long term whore vs current potential wife.

[AADD]

so i've been in a semi-relationship with this prostitute...for 2 years now.

she's pretty and she have like 3 regular(one of them being me) that keeps up to her lavish spending. i've spend give and take $20k on her already.

but to this day i find $20k quite worth it. i've done recorded our sex, got some of her friend to record our sex, sex in front of my brother, sex in the car, sex at the backseat while my brother's driving, swallowed, bathroom sex like those Japanese soap land sex, Jacuzzi, vibrators, sexy lingerie night clothing, sex in hospital, massive amount of neck love bites til my friend start dissing me about it, first time anal til countless. all sort of crazy batshit position. visited all sort of hotel from budget to 5 stars.

we are very comfy with each other. so much that i introduced my brother to her and she's like my younger sister plus sex advantage.

but you see unlike her other bosses. her main source of income expected her to be his full time only one and i am always like her 2nd hand choice or even 3rd. i think to her she can actually be herself while to others its purely being obedient due to money. I've rented her house for her, paid her bills(electricity water phone cable) for 1 year. and i get to go to her place to bang her whenever she doesn't have "appointment with bosses"

but the problem is i am not young anymore and I've always been in mind to seek out potential marriage partner and she definitely fail as one. i offered her at the very early stages when we met to become mine $1.5k/month and even offered to pay her school fee so she can get a decent job and she flat out rejected. from there onward, we've been just having sex and money for early 1st year. since February I've barely given her any money and I've still been getting adequate sexual needs from her.

and now my friend introduced me to this lady whom i find to be very attractive smart young and capable. pretty much on par in every category maybe loses out a little in facial looks. we latch on pretty quick and dated about a week already all things seemingly positive.

so i am about to ditch this whore and guess what her mouth says OK but her tears starts falling and i always panic when she does that. knowing her for 2 years, prostitute that work in this feel have very little friends or trust issue with everyone customers or other prostitute(fear of stealing customer or hating each other due to customer taken by one another). and she fully trusted me. and losing me is not something she can handle well but however she knows for a fact she doesn't have the right to say anything...

while this current potential wife is so far my miss perfect, economy, height, face, family background are all decent.

so confused right now, i just want to move on properly but i feel that there's gonna be a huge hurricane for me to deal with.

i fear this whore might come in and interrupt my life. she knows i am meeting someone else but doesn't know who is it yet. she knows where i work where i stay....

all i want is to move on and close of this old chapter of me with this whore. 好聚好散 with her.... and start a new fresh page with this potential wife to be...but seems like its gonna be hell...

what i fear the worse is if the potential wife knew about this whore and my relationship life will go back to square one. and friends that introduced me to this potential wife will hate me for this...

i've dugged to deep, what should i do...

[rtmFRs]

your current situation is precarious
i think shoiuld ditch her as soon as you can as she knows too much about you
your damages will likely increase with time

[maxsee]

Just fork out some $$$ to break off with her.....But I wonder if a rs built on lies is healthy or not....:D

[Seba]

Just fork out some $$$ to break off with her.....But I wonder if a rs built on lies is healthy or not....:D
TS, with due respect, if you choose the non-WL as your wife, you will have adjustment issues because the wild sex you enjoyed with the prostitute is unlikely to exist with your non-WL wife.

[Hurricane88]

What is happening to this world now..:)

TS mentioned she was a whore...so all that was happy happening together were transaction which meant you treated her as whore....whores are just for fucking and nothing else...:)

So what was there to worry...except blackmail with all the recorded sex in future...:)

Come clean with your wife if you want a happy marriage...tell your future wife you did this when you were younger...if future wife accepts then proceed...:)

TS was correct to say in a precarious situation...hope you made the right decision...and yes future sex with wife will never be thrilling then with whore...^^

[nutman38]

What is happening to this world now..:)

TS mentioned she was a whore...so all that was happy happening together were transaction which meant you treated her as whore....whores are just for fucking and nothing else...:)

So what was there to worry...except blackmail with all the recorded sex in future...:)

Come clean with your wife if you want a happy marriage...tell your future wife you did this when you were younger...if future wife accepts then proceed...:)

TS was correct to say in a precarious situation...hope you made the right decision...and yes future sex with wife will never be thrilling then with whore...^^


I think just keep the Whore as Friends with Benefit.
And future wife should not find out or even know about your past.
That's the best of both worlds!

[AADD]

i kinda feel bad for the whore as i know she barely has any friend and she looks up to me a lot even at the end when i barely gives her any money and still bang her lots...i mean 2 years...it would be difficult to say i don't have any feelings for her even though she's just a whore...like my little sister.

its been a couple of days we've stopped contacting each other...i worry she might go insane or depressed.

also worrying she might go and do some drastic revenge on me...

on my end, that also means i am sexless for a month or so during this dating period its pretty much a torture.

[CarbonCopy9]

i kinda feel bad for the whore as i know she barely has any friend and she looks up to me a lot even at the end when i barely gives her any money and still bang her lots...i mean 2 years...it would be difficult to say i don't have any feelings for her even though she's just a whore...like my little sister.

its been a couple of days we've stopped contacting each other...i worry she might go insane or depressed.

also worrying she might go and do some drastic revenge on me...

on my end, that also means i am sexless for a month or so during this dating period its pretty much a torture.

If you treat her as sister how to bang here?

From your words above, you already fell in love with the whore. Just that you are not ready to admit and state of denial.

[arsenal_84]

you dig yourself a massive grave...all the while you knew about her bad habits and you just kept going back because of great sex.
at some point, if you ever wanted some stability in life, you knew deep down you are not going to get it from her.

tough luck on your part, you might need to cold turkey yourself from her for a long time before you can move on.

[badblink]

If you treat her as sister how to bang here?

From your words above, you already fell in love with the whore. Just that you are not ready to admit and state of denial.

Cannot bang here then bang at H81?

[Petruk]

A great fuck is hard to get. Take both, the long term WL and current potential.

With the WL, slowly you should prepare her to ditch you, by showing your short temper, sloppiness, inconsiderate of her feelings, unreliable - always late on dates, praise other women - when you are with her, super cheap/stingy, forgetful etc until she feels that you are a real ass hole do not deserve her and that she does herself great favour by dumping you.

Still there is a karma, no guarantee you will have a happy life okey dokee, hunky dory with current potential.

[diputs1269]

Just keep her as a fb who may come handy.
Go ahead and explore new patuners.

[Hanster]

Just keep her as a fb who may come handy.
Go ahead and explore new patuners.

Good suggestion! But i guessed TS also sian liao after bonking her for two years otherwise he wont be looking elsewhere! Tio bor?

[papam]

Nice short story i have read..

If i were you,
i would want both as the potential 1 can satisfy my needs.
the other 1 can bring me happiness but if were to choose for the long term...
oh well.. a future is definately more important than the rest as FL with skills can be found but not 1 that can satisfy all needs and moreover it's been 2 years...

I wish u luck bro...

[AADD]

ignored her for 5 days i think...

couple of nights ago, she lurked near my house inside her car. refusing to go home unless she sees me...will stay inside the car til morning...next thing i fell for the bait and banged her in her house slept in...

she wants to keep on going like that while i have relationship. sounds dangerous...saying life without me is boring since she has no real friends beside me...

the next day she text me at random hours even my buddies can notice...damn troublesome. i'll have to really let her understand its time to quit.

bored of her...sorta...but seriously nowadays to find a good fuck its like 1 in a million. she comes in handy at times like this.

[demonhunter]

I sacrifice myself ...I take over and care for her as a little sister .

pm contact pls

:)

[FunnyHippo]

I sacrifice myself ...I take over and care for her as a little sister .

pm contact pls

:)

JiBye...
You still alive ah?

:D

[AADD]

up til now. this whore is trying her 100% not to break up with me. and i somehow keep falling back into her trap...free pussy hard to ignore...

though she's not taking any money from me any longer.

she keep twisting logic and tries to make it sounds like its ok to have an affair. but seriously i am feeling awful cheating.

because the current girl i am dating is seriously hard to come by...

i feel like this whore's just latching on to me as long as she can and preventing me from seeing another. though she didn't know who is my current girl that i am dating.

perhaps i should just block all her contact and ignore her...but somehow i am not fully doing that...

also i kinda worry she will post pictures of me with her naked to ruin me if i go to far as to piss her off mentally...hell had no fury like a women's wrath...seriously

[a2014]

@AADD, what is done cannot be undone.

You already term her as a prostitute in you first post and you already said she has three regular including you so what are you hesitating ? You cannot accept her for marriage, you just want to support her just to show your existence with the other two regular man with initial investment. It's time to stay backstage and prepare for a decent exit.

You seems to love the sex portion with her as she come with the full set of skills that can make any man erupt like volcano. This is what you will never get from your decent gf to be. Therefore you are very unwilling to let go and this will eventually destroy all your opportunity and ended up you will have to stay with her.

It's natural that she will not let go of you as you are one of her money source she call boss. Everyone thinks for themself and hopefully you can support her lifetime. Even if you did not give her any cent but still a source of income when needed especially when age catch up, you are her insurance company. Apparently if you want to maintain the link you will have to downgrade your relationship status be it FB or FWB and below and then eventually see how it goes.

If you want to chop off the relationship, can you, can you afford to, are you willing to ? Do you have the capacity now to do it, YES you can, on the other hand NO you can't. You have your urge to satisfy, you know what I mean. If you do not kick your habit, you ask for it. I did not say you cannot marry a whore neither did I say you should marry a decent girl. You decide.

Take Care

[innocentindeed]

She is playing with your mind. Wife is always better in the long run

[AADD]

so managed to broke up with two nights ago. blocked her all contacts...but except whatapp...and i try to keep my sanity but feel back into it and start chatting with her...this is gonna make my mindset falldown and end up fucking her again...

woke up this morning with morning wood and start thinking of her again and thoughts of fucking her just keep appearing...

somewhere in my head i definitely dont want to break up with this free pussy...

or maybe i just have to fuck my potential wife...but jesus its dating period...doubt i can get into her pants that soon...

but its gonna bring issues in the future and most likely my marriage(if that happens) and all..

even my brother betted that i will end up fucking her again...

i wish i can keep both and still have a happy life...but hell what am i dreaming of.

[hiswife]

but its gonna bring issues in the future and most likely my marriage(if that happens) and all..

even my brother betted that i will end up fucking her again...

i wish i can keep both and still have a happy life...but hell what am i dreaming of.

Your gf will be devastated if she ever finds out. You can't even keep your pants on at the beginning of the relationship, what chance does the marriage has when things get old and boring? Look around the forum at all the divorce stories, do you want to get a divorce too? I think you should let your gf go so she can seek her happiness elsewhere. You can have your happy life with whores, don't complicate your life.

[sammyboyfor]

so managed to broke up with two nights ago. blocked her all contacts...but except whatapp...and i try to keep my sanity but feel back into it and start chatting with her...this is gonna make my mindset falldown and end up fucking her again...



My dog used to have this urge to fuck anything that moves. It was a real problem and was highly embarrassing for me the owner.

I took him to the vet to remove his crown jewels and ALL his behavioral problems were resolved almost overnight.

He is now a sweet, gentle and lovable character.

Just a suggestion.

[AADD]

Your gf will be devastated if she ever finds out. You can't even keep your pants on at the beginning of the relationship, what chance does the marriage has when things get old and boring? Look around the forum at all the divorce stories, do you want to get a divorce too? I think you should let your gf go so she can seek her happiness elsewhere. You can have your happy life with whores, don't complicate your life.

i know it sounds unfair. i believe its the consistent harassment from the whore(the cries for help or women's tears) thats making my opinion sway.

regarding when things get old or boring...i think it is pretty much ok if wife turns 45++ and become unattractive physically that i start "jiak cua" outside for physical relief.

i blocked her totally now and she still finds way to contact me with new topics everyday.
1st day got herself a pet to curb loneliness asked me to give cat a name.
2nd day selling everything from tv to washing machine intending to move to new apartments because old apartment brings sad memories and asked me to helpnher sell yada yada yada.

thing is i met this whore 1st and she has always been like a benchwarmer when im single and playful. but things get complicated you know...日久生情...i cant just instant be able to cut ties with her.

and yea i probably got my need satisifed too often that now it is difficult to keep it in check. getting used to it...

[a2014]

Your gf will be devastated if she ever finds out. You can't even keep your pants on at the beginning of the relationship, what chance does the marriage has when things get old and boring? Look around the forum at all the divorce stories, do you want to get a divorce too? I think you should let your gf go so she can seek her happiness elsewhere. You can have your happy life with whores, don't complicate your life.
@hiswife, I guess it's the wrong match right from the beginning. During courtship everything is blinded, all vice activities goes undercover and both party tends to accept everything.

After marriage, all undercover activities surfaces and being human, since the paper is signed no need to give face so start to pick on each others shortcoming.

The higher your expectation, the more white you think you are the more disappointed you will be.

I guess for this case @TS should consider marrying the whore as this may bring him more happiness than with the decent girl.

[a2014]

i met this whore 1st and she has always been like a benchwarmer when im single and playful. but things get complicated you know...日久生情...i cant just instant be able to cut ties with her.

and yea i probably got my need satisifed too often that now it is difficult to keep it in check. getting used to it...
@TS, I guess it will be difficult for you to turn things around as you are so use to this kind of branded treatment which a decent girl will not be able to provide you.

Forcing yourself to go for a decent girl just for the sake of marrying a decent girl as a wife and still continue with your branded service addiction will eventually end up in more problem for all parties.

I got a funny feeling, if you marry the whore, you will ended up happier.

[comm]

Why u make this so complicated for urself

1st. There is no need to break up with a prostitue. Just stop paying her and stop having sex with her. If u stop having sex with her will you still want to keep in touch with her ? If the answer is yes then go ahead, still can be close friends ! Why must stop all contact and take such silly hurtful action ?? Just stop the money and stop the sex is enough.

[AADD]

i cant marry this whore for a whole a few reason.
#1. i cant bring her to meet my parent
#2. not to my friends of which few already knew her profession
#3 i have strong feeling she is unable to conceive anymore even she thinks so

i have stopped giving her any money based on sex since febuary and still gets sex whenever i want. any money given are usually when she is sick(i paid he hospital fee), sex in hotel rooms or its her birthday(gift)

the decent girl
are prettier, younger, comes from decent family, have a stable job. smart and all.
both of us are in similar profession and its easier to chat all day with her. only thing bad perhaps is shes still playful and kind of playing hard to get...

i dont see a future with the whore. being with this whore just put me in comfort zone hard to get out of.
i cant imagine marrying a whore and have to live knowing someone i know might have fucked her before.
that is why i am quitting playing around with her...

my mind is set to break up with the whore. to move on. whether or not i will end up marrying the decent girl is another story altogether. i just need strong resolute to break up with the whore and not fall back into it.

[a2014]

i cant marry this whore for a whole a few reason.
#1. i cant bring her to meet my parent
#2. not to my friends of which few already knew her profession
#3 i have strong feeling she is unable to conceive anymore even she thinks so
So this is your concern. Basically face value.

i have stopped giving her any money based on sex since febuary and still gets sex whenever i want. any money given are usually when she is sick(i paid he hospital fee), sex in hotel rooms or its her birthday(gift)
So you are taking advantage and letting the feeling continue so you ask for it. You cannot blame anyone for spoiling your decent marriage in future. In fact you are trying to destroy the whole forest. Sorry to say that.

the decent girl
are prettier, younger, comes from decent family, have a stable job. smart and all.
both of us are in similar profession and its easier to chat all day with her. only thing bad perhaps is shes still playful and kind of playing hard to get...
So this is your dream gift from haven. So how are you going to explain to her about the whore ? You think she will accept it gracefully. Don't forget, before marriage, everything can. After marriage, you shall see where it lead you to.

i dont see a future with the whore. being with this whore just put me in comfort zone hard to get out of.
Do you think you are able to balance while stepping on two boat ? You are not in the comfort zone, in fact you are longing for the SEX zone.

i cant imagine marrying a whore and have to live knowing someone i know might have fucked her before.
Cannot imagine so why still keep turning back ? because you belong to that environment, you will never leave that environment. A decent girl is going to be just like a dream if you don't treasure it. It all boils down to your ego, what if later you found out the decent girl is not a virgin anymore ? So what make you so sure this decent girl is whiter than white.

that is why i am quitting playing around with her...
based on what you describe, I guess you will never quit as the whore knows exactly how to deal with you and your weakness and you know your urge and ego is more than anything. Cutting off all tie is basically a drama, it don't lead you to any good ending. Basically you are just struggling to break loose.

Take Care bro, I am not saying you are wrong, but only very in decisive, you want best of both world knowing it will not exist, but you just want to hold on to it as long as you can. You need to know what to let go and when to let go.

[AADD]

i am currenly trying my best to step out from the other boat. i kept turning back because the status was more like a fuck buddy. i dont expect current girlfriend tobe virgin or anything. she had clingy past with her ex as well that i don't bother to checkout on much.

yes i let things continue..i asked for it. i am still in dating phase with my current girlfriend, i will eventually tell her the truth about the whore and if she wish to pursue things of the past then we can breaknup no problem..then we are not meant to be...

[AADD]

i guess womens 6th sense are extremely strong...

broke up with girlfriend unofficially. most likely she knew about the whore...

extremely stressed at the idea how my life with my girlfriend would have been so great..planned everything ticket to japan holiday, wedding money prepared $50k+, just needing to get rid of my past whore, but its too late she found out before i can get rid of the whore...

this fucking whore ruined my life kinda by not wanting to let go....

i wonder how harsh do you have to be to send a break up massage to another person who is in denial of breaking up...

well i've digged out the trouble myself...serves me right to letting go a bright future but life goes on...plenty of fish in the sea.

for the moment..i'll stay single..

[wonderfix]

Two cents bro. No offense meant.

The whore didn't break up or mess up your life if you are the one who can't let go.

It's like quit smoking. No such thing as smoke less then slowly quit. Once decided, go cold turkey. It's that simple. All about will power.

[porscheclub]

Agree with wonderfix.

A whore-monger who cannot escape his livid world is best not to destroy the happiness of others.

[shiokshiokrelax]

i wish i can keep both and still have a happy life...but hell what am i dreaming of.

its only human to think that way. greedy is nature of man.

[elitez]

bro, if i were you, i will pay her some money and break off from her:)

[fictionman]

Two cents bro. No offense meant.

The whore didn't break up or mess up your life if you are the one who can't let go.

It's like quit smoking. No such thing as smoke less then slowly quit. Once decided, go cold turkey. It's that simple. All about will power.

Damm rite...TS keeps goin on & on like a broken record...

TS...stop calling her a whore...Show some respect la

[elitez]

so i've been in a semi-relationship with this prostitute...for 2 years now.

she's pretty and she have like 3 regular(one of them being me) that keeps up to her lavish spending. i've spend give and take $20k on her already.

but to this day i find $20k quite worth it. i've done recorded our sex, got some of her friend to record our sex, sex in front of my brother, sex in the car, sex at the backseat while my brother's driving, swallowed, bathroom sex like those Japanese soap land sex, Jacuzzi, vibrators, sexy lingerie night clothing, sex in hospital, massive amount of neck love bites til my friend start dissing me about it, first time anal til countless. all sort of crazy batshit position. visited all sort of hotel from budget to 5 stars.

we are very comfy with each other. so much that i introduced my brother to her and she's like my younger sister plus sex advantage.

but you see unlike her other bosses. her main source of income expected her to be his full time only one and i am always like her 2nd hand choice or even 3rd. i think to her she can actually be herself while to others its purely being obedient due to money. I've rented her house for her, paid her bills(electricity water phone cable) for 1 year. and i get to go to her place to bang her whenever she doesn't have "appointment with bosses"

but the problem is i am not young anymore and I've always been in mind to seek out potential marriage partner and she definitely fail as one. i offered her at the very early stages when we met to become mine $1.5k/month and even offered to pay her school fee so she can get a decent job and she flat out rejected. from there onward, we've been just having sex and money for early 1st year. since February I've barely given her any money and I've still been getting adequate sexual needs from her.

and now my friend introduced me to this lady whom i find to be very attractive smart young and capable. pretty much on par in every category maybe loses out a little in facial looks. we latch on pretty quick and dated about a week already all things seemingly positive.

so i am about to ditch this whore and guess what her mouth says OK but her tears starts falling and i always panic when she does that. knowing her for 2 years, prostitute that work in this feel have very little friends or trust issue with everyone customers or other prostitute(fear of stealing customer or hating each other due to customer taken by one another). and she fully trusted me. and losing me is not something she can handle well but however she knows for a fact she doesn't have the right to say anything...

while this current potential wife is so far my miss perfect, economy, height, face, family background are all decent.

so confused right now, i just want to move on properly but i feel that there's gonna be a huge hurricane for me to deal with.

i fear this whore might come in and interrupt my life. she knows i am meeting someone else but doesn't know who is it yet. she knows where i work where i stay....

all i want is to move on and close of this old chapter of me with this whore. 好聚好散 with her.... and start a new fresh page with this potential wife to be...but seems like its gonna be hell...

what i fear the worse is if the potential wife knew about this whore and my relationship life will go back to square one. and friends that introduced me to this potential wife will hate me for this...

i've dugged to deep, what should i do...

Bro, how old are you if you dont mind. Why the urgent need to settle down?

[AADD]

i am in my 30s. parents keep nagging me to start a family already.

i didn't break up with my potential wife...apparently i think too much the girl is just playing hard to get...and extremely..

the more she knows about me, the more she complains like a noisy wife. very judgemental of my financial capabilities and telling me i should be more independent financially and not be tied to family business so bad.

complaining i am in my comfort zone and not working hard enough to progress.

everytime date with her she will talk about other richer man comparing this and that. but in the end those richer man end up with divorce due to having mistresses outside.

her life surroundings consist of wealthier people than her that is why she wants me to get rich else no cigar.

her room is shared along with her 2 sisters so small.
while my room is perhaps 4x4 huge and i stay alone.

my salary, my car, my house are all better than hers. yet she still whines like a bitch that's never satisfied.

the more i know her, the more it looks like she wants a rich man and not love....very irritated..

she's got a lot of positive points that i like about her. but her negative points are glaring...makes me wonder am i playing way too high above my league.

this year i am in economic slump so bad until im actually struggling to keep up my expenses. and without any word this whore just borrowed me $4k to get by.

and females are super detectives when they are jealous. i accidentally slipped out my potential wife name a little(just her nickname). she went full detective finding my friends facebook for anything relevant to the her name. and she found it.


Because she knows about the potential wife she just backed off from me and went to malaysia to try and forget me...whoring over there perhaps...while saying trying to forget me still contact me everyday nonetheless...pointless sia...

i can tell this whore truly loves me (or perhaps im overthinking) but she is still a whore

while the potential wife is....

sometimes thinking of both choices...i think i rather stay single....fml.

[maxsee]

Think that you should find someone else....Nothing wrong that she want someone with more financial capabilities....i mean everyone have different things they want in life.....she wanted more and you dun seem to fit the bill....

Though one thing i agree with her....u should be more financially independent especially when u r only in ur 30s....u should leave your family bizness and explore the world outside to gain some real working experience...You can always come back later on in ur 40s...it is never too late to learn....

Like u say economy is not doing well now, you should take this chance to explore other industry if u r in a sunset industry...

Don't wait until the whole house collaspe before you start the search...And in family bizness u r usually paid a measely salary....the only thing nice is it is ur own bizness..lol

And you should never lend ur girlfriend money.....probably not getting back....

End of the day, the only thing i agree is that you should leave ur family bizness unless ur family bizness is a huge conglomerate that takes years to take over..otherwise don't waste ur time....But then again if u r a huge conglomerate you won' be bothered about 4k...so time to go out to the real world.....:D:D:D

[AADD]

well i do have business outside. but its barely making ends meet but hey im paying people salary rather than being an employee.

my family business is paying me an amount that is difficult to achieve working outside....which is why...

bugger. in the end we men have to keep progressing to get better things in life...

and leaving my family business my parent will cursed me for it. calling me unfillial and stuff. coz it happened once already just talking about leaving brings hell lot of problems.

ps. i didnt lend money from girlfriend. i borrowed money from the prostitute...sounds bad...

[xxxaddict]

the whore (your word, not mine) lent you money?

she's not that bad right?

just that you need to get over the whoring that she has done.

what a whorrible situation to be in.

[seekerJ]

the more i know her, the more it looks like she wants a rich man and not love....very irritated..

she's got a lot of positive points that i like about her. but her negative points are glaring...makes me wonder am i playing way too high above my league.

this year i am in economic slump so bad until im actually struggling to keep up my expenses. and without any word this whore just borrowed me $4k to get by.

i can tell this whore truly loves me (or perhaps im overthinking) but she is still a whore

while the potential wife is....

sometimes thinking of both choices...i think i rather stay single....fml.

Bro AADD.. It seem you are been pressure to get marry which is not a good reason to start a family. She may want you to do better in life and advice you how to be successful for your own good or maybe she want you to be someone she can look up to. I'm not the one listening to her so I cant know where she coming from.

I agree that you are too dependent of your family biz income and not really focus on your own biz so maybe that's y u cant breakthrough from the financial situation. I know biz take time to build but I think all these drama of your "whore" have distracted you too much.

The "whore" you call really lend you the money, I don't think you should calling her a whore. How many friends you have that can lend you money when u in need? She do love you so she helped you. She can't get out of been a SB is also part of her problem and you cant get out of having the sex with her.

Maybe you really need to cold turkey from her and the potential wife first and focus on yourself and your business. If it mean to be yours, the one return and maybe u need to get over the "whore" you term on her.

[mushimushimo]

Honestly AADD, I'm sure you already know but perhaps you need outside affirmation, all I can judge from you have written is you certainly would not be happy long term with either lady. For guy 30s is indeed not early for marriage but certainly not late. :)



i am in my 30s. parents keep nagging me to start a family already.

i didn't break up with my potential wife...apparently i think too much the girl is just playing hard to get...and extremely..

the more she knows about me, the more she complains like a noisy wife. very judgemental of my financial capabilities and telling me i should be more independent financially and not be tied to family business so bad.

complaining i am in my comfort zone and not working hard enough to progress.

everytime date with her she will talk about other richer man comparing this and that. but in the end those richer man end up with divorce due to having mistresses outside.

her life surroundings consist of wealthier people than her that is why she wants me to get rich else no cigar.

her room is shared along with her 2 sisters so small.
while my room is perhaps 4x4 huge and i stay alone.

my salary, my car, my house are all better than hers. yet she still whines like a bitch that's never satisfied.

the more i know her, the more it looks like she wants a rich man and not love....very irritated..

she's got a lot of positive points that i like about her. but her negative points are glaring...makes me wonder am i playing way too high above my league.

this year i am in economic slump so bad until im actually struggling to keep up my expenses. and without any word this whore just borrowed me $4k to get by.

and females are super detectives when they are jealous. i accidentally slipped out my potential wife name a little(just her nickname). she went full detective finding my friends facebook for anything relevant to the her name. and she found it.


Because she knows about the potential wife she just backed off from me and went to malaysia to try and forget me...whoring over there perhaps...while saying trying to forget me still contact me everyday nonetheless...pointless sia...

i can tell this whore truly loves me (or perhaps im overthinking) but she is still a whore

while the potential wife is....

sometimes thinking of both choices...i think i rather stay single....fml.

[jenquai]

I think you are not mature enough to settle down and get married. No doubt the 'whore' you keep referring to has some genuine feelings towards you, and has even lent you money no questions asked. Very few friends can do that. And yet you consistently name call her, instead of just using girl A or girl B as reference.
Her choice of lifestyle to earn an income is not something evil, it just goes against social norms. You choose to engage in all that you have with her, the least you can do is show some responsibility and not stoop so low as to name call.
Utterly disappointing.

[Robocop85]

It's very difficult to give a right answer bro. Sometimes you need to trust your gut feelings.
I can share a short story of a close friend, he was married for many years. Wife refuse to bang n have children. Always complacent about life. Altitude very bad and always can't work for months and always jobless.

Husband work of his ass to pay multiple debts, from home to car to dream wedding. Can see him very Jialat state. His parents always pressurised her to have babies. Alas, things didn't work out between there, she force him to sleep in the living room for months.

One day, during working trip in Malaysia, he met a massage prc with special. The lady is like a typical milf, quite chao lao. He visit her a few times and finally got into serious relationship. And finally, she bore him a child in Malaysia there.

Since there is no point to maintain the relationship in Singapore, he divorce her, sell the flat and ask her to FO. After months of paper work, finally the prc lady move in to singapore. Now she is a housewife taking care of child, my friend can finally piak piak. Now he looks happier and although still deep in debt. But it works out for him this way.

Sorry for lengthy story. Hope it helps you. Cheers bro

[AADD]

I think you are not mature enough to settle down and get married. No doubt the 'whore' you keep referring to has some genuine feelings towards you, and has even lent you money no questions asked. Very few friends can do that. And yet you consistently name call her, instead of just using girl A or girl B as reference.
Her choice of lifestyle to earn an income is not something evil, it just goes against social norms. You choose to engage in all that you have with her, the least you can do is show some responsibility and not stoop so low as to name call.
Utterly disappointing.

maybe i am not 'mature' enough. i called her whore/prostitute cause that is her profession i see nothing wrong with that. i've offered her to stop many times she doesn't. anyway, she lent me money can somewhat be assumed as a reason for to justify her contacting me nonstop which is a bother since it guilts me that i am still in contact with 'A' while dating 'B'....

i am getting absolutely no sex atm and i dont mind abt it. but i get tempted if 'A' steer way too close provocatively....

[Megatronzombie]

maybe i am not 'mature' enough. i called her whore/prostitute cause that is her profession i see nothing wrong with that. i've offered her to stop many times she doesn't. anyway, she lent me money can somewhat be assumed as a reason for to justify her contacting me nonstop which is a bother since it guilts me that i am still in contact with 'A' while dating 'B'....

Seriously bro TS. From your comments i got this feeling you are way immature. Why? Ill list it down. Im usually very candid so forgive me if you are offended.

1) stop calling the girl you have been using for sex but developed a bond a "whore". She is human. You fuck around too, should i start calling you "fucker"? If you don'tsee something is wrong with that like you suggested in your comments above, it means you have no sense of respect and civility.

2) you said there is nothing that pays better than your family business thats why you are still in it. Really? In your 30s its not always about money. Experience is more important at that age as it will benefits you in the long term plus it mightevenbenefit your family business next time when you bring in new ideas and concept to expand it. You also mentioned you are struggling financially yet you have house, car everything. Sounds like you are relying heavily on your family business. You also said your family will curse you if you leave the business. A matured man will know how to convince your family that its more beneficial for the business you gain more experience outside first. Its no excuse. There are also alot of jobs out there that earns better than business. I was earning $17k in my mid 30s before bonuses etc. Thats not a lotbut more than enough that you shouldnt be struggling financially even with house and car.

3) you don't seem to be experienced in a normal relationship. You seemed to praise your future wife to the sky and when things went bad you finally expose her true nature. That of a conceited normal singaporean girl with aspiration of a rich husband. But then again, is that what she really is or is that what you portrayed her to be? The flipside is she was simply telling you to be more independent and leave your comfort zone. Have you thought about that?

The above points aside, i find it really cheap of you to offer just $1.5k to keep the "whore". Thats so damn cheap. No offence!

[jabwemet]

Seriously bro TS. From your comments i got this feeling you are way immature. Why? Ill list it down. Im usually very candid so forgive me if you are offended.

1) stop calling the girl you have been using for sex but developed a bond a "whore". She is human. You fuck around too, should i start calling you "fucker"? If you don'tsee something is wrong with that like you suggested in your comments above, it means you have no sense of respect and civility.

2) you said there is nothing that pays better than your family business thats why you are still in it. Really? In your 30s its not always about money. Experience is more important at that age as it will benefits you in the long term plus it mightevenbenefit your family business next time when you bring in new ideas and concept to expand it. You also mentioned you are struggling financially yet you have house, car everything. Sounds like you are relying heavily on your family business. You also said your family will curse you if you leave the business. A matured man will know how to convince your family that its more beneficial for the business you gain more experience outside first. Its no excuse. There are also alot of jobs out there that earns better than business. I was earning $17k in my mid 30s before bonuses etc. Thats not a lotbut more than enough that you shouldnt be struggling financially even with house and car.

3) you don't seem to be experienced in a normal relationship. You seemed to praise your future wife to the sky and when things went bad you finally expose her true nature. That of a conceited normal singaporean girl with aspiration of a rich husband. But then again, is that what she really is or is that what you portrayed her to be? The flipside is she was simply telling you to be more independent and leave your comfort zone. Have you thought about that?

The above points aside, i find it really cheap of you to offer just $1.5k to keep the "whore". Thats so damn cheap. No offence!

Agree with every point/statement here. Also find it suspicious, TS keeps calling the girl a 'whore'.
Hey TS,
Ur ex-gf wanting you to get out of your comfort zone and realize your full potential doesn't make her a bad person. And you calling her out for it makes you look like a petty, small man.
All in all, you get what you deserve, and you don't deserve much by the looks of it. You had a great run financially and sexually but tough times make great men. Time for you to choose if gonna be pussy or a great man. Or whatever.. you sound like a disgusting person anyways.