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29-05-2015, 12:20 AM
An honorable member of the Coffee Shop Has Just Posted the Following:
http://anyhowhantam.blogspot.sg/2015...anger-for.html (http://anyhowhantam.blogspot.sg/2015/05/rtc-is-now-clear-and-present-danger-for.html)
His grandmother told "Today" that he was addicted to the Internet. Why did his mother continue to allow him to do so? Do you reward bad behaviour with more freedoms? (Today photo)
But even if we disregard Mr Yee, we cannot let his mother Mary Toh off so lightly. He lives with her and her mother in their Shunfu flat. He wanted to quit school for some 'fantastic idea' that school was a 'waste' and that he wanted to be a 'movie producer.' And she let him. Ok maybe we say, he needs a break, ok let him have a break. He even gave up giving tuition and now expects his mother to finance him and she again lets him. He wanted to upload the video, she disagreed but did not stop him. He spends an inordinate amount of time on the Net (his grandmother confirmed) and she let him. He deliberately disobeyed his bail conditions, she let him. He made a disgusting allegation of molest against Vincent Law, and she didn't rebuke him, instead according to him, found for him a secondary meaning of 'molest' to justify his outrageous behaviour. She didn't raise a single cent to bail him but readily accepted strangers to bail her son. She allowed him to mix with people like Roy and get politically involved when he knew next to nothing about politics. She allowed him to crowdfund for monies he didn't need because the lawyers were acting pro-bono. And when he boasted of how he wants to splurge with the monies, she didn't stop him and tell him it was wrong. He claims to have raised $20,000 (I don't think it's that much, but thousands there was, no doubt). She allows a 16 year old to handle this huge sum and to continue to demand more.
Mary Toh's parenting beggars belief. Instead of imposing discipline and guidance, she engages in appeasement. She deserves to be slammed for the manner she allowed things to turn south in a space of 6 months since January 1st.
He openly disregards directions from a judge and refuses to meet a court appointed probation officer, and she allows him. Worse, she herself refuses to meet with the officer. He issues threats online against his cousins and other persons. Spews vulgarity, shows no gratitude, he even made a video where he boasts of watching porn and masturbating twice daily and wants to have sex. All these she doesn't step in. Instead he says, he's taught her how to use FB and she's correcting his grammar and English in some of these disgusting posts and administers his page for him. If true, it just shows how reckless and irresponsible she is. Not only does her son need psychiatric help (she claims he has Asperger's), I honestly think she needs it too. She needs to attend some 'parenting 101' classes. I know parents who are less educated or qualified as her (she's a Maths teacher), who can better monitor, guide and teach their sons and daughters values.
What would you or any normal person do when you have a teenager who refuses to follow basic instructions, who openly defies you, is rude to elders (he called a woman who delivered cookies and chocolates on his doorstep a 'bitch'), shows no gratitude, makes false allegations, tells lies and insults religion? Would you simply ignore him and let him have his way? Of course not, common sense and maturity will tell you, you need to impose discipline. You don't even need to use violence. He doesn't want to go to school, fine, you cut his pocket money. No money whatsoever, you provide food and basic clothes, that's it. He wants to go out and have leisure with friends, you severely curtail that. He's obsessed with the Net, you stop internet subscription, you cancel cable TV, or even remove all computers. His hand-phone you downgrade to a basic 1. You give him tasks to complete, he cleans the house, cleans his room, helps his grandmother. He's still stubborn, you tell him, he's gonna have to stay with the 1 person he detests - his father. You seize his bank account, all monies people donated, you either return or inform unknown donors, you'll donate it to charity. You do not allow him to procure monies online from strangers - you do not give an irresponsible kid thousands of dollars and allow him to buy stuff.
You're not sure what to do, you consult or get another adult relative to be discipline master. You're not showing love by spoiling your child. This has nothing to do with freedom of speech or liberties. This is about parenting and disciplining a wayward kid.
Click here to view the whole thread at www.sammyboy.com (http://sammyboy.com/showthread.php?207642-Anyhow-Mary-Toh-is-the-quot-best-quot-!&goto=newpost).
http://anyhowhantam.blogspot.sg/2015...anger-for.html (http://anyhowhantam.blogspot.sg/2015/05/rtc-is-now-clear-and-present-danger-for.html)
His grandmother told "Today" that he was addicted to the Internet. Why did his mother continue to allow him to do so? Do you reward bad behaviour with more freedoms? (Today photo)
But even if we disregard Mr Yee, we cannot let his mother Mary Toh off so lightly. He lives with her and her mother in their Shunfu flat. He wanted to quit school for some 'fantastic idea' that school was a 'waste' and that he wanted to be a 'movie producer.' And she let him. Ok maybe we say, he needs a break, ok let him have a break. He even gave up giving tuition and now expects his mother to finance him and she again lets him. He wanted to upload the video, she disagreed but did not stop him. He spends an inordinate amount of time on the Net (his grandmother confirmed) and she let him. He deliberately disobeyed his bail conditions, she let him. He made a disgusting allegation of molest against Vincent Law, and she didn't rebuke him, instead according to him, found for him a secondary meaning of 'molest' to justify his outrageous behaviour. She didn't raise a single cent to bail him but readily accepted strangers to bail her son. She allowed him to mix with people like Roy and get politically involved when he knew next to nothing about politics. She allowed him to crowdfund for monies he didn't need because the lawyers were acting pro-bono. And when he boasted of how he wants to splurge with the monies, she didn't stop him and tell him it was wrong. He claims to have raised $20,000 (I don't think it's that much, but thousands there was, no doubt). She allows a 16 year old to handle this huge sum and to continue to demand more.
Mary Toh's parenting beggars belief. Instead of imposing discipline and guidance, she engages in appeasement. She deserves to be slammed for the manner she allowed things to turn south in a space of 6 months since January 1st.
He openly disregards directions from a judge and refuses to meet a court appointed probation officer, and she allows him. Worse, she herself refuses to meet with the officer. He issues threats online against his cousins and other persons. Spews vulgarity, shows no gratitude, he even made a video where he boasts of watching porn and masturbating twice daily and wants to have sex. All these she doesn't step in. Instead he says, he's taught her how to use FB and she's correcting his grammar and English in some of these disgusting posts and administers his page for him. If true, it just shows how reckless and irresponsible she is. Not only does her son need psychiatric help (she claims he has Asperger's), I honestly think she needs it too. She needs to attend some 'parenting 101' classes. I know parents who are less educated or qualified as her (she's a Maths teacher), who can better monitor, guide and teach their sons and daughters values.
What would you or any normal person do when you have a teenager who refuses to follow basic instructions, who openly defies you, is rude to elders (he called a woman who delivered cookies and chocolates on his doorstep a 'bitch'), shows no gratitude, makes false allegations, tells lies and insults religion? Would you simply ignore him and let him have his way? Of course not, common sense and maturity will tell you, you need to impose discipline. You don't even need to use violence. He doesn't want to go to school, fine, you cut his pocket money. No money whatsoever, you provide food and basic clothes, that's it. He wants to go out and have leisure with friends, you severely curtail that. He's obsessed with the Net, you stop internet subscription, you cancel cable TV, or even remove all computers. His hand-phone you downgrade to a basic 1. You give him tasks to complete, he cleans the house, cleans his room, helps his grandmother. He's still stubborn, you tell him, he's gonna have to stay with the 1 person he detests - his father. You seize his bank account, all monies people donated, you either return or inform unknown donors, you'll donate it to charity. You do not allow him to procure monies online from strangers - you do not give an irresponsible kid thousands of dollars and allow him to buy stuff.
You're not sure what to do, you consult or get another adult relative to be discipline master. You're not showing love by spoiling your child. This has nothing to do with freedom of speech or liberties. This is about parenting and disciplining a wayward kid.
Click here to view the whole thread at www.sammyboy.com (http://sammyboy.com/showthread.php?207642-Anyhow-Mary-Toh-is-the-quot-best-quot-!&goto=newpost).