OPP

[UncleHasBeen]

https://youtu.be/idx3GSL2KWs

The purpose of this thread as the title suggests, we are talking about OPP.
For us guys, OPP = Other People’s Pussy.
For the gals. OPP = Other People’s Penis.

In essence, OPP is Other People’s Property.
It is an acquired taste, I know, and I will admit. :D

This hip-hop classic (1991) has been hailed as the anthem on OPP.
And the chorus of this song is "Are u down with OPP”.

So this is what this thread is about, "are u down with OPP".

:D:cool::D:cool:

[UncleHasBeen]

Let’s just share your experiences about OPP.
Which means your stories of your journey with OPP.

Some call it cheats, lying and unfaithful.
Honestly it depends on the context if u are married or attached.

Most importantly we are not here to judge, let’s leave the sanctimonious hypocrite higher moral ground crap aside.
The reason we are here, are for the pussies.

OPP or not, doesn’t make u holier than thou.
So let’s cut the crap and make this thread a learning portal.

Share your good and bad experience dealing with OPP.
Could be married women, someone’s significant others or partner.

No judgement here and don’t need to justify your actions.
We all have a dick, we know, and we are way past the judgment phase on others.

And if u are a gal and willing to share, oh hell yeah, we are all ears!
Please share with us your experience. Or your rants.
Better, share your tested and proven strategies for scoring OPP and maintaining them.

And if your partner, spouse or significant other was/is the one straying and snacking away, share your rant and frustration here with us.

As long as u were or are in such OPP business, please share it here with us!

If u are part of the LGBTQIA movement, u are also welcomed to share your stories here!

:D:D:cool::cool:

[Anonyabc]

Let’s just share your experiences about OPP.
Which means your stories of your journey with OPP.

Some call it cheats, lying and unfaithful.
Honestly it depends on the context if u are married or attached.

Most importantly we are not here to judge, let’s leave the sanctimonious hypocrite higher moral ground crap aside.
The reason we are here, are for the pussies.

OPP or not, doesn’t make u holier than thou.
So let’s cut the crap and make this thread a learning portal.

Share your good and bad experience dealing with OPP.
Could be married women, someone’s significant others or partner.

No judgement here and don’t need to justify your actions.
We all have a dick, we know, and we are way past the judgment phase on others.

And if u are a gal and willing to share, oh hell yeah, we are all ears!
Please share with us your experience. Or your rants.
Better, share your tested and proven strategies for scoring OPP and maintaining them.

And if your partner, spouse or significant other was/is the one straying and snacking away, share your rant and frustration here with us.

As long as u were or are in such OPP business, please share it here with us!

If u are part of the LGBTQIA movement, u are also welcomed to share your stories here!

:D:D:cool::cool:

I am kind of notoriously infamous for OPP...die siah...dun wanna say too much first cos will spoiler lol

[UncleHasBeen]

I am kind of notoriously infamous for OPP...die siah...dun wanna say too much first cos will spoiler lol

Awesome to your wealth of experience.
Spill it and share so we can all benefit :D

[Anonyabc]

Awesome to your wealth of experience.
Spill it and share so we can all benefit :D

Wait for one of my story reach that point bah
oh wait...is that a spoiler already lol

From back of my head I can at least remember myself bedding 4 married women already...*sighs*

[UncleHasBeen]

I will throw in my 2 cents along the way here.
Briefly I will share the qualities I think one should have when looking actively for OPP or at least the kind of qualities u should have in the event an OPP comes your way.

And don’t get me wrong. I am no guru in this.
I may have a few OPP journeys along the way but I have also crashed and burned numerous times before I stumbled upon OPP worthy of my time and commitment.

As of now, I have a few OPP (married women) that I am ‘committed’ to on top of my own marriage.
My ‘collection’ of OPP are mostly of the older nature.
The youngest in my ‘collection’ is 35 years old.
The rest are pretty much in the older range.

So if u tabulate these raw data, u might probably come up with a matrix table of probabilities.
Like, for an average Joe like me who is 51 years old with median income my likely hood of scoring OPP from the age of 30 years old is lower as compared to a 40-year-old pussy for example.

Generally, I think this is the direction of this thread is heading.
Hopefully more value in terms of insights and revelations.
The floor is open to everyone, please go ahead and take it.

:cool::cool::cool:

[Anonyabc]

I will throw in my 2 cents along the way here.
Briefly I will share the qualities I think one should have when looking actively for OPP or at least the kind of qualities u should have in the event an OPP comes your way.

And don’t get me wrong. I am no guru in this.
I may have a few OPP journeys along the way but I have also crashed and burned numerous times before I stumbled upon OPP worthy of my time and commitment.

As of now, I have a few OPP (married women) that I am ‘committed’ to on top of my own marriage.
My ‘collection’ of OPP are mostly of the older nature.
The youngest in my ‘collection’ is 35 years old.
The rest are pretty much in the older range.

So if u tabulate these raw data, u might probably come up with a matrix table of probabilities.
Like, for an average Joe like me who is 51 years old with median income my likely hood of scoring OPP from the age of 30 years old is lower as compared to a 40-year-old pussy for example.

Generally, I think this is the direction of this thread is heading.
Hopefully more value in terms of insights and revelations.
The floor is open to everyone, please go ahead and take it.

:cool::cool::cool:

Ah...statistics eh? That's an interesting talk.

Well while I was talking of historical, outside of my "full-time" commitments I do have one married lady in her 30s, while I myself am at my 40s. I guess in other aspect I might be similar (median income, not a muscleman, average Sam). I guess when it comes to hits the hits will edge closer to our age within 10 years, while anyone younger would taper off. At least that's what we are looking at now?

For my past experience I had 1 of my age while I was in late 20s, then 1 a few years younger than myself in my 30s, and one ONS that slipped past me (I liked her but she didn't seem interested to continue) and probably like 6-8 years younger than me.

[UncleHasBeen]

Ah...statistics eh? That's an interesting talk.

Well while I was talking of historical, outside of my "full-time" commitments I do have one married lady in her 30s, while I myself am at my 40s. I guess in other aspect I might be similar (median income, not a muscleman, average Sam). I guess when it comes to hits the hits will edge closer to our age within 10 years, while anyone younger would taper off. At least that's what we are looking at now?

For my past experience I had 1 of my age while I was in late 20s, then 1 a few years younger than myself in my 30s, and one ONS that slipped past me (I liked her but she didn't seem interested to continue) and probably like 6-8 years younger than me.

Oh man this is good talk.
Yes the tapering effect with respects to age gap, income gap and ethnicity/cultural differences.
We can collate all these raw pointers later but yes these are the stuff we can share, collate and form a rough outline or guideline of sorts.
Not necessary to increase our chances of hits but rather to act as filters and not waste time at those with low probability hits.

For starters, let's take me as example.
I would emit an imaginary 'aura' and this would place possible targets for hits. Only possible.

My aura would be based on my age, income, ethnicity and also body types.
So far my track record shows that with what i have now i can get a 15 years younger than me within my aura. The oldest i have now is 10 years older than me (61 year old).
So work on this data to establish a credible and accurate aura. Like a trawler with net and trawl the ocean floor for targets.

The variables will come from me and the targets as well.
Like those 5 years or 10 years into marriage,would they be more susceptible to be within my aura despite fulfilling the other variables.

Also those who are housewives with/out kids, how would these sway the aura.

There is also one key pointer that i discovered long time ago.
The potential targets themselves, their growing up years with their parents has an effect on their willingness to stray.
Especially those with manipulative and toxic parents.
I have 3 of these women in tow now who have such parents.

I'll stop for now. Let's regroup later for more concise and coherent data collection and tally :D

[Anonyabc]

Oh man this is good talk.
Yes the tapering effect with respects to age gap, income gap and ethnicity/cultural differences.
We can collate all these raw pointers later but yes these are the stuff we can share, collate and form a rough outline or guideline of sorts.
Not necessary to increase our chances of hits but rather to act as filters and not waste time at those with low probability hits.

For starters, let's take me as example.
I would emit an imaginary 'aura' and this would place possible targets for hits. Only possible.

My aura would be based on my age, income, ethnicity and also body types.
So far my track record shows that with what i have now i can get a 15 years younger than me within my aura. The oldest i have now is 10 years older than me (61 year old).
So work on this data to establish a credible and accurate aura. Like a trawler with net and trawl the ocean floor for targets.

The variables will come from me and the targets as well.
Like those 5 years or 10 years into marriage,would they be more susceptible to be within my aura despite fulfilling the other variables.

Also those who are housewives with/out kids, how would these sway the aura.

There is also one key pointer that i discovered long time ago.
The potential targets themselves, their growing up years with their parents has an effect on their willingness to stray.
Especially those with manipulative and toxic parents.
I have 3 of these women in tow now who have such parents.

I'll stop for now. Let's regroup later for more concise and coherent data collection and tally :D

U r starting to make this into a science. I have yet to overthink the details honestly.

[UncleHasBeen]

U r starting to make this into a science. I have yet to overthink the details honestly.

When we have enough of sharing here, an outline a vague pattern will appear and from there, we can further science the fuck out of it :D

[Anonyabc]

When we have enough of sharing here, an outline a vague pattern will appear and from there, we can further science the fuck out of it :D

Let's wait for other contributions then, while we collect our thoughts :D

[UncleHasBeen]

Let's wait for other contributions then, while we collect our thoughts :D

Yes and mean time we should gather more stories on those failed missions. Failed-launches or simply duds.
I have many failed attempts for the past 30 years i think i can sense a 'no, thank you' right away with just an eye contact :D:D:D

From those failed attempts or failures we can better and refine our search/scanning techniques :D

Personally i have stopped searching for new OPP.
Enough already. I am 51 and have a few on the sides, enough.
There is only so much time and energy left for a 51 year old married man to cater to others after my family and my own, me time :p

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/VwqkrsU.jpg

PSA:
A disclaimer on all the advice, views and recommendation coming from me :D:cool::p

[Peacekeeping]

I will throw in my 2 cents along the way here.
Briefly I will share the qualities I think one should have when looking actively for OPP or at least the kind of qualities u should have in the event an OPP comes your way.

And don’t get me wrong. I am no guru in this.
I may have a few OPP journeys along the way but I have also crashed and burned numerous times before I stumbled upon OPP worthy of my time and commitment.

As of now, I have a few OPP (married women) that I am ‘committed’ to on top of my own marriage.
My ‘collection’ of OPP are mostly of the older nature.
The youngest in my ‘collection’ is 35 years old.
The rest are pretty much in the older range.

So if u tabulate these raw data, u might probably come up with a matrix table of probabilities.
Like, for an average Joe like me who is 51 years old with median income my likely hood of scoring OPP from the age of 30 years old is lower as compared to a 40-year-old pussy for example.

Generally, I think this is the direction of this thread is heading.
Hopefully more value in terms of insights and revelations.
The floor is open to everyone, please go ahead and take it.

:cool::cool::cool:

I think 40s is the vulnerable zone for women to stray especially if their husband can’t satisfy them anymore but they getting hornier.

[UncleHasBeen]

For starters, my profiling of potentially prime targets to become OPP :D

Women in the range of mid 30's to early 40's.
Married for more than 4 years.
Working women and earn less than their man.
Has to contribute to monthly household expenses.
Already have kid/s (less than 3 years old)
Living with her in laws all under one roof.
Average looking.
Middle class income earners.
Her husband, average looking.
Her husband has higher education background then her.
She commutes to work by public transport.
She loves to keep up with appearances.
She is socially active through various courses and classes as part of her 'me time'.

:D:p

[Abildd]

https://youtu.be/idx3GSL2KWs

The purpose of this thread as the title suggests, we are talking about OPP.
For us guys, OPP = Other People’s Pussy.
For the gals. OPP = Other People’s Penis.

In essence, OPP is Other People’s Property.
It is an acquired taste, I know, and I will admit. :D

This hip-hop classic (1991) has been hailed as the anthem on OPP.
And the chorus of this song is "Are u down with OPP”.

So this is what this thread is about, "are u down with OPP".

:D:cool::D:cool:

This is one song that somehow managed the trick of being both audaciously catchy and subversively coy at the same time.


Lyrics
Army with harmony
Dave drop a load on 'em

OPP, how can I explain it
I'll take you frame by frame it
To have y'all jumpin' shall we singin' it
O is for Other, P is for People scratchin' temple
The last P... well... that's not that simple
It's sorta like another way to call a cat a kitten
It's five little letters that are missin' here
You get on occassion at the other party
As a game 'n it seems I gotta start to explainin'
Bust it

You ever had a girl and met her on a nice hello
You get her name and number and then you feelin' real mellow
You get home, wait a day, she's what you wanna know about
Then you call up and it's her girlfriend or her cousin's house
It's not a front, F to the R to the O to the N to the T
It's just her boyfriend's at her house (Boy, that's what is scary)
It's OPP, time other people's what you get it
There's no room for relationship there's just room to hit it
How many brothers out there know just what I'm gettin' at
Who thinks it's wrong 'cos I'm splittin' and co-hittin' at
Well if you do, that's OPP and you're not down with it
But if you don't, here's your membership

You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), you down with OPP (Yeah you know me)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), who's down with OPP (Every last homie)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), you down with OPP (Yeah you know me)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), who's down with OPP (All the homies)

As for the ladies, OPP means something gifted
The first two letters are the same but the last is something
Different
It's the longest, loveliest, lean- I call it the leanest
It's another five letter word rhymin' with cleanest and meanest
I won't get into that, I'll do it... ah... sorta properly
I say the last P... hmmm... stands for property
Now lady here comes a kiss, blow a kiss back to me, now tell me
Exactly
Have you ever known a brother who have another like ah girl or wife
And you just had to stop and just 'cos he look just as nice
You looked at him, he looked at you and you knew right away
That he had someone but he was gonna be yours anyway
You couldn't be seen with him and honestly you didn't care
'Cause in a room behind a door no one but y'all are there
When y'all are finish, y'all can leave and only y'all would know
And then y'all could throw the skeleton bones right in the closet do'
Now don't be shocked 'cos if you're down I want your hands up high
Say OPP (OPP) I like to say with pride
Now when you do it, do it well and make sure that it counts
You're now down with a discount

You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), you down with OPP (Yeah you know me)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), who's down with OPP (Every last lady)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), you down with OPP (Yeah you know me)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), who's down with OPP (All the ladies)

This girl ah tried to OPP me
I had a girl and she knew that matter-of-fact my girl was partner's
That
Had a fall out, disagreement, yeah an argument
She tried to do me so we did it in my apartment, bust it
That wasn't the thing it must have been the way she hit the ceiling
'Cause after that she kept on coming back and catchin' feelings
I said, "Let's go my girl is coming so you gotta leave"
She said, "Oh no, I love you Treach" I said, "Now child please"
You gots to leave, come grab your coat, right now you gotta go
I said now look you to the stairs and to the stairwindow
This was a thing, a little thing, you shouldn't have put your heart
'Cause you know I was OPP, hell from the very start
Come on, come on, now let me tell you what it's all about
When you get down, you can't go 'round runnin' off at the mouth
That's rule number one in this OPP establishment
You keep your mouth shut and it won't get back to her or him
Exciting isn't it, a special kinda business
Many of you will catch the same sorta OPP is you with
Him or her for sure is going to admit it
When OPP comes, damn-- skippy I'm with it

You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), you down with OPP (Yeah you know me)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), who's down with OPP (This whole party)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), you down with OPP (Yeah you know me)
You down with OPP (Yeah you know me), who's down with OPP (This whole party)

Break it down!




Songwriters: Berry Gordy Jr / Keir Lamont Gist / Anthony Criss / Vincent Brown / Alphonso James Mizell / Dennis Lussier / Frederick J Perren

O.P.P. lyrics © Wb Music Corp., Jobete Music Co. Inc., Naughty Music

[UncleHasBeen]

This is one song that somehow managed the trick of being both audaciously catchy and subversively coy at the same time.



U down with OPP? :D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://www.tiktok.com/@mybeautymystery/video/7088620578889813250?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7080016544742917633


For some, they age and mellowed (with some help) very well like wine :D

[Anonyabc]

https://www.tiktok.com/@mybeautymystery/video/7088620578889813250?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7080016544742917633


For some, they age and mellowed (with some help) very well like wine :D

wow this one really aged well.

[Abildd]

U down with OPP? :D

As in am I cool? Yes I am. ;)

[UncleHasBeen]

So I am 51 this year.
Grew up in the 70’s.

Not exactly old school but there are some resistance in learning new stuff.
For example getting on those chats or dating apps for women.

it could also be a timing issue as when such platforms became popular, I already had my OPP foundation laid out firmly.

And after so many years, I dread to start from ground zero once more.
So if dating apps and chats works for u, hey man go on.

For me, I widen my social circle first.
It was within this social circle that I promote myself to the opposite sex.

I never hide my marital status, no I let it all hang out.
Then as time goes by, I watch for signs.

There are always those women who are ‘Dick-raiders’.
Who wants to try for the thrill of it or just curious.

Just wanted a time-filler or even some narcissistic satisfaction pleasure.
Again i dont judge. They do they and i, me. :D

I widen my social circle by being out there.
I am not sure if this is getting obsolete but for me it was and still is the best and direct way to get pussies-hits.
And more than half the time the hits come in waves and strong.

[UncleHasBeen]

Off my head, I signed up for these activities over the years.
There were quite a lot more and i have to dig through my personal journal to list them.
These are the more memorable ones with the highest hits rate.
I have never looked back since, good ole times :)

Yachting club.
(Met a model, dated twice then crashed. Had a light kiss on the lips, that was it)

Baking workshops.
(Plenty of flirts but not to my liking unfortunately)

Walking tour.
(Had been to 3 tours so far and one hit for each one. Only lasted 3 months about. Causal flings and sex. Easy come and easy go)

Dance classes.
(This is my fave and I highly recommend this. This is my mecca for pussies for all races, nationalities and age groups. Had 5 flings and the best part, they were causal about it. Nice!)

Toastmasters course.
(One hit and we are still together since 2016 :cool:)

Alliance Française de Singapour.
(Had 2 flings lasted for 4 months each.)

Dive course. Follow by dive trips.
(Had 4 flings each lasted 3 months while one is still ongoing since 2018. This one is a keeper :cool:)

Cooking class.
(Attended 2 different course. Had 5 flings from them, lasted 2 months each there about. Met a Russian lady, it was a whirlwind sex until her husband's work got the sack and left. We were fucking hard for a good 2.5 months on every other day:p)

Facebook home cooked food group
(This is a constant rich ground for lonely pussies. I had at least 6 flings from there and still on holding onto 1 since 2017. Keeper this one :cool:)

Facebook Foodie group
(Another very good source. Had 2 flings from there and one lasted 1.5 years because her children found out about us :p)

Overseas skydiving trip
(Met one of my fave FB. Still together since 2019, definitely keeper :cool:)

Mountain climbing trip
(Went Lombok. There I didn’t do any hookup as I wasn’t feeling too great. Probably it was the altitude, but it was fun. Our group’s neighbouring tent, a group of Japanese women were fucking an Indonesian porter from the group)

Running groups
(Joined 2 groups. Managed to grab a SYT who was 22 years old while I was 41 then. Lasted 5 months)

Local animal shelter volunteer program
(The moment I joined I met one and she is one of my fave FB. Still going on strong since 2017 and she is 15 years younger than me. Keeper of course :cool:)

[wt188]

Off my head, I signed up for these activities over the years.
There were quite a lot more and i have to dig through my personal journal to list them.
These are the more memorable ones with the highest hits rate.
I have never looked back since, good ole times :)

Yachting club.
(Met a model, dated twice then crashed. Had a light kiss on the lips, that was it)

Baking workshops.
(Plenty of flirts but not to my liking unfortunately)

Walking tour.
(Had been to 3 tours so far and one hit for each one. Only lasted 3 months about. Causal flings and sex. Easy come and easy go)

Dance classes.
(This is my fave and I highly recommend this. This is my mecca for pussies for all races, nationalities and age groups. Had 5 flings and the best part, they were causal about it. Nice!)

Toastmasters course.
(One hit and we are still together since 2016 :cool:)

Alliance Française de Singapour.
(Had 2 flings lasted for 4 months each.)

Dive course. Follow by dive trips.
(Had 4 flings each lasted 3 months while one is still ongoing since 2018. This one is a keeper :cool:)

Cooking class.
(Attended 2 different course. Had 5 flings from them, lasted 2 months each there about. Met a Russian lady, it was a whirlwind sex until her husband's work got the sack and left. We were fucking hard for a good 2.5 months on every other day:p)

Facebook home cooked food group
(This is a constant rich ground for lonely pussies. I had at least 6 flings from there and still on holding onto 1 since 2017. Keeper this one :cool:)

Facebook Foodie group
(Another very good source. Had 2 flings from there and one lasted 1.5 years because her children found out about us :p)

Overseas skydiving trip
(Met one of my fave FB. Still together since 2019, definitely keeper :cool:)

Mountain climbing trip
(Went Lombok. There I didn’t do any hookup as I wasn’t feeling too great. Probably it was the altitude, but it was fun. Our group’s neighbouring tent, a group of Japanese women were fucking an Indonesian porter from the group)

Running groups
(Joined 2 groups. Managed to grab a SYT who was 22 years old while I was 41 then. Lasted 5 months)

Local animal shelter volunteer program
(The moment I joined I met one and she is one of my fave FB. Still going on strong since 2017 and she is 15 years younger than me. Keeper of course :cool:)

Wow, such an achievement.

[UncleHasBeen]

Wow, such an achievement.

Not a big deal.
Just put in patience. Be positive.
Be respectful and cordial.
Treat all women in the group the same.
Bid your time and those who wants to stray will stray.
U will know and see the signs very clearly.
As i always say, take thing slow.
Slow is smooth and smooth is fast :D

[Anonyabc]

Not a big deal.
Just put in patience. Be positive.
Be respectful and cordial.
Treat all women in the group the same.
Bid your time and those who wants to stray will stray.
U will know and see the signs very clearly.
As i always say, take thing slow.
Slow is smooth and smooth is fast :D

My main issue now is that I do not have much time on hand to expand social circle much, due to family and work. Actually these few days I had been thinking a fair bit about myself, wondering about my life and such.

Perhaps things will be a lil better once I have more time to do things for myself. But yeah, I think I'm also in ur brainwaves that socializing is still the way to go, though I have limitations since my spouse would take a hard look at my activities. Oh well :(

And what's a walking tour?

[UncleHasBeen]

And what's a walking tour?

There are lots of such.
I joined a few and this one was a very enjoyable one.

https://www.monsterdaytours.com/singapore-free-walking-tours

[Lemonjuice]

Off my head, I signed up for these activities over the years.
There were quite a lot more and i have to dig through my personal journal to list them.
These are the more memorable ones with the highest hits rate.
I have never looked back since, good ole times :)

Yachting club.
(Met a model, dated twice then crashed. Had a light kiss on the lips, that was it)

Baking workshops.
(Plenty of flirts but not to my liking unfortunately)

Walking tour.
(Had been to 3 tours so far and one hit for each one. Only lasted 3 months about. Causal flings and sex. Easy come and easy go)

Dance classes.
(This is my fave and I highly recommend this. This is my mecca for pussies for all races, nationalities and age groups. Had 5 flings and the best part, they were causal about it. Nice!)

Toastmasters course.
(One hit and we are still together since 2016 :cool:)

Alliance Française de Singapour.
(Had 2 flings lasted for 4 months each.)

Dive course. Follow by dive trips.
(Had 4 flings each lasted 3 months while one is still ongoing since 2018. This one is a keeper :cool:)

Cooking class.
(Attended 2 different course. Had 5 flings from them, lasted 2 months each there about. Met a Russian lady, it was a whirlwind sex until her husband's work got the sack and left. We were fucking hard for a good 2.5 months on every other day:p)

Facebook home cooked food group
(This is a constant rich ground for lonely pussies. I had at least 6 flings from there and still on holding onto 1 since 2017. Keeper this one :cool:)

Facebook Foodie group
(Another very good source. Had 2 flings from there and one lasted 1.5 years because her children found out about us :p)

Overseas skydiving trip
(Met one of my fave FB. Still together since 2019, definitely keeper :cool:)

Mountain climbing trip
(Went Lombok. There I didn’t do any hookup as I wasn’t feeling too great. Probably it was the altitude, but it was fun. Our group’s neighbouring tent, a group of Japanese women were fucking an Indonesian porter from the group)

Running groups
(Joined 2 groups. Managed to grab a SYT who was 22 years old while I was 41 then. Lasted 5 months)

Local animal shelter volunteer program
(The moment I joined I met one and she is one of my fave FB. Still going on strong since 2017 and she is 15 years younger than me. Keeper of course :cool:)

Will your SO feel something amiss when you join these groups?

[UncleHasBeen]

Will your SO feel something amiss when you join these groups?

No, this has been my life style even before we got married.
I love to learn new things. These are courses and workshops i have taken over the decades.

If our SO suspect us because of such life style then u are screwed.
Why end up with someone who would suspect u?
And if u are not bright enough to avoid suspicion, then it is on u.
When u snack, stray or hoping to aim at OPP make sure u are up for it.

Most times, things happen not without a reason but because people are dumb asses.

[Lemonjuice]

No, this has been my life style even before we got married.
I love to learn new things. These are courses and workshops i have taken over the decades.

If our SO suspect us because of such life style then u are screwed.
Why end up with someone who would suspect u?
And if u are not bright enough to avoid suspicion, then it is on u.
When u snack, stray or hoping to aim at OPP make sure u are up for it.

Most times, things happen not without a reason but because people are dumb asses.

How you managed to bed OPP when they know you are OPP too?

Any tips like cannot be too rush, too aggressive etc? I managed to have a 2year stint at OPP, but it ended.

I can only say it was luck then.

[UncleHasBeen]

How you managed to bed OPP when they know you are OPP too?

Any tips like cannot be too rush, too aggressive etc? I managed to have a 2year stint at OPP, but it ended.

I can only say it was luck then.

I bed them, they bed me all because we are all looking for the same thing. Either we want more or we want less of we have or simply an escapade.
The thrill and excitement or simply an outlet.

There are plenty of people like us out there.
They are just waiting for a trigger to push them to the edge and do it.
We are and they are the triggers.
How effective is your trigger to them, only u know.

What makes a woman thinking of straying, strays?
Have u thought of that? U will have to be that trigger for her.
It is quite simple.
And simpler for us men right? What kind of trigger will set us go for that OPP?

Getting a fuck is not that hard.
Getting an OPP requires a little more.

I just flirted with my married neighbour this morning.
She loves it when i do that. She was on her way to her HIT class.
All dressed up in tight yoga attire.
She was complaining about the hot weather and i went along with it complimenting she looked hot as well.
She giggled and started small talk. At the same time she positioned her body side ways so that i can see her curves.
The shape of her toned ass and boobs.
Again i complimented on her physique and how the men in her class will be distracted by her body.
She lapped it up like a thirsty dog.
Then she asked if i were interested in joining her for that HIT class.

U see, this is all it takes.
Doesnt matter if it goes nowhere.
Be sociable, respectful and cordial.
When the signs are showing, start a little flirting and see the response.

In case if u are wondering if i want to bed her, no.
She is attractive. Early 30's and hot bod.
Married with a 1 year old daughter.
Working class local Chinese.
But she is my neighbour. So no bedding of any sorts.
No pussy is worth my marriage.
I know how to handle my other OPP well but to have one within the same building as i live, no way.

[Lemonjuice]

Yes UncleHasBeen, never aim your neighbor cos there is no way to wash hands.

I work in a male dominated environment and my means are from dating apps. Very difficult to identifyor match with milf who are after the same thing. Or some are aesthetically challenged.

Maybe joining a physical group is more viable.

[Abildd]

Off my head, I signed up for these activities over the years.
There were quite a lot more and i have to dig through my personal journal to list them.
These are the more memorable ones with the highest hits rate.
I have never looked back since, good ole times :)


Toastmasters course.
(One hit and we are still together since 2016 :cool:)

Dive course. Follow by dive trips.
(Had 4 flings each lasted 3 months while one is still ongoing since 2018. This one is a keeper :cool:)

Facebook home cooked food group
(This is a constant rich ground for lonely pussies. I had at least 6 flings from there and still on holding onto 1 since 2017. Keeper this one :cool:)

Overseas skydiving trip
(Met one of my fave FB. Still together since 2019, definitely keeper :cool:)

Mountain climbing trip
(Went Lombok. There I didn’t do any hookup as I wasn’t feeling too great. Probably it was the altitude, but it was fun. Our group’s neighbouring tent, a group of Japanese women were fucking an Indonesian porter from the group)

Local animal shelter volunteer program
(The moment I joined I met one and she is one of my fave FB. Still going on strong since 2017 and she is 15 years younger than me. Keeper of course :cool:)

Wow bro, it's amazing kinda 'witnessing' a reverse gangbang and got to know 5 keepers ;)

[Lemonjuice]

UncleHasBeen

Can you share more on
Facebook home cooked food group ?

How you got in and hook up?

[UncleHasBeen]

Wow bro, it's amazing kinda 'witnessing' a reverse gangbang and got to know 5 keepers ;)

I have seen some amazingly erotica stuff in my life but this has to be ranked #1 (https://sbfsg.online/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) on my list.

The Mt Rinjani trek was a 2D 1N deal.
On the ascend we took about 4.5 hours with breaks in between.
Reach our pit stop just after lunch time.
Set up camp for lunch and for the day.
By the time we had our meals and prepped for the next ascend it was already near to 5pm.
Took a light dinner and all went to sleep by 6pm because we have to be up at 3am and do our last ascend to the rim of the volcano crater before sunrise. The view was breathtaking totally worth it.

The Indonesia porter with the Japanese girls group was amazing.
Imagine the timeline i just stated.
He still has the energy to stay with the girls throughout the night.
I was there preparing my morning brew when he came out of their tent. Looked totally refreshed.
Only after he left, the lantern within the tent lit up.
Minutes later the 3 girls emerged and all looked fucking refreshed and satisfied.

It was later after breakfast i went over to the porter group and talked the porter.
I said to him, "U are very strong. Still have energy for others".
He smiled a bit and his friends said this.
"My friend here always very popular and favorite with women".
"Especially Japanese, Taiwanese and Australian they all love him".

That is sexual prowess at its best.
After a 4.5 hours of trekking he still got it in him to do more :D

[UncleHasBeen]

UncleHasBeen

Can you share more on
Facebook home cooked food group ?

How you got in and hook up?

Just search for any related similar topics of interest or to your liking and click join.

Share what about the home cooked group? The women i had?

[Lemonjuice]

Just search for any related similar topics of interest or to your liking and click join.

Share what about the home cooked group? The women i had?

Some questions I have
1. Where to find these groups?

2. Since it's a Facebook group, I assume your wife can see what you doing and the ladies can see your wife too. Isn't that a concern?

3. How you pick signals that the ladies are open to an affair or fling?

[UncleHasBeen]

Some questions I have
1. Where to find these groups?

2. Since it's a Facebook group, I assume your wife can see what you doing and the ladies can see your wife too. Isn't that a concern?

3. How you pick signals that the ladies are open to an affair or fling?

1. Search for your group of interest in Facebook.

2. My wife and i are not social media savvy.
She does not have a FBook account and my account is not active too.
Only use it for such groups and i have stopped doing so.
Hang up my nets so to speak.

3. Small talk within the group always revolves around the core topics of the group.
Whenever u deviate from it, just reciprocate and see how far it goes.
U cant be talking about food in a foodie group and suddenly one of the women message u in private and ask u what u think of anal sex right?
But if that is really the case, it is as clear as day already.

For me, the signs are out of the norm type.
Like during the night i will get 'Goodnight' or in the morning 'How was your sleep?'.
All these are out of the norm from the core topic of interest in that group. It will mean something.
Mostly is just wanting to have someone to reply them or chat with them at the moment.
Or simply the door is opened for u.

[thor1981]

Off my head, I signed up for these activities over the years.


Dance classes.
(This is my fave and I highly recommend this. This is my mecca for pussies for all races, nationalities and age groups. Had 5 flings and the best part, they were causal about it. Nice!)



Dear Bro UncleHasBeen

I am early 40's now, have been enjoying OPP for about 10 years. I work in events, and often meet OPP who are married PR office ladies. Some of the OPP I have banged I have shared in SBF.

How does Dance Classes work for you to pick up OPP? What is your approach? And which types of nationalities / ages have you met?

Thank u humbly for your advice and sharing.

[UncleHasBeen]

Dear Bro UncleHasBeen

I am early 40's now, have been enjoying OPP for about 10 years. I work in events, and often meet OPP who are married PR office ladies. Some of the OPP I have banged I have shared in SBF.

How does Dance Classes work for you to pick up OPP? What is your approach? And which types of nationalities / ages have you met?

Thank u humbly for your advice and sharing.

thor1981

40’s for me was my prime in bagging OPP and divorcees. :D
Had a good run for a decade and now at 51 I am taking things a notch slower.
Time to enjoy the fruits of my labour.
I can afford to be picky now.

Dance class for me was perfect albeit more time consuming and physically exhausting.
But it is fucking fun, literally pun intended. :cool:
I am an extrovert while my wife is more introvert.
We signed up as a pair, but she pulled out the last minute as it was a blessing as I get to savour those flirty and scandalous session alone.
And to make up to her, I do a 1-1 with her during our free time.
She enjoyed it and she continue to let me do a few more different genres of dances before I quit on my own.

Time consuming not on the classes, there are a lot of fringe activities that your class group will have.
The dance class itself will present some cheap thrills and I enjoy them all if u know what I mean.
But it was those fringe activities with my group that will be the honey pot.
Oh yes if u are into SYT, the whole place are buzzing with them :p

Classes present the others to see the rookie u.
The clumsy 2 left footer new guy that needs help.
And help they will provide.
From telling u where to get the right attire to getting hydration tips etc.
Basically, the start of all small talk.
Contacts will be exchanged.

Then come those dance road shows or competition where everyone helps as logistic or admin.
These ‘help-outs’ windows present itself an opportunity for getting to know others quite quickly.

Then your dance partners change every session or stay the same depending on her more as u are the newbie.

So as u can see, joining dance class itself is to be involved in the fringe activities with the group.
Of course, the dance classes alone also provide a hunting ground per se but the fringe activities are the one that moves in an accelerated pace.

[UncleHasBeen]

thor1981

My second dance partner for Salsa was a British-Indian working here.
Just one session we clicked on Indian cuisine here of course.

She was alone here while her husband visit her 3-4 times a year as he dislike the pace of SG.
She was 29 years old while I was 42.

We oversaw finding a place where our group could have drinks and boardgames for our next outing.
Went to her place as she lives alone, and we brainstorm. And bagged.

This went on for 3 months until I was partnered with another, coincidentally a Brit again and this time white.

Single mom with a 3-year-old working alone here.
Same drill, due to fringe activities bagged her. She was 33 years old then.

When the British-Indian knew about it as I came clean, she cordially backed away.

In that school, I bagged 2. Brits within 2 months from my first session there. :D

Then by chance due to work I got a project with a school for Barre.
That was the jackpot for me. :p:D

While on the job, I revealed that I took some Salsa classes, and they welcome me as part of them.
Dance enthusiast so to speak.

Few occasions I must be there with the management for work while the Barre classes were going on.
Damn those women were so hot doing it with those outfits or less than a coil of thread.

Some of them know me because of the recent working relationship I have with the school and so I got invited to their weekend fringe activities.
BBQ and movies night.

At the first invite I was already flirting with a local Eurasian, mother at 36, I think. Still married.
Shortly after, bagged her.

Then went on to bag 3 more.
A French engineer, single 26 years old.
A Canadian Chinese, single 28 years old.
An American who is Iranian by birth.
Divorced, 31 years old. She is the hottest Non-Asian I ever fucked. I think I almost fractured my pelvic on numerous occasions while fucking her.
Thank God I was about 43 then.
Any older it would have been stress fracture. :D

My best experience in terms of bagging OPP were from dance classes and school.
It was those clean no frills relationship purely out of lust with no baggage from before and after.
Wham Bam Thank You Ma’am in the classiest form. Love it!
All lasted about 3-7 months. :p

[UncleHasBeen]

thor1981

Oh right, I think I left this part out.
My approach.
At all times, I will make it clear that I am married when the topic surface.

Then if there is a woman that I like, I start small talk with her and if she seems comfortable talking to me, I start the subtle flirt.
If she is uncomfortable, I will stop the flirt but remain cordial.
Wait for another window to see if flirting works.
And if no, I will fuck off.

Flirts like the mainstream ones first.
Basic compliments. See her reaction.

For me, if she is local and single I would back away.
This is not my target and they are emotionally hazardous to me.
So if they are married, divorce or in a relationship and they fit my target profile, I step up on the flirts.

Watch their reactions.
And if they are ok about it, I will start to focus more on their strength and compliment it more. Physique first.

For example, for women with smaller tits, compliment them on their hair, collarbone structure in a seductive way.
Compliment their smile. Their eyes.

Women with bigger tits.
They already know they have that since the day the first boy stared at her.
These women are more self-confident than the above I just mentioned.

Very likely also more vain and a notch higher in the narcissist scale.
Facts lah, I am sure at your age u would know by now.
So how I compliment them?

Look for something they are not comfy with, there will be one.
Their teeth? Hips? Complexion? Then make them feel less uncomfortable on those with compliment.
Make them feel that the part of their body that they are not comfy with actually attracts u. :p
Subtle first.

Bottom line is this.
Compliment a woman for her physique she is not confident of.
Slowly subtly do that. And let her know that u are attracted to her, the whole her including that part she was not confident of.

If I come across those that are blessed with good physique and complexion, I will compliment her for being the spotlight wherever she goes.
Nudge her further up the narcissist scale.
Then watch her reactions.

All the above works like a charm with Ang Moh as they are so used to getting compliments from guys. And they love it.
Local pussies need more humility and sincerity on the dosage.

That is the way it is with local pussies.
The fact is women loves to be complimented and lust after, that is what we will do and we will fucking Hiroshima and Nagasaki the shit out of that. :cool:

If there is one woman that feels disgusted by my flirtatious advances, I just fuck off.
Don’t waste time. Usually these are the younger naive women and are not OPP.

We are going for those OPP who wants to stray.
Why they want to stray?
Simply because their men are not doing what u and I are doing.
And what is that?

Seeing them in a way, in a 'more' and 'beautiful' way than anyone has before.
Make them feel unique and special again, and more.

Make them ponder why the fuck their own men cant appreciate them the way we do.
That’s the level 99 pussy-killer move there. :D:p

[UncleHasBeen]

Sorry for the long-ass replies.
My pet-peeve, i dont give half-ass half fucked or one-liner reply when i could do better with a detailed one so that all can benefit and understand better.
Probably its my OCD too :D:p

[lars]

I just read thru from page 1 to 3 and I'm very impressed with your experience and the way you write UncleHasBeen. I'm more curious to know about you actually. Care to share which line of work you're in? If it's not too convenient to share here maybe you can pm me for a chat? I think i can learn a thing or two from you.

[UncleHasBeen]

I just read thru from page 1 to 3 and I'm very impressed with your experience and the way you write UncleHasBeen. I'm more curious to know about you actually. Care to share which line of work you're in? If it's not too convenient to share here maybe you can pm me for a chat? I think i can learn a thing or two from you.

Thanks for the compliment, I really appreciate that.
I am retired and has been so for 9 years when I was 42 years old.

Cliché to say I have worked really hard for it but I really did.
There was a good period of my working life when I only had 4 hours of sleep each day for years.

Also took quite a lot of risks when I was younger, and some did pan out.

My earlier years I have been in F&B industry after NS.
Then retail for a brief period.

Then to heavy machinery industry.
And out of jest join the maritime industry.

Then went into sales in the music industry.
It was there I witness first hand how the rich and famous live their lavish lifestyle.

From there made a few good friends who introduced me to the shipping line.
Stayed there for about 14 years and then retired.

Choose to retire because my wife’s had a health scare back then.
Decided to stop working and take care of her.

Turned out it was a scare, thank god.
By then I was enjoying the slower pace.
Did my finances, checks and balances.
Manage my residual income accordingly and decided that retirement it is.

So now my income, technically is residual income.
I am happily, blissfully and gainfully unemployed. :D

[bondage]

Seeing them in a way, in a 'more' and 'beautiful' way than anyone has before.
Make them feel unique and special again, and more.



Thank you bro. Can I also say:

Turn them on in a harmless way so that they are attracted to you to see something desirable about you ?

[entering]

Off my head, I signed up for these activities over the years.
There were quite a lot more and i have to dig through my personal journal to list them.
These are the more memorable ones with the highest hits rate.
I have never looked back since, good ole times :)

Yachting club.
(Met a model, dated twice then crashed. Had a light kiss on the lips, that was it)

Baking workshops.
(Plenty of flirts but not to my liking unfortunately)

Walking tour.
(Had been to 3 tours so far and one hit for each one. Only lasted 3 months about. Causal flings and sex. Easy come and easy go)

Dance classes.
(This is my fave and I highly recommend this. This is my mecca for pussies for all races, nationalities and age groups. Had 5 flings and the best part, they were causal about it. Nice!)

Toastmasters course.
(One hit and we are still together since 2016 :cool:)

Alliance Française de Singapour.
(Had 2 flings lasted for 4 months each.)

Dive course. Follow by dive trips.
(Had 4 flings each lasted 3 months while one is still ongoing since 2018. This one is a keeper :cool:)

Cooking class.
(Attended 2 different course. Had 5 flings from them, lasted 2 months each there about. Met a Russian lady, it was a whirlwind sex until her husband's work got the sack and left. We were fucking hard for a good 2.5 months on every other day:p)

Facebook home cooked food group
(This is a constant rich ground for lonely pussies. I had at least 6 flings from there and still on holding onto 1 since 2017. Keeper this one :cool:)

Facebook Foodie group
(Another very good source. Had 2 flings from there and one lasted 1.5 years because her children found out about us :p)

Overseas skydiving trip
(Met one of my fave FB. Still together since 2019, definitely keeper :cool:)

Mountain climbing trip
(Went Lombok. There I didn’t do any hookup as I wasn’t feeling too great. Probably it was the altitude, but it was fun. Our group’s neighbouring tent, a group of Japanese women were fucking an Indonesian porter from the group)

Running groups
(Joined 2 groups. Managed to grab a SYT who was 22 years old while I was 41 then. Lasted 5 months)

Local animal shelter volunteer program
(The moment I joined I met one and she is one of my fave FB. Still going on strong since 2017 and she is 15 years younger than me. Keeper of course :cool:)

Shifu, truly I'm not worthy to even be in your presence.

You're the master.

[UncleHasBeen]

Thank you bro. Can I also say:

Turn them on in a harmless way so that they are attracted to you to see something desirable about you ?

U are welcome bro.

I would further refine your statement.
I would say, let them see the side of u that u want them to see.

Fact is we dont know what are our attractive attributes.
And to manage a good and safe relationship with OPP, best is be truthful with them and yourself.

If we 'package' ourselves too attractive to them, there will be blowback. We dont know why they want to stray as OPP.
We want OPP because of the no-frills deal.
If we package ourselves so attractive to them and they happen to be looking for a way out of their relationship, then we better be ready for what to come next. U know what i mean right?

[UncleHasBeen]

Shifu, truly I'm not worthy to even be in your presence.

You're the master.

Oh man thanks for the compliment.
The only field of 'mastery' i am in is for the willingness to try department.

I will try and until i got rejected, i move on to the next that is on my radar. Those were the days.
I am willing to try. To knock on the doors i think would open to me.
I knock. Try. That is me.

[bondage]

U are welcome bro.

I would further refine your statement.
I would say, let them see the side of u that u want them to see.

Fact is we dont know what are our attractive attributes.
And to manage a good and safe relationship with OPP, best is be truthful with them and yourself.

If we 'package' ourselves too attractive to them, there will be blowback. We dont know why they want to stray as OPP.
We want OPP because of the no-frills deal.
If we package ourselves so attractive to them and they happen to be looking for a way out of their relationship, then we better be ready for what to come next. U know what i mean right?

Ya, you said it best. Honest, open and no strings attached. No trickery needed.

[UncleHasBeen]

Ya, you said it best. Honest, open and no strings attached. No trickery needed.

Yes bro, no trickery required.
Most times we messed it up ourselves.
Over promised and never deliver.
Dont raise their hopes or want to rescue damsel in distress.
We are all adults and we enter into this type of relationship with absolutely no expectations except for mutual pleasures that is all.

Dont offer to carry her baggage or offer a way out, no man.
In the end, a supposed pound the pussy relationship becomes a shit storm that might involved our family members and social circle.
Then we got pound by that pussy :eek:

Keep it simple keep it short. When its time to let go, dont hang on to it because that was never our intention in the first place.
But of course if somehow a relationship with love blossoms then go for it. Again, dont forget why we go for OPP in the first place :D

[bondage]

Yes bro, no trickery required.
Most times we messed it up ourselves.
Over promised and never deliver.
Dont raise their hopes or want to rescue damsel in distress.
We are all adults and we enter into this type of relationship with absolutely no expectations except for mutual pleasures that is all.

Dont offer to carry her baggage or offer a way out, no man.
In the end, a supposed pound the pussy relationship becomes a shit storm that might involved our family members and social circle.
Then we got pound by that pussy :eek:

Keep it simple keep it short. When its time to let go, dont hang on to it because that was never our intention in the first place.
But of course if somehow a relationship with love blossoms then go for it. Again, dont forget why we go for OPP in the first place :D

Don't fall into a black hole. ;)

[Lemonjuice]

1. Today my ego got bruised. Met up with a potential for lunch and towards the middle of the meet up, she says she don't feel the vibe. After the meeting, I followed up with text and confirmed that she is not interested.


2. I have been swiping on dating apps and it has been not fruitful. I matched with dinosaurs (100kg at least) and I actually did the deed with them.

3. I am lost as I just broke up. Now haven't withdrawal symptoms.

[wt188]

1. Today my ego got bruised. Met up with a potential for lunch and towards the middle of the meet up, she says she don't feel the vibe. After the meeting, I followed up with text and confirmed that she is not interested.


2. I have been swiping on dating apps and it has been not fruitful. I matched with dinosaurs (100kg at least) and I actually did the deed with them.

3. I am lost as I just broke up. Now haven't withdrawal symptoms.

Its okay bro. I feel you

[thor1981]

thor1981

40’s for me was my prime in bagging OPP and divorcees. :D
Had a good run for a decade and now at 51 I am taking things a notch slower.
Time to enjoy the fruits of my labour.
I can afford to be picky now.

But it is fucking fun, literally pun intended. :cool:
I am an extrovert while my wife is more introvert.
We signed up as a pair, but she pulled out the last minute as it was a blessing as I get to savour those flirty and scandalous session alone.
And to make up to her, I do a 1-1 with her during our free time.
She enjoyed it and she continue to let me do a few more different genres of dances before I quit on my own.

Time consuming not on the classes, there are a lot of fringe activities that your class group will have.
The dance class itself will present some cheap thrills and I enjoy them all if u know what I mean.
But it was those fringe activities with my group that will be the honey pot.
Oh yes if u are into SYT, the whole place are buzzing with them :p

Classes present the others to see the rookie u.
The clumsy 2 left footer new guy that needs help.
And help they will provide.
From telling u where to get the right attire to getting hydration tips etc.
Basically, the start of all small talk.
Contacts will be exchanged.

Then come those dance road shows or competition where everyone helps as logistic or admin.
These ‘help-outs’ windows present itself an opportunity for getting to know others quite quickly.

Then your dance partners change every session or stay the same depending on her more as u are the newbie.

So as u can see, joining dance class itself is to be involved in the fringe activities with the group.
Of course, the dance classes alone also provide a hunting ground per se but the fringe activities are the one that moves in an accelerated pace.

bro thank u for the detail reply. up you.

[UncleHasBeen]

bro thank u for the detail reply. up you.

https://i.imgur.com/vYz5y1S.gif

Appreciate it bro :cool:

[lars]

Thanks UncleHasBeen. Really enjoyed reading your posts.

Sharing my past experiences with OPP.

1. 2013. My first experience with an OPP. My colleague at that time. She was 25, married and I was 28, single. Went out together a few times before we got closer and our conversation turned intimate. She told me she thought about getting a breast reduction surgery to make her D cups smaller. Showed me a text from her friend who wanted to have an affair with her and how tempted she was. From there i knew i could get her. Very quickly we got physically intimate. From heavy petting at ecp to random bjs at the beach. We mostly frequent hotel 81. Things got very serious within the 8 months that we were together. I liked her very much. She wanted to leave the husband for me. In the end i chickened out as i wasn't sure about taking things to that extent. After we broke up i missed her a lot. Even till now i will look at her WhatsApp photos to see of any updates in the life. She stayed in her marriage and has a child now.

2. 2014. Also my colleague at that time. She was the hottest lady at my workplace. She was 37, married and 8 years older than me. We were actually colleagues for 3 years before we hung out alone. That one time after coffee, we had our first sex. For me, and her as well, this relationship was purely sexual. No feelings involved whatsoever. We met for sex consistently about once a month until 2020.

3. 2020. I was married for 4 years at this time. She was my first gf when we were 15. Met up after she texted me on Facebook. She had separated from her ex husband for about 2 years. Met for a drink, clicked, met another time and got intimate. After two more meet ups and a few kissing moments, she gave me a bj at her place. It was one of the best feelings I've had. When we first dated, it was like puppy love for me. She was my first kiss and that was about all she gave me before dumping me after about 2 months. So to have that after all these years was damn satisfying. Anyway after that I think she regretted it and didn't want to see me again. That was the last time we met.

4. 2022. An ex colleague whom i randomly texted and asked her over to my place for a drink. She is 34 married but divorcing soon and has a bf. So she came over wearing a tight sexy dress. In my mind i thought checkmate liao. After some drinks and heart to heart talk i went for it and tried kissing her and all. She was taken aback and said she wasn't expecting and didn't want us to be intimate. After that she left and we've not seen each other since. That was a big miss. On hindsight I should have taken more time with her and not be so aggressive on our first meet up.

Hope to read more from you guys. More from UncleHasBeen especially. Will take up your advice of expanding my social circle.

[UncleHasBeen]

Thanks UncleHasBeen. Really enjoyed reading your posts.

Sharing my past experiences with OPP.

1. 2013. Things got very serious within the 8 months that we were together. I liked her very much. She wanted to leave the husband for me. In the end i chickened out as i wasn't sure about taking things to that extent.

2. 2014. No feelings involved whatsoever. We met for sex consistently about once a month until 2020.

3. 2020. She was my first kiss and that was about all she gave me before dumping me after about 2 months. So to have that after all these years was damn satisfying. Anyway after that I think she regretted it and didn't want to see me again. That was the last time we met.

4. 2022. That was a big miss. On hindsight I should have taken more time with her and not be so aggressive on our first meet up.

Hope to read more from you guys. More from UncleHasBeen especially. Will take up your advice of expanding my social circle.


hey bro thanks for sharing!
U do have very healthy and balanced numbers for OPP.
One per year is about right of course it varies for individual.

Your 2013, chickened out from that situation is the smartest thing with regards to OPP.
To be honest, u dont really know her intention on wanting to leave her marriage.
Sure u were part of the equation but there could be a possibility that she has always wanted out and u just came along.

Your 2014, this is the kind of OPP that we all need. Everyone very clear what they need and they dont venture out of the safe-zone.

Your 2020, that is a sweetest kind of re-connection all puppy love should get :D

Your 2022, i would also agree that more time should have been taken before making the move.

Just to share, i am always the one who initiate the flirting, the chat up and follow up. Then i will stop there.
I NEVER make the first physical move. NEVER.
I let the women do that. The more introvert ones will still make the first physical moves because the true blue real introverts will not be brave enough to stray.

First physical move like what.
Removed their bras while in conversation because they want to feel more comfortable.
Touch my body when they laughed at my actions and jokes.
Asked me to massage their shoulders to help with the tenses muscles.
Leaned onto me deliberately when i talked.

These are all tell-tale signs to me to go at them.
I have crashed and burned so many times that i have make it a point that i only touch them after they touched me first.

[Damade]

Unclehasbeen… these are really tried and tested advises. Free summore.
While i had fair share of OPP, I remember that one that got away as well due to too cast action taking But thought signs were clear.
She was in an agency that had worked for my company. Young 27s engaged, looks like lim chin hsia for those that is old enuff to know who. White skin. Got close to me, confide and comes over my place to play nintendo wii. Gv me cheek kisees when saying goodbye. Would chat with me lying on my bed and also gv her head massages . One day as i was staying in a hotel, i invited her to come over. Since i thot signs were clear, i could make my move. We chatted and as she was lying on my bed, i then massage her . As her eyes were closed i just planted a kiss on her lips which she jumped and just said What are you doing! I am not those girls you screw in my office. Wah she took her keys and asked to leave. cAnt remember what i said to pacify her but was a missed opportunity.
Lesson learnt. Unclehasbeen is absolutely right. From then i flirted until i see them opp or any chick gv physical signals. Really works , for me at least. I now knew if i had just awaited her to be physical i would have had better chance rather than cb friendzoned

[Lemonjuice]

Wow... The difficult part then is assessing what a physical move is.

Touching when talking, leaning on shoulder are quite mild signals. Not a definite sign.

But this may be the most some opp would venture as a first move.

[bondage]

Wow... The difficult part then is assessing what a physical move is.


Can I say that generally, associated with her first physical move, there should be some sexual tension. The first physical move by her means it's voluntarily initiated by her. It's got to be a sexual gesture for the next step or level beyond what she earlier didn't do or didn't allow.

As suggested, she can still pull back at the last millisecond though. So the timing must be right and there should be a follow through, or else don't push for it. She may be comfortable to that additional extent just then.

Some women or girls are like that at the beginning. They may play hard to get or truly mean it when they say they dun like to be rushed.

So best to then play along and go at her pace with patience until she makes the more decisive move herself.

I would think that when that happens, the conversation and interactions have become more clearly intimate and personal (not physical type) so that mind or heart is open to you. All the time then, listen carefully and interact nicely. Have fun always with her, play with her mind especially but with sincerity because such conversations with her will bring her closer to you and she does something that she didn't allow earlier. As an example, touch or guide the dick or guide your hand or face toward her or her part etc.

Her first physical move then is the equivalent of her GQ which she doesn't ask in this context. The guy should not pop the GQ, it's crude and pushy like saying I brought the CD. The summary word is flirting that is not the open crude type, till there's closeness and tension.

Apologies if above were covered already.

[UncleHasBeen]

Wow... The difficult part then is assessing what a physical move is.

Touching when talking, leaning on shoulder are quite mild signals. Not a definite sign.

But this may be the most some opp would venture as a first move.

If everything, every situation and every context is simple, clear and easy then we wouldnt even be talking about it here.

Dont downplay the whole context.
Two individuals and most as strangers come together under the context of escapade which involves risks and regret.

And this is on top of u have absolutely no idea what is going on inside the other party mind and u want to go straight into an easy situation to start getting intimate? :eek::eek::eek:

Maybe for once, u put yourself in the OPP's shoe and think of your own intention over at this side.
Then u see how 'desirable' u would be with all your 'strategies' with the women.

Akin to look at yourself in the mirror but in the shoes of the OPP.
Answers abound there i can assure u that. :cool:

[UncleHasBeen]

Can I say that generally, associated with her first physical move, there should be some sexual tension. The first physical move by her means it's voluntarily initiated by her. It's got to be a sexual gesture for the next step or level beyond what she earlier didn't do or didn't allow.

As suggested, she can still pull back at the last millisecond though. So the timing must be right and there should be a follow through, or else don't push for it. She may be comfortable to that additional extent just then.

Some women or girls are like that at the beginning. They may play hard to get or truly mean it when they say they dun like to be rushed.

So best to then play along and go at her pace with patience until she makes the more decisive move herself.

I would think that when that happens, the conversation and interactions have become more clearly intimate and personal (not physical type) so that mind or heart is open to you. All the time then, listen carefully and interact nicely. Have fun always with her, play with her mind especially but with sincerity because such conversations with her will bring her closer to you and she does something that she didn't allow earlier. As an example, touch or guide the dick or guide your hand or face toward her or her part etc.

Her first physical move then is the equivalent of her GQ which she doesn't ask in this context. The guy should not pop the GQ, it's crude and pushy like saying I brought the CD. The summary word is flirting that is not the open crude type, till there's closeness and tension.

Apologies if above were covered already.

Nicely put, thanks bro.

We call these triangulation of points for a precise 'entry point'.
I like to gather all the build-up to the point she made that first 'contact'.

If the build-up is not consistent or strong or clear, even if she touches my body in an ambiguous way i would disregard the whole thing as one-off.

There must be a valid build-up for me plus the physical touch.
Clear and simple for me is the flirting phase.

Many a times the women would asked me either directly or through messages that if i am flirting with them.

If i were, i would straight up let them know i am and that i am hoping to see if such behaviour could entice her to be flirty with me.

If they play along, good and fine and we bring it to the next level.
This is build-up chronologically logical and methodical with little room for emotion to mask it up.

Emotions will be free flow after the first few sexual tryst.
But the build-up has to be clear as day and confirmed it with her physical contact.
All of that is a confirmed entry point for me.

[UncleHasBeen]

Unclehasbeen… these are really tried and tested advises. Free summore.
While i had fair share of OPP, I remember that one that got away as well due to too cast action taking But thought signs were clear.
She was in an agency that had worked for my company. Young 27s engaged, looks like lim chin hsia for those that is old enuff to know who. White skin. Got close to me, confide and comes over my place to play nintendo wii. Gv me cheek kisees when saying goodbye. Would chat with me lying on my bed and also gv her head massages . One day as i was staying in a hotel, i invited her to come over. Since i thot signs were clear, i could make my move. We chatted and as she was lying on my bed, i then massage her . As her eyes were closed i just planted a kiss on her lips which she jumped and just said What are you doing! I am not those girls you screw in my office. Wah she took her keys and asked to leave. cAnt remember what i said to pacify her but was a missed opportunity.
Lesson learnt. Unclehasbeen is absolutely right. From then i flirted until i see them opp or any chick gv physical signals. Really works , for me at least. I now knew if i had just awaited her to be physical i would have had better chance rather than cb friendzoned

Thanks for sharing this with us bro!

If u have more please go ahead and indulge us.
Such crashes are very valuable lesson learn for us here.
Lessons learn from crashes make our next 'flight' more successful and hopefully more sustainable :D

[UncleHasBeen]

I have other stories to share that involves single SYT pussies throwing themselves at OPP, yes married men.

Oh unfortunately it wasnt me.
I dont have such magnetism superpower.
Pussies that have thrown themselves at me were those OPP looking for an escapade. I was more like a dick-booty-call of sorts.

But what i can share is about those single SYT throwing themselves at older married men.
U see, to some of u might not know this is that u could be that someone a single SYT might be looking for. :p:D

[Damade]

I have other stories to share that involves single SYT pussies throwing themselves at OPP, yes married men.

Oh unfortunately it wasnt me.
I dont have such magnetism superpower.
Pussies that have thrown themselves at me were those OPP looking for an escapade. I was more like a dick-booty-call of sorts.

But what i can share is about those single SYT throwing themselves at older married men.
U see, to some of u might not know this is that u could be that someone a single SYT might be looking for. :p:D

Unclehasbeen…. That is the best bootycall man. No strings attached or worry.
Oh man i agree on the young syt looking for married man. They see it challenge, no strings attached and matured comfort that their young or similar age bf could not provide. I asked one syt, she said her bf very insensitive , play game and dont take care of her “needs” .. man. But unfortunately I don’t pursue as i think it is too messy and creates headaches these syts. But also i am not their type too i guess hah. Stick to my opp fwb.

Advise to the young guys here with gfs.. make sure she is satisfied and pay attention to her!

[captainofthewin]

this thread has lots of knowledge to be absorb and practice! thanks all for contributing, especially UncleHasBeen!

[samyboys]

https://www.tiktok.com/@mybeautymystery/video/7088620578889813250?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7080016544742917633


For some, they age and mellowed (with some help) very well like wine :D

this is mum and son?

[bondage]

We call these triangulation of points for a precise 'entry point'.
I like to gather all the build-up to the point she made that first 'contact'.

If the build-up is not consistent or strong or clear, even if she touches my body in an ambiguous way i would disregard the whole thing as one-off.

There must be a valid build-up for me plus the physical touch.
Clear and simple for me is the flirting phase.


Yes. Be 95% sure. Thanks bro.


Emotions will be free flow after the first few sexual tryst.
But the build-up has to be clear as day and confirmed it with her physical contact.
All of that is a confirmed entry point for me.

Patience. Mostly they don't like to be rushed unless it's already super obvious horny type. Depends on the setting.

[Damade]

Had a few queries regarding my post on this uni gal post covid. https://samsforum.com/showthread.php?t=605820&page=298

So thought i shared it here. I never have the smoothest or goodlooks or charm to easily get chicks. Not aggressive as well. So i usually play the numbers game whereby But same as what have been shared here by the sifus, it depends on the following:
1) right timing
2) confidence
3) trust/comfort
4) dun be desperate/sleazy

If you notice i dont say luck because a lot of times you make your own luck but right timing is key. Example when she needs someone to talk to when she argue with boss, feel lonely, angry with bf/hubby, feeling drunk, when she needs someone to pick her up. You want to be top of mind for her. But to do that you need to do groundwork earlier. It may not work for every chicks but again i play the numbers game.
I will tease the girls i like, but show no interest. Compliment her once a while like nice smell or hair, tease her school oretc eg SMU girls are not good in bed lah etc (just eg, not true) and she will feel need to show she is diff. Ensure that she can trust or feel comfortable- i will do this by pretending to tell her my secret or issue such as u happiness with boss or gf which will make her feel she can trust me back and lower her walls.
I did these over the years. Strike rate was low maybe 10% with some only responded after 3-4 yrs one 10years but a few was like 1-2 weeks. Right timing. A lot of rejection but just move on . Since you are not searching for gf, it doesnt matter. In fact when i ignored some, they try to get my attention esp when they see me close with their other frens.
Importantly too, make sure that thegirls are satisfied with you when you have them. In Terms of emotion and physical. First few times I make sure that they come first or at least foreplay on them. Make them orgasm at least once or twice thru fingering or going down on her. Coz if u perform like her bf or hubby whey she would pick u.

Use all the advise above and all the sifus esp unclehasbeen’s and you wont go wrong. May not be successful all the time but at least you increase the odds! Goodluck

[UncleHasBeen]

Had a few queries regarding my post on this uni gal post covid. https://samsforum.com/showthread.php?t=605820&page=298

So thought i shared it here. I never have the smoothest or goodlooks or charm to easily get chicks. Not aggressive as well. So i usually play the numbers game whereby But same as what have been shared here by the sifus, it depends on the following:
1) right timing
2) confidence
3) trust/comfort
4) dun be desperate/sleazy

If you notice i dont say luck because a lot of times you make your own luck but right timing is key. Example when she needs someone to talk to when she argue with boss, feel lonely, angry with bf/hubby, feeling drunk, when she needs someone to pick her up. You want to be top of mind for her. But to do that you need to do groundwork earlier. It may not work for every chicks but again i play the numbers game.
I will tease the girls i like, but show no interest. Compliment her once a while like nice smell or hair, tease her school oretc eg SMU girls are not good in bed lah etc (just eg, not true) and she will feel need to show she is diff. Ensure that she can trust or feel comfortable- i will do this by pretending to tell her my secret or issue such as u happiness with boss or gf which will make her feel she can trust me back and lower her walls.
I did these over the years. Strike rate was low maybe 10% with some only responded after 3-4 yrs one 10years but a few was like 1-2 weeks. Right timing. A lot of rejection but just move on . Since you are not searching for gf, it doesnt matter. In fact when i ignored some, they try to get my attention esp when they see me close with their other frens.
Importantly too, make sure that thegirls are satisfied with you when you have them. In Terms of emotion and physical. First few times I make sure that they come first or at least foreplay on them. Make them orgasm at least once or twice thru fingering or going down on her. Coz if u perform like her bf or hubby whey she would pick u.

Use all the advise above and all the sifus esp unclehasbeen’s and you wont go wrong. May not be successful all the time but at least you increase the odds! Goodluck

Thanks for sharing bro.
This is awesome insight and the common denominator is getting clearer and appearing more now.

Looks is not important here for men, i dare say.
Especially if we are dealing with OPP.
And yes, dont rush. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast.

I said before on the part of premium of desirability.
Women when they were young, they were highly desirable.
Men when we were young, we are not as highly desirable as we were mere brute force.

Then the inevitable happens.
Women's age go up, their premium go down.
Men's age go up, our premium go up.

Women can only think of their glorious past.
Men, our best has yet to come for those under 60 years old :D

And for OPP per se, this game we men dominate :p:D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/hHw1Opt.jpg

The following sharing is about her.
Pic taken in 2018 when we vacationed at Bali.
She is one of my fave and the youngest among my list of FB.

As of now I have 6 women including her that are my FB/Married woman.
She is the only OPP and the rest are divorcees.

She is in her second marriage now.
And she is due to give birth next week.

When I first met her, it was at the local animal shelter volunteer program.
She was undergoing separation proceeding from her first marriage.

We met and started our relationship.
That was in 2017. Then she remarried in 2020.

Now expecting their first child to be due next week.
We are still fucking. Just not as intense in the past, the earlier days.

But the past 7.5 months she has become excessively horny and naughty.
Pregnancy does that.

I have experienced such level of horny with 2 other women too.
She would be the 3rd preggy OPP that I shagged. :D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/gZRV2pJ.jpg

We don’t meet up for sex often. Probably every fortnight.
Then when she and her husband were planning for a baby, we stopped for about 6 weeks.

The moment she got pregnant, we resumed our sex but this time a few notches higher.
Hormonal changes was very distinct from the 2nd month, she was milking my sac dry every week.

When it got to a point her belly was too obvious and big, it would be very weird to be seen with me, 15 years older than her checking in hotels.
So we stopped the penetrative sex 6 weeks ago.

She was still very horny then and she keeps getting me to do face time with her so that she can hear me talking dirty to her.
This is her turn on.

And she loves fingering herself to orgasm in front of me via the phone.
It absolutely drives her crazy.

The last time we did the face time with her masturbating while I was naked and talking dirty to her, she fingered herself so hard and fast she fell off the couch.

That was seriously a moment my heart skipped a beat. It was dangerous.
Her husband has stopped having sex with her the moment she was pregnant.

So, she turned her lust and craving to me, and it just got more intense since we stopped having penetrative sex about 6 weeks ago.

:D:p

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/ZmRWpuD.png

https://i.imgur.com/1KqEYjj.png

https://i.imgur.com/km3pmJR.png

This just happened two hours ago. :D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/MFEyhdE.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/KS0RjLG.jpg

These are the shots she was referring to :p:p:p

[Anonyabc]

https://i.imgur.com/MFEyhdE.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/KS0RjLG.jpg

These are the shots she was referring to :p:p:p

There's something about preggies with their glow that gets on you, isn't it?

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/kXOO7G0.png

https://i.imgur.com/kwvqy9E.png

https://i.imgur.com/0KVZXMJ.png

:D:p

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/YI34lY7.png

https://i.imgur.com/q6mcojp.png

https://i.imgur.com/pgNfbLV.png

:p:p:p

[UncleHasBeen]

She is OPP.
We knew exactly what we were getting into from the start.

And we went along together without bringing our own baggage on this journey.
I am 51 and she is 36 this year.
I met her 5 years ago.

Among the women that I am maintaining now she is a SYT.
The rest of my women are from 40-61.
The last fruit I plucked was in 2019. Enough for me.

We met at the right time for each other.
More for her as she was going through a tough period.

I didn’t rush at all. I listen to her martial issues.
She looked up and leaned towards me because I was 15 years her senior and married.

I think the fact that I am married and willing to be with her attracted her more.
So let me say again.

Doesn’t matter if u are married or not.
Just go for it.

Take your time. Respect their space and pace.
Be upfront about your intention.

Have pussy, will stay. Simple as that.

So they don’t have to second guess your intention or agenda.
Be transparent. Usually mature and older women appreciates that.

[UncleHasBeen]

All the strategies and approach on women out there are mostly for the singles, younger and looking to be impressed into a longer commitment.

We the OPP-hunters, we keep it simple and clear.
Have pussy, will stay.

And we knock every door that we like.
Don’t outstay your welcome.

Plenty of doors to be knocked and opened.
And most importantly, don’t let any pussy fucked your marriage and life up.

Again, have pussy will stay.

:cool::D

[Anonyabc]

All the strategies and approach on women out there are mostly for the singles, younger and looking to be impressed into a longer commitment.

We the OPP-hunters, we keep it simple and clear.
Have pussy, will stay.

And we knock every door that we like.
Don’t outstay your welcome.

Plenty of doors to be knocked and opened.
And most importantly, don’t let any pussy fucked your marriage and life up.

Again, have pussy will stay.

:cool::D

I will remind myself of that.

[wt188]

Wow, been skipped for accessing this thread for few days and here we are getting sextext. nice

[UncleHasBeen]

There's something about preggies with their glow that gets on you, isn't it?

Yes i think most definitely true.
For me, preggies gives off that alluring and sensual vibe.
U can see and feel it. The sex part is good but it is way more satisfying for us men seeing them in such a delicate and difficult state yet benefit much more from our 'usual' performance level.

Not even sure if it is a fetish but once u try having sex with a preggy and the way they look satisfied, gratified and appreciative after, that is fucking priceless.

In her case was more satisfying for me to be able to provide some form of carnal pleasure now.
This is her second marriage and her first pregnancy.
So her blissfulness index is off the charts :D and i am truly happy for her.

[wt188]

Yes i think most definitely true.
For me, preggies gives off that alluring and sensual vibe.
U can see and feel it. The sex part is good but it is way more satisfying for us men seeing them in such a delicate and difficult state yet benefit much more from our 'usual' performance level.

Not even sure if it is a fetish but once u try having sex with a preggy and the way they look satisfied, gratified and appreciative after, that is fucking priceless.

In her case was more satisfying for me to be able to provide some form of carnal pleasure now.
This is her second marriage and her first pregnancy.
So her blissfulness index is off the charts :D and i am truly happy for her.

Power and Salute

[Damade]

Oh Unclehasbeen you are the sifu haha. Great to find someone that justifies the similar tactic albeit my results are definitely much lower than yours.

Will just say that you are right it doesn’t seem to matter that I am married. Lesser the you ger gals but it automatically filters out those that wants something back. Lesser but def more quality definitely and also less guilt haha. Trying same thing with two of my younger opp Now. So far they talk and confide in me in their issues personal or work. Just go a long, soft flirts and just see how. Happens good, if not as you say move on. Dont overstay (so true!) ..

Keep on inspiring unclehasbeen! Tell us more of your adventures

[SGPlayDrinkEat]

Yes,Unclehasbeen is really the sifu here and thanks for starting this thread. Enter into mid 40s make me realised I may not be appealing to gals anymore till this thread started and given me hope again.

Been trying out WeChat nearby and managed to chat with a few married/divorced OPP. These OPP usually don't put up their photos in the WeChat and will replaced with photo of flowers or animals The issue with them is they like to say "cannot meet,cannot like because your wife" will be angry." These reply will normally put me off as there is likely no follow up in future. I do understand we cannot rush things to happen. But how do we know if the OPP is a potential target?

[lars]

UncleHasBeen, do your FBs know about one another? If so, how do they feel about it? Do they get jealous?

[Anonyabc]

Yes i think most definitely true.
For me, preggies gives off that alluring and sensual vibe.
U can see and feel it. The sex part is good but it is way more satisfying for us men seeing them in such a delicate and difficult state yet benefit much more from our 'usual' performance level.

Not even sure if it is a fetish but once u try having sex with a preggy and the way they look satisfied, gratified and appreciative after, that is fucking priceless.

In her case was more satisfying for me to be able to provide some form of carnal pleasure now.
This is her second marriage and her first pregnancy.
So her blissfulness index is off the charts :D and i am truly happy for her.

It's great to know someone who felt similar to my experience. Great going matey!

[Damade]

Yes,Unclehasbeen is really the sifu here and thanks for starting this thread. Enter into mid 40s make me realised I may not be appealing to gals anymore till this thread started and given me hope again.

Been trying out WeChat nearby and managed to chat with a few married/divorced OPP. These OPP usually don't put up their photos in the WeChat and will replaced with photo of flowers or animals The issue with them is they like to say "cannot meet,cannot like because your wife" will be angry." These reply will normally put me off as there is likely no follow up in future. I do understand we cannot rush things to happen. But how do we know if the OPP is a potential target?

If they are there and replied you means they are potential target! Else they wont even be there.
You just gotta continue play that game. I gv two example from experience.

One is a malaysian girl in tinder . 30yr old. Slim, lots of bikini pics. Asked why so disgusting got gf still in tinder. So not loyal. I just said well my gf is imagining hyun bin showering with her now anyways. Waited to see if she reply or not and dun care. She replied hahaha and said i was daring and too much. Asked why hyun bin, i just said coz im like psy not her type in bed. .. got her watsapp and as we wanted to go out covid started and she went back KL.

Another divorcee.. in tinder too. She said eeee got gf also come here. I said you got admirers also come here wat. She said admirers different ma which i replied you just want them jealous and fight over you la or want them altogether in a room… went for a date after that

Above are some things you can say coz it shows you are witty and can challenge them. Yet also open and have hints of sexuality in it. But u gotta be patient man. If you dont have game for this, you may lose out. Go for more then see who replies. Nimbers game

[Lemonjuice]

Do you all lower your ideals when tackling OPP?

Cos I am engaging 40s milf now. Got auntie figure, but still fuckable.

[Damade]

Do you all lower your ideals when tackling OPP?

Cos I am engaging 40s milf now. Got auntie figure, but still fuckable.

Wouldn’t say lower. Really your taste and preference. You feel it is fuckable then go for it. Dun care others. For me I have issue whereby if there is no chemistry/ feel / or slight attraction I cannot get D up. That’s why never really go for any chicks, hj or prostitute . coz end up as expensive chit chat or massage &@&$$! .

[Damade]

Wouldn’t say lower. Really your taste and preference. You feel it is fuckable then go for it. Dun care others. For me I have issue whereby if there is no chemistry/ feel / or slight attraction I cannot get D up. That’s why never really go for any chicks, hj or prostitute . coz end up as expensive chit chat or massage &@&$$! .

I remember in bkk and in hanoi, i had to pick one that looked like someone i know or aim for. Else forget it

[Lemonjuice]

Yup, somehow there is this thrill with OPP.

[wt188]

I think we all look for excitement, thriller and intimacy with Opp. Those things cant be found in FLs or MLs.

[Lemonjuice]

https://mustsharenews.com/ashry-owyong-kylen/

Really must share

[UncleHasBeen]

Oh Unclehasbeen you are the sifu haha. Great to find someone that justifies the similar tactic albeit my results are definitely much lower than yours.

Will just say that you are right it doesn’t seem to matter that I am married. Lesser the you ger gals but it automatically filters out those that wants something back. Lesser but def more quality definitely and also less guilt haha. Trying same thing with two of my younger opp Now. So far they talk and confide in me in their issues personal or work. Just go a long, soft flirts and just see how. Happens good, if not as you say move on. Dont overstay (so true!) ..

Keep on inspiring unclehasbeen! Tell us more of your adventures

If u are between 40-48, u are still relatively appealing and attractive to the younger women.

Just make sure u act the part because i personally know 40's men bloody behave like a 20 year old.
All about themselves and never spare some thought for the women.
Hey i have been that too but we should grow wiser and evolve and not only age physically but still remain dumb.

As long as the younger OPP is willing to talk and listen to u, u already got your foot at the door.
Now it is just a matter if u can inch your way in without force.
Sometimes u keep your feet at the door long enough, it will be opened too. :D

The part about moving on and not over stay our welcome is two-tier.
First, seriously dont waste anymore time on those who are not willing to come onboard.
Just move on to greener pasture.

Second is to signal to your intended target that u are cool with it.
U are not clingy and u can walkaway without causing any drama.
Your 'exit', will make her remember u, your style.
When the time is right, she will remember u because u displayed maturity.
And when she needs someone in her life with that qualities again, she will come knocking.

So i always preach this. Dont end any relationship on a sour note.
Things dont work out, just leave gracefully.
Or like they say, "leave the stage when there is still applause".
Your exit will leave an impression that would work in your favour, trust me.

I personally have experienced about 20% of those who initially rejected my approach only to come dangling their pussies at me later.
Fastest was within a week, longest took 2 months.
20% of those who rejected me wanted me back for a try.

:cool::o

[UncleHasBeen]

Yes,Unclehasbeen is really the sifu here and thanks for starting this thread. Enter into mid 40s make me realised I may not be appealing to gals anymore till this thread started and given me hope again.

Been trying out WeChat nearby and managed to chat with a few married/divorced OPP. These OPP usually don't put up their photos in the WeChat and will replaced with photo of flowers or animals The issue with them is they like to say "cannot meet,cannot like because your wife" will be angry." These reply will normally put me off as there is likely no follow up in future. I do understand we cannot rush things to happen. But how do we know if the OPP is a potential target?

There will always be girls who find us appealing even when we are married and beyond our forties. Really.
If i were to include the number of flings i had, it would really be quite a big number. Yet, the number for crashes and burned is almost like 10-20 times more.

For every pussy i raided, OPP or not i have crashed and burned at least 10 times before.

Let's be more specific, talk about OPP.
OPP themselves is a different breed in thinking and we are suppose to be compatible because we are OPP too right?

So as long as u have women asking u why u stray, why u are married and still on the dating apps, u have an opening for a conversation.

A conversation to let them know u better. If they dont like what they hear, move on.
I mean if they themselves are OPP, then the click should be there at the first instant.
Next is only a matter if they want to give u the time to try it out.

Leave the door open from your end. Dont shut them because they said no to u.
Be a mature gentleman and be gentle on such matters.
They will remember u.

If they are OPP, the very reason why they are on the dating apps is because their man is not 'good' enough for them.
And if they are younger women then i am sure we as older men would have more appeal if they have the time to know more about us.

How to give them more time to know about us when they reject us?
Be gracious about. Leave it as it is.
Dont push your way.
Be polite. Be kind.

Those who bite and come back, is going to be one worth your time, trust me. They always are.

:D:cool:

[randyrockhard]

OP should be classified as 'National Treasure' for his wisdom.

Have you ever come across a tricky situation where the OPP partner finds out? And chaos ensued?

To me, OPP is a very dangerous slope I dare not venture into. If I were to mess around, I would definitely avoid OPP.

[UncleHasBeen]

UncleHasBeen, do your FBs know about one another? If so, how do they feel about it? Do they get jealous?

All my FB knew/knows from the start i am happily married and yet i still want to snack around. This i made it very clear before we decide to get intimate.

If u have been reading my posts, u will notice that i have more older and mature women as my FB.

At my earlier years of getting FB, the younger ones, the SYT (single and married) they tend to be more possessive even though in such a relationship.
They do not understand there is no exclusivity in such a relationship.

As i progresses, i avoided younger women.
Everyone of them will ask about my flings.
I honestly told them i am seeing more than one FB.

They know about my other FB but they dont know each other.
There is no issue with that because most of them are divorced, married or attached.
They dont have all the time for me as i for them.

U see, eventually i am only their dick-booty-call.
I am not their knight in shining armour or someone to rescue them from the tower.

Jealous maybe but not to the extent they carry it with them all the time. They and me, we are not exclusive to one another.
I make that clear from the get go.
We should and must.
:D:cool:

[UncleHasBeen]

If they are there and replied you means they are potential target! Else they wont even be there.
You just gotta continue play that game. I gv two example from experience.

One is a malaysian girl in tinder . 30yr old. Slim, lots of bikini pics. Asked why so disgusting got gf still in tinder. So not loyal. I just said well my gf is imagining hyun bin showering with her now anyways. Waited to see if she reply or not and dun care. She replied hahaha and said i was daring and too much. Asked why hyun bin, i just said coz im like psy not her type in bed. .. got her watsapp and as we wanted to go out covid started and she went back KL.

Another divorcee.. in tinder too. She said eeee got gf also come here. I said you got admirers also come here wat. She said admirers different ma which i replied you just want them jealous and fight over you la or want them altogether in a room… went for a date after that

Above are some things you can say coz it shows you are witty and can challenge them. Yet also open and have hints of sexuality in it. But u gotta be patient man. If you dont have game for this, you may lose out. Go for more then see who replies. Nimbers game

Nicely executed like a pro, good job bro! :cool:

[Banaber]

Jealous maybe but not to the extent they carry it with them all the time. They and me, we are not exclusive to one another.
I make that clear from the get go.
We should and must.
:D:cool:

jealousy is eating me up for the no exclusivity with my OPP instead. :(

[UncleHasBeen]

I think we all look for excitement, thriller and intimacy with Opp. Those things cant be found in FLs or MLs.

Yes also both parties in a OPP situation needs to maintain and win each other's affection. Otherwise it is not worth taking the risk, then we will part ways.

ML/FL are here to service. Two different realms and different rewards.
Though both have their own merits. It just depends on which one u desire.

For me i can count the number of FL i had.
It was at least 25 years ago and i stopped.
I totally cant get a full erection with a condom on and having no intimacy with FL.
Somehow my neurological wires are messed up.

It was embarrassing in front the FLs. I had about 6 sessions.
Within i think 3 months i had the 6 calls.
Just cant get turn on enough and took forever to cum.
And zero satisfaction on my part.
So i stopped getting FL.

If FL cant work for me, no way ML too.
So from there on when i was 26 years old i solely invest in relationships only. I was single then.
Still havent venture into OPP yet.
But no more FLs for me then.

For me intimacy is important.
So no FL/ML for me.
The thrill is also a turn on especially if your target is also married.
Both have almost the same equal share of risk and choose to have an affair. :D:p

[Anonyabc]

Yes also both parties in a OPP situation needs to maintain and win each other's affection. Otherwise it is not worth taking the risk, then we will part ways.

ML/FL are here to service. Two different realms and different rewards.
Though both have their own merits. It just depends on which one u desire.

For me i can count the number of FL i had.
It was at least 25 years ago and i stopped.
I totally cant get a full erection with a condom on and having no intimacy with FL.
Somehow my neurological wires are messed up.

It was embarrassing in front the FLs. I had about 6 sessions.
Within i think 3 months i had the 6 calls.
Just cant get turn on enough and took forever to cum.
And zero satisfaction on my part.
So i stopped getting FL.

If FL cant work for me, no way ML too.
So from there on when i was 26 years old i solely invest in relationships only. I was single then.
Still havent venture into OPP yet.
But no more FLs for me then.

For me intimacy is important.
So no FL/ML for me.
The thrill is also a turn on especially if your target is also married.
Both have almost the same equal share of risk and choose to have an affair. :D:p

U spoke my words at the end matey.

And grats for reaching 100 posts :D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://mustsharenews.com/ashry-owyong-kylen/

Thanks for sharing this.

This guys has to be the dumbest fuck out there.
In 2017 he was exposed publicly by his GFs then that he five-timing her.

Now 5 years later now, he is being exposed again by GF that he is four-timing her while had 16 GFs in the past year.

This guy has the total package, almost.
I dont know about his career status or academic but i am sure he is not doing too bad those areas.

With his looks and youth he already has all the girls he wanted and he did.
But he is just too dumb to play the game right.
If i were blessed with his looks and youth, i would have a girl at a time. Dont even need to venture into OPP or MILF or whatnot.

Just the SYT ONE AT A TIME.
But he is so dumb to have 4-5 at one go while these women are single. That is the problem.

And he is repeating his mistake. Now being exposed publicly again.

But at least he did us one solid, seriously.
He has proven yet again guys with looks and youth are dumb and unreliable.

So thanks to Ashry Owyong Min or Kylen Ryker or whatever he is going to call himself next, it is guys like him that makes older dudes like us more dependable, reliable and attractive to women.
A big thanks ! :p:D:cool:

[UncleHasBeen]

OP should be classified as 'National Treasure' for his wisdom.

Have you ever come across a tricky situation where the OPP partner finds out? And chaos ensued?

To me, OPP is a very dangerous slope I dare not venture into. If I were to mess around, I would definitely avoid OPP.

Happened once. :eek:
I shared it here.

https://sbfsg.online/showpost.php?p=21151435&postcount=122

https://sbfsg.online/showpost.php?p=21153167&postcount=132

[UncleHasBeen]

jealousy is eating me up for the no exclusivity with my OPP instead. :(

U are more emotionally invested than u should on that one?
It happens bro, trust me. Especially with time.

And worse, at which stage of our life they came in.
All these could be a recipe for a blossomed and serious relationship out of a fling.

Either way, all things can be resolved if we all act rationally.
I have two close friends that had OPP when they were in their 30's.

Both are my male friends.
In the end they all got divorced with their wives then and married the 'other woman'.

Til this very day, both my friends are still happily married to their ex OPP.

I am not encouraging anything here.
Just want to let u know there are times when wrongs can be righted.

Oh my two bros, they dont know each other until i introduced them years later after they married their ex-OPP.

U could see the 'mental hi-5' they give each other when i shared their history with them all over drinks.
They instantly hit it off like lost brothers reunite.

:D:cool:

[UncleHasBeen]

U spoke my words at the end matey.

And grats for reaching 100 posts :D

Thanks dude!

This is a subject i hold close to heart.
I have been through so much shit, too many crashes and burned with OPP pussies before and after my marriage that i can easily contribute 500 posts alone :D:D:cool:

[Anonyabc]

Thanks dude!

This is a subject i hold close to heart.
I have been through so much shit, too many crashes and burned with OPP pussies before and after my marriage that i can easily contribute 500 posts alone :D:D:cool:

I think the fact was that you actively reviewed what went right and wrong while for me I'm kind of in a rut I'm not exactly analyzing my steps the way I used to. That's how reality screws ppl I guess.

But you kind of inspired something, though I cannot be sure if I could keep up if I wanted, but well who knows? :confused:

[UncleHasBeen]

Got a few of such similar questions thought i shared it here for all.

Do you have any like core tips for us younger guys to actually get more girls?
Been on online dating but doesnt yield much results, maybe partly due to a hectic work schedule and balancing my studies at the same time.
But your post seem to say that basically put yourself in social situations, but how about the interaction and maybe if i may also ask.
Did you ever had to balance a hectic work life on top of your family life and sexual escapades?
Hows it like?

Young dudes, dont have to get more girls.
In retrospect, young dudes should spend as little time sleeping and more time on going out there.
Meet people through social gathering.
Be it organized activities or just plainly partying.
No shame in that.

Putting ourselves out there will yield two outcomes.
People around us in that social setting will be repel by our traits and behaviour.
And because of our traits and behaviour we might just draw the right people in.
Putting ourselves out there also polish up our inter-people skills.
Introverts? Then u need to decide how introvert u want to be and how is that affecting your love/sex life.
Take a pick. No two ways about this.

Work life, family life and sexual escapades, how to balance.
It has always been the case that my sexual escapades make my work life more bearable and help me to understand the needs of my wife from another perspective.
U see that flow there?
There is no balancing act. It is a closed loop circuit, for me
:cool:

[Luchofab]

Lots of great advice good sir! Have my points

[UncleHasBeen]

Lots of great advice good sir! Have my points

https://i.imgur.com/vYz5y1S.gif

Thanks man, welcome and looking forward to any sharing u have for us :)

[Banaber]

U are more emotionally invested than u should on that one?
It happens bro, trust me. Especially with time.

And worse, at which stage of our life they came in.
All these could be a recipe for a blossomed and serious relationship out of a fling.

Either way, all things can be resolved if we all act rationally.


wow spot on! i hope i do act rationally. :o

[UncleHasBeen]

wow spot on! i hope i do act rationally. :o

I wish u all the best for that bro.
I have a lot of crashes and burns, and i have no regret.
Not that i was desperate or thick-skinned.

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

[dieth1234]

I wish u all the best for that bro.
I have a lot of crashes and burns, and i have no regret.
Not that i was desperate or thick-skinned.

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

Well said, I up you. Thanks for advice

[UncleHasBeen]

Well said, I up you. Thanks for advice

https://i.imgur.com/vYz5y1S.gif

Thanks man, looking forward to any sharing u have for us :)

[Lemonjuice]

UncleHasBeen

I ended with one recently. Been together for two years. It ended over badly, with her blocking me

It's been months and I am still trying to got out of the rut.

Any similar experiences?

[AmpedUp]

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

That is a very good philosophy

[Banaber]

I wish u all the best for that bro.
I have a lot of crashes and burns, and i have no regret.
Not that i was desperate or thick-skinned.

My philosophy is i rather get rejected right at my face than not to try at all and later wonder about all the "what if".

having a holiday with her. hope to progress much further!

[UncleHasBeen]

UncleHasBeen

I ended with one recently. Been together for two years. It ended over badly, with her blocking me

It's been months and I am still trying to got out of the rut.

Any similar experiences?

Lemonjuice

1. Ended badly with OPP, no for me.
Abruptly yes but i will always be the one in such case to contact them and ask why and then wish them all the best.
Never bad ending.

I had few of these.
Just so u know, i have been in this game for more than 20 years. Though i stopped in 2019.
The few shared the same story-line.

Fucked between 1-3 sessions then they called me to end it.
Reason was the same.
Felt they cant go on lying and cheating their husbands/BF like that.

For me, have pussy will stay.
So i always end such fling in an amicable way.
I told them i get it and i really do.
I rather we end things earlier than to drag on only to make things worse and public.
So, we call it quits.

More than 50% of those, contacted me after about 2-4 weeks.
Said just to meet up for drinks and dinner.
And these that i met up with, 100% of the time we fucked within 24 hours.

Then amazingly, within 1-2 months from there we ended things again.
So again, i do it amicably.
I was never so invested emotionally with them.
Same deal, have pussy will stay.

Then by clockwork, the second 'patch-up' is ALWAYS within a week from the break.
Fucking ALWAYS, one week.

Fuck again, then the story line started to get more complicated.
All of them will start to ask this.
Along the same line.
"Am i just a pleasure vessel to u"?
Every single of them of who patched up for the second time will ask me this within a week.

This is the line that i do not cross.
So i reminded them i am happily married and my 'mouth' is itchy so to speak.
I told them i am incapable of offering what they need right then and it was obviously not just pleasure.
They already wanted more and i cant and will not.
I take my time to explain to them that the fault was mine and that they are better without me in their life to fuck it up for them.
And that was how i ended those who patched back with me.

2. Getting out of the rut. Nope.
I learned at an early age, u fucked with an OPP's heart, u will get yourself into messy relationship.
But if u fucked an OPP with your HEART, u just fucked yourself ten times over.

:cool::cool::cool:

[WIBlack]

Wow, UncleHasBeen, good thread to share your point of views with others. I learn more about OPPs looking for OPP now.

No offense guys, but if I have a FWB/FB & found out he has more pussies besides myself or his spouse, I guess I will end it with him without any reasons given.

Mostly it's because most women like me are still not so open minded yet or we just not experienced in this scene yet.

[Damade]

UncleHasBeen

I ended with one recently. Been together for two years. It ended over badly, with her blocking me

It's been months and I am still trying to got out of the rut.

Any similar experiences?

I had two experiences that ended badly. One turned out still fine, my fb after 17yrs.
I think it depends on your reasons for break off. But i agree with unclehasbeen. That 17yrs one was with my heart in. It ended with me waiting for her and cannot move on (still with had others but always yearning for her). Even wished she divorced qnd be with me. Somehow after i closed it, i could move on and she and i are good friends and still is my fb. 17yrs man.. so natural and i could always erect for her easily. Not even with my wife who is younger hehe.
So what unclehasbeen said is true, make sure no heart is put in. The onoy heart put in should be the love making session with all heart. Dont confuse heart with care or lust. Very different. They like to feel that they are cared for , respected and loved but not the heart involved love.
I had 3 which was bad but after talking over, we all agreed. They knew what i offer is a different feeling but not the heart in or longterm love. Once they saw that they will move on. Which i am fine because it is clear and that chapter has ended. Move to another chapter or be a better person and let her close the book and move on.

[Drakko74]

Nice thread! I agree with many of the points shared by UncleHasbeen.

I currently have an OPP/FB. I admire UncleHasBeen ability to maintain multiple OPP. I found that I can't. I think the simple reason is we all have different needs.

For me, I just wanted a little excitement outside of my current family lifestyle. Like UncleHasBeen, I met my current FB through a physical social interest group and it developed from mundane topics on wealth investment to what we have now - exciting and passionate love making sessions.

I suppose we both found what was lacking in our sex lives and just enjoying each other. We are both in our 40s and have families that we also love. We both agreed that we will drop each other for family if it comes to that eventually.

We don't meet very often. But when we meet... My god the love making sessions are explosive. We once made love an entire day. I was surprised I could stay hard all day even at my current age.

[wt188]

Power la, till now no luck for me in finding FB/FWB/Opp. HAHAHA

[randyrockhard]

Happened once. :eek:
I shared it here.

https://sbfsg.online/showpost.php?p=21151435&postcount=122

https://sbfsg.online/showpost.php?p=21153167&postcount=132

I saw that part 'confronted all parties' and I didn't see how you did damage control. I mean, an angry jealous husbands can be very dangerous.

How did you insulate the information from leaking to your family?

What did you actually say to the husband? Did you have to apologize?

[Damade]

Nice thread! I agree with many of the points shared by UncleHasbeen.

I currently have an OPP/FB. I admire UncleHasBeen ability to maintain multiple OPP. I found that I can't. I think the simple reason is we all have different needs.

For me, I just wanted a little excitement outside of my current family lifestyle. Like UncleHasBeen, I met my current FB through a physical social interest group and it developed from mundane topics on wealth investment to what we have now - exciting and passionate love making sessions.

I suppose we both found what was lacking in our sex lives and just enjoying each other. We are both in our 40s and have families that we also love. We both agreed that we will drop each other for family if it comes to that eventually.

We don't meet very often. But when we meet... My god the love making sessions are explosive. We once made love an entire day. I was surprised I could stay hard all day even at my current age.
Relatable ! “Hard on” to that 😬….

[UncleHasBeen]

Wow, UncleHasBeen, good thread to share your point of views with others. I learn more about OPPs looking for OPP now.

No offense guys, but if I have a FWB/FB & found out he has more pussies besides myself or his spouse, I guess I will end it with him without any reasons given.

Mostly it's because most women like me are still not so open minded yet or we just not experienced in this scene yet.

Nice to see your comment here WIBlack.
There is no right or wrong way to handle such situation.
There are some who prefer to have one FWB/FB at a time.

Most women are inherently possessive.
And as they age, that possessive need actually lowers.
Between us, women has bigger insecurity sentiment.
So it is totally understandable the way u feel if your FWB/FB has others besides u.

But i do want to highlight is that when two OPP come together, they should be clear that their relationship is already hardly exclusively to begin with.

:o

[UncleHasBeen]

Nice thread! I agree with many of the points shared by UncleHasbeen.

I currently have an OPP/FB. I admire UncleHasBeen ability to maintain multiple OPP. I found that I can't. I think the simple reason is we all have different needs.

For me, I just wanted a little excitement outside of my current family lifestyle. Like UncleHasBeen, I met my current FB through a physical social interest group and it developed from mundane topics on wealth investment to what we have now - exciting and passionate love making sessions.

I suppose we both found what was lacking in our sex lives and just enjoying each other. We are both in our 40s and have families that we also love. We both agreed that we will drop each other for family if it comes to that eventually.

We don't meet very often. But when we meet... My god the love making sessions are explosive. We once made love an entire day. I was surprised I could stay hard all day even at my current age.

Welcome Drakko74!

What u just painted is a lovely pic of a relationship with OPP.
Text book case for me :D

Currently i have 6 FB and within this 6 only one of them is OPP who is a local.
The other 5 are divorcees and technically single now :p

The 5 divorcees, 2 are foreigners and visit SG about 6 times a year.
The other 3 divorcees are local. 2 are mothers while the other is truly single.

So although my numbers of FB is rather high, i dont have to spend a lot of time with them.

And my one and only OPP whom is due to give birth very soon, i wont be seeing her during her confinement period.
Based on experience, there is 50-50 chance that we will slowly cool off and call it off.
I dont mind because she is happy with her second marriage and now her first child.
I am happy for her and i am more than willing to get out of her life.
I dont want to fuck up her life now.
:o

[Lemonjuice]

UncleHasBeen

With so many OPP, will it dilute the feel? I started putting a blurry pic on dating app, to be more obvious. Not hits yet. Sad.

[UncleHasBeen]

Power la, till now no luck for me in finding FB/FWB/Opp. HAHAHA

Take your time, this cant be rushed.
There are people who were rushed into relationship and the pain comes later.
For a relationship which involves FB/FWB/OPP, u need to take your time and be selective.

The right one can add the missing element into your current life style.
The wrong one, just one session and its over. Time wasted.

But if u rushed and get a messed up one, oh man it could be Fatal Attraction :eek: Seen the movie?

[UncleHasBeen]

I saw that part 'confronted all parties' and I didn't see how you did damage control. I mean, an angry jealous husbands can be very dangerous.

How did you insulate the information from leaking to your family?

What did you actually say to the husband? Did you have to apologize?

My ex-colleague and her did not know my wife.
Our office only suspected us after she confided to her friend whose husband worked in the same company as I was.
Total insulation. Hull integrity 100%.

In a gist our 30 mins confrontation went like this.
He : Why do u need to make things turn out this way?
Me : I am sorry that I did not come straight to u when your wife first texted me.
And I am also sorry that I did not come to u after your wife made the advances at me.

Truth :
I was indeed sorry but I was sorry he found out that his wife not only cheated but initiated it.
I am not exonerating myself from all that, no.
Fact is she initiated contact and I reciprocated.

If I were given the chance to go back in time would I do the right thing?
No, I know myself too well. Same thing will happen again.

And then what followed was a session of finger pointing between the two of them for a good 30 mins and I was like an audience in a live sitcom.
U might think the husband was scolding her and throwing a fit right?
No man, she was the one raising her voice, scolding and blaming her husband.

My colleague, he sat there cool and calm, looked remorse but never for one second, he became angry.
No man. This is the reason why I admire and respect him even as I think back now.

I do not know the full story between the two of them but somehow, she turned the whole table against him.

I sat there waiting to be interrogated by the husband, but it never came.
When about 30 mins had passed, I told them I am sorry for what had happened and that it seemed this was between the two of them and I am going to leave.
The husband kept quiet and so I took the cue that I am allowed to leave.
And just as I was about leave the table, she has to fucking grab my hand and said, “Call u later”.

That was what happened.
She is the most aggressive, self-centred and manipulative woman I have known and fucked.

[AmpedUp]

Very well written TS

[UncleHasBeen]

UncleHasBeen

With so many OPP, will it dilute the feel? I started putting a blurry pic on dating app, to be more obvious. Not hits yet. Sad.

These 6 are my fave and i deliberately make effort to 'keep' them.
I play my part to the best of my abilities.

The oldest which is 61 years old this year has been with me for 10 years.
The youngest in the lot which is 36 this year has been with me for 5 years.

My latest and newest addition has been with me for 3 years.
I have no intention to add to the numbers. Since 2019 i have stopped.

There is no dilution because we keep our desire for each other alive.
If it is only for sex, i can assume dilution will seeps in.

But if we truly understand each other's needs physically and emotionally without bringing our own baggage into it.
Then it is like i said before, we are in our own fantasy, we live it the way we want it.

We live it not because we need the sex only.
We live because it is like an alternate reality and we have the opportunity to be irresponsible within reasonable boundaries.
We get to act/play out our deepest fantasies (not just sex) with our FWB/FB/OPP with the minimal regards for decency.

Isnt this the kind of escapade we all need?
If we are focusing on sex only, then i think it is a waste.
There is so much more to fulfill with your FWB/FB/OPP than just sex.

:D:p

[Drakko74]

Welcome Drakko74!

What u just painted is a lovely pic of a relationship with OPP.
Text book case for me :D

Currently i have 6 FB and within this 6 only one of them is OPP who is a local.
The other 5 are divorcees and technically single now :p

The 5 divorcees, 2 are foreigners and visit SG about 6 times a year.
The other 3 divorcees are local. 2 are mothers while the other is truly single.

So although my numbers of FB is rather high, i dont have to spend a lot of time with them.

And my one and only OPP whom is due to give birth very soon, i wont be seeing her during her confinement period.
Based on experience, there is 50-50 chance that we will slowly cool off and call it off.
I dont mind because she is happy with her second marriage and now her first child.
I am happy for her and i am more than willing to get out of her life.
I dont want to fuck up her life now.
:o


I totally feel your last statement. Likewise for my FB. I totally would not want to fuck up her life given what we have for each other.

And many people many not believe me, but I actually become a better lover and husband to my wife. It could have been guilt. It could be also the fact that I realize I need more inject more passion to my marriage. Whatever it is or ironically as it sounds, I do try to be better to both women.

[UncleHasBeen]

I totally feel your last statement. Likewise for my FB. I totally would not want to fuck up her life given what we have for each other.

And many people many not believe me, but I actually become a better lover and husband to my wife. It could have been guilt. It could be also the fact that I realize I need more inject more passion to my marriage. Whatever it is or ironically as it sounds, I do try to be better to both women.

Yes bro i totally get it.
Same thing for me.

For every OPP/FWB/FB that i have been with i learn something about relationship and that subtle reminder dont take everything for granted.
Also lessons learned like communication and make time for each other.
I learn the most from my group of divorcees.
They are all very willing to share their experiences.

In turn i use that to better myself and my marriage.
To be blunt, able to get these nuggets from an extra martial affair to further strengthen and enhance my own marriage is absolutely awesome!

Yes ironically my 'affairs' make me a better player and husband.
I know that sounds messed up but it is legit truth.
I guess it all boils down to how we want to make the best out of all these. :D:cool:

[curious11]

wow glad i stumbled upon this thread.

UncleHasBeen, are all your escapades only in private areas or you’re also out in public? sorry for the naive question but with 6 OPP, sure there’s chance that you’ll be out with one of your OPPs?

i also have that vacancy in my life but can’t seem to find something like this to fill it…

[quap]

Great share TS bro, learn some new things here :)

[UncleHasBeen]

Hey curious11 welcome!

I have lots of trysts in public with others while i was much younger but not with these 6 women.
These 6, we had it probably not more than twice each.

Probably it could be an age thing as these group are more of the 'senior' demographic.
5 are divorcees.

While there is now 1 and only OPP and she is the youngest of the lot.
We had it twice but the moment her sweat trickle down her neck, she got irritated and i have to cum as fast as i can :( so that we can wrap it out.

However while indoors, sweat does not bother her :D
Myself has cut it down as i age. So i dont venture outdoors anymore.

To have either OPP,FWB or FB i personally think it requires more effort to get them hooked and it is totally worth it.
So one has to be first, willing to try. Make the move.
Able to take the rejections and move on. Make more moves.
When u find one, it is time to evaluate her slowly.
If she fits, given time she will fits like a glove and while she may not be your wife material, she will be close second.

Know what i mean? :cool:

[WIBlack]

Wondering,if I as a woman has a few fb/fwbs like you (you have 6, let's say if I have 3), how would you think a d the other bros out there think its acceptable? Imagine it's your fb/fwb, can you accept?

Of coz we are also OPP, so, exclusive among the non exclusive? Lol.

At times its not easy to find a suitable guy to be that fb/fwb, no matter how many of them try to get you. Everyone will still tend to use some heart and feel to be the one he/she likes.

Nice to see your comment here WIBlack.
There is no right or wrong way to handle such situation.
There are some who prefer to have one FWB/FB at a time.

Most women are inherently possessive.
And as they age, that possessive need actually lowers.
Between us, women has bigger insecurity sentiment.
So it is totally understandable the way u feel if your FWB/FB has others besides u.

But i do want to highlight is that when two OPP come together, they should be clear that their relationship is already hardly exclusively to begin with.

:o

[rabusto]

Wondering,if I as a woman has a few fb/fwbs like you (you have 6, let's say if I have 3), how would you think a d the other bros out there think its acceptable? Imagine it's your fb/fwb, can you accept?

Of coz we are also OPP, so, exclusive among the non exclusive? Lol.

At times its not easy to find a suitable guy to be that fb/fwb, no matter how many of them try to get you. Everyone will still tend to use some heart and feel to be the one he/she likes.

Hmmm ..... food for thoughts

[curious11]

Hey curious11 welcome!

I have lots of trysts in public with others while i was much younger but not with these 6 women.
These 6, we had it probably not more than twice each.

Probably it could be an age thing as these group are more of the 'senior' demographic.
5 are divorcees.

While there is now 1 and only OPP and she is the youngest of the lot.
We had it twice but the moment her sweat trickle down her neck, she got irritated and i have to cum as fast as i can :( so that we can wrap it out.

However while indoors, sweat does not bother her :D
Myself has cut it down as i age. So i dont venture outdoors anymore.

To have either OPP,FWB or FB i personally think it requires more effort to get them hooked and it is totally worth it.
So one has to be first, willing to try. Make the move.
Able to take the rejections and move on. Make more moves.
When u find one, it is time to evaluate her slowly.
If she fits, given time she will fits like a glove and while she may not be your wife material, she will be close second.

Know what i mean? :cool:

haha powerful advice… but need a lot of time and dedication, sounds like hunting for another half lol.. envious of you bro 🙏

[Jjcoolidge]

Wow, UncleHasBeen, good thread to share your point of views with others. I learn more about OPPs looking for OPP now.

No offense guys, but if I have a FWB/FB & found out he has more pussies besides myself or his spouse, I guess I will end it with him without any reasons given.

Mostly it's because most women like me are still not so open minded yet or we just not experienced in this scene yet.

Hey WIBlack, it's ok to have this view, as long as both you and your FWB/FB are on the same page. That's why while many want to have a FWB/FB, finding the right one takes some (sometimes a lot of!) effort. I'm not at all saying we're looking for a spouse here. It's just that each individual has his/her own perception of what the relationship involves. Being forthright about both your expectations from the first meeting sets the tone if it is going to last. As UncleHasBeen rightly mentions, being willing to roll with the good as well as the rejections is part and parcel of the scene.

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/29z9NAi.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/bUE4A9M.jpg

Wondering,if I as a woman has a few fb/fwbs like you (you have 6, let's say if I have 3), how would you think a d the other bros out there think its acceptable? Imagine it's your fb/fwb, can you accept?

Of coz we are also OPP, so, exclusive among the non exclusive? Lol.

At times its not easy to find a suitable guy to be that fb/fwb, no matter how many of them try to get you. Everyone will still tend to use some heart and feel to be the one he/she likes.

I get your perspective.
Let us revisit this OPP of mine again, remember her?
We briefly talked about her at the other thread.

And this happened to me.
She has an insatiable sex-petite.

When we were together, I knew I can’t be the only meat rod ramming all her orifices.
I assume she thought the same of me too.
But we never verified it with one another.

Why I didn’t ask? To me it didn’t matter and still doesn’t.
I was only after her body and I don’t bother about anything else.
To me, I was purely fucking her anatomically.

Not fucking her heart and not fucking her with my heart.
It doesn’t matter if she had a soccer team of rods ramming her.
Then when we were exposed by her husband, we paused and only to resume later.

Liked I said she had an insatiable sex-petite.
But eventually we parted ways because of our personalities.
Much later when I caught up with my ex-colleagues over drinks then I found out that she was divorced.

[UncleHasBeen]

Now this is the kicker.
She was divorced when the husband caught her for the 5th time.
Her husband discovered about us and I was her #2.

Now the real kicker.
She got divorced not because of the 5th expose exactly.

I got the details from my ex-colleagues who are friends with her ex-husband.
When her husband discovered her tryst for the 5th time, she confessed to him that all her previous flings she hang onto them and didn’t end it liked she promised him.

Which means those that were previously exposed by her husband, she kept fucking them again.
When the husband asked why she was doing this and was it fair to him, she said they should just end the marriage so that it was fair to him.

Now, while I was ramming her, I was one of her probably 5 or 6 FB.
Does that change anything for me? No lah, have pussy will stay.

In this case, her pussy was not enough for me to stay.
Our personalities clashed quite a fair bit.

Which means I would never be able to bring in my own emotions at all.
So for this case, it fits my post perfectly.
I don’t mind if my FWB/FB/OPP has other meat rods besides me.

[UncleHasBeen]

But don’t get me wrong.
I cant be a robotic meat rod ramming away.
Maybe when I was in my 20’s probably.

I still care and have feelings for my FB and OPP.
But I know where the boundaries are.

My own sentiments and emotions are there to create an escapade of erotic fantasies and moments with other women.
That is all.

If I can’t handle my sentiments and emotions to keep them in check and let them get in the way, then I am fucked all over and fist fucking myself up.

We must be clear why we want to take the risk, time and effort to stray.
When me and my FB/OPP are together, we totally isolate and shut off everything else.

We are always in a selfish, decadent and self-indulgence mode.
We will not let other stuff affect our prized and cherished moment together.

So from here I hope u can understand why I don’t spend an iota of energy to check or mind if I am the one and only or just one in the soccer team that is rod ramming my FB/OPP.

Don’t care, don’t want to know. Have pussy, will stay.
Love all, serve all

:D:cool::p

[WIBlack]

https://i.imgur.com/29z9NAi.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/bUE4A9M.jpg



I get your perspective.
Let us revisit this OPP of mine again, remember her?
We briefly talked about her at the other thread.

And this happened to me.
She has an insatiable sex-petite.

When we were together, I knew I can’t be the only meat rod ramming all her orifices.
I assume she thought the same of me too.
But we never verified it with one another.

Why I didn’t ask? To me it didn’t matter and still doesn’t.
I was only after her body and I don’t bother about anything else.
To me, I was purely fucking her anatomically.

Not fucking her heart and not fucking her with my heart.
It doesn’t matter if she had a soccer team of rods ramming her.
Then when we were exposed by her husband, we paused and only to resume later.

Liked I said she had an insatiable sex-petite.
But eventually we parted ways because of our personalities.
Much later when I caught up with my ex-colleagues over drinks then I found out that she was divorced.

Of course I remember your legendary ex OPP. She's so confident and great, held her ex husband by his dick. Wish I can be at least half like her.

I cant get over the part not to use too much heart into any relationship. Maybe naive, or finding someone to replace spouse's inattentive and non sexual life.

I was once so hungry for sex & experiences, being naive too, I went out with a few guys. After a while, I couldn't find the right fb/fwb to be with as I was looking for something more. I found one, but that one is always busy with work/own family.

A few of those I briefly met before and recently wanted to get together, and some bros from SBF approached me, but nothing developed further as I feel tired to look for 'the right person' to have a sexual sparkling relationship with.

To me, I really admire your current wealthy situation and applause you for your popularity with the ladies. I like reading yours and other brothers' stories and sharing too!

Probably it's time for me to self identify my gender preference again.

[WIBlack]

Hey WIBlack, it's ok to have this view, as long as both you and your FWB/FB are on the same page. That's why while many want to have a FWB/FB, finding the right one takes some (sometimes a lot of!) effort. I'm not at all saying we're looking for a spouse here. It's just that each individual has his/her own perception of what the relationship involves. Being forthright about both your expectations from the first meeting sets the tone if it is going to last. As UncleHasBeen rightly mentions, being willing to roll with the good as well as the rejections is part and parcel of the scene.

Thanks for your input, bro Jjcoolidge.
Sometimes expectations were set but things still fall apart, so it really depends on the individuals and the trust of each other.

[UncleHasBeen]

Of course I remember your legendary ex OPP. She's so confident and great, held her ex husband by his dick. Wish I can be at least half like her.

I cant get over the part not to use too much heart into any relationship. Maybe naive, or finding someone to replace spouse's inattentive and non sexual life.

I was once so hungry for sex & experiences, being naive too, I went out with a few guys. After a while, I couldn't find the right fb/fwb to be with as I was looking for something more. I found one, but that one is always busy with work/own family.

A few of those I briefly met before and recently wanted to get together, and some bros from SBF approached me, but nothing developed further as I feel tired to look for 'the right person' to have a sexual sparkling relationship with.

To me, I really admire your current wealthy situation and applause you for your popularity with the ladies. I like reading yours and other brothers' stories and sharing too!

Probably it's time for me to self identify my gender preference again.

Your predicament i understand as i had many flings with women similar to yours.

May i suggest u change your 'hunting ground'?
If u can, take a social activity that u would like and at the same time enjoy the process of just being there.

For example one of my fave would be SG Expats and Local social clubs.
And the Singapore's Language & Culture Exchange club.
Not specifically these ones but the core theme of the club is such.

Take your time there and likely u will meet someone who is easy on the eyes. This i am very sure.
From there, it is up to u to decide how far u want to take it.

About the putting heart into the relationship.
I have explained this before but the crux of the matter is this, dont put yourself too far out there.
When it burns and it will, the pain is excruciating for those who wears their heart on their sleeves.

Though i personally have seen happy endings and new beginnings, new chapter out of such relationships.
But that is with a price to pay.
Still a new beginning and happy ever after.

Hey, we only live once right :D

[Damade]

Unclehasbeen, you are right on two fronts:
1) put yourself out there
2) dont get stuck on it
WIBlack, sharing same experience,
No 1) was tiring. Really tiring as we age definitely. But it came through a few groups of mine eg sports like tennis, badminton golf, local tours . Like tinder, talked to like hundreds and went a few dates but ended with only very little. The more successful one is my company events. Met the most OPP there over last 18-20 years. But go in without thinking that i must or will have sex or opp encounters and you will be fine. It is expectations that makes it tired .. i also realised this late in life

No2) was sinilar that in the early years i had a few expectations. Like my current one, i was with her when she was attached, single then married others. Waited for her 6yrs! But while sex was good the heart wanted more. Only when the expectations was gone, we became good friends , super sex moments and i could move on to others and get married.
I also had 3 opp which was fucking a lot of others same time. I was just part of one of hers. Example one gal, super hot model .. was with me in phuket trip but she told me her beazilian trainer is there too and since she hs been fucking him too, whether i would to go with her yo meet him. I was like wtf but now i think back maybe i should have hehe. Can do my supreme domination fantasy… another one is married but her husband and kids in aussie. She is super sex hingry, fucking some her bosses, some younger boys. I knew her long time but was just one her few. When she decided to trim down her fbs, i became her friend only. Regret? Nah.. move on.
The moment you treat it like no care, it is hard at first cause it hurts the ego and heart that you are not only one. But remember these types you would not want as wife or husband at this moment. It not only opens up your anxiety and anger, but allows you to find others - opp or not

[Jjcoolidge]

Thanks for your input, bro Jjcoolidge.
Sometimes expectations were set but things still fall apart, so it really depends on the individuals and the trust of each other.

Thinking practically, it would be difficult to expect the other party to commit exclusively to you in this scene. The fact that either party is free to look / fuck around, you will always have that doubt in your mind. I agree, by removing the heart aspect, it allows you to give in to the physical without being encumbered by the emotional. You alone can gauge if you are ready for such an adventure. Good luck!

[eatingpussy]

Bro everything have to start somewhere, its likr gambling. Sometimes you just keep getting shitty hands, just take it as a learning experience. You will hit the jackpot sometimes. I did my share of pity sex and fucked down, really really low down in the looks scale. But i also bedded 2 7s and 8s. Just keep trying its the fun of the pursuit. 1. Today my ego got bruised. Met up with a potential for lunch and towards the middle of the meet up, she says she don't feel the vibe. After the meeting, I followed up with text and confirmed that she is not interested.


2. I have been swiping on dating apps and it has been not fruitful. I matched with dinosaurs (100kg at least) and I actually did the deed with them.

3. I am lost as I just broke up. Now haven't withdrawal symptoms.

[Drakko74]

But don’t get me wrong.
I cant be a robotic meat rod ramming away.
Maybe when I was in my 20’s probably.

I still care and have feelings for my FB and OPP.
But I know where the boundaries are.

My own sentiments and emotions are there to create an escapade of erotic fantasies and moments with other women.
That is all.

If I can’t handle my sentiments and emotions to keep them in check and let them get in the way, then I am fucked all over and fist fucking myself up.

We must be clear why we want to take the risk, time and effort to stray.
When me and my FB/OPP are together, we totally isolate and shut off everything else.

We are always in a selfish, decadent and self-indulgence mode.
We will not let other stuff affect our prized and cherished moment together.

So from here I hope u can understand why I don’t spend an iota of energy to check or mind if I am the one and only or just one in the soccer team that is rod ramming my FB/OPP.

Don’t care, don’t want to know. Have pussy, will stay.
Love all, serve all

:D:cool::p

Aye! That's our (my FB and I) attitudes too. I can't say it any better than you. When we are together, we only focus on each other.

Once we finish our date, we feel energized and redirect our passion back to our families.

[Xia406]

https://i.imgur.com/MFEyhdE.jpg

https://i.imgur.com/KS0RjLG.jpg

These are the shots she was referring to :p:p:p

Do you have any more photos of her Uncle?

[UncleHasBeen]

Do you have any more photos of her Uncle?

https://sbf.world/showpost.php?p=21252859&postcount=214

:D

[UncleHasBeen]

Bro everything have to start somewhere, its likr gambling. Sometimes you just keep getting shitty hands, just take it as a learning experience. You will hit the jackpot sometimes. I did my share of pity sex and fucked down, really really low down in the looks scale. But i also bedded 2 7s and 8s. Just keep trying its the fun of the pursuit.

Hey dont mind me asking.
U bedded the 7s and 8s.
How old was the 8s and which race she belongs to?

I asked because rarely Chinese women are even remotely sexually active after they hit 70s thereabout.

[WIBlack]

Hey dont mind me asking.
U bedded the 7s and 8s.
How old was the 8s and which race she belongs to?

I asked because rarely Chinese women are even remotely sexually active after they hit 70s thereabout.

I think he meant those born in the 70s & 80s, not those who are 70 & 80 years old... 😂

[WIBlack]

Thanks UncleHasBeen & the other bros for your sharing and tips.

1st for me is to train my heart not to dish out genuine likes/love for the fb(s)/fwb(s) if any. It's not going to be easy to train my heart as I always feel super happy after meeting the 'him' even for a short while, and satisfied if he felt good when he was with me.

I think I got carrot headed instead of the other way round. I will miss him a lot when I don't get to see him or his car on the roads but I know my limits (definitely won't upset each other's personal lives).

Gotta stop my affections to him or any other guys I can click with.

[UncleHasBeen]

I think he meant those born in the 70s & 80s, not those who are 70 & 80 years old... 😂

https://i.imgur.com/8FmMYuU.gif

:D:D:D

[Banaber]

:D:D:D

:rolleyes: cannot imagine have the feel, or energy.

[eatingpussy]

Actually I meant on the looks scale, 1 being completely unfuckable to, 10 being super models. I bagged 2 girls that are 2 on the looks scale but also got to fuck 2 seriously hot girls too.
Hey dont mind me asking.
U bedded the 7s and 8s.
How old was the 8s and which race she belongs to?

I asked because rarely Chinese women are even remotely sexually active after they hit 70s thereabout.

[eatingpussy]

I'm 50 this year, I'm trying to find a 60 year old OPP. Watch too much porn already, some of those 60yo japanese gilf although dont look sexy and are really boring looking but once they start having sex turns to wild animals. Some of them are crazy horny. For me I love to eat pussy. I cannot cum unless I eat her pussy till she orgasms and start grinding me and try to milk me dry. 😍😁

[UncleHasBeen]

I'm 50 this year, I'm trying to find a 60 year old OPP. Watch too much porn already, some of those 60yo japanese gilf although dont look sexy and are really boring looking but once they start having sex turns to wild animals. Some of them are crazy horny. For me I love to eat pussy. I can cum unless I eat her pussy till she orgasms and start grinding me and try to milk me dry. ����

I have one divorcee whom has been with me for 10 years and counting.
She is my sex goddess and she is 61 years old this year.

Apart from her i used to maintained 2 relationships with mature ladies.
One was 53 (OPP) when we met, i was 42. Romanced and fucked for 3 years til she decided to end it.
Another was 59 (Divorcee) when we met, i was 47. Romanced, pampered by her and we fucked for 1.5 years and ended.
Her children found out.

These women that i had and have, these older women they exude the kind of confidence and calmness that is very captivating to me.
Our romance-ness was and still is off the charts type.

Sex, surprising they amaze me at their age for the willingness to try and explore and being receptive. :D
I feel more like a pampered, desired and well-looked after man to them than any other women i had and have now.

[Lemonjuice]

UncleHasBeen

I see that you have a fulfilling life within and outside marriage.

My marriage is dull and almost sexless, but other than that things are okay.

I think that's an issue though. It's like no desire to move house , plan for retirement etc tgt. I think I am just seeking solace in OPP.

Envy you. What's your secret?

[UncleHasBeen]

UncleHasBeen

I see that you have a fulfilling life within and outside marriage.

My marriage is dull and almost sexless, but other than that things are okay.

I think that's an issue though. It's like no desire to move house , plan for retirement etc tgt. I think I am just seeking solace in OPP.

Envy you. What's your secret?

Nothing to envy about. Anyone can achieve it.
Just manage your expectations.

We are our worst enemy. So be kind to yourself first.
If u can love yourself then u are capable of loving others.
Love and be kind to yourself first.
If u can do that, everything else will fall in place. :cool:

[Lemonjuice]

Nothing to envy about. Anyone can achieve it.
Just manage your expectations.

We are our worst enemy. So be kind to yourself first.
If u can love yourself then u are capable of loving others.
Love and be kind to yourself first.
If u can do that, everything else will fall in place. :cool:

The secret of loving and staying interested in your wife and having some side activities at the same time.

Not easy

[itguy2008]

Don't be scared of getting old buddies here. I am 50 this year. My energy level definitely not as good as when I was 30 plus of course. But I learn something else about myself.

As compared to the 30plus-year-old me, I am no longer just interested in sex. You know when I used to be the guy that met a new gal from a dating app, and when I meet her, it is all over my face that I am only interested in f**king her. hahaha.

Now at least I know how to verbal flirt, make her laugh and chat for two to three hours before we have sex. The surprising result. I have a higher RTF rate compared to my 30plus-year-old me.

That time, most girls f**k one or two times then we get sick of each other and move on. Now at least they RTF like two or three weeks. At least they ask for sex more regularly than my wife. hahaha.

This also make me realised what went wrong in my marriage or last marriage. We stopped talking or flirting with each other.

[randyrockhard]

UncleHasBeen

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

I read how the confrontation unfolded and I was wondering how you managed to reset your mindset afterwards, to actually tread the same risky path again with different OPP?

I mean, surely not all of their husbands are going to be such forgiving?

Or you just have steel balls and courage?? 🙈🙈

[UncleHasBeen]

UncleHasBeen

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

I read how the confrontation unfolded and I was wondering how you managed to reset your mindset afterwards, to actually tread the same risky path again with different OPP?

I mean, surely not all of their husbands are going to be such forgiving?

Or you just have steel balls and courage?? 🙈🙈

I didnt even blink when things ended with an expose because most of the times i was under the radar.

The only confrontation was the one i mentioned because her ex husband and i were from the same company.
He seen my face and we were colleagues.
Hence a need for confrontation from his standpoint.

The rest of the expose, their BFs and husbands didnt even bother to know who i was.
They confronted their women. None of them had demanded to meet me.

Let say my wife strayed and got exposed by me.
If that guy is a total stranger to me or if it were her colleague, i wouldnt confront him too.
I dont see the point. Or maybe it is just me.

I wouldnt rather straighten things with my wife.
Knowing the 3rd party and confront him does not make things any better for me.

Whereas if the guy strays, his woman will definitely wants to see the other woman.

[hydeparkk]

All my life, I had been a believer of no sex before marriage. Even though I feel I am quite a sexual person - I've always liked the intimacy and the connection, I told myself I will save the penetrative sex for my marriage. So throughout my dating years, my ex bfs and I engaged in all sorts of sexual acts except for the actual penetration.

After I got married, I told myself that it is finally the time to enjoy the actual deed with my husband. Who would have known that I would end up in a marriage that is sexless. The biggest reason is due to his inability to be hard enough to penetrate me. Due to his ego or whatever reasons, he never got that treated, even though I offered to go for checks etc with him. He refused.

I love my husband. He is loving towards me and everything I would have asked for in a husband. To me, sex is important as well. After about 8 yrs of marriage, I finally decided that if I am not going to get sex in my marriage, I will have to find it somewhere else.

I ended up fucking a friend who has been a friend for more than 10 yrs. He's now married with kids. When we were younger, we never dated, but have been very close friends all the while. All these years, we flirted and had some sexual chats along the way, but nothing really happened. As we are still very close friends even after we each gotten married to our partners, we continue to share many things with each other. One thing led to another and it's been more than 2 yrs since we starting fucking.

My friend and I are very clear that we will not let this affect our marriage. From the start, we agreed that I have no intentions of leaving my husband, and he also have no intentions of leaving his wife. With this common understanding, we have been having great sex. Though not frequent, but every time we connect, it is always satisfying.

[hydeparkk]

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[eatingpussy]

Your story is the exception. Husbands that dont need or want sex is very rare. All my life, I had been a believer of no sex before marriage. Even though I feel I am quite a sexual person - I've always liked the intimacy and the connection, I told myself I will save the penetrative sex for my marriage. So throughout my dating years, my ex bfs and I engaged in all sorts of sexual acts except for the actual penetration.

After I got married, I told myself that it is finally the time to enjoy the actual deed with my husband. Who would have known that I would end up in a marriage that is sexless. The biggest reason is due to his inability to be hard enough to penetrate me. Due to his ego or whatever reasons, he never got that treated, even though I offered to go for checks etc with him. He refused.

I love my husband. He is loving towards me and everything I would have asked for in a husband. To me, sex is important as well. After about 8 yrs of marriage, I finally decided that if I am not going to get sex in my marriage, I will have to find it somewhere else.

I ended up fucking a friend who has been a friend for more than 10 yrs. He's now married with kids. When we were younger, we never dated, but have been very close friends all the while. All these years, we flirted and had some sexual chats along the way, but nothing really happened. As we are still very close friends even after we each gotten married to our partners, we continue to share many things with each other. One thing led to another and it's been more than 2 yrs since we starting fucking.

My friend and I are very clear that we will not let this affect our marriage. From the start, we agreed that I have no intentions of leaving my husband, and he also have no intentions of leaving his wife. With this common understanding, we have been having great sex. Though not frequent, but every time we connect, it is always satisfying.

[Banaber]

I ended up fucking a friend who has been a friend for more than 10 yrs.

My friend and I are very clear that we will not let this affect our marriage. From the start, we agreed that I have no intentions of leaving my husband, and he also have no intentions of leaving his wife. With this common understanding, we have been having great sex. Though not frequent, but every time we connect, it is always satisfying.

nice, hope i get a satisfying relationship with decade old friend too. :p

[bangingeveryone]

I think 6 years ago or so, Beetalk was quite popular and I liked to hook up with Thai girls (married or single) working in SG as a regular employee.

Managed to hook up with 1 Thai receptionist working at an Onsen Spa.

Perks of having a nice bike: Thai girls like to ask you to take them out for joy rides. Managed to convince her to come to a budget hotel at G*land before she started work on the pretext of "come earlier to rest and chit chat and hug before go work".

Started by hugging then slowly kissing her and moved my hand down south. Once hand is down south, rubbing and circling sure get her in the mood. After that finger her till she cum and it's my turn to pull down my pants.

When she looked at my rod she was like "wow so thick, big na" then the rest is history. Really enjoyed the warm and super tight and her moans :D:D

[UncleHasBeen]

All my life, I had been a believer of no sex before marriage. Even though I feel I am quite a sexual person - I've always liked the intimacy and the connection, I told myself I will save the penetrative sex for my marriage. So throughout my dating years, my ex bfs and I engaged in all sorts of sexual acts except for the actual penetration.

After I got married, I told myself that it is finally the time to enjoy the actual deed with my husband. Who would have known that I would end up in a marriage that is sexless. The biggest reason is due to his inability to be hard enough to penetrate me. Due to his ego or whatever reasons, he never got that treated, even though I offered to go for checks etc with him. He refused.

I love my husband. He is loving towards me and everything I would have asked for in a husband. To me, sex is important as well. After about 8 yrs of marriage, I finally decided that if I am not going to get sex in my marriage, I will have to find it somewhere else.

I ended up fucking a friend who has been a friend for more than 10 yrs. He's now married with kids. When we were younger, we never dated, but have been very close friends all the while. All these years, we flirted and had some sexual chats along the way, but nothing really happened. As we are still very close friends even after we each gotten married to our partners, we continue to share many things with each other. One thing led to another and it's been more than 2 yrs since we starting fucking.

My friend and I are very clear that we will not let this affect our marriage. From the start, we agreed that I have no intentions of leaving my husband, and he also have no intentions of leaving his wife. With this common understanding, we have been having great sex. Though not frequent, but every time we connect, it is always satisfying.

Thanks for sharing it here.
Wow 8 years of sexless marriage and u guys just go about daily life avoiding the topic and not take it head on?

I feel sorry for your man.
That he cant bring himself to find the cause and manage it.

I had a fling with a SYT.
She too saved her virginity for marriage.

But she willingly gave it to her then BF whom she thought was the one. She was 29 years old then.

They had sex again after the first blood 2 days later.
Then broke up 3 months later.
They only had sex twice and after that her BF dumped her.

She was crushed.
When we met she was a total wreck and it was like a year after she got dumped. Poor thing.

[hydeparkk]

Exception... in not a good way haha.

Your story is the exception. Husbands that dont need or want sex is very rare.

[UncleHasBeen]

https://mustsharenews.com/china-divorce-daughters/?fbclid=IwAR3EjBru7_Ho5vBeBjJUxoCs2-zwla7zzfaUUPj_lPRlDUKtWdADktOQ2gM

Everyone can fuck around.

Man In China Seeks Divorce After Paternity Tests Reveal 3 Daughters Are From Wife’s Affair :eek:

[WIBlack]

All my life, I had been a believer of no sex before marriage. Even though I feel I am quite a sexual person - I've always liked the intimacy and the connection, I told myself I will save the penetrative sex for my marriage. So throughout my dating years, my ex bfs and I engaged in all sorts of sexual acts except for the actual penetration.

After I got married, I told myself that it is finally the time to enjoy the actual deed with my husband. Who would have known that I would end up in a marriage that is sexless. The biggest reason is due to his inability to be hard enough to penetrate me. Due to his ego or whatever reasons, he never got that treated, even though I offered to go for checks etc with him. He refused.

I love my husband. He is loving towards me and everything I would have asked for in a husband. To me, sex is important as well. After about 8 yrs of marriage, I finally decided that if I am not going to get sex in my marriage, I will have to find it somewhere else.

I ended up fucking a friend who has been a friend for more than 10 yrs. He's now married with kids. When we were younger, we never dated, but have been very close friends all the while. All these years, we flirted and had some sexual chats along the way, but nothing really happened. As we are still very close friends even after we each gotten married to our partners, we continue to share many things with each other. One thing led to another and it's been more than 2 yrs since we starting fucking.

My friend and I are very clear that we will not let this affect our marriage. From the start, we agreed that I have no intentions of leaving my husband, and he also have no intentions of leaving his wife. With this common understanding, we have been having great sex. Though not frequent, but every time we connect, it is always satisfying.

Sis, you are powerful! Waited 8 years before you hooked up with your close friend.

I had the same mentality as you, to offer my virgin to the guy I was to marry. But I gave it to 1st & last boyfriend before I got married.

My hubby cheated and it took me only 6 years to be confident enough to come out and check it out. My ex colleague intro a dating app so that's it.

At times, not sure if you feel the same way, but I do feel guilty and yet not guilty as I was pushed to such situation. It really depends on what you want and can do within your means.

All the best to you!

[hydeparkk]

I tried to talk to him about it.. offering to see doc with him etc but he doesn't want.

Any suggestions on how I can convince him to seek medical help?

Thanks for sharing it here.
Wow 8 years of sexless marriage and u guys just go about daily life avoiding the topic and not take it head on?

I feel sorry for your man.
That he cant bring himself to find the cause and manage it.

I had a fling with a SYT.
She too saved her virginity for marriage.

But she willingly gave it to her then BF whom she thought was the one. She was 29 years old then.

They had sex again after the first blood 2 days later.
Then broke up 3 months later.
They only had sex twice and after that her BF dumped her.

She was crushed.
When we met she was a total wreck and it was like a year after she got dumped. Poor thing.

[hydeparkk]

Yes 8 long years.. guess I didn't want to just fuck anyone. To me the trust and connection is important. So when the opportunity presented itself with my friend, I struggled for sometime before caving in.

Compared to your situation, I am more guilty because technically my husb didn't do anything wrong (not that I know of) besides not wanting sex. So yes I am very guilty most of the time. But at this point in time, I don't know how else can I have my own needs met.

Sis, you are powerful! Waited 8 years before you hooked up with your close friend.

I had the same mentality as you, to offer my virgin to the guy I was to marry. But I gave it to 1st & last boyfriend before I got married.

My hubby cheated and it took me only 6 years to be confident enough to come out and check it out. My ex colleague intro a dating app so that's it.

At times, not sure if you feel the same way, but I do feel guilty and yet not guilty as I was pushed to such situation. It really depends on what you want and can do within your means.

All the best to you!

[WIBlack]

Hugz hugz...

Please don't think about it. Just look ahead and stay discreet ya.

Our bros here are able to teach us how to not think too much and not to be guilty. This is something I always wonder how they think and can still stay in a way as if they have done nothing wrong (ok, this is more relating to how my hb behaves even right now).

Just enjoy whatever makes you happy, but don't be caught. Use your guts feel if need be. 🙂

Yes 8 long years.. guess I didn't want to just fuck anyone. To me the trust and connection is important. So when the opportunity presented itself with my friend, I struggled for sometime before caving in.

Compared to your situation, I am more guilty because technically my husb didn't do anything wrong (not that I know of) besides not wanting sex. So yes I am very guilty most of the time. But at this point in time, I don't know how else can I have my own needs met.

[whitebull]

The biggest reason is due to his inability to be hard enough to penetrate me. Due to his ego or whatever reasons, he never got that treated, even though I offered to go for checks etc with him. He refused.


Sis hydeparkk, a tiny pill from most GPs would have solved the problem, no treatment needed, just a simple check to ascertain ur hubby got no heart problems.

[kaide]

Thanks for the nice story update

[UncleHasBeen]

I tried to talk to him about it.. offering to see doc with him etc but he doesn't want.

Any suggestions on how I can convince him to seek medical help?

From what u had shared, i think it would be more effective and less detrimental if he goes seek help on his own.
But u can actually nudge him subtly on that.

Since u guys have a sexless marriage, do u guys get intimate at all?

[hydeparkk]

I have tried to nudge him subtly, but he says he doesn't know where to go or what to tell the doctor. How shld i go abt this? Make appt for him?

What is your definition of "get intimate"?

From what u had shared, i think it would be more effective and less detrimental if he goes seek help on his own.
But u can actually nudge him subtly on that.

Since u guys have a sexless marriage, do u guys get intimate at all?

[hydeparkk]

Thanks sis..

Yes my only concern now is keeping discreet. My friend and I agreed that we will bring this secret of ours to our graves. And we will take all precautions to ensure that it remains just between the 2 of us.

Hugz hugz...

Please don't think about it. Just look ahead and stay discreet ya.

Our bros here are able to teach us how to not think too much and not to be guilty. This is something I always wonder how they think and can still stay in a way as if they have done nothing wrong (ok, this is more relating to how my hb behaves even right now).

Just enjoy whatever makes you happy, but don't be caught. Use your guts feel if need be. 🙂

[hydeparkk]

Thank you for the suggestion. Guess we will start with GP first.

Sis hydeparkk, a tiny pill from most GPs would have solved the problem, no treatment needed, just a simple check to ascertain ur hubby got no heart problems.

[Koloncleanse]

Compared to your situation, I am more guilty because technically my husb didn't do anything wrong (not that I know of) besides not wanting sex. So yes I am very guilty most of the time. But at this point in time, I don't know how else can I have my own needs met.



Hey Hydeparkk, it is absolutely normal for you to have these feelings of guilt. You've shown tremendous courage and empowerment to find a someone to fulfill your needs. Your story caught my eye because it mirrors what i have with my wife, only for me it's my wife's physical issues. I love her greatly too, and go through the same emotional rollercoaster when i meet with someone else. IMO, it's straying only if your heart has left your husband.

[loneyheart]

How nice to meet a Soul Mate n keep it discreet :)

[UncleHasBeen]

I have tried to nudge him subtly, but he says he doesn't know where to go or what to tell the doctor. How shld i go abt this? Make appt for him?

What is your definition of "get intimate"?

Get intimate as in are there any physical contact between the two of u that is triggered by passion.
Kisses, caresses or cuddling.

Since there is no penetrative sex in the bedroom, then what does the bedroom scene looks like without penetrative sex.
Are there mutually assistance gratification?

Then this will be followed by what i suggested about nudging him subtly for med check or at least self-evaluation.

If both are u dont have sex but are active in getting physical, there is still a lot of hope.

Do u pleasure yourselves in front of one another?
Or mutually assisted pleasure-giving?
Assisted orgasm while mutually assisted?

These are very powerful and heavy non penetrative pleasures.
If u can get him to enjoy all these, u are one step closer to nudge him to get it check so that the pleasure can go to the next level, penetrative.

[BoxerBoy]

All my life, I had been a believer of no sex before marriage. Even though I feel I am quite a sexual person - I've always liked the intimacy and the connection, I told myself I will save the penetrative sex for my marriage. So throughout my dating years, my ex bfs and I engaged in all sorts of sexual acts except for the actual penetration.

Hi Sis,

Thanks for sharing your experience. I also married, but sex life not as great as before after 3 children come into our life and both me and my wife are busy with work. Similar situation like you, I have a good friend I knew many years, she is married but husband also don't like sex due to some personal issues.

From sharing about our work, our problems, our sex life after married, and eventually sharing about our sex desires that even our partner also won't know. Just happen 1 day me and my friend meet up for dinner and chit chatting at the beach, we end up kissing each other and have a great sex that night. The feeling is like 2 persons who has controlled our desire for very long and suddenly got a release. We started our relationship with agreement that will bring this secret to our grave.

Do we feel guilty to our partner when they do nothing wrong? Definitely. But it is hard to resist the desire when you found someone who enjoying sex like you do and willing to keep secret.

When back home, we continue to be a good husband/wife and won't contact each other unnecessary.

[hydeparkk]

Thanks for sharing.

Sexual compatibility is a very real thing, and is something that can change over time. However, there remains judgement on either party when there is a mismatch. Common assumptions are 1 party is lazy or another is asking for too much, mostly on either ends of the spectrum. But many forget that sexual needs is normal, and requires effort to upkeep.

Happy for you that you also found a regular partner who is sexually compatible with you at this point in time. For me, I'd try to liken my current situation to e.g. my husband doesn't like to watch movie or he doesn't like to eat spicy food. I won't force him to do it with me, I'd simply find friends to do it with. Same with sex. But at the end of the day, I still go back home to carry out my wife duties.


Hi Sis,

Do we feel guilty to our partner when they do nothing wrong? Definitely. But it is hard to resist the desire when you found someone who enjoying sex like you do and willing to keep secret.

When back home, we continue to be a good husband/wife and won't contact each other unnecessary.

[hydeparkk]

We hardly have such physical intimacies as described by you, probably once every few months? Perhaps, we both know that it will not lead to penetrative sex so we are not as motivated. But as you have rightly pointed out, these non penetrative pleasures can be very powerful as well.

As I reflect, perhaps there's more that I can do. I can initiate more intimacies with my husb w/o expecting penetrative sex. This is something I shall work on.

I have been holding back with my husband on my sexual needs as I do not wish to come across as needy/sex-crazed esp with my previous conviction of no penetrative sex before marriage. I don't want him to feel like I have changed after getting married. So I am still quite "prim & proper" with him as I am also afraid that he will judge me.

But I show a completely different side of myself when I am with friend. I really let myself go, be slutty, talk dirty and am up for different sexual adventures (outdoor, in car, cum on face, cum in mouth and swallowing etc). Because we agreed, no judgement, just enjoyment.

These are very powerful and heavy non penetrative pleasures.
If u can get him to enjoy all these, u are one step closer to nudge him to get it check so that the pleasure can go to the next level, penetrative.

[curious11]

Hi Sis,

Thanks for sharing your experience. I also married, but sex life not as great as before after 3 children come into our life and both me and my wife are busy with work. Similar situation like you, I have a good friend I knew many years, she is married but husband also don't like sex due to some personal issues.

From sharing about our work, our problems, our sex life after married, and eventually sharing about our sex desires that even our partner also won't know. Just happen 1 day me and my friend meet up for dinner and chit chatting at the beach, we end up kissing each other and have a great sex that night. The feeling is like 2 persons who has controlled our desire for very long and suddenly got a release. We started our relationship with agreement that will bring this secret to our grave.

Do we feel guilty to our partner when they do nothing wrong? Definitely. But it is hard to resist the desire when you found someone who enjoying sex like you do and willing to keep secret.

When back home, we continue to be a good husband/wife and won't contact each other unnecessary.

i also have such a situation where i’m close to an ex colleague after we both left the company. texted each other for years and also talked about sex and family and the rest. have hinted that i do treat her more than friend cos we literally share any personal challenges with each other. it’s those things where usually we just text, but if it’s urgent we’ll just pick up the phone and call, knowing the other party will pick up and help in whatever issues we happen to find ourselves in.

but all these years, no hints from her sexually.. so not sure if it’s one party (me) getting too excited or she taking me for a ride all this years and im a sucker all this while lol.

[UncleHasBeen]

We hardly have such physical intimacies as described by you, probably once every few months? Perhaps, we both know that it will not lead to penetrative sex so we are not as motivated. But as you have rightly pointed out, these non penetrative pleasures can be very powerful as well.

As I reflect, perhaps there's more that I can do. I can initiate more intimacies with my husb w/o expecting penetrative sex. This is something I shall work on.

I have been holding back with my husband on my sexual needs as I do not wish to come across as needy/sex-crazed esp with my previous conviction of no penetrative sex before marriage. I don't want him to feel like I have changed after getting married. So I am still quite "prim & proper" with him as I am also afraid that he will judge me.

But I show a completely different side of myself when I am with friend. I really let myself go, be slutty, talk dirty and am up for different sexual adventures (outdoor, in car, cum on face, cum in mouth and swallowing etc). Because we agreed, no judgement, just enjoyment.

Thanks for opening up, i appreciate such candid sharing.
The way your marriage works seem to be like how married couples behave probably in the 1920's and earlier.

There is a code of respectable behaviour even between married couples for the West and the Orient as well.

If there is no animosity, malice or hatred between a couple, even such respectable behaviour is not detrimental albeit no sex.

Well, u actually have a rather sound foundation for a marriage and i am not being sarcastic, no ma'am.

So work on the getting closer to your hub part first.
Then slowly up the game with mild intimacies.
Take your time. Your needs, u can have your friend do that part.

As u progress and i really hope u will make progress with your hub.
Once he is more accustom to the intimate vibe in your home, let's hope he would let himself loose.

There is a wounded child in all of us.
If he can let u know exactly what is his 'wounded child' is about, u guys can bring your relationship to the next level.

[hydeparkk]

My friend and I was like that for more than 10 years. We were just really good friends and talk about everything and be there for each other.

When we finally became sexual, he revealed to me that he has fantasised about me, dropped hints here and there but didn't push for anything for fear of ruining the friendship. For us, friendship comes first.

If I were to put myself in your ex-colleague's shoes, I would say that while she is comfortable telling you everything but at this point in time, her love/sex life is probably satisfying enough to not push her to seek intimacy elsewhere. She is really seeing u as a good friend now.

I guess girls are wired differently from guys. Most girls will not seek to cheat if they are sufficiently satisfied in their relationship. But for guys, I assume that it is a "the more the merrier" kind of situation - if there's an opportunity, why not?

If your intention is to keep her as a good friend, I suggest that u just keep doing what ure doing now. Even if she's doesn't act on your hints, so be it, you both are still good friends. Who knows, one fine day when things in her life change, your relationship may change too. Just like how it did in me and friend's case.

However, if your intention is to eventually be sexual with her, I'd say you probably have to target elsewhere.

i also have such a situation where i’m close to an ex colleague after we both left the company. texted each other for years and also talked about sex and family and the rest. have hinted that i do treat her more than friend cos we literally share any personal challenges with each other. it’s those things where usually we just text, but if it’s urgent we’ll just pick up the phone and call, knowing the other party will pick up and help in whatever issues we happen to find ourselves in.

but all these years, no hints from her sexually.. so not sure if it’s one party (me) getting too excited or she taking me for a ride all this years and im a sucker all this while lol.

[hydeparkk]

Your 1920s comment cracked me up! 🤣 I guess a part of me still wants to maintain a respectable image infront of my husband. I am good in my work, have a healthy social circle, take care of my family and myself so in a way I am trying not to spoil my own image infront of him.

I will follow your advice to build intimacy with him first. It will be something that we both need to get used to. Hopefully, it will help him open up and find the need to do something about the situation.

Thanks for opening up, i appreciate such candid sharing.
The way your marriage works seem to be like how married couples behave probably in the 1920's and earlier.

There is a code of respectable behaviour even between married couples for the West and the Orient as well.

If there is no animosity, malice or hatred between a couple, even such respectable behaviour is not detrimental albeit no sex.

Well, u actually have a rather sound foundation for a marriage and i am not being sarcastic, no ma'am.

So work on the getting closer to your hub part first.
Then slowly up the game with mild intimacies.
Take your time. Your needs, u can have your friend do that part.

As u progress and i really hope u will make progress with your hub.
Once he is more accustom to the intimate vibe in your home, let's hope he would let himself loose.

There is a wounded child in all of us.
If he can let u know exactly what is his 'wounded child' is about, u guys can bring your relationship to the next level.

[yang punk]

Your 1920s comment cracked me up! 🤣 I guess a part of me still wants to maintain a respectable image infront of my husband. I am good in my work, have a healthy social circle, take care of my family and myself so in a way I am trying not to spoil my own image infront of him.

I will follow your advice to build intimacy with him first. It will be something that we both need to get used to. Hopefully, it will help him open up and find the need to do something about the situation.

You mentioned 'take care of my family' which I presumed refer to just your hubby and yourself not including any children right?

Before marriage have you both talked about having children after marriages? If you have than you can start talking about having children again. But no penetrative sex how to? I presumed after marriage you both did attempt to have sex right? So what happened? He can't maintain his erection? Even after you tried to stimulate him?

Then either he has a medical problem which he can only find out by consulting a doctor or he is gay (homosexual). If he is gay and out of embarrassment or family/social pressure he is hiding behind a sham marriage to save face then if you are happy to remain in such a situation then no advice is required. Just continue satisfying yourself with your extramarital affairs.

But if he is having a medical problem then how to have solution without consultation right? If he is so shy to speak to a doctor then you can speak to your gynaecologist first to ask for advice, eg if his problem can be solved with supplement or diet. Or perhaps the gynaecologist can recommend a specialist to treat him. If he is shy to speak to the doctor you can talk to the doctor first before he goes in or go together and you speak on his behalf.

If all this still come to nought then he is probably gay!

[Lemonjuice]

I ended an affair recently. It didn't end amibicaly. Still miss her though...

Anyway, I need to move on. I am trying dating apps (found ex there too) but I can't get any.

Any other place? Hope to find someone who enjoys cardio (read not fat). I enjoy cardio too.

[WIBlack]

It takes time to get over a relationship at times, esp when you have fond memories of good experience with each other.

Dating apps is time consuming and many scams, marketing gimmicks. U need to use your own 'filtration power' to filter.

Can't help you on where to find another fb, u can try here though.

I ended an affair recently. It didn't end amibicaly. Still miss her though...

Anyway, I need to move on. I am trying dating apps (found ex there too) but I can't get any.

Any other place? Hope to find someone who enjoys cardio (read not fat). I enjoy cardio too.

[UncleHasBeen]

It takes time to get over a relationship at times, esp when you have fond memories of good experience with each other.

Dating apps is time consuming and many scams, marketing gimmicks. U need to use your own 'filtration power' to filter.

Can't help you on where to find another fb, u can try here though.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_R3LWM_Vt70

I watched this.
I am amazed at the length the swindler would go to get the women for the money.

But i am MORE amazed the way these women think.
Especially one when nearing the end of the documentary, her reply is priceless.

There will always be women single or otherwise looking for extra curriculum activities. :D

[SkullsAndBones]

It takes time to get over a relationship at times

Indeed bro :o

[kirkchee]

Indeed bro :o

I probably this so as well

[Jjcoolidge]

Indeed bro :o

WiBlack is certainly NOT a Bro! ;)

[WIBlack]

It's ok, bro (I hope I am right about you being a bro).

I am quite a bro at heart sometimes although I prefer to wear dresses at work.

WiBlack is certainly NOT a Bro! ;)

[Rickey]

It's ok, bro (I hope I am right about you being a bro).

I am quite a bro at heart sometimes although I prefer to wear dresses at work.
I m definitely 100% a bro, sis :)...I also like to see u wearing dresses at work sis :);)...prefer seeing ladies wearing skirts n dresses than just always jeans only ...like to see how feminine u look like sis ;)

[Lemonjuice]

It takes time to get over a relationship at times, esp when you have fond memories of good experience with each other.

Dating apps is time consuming and many scams, marketing gimmicks. U need to use your own 'filtration power' to filter.

Can't help you on where to find another fb, u can try here though.

Will ladies even look for bf here? I am definitely not the clean guy ladies want.

Had my share of ons, short tryst and commercial fucks.

Thinking of joining some interest group to meet more people. But it's risky cos unlike dating apps, ppl there are not really looking for OPP.

[WIBlack]

Definitely you are one, bro Rickey.

Most ladies look good in dresses and heels, some look good in sirts/blouses & pants too. It really depends on how one dress up and carry off her styles with great confidence.

I am still working hard on trying to dress nicely with confidence as well as weight management.

I m definitely 100% a bro, sis :)...I also like to see u wearing dresses at work sis :);)...prefer seeing ladies wearing skirts n dresses than just always jeans only ...like to see how feminine u look like sis ;)

[WIBlack]

You never try, never know. U can't expect a sister reading your posts and pm you right away. The no of bros here overflows compared to no of sis.

You have to initiate, welcome rejections/use of time and do it again to get the right girl. You never know who are really looking or not for an OPP without trying. All the best!

Will ladies even look for bf here? I am definitely not the clean guy ladies want.

Had my share of ons, short tryst and commercial fucks.

Thinking of joining some interest group to meet more people. But it's risky cos unlike dating apps, ppl there are not really looking for OPP.

[stubbornboi]

https://youtu.be/idx3GSL2KWs

The purpose of this thread as the title suggests, we are talking about OPP.
For us guys, OPP = Other People’s Pussy.
For the gals. OPP = Other People’s Penis.

In essence, OPP is Other People’s Property.
It is an acquired taste, I know, and I will admit. :D

This hip-hop classic (1991) has been hailed as the anthem on OPP.
And the chorus of this song is "Are u down with OPP”.

So this is what this thread is about, "are u down with OPP".

:D:cool::D:cool:

interesting i only discovered this song early this year or late last year and just wanna say man of culture for appreciating the song hahahaha

[Rickey]

Definitely you are one, bro Rickey.

Most ladies look good in dresses and heels, some look good in skirts/blouses & pants too. It really depends on how one dress up and carry off her styles with great confidence.

I am still working hard on trying to dress nicely with confidence as well as weight management.
I m very surprised sis :)...How u know so confidently that i m a guy sis ?? ;)...for all u know i could be a lady like u wearing skirts/dresses etc but impersonating as a guy here behind the key board :p...u haven seen me b4 in real life, wat makes u think so ???...haha...like there r some guys who like to impersonate themselves as ladies in here for the fun of it

Yes sis, totally agree with u that u ladies can also look good n nice in blouse n pants/jeans too if u all know how to dress well to fit yr body figure ;):)...hope to see a pic of you 1day in your nice dresses :p

[WIBlack]

The way you write your posts give me the feeling that you are not a her.

Guess you won't see me in a dress in here. I come to SBF to gain knowledge read stories, not really into posting my pics or meet up with bros/sis... :)
I m very surprised sis :)...How u know so confidently that i m a guy sis ?? ;)...for all u know i could be a lady like u wearing skirts/dresses etc but impersonating as a guy here behind the key board :p...u haven seen me b4 in real life, wat makes u think so ???...haha...like there r some guys who like to impersonate themselves as ladies in here for the fun of it

Yes sis, totally agree with u that u ladies can also look good n nice in blouse n pants/jeans too if u all know how to dress well to fit yr body figure ;):)...hope to see a pic of you 1day in your nice dresses :p

[Rickey]

The way you write your posts give me the feeling that you are not a her.

Guess you won't see me in a dress in here. I come to SBF to gain knowledge read stories, not really into posting my pics or meet up with bros/sis... :)
Must be a woman's intuition sis..to be honest u r right .
.not gonna pretend to be a lady anymore..

Believe most of us r in here secretly to read all the sexy stories n learn something new which we r unable to in real life..yes sis, most of us r shy to post pics in here or meet up..but still hoping against hope that 1 day we may be able to see how u look like in dresses either in here or in real life

[Lemonjuice]

I wonder how much time required. It's still painful feeling empty.

Feeling loss of desire and libido. That bad.



It takes time to get over a relationship at times, esp when you have fond memories of good experience with each other.

Dating apps is time consuming and many scams, marketing gimmicks. U need to use your own 'filtration power' to filter.

Can't help you on where to find another fb, u can try here though.

[UncleHasBeen]

This is OPP relationship went wrong and got exposed, yesterday.

Woman and son surprise and confront husband with alleged mistress at Changi Airport.

https://www.asiaone.com/singapore/im-still-your-legal-wife-woman-and-son-surprise-and-confront-husband-alleged-mistress

https://www.facebook.com/jollyhonghuilin/posts/10219722941236660

This is the wife's FB post.
She has been posting it since she exposed her man yesterday with a video clip.

As a father i feel really sorry for their boy to witness the confrontation.
He might not fully understand but it is just sad.

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/Agmi85v.jpg

https://skaichanphotography.com/photoshoot-bikini-esther-choey-kovan-melody-swimming-pool.php

This is the 30 year old pussy that went for the OPP (the married guy)
It is all public and viral now.

[Lemonjuice]

Bump to keep thread active.

[wattonhenry]

U are more emotionally invested than u should on that one?
It happens bro, trust me. Especially with time.

And worse, at which stage of our life they came in.
All these could be a recipe for a blossomed and serious relationship out of a fling.

Either way, all things can be resolved if we all act rationally.
I have two close friends that had OPP when they were in their 30's.

Both are my male friends.
In the end they all got divorced with their wives then and married the 'other woman'.

Til this very day, both my friends are still happily married to their ex OPP.

I am not encouraging anything here.
Just want to let u know there are times when wrongs can be righted.

Oh my two bros, they dont know each other until i introduced them years later after they married their ex-OPP.

U could see the 'mental hi-5' they give each other when i shared their history with them all over drinks.
They instantly hit it off like lost brothers reunite.

:D:cool:

Found this thread late and there’s lots of good advice. Thank you so much for sharing.

Do both of these friends have kids, and if you have kids, would it be messy?

[UncleHasBeen]

Found this thread late and there’s lots of good advice. Thank you so much for sharing.

Do both of these friends have kids, and if you have kids, would it be messy?

None of them have kids and i think it did help in the pace of their decision.
Messy or not, i would like to assume that there were genuine second chances so to speak.

These two friends of mine, before the divorce i could see the level of happiness index for them was a rather low one.
After they divorced and married their respective OPP, they were all smiles.

Yes, there were so many digs and stares at them but i think they really didnt give a fuck.
It was a new found happiness and both of them accept the transgression of one another, and still make it work.

I respect that. :cool:

[wattonhenry]

None of them have kids and i think it did help in the pace of their decision.
Messy or not, i would like to assume that there were genuine second chances so to speak.

These two friends of mine, before the divorce i could see the level of happiness index for them was a rather low one.
After they divorced and married their respective OPP, they were all smiles.

Yes, there were so many digs and stares at them but i think they really didnt give a fuck.
It was a new found happiness and both of them accept the transgression of one another, and still make it work.

I respect that. :cool:

Cool, thanks for sharing. Ultimately, got to do what works best for you, not what works best for the public perception. Appreciate your sharing. OPP sounds great, after you shed more light on it! :)))))

[UncleHasBeen]

Cool, thanks for sharing. Ultimately, got to do what works best for you, not what works best for the public perception. Appreciate your sharing. OPP sounds great, after you shed more light on it! :)))))

Ya, i couldnt care less of those sanctimonious jackasses with their opinions.

OPP is all over satisfying your own needs, nothing more.
A fuckfest on the side and keep it that way.
Keep it honest upfront. Dont over promise.

If we keep it no frills, a OPP relationship can be very beneficial to all parties involved.

[WIBlack]

Rule #1 (https://sbfsg.world/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) of OPP: Never put your heart into loving him/her even though a special bond has formed.

#2 (https://sbfsg.world/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=2) : Never ever break your OPP's family and trust. If either party's family member(s) found out, just respect his/her wish to discontinue the special bond. Even if this is used as an excuse, just let it be.
It will take time to get healed and be back in action, or just focus on other aspects in you life.

[Lemonjuice]

See many running groups. Any chance of OPPing and also have good running company?

[UncleHasBeen]

The common wrong perception is that OPP women are ready to throw themselves at us, basically flooding the market with their pussies, free for all.

If we keep thinking like this, our chance of getting a OPP relationship just zeroed.
If we are just looking for pussies, then either pay for one or beg for it.

OPP journey is different. Personally it is a lot of hard work but the reward is more satisfying than your own marriages or steady relationships.
Just think for a moment what i said and look at your own OPP journey.
It has to be more satisfying and rewarding, right?
Otherwise why even bother taking the risks.

There are different leagues of OPP relationships.
Let me share some examples.

Older married men with older married women.
Older married men with younger single women.
Younger married men with older married women.
Younger married men with single but attached women.
Older divorced men with younger married women.
Older divorced men with younger single women.

These 'pairing' per-requisites are different from one another.
Dont be a simpleton to use a blanket approach towards any OPP relationship, u will be dumped very soon.

Again liked i said, it is a lot of hard work.
Prep work and ground work.
But once it takes off, i can assure u with 100% guarantee your quality of life, sex and intimacy will be all time high.
I am sure many bros here can attest to it.

[UncleHasBeen]

https://mothership.sg/2022/07/serene-tiong-lose/?fbclid=IwAR1ibJ_hzKPSN6WV4Wk5P4Iz_Ocm9rdG8FhFxF0H-pbpk8y2nCRCeXw7N58

A woman embarked on a "quest for revenge" after learning that the male psychiatrist whom she had an affair with was unfaithful to her.

She took him to court and lost the lawsuit on Jul. 19, but the judge said in his ruling that there was "no true winner" in the "entire debacle".

OPP nightmare :eek:

[UncleHasBeen]

See many running groups. Any chance of OPPing and also have good running company?

Just put yourself out there and keep an eye for signs and signals :D

[ratejop82]

cant help it

[ratejop82]

eye opening

[funnyguy1980]

Really enjoyed this thread. Brings back all the bitter sweet memories I had in the past with both OPP and sugar dating :)

It’s exciting, tiring, fun, scary at times and requires a lot of time, energy and $$ (for sugar dating) commitment.

Many wise advices here would have helped me managed better, though it’s never too late to learn and make wiser future decisions.

[Lemonjuice]

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[Lemonjuice]

I met up with a lady recently. She's married but separated.

On our first meet up, we shared our experiences with our bf/gf. Mine was a past affair and hers is an affair tapering down.I felt I was frienzoned after the first meet up and was ghosted. It's common.

A few weeks later, we met up over drinks again and we shared more explicit details, over our affairs. When we left the bar at night, I initiated to kiss her. She did not resist but also did not reciprocate.
We kissed for a minute, and I gave a small hickie.

End of the day, I still feel friendzoned. I think I am starting to like her but it's probably not the same for her. What should I do?

[curious11]

I met up with a lady recently. She's married but separated.

On our first meet up, we shared our experiences with our bf/gf. Mine was a past affair and hers is an affair tapering down.I felt I was frienzoned after the first meet up and was ghosted. It's common.

A few weeks later, we met up over drinks again and we shared more explicit details, over our affairs. When we left the bar at night, I initiated to kiss her. She did not resist but also did not reciprocate.
We kissed for a minute, and I gave a small hickie.

End of the day, I still feel friendzoned. I think I am starting to like her but it's probably not the same for her. What should I do?

sounds like she’s confused? you mentioned that both of you were sharing about your affairs to each other, that would mean now you’re having a 3rd level affair, 1st level being your marriage and 2nd level is your affair, and now her?

maybe a follow up drink after some time for her to think through what u did, and if she’s up for it maybe next time she’ll reciprocate? i’m not expert, just an observer ..

[Lemonjuice]

sounds like she’s confused? you mentioned that both of you were sharing about your affairs to each other, that would mean now you’re having a 3rd level affair, 1st level being your marriage and 2nd level is your affair, and now her?

maybe a follow up drink after some time for her to think through what u did, and if she’s up for it maybe next time she’ll reciprocate? i’m not expert, just an observer ..

I am out of an affair already， while she is coming out of one.

One pessimistic possibility is she's used to these advances already. That's why never respond.

[Jjcoolidge]

I am out of an affair already， while she is coming out of one.

One pessimistic possibility is she's used to these advances already. That's why never respond.

If a girl is interested, she'll make it known. Considering you've already met and it's not happening, it probably won't.

[Lemonjuice]

If a girl is interested, she'll make it known. Considering you've already met and it's not happening, it probably won't.

So sad. Ok then

[Lemonjuice]

..,................

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/YiJ5duf.png

OPP at its finest moments.
We dont judge here, not in this thread but we should dissect the matter.
If u take a step back and look at it, do u see that there is always a pussy ready to be plugged willingly regardless how u look (in some cases). And vice versa.

U dont read about it doesnt mean it is not happening.

:D:p

[yang punk]

It always take 2 hands to clap! Willing pussy for willing dick hallmark for affairs.

[UncleHasBeen]

It always take 2 hands to clap! Willing pussy for willing dick hallmark for affairs.

true of course and plenty of these to go around. It is like a fishing trip with being patient always pays off. Then it goes on as long as the lust is there or until exposed. If both can be discreet and keep it under wraps, such OPP relationship will last till the body is not willing anymore :D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://youtu.be/NCu1iZVKFWg

:D:D:D

[UncleHasBeen]

608733

This is OPP related. My newest plucked fruit.
We fucked for about 11 months. Averaging 2-3 times a month.
Then we stopped and done.

She is 46, single Malay we met at a dance studio.
We didn’t hit it off straight though, it was almost a crashed and burned for me at the first try.
I read all the signs and I causally made my move, a try.
I knew she is Malay and I am fluent in conversational Bahasa Melayu.
I thought I would have higher chances and I was wrong.

As we chatted, I switched between English and Bahasa, she was irritated.
It was only later when we became fuck buddies then I realised the reason.
She is Malay but non-practising Muslim. Not blatantly at least.

She thinks she is westernized, even when she introduced herself, her name is somewhat shortened to give a sense of western English name.
She behaves in a western manner too.
In short, she is a Ang Moh- wanna be.
But, still a local Fatima to me. Since she is willing to let me pound her, I played along.

:p:D:cool:

[Riskrelic]

https://i.imgur.com/U8MbMNG.jpg

This is OPP related. My newest plucked fruit.
We fucked for about 11 months. Averaging 2-3 times a month.
Then we stopped and done.

She is 46, single Malay we met at a dance studio.
We didn’t hit it off straight though, it was almost a crashed and burned for me at the first try.
I read all the signs and I causally made my move, a try.
I knew she is Malay and I am fluent in conversational Bahasa Melayu.
I thought I would have higher chances and I was wrong.

As we chatted, I switched between English and Bahasa, she was irritated.
It was only later when we became fuck buddies then I realised the reason.
She is Malay but non-practising Muslim. Not blatantly at least.

She thinks she is westernized, even when she introduced herself, her name is somewhat shortened to give a sense of western English name.
She behaves in a western manner too.
In short, she is a Ang Moh- wanna be.
But, still a local Fatima to me. Since she is willing to let me pound her, I played along.

:p:D:cool:


Wow! Im interested. Able to share contact ?

[UncleHasBeen]

608735

She has the itch for OPP, definitely.:D
This is what I know about her.
Some are facts and verified while some are unverifiable.
Though we fucked for 11 months, we never really talk much about our personal lives.
But these I know from her, according to her.

[UncleHasBeen]

608734

She was a school teacher.
She left the school because she had a relationship with a legal guardian of a student in her school. That legal guardian was married.
And they fucked. The student was not from her class.
Got exposed.
All the above I checked and verified except the leaving part.
She said she resigned because of the matter was reported.
I tend to think she was sacked.

Then she switched to tutoring.
She fucked the grandfather of her student. :D
This is indeed the grandfather, but he is only 48 years old.
How I know? She initiated a threesome for us and we have fucked since.
:p:D

Again, her fuckship got exposed and she quit the tutoring.
And our threesome stopped. :(
All the men she fucked are married (OPP) as far as I am aware, me included.

[Banaber]

insatiable lust :D

[UncleHasBeen]

insatiable lust :D

Maybe, i cant be sure. What i am sure is she fucking love to get entangled with married older men.
She becomes a wrecking ball if the men she fucks let their guard down.
My trigger is that she keeps on this western Fatima facade.
Anyway it was good times but have no intention to further this. :D

[UncleHasBeen]

https://i.imgur.com/sH32yjq.jpg

She was a school teacher.
She left the school because she had a relationship with a legal guardian of a student in her school. That legal guardian was married.
And they fucked. The student was not from her class.
Got exposed.
All the above I checked and verified except the leaving part.
She said she resigned because of the matter was reported.
I tend to think she was sacked.

Then she switched to tutoring.
She fucked the grandfather of her student. :D
This is indeed the grandfather, but he is only 48 years old.
How I know? She initiated a threesome for us and we have fucked since.
:p:D

Again, her fuckship got exposed and she quit the tutoring.
And our threesome stopped. :(
All the men she fucked are married (OPP) as far as I am aware, me included.

mikestc, this is the type. No loss lah.

[UncleHasBeen]

Wow! Im interested. Able to share contact ?

Bro not sure if u would still be interested when u know her background :D

[ColdMilk]

Bro not sure if u would still be interested when u know her background :D

Why? Is she infected with something??

[178noobnoob]

Wow bro, look not bad.
Sharing is caring.
Dont mind giving it a shot

[Riskrelic]

Bro not sure if u would still be interested when u know her background :D

Hmm, able to share more of her background?

[mikestc]

mikestc, this is the type. No loss lah.

Wah lau.. so u enjoy la? Must have a good fuck liao..

[mikestc]

https://i.imgur.com/sH32yjq.jpg

She was a school teacher.
She left the school because she had a relationship with a legal guardian of a student in her school. That legal guardian was married.
And they fucked. The student was not from her class.
Got exposed.
All the above I checked and verified except the leaving part.
She said she resigned because of the matter was reported.
I tend to think she was sacked.

Then she switched to tutoring.
She fucked the grandfather of her student. :D
This is indeed the grandfather, but he is only 48 years old.
How I know? She initiated a threesome for us and we have fucked since.
:p:D

Again, her fuckship got exposed and she quit the tutoring.
And our threesome stopped. :(
All the men she fucked are married (OPP) as far as I am aware, me included.
Where to find this kind leh? I dont mind having here.. so lucky those men fucked her...