Ladies: are u able to continue have sex with a cheating husband / bf

[Ccsor]

Say if u find out ur husband or bf are gng for paid sex / affairs, are u still able to continue intimacy with him?

[Rickey]

Say if u find out ur husband or bf are gng for paid sex / affairs, are u still able to continue intimacy with him?
Sis, i know of a lady friend who just married only 6 mths ago...tat was wat exactly happened :(...she filed for divorce :mad:

[Ccsor]

Sis, i know of a lady friend who just married only 6 mths ago...tat was wat exactly happened :(...she filed for divorce :mad:

Oh no second chance. It is sad though. In my case, I knew even though not once. But for the sake of my kid, I let it be.

[HelloAngel]

If it's affair, it's complicated and harder for a guy to leave the girl. If it's paid sex, it's just fulfilling a physical need. Find out why your guy go for paid sex. It can be an addiction or it can be out of playfulness. Guys are programmed to have sex without feelings so it's no big deal to them. Just make sure he wears rubber all the time.

If you are married, then you gotto consider if you wanna divorce and be single again. A marriage will not work without sex and intimacy. Those who say can are just leading separate lives and together cos of kids. Men have needs and women too. We need hugs n kisses and sex is an expression of love between hubby n wife. If you can accept his sexual infidelity, then close two eyes and don't think too much. If you can't, then talk to him and decide how to move on. It ain't easy being a single but it doesn't mean it's impossible. Never compromise on what you cannot accept and live a miserable life. All the best, sis!

[Ccsor]

If it's affair, it's complicated and harder for a guy to leave the girl. If it's paid sex, it's just fulfilling a physical need. Find out why your guy go for paid sex. It can be an addiction or it can be out of playfulness. Guys are programmed to have sex without feelings so it's no big deal to them. Just make sure he wears rubber all the time.

If you are married, then you gotto consider if you wanna divorce and be single again. A marriage will not work without sex and intimacy. Those who say can are just leading separate lives and together cos of kids. Men have needs and women too. We need hugs n kisses and sex is an expression of love between hubby n wife. If you can accept his sexual infidelity, then close two eyes and don't think too much. If you can't, then talk to him and decide how to move on. It ain't easy being a single but it doesn't mean it's impossible. Never compromise on what you cannot accept and live a miserable life. All the best, sis!

I dont think a man generally will tell his partner anything when asked. Which is the case for mine. Or rather the truth can be hurtful I guess. Did propose allowing him leading his own life and I lead my own life without divorcing, for the sake of my child. But he's adamant about it. It's difficult to go single after all the life, he has been the closest family. At least the family would be intact.
Would a man generally be able to accept such a condition as proposed by the wife? Welcome all views

[HelloAngel]

So you mean he wants a divorce? Or you mean he denies having sex with someone else?

If he wants a divorce, then seriously no point hanging on to a loveless marriage. It's unhealthy for both parties. But if your kid is below 16, you will need to go thru mandatory counselling for the sake of the kid. I had to go thru it too cos my boy was 8 that time. Just a discussion on parenting plans and stuffs. My ex and me are better off as friends and he comes over to spend time with his child. Divorce is no longer taboo as society matures to accept that life is as such and there is only so much we can do. But if you want to hang on, then you can refuse to sign the papers and just opt for a 3yr separation instead. Perhaps time will help decide on what's best for you. ;)

[Sen5eS]

He's adamant on keeping the marriage? And if so how long can u live a life like that?

[ralliart]

rules of engagement

never (over your dead body) admit u cheat on ur wife/ gf, even if the signs are pretty obvious

once u admit it, u will never (ever) win a quarrel

[Humlea]

rules of engagement

never (over your dead body) admit u cheat on ur wife/ gf, even if the signs are pretty obvious

once u admit it, u will never (ever) win a quarrel

Another rule, remember to log out sammyboy after posting/reading. Best is never use home computer to log in SBF. You can clear web history 1000 times and miss 1 time... that's it.

[iknownuts]

Another rule, remember to log out sammyboy after posting/reading. Best is never use home computer to log in SBF. You can clear web history 1000 times and miss 1 time... that's it.

Me using incognito mode in chrome :D:D:D:D

[snapshot]

Another rule, remember to log out sammyboy after posting/reading. Best is never use home computer to log in SBF. You can clear web history 1000 times and miss 1 time... that's it.

That's what incognito functions are for

[acidicavex]

Adamant hmm same question how long can both go thru it??

Frankly not that it is impossible but children are very sensitive they sense it easily.. do u think u can behave as if there is nothing wrong??

Perhaps till the day they realise their parents are staying together for them but there is no actual feeling BTW them.

Don't know whether really such case appear never encounter anyone cause mostly when such happen it always end badly.

Unless u really really angmo thinking.... which angmo also not all cases they so open.

And those movie about splitting couple still seeing each others like good friends well I wouLD say mostly is bull.

[Taisho75]

This happened to a friend about 8yrs back. His gf, then, found out he has been 2timing her. They had a good talk one night, think things happened and they have a shotgun marriage 3months later.

Recently he is at it again after having 2kids. Wife found out and give him hell. That was the last I heard from him. He basically disappear from my radar after that. Call or sms him, he never even reply.:(

[ralliart]

...they have a shotgun marriage 3months later...
re-phrase - shoot yourself in the foot marriage :p

[wa81]

Society had evolved. In the past, women were housewives, stay home and look after the domestics. Men were breadwinners, no husband no money no livelihood. Divorce were a taboo and it had always looked bad for the women, saying they can't look after their husbands and catered to their needs.
Thus the women charters which looked after the wellness of our women, and it had not changed for who dares to request a change when the women had rose in power, any change to the charters will not go down well for the ladies.

Present, women have greater earning powers, striving for equal social standings, that they have the options to choose. Thus when men cheat, women are empowered to divorce, simple.

Would the children suffer? I had seen cases where the kids are better off, TV had always protrayed broken families as worse off. To me, what matters is the love for the kids from their parents which is most important. Children seeks attention, not a fake image of a parent who is never there for them.

Then, what happens if it's the other way round? The wife cheated. Is there a difference in the treatment? A man can have sex without the emotion package, but can a woman do that?

Sex aside, what really counts is what really is the feeling deep in both your hearts. Some would said as long as he brings home the bread, and remember the way home every night, is fine. 逢场作戏.

[Ccsor]

So you mean he wants a divorce? Or you mean he denies having sex with someone else?

If he wants a divorce, then seriously no point hanging on to a loveless marriage. It's unhealthy for both parties. But if your kid is below 16, you will need to go thru mandatory counselling for the sake of the kid. I had to go thru it too cos my boy was 8 that time. Just a discussion on parenting plans and stuffs. My ex and me are better off as friends and he comes over to spend time with his child. Divorce is no longer taboo as society matures to accept that life is as such and there is only so much we can do. But if you want to hang on, then you can refuse to sign the papers and just opt for a 3yr separation instead. Perhaps time will help decide on what's best for you. ;)

I mean he dont want a separation when I suggest it. He ask for second chance. Few months later, i discovered he seems to go for paid sex again. Then I come to terms that a leopard can never change its spots. My child is 8 now. I hang on for the hope of him coming bk, ie quitting the habits. I am trying to turn a blind eye to everything. Its not easy, much less to go for divorce option. Yes u r rite, time will tell and let me know what would be the best options. Wish me luck then!

[Ecuader]

I mean he dont want a separation when I suggest it. He ask for second chance. Few months later, i discovered he seems to go for paid sex again. Then I come to terms that a leopard can never change its spots. My child is 8 now. I hang on for the hope of him coming bk, ie quitting the habits. I am trying to turn a blind eye to everything. Its not easy, much less to go for divorce option. Yes u r rite, time will tell and let me know what would be the best options. Wish me luck then!

9 out of 10 men goes for paid sex. The last one is gay. But then again gay goes for paid sex with male escort. lol

[HelloAngel]

I mean he dont want a separation when I suggest it. He ask for second chance. Few months later, i discovered he seems to go for paid sex again. Then I come to terms that a leopard can never change its spots. My child is 8 now. I hang on for the hope of him coming bk, ie quitting the habits. I am trying to turn a blind eye to everything. Its not easy, much less to go for divorce option. Yes u r rite, time will tell and let me know what would be the best options. Wish me luck then!

If he doesn't want a separation, it means he still wanna be married to you. Perhaps you should be thankful for that.

Well, if you treat him visiting paid sex as a hobby, then you won't feel it's cheating. Most importantly, he uses condom. This option only works if you still want him as husband and you will one day not let this issue bother you. Do you still have sex with him?

Yes, many guys go for paid sex. It's in their DNA to do so, whether single or married. They are playful by nature. I have some friends who pack condoms for their partners during business trips. If the guy is smart, of course he won't use those. But at least the gal knows that if the guy plays, he will be responsible. One can then sleep better at night. ;)

[Taisho75]

I mean he dont want a separation when I suggest it. He ask for second chance. Few months later, i discovered he seems to go for paid sex again. Then I come to terms that a leopard can never change its spots. My child is 8 now. I hang on for the hope of him coming bk, ie quitting the habits. I am trying to turn a blind eye to everything. Its not easy, much less to go for divorce option. Yes u r rite, time will tell and let me know what would be the best options. Wish me luck then!

Sis, seem like your hubby still wants u, but he is not getting what he wants from u, so he goes for paid sex. Dun forget it is the duty of the wife to have sex with hubby. My friend went to counsellor with his wife before and she was given a shock wakeup call. If the wife dun give, husband can use it as a reason for divorce. When u married, u have given orth for that and sign on the marriage cert.

Anyway as long as it is paid sex, I think is still ok. You should count ur blessing he does not have a mistress outside. Keep ur option open.

[Rickey]

If he doesn't want a separation, it means he still wanna be married to you. Perhaps you should be thankful for that.

Well, if you treat him visiting paid sex as a hobby, then you won't feel it's cheating. Most importantly, he uses condom. This option only works if you still want him as husband and you will one day not let this issue bother you. Do you still have sex with him?

Yes, many guys go for paid sex. It's in their DNA to do so, whether single or married. They are playful by nature. I have some friends who pack condoms for their partners during business trips. If the guy is smart, of course he won't use those. But at least the gal knows that if the guy plays, he will be responsible. One can then sleep better at night. ;)
Yes, sis helloangel, u maybe rite ...but some wifeys just dun wan to share their husbands wif any other woman...they are "1-man" type of women...if there is really no way of stopping their husbands from straying...they will at least in their heart feel very jealous & resentful of their husbands...tat she is no longer the only one loved by him & tat he has another woman to go to whenever he wants or likes...& so she may plan revengeful acts against her cheating husband :(

Sis, seem like your hubby still wants u, but he is not getting what he wants from u, so he goes for paid sex. Dun forget it is the duty of the wife to have sex with hubby. My friend went to counsellor with his wife before and she was given a shock wakeup call. If the wife dun give, husband can use it as a reason for divorce. When u married, u have given orth for that and sign on the marriage cert.

Anyway as long as it is paid sex, I think is still ok. You should count ur blessing he does not have a mistress outside. Keep ur option open.
Looks like bro Taisho got it rite, if i m not wrong...like sis helloangel asked, is TS still having sex wif her husband :confused:..my take is tat if the wife doesn't sexually satisfy her husband for one reason or another, he will go out & look for other women sooner or later...be it pros, FL, WL, mistress, ONS, FB etc, etc...the list is long..:D

[Rickey]

Oh no second chance. It is sad though. In my case, I knew even though not once. But for the sake of my kid, I let it be.
One thing guys must learn is dun play, play wif the feelings of women esp those w/o children :eek:...for most of them, once u step on their feet, accidentally or not, there is really no '2nd chance' for u...such is the fury of such women :mad:...once they make up their minds, there is no turning back...they won't forgive and forget easily...& even if they do forgive which is quite unlikely, they will never forget...sigh

[Ccsor]

Sis, seem like your hubby still wants u, but he is not getting what he wants from u, so he goes for paid sex. Dun forget it is the duty of the wife to have sex with hubby. My friend went to counsellor with his wife before and she was given a shock wakeup call. If the wife dun give, husband can use it as a reason for divorce. When u married, u have given orth for that and sign on the marriage cert.

Anyway as long as it is paid sex, I think is still ok. You should count ur blessing he does not have a mistress outside. Keep ur option open.

Yes, we still have sex once a week. In fact, I hv a higher sex drive than him, probably can three times a week. But after I found out, the sex activity kinda tone down, which I am sure he can sense it too. The problem for married couples is that after years goes by, the passion and all dies off. And a lot of times, it takes both effort to make it work.

[sadfa]

I dont think a man generally will tell his partner anything when asked. Which is the case for mine. Or rather the truth can be hurtful I guess. Did propose allowing him leading his own life and I lead my own life without divorcing, for the sake of my child. But he's adamant about it. It's difficult to go single after all the life, he has been the closest family. At least the family would be intact.
Would a man generally be able to accept such a condition as proposed by the wife? Welcome all views

Your questions n posts are convoluted, which probably reflects your mindset.

At first You asked about fcuking which implies no divorce.

Now you seem to be asking about divorce.
You say you want to lead separate lives but you say he's adamant. Adamant in what? He don't want? Means cause he wants to fcuk you?

There are many things you didn't say.
Did you nt offer him sex?
Does he have high libido from start? Or he changed?

Be honest in yr situation n nt act like typical spore women. Think very highly of themselves, feel very entitled n feels agrieved over every small Thing. Looked down on pros n wants divorce cos he finds hookers. Is finding pros cheating? If he talked to a close female fren, is it cheating too??

[Ccsor]

Yes, sis helloangel, u maybe rite ...but some wifeys just dun wan to share their husbands wif any other woman...they are "1-man" type of women...if there is really no way of stopping their husbands from straying...they will at least in their heart feel very jealous & resentful of their husbands...tat she is no longer the only one loved by him & tat he has another woman to go to whenever he wants or likes...& so she may plan revengeful acts against her cheating husband :(


Looks like bro Taisho got it rite, if i m not wrong...like sis helloangel asked, is TS still having sex wif her husband :confused:..my take is tat if the wife doesn't sexually satisfy her husband for one reason or another, he will go out & look for other women sooner or later...be it pros, FL, WL, mistress, ONS, FB etc, etc...the list is long..:D

Sign I did initiate and was rejected because he claims he is tired etc and etc. 😡 So its not that I never give him but he rejected me. Well, maybe I am an old hag already lol 🤔. Cannot match those sweet young things. He did not sexually satisfies me either, cos he dont do foreplay. Like that how. women have needs too.

[Sen5eS]

Yes, we still have sex once a week. In fact, I hv a higher sex drive than him, probably can three times a week. But after I found out, the sex activity kinda tone down, which I am sure he can sense it too. The problem for married couples is that after years goes by, the passion and all dies off. And a lot of times, it takes both effort to make it work.

Perhaps u'll have to "discuss" with him any particular reasons why the current situation is as is ... You can't guess what he's thinking ... perhaps he is also wondering ? Hopefully some levels of the "discussion" can reveal a little of why / what / how :p

[~iOOi~]

Sign I did initiate and was rejected because he claims he is tired etc and etc. 😡 So its not that I never give him but he rejected me. Well, maybe I am an old hag already lol 🤔. Cannot match those sweet young things. He did not sexually satisfies me either, cos he dont do foreplay. Like that how. women have needs too.

Go and your sex source too :D
He has his ECA you can have your too :p

[~iOOi~]

Well, if you treat him visiting paid sex as a hobby, then you won't feel it's cheating. Most importantly, he uses condom. This option only works if you still want him as husband and you will one day not let this issue bother you. Do you still have sex with him?

It's individual own belief lah I should say. I have a buddy who are so loyal in his early stage of marriage life. He will go any sex related joints but just refrain from sex thingy. And after 10-15 years of marriage, he changed and now into sex with these FL or WL...Of course he kept quite about it... Different guys differnt beliefs, I believe gals too :P

Yes, many guys go for paid sex. It's in their DNA to do so, whether single or married. They are playful by nature. I have some friends who pack condoms for their partners during business trips. If the guy is smart, of course he won't use those. But at least the gal knows that if the guy plays, he will be responsible. One can then sleep better at night. ;)

It's like that for thousands of years and yet those laws are trying to change such behaviours...:eek:Dun need to look far as you can see all the behavior in this forum:D

[Zapperxx]

Sorry,out of the topic but can we look it from a man's perspective,a woman feel cheated when his man looks for another man but and cannot be justified and not accepted,but what if a woman is dishonest ,I would like to hear from women of the forum, their point of view when a woman cheats .

[~iOOi~]

Then, what happens if it's the other way round? The wife cheated. Is there a difference in the treatment? A man can have sex without the emotion package, but can a woman do that?

Both sexes are equal lah. I ever read a blog of a woman of high status in the bank. The husband was the "victim" and she was trying to protect her lover and agreed to divorce without any ailment needed. All these years he was trying to hang on the marriage becoz of the child. And it turned out that the child was also not his.

These days who say women are always the victim and weaker sex....:rolleyes:

[I Love Boobs]

My wife cheated on me.
Sure I went to FLs.
But she became a rich man's fat sugar baby.
Denying me sex so I was literally having to go to FLs for release.
Too tired. Too busy. Then I find out she's fucking her boss at work!
Now paying maintenance for wife and children, as can't prove the affair in court.
Fuck the women's charter!

[~iOOi~]

My wife cheated on me.
Sure I went to FLs.
But she became a rich man's fat sugar baby.
Denying me sex so I was literally having to go to FLs for release.
Too tired. Too busy. Then I find out she's fucking her boss at work!
Now paying maintenance for wife and children, as can't prove the affair in court.
Fuck the women's charter!

You got check if your child is yours?:confused:

[sabokings]

My wife cheated on me.
Sure I went to FLs.
But she became a rich man's fat sugar baby.
Denying me sex so I was literally having to go to FLs for release.
Too tired. Too busy. Then I find out she's fucking her boss at work!
Now paying maintenance for wife and children, as can't prove the affair in court.
Fuck the women's charter!


Are you sure you can't prove it in court :confused:

I bet you have never engaged a PI before.

[sabokings]

Yes, we still have sex once a week. In fact, I hv a higher sex drive than him, probably can three times a week. But after I found out, the sex activity kinda tone down, which I am sure he can sense it too. The problem for married couples is that after years goes by, the passion and all dies off. And a lot of times, it takes both effort to make it work.


If both of you behaved like bo chap attitude towards each other then how to spice up your love life :confused:


It takes two to clap and I know its difficult to make a marriage work wonderfully, try hard & don't give up so easily ;)

[sabokings]

Both sexes are equal lah. I ever read a blog of a woman of high status in the bank. The husband was the "victim" and she was trying to protect her lover and agreed to divorce without any ailment needed. All these years he was trying to hang on the marriage becoz of the child. And it turned out that the child was also not his.

These days who say women are always the victim and weaker sex....:rolleyes:


You are absolutely right bro !

[JacqueMerlin]

9 out of 10 men goes for paid sex. The last one is gay. But then again gay goes for paid sex with male escort. lol

I didn't. I was a faithful little man for his wife. Slogged hard to make sure she is taken care of. During those days I made only 2.1k and i paid for everything. There were days when i was running low on money and I rather starved to satisfy her all because of love. Then she had an affair because i wasn't romantic enough. She wanted alimony of 1.5k Every month. I couldn't afford, i wanted to commit suicide. Then her lover dumped her so she came back and claimed she choosed me instead. A few years later she had another affair citing that i forced her to have an affair because i was not romantic enough, don't make enough and all that. And she demanded i must respect her rights to choose a husband again. And she wasn't shy using the woman's charter to threaten to ruin my life. Luckily we have no children but life sucks.

It was during that time when i finally gave up and my eyes were opened. Fuck the woman's charter. In singapore, don't marry don't have children. It's the only way. You marry the wrong woman and you are ruined.

[Timetogo]

If the bf has proof that he had sex with the woman is before you agreed to be his gf, then that is not consider cheating. If the bf has proof that he had sex with the woman is before you both got married, then that is not consider adultery. If you found that all proof pointed to, is after the agreed to be his gf or is after married, you got to ask yourself, you mind his body being used by another woman or you mind about he doing the deed without asking you for permission? If you mind about his body, then how about yours? If you angry he never asked for permission, then maybe both of you have communication problem. Why divorce when you both agreed to get married.

[Lucifer666]

I mean he dont want a separation when I suggest it. He ask for second chance. Few months later, i discovered he seems to go for paid sex again. Then I come to terms that a leopard can never change its spots. My child is 8 now. I hang on for the hope of him coming bk, ie quitting the habits. I am trying to turn a blind eye to everything. Its not easy, much less to go for divorce option. Yes u r rite, time will tell and let me know what would be the best options. Wish me luck then!

There is always LOVE and LUST. I love my Wife... But I can't help having paid Sex outside.
By say that, don't mean I don't love my Wife. Matter of fact is that I love my Wife very much and those paid sex is just lust which is fuck and forget.

[simply2323]

Sympathize with "I love Boobs". If a wife for more than 10 years, have low sex drive, don't maintain their figure (even though the husband does) nor hygiene. Is the husband allow to find release in MP, pros and so forth?

[Angeline1716]

There is always LOVE and LUST. I love my Wife... But I can't help having paid Sex outside.
By say that, don't mean I don't love my Wife. Matter of fact is that I love my Wife very much and those paid sex is just lust which is fuck and forget.

But women dont pay men for sex.
so......

[Sen5eS]

But women dont pay men for sex.
so......

hmmmmm that is not entirely true ... they pay for male companionship ...

[Angeline1716]

hmmmmm that is not entirely true ... they pay for male companionship ...

Then, I am on the wrong flight.
i should go to the other terminal to apply as a Sugarmummy?:p
LOL...:D

[Sen5eS]

Then, I am on the wrong flight.
i should go to the other terminal to apply as a Sugarmummy?:p
LOL...:D

No need any terminal .. u just need to put it on your signature now and say you're a Sugar Mummy looking for Sugar babies Boys/Men ... just name a price / date / time / location the queue will form from here to JB and some more :p

I PM u now b4 your PM explodes :p

[Lucifer666]

Then, I am on the wrong flight.
i should go to the other terminal to apply as a Sugarmummy?:p
LOL...:D

You know... A lot of woman actually go to Bali to get fuck by toy boy. They actually paid to get sex.... Just that in Singapore, there isn't such a trade.

[Timetogo]

I didn't. I was a faithful little man for his wife. Slogged hard to make sure she is taken care of. During those days I made only 2.1k and i paid for everything. There were days when i was running low on money and I rather starved to satisfy her all because of love. Then she had an affair because i wasn't romantic enough. She wanted alimony of 1.5k Every month. I couldn't afford, i wanted to commit suicide. Then her lover dumped her so she came back and claimed she choosed me instead. A few years later she had another affair citing that i forced her to have an affair because i was not romantic enough, don't make enough and all that. And she demanded i must respect her rights to choose a husband again. And she wasn't shy using the woman's charter to threaten to ruin my life. Luckily we have no children but life sucks.

It was during that time when i finally gave up and my eyes were opened. Fuck the woman's charter. In singapore, don't marry don't have children. It's the only way. You marry the wrong woman and you are ruined.

It sad to read what you wrote here. Actually women charter don't work the way as mention she demanded 1.5k and she will be awarded that amount. Many misunderstood it and it goes out of hand. I believe the alimony to be paid as long she still single and alive will be aborted one day. Once the ex wife to pay for alimony rule pass down, if there is, i believe it will straighten out the issue.

[JieJieJiaoWo]

Sign I did initiate and was rejected because he claims he is tired etc and etc. 😡 So its not that I never give him but he rejected me. Well, maybe I am an old hag already lol 🤔. Cannot match those sweet young things. He did not sexually satisfies me either, cos he dont do foreplay. Like that how. women have needs too.

jiejie you got help him lick his backside not? prostate is the most sensitive part, help him milk his prostate and he wont need to go find others already :D try to upgrade your skillsets~ 活到老，学到老

there's also the option to be in an open relationship, and when you two are comfortable enough, you could look for swing partners :p

didi here very helpful, jiejie can teach me ;)

[HC NEWBIRD]

No right or wrong answer--Individual belief/conscience.
most important--do not bring back any disease (VD, etc) to pass on to her.

[snooker]

You know... A lot of woman actually go to Bali to get fuck by toy boy. They actually paid to get sex.... Just that in Singapore, there isn't such a trade.

Not only Bali, nowadays, they go BKK, guangzhou and vietnam for toy boy too...:p

[Dryapple]

Just saw this post, interesting to read different views. Guys really like to pay for sex - single or married. Prolly im conservative, but once married, shouldnt you be faithful, as in sex with one woman only? If there is no supply, then there is no demand right? I know guys who die die wont admit they paid for sex, but come on, if you dare and want to do it, admit it, be a man.

[johnnydsg]

Just saw this post, interesting to read different views. Guys really like to pay for sex - single or married. Prolly im conservative, but once married, shouldnt you be faithful, as in sex with one woman only? If there is no supply, then there is no demand right? I know guys who die die wont admit they paid for sex, but come on, if you dare and want to do it, admit it, be a man.

Temptations abound man. It's so easy nowadays to cheat. It is a rare person who can exercise self control and stay faithful because you have to keep growing together as an individual and couple, being a man she wants and needs.

[kokochan]

Honest opinion, I have gone through the phase. No one is prefect but as time tick by, you will only regret what you have not done earlier if you do see it coming.
The reasons sometimes, plain simple.

1. for the kids is honestly a possibly excuse out of fear or any other reasons. I have also personally been through it so I do empathise. Its a long and difficult journey. Kids are sensitive and they probably know what's going on while we still think otherwise. It will does definitely affect them in some ways but consider the long term effects.

2. I personally think affects the adults more than the kids because kids are simple and easy to be pleased although they might hide their insecurities and emotions.
My parents are fighting all the time like physically for almost as long as I lived. it wasn't easy and it doesn't help in having the "family" intact does it? That said, that's my story, I dont know what you went thru so you have to be your own judge.

3. can sound kind of selfish but of course which parent doesn't want the best for their kids? If we cant even maintain and keep yourselves happy, how do u expect to fulfil and keep your kids happy?
The kind of happiness and fulfilment you might bring you kid is another empty bubble at the end of the road. So self care first before you even consider others.

I might suggest going for counselling or coaching for a start before making any decision.
Just my 2 cents. take care!

[MiningXpert]

Just saw this post, interesting to read different views. Guys really like to pay for sex - single or married. Prolly im conservative, but once married, shouldnt you be faithful, as in sex with one woman only? If there is no supply, then there is no demand right? I know guys who die die wont admit they paid for sex, but come on, if you dare and want to do it, admit it, be a man.

It's always idealistic vs realistic. Men are born hunters. We yearn for physical intimacy while women cherish the psychological comfort and assurance (of course intimacy too). It's like us saying housing should be made free because that's a human right - but how feasible is that? Some married or attached men pay for sex because they cannot find it at home or from their partners. Being a man has nothing to do with admitting going for paid sex, it's just to preserve the family. My two cents...

[MiningXpert]

Temptations abound man. It's so easy nowadays to cheat. It is a rare person who can exercise self control and stay faithful because you have to keep growing together as an individual and couple, being a man she wants and needs.

I used to think that self-control on extramarital sex is a form of good faith to the marriage. But now that I'm married (and loves my wife a lot), I understand why some men turn to commercial intercourse at some point of their life. Now I feel that as long as the man does not attach his money and feelings on the prostitute, or in other words paying purely for their sexual services without any strings attached - it's still understandable as long as he performs his duties as a husband and a father. People have needs, and when they can't fulfill it at home they have to seek 'professional' aid.....

[johnnydsg]

People have needs, and when they can't fulfill it at home they have to seek 'professional' aid.....

Yes, that's one key point "People have needs, and when they can't fulfill it at home". It takes effort and work to keep that desire going by both parties

[Xcrossit]

had a close gf who confided in me that shes not getting sex.

im not touching her because i've become quite close to her husband.
so i advised just buying some toys to self satisfy and try more romantic date nights, role play. whatever you can think of.

few months down the road, i found out that she cheated and the husband found out. but the husband wants to continue.

[Xgenre]

had a close gf who confided in me that shes not getting sex.

few months down the road, i found out that she cheated and the husband found out. but the husband wants to continue.

She didn't 'accidentally' tell you she needs sex. Since you are not interested, she went for other guys.

You also didn't ask her why they are not having sex. Sometimes it's due to health reasons like diabetes. If the hubby wants to continue, may they continue to remain a happy couple. At least the wife doesn't need to be discrete anymore. License given

[larue]

I reckon human beings will be extinct before the human male overcomes the subliminal urge to shoot his load into as many females as possible.

All for the sake of ensuring continuity of his DNA. It is something hardwired into all mammals.

Male mammals must impregnate as many females as possible. At the expense of as many males as possible.

The only real difference between humans and monkeys is a large and active cerebrum which enables human beings to lie to other human beings, but most of all lie to themselves.

Chimpanzees and gorillas never lie to themselves about what they want.

TLDR: Men just want to fuck many women.

[NiaoRenn]

I reckon human beings will be extinct before the human male overcomes the subliminal urge to shoot his load into as many females as possible.

All for the sake of ensuring continuity of his DNA. It is something hardwired into all mammals.

Male mammals must impregnate as many females as possible. At the expense of as many males as possible.

The only real difference between humans and monkeys is a large and active cerebrum which enables human beings to lie to other human beings, but most of all lie to themselves.

Chimpanzees and gorillas never lie to themselves about what they want.

TLDR: Men just want to fuck many women.

Andrew Tate says, if a man fucks many women, at least we know who fathered the child. If a woman fucks many men, who the fuck knows the father of the child. Logic and it’s in men’s genetic to fuck many women.

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Andrew Tate says, if a man fucks many women, at least we know who fathered the child. If a woman fucks many men, who the fuck knows the father of the child. Logic and it’s in men’s genetic to fuck many women.

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