Wife Bestie. Go or no go

[weiwei09]

Recently, my wife's friend, H, moved into a condo at the North. Since she's single (33 yrs old), wife asked me to help her with moving and installing of furniture. She's quite a looker actually but just bad in relationships lol.

After moving, we have been going to her house regularly, for drinks, dinner and mahjong. She always leave her laundry in the toilet and top of the pile is always her bra. So yesterday, while at her house for some CNY gambling, I cannot take it anymore and cummed with her bra in my hands. I also noticed the way she looked at me sometimes (from the corner of my eye). She also always say my wife very lucky, got this man to help with this and that.

Nowadays, I even fantasied about her when making love with my wife. Any bros here have similar experiences? if so, how to go on from here?

[junior_cannibal]

TS, looks like you are planning to start a fire, in your own backyards. You sure you can handle it? An affair with wife's BFF is going to be very complicated. If you never had an affair before and start with this complicated, you are likely to be found out, most likely to lose both of them, at the end.
Please use your big head to think.

[Ripeye]

No such experience, but best is to remain in your fantasy :)

[iloveu4ever]

Dear ah wei, u cld be attractive to ur wife friend because u are married. Ladies find married men desirable. However, always remember tat at the attraction stage, when u fart she will find u cute, but towards the end stage, even ur burp is very offensive to her.

Dun be clouded by ur small head...just continue to fuck ur wif n picture her bestie face as u fucking her

[myluckyguy]

when the opportunity comes just have a go :D

[badboynani17]

Recently, my wife's friend, H, moved into a condo at the North. Since she's single (33 yrs old), wife asked me to help her with moving and installing of furniture. She's quite a looker actually but just bad in relationships lol.

After moving, we have been going to her house regularly, for drinks, dinner and mahjong. She always leave her laundry in the toilet and top of the pile is always her bra. So yesterday, while at her house for some CNY gambling, I cannot take it anymore and cummed with her bra in my hands. I also noticed the way she looked at me sometimes (from the corner of my eye). She also always say my wife very lucky, got this man to help with this and that.

Nowadays, I even fantasied about her when making love with my wife. Any bros here have similar experiences? if so, how to go on from here?

Don't play with fire.... the consequences will be disastrous. You want to fantasize about her carry on... but to really flirt or end up in bed with her will be your worst decision ever in life. Stay sane... think with your brain, not your 2nd head... :D

[ceandy]

I was in a similar situation, but instead of "wife" it was gf. Ok to fantasize as long as you don't follow up :D

[lilmei]

Try lah. You said she gave you the look. What can be wrong. Start slow and test water.

[TequilaSunrise]

looks like you are planning to start a fire, in your own backyards

Could not have said it better

[LordVader]

Could not have said it better

And some are here fanning and adding to the fire;
while some are here trying to put out the fire.

[BoomArt]

If you can convince your wife into 3p, you will be the luckiest man on earth. If not, it is better for you to continue fuck you wife while thinking her BFF to add to your fantasy. She is single nothing to lose, but for you if you kana caught, that the end of your family and marriage. Don't shit at the place you eat. Don't think your wife won't sense it especially your desire started to grow, your eyes on her BFF will tell everything.

[Continental]

And some are here fanning and adding to the fire;
while some are here trying to put out the fire.
Well said brother. There are two sides to every coin. To each his own. They are adult enough to weigh the risks of the situation they want to get themselves into. Whichever way the guy or gal look at it or doing it, make sure you take the necessary precautions and make sure chances are high you are not found out by the partner esp if it is something improper or a behaviour society frawn upon or disapproves.

[bozarack]

If you can convince your wife into 3p, you will be the luckiest man on earth. If not, it is better for you to continue fuck you wife while thinking her BFF to add to your fantasy. She is single nothing to lose, but for you if you kana caught, that the end of your family and marriage. Don't shit at the place you eat. Don't think your wife won't sense it especially your desire started to grow, your eyes on her BFF will tell everything.

Agree with this bro here.

Same thing happened to me before, every time go out with wife and this friend of hers, she always compliments me and can feel some sort of tension.

It drives me crazy thinking about her body and how her bf of hers must ravage it all the time. sometimes makes me a little jealous.

Biggest fantasy would be a 3P with her, even had wet dreams of it already.
All I can do is fantasize and unload to mental images. lol.

Best not to do anything wrong here. ESPECIALLY if you treasure your marriage.

[loneyheart]

Move along .... test the water .... if its happen it happened ... not every guys a lucky guy :)

[lustandfast]

It takes 2 hands to clap. If its colleagues, ok. If wife friend, best not to unless she give u a strong hint. Else, best is to stay away.

[weiwei09]

Dear ah wei, u cld be attractive to ur wife friend because u are married. Ladies find married men desirable. However, always remember tat at the attraction stage, when u fart she will find u cute, but towards the end stage, even ur burp is very offensive to her.

Dun be clouded by ur small head...just continue to fuck ur wif n picture her bestie face as u fucking her

Ladies find married men desirable.... how true...

She got past 2 flings, both married man. Maybe she is really testing waters.

If got opportunity, who wouldn't think with small head.

[jonnyboi888]

Do you have your wife’s consensus?

[iloveu4ever]

Ladies find married men desirable.... how true...

She got past 2 flings, both married man. Maybe she is really testing waters.

If got opportunity, who wouldn't think with small head.

Wow....then she is dangerous n spells trouble. Stay away from such cunts...even got opportunity...ur small head shld be at least smart enuf to know that there will not be any pussies to dig if he screws this up... Meaning ur wife pussy included as well

[Online247]

No U-turn once you make the wrong decision.

[Capricorn69]

Is she prettier than your wife? If no, forget it :)

[junior_cannibal]

If you can convince your wife into 3p, you will be the luckiest man on earth. If not, it is better for you to continue fuck you wife while thinking her BFF to add to your fantasy. She is single nothing to lose, but for you if you kana caught, that the end of your family and marriage. Don't shit at the place you eat. Don't think your wife won't sense it especially your desire started to grow, your eyes on her BFF will tell everything.If I were you, I will never suggest to my gf or wife a 3P with her BFF. Even when she first suggests that, you also have to be extra careful if she really meant it or just wanted to test you. Unless your gf/wife is super confident and horny, otherwise, she will never suggests that. Live your dream while watching those AV about 3P or find the FL who can tarma.

[junior_cannibal]

Is she prettier than your wife? If no, forget it :) please use your big head to think, if your were the wife, would you find a more gorgeous bestie of yours for your hubby to do a 3some?
Also, when a wifey is open to 3some with her bestie, she might one day also requests a 3P with your best bro.

[Lemonjuice]

Hijack this thread

Me married but also looking for married ladies for fwb. No such luck yet on apps.


Any other way?

[draven78eric]

its not always the fault of the guy leh...:D
its the girl themselves who sometimes find that married guy and other people's husband are more charming to them.
ladies out there..own it up..its true yah..;)

[BoomArt]

If I were you, I will never suggest to my gf or wife a 3P with her BFF. Even when she first suggests that, you also have to be extra careful if she really meant it or just wanted to test you. Unless your gf/wife is super confident and horny, otherwise, she will never suggests that. Live your dream while watching those AV about 3P or find the FL who can tarma.

Haha. Of cos like what you said, TS wife must be horny and daring type. If not forget it. Live in fantasy better

[Rickey]

Haha. Of cos like what you said, TS wife must be horny and daring type. If not forget it. Live in fantasy better
Of course, tat goes w/o saying.. if u can't turn it into REALITY then continue to live in fantasy :o

[junior_cannibal]

Of course, tat goes w/o saying.. if u can't turn it into REALITY then continue to live in fantasy :o Life can be simple or complicated. If TS is so fascinated about the bestie, perhaps just try to find a FL that resembles her, pay, wham, bang then thank you madam!

[peregrene]

There is a saying bro... don't eat where you shit. Continue to fantasize over her but that's all. That's what I would do.

[UnagiSushi]

Do you have your wife’s consensus?

That is a good question

[Rickey]

its not always the fault of the guy leh...:D
its the girl themselves who sometimes find that married guy and other people's husband are more charming to them.
ladies out there..own it up..its true yah..;)
Love very much the way you say this to ladies who r wives bro :);)...tats why there r today many notti wives out there playing with other guys behind their husband's back...hehe...really hope they don't get caught by their hubbies cos tat might prolly mean the end of their marriages :p

[draven78eric]

Love very much the way you say this to ladies who r wives bro :);)...tats why there r today many notti wives out there playing with other guys behind their husband's back...hehe...really hope they don't get caught by their hubbies cos tat might prolly mean the end of their marriages :p

Its their rights to have Fun...
they know their husband once awhile will stray away but in the end , they come back home ..
So they too..sure need to stray away bit for just pure n safe fun...but still go back home..
love is love, fun is fun..
Who say there can be no sex when there is no love..of cos can happen..:D
I just would love to Fuck Fan Bing Bing and Zhang Zhiling but i wouldnt want to spend my life with them in daily basis..:D

[sxem]

Its their rights to have Fun...
they know their husband once awhile will stray away but in the end , they come back home ..
So they too..sure need to stray away bit for just pure n safe fun...but still go back home..
love is love, fun is fun..
Who say there can be no sex when there is no love..of cos can happen..:D
I just would love to Fuck Fan Bing Bing and Zhang Zhiling but i wouldnt want to spend my life with them in daily basis..:D


Haha bro Lin Zhiling and Zhang Zhiling are VERY DIFFERENT.

[Rickey]

Its their rights to have Fun...
they know their husband once awhile will stray away but in the end , they come back home ..
So they too..sure need to stray away bit for just pure n safe fun...but still go back home..
love is love, fun is fun..
Who say there can be no sex when there is no love..of cos can happen..:D
I just would love to Fuck Fan Bing Bing and Zhang Zhiling but i wouldnt want to spend my life with them in daily basis..:D
No, no bro...dun mean it that way...of cos commercially, a guy can just fuck or hv sex with any FL or WL w/o loving her ..just pay, fuck and go as we all say...even in these commercial cases there r some who initially starts by having fun but end up marrying each other when love finds its way to them.. when they find they enjoy having sex with each other after a period of time ..so love and fun are not separate, they do mix

but for these notti wives who stray away from their husbands it is different cos husband not bothering abt their sexual need or refuse to satisfy their sexual urges ..so they hv to go out and find other men who r more willing to please them and make them enjoy sexually and satisfy their sexual urge n needs for them...so after straying initially for some pure and safe fun, they find themselves get hooked or addicted to it and they keep keenly contacting and looking forward to meet their lovers regularly for sex time and time again and at every opportunity...so this shows there must some feelings of love involved when having fun...not just simply love is love and fun is fun.. unlike commercial sex where u just fuck and go n there is no love feelings at all...so here again it shows love and fun do mix...

yes, you are right, most will go back to their own homes and husbands at the end of the day but still constantly thinking of their lovers outside in their minds esp when they are called or required to be fucked by their husbands...there are some who are not like you bro, can fuck Fan Bing Bing and Zhang Zhiling and still wanna go home and not spend yr life with them...given the chance these notti wifeys would like to spend as much time as they can with their lovers even marrying them if they possibly can since they enjoy sex with them so much...forgetting abt their own homes and leaving their care to other family members...so it's not just having pure fun alone but also hv some feelings of love attached to it as evidence by their keep wanting to meet regularly with their lovers or as and when they have available time...which can be at any time of the day or at any day of the week when their husbands are not around or are away at work or play..

I m sure we won't want to hv sex or fun with anyone we hv no feelings for or chemistry of love with unless we are engaging in commercial sex...

[weiwei09]

Lets see... if i ask her out alone for a drink wo my wife and she agrees, also means shes up to smth ya?

[Alsat]

Its their rights to have Fun

Very well said bro ;)

[jien1]

Lets see... if i ask her out alone for a drink wo my wife and she agrees, also means shes up to smth ya?
She'll probably agree and tell your wife?

[choku]

That is a good question

I also think so too :)

[BiffTannen]

I also think so too :)

You are probably right

[Rickey]

Lets see... if i ask her out alone for a drink wo my wife and she agrees, also means shes up to smth ya?
looks like it ;)

[driver6699]

looks like it ;)

but will be good luck if she tell your wife

[Lemonjuice]

Lets see... if i ask her out alone for a drink wo my wife and she agrees, also means shes up to smth ya?

Must lure her to jio you for smth without your wife. Anything you wife don't like?

Say running or some food she don't eat?

[weiwei09]

Must lure her to jio you for smth without your wife. Anything you wife don't like?

Say running or some food she don't eat?

Good idea. In fact a few years ago, before I got married, I met with her for coffee once just the 2 of us.. Will keep this posted if this fantasy becomes a reality..

[S3x4U]

Many opinions, hoping to hear more soon

[McCannOppo]

Good idea. In fact a few years ago, before I got married, I met with her for coffee once just the 2 of us.. Will keep this posted if this fantasy becomes a reality..

And please include all the juicy details :D

[Southwinds]

Haha bro Lin Zhiling and Zhang Zhiling are VERY DIFFERENT.

Never mind lah, as long as same sexy body type also can :D

[diputs1269]

Good idea. In fact a few years ago, before I got married, I met with her for coffee once just the 2 of us.. Will keep this posted if this fantasy becomes a reality..

No harm trying, good luck, cheers!

[Atebangbus]

bro can eat mai waste? :D

No harm trying, good luck, cheers!

[waaaaaa]

This kind of thing very diff to advise. Some guys shit in the most dangerous place and get away with it.

[BiffTannen]

guys shit in the most dangerous place and get away with it

What a way to put it :D

[driver6699]

getting her is one thing. that is every male's fantasy.
once you got her, that is where the interesting part begins... maintaining that relationship and how to part ways eventually..
good luck!

[draven78eric]

Haha bro Lin Zhiling and Zhang Zhiling are VERY DIFFERENT.

paiseh im wrong, typo...
is Lin Zhiling :D

[draven78eric]

No, no bro...dun mean it that way...of cos commercially, a guy can just fuck or hv sex with any FL or WL w/o loving her ..just pay, fuck and go as we all say...even in these commercial cases there r some who initially starts by having fun but end up marrying each other when love finds its way to them.. when they find they enjoy having sex with each other after a period of time ..so love and fun are not separate, they do mix

but for these notti wives who stray away from their husbands it is different cos husband not bothering abt their sexual need or refuse to satisfy their sexual urges ..so they hv to go out and find other men who r more willing to please them and make them enjoy sexually and satisfy their sexual urge n needs for them...so after straying initially for some pure and safe fun, they find themselves get hooked or addicted to it and they keep keenly contacting and looking forward to meet their lovers regularly for sex time and time again and at every opportunity...so this shows there must some feelings of love involved when having fun...not just simply love is love and fun is fun.. unlike commercial sex where u just fuck and go n there is no love feelings at all...so here again it shows love and fun do mix...

yes, you are right, most will go back to their own homes and husbands at the end of the day but still constantly thinking of their lovers outside in their minds esp when they are called or required to be fucked by their husbands...there are some who are not like you bro, can fuck Fan Bing Bing and Zhang Zhiling and still wanna go home and not spend yr life with them...given the chance these notti wifeys would like to spend as much time as they can with their lovers even marrying them if they possibly can since they enjoy sex with them so much...forgetting abt their own homes and leaving their care to other family members...so it's not just having pure fun alone but also hv some feelings of love attached to it as evidence by their keep wanting to meet regularly with their lovers or as and when they have available time...which can be at any time of the day or at any day of the week when their husbands are not around or are away at work or play..

I m sure we won't want to hv sex or fun with anyone we hv no feelings for or chemistry of love with unless we are engaging in commercial sex...


Well, all depends on one's persepctive
be it or not, life still goes on..why let these bother our life to move forward.
See open abit..
if the wife shows that she dont want to come back home and miss her lover more than husband, then seperate loh..
you need to know, having fantasy to fuck some one is totally different from spending your entire life with another person.
Have you ever love some one until you dont want to up her becos you so scare that she might think you are the same as other guys, just wanna fuck n go..? :rolleyes:

[Rickey]

Well, all depends on one's perspective
be it or not, life still goes on..why let these bother our life to move forward.
See open abit..
if the wife shows that she dont want to come back home and miss her lover more than husband, then seperate loh..
you need to know, having fantasy to fuck some one is totally different from spending your entire life with another person.
Have you ever love some one until you dont want to up her becos you so scare that she might think you are the same as other guys, just wanna fuck n go..? :rolleyes:
Yes, u r right bro...agree with you :), watever is the situation or problem life just goes on ;)

but u were saying that love is love and fun and fun mah, that they are 2 separate things...that the wives are just having some fun outside with other men and is not love and they will go back to their husbands and families at the end of the day

but if she misses her lover more than her husband it means initial fun has turned into love...so you are wrong, where sex is concerned, unless it is commercial sex, love and fun are not separate factors, they are mixed and intertwined and fun will turn and blossom into love over a period of time...

no bro, we are not just talking about FANTASY or fantasizing now but a REALITY that they r already actually having fun with their lovers outside and enjoying it, it's really a FANTASY turned REALITY :o....no never, there is no reason to scare anything if we wanna fuck someone if both parties are consensual and wanting it badly ;)

Anyway bro...thanks for the discussion :)...as you say life goes on watever it is...hehe

[RonaldoRoja]

bro can eat mai waste? :D

Eat liao later have to vomit everything out :)

[Rickey]

getting her is one thing. that is every male's fantasy.
once you got her, that is where the interesting part begins... maintaining that relationship and how to part ways eventually..
good luck!
Very well said bro ;) .. that is the problem :(

[draven78eric]

Yes, u r right bro...agree with you :), watever is the situation or problem life just goes on ;)

but u were saying that love is love and fun and fun mah, that they are 2 separate things...that the wives are just having some fun outside with other men and is not love and they will go back to their husbands and families at the end of the day

but if she misses her lover more than her husband it means initial fun has turned into love...so you are wrong, where sex is concerned, unless it is commercial sex, love and fun are not separate factors, they are mixed and intertwined and fun will turn and blossom into love over a period of time...

no bro, we are not just talking about FANTASY or fantasizing now but a REALITY that they r already actually having fun with their lovers outside and enjoying it, it's really a FANTASY turned REALITY :o....no never, there is no reason to scare anything if we wanna fuck someone if both parties are consensual and wanting it badly ;)

Anyway bro...thanks for the discussion :)...as you say life goes on watever it is...hehe

Well as i mentioned, Depends on one's perspective.
Once one's perspective is change, its a totally a game changer...

[bluetooth]

Can you trust the bff to keep quiet about it? Chances are the answer is no. So better to just jerk off to the image of it. Unless you wish to be known as an adulterer.

[naan1974]

Bro, why don't you give her the same
" I want to fuck you " look. It seems to me
Gals all love to fantasies on their BFF's husband

[weiwei09]

How do u guys bring up the topic of sex. like how does she satisfy herself since shes currently single. I'm sure many bros here have much experience about this.

[des4fuck]

Bro , no go bro , if your wife find out , she will lose a bff and a husband. U will end up losing two or more also. It is very hurtful betray by a bestie .... Dun shit at where u eat ....

[ERO619]

go ahead , who knows maybe your wife also "eating" outside.

[V123]

Good idea. In fact a few years ago, before I got married, I met with her for coffee once just the 2 of us.. Will keep this posted if this fantasy becomes a reality..

To be on the safe side, maybe you can ask her out for a drink and said you wan discuss something with her with regard to your wife. Once meet up, just pretend and seek her opinion on maybe wan to get a present for your wife birthday or valentine day, so seek her advise. the reason for that is just in case, she really go tell your wife that u jio her out, at least you can claim that you wan seek her advice in order to give your wife a surprise.

Once meet up, it's up to you on how to flirt with her liao. at least casually bring up to her on her advice/opinion for a present for your wife as a safety net :)

[FatSpider]

g string lol

[driver6699]

How do u guys bring up the topic of sex. like how does she satisfy herself since shes currently single. I'm sure many bros here have much experience about this.

Start by asking what she do in her free time, did she miss being in a relationship, what is important in a relationship --> sex;)..works for me

[Jay Chou]

go ahead , who knows maybe your wife also "eating" outside.

Up u bro. 😊

[Jay Chou]

Well as i mentioned, Depends on one's perspective.
Once one's perspective is change, its a totally a game changer...

Up u bro. 😊

[BushTracker]

Lets see... if i ask her out alone for a drink wo my wife and she agrees, also means shes up to smth ya?

Not that I am encouraging and egging you on, but if you want to have an excuse to ask her out w/o your wife, just use planning a surprise party for your wife as an excuse, or want her opinion for a surprise present for your wife.

But seriously, if you are even tempted, that means you are really attracted to her. Think about it, if you really go down this road, it will only leads to hurt for one or all parties involved. There is no possible scenario where there is a happy outcome in the long run.

[draven78eric]

go ahead , who knows maybe your wife also "eating" outside.

i understand many of the guys, only allow ownself go eat outside but cannot accept own wife go outside eat even she will return home after "eating"... :D

[Gamerboy]

I’m just curious if TS did anything notti now that Valentine’s Day just went by...

[weiwei09]

I’m just curious if TS did anything notti now that Valentine’s Day just went by...

Thought about it but didn't... But, we have been whatsapping each other regularly...Still in a "to be or not to be" kind of mode.

And the last 2 times I made love to wife I just picture her bff... Cum so much faster...

[waaaaaa]

Play it passive and let her lead. Look out for signs of trouble coming. Must be clear headed

[Devil320]

The repercussions may not be worth it when found out. Your wife gonna lose a BFF, and you gonna lose your wife. Not a good exchange considering your current good life. I get the thrill but right after it, I think your kuku jiao will shrink and your big head will tell u, you just fucked and got fucked.

[Rickey]

i understand many of the guys, only allow ownself go eat outside but cannot accept own wife go outside eat even she will return home after "eating"... :D
Yes, these r the possessive hubbies with double stds who are in the majority...not many r magnanimous enough to allow their wives to enjoy similarly...some of them even threaten their wives with divorces

[weiwei09]

Yes, these r the possessive hubbies with double stds who are in the majority...not many r magnanimous enough to allow their wives to enjoy similarly...some of them even threaten their wives with divorces

Why not. As long both parties dono can alrdy. I caught my wife cheating before we got married. I forgive and married her but I never forget. From then on I chiong evey week. Ktv and ML. I do feel what I am doing now today is partly due to her.

Recently we had a big fight and I found she was contacting him. Who knows maybe she is already eating iutside.

[KingEros]

Why not. As long both parties dono can alrdy. I caught my wife cheating before we got married. I forgive and married her but I never forget. From then on I chiong evey week. Ktv and ML. I do feel what I am doing now today is partly due to her.

Recently we had a big fight and I found she was contacting him. Who knows maybe she is already eating iutside.

THERE, you have the biggest smokescreen to make the approach on the BFF ... ask her out on the pretext that you need her help
During the meet, then you play confused ... before divulging your concerns that you found out your wife is contacting the previous fling

One possibility: you get into the BFF’s pants, while playing the poor vulnerable Mr Good Guy who needs a shoulder to cry on ... once there, it’s all up to you how to proceed sexually

Another possibility: BFF knows & shares all of your wife’s CCAs ... either ways, a win-win for you

God Luck!!

[weiwei09]

THERE, you have the biggest smokescreen to make the approach on the BFF ... ask her out on the pretext that you need her help
During the meet, then you play confused ... before divulging your concerns that you found out your wife is contacting the previous fling

One possibility: you get into the BFF’s pants, while playing the poor vulnerable Mr Good Guy who needs a shoulder to cry on ... once there, it’s all up to you how to proceed sexually

Another possibility: BFF knows & shares all of your wife’s CCAs ... either ways, a win-win for you

God Luck!!

Good tips. I like your avatar. Inspired me to change mine.

[Rickey]

Why not. As long both parties dono can alrdy. I caught my wife cheating before we got married. I forgive and married her but I never forget. From then on I chiong evey week. Ktv and ML. I do feel what I am doing now today is partly due to her.

Recently we had a big fight and I found she was contacting him. Who knows maybe she is already eating iutside.
Yes, of course, if both parties in the marital relationship, husband and wife don't know they r eating outside...things will surely to be fine for both of them in their daily family living activities :)...kudos to TS for forgiving his wife for her pre-marital cheating and indiscretions but sad to say that he caught her still in contact with the guy again today and hence the big fight as he revealed...which could mean most prolly she is eating out with the guy once again after marriage...TS shd ask himself why ??..is it he is not treating his wife well enough to meet her wants and needs so she won't find the need or urge to eat outside again ??

[Gamerboy]

Why not. As long both parties dono can alrdy. I caught my wife cheating before we got married. I forgive and married her but I never forget. From then on I chiong evey week. Ktv and ML. I do feel what I am doing now today is partly due to her.

Recently we had a big fight and I found she was contacting him. Who knows maybe she is already eating iutside.

Wow like that ur relationship with ur wife quite toxic hor? If you don’t have any children, why not just part ways and enjoy singlehood?

[Gamerboy]

THERE, you have the biggest smokescreen to make the approach on the BFF ... ask her out on the pretext that you need her help
During the meet, then you play confused ... before divulging your concerns that you found out your wife is contacting the previous fling

One possibility: you get into the BFF’s pants, while playing the poor vulnerable Mr Good Guy who needs a shoulder to cry on ... once there, it’s all up to you how to proceed sexually

Another possibility: BFF knows & shares all of your wife’s CCAs ... either ways, a win-win for you

God Luck!!

Fwah bro! 高招 sia! Hidden agenda gao gao.

[junior_cannibal]

To add, tell the BFF you are considering to also eat outside to get even. Just ain't sure who to eat. The BFF might avail herself.

[Mistyboy]

Good tips. I like your avatar. Inspired me to change mine.

My gut feel is don’t shit too close where you eat. Any time things goes south, it’s harder to distance yourself since both of them know each other. Unless you clean cut with wife then by all means go with the BFF. Good luck!

[junior_cannibal]

My gut feel is don’t shit too close where you eat. Any time things goes south, it’s harder to distance yourself since both of them know each other. Unless you clean cut with wife then by all means go with the BFF. Good luck!TS doesn't sound like he's looking for a serious relationship with the BFF, more the thrill and lust. Hence, the clean cut part may or may not apply.