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hydragen
29-03-2007, 11:37 AM
I'm in my late forties and have been cheonging HC, FL etc. for many many years. I tried to get myself out of this addiction but didn't really work. Just plain high sex drive and pretty SYTs still turns me on. :o

Fellow samsters here have any good suggestions on how to get out of this addiction? This bad habit is burning big holes in my pocket. Average $3-400 a month on cheonging. Sibeh Siong man! It is time I really call it quits...

gilagila100
29-03-2007, 11:47 AM
sigh .. if so easy to quit ... think sammyboy boss out of biz liao ... same for the numerous OKTs and WLs ...

once u got hooked not so simple to quit 100% ... maybe can lessen the no. of trips thou ...

hydragen
29-03-2007, 11:51 AM
sex was my religion!

slider_72
29-03-2007, 11:55 AM
Sigh, I'm also trying without much success.

What I do nowadays is to restrict myself to the TN/massage places that provides HJ only. I am trying not to go for FJ/BJ.

My next target is to reduce the number of times I go, from once a week to once a fortnight. Hopefully in 6 months' time, I can reduce it to once a month max.

Thereafter, my new target would be to reduce it to once every two months, and to stop completely after a year or so.

I tried going cold turkey but it was really tough, especially with so many temptations lurking around in SBF.:D

Castrol
29-03-2007, 11:59 AM
Fellow samsters here have any good suggestions on how to get out of this addiction? This bad habit is burning big holes in my pocket. Average $3-400 a month on cheonging. Sibeh Siong man! It is time I really call it quits...

no problem, get a part-time job that pay you $400 a month. :D

MimeBoxer
29-03-2007, 12:29 PM
I'm in my late forties and have been cheonging HC, FL etc. for many many years. I tried to get myself out of this addiction but didn't really work. Just plain high sex drive and pretty SYTs still turns me on. :o

Fellow samsters here have any good suggestions on how to get out of this addiction? This bad habit is burning big holes in my pocket. Average $3-400 a month on cheonging. Sibeh Siong man! It is time I really call it quits...

Bro, very simple. Juz castrate it... hehehe... Well being a high sex driven myself, I can't help you on getting out of it but to reduce burning holes in pocket i suggest you turn to porno dvds...( DIY ) :D

chickenzip
29-03-2007, 12:37 PM
i'm facing the same issue too...so below's what i did :

1) tried to work myself to death - but the occasionately late night supper at GL with colleagues ain't helping much.

2) tried taking a hobby to take up my time - end up painting nude anime figuring.

3) tried taking a sport as hobby - spending the weekend roller blading at East Coast just simply back fired.

4) tried forming a team to play soccer - choose the wrong venue, we played at marina south and after some hard tacklings, i end up lossening my aching legs at DHC.

5) when i tried spending my time setting a web site or write blog, i end up surfing SBF and writing "dirty" stories...

6) now still trying....:o :D

ilurbu
29-03-2007, 12:43 PM
Pick up a hobby, join a social club (cycling, tennis, driving, painting) take it seriously.. it's food for the soul to cultivate these into an art form.

chickenzip
29-03-2007, 12:48 PM
Pick up a hobby, join a social club (cycling, tennis, driving, painting) take it seriously.. it's food for the soul to cultivate these into an art form.

Hi bro...nice to see u here in SBF...

Did u succeed...? :D

hydragen
29-03-2007, 12:48 PM
looks like we are all in the same boat. the temptations on SBF is really too much but i just can't help going to the SBF website to read.
- the pics and links exchanges are great - can DIY
- the FRs on the local HC scene
- can research cheong places overseas
- OKT hawking their chicks

how to resist the temptation like this?
i like the idea of switching over to just HJ and gradually cutting down the frequency.

SBF brothers unite! :D

machoman
29-03-2007, 12:52 PM
Sibeh Siong man! It is time I really call it quits...

I believe that IMH has counselling for all sorts of addictions....sex, eating, alcohol, drugs, etc.

You might want to call them for help. :cool: :D

ilurbu
29-03-2007, 01:11 PM
Trying my best.. picked up too many hobbies seriously.. spent too much to chiong... photography, pool, blading, tennis, tech toys, cycling, etc..

urge is there.. but really gotta curb the michael douglas syndrome.. I realised also that we think too much about sex when we got too much free time in our hands.. coupled with the fact that most addicts are both introverted and/or extroverted, I feel there should be both ways to solve it.

home-boys can play PC MMPORG's, read comics, pick up cooking..

outties can take up social activities... I do both.. especially difficult now as I'm all alone in China with lots of time and freedom from my CO. But as I've said.. I'm trying my best.. it's working so far..

Hi bro...nice to see u here in SBF...

Did u succeed...? :D

beck7777
29-03-2007, 01:46 PM
i'm facing the same issue too...so below's what i did :


3) tried taking a sport as hobby - spending the weekend roller blading at East Coast just simply back fired.




Bad bad idea... The number of SYTs there blading is shocking!

Esp all in wear as little and short as possible! :D

-SBF-
29-03-2007, 01:52 PM
Bro, very simple. Juz castrate it... hehehe... Well being a high sex driven myself, I can't help you on getting out of it but to reduce burning holes in pocket i suggest you turn to porno dvds...( DIY ) :D

like this become dong fang bui bai liao

French Poilu
29-03-2007, 02:20 PM
Change your SBF password and block off all porno sites from your PC. Then delete all your porn files from your computer. Last but not least no DIY for 1 week. If you survive the cold turkey treatment good for you. Most people have gone mad trying it.

*FiReWoRkS*
29-03-2007, 03:08 PM
i just stopped very naturally after i have been together with my current gf for 1 year..have been together for 3 years liao..

think the main reason i stopped is because she is really a very good girl and i didn't want to hurt her and it prick my conscience whenever i think of myself engaging in commercial sex behind her back..

though it took me 1 year to finally stop but at least i did it..bro maybe you can channel your energy on other activities or people you treasure..hope it might help..

submarinez
29-03-2007, 03:18 PM
Tried to cold turkey yourself? Just give yourself a few days and concentrate on something else like a hobby or go on a holiday with your family. Think the former works better. Probably very hard at first but you'll need lots of perseverance to get through.

Just my thoughts.

Gixer
30-03-2007, 01:20 AM
OK, Saltpeter, also known as Potassium Nitrate will lower libido, it was used in prisons a long time ago. This is the same stuff used in gun powder. Look it up on the net to check dosages.

This is all if I remember correctly. Hope it helps.

But look at it this way. You are in your 40s you only have a few more years before maybe the hydraulics don't work anymore, and you may need viagra. So just enjoy it while you can. :D Maybe you need a FB instead of paying for the SYTs.

Sboobs_lover
30-03-2007, 04:24 AM
Download porn movie to watch and PCC everyday. Twice a day should be able to solve ur problem. And can last for abt one month. Then go for the real thing once a month.

Btw the above method only help u to save money but not getting out of addiction of sex. High sex drive is to due the chemical produce in our body (dunno wat testro****, estrogen and hormone, spellin may be wrong) so i dun think can solve w/o medication.

Another suggestion, y not enjoy now cos u never know when ur little bro will go on strike.

Side effect: Ur little brother will bcome less sensitive.

Xgenre
30-03-2007, 09:24 AM
Let me give you some suggestions.

1. Chop it off. For obvious reasons, it's 100% effective. :D

2. Find 1 or a few fuck buddies. Free mah. So will save you $300-400 monthly.

3. Practical one ah. Cut up all you ATM and Credit Cards. So next time you need cash for sex, you will need to go queue up at the bank to withdraw. Very troublesome and most people dun have time to do this as they work 9-5.

spidey69
30-03-2007, 09:46 AM
Bro Hydragen,

I think yours not a big problem leh.. what u need to do is to work smarter or harder and earn more $ to satisfy your urges.. :)

If u have $ + start to lose interest in woman and instead begin to steal glances at that muscular guy in your gym , THEN u have a problem :D

So for now it should be : "ADDICTION??? WHO?? WHAT ADDICTION!!"

bonkers69
30-03-2007, 11:18 AM
bro , you can only reduce the time of visit lor.
Anyway not only money that concern but also take care of health if wanna bonk long life.....or else huh withdraw cpf money liao. lots of money but can't up that didi ...wow jia luck leh.

hydragen
30-03-2007, 03:46 PM
thanks to all the fellow samsters for the suggestions.

the biggest concern is really not $$$. $3-400 a month is not a small sum of money but if can cut down expenses on other things, still can manage lah. i have been cheonging for the past 10+ years liao. always practice safe sex and so far so good. it is the health part that i am more worried about. like PCK used to say - dont pray pray...

some of the samsters also bring out a good point. i am already 40+ (more than 45 to be exact.) how many more years can my didi still function? must cheong while i still can right? i feel so damn bloody shiok each time i make love to young chicks. make me feel young again. this is something that DIY cannot replace...

how how how? want to cheong yet scared? sibeh dilemma sia... :(

-SBF-
30-03-2007, 03:49 PM
how how how? want to cheong yet scared? sibeh dilemma sia... :(


then go with ur heart lor....until this stage liao.......:D

hydragen
30-03-2007, 03:51 PM
beside going to visiting HCs and FLs, i used to chee hong some female colleagues in my office. do fellow samsters here like to hear about them? perhaps i can start a thread on that... let's do a poll. :D

-SBF-
30-03-2007, 03:53 PM
beside going to visiting HCs and FLs, i used to chee hong some female colleagues in my office. do fellow samsters here like to hear about them? perhaps i can start a thread on that... let's do a poll. :D

bro then u can write a story of how u chee hong with them and mabe get to F them???no need to do poll.i belive most bro agree too:D

curiosityz
30-03-2007, 04:41 PM
bro, i suggest you going overseas see see walk walk shang shang xin... don't let your mind keeps thinking of sex and slowly, you should be able to succeed. but as always, said is easier than done.

Clit_LickeR
30-03-2007, 07:06 PM
Find a Religion,it might help u
Bro, i am quite into Religion (can chk with Jane regarding Tarzan's religion) but my hobby is bonking leh kekeke... :D
sex was my religion!
Same here bro! Cheers! hehehehe
The number of SYTs there blading is shocking!
Esp all in wear as little and short as possible!
This is the main reason why i am still blading till now... for more than 12 years liao... :eek:
I tried to get myself out of this addiction but didn't really work. Just plain high sex drive and pretty SYTs still turns me on.
Fellow samsters here have any good suggestions on how to get out of this addiction? This bad habit is burning big holes in my pocket...
Try to find a regular wl, FB or gf who is able to satisfy ur intermost sexual desires... once you got the hang of it, others... will be boring to you...
i'm facing the same issue too... tried taking a sport as hobby - spending the weekend roller blading at East Coast just simply back fired.


Shall we organise a mini blading tcss (hopefully with samstress or even gals kekeke...)
I believe that IMH has counselling for all sorts of addictions....sex, eating, alcohol, drugs, etc.

You might want to call them for help.
Bro, i heard from ppl who asked abt the price...
Per session... Can go for 2 cat 40 "self-treatment"...

justwanadoit
30-03-2007, 09:36 PM
I'm in my late forties and have been cheonging HC, FL etc. for many many years. I tried to get myself out of this addiction but didn't really work. Just plain high sex drive and pretty SYTs still turns me on. :o

Fellow samsters here have any good suggestions on how to get out of this addiction? This bad habit is burning big holes in my pocket. Average $3-400 a month on cheonging. Sibeh Siong man! It is time I really call it quits...

can join church counselling session but usually church got many SYTs so initial period will be even tougher. but hang on , they 'wash' ur brain til u very clean, even naked woman in front of u also wun make u steam( except ur own wife or gf). Try it, got 1 church at Margaret drive call COOS-church of our Saviour. They specialise in counselling, free one, every wed.But u need to book many weeks b4.went b4 cos i also got this problem . Now quite ok liao but still visit Sammyboy la. I empathise cos been in the same situation b4. :)

Soldatos
30-03-2007, 09:45 PM
Side effect: Ur little brother will bcome less sensitive.

Bro you forgot overdeveloped forearm muscles! Exercising like that sure to make it bigger!

hydragen
02-04-2007, 10:56 AM
signed up for a gym a few weeks back, thinking that exercising might help to take my mind away from sex. darn! went to gym and there were like girls in skimmpy shorts and leotards walking. lagi better, some doing the ladder machine. i just stand behind and drool.... how how how? exercise also no use. haha :D

spidey69
02-04-2007, 11:28 AM
can join church counselling session but usually church got many SYTs so initial period will be even tougher. but hang on , they 'wash' ur brain til u very clean, even naked woman in front of u also wun make u steam( except ur own wife or gf). Try it, got 1 church at Margaret drive call COOS-church of our Saviour. They specialise in counselling, free one, every wed.But u need to book many weeks b4.went b4 cos i also got this problem . Now quite ok liao but still visit Sammyboy la. I empathise cos been in the same situation b4.

Bro justwanadoit,

your advice seems quite logical.. but dunno why that advice and your nick dun seem rite leh? machiam contradicting...

you nick says you justwanadoit but u advise ppl go church counselling.. :confused: maybe u should change your nick to stillwannadoit.. :D

surfer888
02-04-2007, 11:43 AM
Fight fire with fire. 以毒攻毒. Start bonking 3 different girls a day. Will probably be sick of it in a month... and if you don't, at least you had fun trying to quit.:D

ekemono
02-04-2007, 12:23 PM
and which men are not addicted to sex?

just have safe sex and spend wisely lor.

diver69er
02-04-2007, 01:56 PM
Find yourself a hobby.Mine......i m into cars.Spent $80k modifying my last 3 cars......jus to impress n pick up girls.End up spending more $$$.Now into scale models.......but ony 1/6 scale anime female figure models.I give up.......its hopeless.Now i immerse myself into my work......to earn more $$$ to CHEONG....CHEONG.....CHEONG.:D :D

diver69er
02-04-2007, 03:36 PM
Bro TD042........currently driving a MIT EVO.Previous rides was a Nissan SILVIA S14......then a Nissan SKYLINE GT-R.:D
Now behaving.......only spent about $20k on my EVO.

diver69er
02-04-2007, 04:41 PM
No lah.......need fast car because always late for work.:D Anyway...bro TD042........wats yr ride??;)

Mark Lim
02-04-2007, 04:46 PM
Bro, nothing wrong with sex drive. Confucious said 食色性也 - eating and bonking is part of human nature. Just enjoy it while you have money, energy and sex drive. When you lose one of them, you will regret writing this message.

jng1103
02-04-2007, 04:50 PM
Bro, nothing wrong with sex drive. Confucious said 食色性也 - eating and bonking is part of human nature. Just enjoy it while you have money, energy and sex drive. When you lose one of them, you will regret writing this message.

Absolutely agree...!!! Enjoy the bonking while u can... Dont wait till ur little brother ED then U come here KPKB :p

Happy Bonking,
jimbo

Mafia Hitman
02-04-2007, 07:56 PM
Best way to get out of addiction is still having no spare cash! No money no honey.

dominion
02-04-2007, 08:01 PM
Best way to get out of addiction is still having no spare cash! No money no honey.

who want to have no spare cash?
like that anything happen no rainy day money ar

Mark Lim
02-04-2007, 08:43 PM
boys, when you reach my age you will understand something more important than cash - SEX !

dominion
02-04-2007, 09:32 PM
boys, when you reach my age you will understand something more important than cash - SEX !

that is erm.... 14? at least it was 14 for me?

Clit_LickeR
02-04-2007, 09:50 PM
ahahah,jane & tarzan....

Hee.... long time no see liao hor...? :P
u go pasir gudang or gp for drag?

How about i go for Konkek...? Can apply or not? :D

Mark Lim
03-04-2007, 09:51 AM
that is erm.... 14? at least it was 14 for me?

ya, started ard 14. alreadi 30 years pass ... time flies

Clit_LickeR
04-04-2007, 08:03 AM
u comfrim can apply....

ok i shall go apply for bbbj til cim, bbbj (again) then fark, cob and cof...
then bbbj again then fark...
Got this promo or not? :p
free for la kopi next time, Get Jane, she have a way to locate Tarzan... cos Tarzan now working as a Lampah Jack (Lumberjack... my english no good)...
cutting trees quite busy... :D