idea. Hope u are just joking cos really dun think it will work. Nevertheless, I think another idea may be to give ourselves a makeover cos most of the time maybe we may have pot bellies and with receding hair etc.... ask yourself if not for the dole, will FLs let us bonk them, let alone our wives.


Just my humble porcupine opinion only.

[loster]

I am doing that now, but I doubt she will like it... cos everytime we have sex she will just laid flat like a dead fish and expect me to do all the licking but when ask her to do BBJ for me she just refuse and said is dirty.

I try to propose different style of making love she just refuse and prefer to lay back.... so most of the time our session only last abt 15 mins...:eek:

I had try to have romatic dinner (but she reach home after 9pm), played some jazz music and red wine but still couldnt bring out her sex drive...

Can any bro/sister here gave me more suggestion... else my little brother will die from pcc too much. :o

Bro, I am in the same boat with you. Very sad sometimes.

[humpcheepang]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

You are so lucky bro.

Sometimes, 3-4 times in a year!!! ;)

That's why must eat outside, and the PRCs are GOD SENT!

[HayHot]

Bro, I am in the same boat with you. Very sad sometimes.

Well... appearently to your wife, sex is not an important component of marriage. In that case since it's not important, she won't mind u screwing outside i presume.

[humpcheepang]

.......but when ask her to do BBJ for me she just refuse and said is dirty.........I had try to have romatic dinner (but she reach home after 9pm), played some jazz music and red wine but still couldnt bring out her sex drive......else my little brother will die from pcc too much. :o

Bro, need not PCC too frequent, just look fo PRCs. Just a difference in the letter, PCC Vs PRC, but it makes hell lot of difference!!!

Maybe, try buying her a diamond....

Things will get worse after you do have a kid.

[jay75j]

[QUOTE=hyashi;2969942]

Am married for 21 years with 2 grown up children...

Before marriage and without children, you already cannot tahan going reducing sex time....

How to tahan the 10 month pregnancy period and how to tahan the process of children bearing & daily chores which will cost 101% of your wife's
time & stamina ????

Sorry, hope this is not too hard for you....

You are not ready for love or marriage yet, at least your mind is not....

Sori bro but i can't agree at all. i think this issue goes back to the issue of singapore women. there's been a lot of say about singaporean women being demanding dun wanna compromise and having a mentality that they are worth their weight in gold which i find is completely thru, they think too much of themselves and are unwilling to compromise and they have the women's charter to protect them. It just that singapore men have just come to accept it but i dun think it should be right. Why is it that singapore men have to endure the lack of sex when its a biological need? whether its a bastard mentality or not it think it the logical expectation that most of us find it elsewhere.

to the bro who thinks that his gf is already not giving him enuff before marriage i would say be prepared its going to get worse and my suggestion really is you need to consider other options. Sex is an integral part of a man's life and like all women who are looking for reliablity, good personality etc in a life partner, i believe men should cite sexual compatibility as a key criteria.

[Real07]

[QUOTE=civiccat;2972275]

bro, same same here too.... only difference is my parents no longer around to pester me to have kids and neither do I have the intention to have kids..

bro, same same here too. :o

bro, point 1 doesnt help cos machiam like playing poker, u know the base card. Point 2 - she refused and called me Tiko DOM & point 4.... she scared of cockroaches and spideys.



I heard woman's sex drive increased once after 30 - 35 yrs of age - guess mine was an exception.
Wah Bro I do notice our wifey do have alot in common... think we share the same fate...

So how do u settle the urge??? :confused:

[Real07]

Bro, need not PCC too frequent, just look fo PRCs. Just a difference in the letter, PCC Vs PRC, but it makes hell lot of difference!!!

Maybe, try buying her a diamond....

Things will get worse after you do have a kid.

I think maybe the problem come from me... cos my wife alway complaint I am not gentle enough... I alway act like Hungry Ghost.... maybe I tahan too long just cant wait to release bah.. :D

[tendersex]

The answer is: not often, maybe once a month or even less. And is often wife-initiated. Don't know why, but I just lost interest. Not that she is no longer attractive. Not that I don't love her anymore. I think the excitement has long gone, and I don't know how to get it up again. We still enjoy doing other things together, such as going for movies or gym, but sex is at the bottom of my list. She even suspected that it is due to impotence. But I know it's more psychological. I need some excitement to stimulate me. Recently, I took interest in a secretary who just joined my company. She is 2 years older than my wife. Maybe not even as pretty. Looks a bit jaded, but nice slim figure. She and her husband not on good terms. Me and her can click well, but now is too early to say whether will develop into anything. When we are together, she likes to touch my arms on and off. It's a bit of flirting and I am turned on by it. If I have a chance to bonk her, mine will surely be as hard as a rock even without having bj or hj. So am I impotent? No. I just want some excitement, not the old routine. Also, the thrill of having an affair with a married woman is hard to resist. Wow, has poison entered my brain or what!

[CUM2ME]

Brother i feel you.

I can only imagine how you feel after seeing your post about you not having sex with your wife for 2 yrs (7 yrs for your buddy).

Its not a sense of pity anymore, rather its a dissapointment in my own girlfrd. You see we have been cohabitating for 7 yrs now, ever since we have been in uni. spent afew yrs apart as i was in a longer course in australia..... -truncated-
You are not alone bro, you are not alone.

Bro hyashi and civiccat,
My situation is similar... Early days of courtship, we could bonk almost anytime and anywhere when there is an opportunity.

Went overseas to study, kept junior under lock and key, once in a while polishing it. Only came out when she comes to visit me during my Uni Days.

I would presume for newly weds, it may be common to do it every alternate day. Even if it is everyday, I would not be surprised. After marriage, only like once or twice a week.

Soon after she became pregnant, totally stopped. Even wrote an edict and send me to the "Cold Palace", as my snoring is keeping her awake.

It has been several years after my child is born. Me still staying in the Cold palace...

Psychologically sexually deprived,... sometimes I am worried I may become a sex perv. Luckily, during my reservist this year, someone intro SBF to me... :D

Was quite unhappy and fought a lot during our 1st year of marriage.

Sigh,... You know its like I am being starved,... Dun let me eat,.. nebbe mind,... At least let me go out to eat... You dun let me go out to eat, and expect me to eat myself whenever I am hungry,... She does not let me eat out, and expect me to eat myself.... I "Tarh Pow" back then you know,... in fact, that was exactly what I did....

Maybe should start a new thread to share the story.

[CUM2ME]

I agreed with you and speaking from same angle...

Love includes understanding both parties, between husband & wife....

Love includes friendship, kinship between husband & wife...

There is no straight and forward rules that H/W must do sex how many times a week / a month...

Why complain ??? actually we men are already much more lucky compared to our wife...

Ay least we still have Geylang to settle our own urge....

Going to Geylang... you know, that thought did cross my mind... Many times, in fact... but just can't get myself to do it,...

As I mentioned in another thread, Sex and making love are totally different... SEX, there is no emotion in it during the act... We may have the GFE effect, but after that, emotionally will feel even more empty...

It is like suffering from withdrawal symptoms, only thing is, this is almost immediate when your 1 hr or 2 hrs is up.:o

[civiccat]

Wah Bro I do notice our wifey do have alot in common... think we share the same fate...

So how do u settle the urge??? :confused:


FL, Tuina & PCC :o

;)

[poipoi_81]

the stories most bros shared here, makes things after marriage sound really scary. I believe most sg gals out there can live all their life as a virgin, no problem.

[Darkstorm]

Sigh,... You know its like I am being starved,... Dun let me eat,.. nebbe mind,... At least let me go out to eat... You dun let me go out to eat, and expect me to eat myself whenever I am hungry,... She does not let me eat out, and expect me to eat myself.... I "Tarh Pow" back then you know,... in fact, that was exactly what I did....

Maybe should start a new thread to share the story.

Please share your story.

[Darkstorm]

[QUOTE=civiccat;2967085]

I have no idea why i am writing to you also bro. Maybe i am extremely frustrated and have no one else to turn to. Afraid to even consult my closest buddy.



You have my sympathies. I hope you find a solution soon with your girlfriend.

[Monkey4]

the stories most bros shared here, makes things after marriage sound really scary. I believe most sg gals out there can live all their life as a virgin, no problem.

brother, hope SEX is not your only reason for marriage. Whatever were penned out here and the post especially written by bro civiccat coincidentally is what I am experiencing too. I am still happily married though it could be better if I got more entitlements from OC but really apart from SEX, I am really happily married though recently I have gone into FLs more regularly cos really embarrasing for a monkey my age to PCC.

Marriage involved love, commitment and companionship especially in the later stages in life.... especially when u are about to have your last breadth, do u think u will still reminiscing the best BBBJ u ever gotten or trying to gulp your last breadth and thank your wife for having travel the journey (at times difficult) of life with u.

Just my humble opinion..... u cant have everything but then u have SBF.:cool:

PS : Remember....during the most difficult phases in one life, usually it is the spouse (of course got exception) that helps to make the journey more tolerable.

[sixnine696900]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

once in a month.

[Real07]

Sigh,... You know its like I am being starved,... Dun let me eat,.. nebbe mind,... At least let me go out to eat... You dun let me go out to eat, and expect me to eat myself whenever I am hungry,... She does not let me eat out, and expect me to eat myself.... I "Tarh Pow" back then you know,... in fact, that was exactly what I did....

Maybe should start a new thread to share the story.

Yo Bro can share ur story with us so that me can learn some from u.. :D

[Real07]

the stories most bros shared here, makes things after marriage sound really scary. I believe most sg gals out there can live all their life as a virgin, no problem.

U are so bloody true... I got one whole bunch of female friends who are all single and I think they are still virgin....(Age : Coming to 30+) But again these is not what they choose to be as u can see there are more Female than Male in Sillypore so we guys must do more community works to satisfy more woman... :D:D:D

[Finders Keepers]

Haha, alot of gers are no longer virgin ... they kena deflower liao, but just act as though they still virgin ...

[Frankiestine]

bro ekemono, i think it is a damn lousy idea. Hope u are just joking cos really dun think it will work.

women they are a damn selfish lot, they refuse to provide you with the sexual needs and yet kpkb if you outsource your needs...:mad::mad::mad:

[3m3m3m]

women they are a damn selfish lot, they refuse to provide you with the sexual needs and yet kpkb if you outsource your needs...:mad::mad::mad:

haha... bro .. totally agree with u .. :p

thks bro geniues for your precious ... i mean point !!

[Fook-me]

once in a month.

Me too.........once a month with my wife and all other days with FLs.

[hyashi]

to the bro who thinks that his gf is already not giving him enuff before marriage i would say be prepared its going to get worse and my suggestion really is you need to consider other options. Sex is an integral part of a man's life and like all women who are looking for reliablity, good personality etc in a life partner, i believe men should cite sexual compatibility as a key criteria.

I have thought looong and hard about it. (not refering to my small head hor)

Sexual compatibility is really high on my list in finding a life partner. Maybe i am still quite immature, but to think that she loves me but will not make love to me physically makes me feel that she is being selfish. She even sleeps nude but doesnt allow me to touch her some nights. I've lost count the number of times i toss n turn around in frustration.

If we make love to each other twice a week. In general that means she is sacrificing roughly 30% of her nights while i am sacrificing 70%. Where is that fair? for bros like civiccat, you guys may chide me and say that is already a heavenly frequency compared to your own situation. But like i said we are still dating and the road is long ahead of us, it will probably decline in time and who knows when i will find myself in your shoes.

On the other hand, she has been the gem of my life so far. Every day seems brighter with her around and i just cannot imagine if i lose her one day. I love every inch of her, her beauty, her flaws. The only stumbling block in our relationship is sexual compatibility. I've tried to tell myself i am really a no good cad for cheating on her recently and that she is already accomodating and trying her best.

Which is why i'm hard at work and hoping to earn enough so that she can sit at home and be a tai tai hehe (cos one of the reasons she gave was that she was very stressed at work). Failing which i guess i just have to bring her on more holidays, so that at least we take a break and have a sex romp overseas or something.

I cant stand her attitude towards sex, but we've grown together so much over the years. Truely my soulmate.

[passionman_sg]

Perhaps when the thread started by using the word "Screw", it's already a flaw.

Coined either F**king or screwing my wife, or Making love to my wife probably starts with the mentality. Screwing is pure lust, to satisfy your sexual hunger and may ignore her needs, making love is a more sensual way of telling your woman how much you love her and satisfying her, while yourself being satisfied in return!

Alternating between both just might spice up your life, it might work wonders!

Passionman_sg

[hyashi]

Soon after she became pregnant, totally stopped. Even wrote an edict and send me to the "Cold Palace", as my snoring is keeping her awake.

It has been several years after my child is born. Me still staying in the Cold palace...

Psychologically sexually deprived,... sometimes I am worried I may become a sex perv. Luckily, during my reservist this year, someone intro SBF to me... :D

Was quite unhappy and fought a lot during our 1st year of marriage.



Bro Cum2me

You have my sympathies, your situation is exactly what my deepest fears are. I can already sense that my relationship with my girlfrd is heading towards that direction.

I hope that all brothers can find inner peace in FLs and this forum. Of course in a perfect utopia we would all be raped by our OCs 24/7 and we will be too exhausted to eat out. :D

But thats never going to happen will it?

[tryherout]

Bro Cum2me

I hope that all brothers can find inner peace in FLs and this forum. Of course in a perfect utopia we would all be raped by our OCs 24/7 and we will be too exhausted to eat out. :D

But thats never going to happen will it?

Do u think u will be raped 24/7? Bro, u have a far way to learn and grow. Perhaps, both of your perspectives had changed since she is working. There are different needs and priorities for her, these compelled by your sexual needs stretched her anxiety over having making out with you.

You have just lost the key. Find it.

[rapier1978]

well i believe most of the bro here have the same experience.

Before marry we will be enjoying the best sex from our GF, it can be sometime every night she will want to have sex. But things change once she signed on the line. Sex will be lesser and lesser till almost zero. Excuse will be tired, stress, housework.. Dun we guys have the same stress too??

if you eat outside they will blame us for not following the Vows... Sigh....

[Clit_LickeR]

How often do i Screw my wife? Good question indeed..
Wanna know the truth?
I swear to god, everyday 6 times at least... verbally that is! :rolleyes::eek::D

Cheers!

[hihiguy]

The answer is: not often, maybe once a month or even less. And is often wife-initiated. Don't know why, but I just lost interest. Not that she is no longer attractive. Not that I don't love her anymore. I think the excitement has long gone, and I don't know how to get it up again. We still enjoy doing other things together, such as going for movies or gym, but sex is at the bottom of my list. She even suspected that it is due to impotence. But I know it's more psychological. I need some excitement to stimulate me. Recently, I took interest in a secretary who just joined my company. She is 2 years older than my wife. Maybe not even as pretty. Looks a bit jaded, but nice slim figure. She and her husband not on good terms. Me and her can click well, but now is too early to say whether will develop into anything. When we are together, she likes to touch my arms on and off. It's a bit of flirting and I am turned on by it. If I have a chance to bonk her, mine will surely be as hard as a rock even without having bj or hj. So am I impotent? No. I just want some excitement, not the old routine. Also, the thrill of having an affair with a married woman is hard to resist. Wow, has poison entered my brain or what!

Bro im having the same situation as you. Haiz.
Sometimes don know how to explain also... just need to try get the feeling back bah i guess....

its all abt the mind or rather guys' mind.
We need constant excitement to keep our small bro up up and awayyyy.......

[aakumu]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

Hi bro,
I do have sex with my wife but make love to her, have great with those Geylang girls.

My humble two cents.

[civiccat]

Where is that fair? for bros like civiccat, you guys may chide me and say that is already a heavenly frequency compared to your own situation. But like i said we are still dating and the road is long ahead of us, it will probably decline in time and who knows when i will find myself in your shoes.

I cant stand her attitude towards sex, but we've grown together so much over the years. Truely my soulmate.


bro hyashi, i am in no position to chide u and IMHO, sex isnt everything in a marriage.

Do u think u will be raped 24/7? Bro, u have a far way to learn and grow. Perhaps, both of your perspectives had changed since she is working. There are different needs and priorities for her, these compelled by your sexual needs stretched her anxiety over having making out with you.

You have just lost the key. Find it.

bro tryherout, I concurred with u.

[CUM2ME]

Yo Bro can share ur story with us so that me can learn some from u.. :D

I Still thinking... a bit scared,.. coz after reading all the other bro's sexcapades, wah,... super skill... Will consider,...

I'm just an ordinary guy in sg... There are many other bro's here who are more skillful...

[CUM2ME]

Bro Cum2me

I hope that all brothers can find inner peace in FLs and this forum. Of course in a perfect utopia we would all be raped by our OCs 24/7 and we will be too exhausted to eat out. :D

But thats never going to happen will it?

Hahaa... that is like 7-11... There are a couple of things that will happen... our cocks will be really sore,... :p and our legs will be really weak.

You know,... marriage isn't really about just making love. But, as a guy, I consider it quite important in the early stages of marriage. Every night I think also can,... haha;)

I know some bro may not fully agree,... But my primal reasoning is over ruling it...

[mercifullouis]

i seldom fuck her as she not alway want it. but when really do it she make it a gd one. and she like to make nude photo...

[loster]

i agree to some extent that i can no longer erect in front of her but to other girls, i m very easily aroused. mayb the same routine bored me out already. she is always so concerned about cleaniness that I can't even kiss or finger her. i feel very depressed.

[beetlebum]

Hahaa... that is like 7-11... There are a couple of things that will happen... our cocks will be really sore,... :p and our legs will be really weak.

You know,... marriage isn't really about just making love. But, as a guy, I consider it quite important in the early stages of marriage. Every night I think also can,... haha;)

I know some bro may not fully agree,... But my primal reasoning is over ruling it...
Sorry, i think should be early part of the relationship... cos nowadays, er, how many bros do not jiat before marriage?

Somehow, by the time get married, already no freshness... mho only

[hyashi]

[QUOTE=civiccat;2975117]bro hyashi, i am in no position to chide u and IMHO, sex isnt everything in a marriage. QUOTE]

No lar bro civiccat, i truely appreciate your comments. I'm not married yet, but would love all you senior bros advice.

So what now? How do we move forward?

I have had numerous heart to heart talks with her, tried to convince her to change her mindset, tried more foreplay, tried to take her out more often to destress her, tried buying a toy to help the excitement.

But alas the replies i get from her are still the same; tired, not tonight pls, i dun like sex toys, i just dont have any sex drive, I'm stressed from work.... etc.

The more i think about it, the more i am resigning to my fate. I just know that 1-2 more years down the road, i will just be getting it every alternate saturdays, then down to every alternate months, and eventually just die off.

last time we had sex was last saturday night followed by sunday morning. Havent 'disturbed' her since, becos well... I know what her answer will be, and i do not wish to further strain our relationship.

Oh ya her signs of menses coming again and usually take a week to clear(yes extra long) so probably have to wait around next next weekend b4 we kimochi :(

[Real07]

I Still thinking... a bit scared,.. coz after reading all the other bro's sexcapades, wah,... super skill... Will consider,...

I'm just an ordinary guy in sg... There are many other bro's here who are more skillful...
Hee...hee... no problem Practise make perfect!!! :D

I will sure camp over at ur new site.

Cheers!

[Bangster]

i agree to some extent that i can no longer erect in front of her but to other girls, i m very easily aroused. mayb the same routine bored me out already. she is always so concerned about cleaniness that I can't even kiss or finger her. i feel very depressed.

Hi Bro Loster, I sympathise with what you've written.

I may not be the best giver of advice here, nonetheless I would like to offer a few suggestions and food for thought.

My wife is very preoccupied with certain cleanliness too, eg no other items to be put on the bed due to 'pollution by dust', and I must wash my arms, elbows and hands when I come home after eating out at hawker centres, coffeeshops etc, and my feet everytime I come home.

I've grown to accept these demands, partly because I've made myself to believe there is a certain amount of reasonable truth to her demands. So, in the very first place, can you ascertain you are a hygenically clean person? Sorry to intrude, but I also understand we guys are sometimes like that dirty dog in the backyard. I am not expecting you to follow what I practise, but would you at least gauge yourself to be a reasonably clean person?

When you mentioned you have absolutely no problems erecting before other girls, it should mean you are physically healthy on the sexual front. The cause of your failure to erect before your wife may be the running of the same old routine, as mentioned by you. Why not take heed of the advice thrown by some bros here to SPICE up your sex life with her? Kinky lingerie, romantic dinner, a private getaway over a long weekend, sexy sms'es thru out the whole day. I mean these may not be a one-time cure but then again, where got one-time cure one??

Many of us here who are married have wives who are also working full-time, if not extra-time! It is no simple feat to juggle work, kids and household chores. Try that on yourself and you will fully understand the workload of our women. Share some of the chores, and make her a good meal. Sometimes for good things to happen, it starts from us. Likewise with expecting people to treat us with courtesy, we have to approach them politely for a start.

I hope I'm not too kaypoh with my words. Just hope you have a better sex life with your wife.

Cheers, bud.

[crazedsinner]

actually i feel that the biggest factor is that singaporeans couple are too couped up with their work...and adding on 2 domestic chores and personal commitments, sex might be the last thing on the wife's mind. most women here actually hope that the guys help out in the chores or something, so that when they reach home, the place will be neat and tidy instead of being cluttered, thus clearing their mind.

and when they feel relaxed, u know wad to do next. enjoy!

[benxmanda]

It is your responsibility and also your wife’s to ensure the spark between both of you is still very much alive.

The fact that you are willing to make this woman as your wife and share with your life proves that you do desire her in one way or another.

If your wife doesn’t like it, makes her does, unless you are bored which I think is just another excuse to “eat out”.

I consider myself a very lucky man as I married a wonderful wifey in terms of looks, body and many other aspects. She exercises consistently to keep her figure very much in shape and have became quite adventurous lately in terms of dressing.

The longest streak is about 20 days plus and we have to stop as her aunt has to visit her once a month.

I think the lady also has to contribute to maintain the spark and to remain sexually attractive to her hubby, it takes two to tango.

Guys, why don’t you take the initiatives to ask your wife to exercise, to be more daring (only to you), etc., so that both of you can go back to the good old days.

For me and my wife, one week about 10 times, so 1 month about 40 times and 1 year about 480 times which is more than 1 time per day.

How is that possible? Monday to Friday, morning 1 time before work, after work at night very tire so less, may be 1 time only in a week, Saturday morning 1 time, afternoon 1 time and evening 1 time when we bath together, surprisingly Saturday night we don’t do that much.

Sunday is also like Saturday. On business trips, I will call her and we talk humsup stuff.

And another thing, sleep well, eat well and normal exercise maybe twice a week the rest sexercise lah.

Last but not least, take 2 tongkat ali ginseng pills a day after lunch.

[axeman24]

Just an interlude to share :D

Husband Store

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs
She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.'
So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.
'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!'
St ill, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE:

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.

[nk7610]

Just an interlude to share :D

Husband Store

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs
She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.'
So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.
'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!'
St ill, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE:

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.



nice one. while i am reading till the third floor portion, i more or less guessed the outcome. SG gers really need to relook at what they r looking for

[topcook1]

During my late 20s, i've a FB for 3-4 yrs, we screw everyday...whatever pattern , style we have explore most. After 15 years we parted, i realise good fucking partners r hard to come by:)

Till now, i only get to screw my wife once every 1-2 months...damn the spark isn't there.

Currently into my 7 years of marriage life. I only get to make love with her approx once a month due to no much sparks. Initially into the marriage I screwed her almost everyday however after lots of conflicts our passion has die off... Is it a tragedy???

[KingBong]

Actually the act of mating is mainly for reproduction, so if that mission is complete, technically there is no need to do it liao. Watched some documentary and seems like humans are the only species that do it for pleasure :eek:

[zenarc]

Currently into my 7 years of marriage life. I only get to make love with her approx once a month due to no much sparks. Initially into the marriage I screwed her almost everyday however after lots of conflicts our passion has die off... Is it a tragedy???

Bro Topcook1,
Hope it will not end as a tragedy... try to work out yr marriage again. A saved marriage is cheaper than a divorce case. Wish u well...:)

[tomcat99]

Currently into my 7 years of marriage life. I only get to make love with her approx once a month due to no much sparks. Initially into the marriage I screwed her almost everyday however after lots of conflicts our passion has die off... Is it a tragedy???

You're lucky bro, I've not touch my wife for 6 months and she is still having the thinking that its her f**king rights.

[Mr Canon]

You're lucky bro, I've not touch my wife for 6 months and she is still having the thinking that its her f**king rights.

Then I'm worst, I don't remember touching my wife since the year turns 2008.

[humpcheepang]

Then I'm worst, I don't remember touching my wife since the year turns 2008.

Never know that quite a number of bros here are suffering from this same marriage 'sex-mishap', but of course there are some lucky ones such as Bro Benxmanda. To maintain the spark, you need some good old chemistry and need both parties to commit. It's not only due to stress, tired out after work, kids to take care.....but due to some conflicts and misunderstandings, things just got worse and you do not want each other physically! Who wants to
f88k a nagging old heck (even though she maybe lao chio), pulling a long face, and unhappy with you all this while........:mad:

Better to PCC or eat outside (if no choice)......

[BatistaSG]

I ever came across a friend's wife who told him off that she don't enjoy sex at all. She had sex previously just for the purpose of making babies.

[maulsith]

ha..i think its fated for me..courtship..everynight,ROM everynight,1st child..every week,2nd child,hmm.once per 3 months..haiz..

[lovesex]

I normally have sex with my wife 2 time a week.But got to depend on my mood

[Pak_Chew_Cheng]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

Me about the same or less.

But me release mostly by commercial sex and sometimes complemented by pak chew cheng. :D

[loster]

Hi Bro Bangster,

Thanks for the advice, I understand wifey reasons for doing so and is slowly following her orders already. But the main problem in our relationship is i still cannot sextisfy her. I try looking for all ways and means but I still can't do it. I am feeling so helpless about it:(

[Neighbour]

I try to keep it once a week but a lot of time, it didn't happen due to some reasons.

One of those reasons is bonk too muich in GL.

[KingBong]

This is a classic case of quality and not quantity that counts. Everyday do but over in 2 mins also no power. However, do note that everyone is different, and some gals come fast and after that they don't want it anymore. Whereas others simply love multiple orgasms and they cannot get enough one.

[David_Ginola]

This is a classic case of quality and not quantity that counts. Everyday do but over in 2 mins also no power. However, do note that everyone is different, and some gals come fast and after that they don't want it anymore. Whereas others simply love multiple orgasms and they cannot get enough one.

Yeah got to agree no more..........Quality is very important....hehe:)

[civiccat]

I may not be the best giver of advice here, nonetheless I would like to offer a few suggestions and food for thought.

Many of us here who are married have wives who are also working full-time, if not extra-time! It is no simple feat to juggle work, kids and household chores. Try that on yourself and you will fully understand the workload of our women. Share some of the chores, and make her a good meal. Sometimes for good things to happen, it starts from us. Likewise with expecting people to treat us with courtesy, we have to approach them politely for a start.

I hope I'm not too kaypoh with my words. Just hope you have a better sex life with your wife.

Cheers, bud.

actually i feel that the biggest factor is that singaporeans couple are too couped up with their work...and adding on 2 domestic chores and personal commitments, sex might be the last thing on the wife's mind. most women here actually hope that the guys help out in the chores or something, so that when they reach home, the place will be neat and tidy instead of being cluttered, thus clearing their mind.

and when they feel relaxed, u know wad to do next. enjoy!


Bros, I got help my wife leh but still din get my entitlements. Also sometimes, after helping too tired and sweaty to even think about PCC liao :(


Then I'm worst, I don't remember touching my wife since the year turns 2008.

bro Mr Canon... at least yours is 2008.... but mine is since 200x ( i really cannot remember the digit liao) :(

[silver75]

Is most of you all, your wife is Singaporean ? Singaporean girl is fuckable during school time. They are really sex active at that age, after they marry & go to work, better dun't touch them. Get a PRC, Thai or any other country girl is better to be your wife . Spore aunt only complain & complain.

[Monkey4]

Just an interlude to share :D

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.


bro axeman24, nice interlude...and btw are u the one i met ytd at la kopi session ?

may i suggest the third floor to have BBBJ

fourth floor to have CIM

and fifth floor to have errr... AJ :D

[TheGreatOne]

i should be very lucky..

i got screwed almost every other night...

orally though. (not BJ)

"Drunk again!!!"

"You might as well don't come home!!!"

and the list goes on...

[axeman24]

bro axeman24, nice interlude...and btw are u the one i met ytd at la kopi session ?

may i suggest the third floor to have BBBJ

fourth floor to have CIM

and fifth floor to have errr... AJ :D

Hahahahah there is only one and only axeman24 that you met yesterday

Frankly, for us men great sex means a combination of BBBJ, AR and lots of position so guess we don't need 3rd, 4th and 5th flr :D

[Batobus]

I make love with my wife 4 times a month

I make love with my FB 4 times a month

I make love with FL 8 times a month

I'm exhausted old man :D:p:eek:

[Monkey4]

Hahahahah there is only one and only axeman24 that you met yesterday

Frankly, for us men great sex means a combination of BBBJ, AR and lots of position so guess we don't need 3rd, 4th and 5th flr :D


bro axeman24...err but my wifey machiam on basement 1 - sigh - that why u see me monkey always daily diligently at GL mah...

;):D

[tomcat99]

Never know that quite a number of bros here are suffering from this same marriage 'sex-mishap', but of course there are some lucky ones such as Bro Benxmanda. To maintain the spark, you need some good old chemistry and need both parties to commit. It's not only due to stress, tired out after work, kids to take care.....but due to some conflicts and misunderstandings, things just got worse and you do not want each other physically! Who wants to
f88k a nagging old heck (even though she maybe lao chio), pulling a long face, and unhappy with you all this while........:mad:

Better to PCC or eat outside (if no choice)......

Fully agree with you bro, but its not just a matter of the misunderstandings and conflicts. Its also a matter of women being the pettest creature on earth and can do no wrong.

[tungsten]

Hahaha... Happy and sad when I read through the postings...

Happy that I am not the only one ...

Sad that I am not the only one too ....

[JJjumper]

I make love with my wife 4 times a month

I make love with my FB 4 times a month

I make love with FL 8 times a month

I'm exhausted old man :D:p:eek:

me 2 - 6 - 8

also an exhausted old man, minus the money too

[civiccat]

I make love with my wife 4 times a month

I make love with my FB 4 times a month

I make love with FL 8 times a month

I'm exhausted old man :D:p:eek:


bro Batobus,

FB is what ? may i ask :confused:

i newbie dunno what it meant really ? foc or ons ?

thanks

[LittleBoy25]

I married my OC for the sake of my son. We only make love twice in the space of 18 months, not lasting more than 5 mins each time. Is this considered pitiful too ?

[Bangster]

Just curious - has any bros here tried, or are still going thru sex counselling?

Does it help? Will you recommend to those bros who are having married sex problems?

What are the sessions like during the therapy?

-----------------------------------------
Bro Civiccat,

FB is fuck buddy.

[SiberianTiger]

Perhaps when the thread started by using the word "Screw", it's already a flaw.

Coined either F**king or screwing my wife, or Making love to my wife probably starts with the mentality. Screwing is pure lust, to satisfy your sexual hunger and may ignore her needs, making love is a more sensual way of telling your woman how much you love her and satisfying her, while yourself being satisfied in return!

Alternating between both just might spice up your life, it might work wonders!

Passionman_sg

u got a valid point which many men hv failed to see. to a man, sex is just a release but to a woman it is more than that.

so, if a man (generally lump f**king and making love as the same thing) said "i want to f**k u" it will be a turn-off to a woman. it is like sayg "honey, pass me the dililo cos i dont need yr stick shift". :p

[ahbengsony]

actually i feel that the biggest factor is that singaporeans couple are too couped up with their work...and adding on 2 domestic chores and personal commitments, sex might be the last thing on the wife's mind. most women here actually hope that the guys help out in the chores or something, so that when they reach home, the place will be neat and tidy instead of being cluttered, thus clearing their mind.
and when they feel relaxed, u know wad to do next. enjoy!
-----
Bro, gotten 2 maids and house is also neat as i am a cleaniness freak... yeah, she will be relax and start to watch those fucking hkg and korean drama and if still not tired...... off she goes to facebook for pop pie... and times up.... sleep.... remark " dont like that, tmr is a working day" and starts snoring away....... so dont agreed with yr statement . sorry bro....

[69monster]

singapore is too stress to find time to have sex..

[civiccat]

Just curious - has any bros here tried, or are still going thru sex counselling?

Does it help? Will you recommend to those bros who are having married sex problems?

What are the sessions like during the therapy?

-----------------------------------------
Bro Civiccat,

FB is fuck buddy.


thanks bro Bangster.

Personally, me never thought of going to sex counselling cos din even talk to wife on this as she deemed unnecessary to even talk about it let alone going for counselling. :mad:


singapore is too stress to find time to have sex..

bro teletubby, i dun agree leh... sex can be over quite fast but make love err... take a long time :rolleyes::D

[Frankiestine]

I make love with my wife 4 times a month
I make love with my FB 4 times a month
I make love with FL 8 times a month
I'm exhausted old man

dude u dun sound like a exhausted old man.....from the looks of it you are one horny old man....:D:D

[hyashi]

-----
Bro, gotten 2 maids and house is also neat as i am a cleaniness freak... yeah, she will be relax and start to watch those fucking hkg and korean drama and if still not tired...... off she goes to facebook for pop pie... and times up.... sleep.... remark " dont like that, tmr is a working day" and starts snoring away....... so dont agreed with yr statement . sorry bro....

Same here bro.

When we sleep its always 'very tired le, pls let me off'. Very standard answer be it 12am, 11pm, 10pm or earlier. If you have the entire evening to surf the net, watch tv, etc etc, you dont have 20mins to spend making love to your guy?

To me its pure nonsense, enough is enough.

[axeman24]

bro axeman24...err but my wifey machiam on basement 1 - sigh - that why u see me monkey always daily diligently at GL mah...

;):D

Hahahaha bro you are not alone thats why a lot of guys go out to look for FB, FL and flings just to fulfill the urge.

[hotsoup16]

I think based on 2 yrs ago survey done by durex, Singapore was rated 1 of the lowest sex ration country per year. The highest is coming from U.S.A witha avg of 150 times per couple per year

[David_Ginola]

I think based on 2 yrs ago survey done by durex, Singapore was rated 1 of the lowest sex ration country per year. The highest is coming from U.S.A witha avg of 150 times per couple per year

Bro, ths stats show this way, cos we always must work for the family, and need to work so can go find FL....etc.....:D

[69monster]

but need energy also.. go back home already tired..

bro teletubby, i dun agree leh... sex can be over quite fast but make love err... take a long time :rolleyes::D

[spidey69]

for ahpek, it would be about once every alternate day..:D

if she has her way, wifey would do it daily ( except that few days of cos ).. she has got a high sex drive.. only ahpek now little older, sex drive not so high liao, thus can only do every alternate day..:p

[mini_me]

My wife screws me 4 times a day.

Wake up, screw me for leaving the toilet seat up.
Lunchtime screw me for being late.
Back home, she screws me for leaving my dirty laundry all over the floor.
Finally at night if I'm lucky and she has no headache, she lets me screws her. :D

[lam1673]

I think I am lucky. I still have sex with my wife average twice a week or more depending on her mode.

There was a dark period when we never had sex for 9 months. My wife went to some mild depression because she felt I am not loving & caring anymore. Fortunately we both make efforts to patch things up.

Actually my wife is still attractive & sexy now but I still do not understand why I still occasionally eat out even through those FL were not really more attractive than my wife.

But I still missed the early days of our marriage before having kids that we almost had sex every night and sometimes in the morning before we went to work. We used to sleep and walked around naked for comfort and the convenience of sex but not now as our kids have grown up.

[wala]

Come to think of it, the frequency really reduced as the years past. Getting old? Or just find it become too routine? That's why need to eat out once awhile, feel guilty abit then work harder at home :D

[Frankiestine]

I think based on 2 yrs ago survey done by durex, Singapore was rated 1 of the lowest sex ration country per year. The highest is coming from U.S.A witha avg of 150 times per couple per year

i think the survey was done with the wrong group, just take a look at GL and anyone will know that it is flawed...

[hotsoup16]

i think the survey was done with the wrong group, just take a look at GL and anyone will know that it is flawed...

bro,
haha. sorry for the missing info. The "couple" refers to married and E.C.A not included:D

Like that people also 1 2 zap me. :mad:

[meganfox]

I was introduced to this forum by a gf and i would like to share my thoughts with all the men here...

I'm a married woman in my early 30s with 2 kids. About 9 years ago, i found out that he was sleeping with the ktv and health club girls. We had a huge fight and i chose to forgive him, a good and responsible father. But of coz, forgetting is hard. We talked things thru' and he told me it was just curiosity and lust, nothing to do with me. Still, i put up a brave front and act as if nothing has happened. For the sake of the kids, I'm still the same considerate and happy housewife he thinks i am or i'm a damn good actress in bed. Happy picture-perfect family in tact....

The truth is ...MY HEART HAS DIED.

I never fail to wonder if each of his kisses, touches and moans were similar to those when he had sex with the girls.

I lost weight and dressed sexily. I'm an improved version of my young self and he got kan cheong. he swore he'd never stray again. I dont know if he would and i dont care now. i'm not even turned on by him. I saw him in a different light. He is just not so attractive anymore, spiritually and physically.

Now, my hormones are raging and i'm raring to go. My eyes have started to wander and i'm having lustful thoughts about having my fill elsewhere. My fault really cos' I traded my heart for a peaceful family life.

I joked, albeit painfully, to my gf that a cheating man should never be caught.

I wish i can tell the wives of those men who did not stray in the absence of sex, how lucky they are to be married to a man like that.

[hyashi]

Has you hubby given you the reasons for why he strayed?

You know, i have resisted temptations so many times b4. There was once in bangkok where i went out with 2 other guy frds, all 3 of us determined to go out and have fun with FLs. When i reached the club my heart suddenly sank, i mentally slapped myself and thoughts of all the happy memories with my girlfrd sank deep into my brain. I wanted to leave very badly and eventually did leave my frds at the club and took a cab back to my hotel.

When i went back to my grlfrd i totall romanced her and brought her out, went shopping with her for days without complains, gave her massages at night, bought her gifts, kept telling her i love her(from the bottom of my heart). After a week of showering her with love, i made my usual move and wanted sex. Guess what she did? She rudely pushed my wondering hands away and told me not to disturb her.

Fine.

After a month of a relative dry spell (max 1 night of making love a week) i decided to buy a sex toy to spice up our sex life (i was worried our sexual habits would come to a premature end b4 we got married). She totally freaked out and said i totally did not care about her feelings and she just dont want sex. Totally told me to bring the toy to my office and screw myself with it.

My HEART for her too, somewhat died.

You see for women you need emotional love b4 u have sexual relations to a guy. For us guys we need sex to keep showering you with love. Its a 2 way thing. You cant expect us to keep giving while leaving us to pcc our whole lives.

Next business trip i had i went to look for a social escort and never looked back since. It takes 2 hands to clap. There is a reason for everything, there is a reason why we stray. It doesnt make it right, but there is a reason.

[Frankiestine]

I lost weight and dressed sexily. I'm an improved version of my young self and he got kan cheong. he swore he'd never stray again.
Now, my hormones are raging and i'm raring to go. My eyes have started to wander and i'm having lustful thoughts about having my fill elsewhere. My fault really cos' I traded my heart for a peaceful family life..

Be very careful you have just wandered into the lion den....i may sound like a hypocrite but don't take this path of darkness....you will regret if for life..:(

[corsiar74]

Last saturday when I screw my wife donno wat happened to my didi...screw about >30mins still haven't cum.....end up she complaint to me her "mei-mei" o-ghi liao and end up masterbate for me....xiao...

[Toyota Honda]

i think the survey was done with the wrong group, just take a look at GL and anyone will know that it is flawed...

bro, you might be right.

If Durex is basing on the no. of condoms used to benchmark the sex rates, then Spore hould be no. 1 if they take from GL cos everyone must use mah.. Should almost hit 99% ya.

Swift and precise analysis from you. Good!

[David_Ginola]

Be very careful you have just wandered into the lion den....i may sound like a hypocrite but don't take this path of darkness....you will regret if for life..:(

.......well this is the reality of life.......we must know and face it.

[Bangster]

Women.

Want everything but don't know what they actually want. Give them everything but they want nothing instead. Took away everything and you get blamed for anything. Did not do nothing wrong to them and yet we can still be viewed as hiding something from them.

You all say, how leh?

[Monkey4]

I.

Now, my hormones are raging and i'm raring to go. My eyes have started to wander and i'm having lustful thoughts about having my fill elsewhere. My fault really cos' I traded my heart for a peaceful family life.

I wish i can tell the wives of those men who did not stray in the absence of sex, how lucky they are to be married to a man like that.


sister meganfox, i hope u are not here to seek revenge hor cos if u do... your pm will be flooded with offers... :D

agreed with bro Frankiestine, hope u don't take this path of darkness....you will regret it for life..and sometimes in life u cant turn back the clock when the damage is done.... spare a thought for your children.

:cool:

[CUM2ME]

I was introduced to this forum by a gf and i would like to share my thoughts with all the men here...

I'm a married woman in my early 30s with 2 kids. About 9 years ago, i found out that he was sleeping with the ktv and health club girls. We had a huge fight and i chose to forgive him, a good and responsible father. But of coz, forgetting is hard. We talked things thru' and he told me it was just curiosity and lust, nothing to do with me. Still, i put up a brave front and act as if nothing has happened. For the sake of the kids, I'm still the same considerate and happy housewife he thinks i am or i'm a damn good actress in bed. Happy picture-perfect family in tact....

The truth is ...MY HEART HAS DIED.

I never fail to wonder if each of his kisses, touches and moans were similar to those when he had sex with the girls.

I lost weight and dressed sexily. I'm an improved version of my young self and he got kan cheong. he swore he'd never stray again. I dont know if he would and i dont care now. i'm not even turned on by him. I saw him in a different light. He is just not so attractive anymore, spiritually and physically.

Now, my hormones are raging and i'm raring to go. My eyes have started to wander and i'm having lustful thoughts about having my fill elsewhere. My fault really cos' I traded my heart for a peaceful family life.

I joked, albeit painfully, to my gf that a cheating man should never be caught.

I wish i can tell the wives of those men who did not stray in the absence of sex, how lucky they are to be married to a man like that.

What's done has been done,... As he explained, curiosity and lust got the better of him.

I am hoping you would be willing to share on how you found out. Did his attitude toward you change during that time?

Not many woman, in the right mind, would actually agree and allow their husbands/boyfriends, to satisfy their sexual needs through , non-extra curricular, alternate sexual explorations.

Why wouldn't the wife allow it? Is it wrong to do so? (To each his own, neither me nor the other brothers here are here to judge. It all depends on individual on how we perceive things).

The question is, was it wrong of him to sleep with the KTV and health club girls? Is it right to start looking around with lustful thoughts elsewhere.

The preceding wrong doing will not negate the prior wrong doing... two wrongs does not make a right

I know I am stirring a hornet's nest, I am curious, why is it that you started to dress more sexily after you found out what he did? Are you doing this to spite him,...? It must have been extremely heart breaking for you... It would be even more so if you are a stay at home mom... the sacrifices, giving up the finer things in life, just so that there is someone that can provide the best for their child.

Now that your heart has already died and you don't care anymore... and you are having thoughts of lusting elsewhere,... and you feel no wrong in doing so, maybe you can pop into the "Wife Swapping/Swinging" thread... :D

I am sure many bros here can be fairly accommodating,... :D

Fellow bros,.. pls dun zap me if you do not agree with what I said....

[curiouslook]

meganfox,
Your heart has died for hubby but I believe u have heart for your children.. Don't hurt them because of your lust and raging hormones for u will regret your actions later.
Go for counselling and pull that thorn out of your heart to revive it.. This u will never regret!
Every man, woman or child deserves a second chance.. Else its time to let go and pursue your 2nd happiness.. :)

[civiccat]

What's done has been done,... As he explained, curiosity and lust got the better of him.

The preceding wrong doing will not negate the prior wrong doing... two wrongs does not make a right

I know I am stirring a hornet's nest, I am curious, why is it that you started to dress more sexily after you found out what he did? Are you doing this to spite him,...? It must have been extremely heart breaking for you... It would be even more so if you are a stay at home mom... the sacrifices, giving up the finer things in life, just so that there is someone that can provide the best for their child.

Fellow bros,.. pls dun zap me if you do not agree with what I said....


meganfox,
Your heart has died for hubby but I believe u have heart for your children.. Don't hurt them because of your lust and raging hormones for u will regret your actions later.
Go for counselling and pull that thorn out of your heart to revive it.. This u will never regret!Every man, woman or child deserves a second chance.. Else its time to let go and pursue your 2nd happiness.. :)


sister meganfox... YANA (you are not alone)

look at the database of SBF... I can safely say most of the samsters are married ones...so take comfort of this fact that u are not the only one though there is no need for u to rejoice too.

if your husband is merely eating out due to his high sexual urges... take a step back and ask yourself whether in anyway u might have contributed to this? In many ways, Guys are like dogs... they just need to hump when the needs arise if not their minds will go bonker and alignment out....so even if u are not in the mood for sex... err give him a hand literally speaking... :D

[3m3m3m]

Women.

Want everything but don't know what they actually want. Give them everything but they want nothing instead. Took away everything and you get blamed for anything. Did not do nothing wrong to them and yet we can still be viewed as hiding something from them.

You all say, how leh?

i totally agreed with u bro !! kudos .. :p

[lightning]

sister meganfox... YANA (you are not alone)
if your husband is merely eating out due to his high sexual urges... take a step back and ask yourself whether in anyway u might have contributed to this? In many ways, Guys are like dogs... they just need to hump when the needs arise if not their minds will go bonker and alignment out....so even if u are not in the mood for sex... err give him a hand literally speaking... :D

Agreed on this sentences, hungry we need to fill stomach... satisfy his need. Else who will???

[LED...]

Surprising to realise my friend who married a PRC with kids dont have this sort of problem.......

Maybe its the sexual culture locally is still very conservative, leaving little imagination for the couple to enhance their intimacy after a period of time...except for some minority......:(........whereas men are able to continue to explore and fulfill their wildest fantasy with FL......:p

How to increase the birth rate for full breed singaporean if mr. Lee already agrees foreign talent is crucial..........So MORE FL on the way bros:D

[poorman4sex]

bro, you might be right.

If Durex is basing on the no. of condoms used to benchmark the sex rates, then Spore hould be no. 1 if they take from GL cos everyone must use mah.. Should almost hit 99% ya.

Swift and precise analysis from you. Good!


if Durex take the numbers from GL also same....
In GL, i never came across any FL or houses using durex

[oopsla121]

Use to 1 mth 4 times, now 10 years together 1 mth 1 time.... everytime she want me to make the first move.

[sundial]

if Durex take the numbers from GL also same....
In GL, i never came across any FL or houses using durex

They never do volume discount there.
Maybe under another brand but still manufactured by them.

Branding strategy mar. Retail higher margin vs wholesale.

[meganfox]

I appreciate all the honest feedback...

To answer some of the queries,

1) I started to dress sexily cos' he was rather possessive and dead against me wearing revealing clothes...

2) I did put the "saga" in perspective and asked myself what had I or not done to cause him to stray. To the best of my knowledge, (he might not see it that way) i gave in (still do now) whenever he wants sex, except for the times when i'm unwell.

3)I guess "variety" is the answer...a case of too much of one thing bores most men?

4) Women are still emotional beings at heart...we tie our emotions to sex and i think i still have a long way to go before i "liberate" myself & sleep around with any tom, dick and harry, unless the sexual chemistry is really intense. I met 2 so far but they are somebody's husband. Cant bring myself to do it. Maybe, show me a single hot young man and i'll bite?

5) Counselling won't do. I need a lobotomy... just get the painful experience out of my head

6) Do i really want to spite him... yes..and er...no? Yes, i want to bcos he didnt hold true to his vow... no, b'cos now curiosity is getting the better of me, that nagging "what is it like?". I enjoy sex and he's the only man i've ever slept with. Can you blame me for wanting to stray too now?


I do realise its hard to be a man... u have to bring back the dough, make an effort to be the sensitive new-age man of the house, help with the chores, mind the kids and control your basic urges. But when a woman is trying her darn best and her darn best is not up to your expectations, what should we do?

This wont go down well with some of the women here but i do wonder what if women dont place so much empahsis on monogamous sex, then the world would be a happier place?

Maybe i should be frigid, that will more or less put me out of misery.

[Toyota Honda]

if Durex take the numbers from GL also same....
In GL, i never came across any FL or houses using durex

Bro, they also need to know how their competitors are doing against them mah..

[benxmanda]

Since we are on this subject matter, I would like to do a survey to see how bad the situation is.

This is how I rate my wife

Look : Got the AV Idol look
Body : Very curvy
Breast : Not bad, medium papaya, larger would be better
Buttocks : Absolutely firm, potential solid gold dancer stuff
Pussy : Shaved
Horniness : Always telling me “Darling, we have a appointment tonight.” Got what I mean?
Dressing : Have gone bare back and panties-less. Yet to go bra-less broad daylight, have not paraded shadow of nipples.
Blowjob : “Where did you learn this?”
Skill : Cowgirl me until lifting me to cloud nine, facial and mouth cum.
Photo album : Already 1 pendrive of 2 GB full
Clip : Saved in handphone, to view when she is not by my side
Maintenance : High, now wants me to buy her a LV bag
Responsibilities : Taking care of my kids and family very very well.
Cooking skill : Chef hiding at home.
Sex toy : Small vibrating massager, no dildo
Swinging experience : None

Please share with us your wife/partner/GF/FB’s rating, only long-distance horses (sorry, no offense) are to be rated, excluding ONS.

I know some of our bro here’s wife/gf are very pretty and sexy but less horny…maybe the rating could tell us why

Please share with us her statistics…

[steamer]

Since we are on this subject matter, I would like to do a survey to see how bad the situation is.

This is how I rate my wife


Please share with us your wife/partner/GF/FB’s rating, only long-distance horses (sorry, no offense) are to be rated, excluding ONS.

I know some of our bro here’s wife/gf are very pretty and sexy but less horny…maybe the rating could tell us why

Please share with us her statistics…

Suggest u start a separate thread on this; this new discussion u intro here if actively subscribed, will easily overwhelm the original intentions and directions of this thread.
cheers

[KingBong]

Not only looks like one, most likely was one :D

[benxmanda]

Dear meganfox,

If you ever intend to experience something new, please let me be your first because Mrs B is my only woman till now, if you choose to do it, I think I fit right into your bill. Sorry, here comes the more serious note.

Like I say in my post to another thread, ask yourself this question "Do you still love him?" which i presume you still do if not you would have come to me. Ha ha ha

I know it's very hard on you, do talk to him openly which I think many married couples fail to do if ever they encounter any sorts of problems. Communication is the key.

Ask if he still loves you and the family and IF HE IS WILLING TO DEVOTE HIMSELF TO YOU, and not only verbally, you need him to prove it to you too.

It's very disheartening to see family wrecked, I am sure you are still very attractive and why not use it to your own good? Only to your husband and not any other else (except me lah, ha ha ha).

Years ago, you and your husband decided to share life with each other and I am sure there must be something that make both of you doing that, why not find the feeling back and start a whole new chapter?

Personally, I dont think you should try to eat out because you will most likely regret over it later, the worst is, you continue to do it as you use the thrill to suppress the guilt. It's like taking drug, once you get hooked on, very hard to turn back.

If you decide to turn yourself into a piece of meat, I think there will be lots of carnivores here would like to taste it. No offense.

Go back to your family, dont just talk but to communicate with your husband, ask him for his commitment and yourself too, be more presentable, dressed in an eye-pleasing manner, do consult him how revealing your outfit he is comfortable with, we all know it's a bit unfair becoz you need to take care of the family and yet you need to please him in this area too.

Baby, like the old saying, it's not easy to be a woman.

Whatever you do, think about the kids.

If your husband is those hopeless type, please give me a chance lah. ooops, here i go again.

Actually, it's very simple, let me teach you this trick.

After you read my long-winded nonsense message, go to your kids and spend a little bit of time with them, then I am sure you know what I trying to say here is right.

Remember, the last thing you want to do is to hurt your kids. Everyday we say, heard, come across, "love", but there is no love like love between "Parents and Kids", it is the purest love of all and the best is it is "uncontional". Food for thought, eh?

Good luck to you, sis meganfox and btw, i like your nick, very sexy and my mind starts to wander off liao...sorry

May all of us here have a happy family life.

[meganfox]

benxmanda,

I'm not bitter towards my hubby..more like resigned. Don't worry, the kids are well-adjusted. I'm pretty sure they won't be needing therapy when they grow up. Yes, i love my hubby for being a responsible father. I'm just not attracted to him anymore. I still respect him, after all, he has worked really hard trying to provide a comfortable life for all of us. Sex just sucks now, that's all.

We have tried every conceivable position, place and trick (sexy lingerie, sex toys, music...blah blah blah) to ignite my passion. But like the burnt-out gas tank, no amount of flame can light the stove again.

I'm feeling a tinge of guilt now... my post has made this thread a bit sombre but thanks to you, your sense of humour lighten things up. I promise I'm going to end on a lighter vein. After all, this is "Adult Discussions about Sex." So, back to sex...

I have reached the following conclusion:

1) Men don't stray because they have not met their waterloo...
2) Men don't stray because circumstances didnt allow it.

btw, i have not answered the question this thread posted.. How often you screw your wife/husband? 2 or 3x a week...

Life is NOT fair...u guys have places to get satisfying sex. Damn, you even have a forum for recommendations, discussions and ratings for the girls ok....

Women always have to tikam tikam... :mad:

[TopSage]

meganfox, It's interesting to know your story.

Let me tell you a bit of myself.
I've been married for more than 10 years with 2 kids.
About 3 years back, i found out that my wife was a massage girl in marina south, hostess working in hotel royal - stars ktv, one of the blue girl.
No doubt, she did that before we get married, but once i found out about that, i can't sleep,work or do anything.
I had months of sleepless night, i can't concentrate in my work, i lost interests in everything surround me.

Worst of all, my wife has been treated me like hell ever since we got married.
I am a very soft person and normally won't like to make much arguments, unfortunately, she loves to take advantage of the whole things.

We have maid, i help taking care of kids, i give my wife monthly salary (she is not working in past 5 years to take care our kids) and when the maid went back, i did help with all the housework.

I can't believe that my luck is so bad in marriage.
I've never cheated on her until about 3 years back when i found who she was.
I am a nice guy, i don't cheat anyone, not even in the office.
I keep asking myself :
Why can't prostitute marry someone in their fields.
Why can't they marry someone who love to flirt.
Why am i that unlucky ?

I really hate her but i can't do anything, i have kids.
2 years back when i visited my dentist, i had 16 fillings, my teeth rotten because i always bite my teeth in anger, nowadays i just bite my lip.

Life is full of irony.



I was introduced to this forum by a gf and i would like to share my thoughts with all the men here...

I'm a married woman in my early 30s with 2 kids. About 9 years ago, i found out that he was sleeping with the ktv and health club girls. We had a huge fight and i chose to forgive him, a good and responsible father. But of coz, forgetting is hard. We talked things thru' and he told me it was just curiosity and lust, nothing to do with me. Still, i put up a brave front and act as if nothing has happened. For the sake of the kids, I'm still the same considerate and happy housewife he thinks i am or i'm a damn good actress in bed. Happy picture-perfect family in tact....

The truth is ...MY HEART HAS DIED.

I never fail to wonder if each of his kisses, touches and moans were similar to those when he had sex with the girls.

I lost weight and dressed sexily. I'm an improved version of my young self and he got kan cheong. he swore he'd never stray again. I dont know if he would and i dont care now. i'm not even turned on by him. I saw him in a different light. He is just not so attractive anymore, spiritually and physically.

Now, my hormones are raging and i'm raring to go. My eyes have started to wander and i'm having lustful thoughts about having my fill elsewhere. My fault really cos' I traded my heart for a peaceful family life.

I joked, albeit painfully, to my gf that a cheating man should never be caught.

I wish i can tell the wives of those men who did not stray in the absence of sex, how lucky they are to be married to a man like that.

[benxmanda]

Dear Meganfox,

Like i say, i like your nick...

I beg to differ on your conclusions that:
1) Men don't stray because they have not met their waterloo...
2) Men don't stray because circumstances didnt allow it.

I didnt stray even the two conditions that you mentioned were met on several occasion, mind you, i have friends who dont stray at all.

We believe its all about the mind, "it's all in the mind", we do share dirty jokes, talk dirty, sharing porn films, looking at girls/ladies and make lewd remarks and things humsup men do. None of us had stray so far. Still devote to their loved one at home.

I guess it has got to do with tolerance limit, picture this, you have a daughter or sister and they are hot stuff and the above two conditions were met, would you do them? I guess some will and some won't.

You said you respect him and not love him, fine. Hypothetically, if you haven't found out about your husband's wrong doing, will you be in different state than now? Is your sex now sucks or has been from day one?

No excuse about

benxmanda, burnt-out gas tank, just refill it.

2 or 3x a week? well, to me that's an encourage sign that both of you still can bring yourself to do it with each other.

Trust me, there are many men out there who dont stray even though their desire are raging.

Make me eat my words, please let me be your second man and I shall join those who stray...ha ha ha

One last request, do you take nude photo yourself? Can I have them? Ha ha ha

I am confused lah, if you still can do him? why all spark lost? Would things be different if you haven't found out about his wrongdoing?

I think you need to find the key to unlock your heart. Yes, the key.

[benxmanda]

TopSage,

Quite an amazing experience you have!!!

How did you get to marry her? Didn't you check?

"my wife has been treated me like hell ever since we got married" What did she do?

Your teeth rotten? No problem as long as your tongue still active...ha ha ha

Does she know that you knew about her history? Have you done something like communicating with her?

How do you rate your wife? Please go to another threat for this.

Can't you turn your hatred for her into love? Have you at least tried? Again, same question, would things be different if you are still in the dark about her past?

The key, find the key.

[Enzo]

meganfox, all those superficial attempts will not work because what happens is that you have lost the emotional connection with your husband because your husband has broken your trust.

And until you can forgive him and chose to trust him again/he regaining your trust, you will feel emotionally betrayed and disconnected with him and thus extremely vulnerable to straying. We all face through ups and downs in life, even in marriage, but we can all make our relationships stronger or weaker by the choices we make. For your case, if you don't think you can learn how to forgive him on your own, please consider seeking marriage counselling. Give it a chance/try at least, it would be far better than making a mistake and living with guilt the rest of your life.

[soundworks]

About 3 years back, i found out that my wife was a massage girl in marina south, hostess working in hotel royal - stars ktv, one of the blue girl.
No doubt, she did that before we get married, but once i found out about that, i can't sleep,work or do anything.

.Bro,from whom u find out ur wife history? Did you check with ur wife? make sure u get the truth,and not frabricated stories from so called friends....

[KingBong]

How did you find out after a few years?

meganfox, It's interesting to know your story.

Let me tell you a bit of myself.
I've been married for more than 10 years with 2 kids.
About 3 years back, i found out that my wife was a massage girl in marina south, hostess working in hotel royal - stars ktv, one of the blue girl.
No doubt, she did that before we get married, but once i found out about that, i can't sleep,work or do anything.
I had months of sleepless night, i can't concentrate in my work, i lost interests in everything surround me.

[Torch_Man]

seems like d thread has gone in2 a mo serious note..... from hw often screwin ur partner 2 an emotional stage (mo connection level)

may i ask:
1) hw often do we tell our partner "i love you" (verbally but sincerely - 4 connection sake)
2) at d end of d dy, wat is d meanin of home/house???
3) if we kick d bucket d next dy, wat is d most important thing in life???

different pple different encounters.... but LIFE is a wonderful journey
i tink we shld enjoy each n every moment of it, be it sadness, happiness, communicatin........ its everythin n anythin in LIFE (its all abt LIVING)

2 ask TS question:
i "make love" 2 my ex-wife 2-4 times a wk (truthfully i did all d foreplay n massage 2 her, she jz a dead fish cos she's unsure hw, but she could cow-gal veri well then)............ nw legally single, jz 1 permanent FB (5-6 times a month)

honestly i need d connection wif my partner, its veri important 2 me

[hollyboy123]

Does wifes allow doggie?

I am not marrried yet.

[meganfox]

About 3 years back, i found out that my wife was a massage girl in marina south, hostess working in hotel royal - stars ktv, one of the blue girl.
No doubt, she did that before we get married, but once i found out about that, i can't sleep,work or do anything.
I had months of sleepless night, i can't concentrate in my work, i lost interests in everything surround me.

Worst of all, my wife has been treated me like hell ever since we got married.



Forgive her. She must be really ashamed of her past that she couldnt bring herself to tell you the truth.

Tell her straight-in-the-face that you do not like her attitude. If she persists, tell her you know the truth and that she should be grateful, grateful that she is now happily married to you who's trying to accept her and love her for what she is and was.

Sometimes, girls get carried away when given too much leeway. You have to stand up for yourself sometimes.

[meganfox]

Q & A as below:

Dear Meganfox,

Like i say, i like your nick...
I like it too

II didnt stray even the two conditions that you mentioned were met on several occasion, mind you, i have friends who dont stray at all.
Please intro them to me..i promise i'll be really nice

Hypothetically, if you haven't found out about your husband's wrong doing, will you be in different state than now? Is your sex now sucks or has been from day one?

Of coz, would still be in bliss... Sex sucks from Day 1. He's not so skillful


2 or 3x a week? well, to me that's an encourage sign that both of you still can bring yourself to do it with each other.

I do it to maintain status quo, he did it (or i think he thinks so) to assure me he's not sleeping around

Make me eat my words, please let me be your second man and I shall join those who stray...ha ha ha

I'm trying to be frigid now... after reading about all the unfavouable comments on sg girls.

One last request, do you take nude photo yourself? Can I have them? Ha ha ha
Told you i'm in a process of being a prude... do YOU take nude pics of yourself?

I think you need to find the key to unlock your heart. Yes, the key

No need key. self-gratification is the answer..

[meganfox]

For your case, if you don't think you can learn how to forgive him on your own, please consider seeking marriage counselling. Give it a chance/try at least, it would be far better than making a mistake and living with guilt the rest of your life.

The week after the big fight, we went to church as usual. I remember sitting there and couldnt bring myself to pray. All i said to God was this: "You must be kidding me."

Nobody can convince me except myself. I can talk myself out of any situation, just not this one.

thanks anyway...

[CUM2ME]

I'm not ... .... ... life for all of us. Sex just sucks now, that's all.

We have tried every conceivable position, place and trick (sexy lingerie, sex toys, music...blah blah blah) to ignite my passion. But like the burnt-out gas tank, no amount of flame can light the stove again.



Meganfox,
Have been following your posts...

You mentioned that Sex sux now,.. So, what is considered good sex in your opinion?

So, have been wondering, what actually turns a women on?

To keep this in topic of this thread, "How often you screw your wife?" - NONE. For the past dunno how many years. I can be considered a virgin again... Maybe you should consider me the next in line after bro benxmanda.:p

If we change the thread to "How often your wife screw you?"
My reply would be, "Almost every f*cking living day. Verbally":D

[curiouslook]

sis meganfox,
How do u rate yourself? I'm getting curious again.. After reading thru your thread it seems that u know exactly what u want n what u should do..
Bro Bmax better watch out or the fox will swallow u.. then again u might enjoy it :)
If the fox is 7 and above I'll be willing to let my curiousty get the better of me.. Pm me if u r.. Maybe after we meet u might go back to your hubby because u n him can call it quits.. :)
Have a good night..

[CUM2ME]

sis meganfox,
How do u rate yourself? I'm getting curious again.. After reading thru your thread it seems that u know exactly what u want n what u should do..
Bro Bmax better watch out or the fox will swallow u.. then again u might enjoy it :)
If the fox is 7 and above I'll be willing to let my curiousty get the better of me.. Pm me if u r.. Maybe after we meet u might go back to your hubby because u n him can call it quits.. :)
Have a good night..

Bro curiouslook,

Playing you back 1980s Courtesy campaign jingle...
"... ... courtesy is for free, courtesy is for you and me... ..."

Courtesy lion smiling at you...

Please get in line Bro... ... hee hee hee :D

[curiouslook]

no worrys bro.. Will be right behind you.. And no worrys again cos I'm not baa yi.. :) hee..

[bangala69]

no worrys bro.. Will be right behind you.. And no worrys again cos I'm not baa yi.. hee..

wah curiouslook.... u like that say goot meh....heng me ban ga la.... not baa yi :D

back to this thread.... how many times... I screw my wife.... well that will depends when she open sesame....when she happy and horny then she open... when she not horny.... she kao pa kao bu... tell me to fxxk titu...and verbally fxxk me. :o

:(

[Enzo]

The week after the big fight, we went to church as usual. I remember sitting there and couldnt bring myself to pray. All i said to God was this: "You must be kidding me."

Nobody can convince me except myself. I can talk myself out of any situation, just not this one.

thanks anyway...

hi meganfox sis,

I can see that you are still deeply hurt and scarred by the actions of your husband. To me, from your posts, I can see that you are an intelligent thinking lady, not driven by impulse or anything, at least not yet for sure. Deep down perhaps you just don't wish to forgive your husband, maybe deep down you even want him to be punished, you can't live with the fact of what he did. Maybe you want to see him punished, suffer, not get away scot free like that and it pains you because you are the only one suffering having to put up with it. But it's as benxmanda pointed out, the fact that you are still willing to make love with him, be it out of status quo or anything, and the feel I get from your posts is that you really don't wish things to be this way. A part of you wishes deeply things did not have to turn out like this.

And as you answered benxmanda, if he hadn't done what he did, would you feel what you feel today, you admitted that you won't.

We can't change the past, and I certainly won't be foolish enough to ask you to forget about what he did because we can never forget. What we can only do at the end of the day is to decide what we really want. If you want him to suffer, then if he were to meet an accident tomorrow and he will die within hours, he lies there on his deathbed, and as you watch this man being on life support, drawing his last breaths, will that make things feel any better for you?

What he did was wrong, and if he's still doing it, then it's unacceptable. You have 3 simple choices and you know it. You owe it to yourself to

1) work things out with him, tell him how much he has hurt you, and eventually forgive him (if he has already stopped doing it) for your own sake.
2) move on (get a divorce) and start life afresh
3) sweep things under the carpet and pretend nothing is happening and live forever in misery.

But to live with anger, live with unhappiness, is like taking a poison pill and hoping that the other person will die from it instead. That's not doing ourselves any favors. For your own sake sis, not for god, not for him, not for anyone else, but for your own happiness.

Self-gratification is just a denial pill and I believe you know it. You can justify all you want about how self-gratification is the only way to make yousrelf happy now, but you are an intelligent lady and I know you know otherwise. The more you take this pill, the more empty you feel at the end of the day.

Fear is what's stopping you from resolving things out with him because its painful, because its too much hurt.

you are right in saying that only you can convince yourself. And if you can't convince yourself to either resolve it or move on and start life afresh, then you are the one who's going to be living in pain. It need not be this way.

[meganfox]

Meganfox,
Have been following your posts...

You mentioned that Sex sux now,.. So, what is considered good sex in your opinion?

If we change the thread to "How often your wife screw you?"
My reply would be, "Almost every f*cking living day. Verbally":D

Well, i think he's a bit too hasty. A girl responds to sensuality. Gentle touches, light breathing in the ear, slow and easy...

I'm a marathon runner but he's a sprinter. He wants it hot and fast and i'm a slowburner.

I think its not fair of me to say he is bad at love-making, just that we are on different wavelengths. I try to tweak this flaw but i really dont know where to buy the turbo.

Good sex is very subjective... I havent had a great one but i'll update if i got lucky. Actually, i'm envious of you guys. I wish we women have the same testosterone levels and still looking like a woman.

[meganfox]

sis meganfox,
How do u rate yourself? I'm getting curious again..
Have a good night..

huh? how to rate myself? Nobody tries to strangle me to death just becos i'm ugly so is that a 7?

don't be curious..i'm just a kapo woman who ventured into this forum or should i say the frog in the well who's now more or less educated on the physiology of men.

Have a good day.

[meganfox]

Again, Q & A as follows:

hi meganfox sis,

Deep down perhaps you just don't wish to forgive your husband, maybe deep down you even want him to be punished, you can't live with the fact of what he did. Maybe you want to see him punished, suffer, not get away scot free like that and it pains you because you are the only one suffering having to put up with it.

I'm waiting for the day he constipate to death...er... wait, i think there's a higher possibility that it would happen to me.

If you want him to suffer, then if he were to meet an accident tomorrow and he will die within hours, he lies there on his deathbed, and as you watch this man being on life support, drawing his last breaths, will that make things feel any better for you?

Don't tempt me into saying the things i shouldnt say leh

But to live with anger, live with unhappiness, is like taking a poison pill and hoping that the other person will die from it instead.

Yes and i am really hoping it works someday

Fear is what's stopping you from resolving things out with him because its painful, because its too much hurt.

I dont wish to confront anything that cannot be undone...




sorry, i know i'm not taking your advice seriously this time. I dont mean to be rude or ungrateful. Its just that, i've been in limbo for so long and things are working the way it should be.

I told him briefly once that if he ever wants to walk out, he is to leave quietly and without a note. I'd be grateful for that.

This is supposed to be a sex-laced discussion but it is so so so... gloomy. Aiya, your fault.

[meganfox]

Does wifes allow doggie?

I am not marrried yet.


yes, you can ask her for permission...



and then go to SPCA to get one.

[steamer]

Well, i think he's a bit too hasty. A girl responds to sensuality. Gentle touches, light breathing in the ear, slow and easy...

I'm a marathon runner but he's a sprinter. He wants it hot and fast and i'm a slowburner.

I think its not fair of me to say he is bad at love-making, just that we are on different wavelengths. I try to tweak this flaw but i really dont know where to buy the turbo.

Good sex is very subjective... I havent had a great one but i'll update if i got lucky. Actually, i'm envious of you guys. I wish we women have the same testosterone levels and still looking like a woman.

hi,
read ur earlier posts.
The question is whtr he has reformed and u hv forgiven him. Give him a chance to reform; if he has, try to forgive him..you are still young and so are ur kids. There is still much future to look forward to, and u still hv ur kids' interests to look after as well. I knw its hard to forget n u probably wont; accept it as a past mistake of his, and try to move on. Its no gd denying urself happiness and relief for so many more yrs to come.
But if he has not changed, then u hv to decide which direction u wish to take; juz remember consideration muz be given to ur kids too.
Rgdg ur diff approach to love making, maybe u cud talk to him on what u prefer and wat turns u on more. He may juz be glad to try ur preferences out. Sorry if i missed sumthing on this earlier.
All the best, and live strong, positive and happy :)

[meganfox]

hi,
read ur earlier posts.
The question is whtr he has reformed and u hv forgiven him. Give him a chance to reform; if he has, try to forgive him..you are still young and so are ur kids. There is still much future to look forward to, and u still hv ur kids' interests to look after as well. I knw its hard to forget n u probably wont; accept it as a past mistake of his, and try to move on. Its no gd denying urself happiness and relief for so many more yrs to come.
But if he has not changed, then u hv to decide which direction u wish to take; juz remember consideration muz be given to ur kids too.
Rgdg ur diff approach to love making, maybe u cud talk to him on what u prefer and wat turns u on more. He may juz be glad to try ur preferences out. Sorry if i missed sumthing on this earlier.
All the best, and live strong, positive and happy :)

i dont want to rock the boat.. he seems happy & the kids well-adjusted. I will never know if he has changed but ignorance is bliss, isn't it?

i did speak up on what i really want in bed but i think he finds me very "lay chay."

I am positive and happy... just not in love.

[lglg666]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

Not bad....me! once in the last 4 years :o....so I go and eat
outside lor. No problem too esp for us...Singaporean men!!!
So lucky...even for an AH PEK like myself, just go "la kopi" at
GL and the bees will come for you. "On" if you are happy..if
not then continue just "la kopi" lor. :D

[meganfox]

ok guys, enough on the drama about my hubby and i liao hor... i dont want to be guilty of turning this thread into a boring one. I'm sure some of you have even bigger issues to deal with than to hear me whine.

We are all here for some form of escape so please continue with your hum sup contributions relevant to this thread. cheers!

[lglg666]

i dont want to rock the boat.. he seems happy & the kids well-adjusted. I will never know if he has changed but ignorance is bliss, isn't it?

i did speak up on what i really want in bed but i think he finds me very "lay chay."

I am positive and happy... just not in love.

RIGHT attitude.....sometimes when I think of all these things, I feel sad too.
Not only....we guys "got left out" high and dry after when the kids came, there are ladies who too got to face the same situation.

Can't there be a better way to solve this? Honestly....I have lost the feeling
of "making love", what I got now...is just sex or put it correctly - pay to have
sex. Don't even know the name....and it's over, blink, blink and it's time to be
out of the room. :eek:

[steamer]

i dont want to rock the boat.. he seems happy & the kids well-adjusted. I will never know if he has changed but ignorance is bliss, isn't it?

i did speak up on what i really want in bed but i think he finds me very "lay chay."

I am positive and happy... just not in love.

I think u wan to recapture the romance in ur lives but he is not looking at tat.
For this objective, unfortunately, both parties muz be willing.
Tikam2 methods wont work when the heart is not there.
If you are still a church going x'ian, maybe prayer will help ( not being sarcastic here). Counselling? well..maybe tat too.
cheers

[lglg666]

ok guys, enough on the drama about my hubby and i liao hor... i dont want to be guilty of turning this thread into a boring one. I'm sure some of you have even bigger issues to deal with than to hear me whine.

We are all here for some form of escape so please continue with your hum sup contributions relevant to this thread. cheers!

Don't worry about our hum sup contributions and so on....becoz this section is for those who have time and things to share.

For the very "hum sup" ones, we go straight to the other hunting section.

So....you can anyhow "whine" and some of us guys will "whine" with you
too, cheers....and have a nice day.

[slider_72]

yes, you can ask her for permission...



and then go to SPCA to get one.

Hahaha. This is the best post I've read all day. Bro Enzo is right when he described you as an intelligent lady, and if I may add, a witty one too.

Cheers,

[wahlau_7]

ok guys, enough on the drama about my hubby and i liao hor... i dont want to be guilty of turning this thread into a boring one. I'm sure some of you have even bigger issues to deal with than to hear me whine.

We are all here for some form of escape so please continue with your hum sup contributions relevant to this thread. cheers!


Taken from a quote from "Desiderata" - Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection, neither be cynical about love for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

[meganfox]

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Honestly....I have lost the feeling of "making love", what I got now...is just sex or put it correctly - pay to have sex. Don't even know the name....and it's over, blink, blink and it's time to be out of the room. :eek:

ah...that's b'cos you went during peak hour issit?? :D
sorry...i'm not making fun of you...

I understand. sometimes, sex sucks when there's no connection but what to do? you still need to answer to your primal instincts.

I'm sure eventually you'll find a girl or two that will make you change your mind.

[Frankiestine]

yes, you can ask her for permission..
and then go to SPCA to get one.

dog licensing under AVA....SPCA only concern is if you really doggie your doggie now that consider cruelty to your doggie...

[Capital Land]

Once a week will be good enough to maintain that kind of feeling.

[geckoSG]

benxmanda,
Life is NOT fair...u guys have places to get satisfying sex. Damn, you even have a forum for recommendations, discussions and ratings for the girls ok....

Women always have to tikam tikam... :mad:

Life has never been fair sweetie. If the flame has died between urself and
husband and nothing can re-ignite it, but u still have ur needs, then its
better to meet someone else for it. (Sorry my bad to leading others astray)

Of cos, meeting someone comfy enuff to give you the urge to be with him
isn't easy, but it takes time to understand each other and feel the comfyness.

Discreet is of cos an important factor for you, at times, dun think too much
about him being married or watever. As long as you are happy when you are
with him, just feel happy about it. I'm sure as adults, both of you will know
what to do and if your choice is correct or not. (This is if you met a guy who
is married but you are comfy with him).

Drop me a PM, perhaps we can chat more. No obligations ;)

[geckoSG]

And back to the thread...

For me, I Make Love with my wife whenever I can, sometimes, timing wise
is just not right (too late at night when i am tired), we'll just forgo it.

However, recent months, we started to improve a bit more, try to have sex
once a week. Previously, from her pregnancy onwards, it was like waiting for
blue moon to appear before she feel like making love...

Right now, it seems to be a habit for me to satisfy my wifey @ home, and
I have my FBs to explore the darker nature of thrill. Not always sex, even
foreplays are thrilling for us... :D

[Enzo]

Hahaha. This is the best post I've read all day. Bro Enzo is right when he described you as an intelligent lady, and if I may add, a witty one too.

Cheers,

indeed she is, indeed she is haha. :D

[netuser]

与夫人作爱就像赌tikam, 不是赢就是.....lose big time....:cool:

[tryherout]

And back to the thread...

However, recent months, we started to improve a bit more, try to have sex
once a week. Previously, from her pregnancy onwards, it was like waiting for
blue moon to appear before she feel like making love...

Right now, it seems to be a habit for me to satisfy my wifey @ home, and
I have my FBs to explore the darker nature of thrill. Not always sex, even
foreplays are thrilling for us... :D

Your kid doesnt come into the picture? How i wish i can cultivate the same habit:rolleyes:

[wolf2305]

I understand. sometimes, sex sucks when there's no connection but what to do? you still need to answer to your primal instincts.

I'm sure eventually you'll find a girl or two that will make you change your mind.

does sex has to be suck just because there's no connection?
I think that's if you are out paying and not getting what you get in return
OR you are out to have certain fun and expectation and not getting it.

Sex is fun when two adults consent in getting their needs and in order to do that, they are out to explore that certain needs. That's why we have this discussion not only for the guys.

Dont flame me as I am only giving my two cents worth of thoughts

[CUM2ME]

Meganfox,
Can women do without sex?

As someone's wife, will you get worried if your husband does not come to look for you for sex? :confused:

[geckoSG]

Your kid doesnt come into the picture? How i wish i can cultivate the same habit:rolleyes:

Well mate, he came into the picture, hence its like only when SHE wanna
sleep then she comes and disturb me... (Which I tired from brain work).
So just go sleep & ignore her request. Ask her wanna do, do earlier...

Cos son sleep liao can do, she dun want... LOLz...

My current FB better in terms of needs, ganna raped more often than raping
her... Just Lovin' It. :p

[Roadrunner73]

you gay are luck can find FR:o as for me i don't even have time to look for FR because my wife will look on my time....:mad:

[Torch_Man]

durin younger dys was rejected by gals (advances, courtship, n many others includin sex....)
my principle nw is:
TRY NOT 2 REJECT their advances
(jz enjoy each other company sincerely 1st, c hw it goes....... anythin can happen..... but muz give her a gd time, regardless got sex or no sex)

cos i actually caught my x-wife fxxkin another guy red-handed (damn low feelin)
d feelin of ur belongin GONE........
si bey meaningless.......

dat's y i ask previously:
wat does ur house/home reli mean 2 u????
izzit ur belongin???? or jz a hotel or room 2 stay in onli???
no need 2 b responsible or report 2 dat house/home, wer ur important siblin stay........

[x9lee]

It used to be every alternate days and she is on the pills, so anytime also can cum in her pussy. That period of time was so wonderful.... Truly enjoys that period of time....:D:D

But now, once every week and must use condom sometimes at her fertile period. No condom only just before her menses or after her menses....:(

haiz...........

[Fowler09]

durin younger dys was rejected by gals (advances, courtship, n many others includin sex....)
my principle nw is:
TRY NOT 2 REJECT their advances
(jz enjoy each other company sincerely 1st, c hw it goes....... anythin can happen..... but muz give her a gd time, regardless got sex or no sex)

cos i actually caught my x-wife fxxkin another guy red-handed (damn low feelin)
d feelin of ur belongin GONE........
si bey meaningless.......

dat's y i ask previously:
wat does ur house/home reli mean 2 u????
izzit ur belongin???? or jz a hotel or room 2 stay in onli???
no need 2 b responsible or report 2 dat house/home, wer ur important siblin stay........


bro sry to here such tings happenig to u
somtimes i feel tat human beings hav tis tendency to be too restricted ie to say when somone is displense about u , they nwill nt tell u in the face or may nt show it. is is most common in the workplace or among friends. they will normally gossip bhing ur back. as for husband n wife, they stry bhind each others back for hell lot of reasons they deemed fit to do without feeling gulity.

they feel husband cant satified them in terms of sexual needs
they feel husband couldnt communicate or understand their needs
the 3rd party is too handsome to resist

well the above r just a few reasons
well in this days nw things r different from the past
nwadys women has started to stood up n be counted in the society, unlike the past, they r nt educated n nt independent ]
nwadays they r more of both
so they d nt rely more on their husband for everyting from top to bottom
thery hav their own spending power, therefor they can do wat thry like just
like we men can do wat they like when we hav the power n money to do so

[meganfox]

does sex has to be suck just because there's no connection?
I think that's if you are out paying and not getting what you get in return
OR you are out to have certain fun and expectation and not getting it.



i was just answering to the post by er..cant remember who liao. lazy to go search for it. :D

[meganfox]

Meganfox,
Can women do without sex?

As someone's wife, will you get worried if your husband does not come to look for you for sex? :confused:



sure.. i know some women can..those who are likely not so comfortable with their sexuality or who are simply being contented with what they have. Females hormones are irritating lot.. one minute it makes u horny, another it makes you fuming with unaccounted rage (PMS lor) ... so if the female hormones synchronise with your body, then maybe, you'll feel bliss and no urge for sex.

I think i'm talking crap. :D


As for part 2 of your question, here's a story that goes like this:

Once upon a time, one loving and faithful husband (a.k.a. Asshole) was always hungry for sex. Then his wife (a.k.a. Poor Thing) got pregnant and momentarily lost her self-esteem due to her post-pregnancy weight. One fine day, Asshole decided time was running out (maybe he knew he was dying or what) for Poor Thing to settle down so went to seek Greener Pastures (a.k.a. FL or WL or donno-wat acronym la). Poor Thing suspected but not worried because Asshole so loving and faithful mah. Then one thunderstormy night, Poor Thing found out, about Asshole's trysts, not once not twice but countless times. Wah...Poor Thing thought to herself.. "Asshole damn happening sia." Poor Thing also decided enough is enough, so with a steely heart, lost her excess weight (which is more than necessary) and then she metamorphose to become BC (a.k.a. Bo Chup).

Have i answered your question?

[CUM2ME]

sure.. i know some women can..those who are likely not so comfortable with their sexuality or who are simply being contented with what they have. Females hormones are irritating lot.. one minute it makes u horny, another it makes you fuming with unaccounted rage (PMS lor) ... so if the female hormones synchronise with your body, then maybe, you'll feel bliss and no urge for sex.

I think i'm talking crap. :D

No,.. I think it makes sense,... this is because, I do experience the ripple effects of her PMS. During that time , I steer clear of her... (Non-sexually).


As for part 2 of your question, here's a story that goes like this:

Once upon a time, one loving and faithful husband (a.k.a. Asshole) was always hungry for sex. Then his wife (a.k.a. Poor Thing) got pregnant and momentarily lost her self-esteem due to her post-pregnancy weight. One fine day, Asshole decided time was running out (maybe he knew he was dying or what) for Poor Thing to settle down so went to seek Greener Pastures (a.k.a. FL or WL or donno-wat acronym la). Poor Thing suspected but not worried because Asshole so loving and faithful mah. Then one thunderstormy night, Poor Thing found out, about Asshole's trysts, not once not twice but countless times. Wah...Poor Thing thought to herself.. "Asshole damn happening sia." Poor Thing also decided enough is enough, so with a steely heart, lost her excess weight (which is more than necessary) and then she metamorphose to become BC (a.k.a. Bo Chup).

Have i answered your question?

It seems quite strange to me that Poor Thing is still willing to get laid by the Asshole :p

How about sharing your story on SBF? I am sure you will get ups a lot of points.

[Frankiestine]

faithful husband (a.k.a. Asshole)




Asshole, did someone just said the "A" word, monster ears are pricked up...ooops she talking about the ass hole on the wrong species...:D:D:D:D

[Richirudo]

Asshole, did someone just said the "A" word, monster ears are pricked up...ooops she talking about the ass hole on the wrong species...:D:D:D:D

wow, i see ur posts in most threads with the mention of the "A" word.. LOL

[donalduck5]

... Once upon a time, one loving and faithful husband (a.k.a. Asshole) was always hungry for sex. Then his wife (a.k.a. Poor Thing) got pregnant and momentarily lost her self-esteem due to her post-pregnancy weight. One fine day, Asshole decided time was running out (maybe he knew he was dying or what) for Poor Thing to settle down so went to seek Greener Pastures (a.k.a. FL or WL or donno-wat acronym la). Poor Thing suspected but not worried because Asshole so loving and faithful mah. Then one thunderstormy night, Poor Thing found out, about Asshole's trysts, not once not twice but countless times. Wah...Poor Thing thought to herself.. "Asshole damn happening sia." Poor Thing also decided enough is enough, so with a steely heart, lost her excess weight (which is more than necessary) and then she metamorphose to become BC (a.k.a. Bo Chup)

I have been reading this thread and your responses with great interest.

My wife and I have been married for 23 yrs now and we have 4 kids – the eldest is 20. A few years after our first child was born, I started being an Asshole too. I was screwing my secretary, having FBs, screwing HC girls & lounge hostess etc. Except for my secretary and a few FBs where the laisons lasted a few months to a year, the rest were short one or two time liaisons. Why do I need to screw outside, as my wife obliges me every time? I really don’t know. Maybe, I just like the variety, see a different body each time, having the thrill of fucking some one new each time … I honestly don’t know why!! My wife was a model and is very attractive, intelligent and fun to be with. Guess,I am an a total asshole, that’s all!

Anyway, after behaving like an asshole and covering my track for about 2 years, my wife eventually caught me red-handed. All hell broke loose!! That afternoon when she caught me at the hotel … she slapped, kicked, scratched me, tore my shirt, embarrassing me to the max!

When I went home later, I kena walloped some more. My graphite golf set broken, my beloved camera system smashed, my hifi, records and CD collection destroyed. I got plates, bottles thrown at me and chased out of my own house in front of my 2 kids and maid. My gentle loving wife was like a mad woman. Hell has no fury like a woman scorn!!! And you better believe it!!

My wife is a lawyer. The next few days, I got letters served at my office informing me of divorce proceedings, and restrictions on child visitation rights, bank account closures etc. I got damn scared and furious also, but I knew I was wrong and I was the main cause of all this trouble. I thought of fighting back, but friends and family advised me against it.

She knows I love my kids very much and she prevented me from seeing them or coming back to our house. So I decide to accept whatever punishment and shit she dishes out at me, just to keep my family intact. She didn’t want to see or talk to me … but I tried to see her in her office, our home, her parents’ home … For the next 3 or 4 month I suffered physical and verbal abuse for her, getting chase out of our matrimonial home night after night.

To make the story short, she finally softened and decided to talk things over after almost a year of suffering.

She decided to windup her law practice and become a full time housewife and mother to the kids. She changed her hairstyle and clothing very six months, shave her pussy or let it grow out, just to give me the variety. She will surprise me with new ideas, sex styles and techniques. She made friends with my former mama-sans & HC contacts to pick up massage skills and “special” techniques from them in exchange for free legal advice. These jokers are to call her up the next time they see me inside a lounge or HC.

I work to support wife, kids, maids, 2 dogs, 4 hamsters, take care of the housing mortgage payments, running expenses and repayments of 2 cars, children’s school & tuition fees, spa & beauty treatments, wife’s new clothes, handbags, shoes every 6 months, overseas holidays for family and separate holidays just for the 2 of us, new handphones, ipods, laptops etc. etc. And to top it all, I have to perform my husbandry duty to fuck her at least 3 times a week, or else she will think that I am screwing someone else outside … She swears that the next time, she will slice off my kuku … minced it and feed it to our dogs … and I swear I believe her!! :o

Looking back, life is not easy after the infidelity. But we communicated, we each put in lots of work to change & to make the marriage work. We learn to trust each other again. It was worth it! Child 3 and 4 came not long after. Wife became my companion, friend. She goes with me to the niteclubs and karaoke lounges during my entertainments. We play games … she dresses up, goes to the pubs and mingle with the buayas, ... and I have to go there, make intelligent conversation, impress her, chat & pick her up or else!! We made love and also have sex regularly. (Making love and having sex are two entirely different things) We share, explore and try out our sexual fantasies and the dark sides with each other. :D

[Real07]

Sad to said we finally had sex 5 mths and the reason is to have kid... :mad:

But during the intercourse my didi was not as strong as I read SBF... :confused: Is really feeling shit and again she jus wan to lay on the bed like a dead fish waiting for me to finish the job...

Haizz... really feeling very sianz after reading so many Bros here happening story..

One suggestion do Bros here think it would be fine if I ask my wife to visit SBF so that she can learn more from here??? :confused:

[Frankiestine]

One suggestion do Bros here think it would be fine if I ask my wife to visit SBF so that she can learn more from here??? :confused:

u better not do that, woman are funny creatures, you can say you have never call pros before but they won't believe you especially if she discover that this site is for sharing of contacts...

[wahlau_7]

One suggestion do Bros here think it would be fine if I ask my wife to visit SBF so that she can learn more from here??? :confused:

Don't even think about it; maybe it's better to buy some porn, preferable asian ones, for her to watch and learn. Better be safe than sorry as you might be planting "wrong" thoughts in her mind about you.

[iceage]

I only do it 3 times in a month.
Once a week but she'll get her mens once a month.

Am i pitiful ?

As the years go by, now only 2/3 times a week (after married for more than 10 years). Use to do it every day. She never says no when I want it.

[curiouslook]

mr donaldduck5.. U sure have a wonderful wife and getting caught for your infidelity is a blessing in disguised! Not many have a wife like yours and luck like u...
If sister meganfox can learn from your wife, it will be great and do wonders for her life.
DD5.. U have my salute! Cheers and stay lucky! :-)

[meganfox]

She made friends with my former mama-sans & HC contacts to pick up massage skills and “special” techniques from them in exchange for free legal advice. These jokers are to call her up the next time they see me inside a lounge or HC.

We play games … she dresses up, goes to the pubs and mingle with the buayas, ... and I have to go there, make intelligent conversation, impress her, chat & pick her up or else!! We made love and also have sex regularly. (Making love and having sex are two entirely different things) We share, explore and try out our sexual fantasies and the dark sides with each other. :D


I'm happy for both of you.

Now, the difference between your wife and I is this: she still loves you in spite of your infidelities. I, on the other hand, dont love my husband anymore. You have a very interesting life with her now but your interesting life is not my cup of tea.

I didn't scratch, hit or even kick him out of home. Heck, i didn't even scream. All i did was asked him to leave me alone.

I know many of the guys here are trying to make me see this: it is pointless & torturing to live in a loveless marriage.

I don't think so because i have kids. If i can't set aside my pride, then i am just another egoistic woman, not a sensible mother.

Who says i'm miserable? I still talk, laugh and joke with my husband. Life dealt me a few cruel blows but there is no reason for me to wallow in self-pity. I'm not crippled, terminally-ill, living in abject poverty or abused physically and i am really grateful. Sure, some nights i have the urge to just walk away but i know it is unwise to let the angry heart rule the head.

We can't have everything we want, understand that and nothing will get you down.

[CUM2ME]

I have been reading this thread and your responses with great interest.

She swears that the next time, she will slice off my kuku … minced it and feed it to our dogs … and I swear I believe her!! :o

Looking back, life is not easy after the infidelity. But we communicated, we each put in lots of work to change & to make the marriage work. We learn to trust each other again. It was worth it! Child 3 and 4 came not long after. Wife became my companion, friend. She goes with me to the niteclubs and karaoke lounges during my entertainments. We play games … she dresses up, goes to the pubs and mingle with the buayas, ... and I have to go there, make intelligent conversation, impress her, chat & pick her up or else!! We made love and also have sex regularly. (Making love and having sex are two entirely different things) We share, explore and try out our sexual fantasies and the dark sides with each other. :D


Hi bro donalduck5,
I have a lot to learn from you. I have been an Asshole too... what ever the reason, it takes to hands to clap.

If one hand is missing, you can only clap by slapping yourself... :o

[dirtbag_26]

bro real07, i tink very very VERY VERY BAD IDEA

if she lie there like dead fish type, i dun tink she find sbf talk make her horny

you show her, you now two problem, she dun like sex and she oso dun like you!!!!



One suggestion do Bros here think it would be fine if I ask my wife to visit SBF so that she can learn more from here??? :confused:

[nacho]

Forgive her. She must be really ashamed of her past that she couldnt bring herself to tell you the truth.

Tell her straight-in-the-face that you do not like her attitude. If she persists, tell her you know the truth and that she should be grateful, grateful that she is now happily married to you who's trying to accept her and love her for what she is and was.

If you can tell others to forgive and forget, why you can't do this to your husband? I don't think the brother hurt much less than you do.

[Real07]

Thanks Bros for all the suggestion... will try other method again... :o

[meganfox]

If you can tell others to forgive and forget, why you can't do this to your husband? I don't think the brother hurt much less than you do.

I can't possibly tell him to be like me, can I? :confused:

Sure, i can forgive and forget. However the problem is, has my husband stopped cheating on me behind my back?

i'm sorry to disappoint you, he hasnt and that is as sure as the sun rises in the morning.

[meganfox]

If sister meganfox can learn from your wife, it will be great and do wonders for her life.


You are rubbing salt into my wound.

So, I have not learned and worked hard enough and that's why my life is not wonderful?

I'm not sun wu kong so i dont have and am not going to learn 72 transformations just to keep my marriage "alive." Someday, i'm going to run out of novelty ideas, then what am i going to do? 3some? Couple swinging? It never ends.

Everybody wants interesting sex life, who doesn't? But if i have to do things that violate a principle, than my man can walk away any time. You think i have not tried to inject spice and fireworks? You think i have not tried to see from my husband's point of view?

It took me quite some time to realise that he simply loves the thrill of having it with different woman.

I can't beat that.

You can empathise with my husband but please dont go finger-pointing.

[meganfox]

Again, i appreciate you guys giving a piece of your perspective but really, i think i have more peace in my heart now than i ever did. Believe me, i didnt choose to be like this but i'm really mentally exhausted from trying to figure out how to improve the situation.

Nonchalance (bo chup) is the only way to keep me sane, to keep my eyes dry and to keep my heart from hurting.

If i have appeared rather aggressive when explaining my situation, i'm sorry. Take it that i'm feeling the residual effects of a broken heart.

thanks again.

[Torch_Man]

but honestly wen caught ur partner in d hand of another woman/man, its no easy feat 2 handle, regardless emotionally, mentally, everythin.......:confused:

it'll play wif ur mind:
1) wat were they doin inside d room/on bed?????
2) did they reli play gd or lousy on bed????
3) hw abt me????
it'll b like a VCD doin replay, replayin in ur mind........

i reli envy u all, voicin out ur pain n sorrow here n nw.....
cos wen i told my story, sum of my frens/relatives/colleagues c me in a different light:
(i heard them sayin dat they dun blieve woman eat outside, cos it was durin 2001 lah, or i deserve it lah, my x-wife is an honour student while i'm onli an ITE student lah, n many many.........) so i transferred out of my workplace, shut myself out of them till next yr then i came out of my shell........

jz sharin

[Frankiestine]

wow, i see ur posts in most threads with the mention of the "A" word.. LOL

heehee read my signature and you will know why...:D:D

[kewlguy]

juz happened to come across this thread and couldn't stop myself from reading all of it...

in my case it's like once a week but the difference is... she wans more!

at this point u might be thinking 'u lucky bastard' but the problem is... the moment i see the rolls of fat around her waist, arms and legs my little dragon morphs into a little worm... :o

i still love my wife very much but it's getting more n more difficult to get it up for her.... and the worst part is she thinks it's all my fault and won't put in any effort to get it up again like giving a BJ or anything.......

ya ya i've already given her hints about it already but she'll juz say "wat? now tat i'm fat u wan to hiam me liao rite? dun wan me liao rite?". i've not said it outright cos i dun wan to hurt her as she's already very stressed out from her high pressure job.

wat am i to do???

btw, we're both on the high side of 20s only... and she was about 60kg (1.6m) when i knew her. ya not exactly very slim i know but she's now 72kg and heavier than me already.... sigh...

[CUM2ME]

Oh no,.. Kenna zapped,.. haha... ... Must have said something wrong here... :D

Sorry,... not intentional who ever it is... :D

[Bangster]

....Looking back, life is not easy after the infidelity. But we communicated, we each put in lots of work to change & to make the marriage work. ......We share, explore and try out our sexual fantasies and the dark sides with each other. :D

This is really really incredible. In a nice way I mean.

You have my respect. It doesn't sound easy at all, achieving what you did.

By the way, is that your sexy wife as your avatar? Hehe ;)

[ch18]

Wife don't even like screwing........

[confusedgirl]

halos boys, seem like no difference issit it?

regardless whether your wives give or not, seems like it still leads to eating outside... cos boring to have same dish everyday. just wondering, do u boys ever wonder whether your wives dine outside too? im quite hesitant to get married! it's disheartening to think that next time husband might hiam my rolls of fat from child bearing. it's a big sacrifice for girls to put on weight too.

[cluboxed]

any ways to re-create the romancing?? just a thought..

[nacho]

Sure, i can forgive and forget. However the problem is, has my husband stopped cheating on me behind my back?

i'm sorry to disappoint you, he hasnt and that is as sure as the sun rises in the morning.

How did you find out that he is still cheating on you? Did you catch him red handed again or using PI?
If it is only in your thoughts that he is still cheating you, then I would say it is not fair to him.

Nobody is guilty until proven.

[BatistaSG]

Wife don't even like screwing........

Sama sam here

[bigguy198O]

maybe 2 times a mth

[Coupe399]

Why weguys all have this problem.. Me oso..
Jialat, then how to earn baby bonus??

Last time bf/gf, no house go H81 = 1 week 3 to 4 time.
Now got own house do up nice nice, 1 year and counting = 0 time.. :confused:

[donalduck5]

... the moment i see the rolls of fat around her waist, arms and legs my little dragon morphs into a little worm... :o

i still love my wife very much but it's getting more n more difficult to get it up for her.... and the worst part is she thinks it's all my fault and won't put in any effort to get it up again like giving a BJ or anything.......

... wat am i to do???

... btw, we're both on the high side of 20s only... and she was about 60kg (1.6m) when i knew her. ya not exactly very slim i know but she's now 72kg and heavier than me already.... sigh...

My friend, sounds like you are into a physical relationship ... which I hope I am wrong ...

If you really love your wife, turn off the lights, talk to her, kiss her romance her in the dark ... tune into : the reasons why you love her and decided to marry her in the first place; make love to her with your heart and mind, not with your eyes ...

If she does not want to give a BJ, then you start giving oral ... does not necessary need to start from her crotch ... start with deep kissing and move down ... take the lead and put in the effort because you are the MAN who loves her!!

[Bangster]

FUCK ME! But I really think that is a daaarrrn hard thing to do to a 72kg parcel of fats and meat.

Kewlguy really will need tons and tons of imagination and deceptive thoughts.

Come on lah, we are MEN after all. It's because of love that we marry, but knn the chabor also must steady tampoh mah, at least keep the weight in check.

Exercise de-stresses anyways.

Ok I'll offer a solution to Kewlguy:
Let her catch you ogling at slim girls in sexy lingerie. When interrogated, tell her you wanna buy something like that for her, in a way it's for you also...cos you'll get aroused and then she probably may get a good time mah.

But first of all, tell her nicely she must at least slim down abit. And thereafter come out with all the "there are no ugly women in this world, only lazy ones" bullshit and tell her. At least encourage her to look beautiful again.

[erkobb]

Thanks to Meganfox, we're seeing 2 perspectives (even if she's the only woman contributing her story) - and we're all engaged in the thread because, for good or bad, we're truly communicating behind the anonymity. The problem we're all facing has complex multi-facets and we're seeking to understand and find a solution to each of our unique situations. That's the good part - the sad part is that no one here will have the complete answer to your problems and each of us have to take the journey alone in sorting out our problems with spouses/GFs. We can only empathize and give sincere suggestions and hope our fellow journeyman/women find some light along the common pathways we take.

Suggestion to Meganfox, Donald_Duck knows what he is talking about and sleeping with someone else will not take away the pain or satisfy the urge to get even. If he is still eating out as you say, you have every right to be angrey - but then you should either leave or truly get over it and establish new ground rules for yourself if you're staying in the marriage for other good reasons. Let him know as well. I believe somewhere along the way, communication broke down and hurt/anger/distrust has prevented a true resumption of truthful communication (you're still defensive - not judging you, just stating what I see) - and maybe he is not helping if he is still straying. So you need to bite the bullet even if it's laying down an ultimatum. If you can't restore frank communications, continuing the relationship is a waste of time. But whatever decision you take, you both must agree on how to help the children get through this one.

My story: married 13 yrs, 3 kids, love my wife and kids and believe everything is provided. Ever since married, take all efforts to please wife in bed and wife gets big-O every time (100% serious!) as long as she doesn't say stop. Problem: 1. I have to initiate most of the time and end up me serving her (told her that's a problem - it's continued as she doesn't know what to do) 2. She asks me "you sure can or not" when I ask for 2nd round. We've never had a 2nd round and she has never asked for one or tried to give me one (told her that's a problem too - but she's repeated it) 3. Highly different sex drives (told her that's also a big problem - but she forgets the last conversation, changes the subject, keeps quiet or turns up the TV/radio). So how? Eat out from time to time lor... started after 11 years of marriage and repeated reminders. When we've done our part to try to communicate and be honest, but there is no satisfactory response - then we all have to make choices, and live with them.

Thanks to all for sharing! Here's a toast to greater understanding, great stories and life's many surprises.

[erkobb]

Thanks to Meganfox, we're seeing 2 perspectives (even if she's the only woman contributing her story) - and we're all engaged in the thread because, for good or bad, we're truly communicating behind the anonymity. The problem we're all facing has complex multi-facets and we're seeking to understand and find a solution to each of our unique situations. That's the good part - the sad part is that no one here will have the complete answer to your problems and each of us have to take the journey alone in sorting out our problems with spouses/GFs. We can only empathize and give sincere suggestions and hope our fellow journeyman/women find some light along the common pathways we take.

Suggestion to Meganfox, Donald_Duck knows what he is talking about and sleeping with someone else will not take away the pain or satisfy the urge to get even. If he is still eating out as you say, you have every right to be angrey - but then you should either leave or truly get over it and establish new ground rules for yourself if you're staying in the marriage for other good reasons. Let him know as well. I believe somewhere along the way, communication broke down and hurt/anger/distrust has prevented a true resumption of truthful communication (you're still defensive - not judging you, just stating what I see) - and maybe he is not helping if he is still straying. So you need to bite the bullet even if it's laying down an ultimatum. If you can't restore frank communications, continuing the relationship is a waste of time. But whatever decision you take, you both must agree on how to help the children get through this one.

My story: married 13 yrs, 3 kids, love my wife and kids and believe everything is provided. Ever since married, take all efforts to please wife in bed and wife gets big-O every time (100% serious!) as long as she doesn't say stop. Problem: 1. I have to initiate most of the time and end up me serving her (told her that's a problem - it's continued as she doesn't know what to do) 2. She asks me "you sure can or not" when I ask for 2nd round. We've never had a 2nd round and she has never asked for one or tried to give me one (told her that's a problem too - but she's repeated it) 3. Highly different sex drives (told her that's also a big problem - but she forgets the last conversation, changes the subject, keeps quiet or turns up the TV/radio). So how? Eat out from time to time lor... started after 11 years of marriage and repeated reminders. When we've done our part to try to communicate and be honest, but there is no satisfactory response - then we all have to make choices, and live with them.

Thanks to all for sharing! Here's a toast to greater understanding, great stories and life's many surprises.

[donalduck5]

FUCK ME! But I really think that is a daaarrrn hard thing to do to a 72kg parcel of fats and meat.

Kewlguy really will need tons and tons of imagination and deceptive thoughts...


Don't liddat lah ... give chance a bit lah brother ... :D Cannot write-off 72kgs liddat ... its 72 kgs of charming wife ... full of oddles and oddles of love!!!


My encouragement for Kewlguy:

Plumb girls are also cute!!

You have more to have and hold, compared to the others

In the dark, all cats look the same.


Anyway ... seriously speaking, encourage your wife to keep fit and think of your first "love attraction" for the both of you... True love goes beyond the physical