good, happy lasting marriage?

[Enzo]

I have read many stories, a lot of sad ones unfortunately, and I know there are members here who have been in many years in good and happy lasting marriages (with its share of ups and downs of course) and whom have steered away from temptations. My question is, how do you bros or sisters make your marriage last despite its downs and temptations?

I'm not married myself so I don't have any experiences to share in this area, but really wish to learn from those who do have such wonderful marriages what they do to make their relationship and marriage work out. I believe that most of the married bros here do wish to be in a happy lasting marriage and make their wife happy, thus at the same time, hopefully, your experiences and advices may be able to help some of the other bros here too who are keen to help their own relationship and marriage.

[BushTracker]

I think you are asking in the wrong forum man!!

My take is, most of married brothers here are lacking something at home and thus try to find the missing elements outside. Maybe it's just me . . :confused:

[SexCult]

Member for coming to 6 years already and you havent learn a thing from all the post ... or registered 6 years ago now bring out to use :cool:

[xiao mei]

Should check in flowerpod forum :) ... bros here cheongster ... mostly not fulfilling life from marriage .. if they are married ... most will say dont get married

[NoFearSg]

For me, although married for only afew years, our marriage is stronger as time went past. You need to have patience and tolerance in the long run. If really frustrated and angry, think first and don't say those nasty words or feelings else women tends to remember them and keep at heart.

cheers

[天龙八步]

Wanna have a long lasting marriage .... number 1, dont come here and get entice ... and wanna have many dishes ... else anytime kena caught, thats the end of marriage ..

[t123]

no happy marriage lah believe me. It only hapen in fairy tales and movies which make you wanna believe. Even my dad whom I always thot never chiong also kenna go JB for a long period, passport stamped until no pages left in the end confess to my mum. My mum LL.

If having family is not so stressful and pressurizing, why so many redlights. then no job for counsellor, family judge, lawyers, social workers, dating agencies, and affairs. For me, if I having an affair its becos i cannot take it anymore. Its not that I cannot control my urge, rather, the ongoings is killing me completely. I need to stay alive.

[hotdick69]

hahahaha in life u can never get everything u want lah..... :D

how do u define Happy marriage????

for me i am happy lor...... even though at home dont get enough for my hunger.... to me happy means u lead a normal family life at home..... but settle ur needs outside before u go home..... just remember to clean your mouth ;)

I believe here got alot of Bros are good fathers and Hubby..... but when it comes to needs.... then no choice look for outside if at home cant settle or not because of needs keep fighting and arguing also make ur life unhappy... but my rule is no matter what happens..... must go back home

just my 2 cents

[SexCult]

Members here ... if really got happy marriage wont be here liao .... so asking the wrong sample populace

[jng1103]

Haha... it's like asking those ahpeks at GL Lorongs NOT to pcc or watch porno :eek::D

If u want to have a long happy marriage, rule #1: Quit SBF :rolleyes:

[myst]

Ts, haha so many wet blankets.

1 thing I've learnt, never take your partner for granted. There's also a lot of give and take. Tolerance and patience are good virtues to attain. Compromise is the word at the end of the day.

Communication is key. Otherwise how else to convey your feelings?

You must realise that you and her are individuals and have your own perception and thinking. Not everything you do is what she wants and vice versa.

And then there's the balance you need to maintain when to assert and when to be consultative, else you be labeled as a wimp.

It's never easy, especially more so for the man. However, once you get the balance right, you'd be in bliss. There's no real formula for a successful marriage cuz everyone thinks differently and have differrnt ideals. You have to weigh and gauge as you go along. Just like another bro mentioned how do you define your happiness? Different people have different level of contentment.

Last but not least, good luck in finding their other half.

[xiao mei]

Dont F around , once you do that, its no longer happy marriage ... tat y must F ard. Even if you say it is, dont bluff yourself, anytime you get caught, its over ... trust will be lost.

[HayHot]

Way to Long Lasting Marriage ?

1. Keep your Eyes Half Close.
2. Keep your Ear Half Open.
3. Keep your Mouth Half Shut.

Applies to Both side.

[xiao mei]

Bro HayHot, men expect women to do that, but we ourselves cannot achieve it leh ... :D

[t123]

Bro HayHot, men expect women to do that, but we ourselves cannot achieve it leh ... :D

Sis, sometimes its good to do that, like that life easier. Like me, only report the good. Like that less friction, less abuses.:D

[Frankiestine]

Monster recipe for happy marriage....

Half deaf husband half blind wife....like that marriage can go on many many years...:D

but honestly i myself am in a unhappy marriage not becos my wife open her two eyes big big to spy on me but rather she is totally blind like i no longer exist..

[Freman]

Monster recipe for happy marriage....

Half deaf husband half blind wife....like that marriage can go on many many years...:D

but honestly i myself am in a unhappy marriage not becos my wife open her two eyes big big to spy on me but rather she is totally blind like i no longer exist..

hi,

is it cos she accuse u of being totally blind to your kids ? alot of wives expect super involvement with the kids from the hubby.... I kena complained all the time....

[Frankiestine]

hi,

is it cos she accuse u of being totally blind to your kids ? alot of wives expect super involvement with the kids from the hubby.... I kena complained all the time....

there where you are wrong, she can accuse me of being a lousy husband but i don't think she can accuse me of being a lousy father...from the time she finished her confinement and went back to work...i took care of my kid, partly becos i was jobless and doing my own work on part time basis...i bath him, fed him, took care of him when he was sick, took him to school..everything anymore expects a mother to do for their children, i did for my son...except breast feeding lah...even till today, even though I have a full time job....i have not shrink from my responsibilities...i still fetch him from school and bath him and help him with his home work...so what all these mother being the greatest crap!!

on the contrary, her idea of being a mother is just to give the kid anything he wants....

[t3hkor]

on the contrary, her idea of being a mother is just to give the kid anything he wants....

imho, disciplining the kid well is hardest thing one can do.
some cant bear to hit their kids when they have done wrong.

i was brought up beaten almost every other day for being naughty lol. but i think if my parents did not do that, what would i be today? lol.

but now adays the kids are smart and they prolly gona complain and the parents get into trouble..

[Frankiestine]

imho, disciplining the kid well is hardest thing one can do.
some cant bear to hit their kids when they have done wrong.

i was brought up beaten almost every other day for being naughty lol. but i think if my parents did not do that, what would i be today? lol.

but now adays the kids are smart and they prolly gona complain and the parents get into trouble..

thats where i do not flinch...when it comes to discipline my kid knows where are the boundaries..when i say go he go...when i say stop he stop...but it is the mom who does not know this...he never listen to her....even to the point where he tried to push the OB mark with her by occasionally hitting her....there is where i tell her for me he respect out of fear but for her, my kid cannot give a damn...she can tell him to do something but he will simply refuse to budge..

[天龙八步]

Monster yours like abit to disciplinarian leh .... rule through fear is not gd ... they will rebel sooner or later ... should be rule thru reasoning .... they must be made to understand why something is wrong and others right :)

[Animagi]

But disciplining wife must be through fear .... :)

[Frankiestine]

Monster yours like abit to disciplinarian leh .... rule through fear is not gd ... they will rebel sooner or later ... should be rule thru reasoning .... they must be made to understand why something is wrong and others right :)

children at such young age do not understand what is reasoning...but of course as they grow slowly have to change style of discipline...

[Frankiestine]

But disciplining wife must be through fear .... :)

the problem with my wife is she is those sort who takes no nonsense type not from kid but from husband..her thinking is.." if the shoes don't fit or wear off just throw away" likewise her view towards marriage is "buay kam just divorce"...well monster is going a real bad patch this week with her and have been subjected to her kind of mental torture treatment where she treat you as if you are invisible..my style is to compromise but her style is both must have everything in common...if not no point to stay together...so most time if there is a fight i will give in not becos i fear but becos as a man, we just want a peace of mind...

[Animagi]

Bro monster I sincerely wish the best for you .... yr wife sounds unreasonable kind ..... I believe there is no perfect fit in relationship ... so there must always be compromises to be made ....

[Frankiestine]

Bro monster I sincerely wish the best for you .... yr wife sounds unreasonable kind ..... I believe there is no perfect fit in relationship ... so there must always be compromises to be made ....

yes she is a very unreasonable person...i guess i come to realise a little too late..:(:(

[Freman]

yes she is a very unreasonable person...i guess i come to realise a little too late..:(:(

hi,

then must find something that she fear losing... that's the only way that people will agree and negotiate....

if she can just bang table and quit in a moment, does she not treasure anything at all ?

for me, we both love our kids and that's the thing that will help us come back to the negotiation table and talk it out....

[t123]

yes she is a very unreasonable person...i guess i come to realise a little too late..:(:(

My is like 3 choices for u to choose. Divorce, abortion or leave home forever. I was also kanna like Contender Asia version, all the martial arts moves all come out of the closet. Who in the world kanna hit and just forgive like nothing happen. After the whole saga, the feelings all gone liao.:p

[Frankiestine]

hi,

then must find something that she fear losing... that's the only way that people will agree and negotiate....

if she can just bang table and quit in a moment, does she not treasure anything at all ?

for me, we both love our kids and that's the thing that will help us come back to the negotiation table and talk it out....

she came from a dysfunctional family herself and since young grew up being very independent...she has already threaten to walk out with kid in tow on more then one occasion....so to her she feel since she can grow up without needing both parents around, it will not be a problem for mine too..:(

[Frankiestine]

My is like 3 choices for u to choose. Divorce, abortion or leave home forever. I was also kanna like Contender Asia version, all the martial arts moves all come out of the closet. Who in the world kanna hit and just forgive like nothing happen. After the whole saga, the feelings all gone liao.:p

bro, my story is i left my ex to be with this woman..so after being battle scarred from all the divorce proceedings, i have come to realise that a man is actually better off in a loveless marriage and have his flings outside then to actually pursue his dream of marrying the "perfect" woman...becos frankly there is no such thing as perfection...

"A PERFECT FRONT IS ALWAYS A FACADE FOR SOMETHING UGLY BEHIND."

[t123]

bro, my story is i left my ex to be with this woman..so after being battle scarred from all the divorce proceedings, i have come to realise that a man is actually better off in a loveless marriage and have his flings outside then to actually pursue his dream of marrying the "perfect" woman...becos frankly there is no such thing as perfection...

"A PERFECT FRONT IS ALWAYS A FACADE FOR SOMETHING UGLY BEHIND."

I also agree. Initially I was apprehensive and gulity. Now I am a full fledge fucker. Machiam superhero, at home a doting father and obliging hubby, smile and keep all my problems to myself. Outside, like coming out of the telephone booth and its a bird, its a plane, its Fuckerman. :D

[Frankiestine]

Outside, like coming out of the telephone booth and its a bird, its a plane, its Fuckerman. :D

hahaha bro cannot agree more....you couldn't have put it any better...:D:D

[t123]

hahaha bro cannot agree more....you couldn't have put it any better...:D:D

or some where in GL will flash a spotlight showing the condom emblem in the clouds at night. I will call my comfort-mobil along with my sidekick, and we will go chicken busting. So somewhere among the lorongs where the houses are, u will here accented english, Ah Hia, come come, ah moi no business today.:D

[Freman]

or some where in GL will flash a spotlight showing the condom emblem in the clouds at night. I will call my comfort-mobil along with my sidekick, and we will go chicken busting. So somewhere among the lorongs where the houses are, u will here accented english, Ah Hia, come come, ah moi no business today.:D

heheheh,

so now we know what's the secret to a lasting marriage.... become a Fuckerman....

or Badman, or Ironstick man.... or the Incredible Huge

on fantasy side

got Hairy Potter, Loss of the Marriage Ring, Golden Cuntpus

science fiction got

Fantastic Foursome, XXX men....

anymore brudders ?

[dleifna]

or some where in GL will flash a spotlight showing the condom emblem in the clouds at night. I will call my comfort-mobil along with my sidekick, and we will go chicken busting. So somewhere among the lorongs where the houses are, u will here accented english, Ah Hia, come come, ah moi no business today.:D

Bro, u make my day after readin ur post.. i kept laughin to myself... u r the man... both thumbs up for u...

[steamsteam]

lasting marriage i dont know?but i only know sufing sb forum can safe a lots of unhappy marriage:D

[james007]

Marriage will be prefect when the husband accept his wife isnt prefect and the wife accept his husband still chiong outside. :D

[bradpitt968]

bro, my story is i left my ex to be with this woman..so after being battle scarred from all the divorce proceedings, i have come to realise that a man is actually better off in a loveless marriage and have his flings outside then to actually pursue his dream of marrying the "perfect" woman...becos frankly there is no such thing as perfection...

"A PERFECT FRONT IS ALWAYS A FACADE FOR SOMETHING UGLY BEHIND."

Wah .... I am NOT married yet .... but from the way you put it .... it really sounds like very wise sayings ....

The truth part is that it is sad ... *sigh*

问世间，情为何物？

[bradpitt968]

I also agree. Initially I was apprehensive and gulity. Now I am a full fledge fucker. Machiam superhero, at home a doting father and obliging hubby, smile and keep all my problems to myself. Outside, like coming out of the telephone booth and its a bird, its a plane, its Fuckerman. :D

Apparently ... alot of us becomes good actors and actresses.

As the saying goes .... 人生如戏，戏如人生。

[bradpitt968]

Monster recipe for happy marriage....

Half deaf husband half blind wife....like that marriage can go on many many years...:D

but honestly i myself am in a unhappy marriage not becos my wife open her two eyes big big to spy on me but rather she is totally blind like i no longer exist..

I am not married yet .... but I know exactly how you feel ... *nod nod*

[Toyota Honda]

I think you are asking in the wrong forum man!!

My take is, most of married brothers here are lacking something at home and thus try to find the missing elements outside. Maybe it's just me . . :confused:

Bro, i really hope its just you man.. Don't scare me... ;)