Visiting ex FL in her homeland

[pearlnjewel]

I have been telling people not to get involved with FLs but recently i somehow has been in contact with a FL who went back to homeland.

And i'm considering going to visit her cos i told her i want to see her again.

I told myself that we are not going to be a couple or getting marry that sort because she was a FL. I'm just going to visit her cos i want to see her again and enjoy some time together.

Hopefully i wont sink in too deep to make her a permanent resident in Singapore.

[pearlnjewel]

Don't worry. You are not the only guy visiting her. :o

This is really bitter medicine though i knew subconsciously. Thanks i see how

[EtherC]

You started on the wrong foot, she knows you are a John and you know her as a hooker. Will you use it against her when you lose your temper? Very likely so. Much as we like to be politically correct and say things like we dun mind the past, but really how many men can live up to that. Especially if you see her with another man, what would be your first reaction? The past may not define who we are but sometimes it is so much a part of ourselves that no matter what psycho babble u go through it will surface at some point. You think Will Smith really can take open relationships with his b!tch of a wife? We all saw the answer when he exploded in violence.

[texaschicken]

I have been telling people not to get involved with FLs but recently i somehow has been in contact with a FL who went back to homeland.

And i'm considering going to visit her cos i told her i want to see her again.

I told myself that we are not going to be a couple or getting marry that sort because she was a FL. I'm just going to visit her cos i want to see her again and enjoy some time together.

Hopefully i wont sink in too deep to make her a permanent resident in Singapore.

i did not find FL but i did find my FWB when i went holiday, so it is possible to just have a holiday fling and not get attached. but depends on your self control

[jblnonstop]

This is really bitter medicine though i knew subconsciously. Thanks i see how

if u can feel bitter than better dont ah means got attraction got small pothole liao

[pearlnjewel]

You started on the wrong foot, she knows you are a John and you know her as a hooker. Will you use it against her when you lose your temper? Very likely so. Much as we like to be politically correct and say things like we dun mind the past, but really how many men can live up to that. Especially if you see her with another man, what would be your first reaction? The past may not define who we are but sometimes it is so much a part of ourselves that no matter what psycho babble u go through it will surface at some point. You think Will Smith really can take open relationships with his b!tch of a wife? We all saw the answer when he exploded in violence.

u r right on started wrong foot, not sure about the rest that you said, yet. Definitely a no if shes a spouse

[pearlnjewel]

i did not find FL but i did find my FWB when i went holiday, so it is possible to just have a holiday fling and not get attached. but depends on your self control

Ah i see, thanks for sharing. Was she a FL?

[demonhunter]

Bring more money bro .... standby for some sad stories on day 3

:D

[blueshark01]

Pearlnjewel bro, I've actually done exactly that, just came back on Monday.

I told myself the same thing as you did. I also thought, I've never been to her homeland before, and since travel restrictions have loosened, why not take this opportunity to go on a holiday after being stuck at home for so long? Plus having familiar (albeit paid) companionship will be better than dragging my not-street-smart ass about on my own in a foreign land.

Now that I'm back, let's just say I severely overestimated my reasoning and resolve about not getting (too) attached. Because when I'm dead honest with myself, my main reason for going was because I really wanted to see her, spend time with her and know her more as an actual person. In other words, the attachment was already present and strong within me. Or as other Samsters put it, I KC-ed myself.

This is just my experience, may be different for you. You just got to be really honest with yourself about exactly why and how much you want to see her and enjoy time together, that you want to go over and find her when there are so many other FLs available. I believe acknowledging what you really feel and what your real intentions are will help no matter the outcome.

We all know and read enough about why we shouldn't get involved with FLs beyond the pump-n'-go. But alas, we are still human, flesh-and-blood beings that are wired for connection, relationship and intimacy, with yearnings and desires. Hope this helps somewhat, though no judgement here if you do end up going.

[blueshark01]

Bring more money bro .... standby for some sad stories on day 3

:D
Hahaha there you go

[larue]

If you don’t have a very clear idea of what you want to achieve by going to see her again, then don’t.

[chaoslord]

If you're meeting her just for physical intimacy and nothing else that is perfectly fine. Anything more and its a slippery slope from there.

What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. Don't blur the lines, the only happy ending lasts for only 5 seconds.

[Veranto]

I have been telling people not to get involved with FLs but recently i somehow has been in contact with a FL who went back to homeland.

And i'm considering going to visit her cos i told her i want to see her again.

I told myself that we are not going to be a couple or getting marry that sort because she was a FL. I'm just going to visit her cos i want to see her again and enjoy some time together.

Hopefully i wont sink in too deep to make her a permanent resident in Singapore.

How are you going to make her a PR? Fake marriage?

[Peacekeeping]

I know how great the temptation can be especially when the gal is pretty and seems to be good in character. You have to know that it’s very difficult for gals in this line to become “good”. Money comes in too easy for them to be a normal housewife or normal working woman. You look at some of the 50s aunties still selling their body and still got people feed them. If you ok to share your “gf” with the world forever then it’s fine.

[pearlnjewel]

if u can feel bitter than better dont ah means got attraction got small pothole liao

ah true sian sia i think you spot on

[pearlnjewel]

Bring more money bro .... standby for some sad stories on day 3

:D

ahahaha great reminder

[pearlnjewel]

Pearlnjewel bro, I've actually done exactly that, just came back on Monday.

I told myself the same thing as you did. I also thought, I've never been to her homeland before, and since travel restrictions have loosened, why not take this opportunity to go on a holiday after being stuck at home for so long? Plus having familiar (albeit paid) companionship will be better than dragging my not-street-smart ass about on my own in a foreign land.

Now that I'm back, let's just say I severely overestimated my reasoning and resolve about not getting (too) attached. Because when I'm dead honest with myself, my main reason for going was because I really wanted to see her, spend time with her and know her more as an actual person. In other words, the attachment was already present and strong within me. Or as other Samsters put it, I KC-ed myself.

This is just my experience, may be different for you. You just got to be really honest with yourself about exactly why and how much you want to see her and enjoy time together, that you want to go over and find her when there are so many other FLs available. I believe acknowledging what you really feel and what your real intentions are will help no matter the outcome.

We all know and read enough about why we shouldn't get involved with FLs beyond the pump-n'-go. But alas, we are still human, flesh-and-blood beings that are wired for connection, relationship and intimacy, with yearnings and desires. Hope this helps somewhat, though no judgement here if you do end up going.


Yeah man i guess you spot on and its great you shared your experience. Sian sia tio KCed

[pearlnjewel]

If you don’t have a very clear idea of what you want to achieve by going to see her again, then don’t.

yeah man havent taken action because of the super ex air ticket

[pearlnjewel]

If you're meeting her just for physical intimacy and nothing else that is perfectly fine. Anything more and its a slippery slope from there.

What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. Don't blur the lines, the only happy ending lasts for only 5 seconds.

I see...physical intimacy plenty of FLs in sg and bolehland to get. But siao liao the fact i want to meet her probably more than physical

[pearlnjewel]

How are you going to make her a PR? Fake marriage?

PR must have singapore baby liao cant be fake marriage

[lonelyboiboi90]

Which country the FL from? I do have the feeling of visiting her too. But their side isnt open for tourism sadly

[cornporn]

Which country the FL from? I do have the feeling of visiting her too. But their side isnt open for tourism sadly

thailand open !

[Romeo93]

I have been telling people not to get involved with FLs but recently i somehow has been in contact with a FL who went back to homeland.

And i'm considering going to visit her cos i told her i want to see her again.

I told myself that we are not going to be a couple or getting marry that sort because she was a FL. I'm just going to visit her cos i want to see her again and enjoy some time together.

Hopefully i wont sink in too deep to make her a permanent resident in Singapore.

I have done that twice 😁

I stayed there for many months each time.

I think not worth tbh. Important to think with big head and think of your future for your own sake. Like are you rich enough to bring her to SG? Is she financially independent?

I understand it is fun but be careful of your wallet and your heart man. Take care of yourself! Prioritise yourself!

[kayakracer]

I have done that twice 😁

I stayed there for many months each time.

I think not worth tbh. Important to think with big head and think of your future for your own sake. Like are you rich enough to bring her to SG? Is she financially independent?

I understand it is fun but be careful of your wallet and your heart man. Take care of yourself! Prioritise yourself!

yup so this keep in contact thing ah, better with no emotion involved. got emotion involved better stop contact or things get worse. as much as some people say got happy stories , not wrong ah but statistically how many kanna conned. unless u patient and strong enough to find out lor.

[jblnonstop]

ah true sian sia i think you spot on

sex can develop attachment if there is initial feelings. that's when it goes up hill and then down hill.

so best is fling with FL that you not feeling anything towards.

[gbox360]

While true, a fling just for sex is totally different feeling from one with feelings.

We are all humans, whether men or women, customers or FLs. Developing feelings is normal. It depends on whether we want to act on the feelings or not.



sex can develop attachment if there is initial feelings. that's when it goes up hill and then down hill.

so best is fling with FL that you not feeling anything towards.

[jblnonstop]

While true, a fling just for sex is totally different feeling from one with feelings.

We are all humans, whether men or women, customers or FLs. Developing feelings is normal. It depends on whether we want to act on the feelings or not.

yes, that's when our self control comes in.

[cornporn]

if can FWB with FL , hoh seh ! even if you have to pay, the GFE lvl sibei high

[hairy_inc]

Banged a FL from motherland twice when she was here. Got her personal wechat and we became online friends. Went to 🇰🇷 last year to see her as she was working as a farmer. No sex but chit chat over dinner. FLs can be friends too, if you can control your emotions.

[gbox360]

Simple question - if you go to visit the FL back in her home question, do you still pay her for the time she spent with you although you have already paid for the hotel, food, drinks and entertainment?

[riotspace]

Simple question - if you go to visit the FL back in her home question, do you still pay her for the time she spent with you although you have already paid for the hotel, food, drinks and entertainment?

I give some pocket money for her days not at work and spending time with you. See if she want to take or return u back the money. Also depends if she rich I won't bother but if she low income I just give as angpow lor

[curtix]

bro usually after that, alot stories will come. cow fall sick, mother go hospital etc. must be prepared for all these to come ya. my friend kena jia lat jia lat