Lost sex interest wt wife

[TheGreat]

Hi bro,

Have soemthing that need you guys advise. Has anyone lost sex interest with wife, like when make love, always cannot get hard, but when i watch porn movie and DIY, my little bro can get hard and come, but with her, always cant be hard, althought i tried very hard, we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.

can any bro share and advise....

thanks in advance.

[Offspring]

avoid porn and pcc for a week. And the next time you do with her definately can get it hard and rocking.

The question is, can u tahan for a week? :p

[TheGreat]

hi bro,

i tried leh, but hor, when ml, still the same loh, i guess something to do with psychologically lah, i always feel very stress went ml. Do you guys always treat yr wife as just sex partner but not wife when ml?

[bigggbird69]

Hi bro,
u can try to spice up your sex life with role play and fantasy that u alwyas desire and get your wife to participate. That should help.:D

[Sneekers]

Same here... 15min into ml, soft liau. Try to spice up the session by asking her to 'moan' but said she like it to be natural. It is like ml to a 'dead wood'. How to be exciting ?? :mad: Some more, she got no initiative to ml. Everytime I have to ask her. Sian liau! During ml session also feel alot of stress. 10-15 min later, she said enough...ask me to finish up. No choice sometime have to resort to PCC. So far haven't tried 'commercial sex' but going on like that...make me very 'fed-up' and tempted.

[SiaoGao]

avoid porn and pcc for a week. And the next time you do with her definately can get it hard and rocking.

The question is, can u tahan for a week? :p


I thought it should be watch as much porn but DON'T pcc for a week....
.....:D
next you do.... it will be like mad dog.....sure stand and Cum !!

[Hugo168]

hi bro,

i tried leh, but hor, when ml, still the same loh, i guess something to do with psychologically lah, i always feel very stress went ml. Do you guys always treat yr wife as just sex partner but not wife when ml?

Take a Break go on a holiday it helps go to an island

[chickenpie]

Bro Thegreat, do not try having sex with your wife for the sake of a mission, like trying for the second child.

I once gotten the same, just don't like to have sex with my wife but later I tried different ways of sex to spike up...
Maybe you have always have sex the usual ways hence you are too used to it or even tire of it. Would advise that you try out having sex the different way.

1. Try out kinky sex.
For example add sex toys or sex games during your love play.

2. View sex as an enjoyment between you 2.
Can add blindfold to your sex play can induce alot of anticipation from your partner.

3. Fantasy sex.
Have a chat with your wife what is her sexual fantasy, or else share yours with your wife.

During your preparation, it would yield better result if you stop having sex and stop watching porns movies etc to stuff your sexual hunger. Give it 2 weeks or more, and try out may be you restore you liking.

Hope that the 2cent of advise is helpful. Wish you all the best. Cheers...:)

[madix]

I guess you really love your wife if both of you all are working towards getting another child. And its frustrating when you can't make it happen. The more you wan to ml the smaller your didi becomes...

Take a weekend break and go for a hol with your wife.
I went taiwan recently and their hotel had 24hr cable porn. My gf and I were having a solid time together watching and f**king our braings out.

:cool:

[ahdee]

agree that going on a holiday with ur wife will be a good way to relax and at the same time share a good romantic time with one another. a good suggestion and budget one is perhaps get on a short 3days2nights cruise from fri-sun...avoid bringing ur 1st child...

ur didi cannot work most likely is stress @ work and u're ml in the same old bedroom. i think ur atmosphere is playing a major factor in you.

:o

[Orgasmic]

i do have the same problem with you at times.

Actually, many guys have lost interest in their wives at some point of another because, basically, the human frequency cannot be tuned to the same hz all the time right? Or maybe, you cant be eating chicken rice all the time right?

Hi bro,

Have soemthing that need you guys advise. Has anyone lost sex interest with wife, like when make love, always cannot get hard, but when i watch porn movie and DIY, my little bro can get hard and come, but with her, always cant be hard, althought i tried very hard, we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.

can any bro share and advise....

thanks in advance.

[Derelict]

Go on a Holiday like what most post mentioned herein. Some place thats cold if possible. A place you wish to go for a long time. Most importantly ask your wife not to talk about problems or family matters. If she starts just remind her she promised not to talk about home. Just enjoy each others company.


Another thing. If she is fat ask her to slim down abit. Talk it out.

Look at her. See if you like her in office attire or if you enjoy looking at her with make up on. If that is the case than I suggest booking a hotel right after work and get intimate.

Hope that helps.

[gnisnal]

This is an interesting thread...

I am so busy now that I have no time to continue on my other thread, which some bros are looking forward too. I promise another part this week, swear!!!

I have to put my 2 cents here, a bit of story. If a bit long winded, paiseh huh.

A friend of mine had the same problem. I know bros, you guy will be saying "a friend or yourself?" Anyway, just to kick off here, my friend or I not the issue, the happenings is. Let's call that person X.

X lost interest with wife, they have 2 kids and are not planning to have any more. Both in mid 30ies but still pretty presentable. After the 2nd kid, work, taking care of children and all kinds of obligations so on so forth, sex is like a subject never to be talked about. Urge of sex was still desired but no initiation was taken by either party. When taken, it is more like a matter to fulfil and not a matter of enjoyment.

Nonetheless X spoke out to wife on the issue and wife responded positively. They started watching porn together, discussed those actions and tried them out.

One saturday night, X took the courage and brought wife to a club with a dance floor. The wife was prepared by X to dress so sexily shouting out "I am available and easy." X made wife go out on the dance floor alone and see whether she will attract any interest. Of course, X has prepared and couched wife before of what to expect. Within the 2 hours, wife had six explicit hits. There may be others wanting but did dare not try. Among the six, guys approached trying everyway to lure her in.

They both went home tipsy and had the sex of their lifes.

During that time, X still cheong. But X cannot find those actions wife is willing to do with X. And that brought the manhood out of X. Wife not stupid but was so understanding and allowed it. With a condition of course, "I know what is going on, but as long as I don't see with my own eyes, it did not happen. Just be careful when fooling around. Practise safe sex. Don't bring any mess home. I am not the centre of attention here but regardless what, just don't make your kids grow up in a broken family."

Since then X lost interest to cheong.

Now if X were to be me, I will be so damn happy. My wife will kill me with just a slight believe of me fooling around. But then again, no more cheong! I cannot imagine life like that, at least for now.

So, an option here to try out. At least for the purpose of getting a new member to the family.

Adios, hehe...

[surfer888]

If porn gives you pleasure then...
...Do what I did to have a child. Watch porn and bonk. You'd be surprised that you may even have premature ejaculations.

Plus I did it on holiday in Europe with Cable porn and did not pcc for over a month before that.

Therefore, it was a couple of the factors that the bros suggested earlier all combined. Just one bonk did the trick for me.

But NEVER NEVER tell her that you are imagining that she looks like the girl on screen. Spare a thought for her feelings. You wouldn't like it yourself if she told you that she has to replace you with another person in order to get wet.

[Castrol]

we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.



dont be too hard on yourself. it will only make it harder, i mean the situation not the didi.

i think every attached guy will experience periods when the didi is not so obedient, but it will pass and your partner will smile again. :D

[nuacoco]

do u still find her sexually attractive?

[MMLL]

Holiday is great, not when you've another young kid.
Do not let your kid sleep in your bedroom.
Maybe another reason is not investing in warming yr wife up. You must not take it for granted. 20+ years of my marriage, I will only enter on my wife's plead. Make yourself needed and not the other way round. We never fail to hv great sex everytime.:D

[boon huat]

bro, ur wife also got her needs.....instead of u watching porn n diy, y dun both of u watch together and try build up mood....more healthy for your relationship this way :)

[dominion]

if its to regain interest then must listen to above advice by seniors...

if just to get 2nd child ha.. then might as well pcc and unload inside her lor :D

[TheGreat]

whenever i tot of ml wt my wife, i just cant treat her that she is my sex partner (pls. dont get me wrong, my wife is not ugly). I am not sure whether the bro here will have this feeling like me, which is, for the people u love, u will not thinking of having sex with her, only those girls that u thinking of play play one, then u will have the urge of ml wt this girl, does any rbo have the same feeling? i had this feeling since young. Last time, durign my uni time, my real gf, we jsut hold hand and kiss, whereas for another girl who flirt around, i actually ml with her (at diff. lah).

[Orgasmic]

whenever i tot of ml wt my wife, i just cant treat her that she is my sex partner (pls. dont get me wrong, my wife is not ugly). I am not sure whether the bro here will have this feeling like me, which is, for the people u love, u will not thinking of having sex with her, only those girls that u thinking of play play one, then u will have the urge of ml wt this girl, does any rbo have the same feeling? i had this feeling since young. Last time, durign my uni time, my real gf, we jsut hold hand and kiss, whereas for another girl who flirt around, i actually ml with her (at diff. lah).

Actually, maybe most guys will share your sentiments.

For wives, we dont marry them for sex do we? That is why you wont be thinking of just fucking her and thats it.

However, for those flings and little chickens, you are roaring to pump up your engine for a quick ride and fuck them hard because you are attacted to their body and there is just no emotional attachment to them.

[GhostRay]

For me, I just go out to loook for other dish to go along with my main course. I like other cannot always eat the same main course for long. Will direct to other dish when I sick of main course.

But after eating side dish, I will always go back to my main course. So bro TheGreat, look at other stuff that will divert your attention away for a short while before go back to wife. That will help, at least for me.

[jin gugu]

whenever i tot of ml wt my wife, i just cant treat her that she is my sex partner ..... i had this feeling since young. Last time, durign my uni time, my real gf, we jsut hold hand and kiss, whereas for another girl who flirt around, i actually ml with her (at diff. lah).

Bro TheGreat,

Based on the above, I would presume that you truely love her as such I would say :

2 people in love; don't look upon each other as sex partners but would view themselves as lovers. Making love is part of the process where lovers will do. If you can view her as lover (and want to have another Ai Ching Jie Jin Ping) then you can do it.

If this don't work maybe you can consider taking the process as a duty to let enjoy the process of making it.

Hope that this little 2 cent is helpful to you.:)

[tomandli]

join swinging ;)

[smartdragon]

I do not know whether you want to try with some herbal or "enhancers"...

Sometimes, after eating some chinese herbals make you more energetic... Personally, I have tried Tongka Ali - give me extra strength during the bonk.. But, buy from reputable sources like Guardian or GNC..

As someone mentioned, a nice atmospher adds more to the sexual intercourse.



Hi bro,

Have soemthing that need you guys advise. Has anyone lost sex interest with wife, like when make love, always cannot get hard, but when i watch porn movie and DIY, my little bro can get hard and come, but with her, always cant be hard, althought i tried very hard, we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.

[triple h]

agree wih most of the bros there.....
try something different, change the style of sex, foreplay, ambience. Maybe do it at a budget hotel.
Kinky is the thing.....subtle but submissive.....not bdsm lah....
Its true, likewise for me....sex with wife damn boring.....plus with kids, damn draining.

It always seems that most bros find screwing other women more sex-tisfying, its true... the adventure, suspense. But bottomline, its the family that comes first.. I stopped reading raunchy books, movies and cut down DIY.... make that move to realise great sex with the wife...... hey hey hey.... like what the lifetime obligation i made when i took my wife : "to love n to hold, in sickness and in health, till death do us part"...sumting like that...

Make time for her....and she'll reciprocate.
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!:D

[curiosityz]

bro, i read the whole thread. i suggest you to have a open talk with your wife and maybe work out something that can make you both turn on and happy having ml...

[retrodude]

Hi to all bros....newbie here, got the same situation as TS. After my 1st child 1yr 3mths ago, stop ML with my darling. But boink other women though. Well, reading this thread kinda giving me ideas on jumpstarting the situation i am in, in trying to puff some live in making love again with my wife. Thanks alllllllllllllll

[EricssonMan]

No matter what, don't give up. Things can always be work out.

[pokeman71]

I thought it should be watch as much porn but DON'T pcc for a week....
.....:D
next you do.... it will be like mad dog.....sure stand and Cum !!

Watch Porn and ML at the same time, choose your most fav one. Imagine your Oc is the AV inside the porn. Sure can do.

Happy making baby.

[Cocky]

Hi bro,

can any bro share and advise....

thanks in advance.

The faster and most effective way is to watch AV and fXXk your wife. Is the mind things.

[TheGreatOne]

i am in a totally opposite position as you, bro thegreat...

can only do with my wife and bloody didi simply won't cooperate with it is with some other girls. even if its FL also half-erect mode and finish it off damn quickly for fear of my didi punture halfway thru the act.

some says a couple of booze can heighten the mood but it won't work for me. before i actually got drunk, my didi is the one kenna knocked out 1st thus leaving me in incompetent state to finish up what i started with my scandal... i confided in a couple of my close friends and were laughed at mercilessly citing maybe i kenna 'gong-tao' by wifey. damn...

but what i personally feel is maybe the guilt that might be eating inside of me.

no pun intended as this is fact and i am sharing with bros out there who could maybe give some enlightenments.

have a nice day

[Onyx2Rock]

Sorry to hear this problem. somehow I got this feeling that u r facing self imposed stress and pressure, which in turn make your condition worst. I would suggest professional medical help from doctors would probably help.

Getting in to Love Making mood is 1 thing, and overcoming physchologic pressure or phsical conditions is another. May be for a start, try not to think too much about it and recharge your mind and body... cos even when u tries so hard to work it up, it still didnt work ya...

My apologies to share from an outsider view, who has not experience ur pains. but juz somehow felt that it seem like u r putting urself in extreme pressure to perform, like taking a die die must pass test.. such pressure often backfire.. which i suffered for my O levels...

Take care and have a breather ya..
Onyx

[sexytoy.com.sg]

[QUOTE=chickenpie;1886713]
3. Fantasy sex.
Have a chat with your wife what is her sexual fantasy, or else share yours with your wife.
[QUOTE]

this is dangerous if your wife is not up to it

[dman69_sg]

Bro...

I share similar sympathy...before I got married to my wife...we were bonking like rabbits daily...now after 6 years of marriage...it ain't interesting as before especially after our son was born...now even in a missionary position...must complain pain and then say that now I fat liao...seems my tummy is making her uncomfortable..knn..next time if I meet the doctor who delivered our son...I sure f@#k him sial...:mad:

This week was at Sim Lim...checked out this sex toy store...wah!!! the sales girl so damn chio...after asking her how all the toys work...finally bo pian...bought a g spot vibrator...wife don't yet so soon I hope tomorrow morning when she horny...I can simply play jap sex patterns man...!!! Lets pray its successful...probably bro with similar case can try also...

Lets take a chance...we will never know till we try!!!:D

[canthaveenuf]

bro TheGreat,

Suggest you dun keep thinking about the 2nd kid. And also tell your wife not to think too much about the 2nd kid. If it happens, it happens. Making love for the sake of having a kid is not making love, it is called "making babies".

To really make love, the passion must be there. For the passion to be there, the pressure must not be there.

Making babies is not just one person's job U know. Furthermore, you also need the right timing cos every month (you are lucky if your wife has her mens regularly every month) there is only a tiny bit of small window available.

So, if you want to make babies (and not make love), aim for that small little window. If not all your efforts will go down the drain.

Cheers