My sad story

[xiaochunzi]

Hi 2 all bros,juz seeking advise fr u all.i m a married guy with a 2 yrs old kid.Eversince my wife give birth,i hav nt touch her 4 sex fr then.i wonder isnt my urge die liao or i no longer luv her.i admit she bcome a bit plump but still ok 2 mi.last time i wan,she dun wan.Nw she wan,i dun wan.i nt dat heartless type but i really dont turn on by her nw.:( Nw when i wan,i go geylang...

[Acidman]

Is this going to be another divorce case in the making?

[watchman]

Mayb the wife ain't as 'hot' as b4 she gave birth. The guy is a bit turn off. My advice. Give her ur Visa n sent to Marie France or some slimming\beauty salon for 3 mths. They work 'miracles'. See the news ads!:D

[hearthrob]

bro I sympathize with you...I personally know of people in your shoe....most have watched their wives gave birth and completely lost the urge ever since...

[Rof|maoxz]

Hi 2 all bros,juz seeking advise fr u all.i m a married guy with a 2 yrs old kid.Eversince my wife give birth,i hav nt touch her 4 sex fr then.i wonder isnt my urge die liao or i no longer luv her.i admit she bcome a bit plump but still ok 2 mi.last time i wan,she dun wan.Nw she wan,i dun wan.i nt dat heartless type but i really dont turn on by her nw. :( Nw when i wan,i go geylang...

You are one kind of heartless creature, she married you, bore you one kid and this is what you treat her in return! :mad:

[yangge]

like that jialat liao

[Mark Lim]

last time i wan,she dun wan.Nw she wan,i dun wan.i nt dat heartless type but i really dont turn on by her nw.:( Nw when i wan,i go geylang...

Bro, i always believe good sex is when 2 persons have good feelings for each other. it includes the emotional part, not just the physical part. going GL, or looking for okts can help to release your physiological needs, but it will not fulfill your psychological needs.

try planning a short holiday trip (without the baby) and see of it can rekindle your love for each other. it will always give the 2 of you some time together. singapore a very stressful place and many couple can't even have children here.

it's not easy to find someone who is willing to spend the rest of her life with you. dun give up so fast ...

Mark Lim

[littleme]

Loss of desire for sex normally happen after arrival of a kid... the subsequent stress of looking after one adds to the tension and over a period of time.. you feel distressed at the sight of wife and kid.

Take a break with your wife... relive the courtship days and rekindle that spark in your marriage... for a start can stop going to geylang. Your family needs you, not geylang !

[nacho]

Take it slow and easy brother. Things will turn it corners.:D

[Red-Card]

It's quite a norm this thing happens, try to go for a shory vacation to get back the urge/feeling, it may helps

[musedragon]

Hey Bro,
know how you feel. Had the same experience with my OC also before.

I think first thing you must determine is that whether your OC still wants to have sex. I know of a number of women who after giving birth, somehow gets put off by sex - due to a number of reasons like dont want to have any more kids or just pyschologically just lost the drive. Either way, you must established whether she still have the sex urges or not.

If she does, you must remember that you need to sextify her then. Not sure whether you want to take it as a duty that you have to perform or that you are also fulfiling your own needs - whichever, you need to be there for her......otherwise, she would look else where to sextify her needs, which is something that I'm sure you dont what happening.

If it is something to do with looks and appearance, which I'm sure it does. Then perhaps like what some bros have suggested, for you to suggest to your OC without sounding rude and insensitive to go for slimming programmes. For me, my OC felt that she wanted to look good and ask me for my opinion; I responded saying that if she thinks she wants to do it, I'll support her and jokingly, mentioned that I should join her as well.

Bro, the concern here for you is really to make sure that your OC is sextified. You can go frequent GL as often as your vit M allows you, but remember the sanctity of your home.

Take care, bro.

[no_faith]

last time u wan, she dun wan.
now she wan, u dun wan.

juz wait a while more bro. it will become u wan, she also wan.

[pokeman71]

The longer you dun make love to your OC, the fatser the married will die off.

Sex is not married , but a sexless married will not last.

Try to find some way to improve the atmosphere like watching good japanese xxxxx movie, go for a short trip just 2 of you.

Hope can help your married

[Castrol]

last time i wan,she dun wan.Nw she wan,i dun wan.

no problem lay... wait for a while until she wan, you also wan lah. :D

[WillamSexsphere]

You are one kind of heartless creature, she married you, bore you one kid and this is what you treat her in return! :mad:

To xiaochunzi:
I agree with that above qoute. And wish to add you are absolutely heartless and to the core. But hell!, you aint the only one,many others INCLUDING myself went thru this phase before. The only difference between you and me is that i did not venture out of my own bed into another girl's bed, because i still loved her.

How one gets over it is still ask yourself if you still love her and is there any cause for you not to love her. Are the causes justifiable enough for you to seek sex with another woman/women?

We men are adventurous, it's in our genes and that's why we are competitive by nature for we love challenges. Once we achieve, we desire it no more. But love is more than a normal challenge. It's life's greatest challenge and achievement if you both can hold hands in your old age watching a sunset over a calm sea, thru love's trial and tribulations.

Plenty of pretty women will surround you in life, but the one that you love and truly love enough to marry and bear you a child will be the one that will holds the highest regard in your life, the one you will ultimately return to, for pretty women are what they really are in your life - pretty only. Love is more than just physical or purely just sex, its the emotional core that rules our lives.

You will always feel empty after you conquered another women for it's just another challenge. But the years and times spent with your wife will be the one that figures most in your life. Don't give her cause to reject you or be hurt by your philandeering if the cause for separation is not great.

But then, you are the captain of your own ship of life. You make your own decisions. I wish you the best. Cheers! :)




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[Freman]

last time u wan, she dun wan.
now she wan, u dun wan.

juz wait a while more bro. it will become u wan, she also wan.

could turn for the worse...

he dun wan, she dun wan.....

but honestly.... try to build up the feeling... for my case... my OC lost confidence.... she dun want cos she feel she not pretty anymore.. (cos fat tummy)....

so this kind of things... need time to psycho 1...

[littleme]

could turn for the worse...
my OC lost confidence.... she dun want cos she feel she not pretty anymore.. (cos fat tummy)....so this kind of things... need time to psycho 1...

Bro.. your OC confidence comes from you.. even if you are tired, give her TLC whenever both of you are together.. you are right to say it takes time to psycho and keep it going manz !

[Rof|maoxz]

To xiaochunzi:

I agree with that above quote. And wish to add you are absolutely heartless and to the core. But hell!, you aint the only one,many others INCLUDING myself went thru this phase before. The only difference between you and me is that i did not venture out of my own bed into another girl's bed, because i still loved her.

WillamSexsphere, please agree sliently lah, I do not want you to be diaped -4 for agreeing. :D

Zap me for too judgmental??? Come mon' man... this is the Adult Discussions about Sex, and not your usual Ah Ma / Ah Gong agony forum leh, you got to be thankful sammyboy quite lenient with all these thread sprouting around. :rolleyes:

[newbadass]

Zap me for too judgmental??? Come mon' man... this is the Adult Discussions about Sex, and not your usual Ah Ma / Ah Gong agony forum leh, you got to be thankful sammyboy quite lenient with all these thread sprouting around. :rolleyes:

Anyhow bring out MA and AhGong, never die before... :p

[Rof|maoxz]

Anyhow bring out MA and AhGong, never die before... :p

NNKC, dun say you lah. Ask you go Labyrinth, you busy playing games. :mad:

[Faidenk]

When a woman uses sex as a weopon, 2 things can happen, it may whip the man back in line; the man resents this and refuses to submit, over a short period of time, the man slowly discovers he can be free of the snare he's in and turns the table.

So listen, women, and listen hard, if you think you can pussy-whip him to toe the line, you can push him so far he ain't never coming back.

[newbadass]

NNKC, dun say you lah. Ask you go Labyrinth, you busy playing games. :mad:

Must be playing games meh? Cannot be surfing porn and PCC meh? :D

[xiaochunzi]

You are one kind of heartless creature, she married you, bore you one kid and this is what you treat her in return! :mad:
Bro,i admit i m a heartless man.But i still love her deep in my heart...Sorry if i piss u off..

[xiaochunzi]

To xiaochunzi:
I agree with that above qoute. And wish to add you are absolutely heartless and to the core. But hell!, you aint the only one,many others INCLUDING myself went thru this phase before. The only difference between you and me is that i did not venture out of my own bed into another girl's bed, because i still loved her.

How one gets over it is still ask yourself if you still love her and is there any cause for you not to love her. Are the causes justifiable enough for you to seek sex with another woman/women?

We men are adventurous, it's in our genes and that's why we are competitive by nature for we love challenges. Once we achieve, we desire it no more. But love is more than a normal challenge. It's life's greatest challenge and achievement if you both can hold hands in your old age watching a sunset over a calm sea, thru love's trial and tribulations.

Plenty of pretty women will surround you in life, but the one that you love and truly love enough to marry and bear you a child will be the one that will holds the highest regard in your life, the one you will ultimately return to, for pretty women are what they really are in your life - pretty only. Love is more than just physical or purely just sex, its the emotional core that rules our lives.

You will always feel empty after you conquered another women for it's just another challenge. But the years and times spent with your wife will be the one that figures most in your life. Don't give her cause to reject you or be hurt by your philandeering if the cause for separation is not great.

But then, you are the captain of your own ship of life. You make your own decisions. I wish you the best. Cheers! :)




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Thank a lot,bro,i need that..

[dominion]

last time u wan, she dun wan.
now she wan, u dun wan.

juz wait a while more bro. it will become u wan, she also wan.

a while more both dun wan?

Thank a lot,bro,i need that..

go geylang play safe n check often... dont give her STD

[Devil73]

go geylang play safe n check often... dont give her STD


Yes! Lao jiao said must listen...hehehehe:D:p

[Devil73]

Hi 2 all bros,juz seeking advise fr u all.i m a married guy with a 2 yrs old kid.Eversince my wife give birth,i hav nt touch her 4 sex fr then.i wonder isnt my urge die liao or i no longer luv her.i admit she bcome a bit plump but still ok 2 mi.last time i wan,she dun wan.Nw she wan,i dun wan.i nt dat heartless type but i really dont turn on by her nw.


Bro,

Find out and discuss with her lor.... If you don't find out what is the reason you won't solve the problems and maybe makes things more sour for this husband & wife relationship right? Go n think about it lah....Wife is your life time partnership ok....:)

[Tua Kang]

Please note this a very common phenomenon when u cheong and see all the young chiobus. In your case you should seek help and try to find out what is the problem. Never compare your OC with commercial sex gal ....

[Devil73]

In your case you should seek help and try to find out what is the problem. Never compare your OC with commercial sex gal ....

Bro,

Strongly agree as per your mentioned above.:)

[dirtyhairy]

You are one kind of heartless creature, she married you, bore you one kid and this is what you treat her in return! :mad:

Ok..Bro R...me like to propose same thing again.
how about 1-minute silence
for the poor unloved wife, the unbonked spouse
and the emergence of heartless husband, the louse?:eek:

[RICHIE72]

Never compare your OC with commercial sex gal ....

I couldn't agree more. Coz you first found true love in your wife and not someone from the commercial sex arena. Tink you two should really take some time to go for a short "Honeymoon" and re-live the courtship days, coz gals in the commecial sex arena cum and go, but I believe your OC will stick by you "thru thick and thin and thru good and bad times". You live life once, make it count - wif the one you love... cheers ;)

[Peggie83]

The longer you dun make love to your OC, the fatser the married will die off.

Sex is not married , but a sexless married will not last.

Try to find some way to improve the atmosphere like watching good japanese xxxxx movie, go for a short trip just 2 of you.

Hope can help your married

Good advice :)

[hearthrob]

BTW, OC stands for what?....sorry this is one question I've been longing to ask for years and only managed to pick up the courage now....hehehe...:D :p

[Rof|maoxz]

Bro,i admit i m a heartless man.But i still love her deep in my heart...Sorry if i piss u off..

Nope, you didn't piss one bit, instead I unnerve some fellows. :D

Well, you do miss quite abit of communication with your wife here, do settle this promptly, if not both parties also suffer, and your kid as well.

Ok..Bro R...me like to propose same thing again.
how about 1-minute silence for the poor unloved wife, the unbonked spouse
and the emergence of heartless husband, the louse?

I won't engage one-minute silence for the wife, what for? I pity the kid instead. :cool:


Don't say so much liao, later ppl say I bully newcomers.

[tokkon1]

Bro,i admit i m a heartless man.But i still love her deep in my heart...Sorry if i piss u off..

Be careful about her needs bro...reject her too often and she may just find her own 'Geylang'. She may not appeal to you but I'm sure lotsa wolves are on the prowl.

Extramarital sex is not the domain of just the male species you noe...:rolleyes:

[geckoSG]

Relax mate... My wife and myself have had less sex after baby came out.
Both of us were stressed up with our schedule, but I still attempt to make
love with her at least once a week or one every 2 weeks.

If her figure is the main cause, it is ur utmost responsibility to help her get
it back in shape! Dun forget, she suffered 9 mths to bear you a child.

If her sex drive goes down, find out why and help her regain it. If she ever
goes makan outside, then U know... :D