Husband rejected me

[mangostickyrice]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(

[Ntspannar]

Can imagine your inbox is gonna be full of messages soon lol

[Bestwife]

My wife just wanted me to lick,squeeze n suck her boobs before I insert. Nothing abt me.

[Rickey]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(
Quite a familiar situation & story tat we are reading & hearing abt all the time here in tis forum from u wifeys about yr sex wif yr hubbies...Hmmm..mid 30s & still lidat ???...still very young man leh ..no I dun tink so men's sex drive goes lower with age unless they reach their 70s or more...there may be other problems like work related issues or other kinds of daily stress which may affect his libido..spicing up yr sex life wif him is wat u shd do...dun need to wait for him to initiate..you can start by seducing him by wearing sexy lingerie b4 bedtime action or do kinky roleplays wif each other which makes many couples enjoy their sexing !! ;)...feel free to let me know if u want to know more details...

[tonyseng]

Babe, maybe yr hubby tired after work. Yr hubby is yr first bf?

[mangostickyrice]

Quite a familiar situation & story tat we are reading & hearing abt all the time here in tis forum from u wifeys about yr sex wif yr hubbies...Hmmm..mid 30s & still lidat ???...still very young man leh ..no I dun tink so men's sex drive goes lower with age unless they reach their 70s or more...there may be other problems like work related issues or other kinds of daily stress which may affect his libido..spicing up yr sex life wif him is wat u shd do...dun need to wait for him to initiate..you can start by seducing him by wearing sexy lingerie b4 bedtime action or do roleplays wif each other which makes many couples enjoy their sexing !! ;)...feel free to let me know if u want to know more details...

But but but. I've been initiating too. I dare say out of 10 times, i initiate at least 7 times. thing is we are pretty open with our sex life. I'm even open to mff but he thought its too much of a risk? Like he's afraid it will affect our marriage somehow.

[mangostickyrice]

Babe, maybe yr hubby tired after work. Yr hubby is yr first bf?

Nope he isn't my first.

[leslielam]

Have you thought of getting a fuck buddy?

[guldon]

Well, mine is worst.
I've not have sex with my wife for years.
Think... About 4 years?!
To think that we man love sex. "Mostly"
When just married, sex life is good. Miss those days.
I still remember what my wife tell me the last time I ask for it.
Few weeks before the "incident "
When I ask for it, she was always tired. Then, got chance that she rest for 3 days. ( yes, she working ) I tell myself, good chance, I put my kids to sleep early, done everything nicely. And when the times come...... " I want to sleep"..... I was like.... "What the hell..!"... I was thinking Maybe she not good mode.. Few days later, finally we did it, but no..! We did it for 10 mins and she was like " still haven't cum?" And she just disengage and go bath. Guy might know the feeling... Then few days later, I ask for it again, she just give me a HJ with a Sian look... And finally, the last time I ask, she just said " do it yourself lah"... That's the last time I ever ask my wife.
Ppl might think my wife got affairs outside, but I dont want to think about that. I was always thinking of my kids before I act.
I'm just 40, but my drive for sex still high and I know, stress and physical stress will effect the mode for sex. Wish I got a fb... LoL...:rolleyes:

[computerGuy]

TS, theres always ups and down.
Me, married 4-5years. Wife and me 20+. She "dropped" the idea of sex when our kid is out. "faster cum" is all she say ever since. Sometimes she dont even want to remove her top when we are on it.. And its been like 2 years since i get a bj?
im quite horny, need at least 2x a week(its everyday for the first year for me, lol)
But all in all, she give me at least 1x a week. Oh well, at least theres something.

Not sure about your case, maybe he's tired? try bringing up the mood or something?
And you mentioned its the first time only?

Cheers

[99099]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(

TS, you can always seek alternative? Really depends on yourself.

Either you have a good talk with your hubby about each other needs or seek alternative!

Both of you are just too young to talk about lower sex drive.

[Kelvyn]

If u r daring enough, im sure alot of guys here will b willing enough to fill your lonliness

[archer69]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(


I'm willing to fulfill his lacking, pm me if you are interested :)

[Ryoshohei]

I think many people here are mistaking sex with making love. And that for man, there is no need to take note of their emotional needs as well.

It is true that while man are more horny by nature, and that when they are horny, no other emotions are needed for sex. But for married couples, sometimes showing concern about a man's emotional needs can also go a long way in improving bed life.

My suggestion will be to show some care and concern, cook some good food, plan some activities to get into the mood (e.g. watching some romantic movie with steamy scenes or dancing with subtle teasing etc.). Tease your man! Make him crave for you

[5ag1_Boar]

I'm mid 40s, sex drive is still high, erections still rock hard, so its not an age thing. But it depends guy to guy. Sometimes low drive is due to stress, health, anxiety (about sex or other stuff)... many causes. He might be shy to talk to you about it. Or something about your sex life has affected him and its building up.

You guys got to talk. Is the rest of your relationship ok? Besides poor sex life, if the rest of your relationship also not as good as before?

Go for marriage counselling. Ya, some people think its useless, but give it a try. Sometimes couples need help to talk heart to heart. You don't have to start together. Check around for a good one (relationship forums, friends, Google, etc) go by yourself first and get started to sort your own feelings out first. At some point, the counsellor will teach you how to convince hubby to come along.

[acidicavex]

I believe by now your pm is flooded since u can Only receive 10 with advise and also with indecent proposal and maybe some with hiddeb agenda.

Nobody know the roots except u and hubby. I just want to say the part about men losing their sexual needs as age catching. I disagree my friend is 50s and his Taiwan wife is 30s they are 20 yrs apart. They just have their 2nd child friend disclose whenever wife in SG they hump like bunny. Although he admit his stamina can't catch up but he still love sex. I am in my 40s I still love sex... also so does many aging bros in Sbf.

Now your issue like u say before marriage all okie now all differENT like he less interest. Reason might be

Cause before marriage doesnt live together so when meet up of coz sex is wonderful. Now u stay together it like a different u feel u might have hump everyday at the start. So it probably become a chore or stale sex life that he is bore.

Go try something new if it still doesnt work than go counseling if counselling still doesnt work. Than your own sexual desire is at your own hand at your own risk.

[mangostickyrice]

Well, mine is worst.
I've not have sex with my wife for years.
Think... About 4 years?!
To think that we man love sex. "Mostly"
When just married, sex life is good. Miss those days.
I still remember what my wife tell me the last time I ask for it.
Few weeks before the "incident "
When I ask for it, she was always tired. Then, got chance that she rest for 3 days. ( yes, she working ) I tell myself, good chance, I put my kids to sleep early, done everything nicely. And when the times come...... " I want to sleep"..... I was like.... "What the hell..!"... I was thinking Maybe she not good mode.. Few days later, finally we did it, but no..! We did it for 10 mins and she was like " still haven't cum?" And she just disengage and go bath. Guy might know the feeling... Then few days later, I ask for it again, she just give me a HJ with a Sian look... And finally, the last time I ask, she just said " do it yourself lah"... That's the last time I ever ask my wife.
Ppl might think my wife got affairs outside, but I dont want to think about that. I was always thinking of my kids before I act.
I'm just 40, but my drive for sex still high and I know, stress and physical stress will effect the mode for sex. Wish I got a fb... LoL...:rolleyes:

Wah. I hope i will never turn into your wife if i ever have kids years later! Cant imagine life without sex.

[mangostickyrice]

TS, theres always ups and down.
Me, married 4-5years. Wife and me 20+. She "dropped" the idea of sex when our kid is out. "faster cum" is all she say ever since. Sometimes she dont even want to remove her top when we are on it.. And its been like 2 years since i get a bj?
im quite horny, need at least 2x a week(its everyday for the first year for me, lol)
But all in all, she give me at least 1x a week. Oh well, at least theres something.

Not sure about your case, maybe he's tired? try bringing up the mood or something?
And you mentioned its the first time only?

Cheers

Hahaha my top is also left on during sex because he dont even touch them or initiate to remove. :(

[mangostickyrice]

I think many people here are mistaking sex with making love. And that for man, there is no need to take note of their emotional needs as well.

It is true that while man are more horny by nature, and that when they are horny, no other emotions are needed for sex. But for married couples, sometimes showing concern about a man's emotional needs can also go a long way in improving bed life.

My suggestion will be to show some care and concern, cook some good food, plan some activities to get into the mood (e.g. watching some romantic movie with steamy scenes or dancing with subtle teasing etc.). Tease your man! Make him crave for you

Hmmm thanks for the suggestions. I will try!

[Botakhead]

Quite a familiar situation & story tat we are reading & hearing abt all the time here in tis forum from u wifeys about yr sex wif yr hubbies...Hmmm..mid 30s & still lidat ???...still very young man leh ..no I dun tink so men's sex drive goes lower with age unless they reach their 70s or more...there may be other problems like work related issues or other kinds of daily stress which may affect his libido..spicing up yr sex life wif him is wat u shd do...dun need to wait for him to initiate..you can start by seducing him by wearing sexy lingerie b4 bedtime action or do kinky roleplays wif each other which makes many couples enjoy their sexing !! ;)...feel free to let me know if u want to know more details...

Not exactly true about the age and sex drive, I've known someone who is into 70s but still can get their daugther-in-law preggy and in the end he was both the father and grandfather at the same time.

Nowadays, sex life is tallying with hectic working or busy lifestyle, blaming on being tired and not in the mood. Sex is what gets us married in the first place. Who wants to just marry for the love without sex? Might as well stay as friends, even friends can have sex easily or rather more easily.

Being passive or active, you still need both hands to clap together to get a sound. One sided mostly will end up being unappreciated, misunderstood, neglected, dejected and worst dissected.

Why people have extra-marital affairs? Main reason is that one party was not getting sextified, and the other party not willing to help out.

Use your hand campaign is safest DIY method, otherwise look for greener pastures. GOOD LUCK.

[mangostickyrice]

I'm mid 40s, sex drive is still high, erections still rock hard, so its not an age thing. But it depends guy to guy. Sometimes low drive is due to stress, health, anxiety (about sex or other stuff)... many causes. He might be shy to talk to you about it. Or something about your sex life has affected him and its building up.

You guys got to talk. Is the rest of your relationship ok? Besides poor sex life, if the rest of your relationship also not as good as before?

Go for marriage counselling. Ya, some people think its useless, but give it a try. Sometimes couples need help to talk heart to heart. You don't have to start together. Check around for a good one (relationship forums, friends, Google, etc) go by yourself first and get started to sort your own feelings out first. At some point, the counsellor will teach you how to convince hubby to come along.

Actually we did try to talk. I've asked him if he thinks our frequency of sex drop after marriage and he said yes. I've also voiced my unhappiness on the lack of foreplay, told him it should be two ways. Things improved for awhile after the talk, but it soon went back to routine sex again. As i was sharing with one of the bros here. Sometimes even when he initiate, he will just grab my hand and place it on his dick, expecting me to make the first move. Sighhh.

[mangostickyrice]

I believe by now your pm is flooded since u can Only receive 10 with advise and also with indecent proposal and maybe some with hiddeb agenda.

Nobody know the roots except u and hubby. I just want to say the part about men losing their sexual needs as age catching. I disagree my friend is 50s and his Taiwan wife is 30s they are 20 yrs apart. They just have their 2nd child friend disclose whenever wife in SG they hump like bunny. Although he admit his stamina can't catch up but he still love sex. I am in my 40s I still love sex... also so does many aging bros in Sbf.

Now your issue like u say before marriage all okie now all differENT like he less interest. Reason might be

Cause before marriage doesnt live together so when meet up of coz sex is wonderful. Now u stay together it like a different u feel u might have hump everyday at the start. So it probably become a chore or stale sex life that he is bore.

Go try something new if it still doesnt work than go counseling if counselling still doesnt work. Than your own sexual desire is at your own hand at your own risk.

Actually we were already living together before marriage. Maybe he just got tired of me...

[mangostickyrice]

Not exactly true about the age and sex drive, I've known someone who is into 70s but still can get their daugther-in-law preggy and in the end he was both the father and grandfather at the same time.

Nowadays, sex life is tallying with hectic working or busy lifestyle, blaming on being tired and not in the mood. Sex is what gets us married in the first place. Who wants to just marry for the love without sex? Might as well stay as friends, even friends can have sex easily or rather more easily.

Being passive or active, you still need both hands to clap together to get a sound. One sided mostly will end up being unappreciated, misunderstood, neglected, dejected and worst dissected.

Why people have extra-marital affairs? Main reason is that one party was not getting sextified, and the other party not willing to help out.

Use your hand campaign is safest DIY method, otherwise look for greener pastures. GOOD LUCK.

I do diy. Sometimes i will tease him and say "im going to the room to play with my vibrator". Most of the times he will just leave me alone to do it. At times he might come in to join. But just watch me as i pleasure myself, then stuff his dick into my mouth and penetrate me thereafter.

[Abcdefghijklmn]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(

Try to build up the tempo.

Like the atmosphere, the smell, the look..

Man are visual creature.

In the worst case, you go drug your Husband. Put viagra into his drink and wait for effect to come.

[tonyseng]

Babe, want to try theesome MMF?

[archer69]

Tell your hubby if you dont want make happy in bed, I will find someone else. Sure it will give him a head knock. And wear something Sexy inside home, always clean and smell fresh.

[M.key]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(

Hi sis, maybe ur husband is tired after work.
Why not u all try it out during the weekends.

[unsung80]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight. :(

Is a pity he do not enjoy your young body! I would have eat you every night! I presume your hubby is very tired after work? Is his work very stressful? Sometimes you can also seduce him to get him high and horny also.

[unsung80]

I do diy. Sometimes i will tease him and say "im going to the room to play with my vibrator". Most of the times he will just leave me alone to do it. At times he might come in to join. But just watch me as i pleasure myself, then stuff his dick into my mouth and penetrate me thereafter.

That turns him on, you should try more of that with different variation on different nights. ;)

[Torex9]

Hi TS,

Sad to know that this is happening to you. I always think that only women will be the one that is not interested in sex. It happen to my wife. So we men are the sucker that have to look for alternative. But seems like it can happen the other way around.
Hope your situation will improve. I'm hoping too. Ha..ha..

Torex9

[fictionman]

I do diy. Sometimes i will tease him and say "im going to the room to play with my vibrator". Most of the times he will just leave me alone to do it. At times he might come in to join. But just watch me as i pleasure myself, then stuff his dick into my mouth and penetrate me thereafter.

Wah sis...U knw u r making us guys here hard wz ur words....Well...We can only fantasize abt it...So hard nw!!!

[michaelrocksam]

I do diy. Sometimes i will tease him and say "im going to the room to play with my vibrator". Most of the times he will just leave me alone to do it. At times he might come in to join. But just watch me as i pleasure myself, then stuff his dick into my mouth and penetrate me thereafter.

My advice just move on. It's not getting anywhere. Doubt there is anymore sparks left.

I was in this relationship like yours before tried to hang on. In the end I call it a day, went for FLs I had the best sex in years enjoyed my life and no regrets.

Not asking you to look for affairs, just to tell you enjoy your life and love it.

[sammyboyfor]

Actually we were already living together before marriage. Maybe he just got tired of me...

If you give him the impression that you're interested in someone else I guarantee you he'll suddenly show renewed interest in your sexuality. :p

[newyorker88]

I do diy. Sometimes i will tease him and say "im going to the room to play with my vibrator". Most of the times he will just leave me alone to do it. At times he might come in to join. But just watch me as i pleasure myself, then stuff his dick into my mouth and penetrate me thereafter.

Sis, I think there is more to just sex in the bed. There could be other under lying problems in your relationship.

perhaps, your hubby is over worked, stressed out over something that he did not tell u but keeping to himself?

It is good that you talk out your problems here and ask for advice. I do believe that you need to have a talk w him. Have a short break from home, a short getaway, will likely be helpful to de-stress n talk things out.

It is better to save your marriage now, by finding out the problems than to let problems get so big until u cannot handle later.

best of luck

[newyorker88]

. Few days later, finally we did it, but no..! We did it for 10 mins and she was like " still haven't cum?" And she just disengage and go bath. Guy might know the feeling... Then few days later, I ask for it again, she just give me a HJ with a Sian look... And finally, the last time I ask, she just said " do it yourself lah"... That's the last time I ever ask my wife.
Ppl might think my wife got affairs outside, but I dont want to think about that. I was always thinking of my kids before I act.
I'm just 40, but my drive for sex still high and I know, stress and physical stress will effect the mode for sex. Wish I got a fb... LoL:


Woman goes thru more emotional change than men. Stress n physical tiredness does dampen the mood. you can be more loving to her, n when she is out of the "bad mood" she will fuck u again.

By the way, a few days before menus, their mood can be pretty bad, physically not well, and so on. Do have this in mind n be more understanding.

[mangostickyrice]

Tell your hubby if you dont want make happy in bed, I will find someone else. Sure it will give him a head knock. And wear something Sexy inside home, always clean and smell fresh.

I do wear. Sometimes he will tease me for awhile by grabbing my ass or boobs. But most times it doesnt lead anywhere.

[mangostickyrice]

Is a pity he do not enjoy your young body! I would have eat you every night! I presume your hubby is very tired after work? Is his work very stressful? Sometimes you can also seduce him to get him high and horny also.

Yeah his work is quite tiring and long hours. But if he can come back to watch tv/play with his games etc, why cannot pay some attention to me? :(

[mangostickyrice]

Hi TS,

Sad to know that this is happening to you. I always think that only women will be the one that is not interested in sex. It happen to my wife. So we men are the sucker that have to look for alternative. But seems like it can happen the other way around.
Hope your situation will improve. I'm hoping too. Ha..ha..

Torex9

Ya lor. Never expect myself to face this one day...

[mangostickyrice]

Wah sis...U knw u r making us guys here hard wz ur words....Well...We can only fantasize abt it...So hard nw!!!

Oops. Hehehe im sorry. ;p

[mangostickyrice]

Woman goes thru more emotional change than men. Stress n physical tiredness does dampen the mood. you can be more loving to her, n when she is out of the "bad mood" she will fuck u again.

By the way, a few days before menus, their mood can be pretty bad, physically not well, and so on. Do have this in mind n be more understanding.

Will try. Thanks! :)

[tsuna7]

i think im having the same problem as you..

when im younger i had too much love making.. foreplay are important..

when we started she love making loves, can go for 2-5 rounds each times..

now my wife out of 10 times 8 time i m the 1 initiate.. and lots of time i got rejected also..

i love to lick pussy nipple lick her top to toe.. she use to love it..

but she had stop.. she will even stop me from licking n just let me fuck her and finish the deed..

some times i have no choose but to DIY.. feel v sad also.. :(

[Andfan]

the one only thing he maybe see u very sian already or maybe he at outside got a fb so he dun need u

[wetnail]

Yeah his work is quite tiring and long hours. But if he can come back to watch tv/play with his games etc, why cannot pay some attention to me? :(

Hey sis, i think your man just not in the mood. Sharing from my experience. My partner and I hardly have sex. We are both stressed up and exhausted because of work. I can only say that from a man's point of view, we can lost interest in our partner when we felt that our partner is not hearing us out. Yes I agree that man hide and keep problems to themselves, most may not even want to talk to their partner about their problem, because either the partner can't solve their problem, or they are not interested in their man's issue, and the worst is whenever conversation starts, the lady is filling their man with their own topic which is not really building up any emotional engagement. My 2 cents worth is whenever you see your man is tired and exhausted, you don't have to speak out and ask about his problem. Go ask him lay his head on you lap and give him a good massage, talk about some issues that is not even related to daily life or work, best is to chat about the best trip that you both has went to. Once you manage to make him feel relax and feel the warmth of your engagement, it may perhaps work out some miracle for you two. Good luck!!

[UltraNet]

the one only thing he maybe see u very sian already or maybe he at outside got a fb so he dun need u

You make a good point

[bochapsing]

thought normally is the hubby complaining not getting sex from wife, rare to see the other way round... :):)
guess there're many lonely hubby here cursing ur hubby now, and hoping that their wives are as "horny" as u... :p:p

[guldon]

Hey sis, i think your man just not in the mood. Sharing from my experience. My partner and I hardly have sex. We are both stressed up and exhausted because of work. I can only say that from a man's point of view, we can lost interest in our partner when we felt that our partner is not hearing us out. Yes I agree that man hide and keep problems to themselves, most may not even want to talk to their partner about their problem, because either the partner can't solve their problem, or they are not interested in their man's issue, and the worst is whenever conversation starts, the lady is filling their man with their own topic which is not really building up any emotional engagement. My 2 cents worth is whenever you see your man is tired and exhausted, you don't have to speak out and ask about his problem. Go ask him lay his head on you lap and give him a good massage, talk about some issues that is not even related to daily life or work, best is to chat about the best trip that you both has went to. Once you manage to make him feel relax and feel the warmth of your engagement, it may perhaps work out some miracle for you two. Good luck!!

That's a very good point. Most of the time, women think that they know men. But actually is the other way round. Always be a good listener.
I do help my wife massage and help her relax before sex or without sex. But now she don't feel like having a massage.:(

[hhlover]

Reading ts situation look jus like mine... most of the Is only I the one tat lick suck n paint my wife till she wet then insert her... hardly get any blowjob form her anymore.. n only one position missionary..
last time still got spoon.. doggy.. sitting or she cowgirl me.. sometime think of making love wit my wife oso boring.. rather jus jerk off myself..
sad sex life...

[Bestwife]

I do diy. Sometimes i will tease him and say "im going to the room to play with my vibrator". Most of the times he will just leave me alone to do it. At times he might come in to join. But just watch me as i pleasure myself, then stuff his dick into my mouth and penetrate me thereafter.

Tats is unpleasant of his act

[Rickey]

But but but. I've been initiating too. I dare say out of 10 times, i initiate at least 7 times. thing is we are pretty open with our sex life. I'm even open to mff but he thought its too much of a risk? Like he's afraid it will affect our marriage somehow.
Correct me if i m wrong, sis...Seems like you are a pretty pro-active & horny girl in bed wif yr hubby & hv done quite a lot of things to shake him up into being horny wif you :p...not those dead fish type on the bed...envy yr hubby leh !...he is such a lucky guy to hv such a understanding wifey as you :)..willing to allow for a MFF wif him..

no offence, sis but i tink yr hubby is quite a weird guy, so different from the rest of us guys here...most of us bros here will immediately jump @ the offer of a MFF by our wives but which so far as i know, none of our wives would dare to permit for us hubbies...how would a 3-some mff be such a big risk for him when you are the one offering or allowing it, i wonder ? :confused:..the risk is yours to bear not his...yah, he loves you alrite but he seems to be so insensitive tat he doesn't even know he is not pleasuring you enough...to give you the utmost sexual satisfaction tat you deserve as his wife ! :p...& even rejecting you for sex as you say...

[Rickey]

Not exactly true about the age and sex drive, I've known someone who is into 70s but still can get their daugther-in-law preggy and in the end he was both the father and grandfather at the same time.

Nowadays, sex life is tallying with hectic working or busy lifestyle, blaming on being tired and not in the mood. Sex is what gets us married in the first place. Who wants to just marry for the love without sex? Might as well stay as friends, even friends can have sex easily or rather more easily.

Being passive or active, you still need both hands to clap together to get a sound. One sided mostly will end up being unappreciated, misunderstood, neglected, dejected and worst dissected.

Why people have extra-marital affairs? Main reason is that one party was not getting sextified, and the other party not willing to help out.

Use your hand campaign is safest DIY method, otherwise look for greener pastures. GOOD LUCK.
Well said, bro botakhead, my good friend !..every word of it is so true ! ;)

Yes, u are rite, bro about the age of sex drive of guys...i din say tat all guys older than 70 would hv lost all their sex drives...it is meant in general only...as in all things, there is always the few odd ones out ! :p...haha

[Rickey]

Reading ts situation look jus like mine... most of the Is only I the one tat lick suck n paint my wife till she wet then insert her... hardly get any blowjob form her anymore.. n only one position missionary..
last time still got spoon.. doggy.. sitting or she cowgirl me.. sometime think of making love with my wife oso boring.. rather jus jerk off myself...sad sex life...

That's a very good point. Most of the time, women think that they know men. But actually is the other way round. Always be a good listener.
I do help my wife massage and help her relax before sex or without sex. But now she don't feel like having a massage.:(
i think im having the same problem as you..

when im younger i had too much love making.. foreplay are important..

when we started she love making loves, can go for 2-5 rounds each times..

now my wife out of 10 times 8 time i m the 1 initiate.. and lots of time i got rejected also..

i love to lick pussy nipple lick her top to toe.. she use to love it..

but she had stop.. she will even stop me from licking n just let me fuck her and finish the deed..

some times i have no choose but to DIY.. feel v sad also.
So many more cases of unhappy & unsextified hubbies & vice versa wifeys too !...sigh...empathize wif all the hubbies concerned...tis problem which has been around since time immemorial has got no solutions till today :(

If you give him the impression that you're interested in someone else I guarantee you he'll suddenly show renewed interest in your sexuality. :p
One of the best advice to TS's sexual problem wif her hubby :)..coming from none other than our own boss of the forum !

[fallen69angel]

Decided to add my 2cents worth.

I think your husband is weird and he's lucky to have you. Have a chat. As men, we love to talk things out.

There were times when I'm not into my wife, it's not that I don't love her, but it's the way we men, are wired within. Ask my wife wear lace lingerie, no. Blowjob, no. Outdoor sex, no. Sex in spa, no. Here no. There no.

I have tried to remain a good guy within. But inside, sibei hot.

[Xia406]

I wish that I will be lucky enough to have a gf or wife like you... I'm in my early 30s and my sex drive is still high despite my heavy workload... Oh well.

[mangostickyrice]

i think im having the same problem as you..

when im younger i had too much love making.. foreplay are important..

when we started she love making loves, can go for 2-5 rounds each times..

now my wife out of 10 times 8 time i m the 1 initiate.. and lots of time i got rejected also..

i love to lick pussy nipple lick her top to toe.. she use to love it..

but she had stop.. she will even stop me from licking n just let me fuck her and finish the deed..

some times i have no choose but to DIY.. feel v sad also.. :(

Wah i envy your wife!

[mangostickyrice]

the one only thing he maybe see u very sian already or maybe he at outside got a fb so he dun need u

I agree. Looks like ive to work doubly hard to attract his attention!

[mangostickyrice]

Correct me if i m wrong, sis...Seems like you are a pretty pro-active & horny girl in bed wif yr hubby & hv done quite a lot of things to shake him up into being horny wif you :p...not those dead fish type on the bed...envy yr hubby leh !...he is such a lucky guy to hv such a understanding wifey as you :)..willing to allow for a MFF wif him..

no offence, sis but i tink yr hubby is quite a weird guy, so different from the rest of us guys here...most of us bros here will immediately jump @ the offer of a MFF by our wives but which so far as i know, none of our wives would dare to permit for us hubbies...how would a 3-some mff be such a big risk for him when you are the one offering or allowing it, i wonder ? :confused:..the risk is yours to bear not his...yah, he loves you alrite but he seems to be so insensitive tat he doesn't even know he is not pleasuring you enough...to give you the utmost sexual satisfaction tat you deserve as his wife ! :p...& even rejecting you for sex as you say...

Sometimes i do think that he's quite lucky too haha! Because honestly i love giving him blowjobs. Its so satisfying to look at his face when i blow him. But well. Looks like dressing up, satisfying his needs is still not enough. Perhaps i should work on the emotional needs now.

[tsuna7]

Wah i envy your wife!

envy no use.. she use to be high sex drive.. but last 1-2 years shes likely to avoid or reject.. i envy ur husband too sis! but alot of us just have to go to sleep disappointed with no sex.

[ipad3]

Have not logged in for a long while, but decided to after reading your post.
PMed you as well.

Maybe your husband's job is taking a toll on his sex life with you.
You might want to ask him to relook into his lifestyle with you.

Take care.

[tabular]

Hi, guess you already logged off so you won't see this message until tomorrow.

Most of the bros/sisters already said their piece so I will give my 2 cents worth too...though I think this is my longest msg in SBF till date *lol*

Yes, your hubby have rejected you for 1st time but:

1) How long have he been losing interest in sex? If it's more than 1 month, I think there are other reasons involved. Foreplay or not is besides the point as the main reason is he is losing interest in sex with you.
2) I disagree that most men will jump at MFF with their wife as one of them especially since the hubby is already losing interest in the wife. If your hubby's buddy offer him a MFF option without you knowing it, then I am sure your hubby will go for it no questions asked.
3) Lastly, I think your hubby may be having an affair or other more "interesting" sources for sex outside. Can be a colleague or FL, etc.

You definitely need to talk it out with him but if he refused to talk despite repeated attempts, you may to seek counselling options or maybe hire a PI
if you think this is gonna affect your marriage in the long run...

[Booker]

There could be a few reasons.
1) Look n Feel
No offence, but are there any changes to your looks, dressing that might have made you less appealing, thus resulting in the lose of interest.
Guys are not just boring pumpers... Look and feel are the first step to getting anything started.

2) Relationship
How are relation between both of you? If during the day, evenings both of you are already in a strain, not talking or even hostile relationship... Then don't expect things will suddenly turn lovey dovey in the bed.

3) Stress
Maybe he is stressed with work, outside problems that he does not want to share with you. So that will affect his sexual urge.

4) Protection
Perhaps and hopefully not... He might be trying to refrain from passing anything to you from intitmate, physical contact.

5) Other supply
Like another bro stated... He might be getting his sexual needs fulfilled by other people, sources out there. So come back no urge.

[Rickey]

Sometimes i do think that he's quite lucky too haha! Because honestly i love giving him blowjobs. Its so satisfying to look at his face when i blow him. But well. Looks like dressing up, satisfying his needs is still not enough. Perhaps i should work on the emotional needs now.
T.Q. v. much sis for honestly agreeing tat yr hubby is a lucky guy to hv you as his wifey !!...Yes, sis...seems like you hv done yr part, all you could...all tat is expected of a wifey like you in such a situation to cajole & entice yr hubby to sex wif you..so tat you can enjoy awesome & wholesome sex wif him just like any other wives deserves on their marital bed ;)...wow !..so nice to know you are one of those lovely girls tat loves to give bj !! :D...something all men enjoy !!...lucky yr hubby leh & he still doesn't know how to reciprocate wif a cunnilingus perhaps !??...

but i still tink the advice by our boss of the forum to tell yr husband tat other men are interested in sex wif you if he doesn't, will wake up his sexual senses !! :eek:..something like a MMF not a MFF !!...competition & jealousy can get some pple to their senses !...why dun you try telling him tat in a open honest talk wif him abt tis problem facing you ??..hopefully tats just wat u need to do to get back the sparks in the bedroom like the time b4 yr marriage :p

[Slaveatwork]

i have to agree with the stress and work part. Maybe he's worried about money or things at work? I know that can affect your libido. Given the fact that you've done so much and offered to do so much more, I would say, there's really nothing much else you can do from your end. Until his own situation improves, whatever you do is just short term and temporary and won't result in a shift in his behavior. It's perhaps good to just talk it out.

[lancestorm]

totally understand the feel .

Was rejected last week by my GF , done all the thing and when penetration , the sian looks comes out ... like not willing , when ask her , she say no mood ..

turn over , dress up , feeling sad and just watch tv together lo ...

My first rejection from her too ... but knowing she is quite stress in recent weeks so im guessing guys and girls are same human being , all are control by emotion and stress .

I like to serve her , lick her , make her moan ....

i like to see her satisfy face and moaning when i ride her ...

Maybe i just a guy at mid 30's that like sex ... if can , i just wanna have sex everyday .. :D

[PrinceCharles]

i have to agree with the stress and work part.

This actually could be a huge factor

[Tomb]

Maybe you are start to go out more often during the evening with your friends and see the reaction from your hubby.

Guys sometimes do get worried or even proud when the wife is getting more attention.

Or improve your work wear and makeup and let him see your attractiveness side (Not saying you are not now :p)

[Sjiaojiao]

Make yourself a playroom
Close all curtains
Dress as sexy as he like.
Nurse, OL, etc

If not, post a few new photo with your boy friends

[Botakhead]

We are here for you, when you are ready to make that crossing over the line.

[fictionman]

We are here for you, when you are ready to make that crossing over the line.

"We are here for you"...Bet every hot blooded bros here are "waiting"

[sammyboyfor]

As men, we love to talk things out.


Are you kidding me???!!! Men hate talking about stuff. You must be gay if you enjoy yakking with the opposite sex! :eek:

I hate talking things out with women because they're devoid of logic. The more you talk the deeper you'll dig yourself into a hole.

[Hantu69]

I hate talking things out with women because they're devoid of logic. The more you talk the deeper you'll dig yourself into a hole.

Fully agreed with boss!!

[milktoast]

I think its individual. Not everyone stress will avoid having sex. Sometimes i be stressed up but definitely I would nod like a small kid looking excited when a guy i loved come over and seduce me.....hee:p and whatever clothes i have on will be literally Gone in 60 Seconds or less :eek:

[fictionman]

Actually we only hear TS side of the story...We only can assume the root of the problem lies wz the hubby....Not to pour cold water but mayb just mayb the prob lies wz TS

[sammyboyfor]

Maybe i just a guy at mid 30's that like sex ... if can , i just wanna have sex everyday .. :D

There's a simple solution... you should swap spouses with the threadstarter and everyone will be happy.

[forlive]

Quite a familiar situation & story tat we are reading & hearing abt all the time here in tis forum from u wifeys about yr sex wif yr hubbies...Hmmm..mid 30s & still lidat ???...still very young man leh ..no I dun tink so men's sex drive goes lower with age unless they reach their 70s or more...there may be other problems like work related issues or other kinds of daily stress which may affect his libido..spicing up yr sex life wif him is wat u shd do...dun need to wait for him to initiate..you can start by seducing him by wearing sexy lingerie b4 bedtime action or do kinky roleplays wif each other which makes many couples enjoy their sexing !! ;)...feel free to let me know if u want to know more details...

bro Ricky, i think you active in every post, haha

[Frackers]

Fully agreed with boss!!

Same here as well

[beacher]

Isit common for guys to reduce their sex drive after having kids?

Same here with my hubby, he is kind of avoiding sex especially after our 1st kid recently. Not sure if its any mental or physical barrier. We are only in our mid-late twenties. :(

[guldon]

Are you kidding me???!!! Men hate talking about stuff. You must be gay if you enjoy yakking with the opposite sex! :eek:

I hate talking things out with women because they're devoid of logic. The more you talk the deeper you'll dig yourself into a hole.

I'm fully agree with that too...!

[comm]

usually woman always blame others and never bother to look at themselves

but anyway, it could be HIS health or body issue

suggestion is 1 bottle of brand essence of chicken everyday , the stuff really works

[iossshee]

TS ... just curious ... do you both sleep ur both back face each other ...

If yes ... Red light is on ... for men only 2 things can troubled them 1 is monies the other is woman.

[beacher]

Brand essence of chicken helps?

How else to make him more interested?

[Frackers]

for men only 2 things can troubled them 1 is monies the other is woman.

Yup mostly

[mangostickyrice]

We had a talk last night and cleared some issues, followed by a few intense sessions before we slept and also this morning! Omg i missed his tongue so much! Hoping that things will remain good!

Thank you everyone for your advices, i may not have time to respond to everyone but i did read all the pms. Will keep in mind of what to do to keep my sex life interesting! :)

[Rickey]

We had a talk last night and cleared some issues, followed by a few intense sessions before we slept and also this morning! Omg i missed his tongue so much! Hoping that things will remain good!

Thank you everyone for your advices, i may not have time to respond to everyone but i did read all the pms. Will keep in mind of what to do to keep my sex life interesting! :)
So happy to hear that sis !!..That's good news for us too ! :)...All best wishes to you !...Glad to know yr problem has been solved & you are back to enjoying sex with yr husband !...see the POWER & usefulness of this forum for people in need ?...3 cheers for "sammyboy" forum !! :D...the No.1 forum for either sexes to look for when you having a problem especially of a sexual nature ! ;)...Many thanks to all the bros here who hv contributed & shared their own similar experiences with the sis..

[Rickey]

bro Ricky, i think you active in every post, haha
Lolzz, bro forlive...yes, i am...but not every thread lah cos got so many in tis forum...only those tat subject interests me & which i hv experiences to share wif other bros & sis here... & oso to help encourage TS like you to continue writing yr sexy stories & post pixs for our reading & viewing pleasure ! ;)..haha

[Botakhead]

Another one bites the dust.

[555K]

TS, so all is good now?

[AntonioConte]

We had a talk last night and cleared some issues, followed by a few intense sessions before we slept and also this morning! Omg i missed his tongue so much! Hoping that things will remain good!

Thank you everyone for your advices, i may not have time to respond to everyone but i did read all the pms. Will keep in mind of what to do to keep my sex life interesting! :)

That's great sis :D

[Parasitic]

Another one bites the dust.

Haizz so sad

[groo]

You got that right sis! Keep in mind ALWAYS - married life is hard work n solving yr problem this time is not a one-off thingy.
Important thing is Don't Sweat The Small Stuff. There'll always be little nitty gritties that bother you. Don't let them take over your life. Life, like an automobile, is driven from inside out, not the other way around. Learn to live with them n give each other breathing space. Learn to be at peace with where you are. Cheers! :p:D;)
...Thank you everyone for your advices, i may not have time to respond to everyone but i did read all the pms. Will keep in mind of what to do to keep my sex life interesting! :)