How long is long?

[benjamin8]

Guys, i got serious problem here... my wife and i have been having a lot of sex for the past few month, but as time pass... she does not seems to be that interested as the first time.. i just got married last year.. and i worried in long run... i may not be able to satisfy her...

i don't think the problem lies with my skill.. i tried alot of style from the jap porn and i very sure my speed is fast, the building up is better...

the only think i scare now is my penis length.. my wife say its big but never say its long... and i know that my one is not long.. i currently at 4.7inch which is around 12cm.. sometime can go to 5.1 inch. don't ask me how.

is it normal? is my penis so short in compare to all singaporean out there? whats the average penis size length in sg? is there any enlargement pills out there in sg shop which i can buy?

pls guys i really need help.

[cheongsterjon]

Bro TS, don't just care about the speed, don't be like a fucking machine...give her variations...slow and sensual bonking alternate with deep hard thrusts and finally speed up the rate at which you bonk her..do this a few times and see her reaction, tried this a few times and my partners tell me they like it...but does not guarantee this will do for your wifey..

Another would be the foreplay, lick her at body parts where she love to be licked..whisper romantic words into her ears when bonking..

Hope that you will have a better sex life with your wife..

[lolly pop]

If you bonk like rabbits initially especially with wife. It os perfectly natural that it will slow down after a while. Try not to do it too often 2-3 times a week OK.

[cupid128]

Most impt, cannot always do the same SOP ... must always vary your foreplay and pattern.

[benjamin8]

hmm, i agree with the "don't always sop thing" and the buildup. now i trying to use fruits and cream...

but what abt the length? 4.7 inch max 5.1 inch... is my penis short? whats the average sg length? can anyone advice me on the pills that can be bought in sg to enlarge my penis?

pls advice me.. tks alot for help bros

[hang37]

think you need to ask her why she not interested.. work stress or watever reason...
think ur little bro is not too short la....

[waiwaiz]

Can try using some sex toys or gadget to add spice into your sex life. Thats what me and my gal are doing now......:D

[KingEros]

Guys, i got serious problem here... my wife and i have been having a lot of sex for the past few month, but as time pass... she does not seems to be that interested as the first time.. i just got married last year.. and i worried in long run... i may not be able to satisfy her...

i don't think the problem lies with my skill.. i tried alot of style from the jap porn and i very sure my speed is fast, the building up is better...

the only think i scare now is my penis length.. my wife say its big but never say its long... and i know that my one is not long.. i currently at 4.7inch which is around 12cm.. sometime can go to 5.1 inch. don't ask me how.
Uncle, I think you worry too much ... where matrimonial union is concerned, it's only natural for the frequency & intensity of the sex to decrease, as time goes by ... made even worst, following the arrival of children in that same union. If it's not the diverted physical strength, the shifted focus in life would also end up with such a norm. :D

However, looking at what you mentioned in terms of the nitty-gritties, I can't hold back from telling you these:
1) yes, you have a short prick ... but that's ok, as long as your wife hasn't had the pleasure of being exposed to a much longer prick so far.
2) there's actually further consolation ... coz your wife actually noted that your prick is thick, which means you are still able to satisfy her sensual vaginal walls.

What you can further improve on ... is your skills, though you might think you are already a well-trained stud. Good sex means variety ... you actually have the girth (thickness) to reach all of her vaginal walls, so make full use of your asset. To achieve this, refrain from speedy thrusts, though rough play once in a while is also considered variety. Instead, slow down & let her sensual vaginal walls finish sending those orgasmic signals to her brains. To help things further, try doggie & spoon with the slow but assertive strokes. Let me know if your wife is not singing praises of you being THE best by then ... :D

Can try using some sex toys or gadget to add spice into your sex life. Thats what me and my gal are doing now......:D
All well & good ... the choice is yours.
But I just wanna caution that with toys, the "appetite" grow bigger faster ... why else would the sex shops be filled up with mock-ups of horse pricks & elephant pricks.
At the end of the day, you're only courting your own doomsday ... by introducing her to the concept that your role in her sex life can be rather minimal, if not totally negligible. :rolleyes:

PS: I dunno if you actually have a prick as big & long as the horse or the elephant ... I'm just speaking from the perspective of the TS, in which case sex toys can end up making him completely redundant.

[cheong.man]

Bro TS, if you would eat the same dishes every time will you be bored. Sex is not SOP like most bro said. It's about making and enjoying the process. You need to change the style and let her feel differently.

As for how long is long, it does not really matter. You said you can stretch around 5 inches that is enough. Allow some time for her to do the riding, it will penetrate her deeper and she can control the stroke and direction. Make a change maybe you will see a different in respond.

[magez]

all i can say is don't worry too much bout what you don't have...

k yes it's on the lower end of the scale but i'm sure most locals are not much better...

try to please and tease by varying your techinique and speed....
and don't forget to touch, women are not as turned on by direct stimulus, most are seduced by teasing, touching etc.

leave fast and furious pistoning for the finale..

remember there'll be no fire if you can't light the sparks..

[easybaby]

There are certain positions that can allow you to penetrate her deeper during sex. You might want to do a readup on them :) and don't feel worried, your size sounds good enough :D

[jerrystockton]

Watch porn movie before sex, it may help :)

[Lanchio1]

5" is long???? :eek: You really have high regards for yourself.

[no_faith]

...my wife say its big but never say its long... bro sumtimes give n take. urs is big, maybe not long. others maybe long, might not be big.
at least got sumting to shout for.

wat happens to those which is not long and not big?
mine very average nia but at least it is functioning well to make me feel song.

[benjamin8]

i not saying 5 inch is long.. i jus asking how long is long... u got to read properly my notes... i having even more trouble now..

usually sunday night me and my wife will go to a hotel but... none of that happen.. even when i have asked...

this is going crazy.. i cannot take it anymore... i really scare she having another affair outside...

i mean... how long is long? must i go to 6-9 inch? whats the average length of the singapore guys? i really need to know this... as i have jus bought some of the max pills from a local store.. but i have no idea when to stop.. it say i cannot overdose.. and it take 1-3 month to see result...

to me i dun care abt what overdose thingy... i jus wan to be above average.. and for god sake how long is average length so that i can stop after i reach +1 inch than that.. stupid pills cost me 99 dollar... and only last 1 month..

1 last question.. measuring penis length is i stand up and when penis erect perpendicular to the body and measure rite? some of the reply say did i measure correct or not... i mean u dun measure parallel to ur body and measure from ball or somewhere near it to ur penis head rite? i measure perpendicular and its around 4.7-5.1 inch... i hope some one can give me advice on the average length..

whatever it is... i going all out to above average.. today pills.. maybe i get a pump or anything jus to lengthen it...

[benjamin8]

i not saying 5 inch is long.. i jus asking how long is long... u got to read properly my notes... i having even more trouble now..

usually sunday night me and my wife will go to a hotel but... none of that happen.. even when i have asked...

this is going crazy.. i cannot take it anymore... i really scare she having another affair outside...

i mean... how long is long? must i go to 6-9 inch? whats the average length of the singapore guys? i really need to know this... as i have jus bought some of the max pills from a local store.. but i have no idea when to stop.. it say i cannot overdose.. and it take 1-3 month to see result...

to me i dun care abt what overdose thingy... i jus wan to be above average.. and for god sake how long is average length so that i can stop after i reach +1 inch than that.. stupid pills cost me 99 dollar... and only last 1 month..

1 last question.. measuring penis length is i stand up and when penis erect perpendicular to the body and measure rite? some of the reply say did i measure correct or not... i mean u dun measure parallel to ur body and measure from ball or somewhere near it to ur penis head rite? i measure perpendicular and its around 4.7-5.1 inch... i hope some one can give me advice on the average length..

whatever it is... i going all out to above average.. today pills.. maybe i get a pump or anything jus to lengthen it...

[Wizard1]

i not saying 5 inch is long.. i jus asking how long is long......
i mean... how long is long? must i go to 6-9 inch? whats the average length of the singapore guys? i really need to know this... as i have jus bought some of the max pills from a local store.. but i have no idea when to stop.. it say i cannot overdose.. and it take 1-3 month to see result...

to me i dun care abt what overdose thingy... i jus wan to be above average.. and for god sake how long is average length so that i can stop after i reach +1 inch than that.. stupid pills cost me 99 dollar... and only last 1 month..

1 last question.. measuring penis length is i stand up and when penis erect perpendicular to the body and measure rite? some of the reply say did i measure correct or not... i mean u dun measure parallel to ur body and measure from ball or somewhere near it to ur penis head rite? i measure perpendicular and its around 4.7-5.1 inch... i hope some one can give me advice on the average length..

whatever it is... i going all out to above average.. today pills.. maybe i get a pump or anything jus to lengthen it...

Bro, generally speaking asian size is average around 5.5" so if yours is alittle shorter it should not matter, unless your wife tell you that your size is not enough. You should find out why she would not want to do it. No more interested in making love the same way again? Or are you coming too soon that she hasn't got her satifaction yet.

Making love is a technique to express it with action. So is the method not the tool.

[vodafoo]

Its not the length of the wand...... its the magic u do with your wand :D

[whiskynaam]

Bro,

Did your wife tell you that your dick is not satisfying her or is it something else? Alot of times it could be something else that she totally does not say, women are really good at doing this,

Try talking to her, I can see you have a huge interest in getting you dick size up, but if everything was working before this lull period, it can be something else more serious, women are usually more concerned about emotional aspects than the physical, Talk to her.. I am sure she will open up you u do it hard enough... ;)

[bochapsing]

i think TS should just refer to the poll section to get his answer.
there r thread on "how long" & "does size matters".

do some homework before start shooting questions n expecting answers..!

[DegenerationX]

i not saying 5 inch is long.. i jus asking how long is long... u got to read properly my notes... i having even more trouble now..

usually sunday night me and my wife will go to a hotel but... none of that happen.. even when i have asked...

this is going crazy.. i cannot take it anymore... i really scare she having another affair outside...
i mean... how long is long? must i go to 6-9 inch? whats the average length of the singapore guys? i really need to know this... as i have jus bought some of the max pills from a local store.. but i have no idea when to stop.. it say i cannot overdose.. and it take 1-3 month to see result...

to me i dun care abt what overdose thingy... i jus wan to be above average.. and for god sake how long is average length so that i can stop after i reach +1 inch than that.. stupid pills cost me 99 dollar... and only last 1 month..

1 last question.. measuring penis length is i stand up and when penis erect perpendicular to the body and measure rite? some of the reply say did i measure correct or not... i mean u dun measure parallel to ur body and measure from ball or somewhere near it to ur penis head rite? i measure perpendicular and its around 4.7-5.1 inch... i hope some one can give me advice on the average length..

whatever it is... i going all out to above average.. today pills.. maybe i get a pump or anything jus to lengthen it...

I think there is nothing wrong with your dick. but there is defintely something wrong with ur brain. U need a pyschatrist, not max pills.

just because ur wife's intrest in sex has slowed down, u r afraid or suspecting she is having an affair outisde. what r u thinking of? u have no confidence in yourself, or your wife or your marriage?

[gokkunbazooka]

i not saying 5 inch is long.. i jus asking how long is long... u got to read properly my notes... i having even more trouble now..

usually sunday night me and my wife will go to a hotel but... none of that happen.. even when i have asked...

this is going crazy.. i cannot take it anymore... i really scare she having another affair outside...

i mean... how long is long? must i go to 6-9 inch? whats the average length of the singapore guys? i really need to know this... as i have jus bought some of the max pills from a local store.. but i have no idea when to stop.. it say i cannot overdose.. and it take 1-3 month to see result...

i measure perpendicular and its around 4.7-5.1 inch... i hope some one can give me advice on the average length..


I have a smaller cock than you. My cock is 4 1/4 inch (slightly less than 11cm) long only when erect, BUT I do not have the same worries as you. I'm having a HELL of a time. See following pics as evidence.

CIMG1579.JPG - DivShare (http://www.divshare.com/download/4946250-f8e)

CIMG1580.JPG - DivShare (http://www.divshare.com/download/4946251-bd6)

In fact, I do not even bother to use any pumps or pills to attempt to enlarge my cock at the risk of my own health. Shit, even gals get excited when I could use it properly. They even volunteer to pcc me and some of them want me to shoot all over their tits. Don't believe what I just said, see following pics to convince yourself.

CIMG1664.JPG - DivShare (http://www.divshare.com/download/4946252-859)

CIMG1665.JPG - DivShare (http://www.divshare.com/download/4946253-0f3)

CIMG1666.JPG - DivShare (http://www.divshare.com/download/4946254-228)

I have even used this little cock of mine to fuck some ang-moh women. Size does matter only when your mind says so. Of course, I have a wicked fetish of seeing a big cock fuck a gal while I'm fucking one at the same time. :D

[KingBong]

As its been said, size is not everything. Take for example guys that like big boobies, does it mean they cannot cum with those having A size? I had asked some people and usually they give different response because each has their own personality, so you need to know yr partner well. Share 1 with you is stamina. If you come before they do, like within 2mins, it may not interest them.


i mean... how long is long? must i go to 6-9 inch? whats the average length of the singapore guys? i really need to know this... as i have jus bought some of the max pills from a local store.. but i have no idea when to stop.. it say i cannot overdose.. and it take 1-3 month to see result...

[pro.d.igy]

It's not what you have, it's how you use it :)

I think your problem here is psychological. You seem to be suffering from self anxiety issues. I feel that you should learn to relax, and since you have mentioned your partner is your wife, why not sit down and talk to her about this?

As husband and wife, communication is very important. I am not going into details like how and what you should do. Talk to your wife. And try to have a little bit more self confidence :D

[Cmdr Soundwave]

It's not what you have, it's how you use it :)

I think your problem here is psychological. You seem to be suffering from self anxiety issues. I feel that you should learn to relax, and since you have mentioned your partner is your wife, why not sit down and talk to her about this?

As husband and wife, communication is very important. I am not going into details like how and what you should do. Talk to your wife. And try to have a little bit more self confidence :D

Well said! More important is do the both of you enjoy doing it. Don't get too caught up in pecker competition.

[powerman61]

Bro,

Lots of sex is good for you but not necessarily good for her. I mean in terms of sextifaction. You never said :

1) How long (how many minutes) did you last when you pumping her?
2) Did she cum? whether with you inside her or whether you do oral or finger her to orgasm. It is important that both of you have your orgasm.

Making her cum does not have anything to do with your length of your dick because the clit is on the outside of her vagina. It takes skill to girate your hips and grind and rotate your pubic against her pubic during yr pumping action which can make her cum again and again.

As you are still young in your marriage, it will take some time for 2 of you to jive and enjoy sex. Unless she has tasted someone's else's monster dick or monster tongue or finger, you got problem liao. So right now, I think your problem is that you always have your own orgasm but leaving her with nothing at the end, right? Even after you cum, you jolly well make sure you finger or lick her until she cums to complete the session otherwise you will be finding her losing interest in you which is what is happening.

Even fingering also takes skill. Go read up and listen to some of the bros here. I think there are some article in SBF also which you need to search.

Good luck bro...may the force be with you....grind harder.
:D

[5ag1_Boar]

Bro,

You used to have good and frequent sex with your wife... so conclusion, she is happy with your size. FORGET ABOUT ENLARGING IT. Save your money.

There is a theory that many relationship counsellors believe in: Women need to feel loved to make love. Men need to make love to feel loved. (Obviously, this is changing for modern women, but I still think it's pretty true in a 'traditional' relationship context.)

Ironically, the more you stress about your love life and size, the worse the situation will become because it will affect the way you interact with your wife. The stress and worry is probably making you less loving, more pesky. Some guys become distant, or become more demanding. All this negative behaviour will get negative reaction... relationship goes down the drain => forget about sex with wife forever.

You worry about her having an affair? Well, at the rate you're going, even if she hasn't you might be driving her towards that. If she really is, a big dick will not bring her back. Most women have affairs because of feelings, not because of bad sex.

As many bros advised, you need to work on the relationship, not the size of your kuku chiao.

After some time, the loving feeling has diminished. So start doing things to make her feel loved. I suggest you go get this book by Gary Chapman, The 5 languages of love. Not expensive (Less then $50, if I recall correctly). Easy to read and understand, and most importantly, unlike some chim chim books on relationship, this one actually makes sense. Figure out her love language and start 'speaking' it to her. There are 5: Touch, Acts of Service, Gifts, Quality Time and Words of Appreciation. Most people have 1 main one and at most 1 secondary one.

The other thing to do, is woo her again. Go for dates as if you are still courting her (i.e. don't ask her "want to go out or not", "where you want to go". Just tell her you are taking her out for a date on X day, how to dress (formal, smart casual, swim wear?). Does not have to be fancy, just plan it like a date instead of the usual outing.

Bring her to beach for a walk, the lack of distractions will allow you guys to talk, reconnect. Maybe if you build up enough romantic feeling, can make out... but don't have to lead to sex (no pressure). Just have a good making out session.

Surprise her with flowers... best send to her office... her colleagues will be asking her who sent the flowers, or at least tell her 'wah, you so lucky, your hubby still so romantic'. She will feel good.

By the way, share the book with her. Let her see you reading it. She might ask you about it, then you can tell her 'I want to make you feel more loved'. She might read it too, and reciprocate.

Basically, what you do depends on her personal language of love. If she speaks the language of love, small and cheap frequent gifts (origami, appreciation card, surprise love notes in her handbag, flowers, potted plant) and big expensive ones (jewellery, etc) once in a while will do wonders. If she speaks the language of touch, she will love holding hands, hugging, kissing, sitting together, cuddling.

Go read the book. It may not be the complete solution, but it should make things better and that is a good first step.

[5ag1_Boar]

Oh yah... I forgot my other point. Learn to 'make love' not just fuck like a pornstar.

That's my impression, since you said you take your inspiration and style from Jap porn.

More foreplay. Slow down. Seduce her. You said you are fast (I assume able to thrust fast, not mean cum fast), but sometimes slow and teasing makes things interesting. Finish off fast and hard when she is really high and asking for it, but you don't have to start like a locomotive on a schedule.

More kissing, worship her body, touch, caress, feel. Take your time to feast on her.

[benjamin8]

.... i feel so bad after reading the last few post...
i guess u guys are right... and the way i treating her is like a pornstar then a wife.. i read up a line that say
" if u want milk to drink, go get it from 7 11, don't buy a cow.."
think i going crazy over my sex life rather than concentrate on my love...
think i should spend more time accompany my wife rather than my small head... small small head... see liao also sian...

i went to woodland popular and orchard that big bookstore.. cannot find ur book... can u tell me where the place or where u last seen it? really interested in reading ur book to calm me down in the meanwhile...

[Steadyman1]

Title should be The Five Love Languages
Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages: Learn the Languages (http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html)

Enjoying sex is between both parties..... :)

[5ag1_Boar]

.... i feel so bad after reading the last few post...
i guess u guys are right... and the way i treating her is like a pornstar then a wife.. i read up a line that say
" if u want milk to drink, go get it from 7 11, don't buy a cow.."
think i going crazy over my sex life rather than concentrate on my love...
think i should spend more time accompany my wife rather than my small head... small small head... see liao also sian...

i went to woodland popular and orchard that big bookstore.. cannot find ur book... can u tell me where the place or where u last seen it? really interested in reading ur book to calm me down in the meanwhile...

I assume you meant Borders at Orchard? I got mine there. Another friend bought at one of the Popular Bookstores. Did you ask the shop staff? Especially at Borders because they can look up the stock on the computer and tell you really have or not... if have they will find for you. If they say have, and that staff don't help, tell him/her you already searched but cannot find, can he/she help you find.

Anyway, your small head is ok lah. Lower end of the average range, like me. But my lovers till now no complaints. Stop worrying about the small head, it will only affect your performance, attitude and ultimately your relationship with your wife.

[CUM2ME]

Bro sagiboar,
Totally agree with you.

Sagiboar has a very good point... TS do read it thoroughly.

Do not mind me adding,... Sex is just an act. What you want is to "make love"... not just bonk a piece of meat. What you need is how you initiate it. The things that you do leading to it.

Like doing the dishes for her. Make breakfast for her... Surprise her,.. make her feel loved... Do note that by doing all these, please DO NOT expect that she MUST and WILL give you sex a the end of the day.

All the little things that you do for her, is like earning a point. Also, do note that each thing that you do earns you only 1 point. No matter how big that thing is, the most it will earn you 1 or 2 more points.

If she can see that you are still very much in love with her, she will in turn call on you for some hot wet sexsion... :D


Bro,

There is a theory that many relationship counsellors believe in: Women need to feel loved to make love. Men need to make love to feel loved. (Obviously, this is changing for modern women, but I still think it's pretty true in a 'traditional' relationship context.)
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