Is visiting HC considered cheating?

[deathknight828]

Curious to know who of us are married and visit HC and why do you do so?
I've not done anything hanky panky at any HC. it's tempting to go but i just watch porn to release. my wife doesnt entertain me when she is having her time of the month and i feel agitated at times. bros here care to share your experiences?

[sammyboyfor]

The most appropriate person to consult regarding this issue is your wife.

If she says it isn't cheating then you can go ahead and enjoy yourself without feeling guilty.

[FUNNYANDHORNY]

Curious to know who of us are married and visit HC and why do you do so?
I've not done anything hanky panky at any HC. it's tempting to go but i just watch porn to release. my wife doesnt entertain me when she is having her time of the month and i feel agitated at times. bros here care to share your experiences?

You can p.c.c...:D
but, follow Boss adviCe above is Bestest.

maybe wife consider p.c.c also cheating.?

[Hurricane88]

Curious to know who of us are married and visit HC and why do you do so?
I've not done anything hanky panky at any HC. it's tempting to go but i just watch porn to release. my wife doesnt entertain me when she is having her time of the month and i feel agitated at times. bros here care to share your experiences?

The fact you already went to the HC and in most religions it is taboo where you had committed a sin.

Many here had shared MFF or MMF which include their spouse...some love to see their spouse fark others...so yours considered nothing....:)

[D-joker]

Bro. It doesnt matter.....

It doesnt matter if ur wife thinks tat going hc is wrong or nt.

Basic rule is u r always innocent unless found guilt

[thedevil666]

My own RL example. Recently I declared to my wife that I no longer love her. When I talked to her, I explained the whole thing I'm going through in 3 parts.

1. I no longer love her. I want to be single
2. I visited MP with happy ending
3. I have been seeing a girl outside, and I like the girl

Guess which one made her walk out on me? It was no. 2. She say relationship can be rebuilt, she will make me love her again. The 3rd party she can close an eye and she feels it could be just a infatuation. But visiting those "dirty" place, she cannot fathom ever to touch me again.

[Nineswords]

If he ask his wife this question , he will be dead meat . :D

[S.B.Y.1]

The most appropriate person to consult regarding this issue is your wife.

Sound advice considering the "Bobbitt" case might be around the corner.:D

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_and_Lorena_Bobbitt

[sourhock]

Bro. It doesnt matter.....

It doesnt matter if ur wife thinks tat going hc is wrong or nt.

Basic rule is u r always innocent unless found guilt

Well said bro :)

[sadfa]

Curious to know who of us are married and visit HC and why do you do so?
I've not done anything hanky panky at any HC. it's tempting to go but i just watch porn to release. my wife doesnt entertain me when she is having her time of the month and i feel agitated at times. bros here care to share your experiences?

Some spore women don't know massage is dirty kind.
Once they know, YES they'll consider it cheating
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Exchange points is cheating?

[jfrank]

When there is a "live firing" , probably considered as cheating ? Lol

[newyorker88]

MP are places for firing. Sometimes u want to release with someone else or do things your wife dont want to do w you.

Love issues/relationships with others is another. Go out to have fun in HC and loving someone other than your wife is separate issue. If the wife cannot see this, it is going to be a hard marriage.

[Confusius]

Curious to know who of us are married and visit HC and why do you do so?
I've not done anything hanky panky at any HC. it's tempting to go but i just watch porn to release. my wife doesnt entertain me when she is having her time of the month and i feel agitated at times. bros here care to share your experiences?

KNN, don't entertain you during that time of the month and you get agitated ....
99.9% of ppl don't do it during that time of the month.
You may want to adjust your expectations.

PCC and release at HC / FL, both are the same ejaculation without emotional attachment.
If PCC considered cheating? :D

[lasupkia]

Bill Clinton declared getting a BJ is not sex thus not wrong.
So did u poke the girl in her pussy? Any other hole according to BC definition is not sex.

[Lemonthree]

Is asking for high salary with the excuse of "lower chances of corruption" an act of corruption? :p

[sundial]

The though or faciniating of having sex with another other than your committed partner is already cheating..... Not even the action 😫
Btw I am no saint....

[gjlow]

If the roles were reversed would you consider this cheating?

[Bestie]

Got once, me and my mata walk pass this Spa which I have visited before.

She say why don't we go in and try, my heart was beating damn hard, don't know how to react, just gong gong follow her in.

The recept saw me, than saw my mata, my heart thinking, jit pai jiak lut liao......

She really steady pun pi pi, pretend don't know me and told my mata here not unisex spa, only for guys, mata still ask her why only for guys? Than turn around ask me why like that?

Already jin stun, now more stun, than the pretty recept come to my rescue again, becos due to shop space constraint, difficult to accommodate unisex massaging, waw piang, the way she answer damn professional :D

After walk out from the spa, mata give me a look, very scary look lor :D

[sadfa]

Got once, me and my mata walk pass this Spa which I have visited before.

She say why don't we go in and try, my heart was beating damn hard, don't know how to react, just gong gong follow her in.

The recept saw me, than saw my mata, my heart thinking, jit pai jiak lut liao......

She really steady pun pi pi, pretend don't know me and told my mata here not unisex spa, only for guys, mata still ask her why only for guys? Than turn around ask me why like that?

Already jin stun, now more stun, than the pretty recept come to my rescue again, becos due to shop space constraint, difficult to accommodate unisex massaging, waw piang, the way she answer damn professional :D

After walk out from the spa, mata give me a look, very scary look lor :D

Mata? You go with police?
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Exchange points need police ma?

[Timetogo]

TS, by looking at, thinking or talking to a woman other than your wife, should be consider cheating and created a sin. Like that one would faster gouge out the eyes and wash it with Dettol. Then kneel down infront of your wife, wear her undies on your head, slap your face, lick her toes and ask for forgiven.:rolleyes::eek:

[slimbullet]

rule #63 of cheonging: innocent till proven guilty.

[MrBrat]

No wonder Singapore divorce rates are going up .

[anikisan]

My own RL example. Recently I declared to my wife that I no longer love her. When I talked to her, I explained the whole thing I'm going through in 3 parts.

1. I no longer love her. I want to be single
2. I visited MP with happy ending
3. I have been seeing a girl outside, and I like the girl

Guess which one made her walk out on me? It was no. 2. She say relationship can be rebuilt, she will make me love her again. The 3rd party she can close an eye and she feels it could be just a infatuation. But visiting those "dirty" place, she cannot fathom ever to touch me again.

For #2 right, i think it's because your wifey thinks that she can't be compared to those 'bad women or prostitutes', so it is more of an personal ego thing rather than love.

[otamay]

If the massage is decent without any hanky panky then is not cheating.

[Bestie]

Mata? You go with police?
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Exchange points need police ma?

Haha, no la, mata means my wife la:D

[sadfa]

Haha, no la, mata means my wife la:D

I think your wife knows your cca la.

Thats why she brought u there n gave u the knowing look which means "I know this spa is not clean wan. You better becareful ok."
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Exchange points must know ma?

[ddog]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

[Evetan86]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

Points of 7 added for exchange

[Big Sister80]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

7 added for trade

[sleeping]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

8 points upped for exchange

[More]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

8 more upped for exchange

[Abbie Mayo]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

Upped sir 7 for exchange

[VIETLONER]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

Upped my humble for exchange

[Shoot To Target]

Guilty or not depends on own conscience. certain olden olden culture it's considered socially acceptable to sleep around, and for some native cultures it's totally acceptable to exchange wives or be promiscuous and to be a polygamist.
Humans have been programmed since young to abide and accept certain norms. So what's right and right is largely subjective.

9 shoots upped for exchange

[lor16geylang]

7 added for trade

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[diputs1269]

Anyone trading here?

[lincoln3010]

no its not cos most ladies think its just a massage done by a professional therapists...enjoy all you want be rmb to love your love ones

[ZeroSun]

Just my 2cents worth of comment:

If you wanted to consider cheating ask the following question to yourself:
1) will you tell your wife/gf?
2) what you think your wife/gf will react if you tell them?
3) self consciously do you feel guilty going to MP?

If the above is is all negative then you should know the answer...

Anyway different people have different reason to visit these places. for me is really to love my spouse more, why? Everytime I feel down and nobody to talk to or stress out visiting them will really let me take a time off and recollect myself, rethink about family and work. As I come backc automatically will talk more with my spouse and loving each other more... Just that something need to be kept secret forever... Whatever happen in the room stay in the room...

Cheers...

[Dolfin]

Just my 2cents worth of comment:

If you wanted to consider cheating ask the following question to yourself:
1) will you tell your wife/gf?
2) what you think your wife/gf will react if you tell them?
3) self consciously do you feel guilty going to MP?

If the above is is all negative then you should know the answer...

Anyway different people have different reason to visit these places. for me is really to love my spouse more, why? Everytime I feel down and nobody to talk to or stress out visiting them will really let me take a time off and recollect myself, rethink about family and work. As I come backc automatically will talk more with my spouse and loving each other more... Just that something need to be kept secret forever... Whatever happen in the room stay in the room...

Cheers...

Well said bro :)

[tikogoh]

Just my 2cents worth of comment:

If you wanted to consider cheating ask the following question to yourself:
1) will you tell your wife/gf?
2) what you think your wife/gf will react if you tell them?
3) self consciously do you feel guilty going to MP?

If the above is is all negative then you should know the answer...

Anyway different people have different reason to visit these places. for me is really to love my spouse more, why? Everytime I feel down and nobody to talk to or stress out visiting them will really let me take a time off and recollect myself, rethink about family and work. As I come backc automatically will talk more with my spouse and loving each other more... Just that something need to be kept secret forever... Whatever happen in the room stay in the room...

Cheers...

The 1st 2 questions are what I should have considered, but small head took over big head, so I ignored the consequences. Thankfully I got my wife to understand and now she knows it's her duty to have sex with me and not put her career over me. Not that I don't support her going back to work after 6 years since my son was born, it's also I have my needs too.

[arsenal168]

My own RL example. Recently I declared to my wife that I no longer love her. When I talked to her, I explained the whole thing I'm going through in 3 parts.

1. I no longer love her. I want to be single
2. I visited MP with happy ending
3. I have been seeing a girl outside, and I like the girl

Guess which one made her walk out on me? It was no. 2. She say relationship can be rebuilt, she will make me love her again. The 3rd party she can close an eye and she feels it could be just a infatuation. But visiting those "dirty" place, she cannot fathom ever to touch me again.

Very insightful...Women are interesting creation, the way they look at things...take the men a whole lifetime to fathom & still won't completely understand them.

[scissor]

Just my 2cents worth of comment:

If you wanted to consider cheating ask the following question to yourself:
1) will you tell your wife/gf?
2) what you think your wife/gf will react if you tell them?
3) self consciously do you feel guilty going to MP?

If the above is is all negative then you should know the answer...

Anyway different people have different reason to visit these places. for me is really to love my spouse more, why? Everytime I feel down and nobody to talk to or stress out visiting them will really let me take a time off and recollect myself, rethink about family and work. As I come backc automatically will talk more with my spouse and loving each other more... Just that something need to be kept secret forever... Whatever happen in the room stay in the room...

Cheers...

Thank you for advice.

[loststranger]

We humans have always been finding ways and reasons to justify our own actions.

The definition of cheating differs with different people. Some say as long as you have the thought of desiring anyone else but your partner is already cheating- mentality cheating. This- I thought was bullshit. We all have our own desires. But it's enough for some women to walk out with that.

Some consider visiting FL as not cheating, because it's just a business transaction, like buying candy from a store.

I guess it's unless you meet someone else and doing couple stuff like dating and romancing, putting in real feelings and all.. the definition of 'cheating' is definitely a grey zone.

At the end of the day, you probably have to put yourself in your partner's shoes. If it's acceptable for you that she goes out to find someone random to fuck, be it monetary or not..then it might make you feel better that you're doing the same. Cos that's essentially not cheating in your terms.

It all boils down to 'whatever rows your boat' man, no pun intended. It's just that when we go home and avoid looking into our partner's eyes daily, it's the guilt that we have and fight everyday to make ourselves feel better about shit that we do outside.

[Seba]

We humans have always been finding ways and reasons to justify our own actions.

The definition of cheating differs with different people. Some say as long as you have the thought of desiring anyone else but your partner is already cheating- mentality cheating. This- I thought was bullshit. We all have our own desires. But it's enough for some women to walk out with that.

Some consider visiting FL as not cheating, because it's just a business transaction, like buying candy from a store.

I guess it's unless you meet someone else and doing couple stuff like dating and romancing, putting in real feelings and all.. the definition of 'cheating' is definitely a grey zone.

At the end of the day, you probably have to put yourself in your partner's shoes. If it's acceptable for you that she goes out to find someone random to fuck, be it monetary or not..then it might make you feel better that you're doing the same. Cos that's essentially not cheating in your terms.

It all boils down to 'whatever rows your boat' man, no pun intended. It's just that when we go home and avoid looking into our partner's eyes daily, it's the guilt that we have and fight everyday to make ourselves feel better about shit that we do outside.

To me, anything you don't dare to tell your wife is cheating, therefore both commercial sex and having an affair are cheating.

However, the damage done to marriage due to visiting WL/MP is negligible compared to having an affair, mainly because visiting WL/MP is at most 1 hour and $200, but having an affair is 24 hours, 7 days a week and much more $$$ and worst of all, tons of emotional commitment.

My 2-cent with worth.....

[sgjoey]

It is cheating going by conventional monogamy culture. We all (most of us anyway) unthinkingly bought into the culture and were nurtured into it from young.

But why be governed by such monogamistic thinking? In fact there is plenty of evidence that monogamy itself is highly unnatural to us as a species. That is why showing interest in other potential sexual partners is so very common for BOTH sexes -- people are simply exhibiting perfectly normal tendencies.

[move4wards]

Just pure massage is ok but if with happy ending than consider cheating

[Underleh]

Just pure massage is ok but if with happy ending than consider cheating

Same thoughts as well