What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?

[A1406]

Hi Bros

I am facing this situation that my wife refuse sex or if she need then approach me. We are on good term but once this issue being brought up it will end up she not happy. She just reject by saying next time lah, tmr lah or tired lah.
Now, what will you guys do? Eat out? Find FB?
sisters, out there can also comment.

[kaorusama]

sit down and have a chat with her? do u both have kids?

[A1406]

sit down and have a chat with her? do u both have kids?

Yes have kid. Talk it do not work. She is the kind that if she interested she will do it and not interested talk till cows come home also no use.

[hhlover]

Simple.. wank off urself.. next time she wan u dun give lo..

[ZapHim2Negative]

TS

Zap her to negative

[mongkokdog]

so easy ma! KFC is everywhere!:D

[Killala]

Hi Bros

I am facing this situation that my wife refuse sex or if she need then approach me. We are on good term but once this issue being brought up it will end up she not happy. She just reject by saying next time lah, tmr lah or tired lah.
Now, what will you guys do? Eat out? Find FB?
sisters, out there can also comment.


TS no.1 reason why relationship fails is becus couples do not communicate well enough. Make sure u keep up with her daily life, find out what she wants, ,maybe u just need to buy gifts to make her happy? then will have sex lo.
Otherwise, if she refuse to have with you almost all the time, might be she hiding something from you.
Lastly, don't base your married lives all on sex, it'll ruin your relationship 90% of the time. Just because u don't get sex does not mean u have to cheat, i'm sure there's more than that in marriage.

Final note: she might be cheating,don't quote me and anyhow jump to conclusion :D

[FunnyHippo]

Tiagong this is one of the many reason men jiak outside.
Lately there was a research which provided stats that women in Singapore are not having enough sex.
Some have gone to the extend of self pleasure.
Maybe u are not good at bed?

:D

[sammyboyfor]

Hi Bros

I am facing this situation that my wife refuse sex or if she need then approach me. We are on good term but once this issue being brought up it will end up she not happy. She just reject by saying next time lah, tmr lah or tired lah.
Now, what will you guys do? Eat out? Find FB?
sisters, out there can also comment.

Once you've had a kid or two, wives become mothers. They aren't designed for sex anymore. Most become flabby, ugly and loose anyway so I'm surprised you're even interested in her sexually unless she's a rare exception.

That is why the government legalised the sex industry which provides a much needed social service for which there is alway high demand.

[MoJoe313]

Yes have kid. Talk it do not work. She is the kind that if she interested she will do it and not interested talk till cows come home also no use.

After having a child, a woman's libido drops. Likely because of the child. Try to imagine yourself in your most intense moment at work. Sex is the last thing on your mind. A mother is 24/7 at work over her child and her family. Worse if she has a job outside too.

Try to alleviate her worries. Get involved in your kid, invest in a maid to do the housework. It is really not going to work if you just lie there expecting sex by persuading verbally. Many bros here have been there before.

I have many kids and still date my wife at least once every week. Sex life is good. It is an important function to have in a happy marriage.

The last thing you should do is eat outside. You should know how our Woman's Charter work. You lose your kid even if she cheats. If she catches you, hallelujah to you.

[bababoo]

Try to alleviate her worries. Get involved in your kid, invest in a maid to do the housework. It is really not going to work if you just lie there expecting sex by persuading verbally. Many bros here have been there before.


Well said. totally agree.

[TimeAndTide]

That is why the government legalised the sex industry which provides a much needed social service for which there is alway high demand.

And that is why Sam Leong created sbf which provides a much needed forum for him to milk money off this demand :D:D:D

[dreamlover2010]

It can mean she's simply not interested being having sex anymore.

Or it could also mean there could be another guy outside.

On your part you need to groom yourself up. Trim away the tummy inches. Go for that regular haircut and improve your wardrobe. Get a fashionable upgrade. Be romantic. Be desirable.

Bring the family out more often. And whenever possible spend time with your wife alone see movies, eat at her favourite stalls, hold her hands, make her feel good to be with you again.

Give her kisses several times a day. Long ones and short ones too. On her lips. On her neck. Hug her now and then. Squeeze her breasts. Caress her.

And when the chance comes, make sure you screw her well until her juices come out. Many times the fingers work better than the cock. And certainly can tahan longer. A combination works really well. Screw her like she was never screwed before. Then she will really miss you.

[retsmas]

Hi Bros

I am facing this situation that my wife refuse sex or if she need then approach me. We are on good term but once this issue being brought up it will end up she not happy. She just reject by saying next time lah, tmr lah or tired lah.
Now, what will you guys do? Eat out? Find FB?
sisters, out there can also comment.

Bro,
U r fortunate liao. My situation worst.
my wifey dont even initiate. 95 percent of the time I secretly watch porn at night and jerk off. Only 5 percent I initiate sex and do with a piece of dead meat.

[IwantbustyKim]

Adopt Islam as a religion (If you are both not already Muslim) and then you can "request" for sex anytime. Even violently if the need arises cos there is no Rape in Islam.

http://www.themalaymailonline.com/malaysia/article/no-marital-rape-in-islam-muslims-say-after-dap-launches-anti-rape-campaign

[iNotStupid]

Adopt Islam as a religion (If you are both not already Muslim) and then you can "request" for sex anytime. Even violently if the need arises cos there is no Rape in Islam.

http://www.themalaymailonline.com/malaysia/article/no-marital-rape-in-islam-muslims-say-after-dap-launches-anti-rape-campaign

good suggestion ...... can have 4 wives if affordable :p

[A1406]

so easy ma! KFC is everywhere!:D

Ya that is my last resort. Eating out may solve my problem and will not seem like a "beggar" to her. Thought before if without this issue life will be much happier. So tough to see her attitude.

[MajorCrisis]

Just cry alone lor :(

[A1406]

TS no.1 reason why relationship fails is becus couples do not communicate well enough. Make sure u keep up with her daily life, find out what she wants, ,maybe u just need to buy gifts to make her happy? then will have sex lo.
Otherwise, if she refuse to have with you almost all the time, might be she hiding something from you.
Lastly, don't base your married lives all on sex, it'll ruin your relationship 90% of the time. Just because u don't get sex does not mean u have to cheat, i'm sure there's more than that in marriage.

Final note: she might be cheating,don't quote me and anyhow jump to conclusion :D

It alway one way from me buying gift for her and she dun seem to appreciate. Ah she not willing to share her daily life as sometime I asked her but she just dun bother. Hmmm she hiding something😁
You are right that marriage is not all about sex but human beings have needs also. Keep on DIY also not a solution. Eat out will solve the problem as I dun need to approach her then will not get into an ugly situation with her. Outside you get more sex position that u want even she gave in at times when she need she will reject most or 90% of the position just to get it done and over asap.

[A1406]

Tiagong this is one of the many reason men jiak outside.
Lately there was a research which provided stats that women in Singapore are not having enough sex.
Some have gone to the extend of self pleasure.
Maybe u are not good at bed?

:D

Not true cos she not interested in any fancy style or foreplay. Just want to get it over asap.

[A1406]

Once you've had a kid or two, wives become mothers. They aren't designed for sex anymore. Most become flabby, ugly and loose anyway so I'm surprised you're even interested in her sexually unless she's a rare exception.

That is why the government legalised the sex industry which provides a much needed social service for which there is alway high demand.

That it quite true but I am for one that is happy with only my wife if she is willing to give in but sad to say even I wanted to stay faithful also damm tough.

[A1406]

After having a child, a woman's libido drops. Likely because of the child. Try to imagine yourself in your most intense moment at work. Sex is the last thing on your mind. A mother is 24/7 at work over her child and her family. Worse if she has a job outside too.

Try to alleviate her worries. Get involved in your kid, invest in a maid to do the housework. It is really not going to work if you just lie there expecting sex by persuading verbally. Many bros here have been there before.

I have many kids and still date my wife at least once every week. Sex life is good. It is an important function to have in a happy marriage.

The last thing you should do is eat outside. You should know how our Woman's Charter work. You lose your kid even if she cheats. If she catches you, hallelujah to you.

She is damm free Lor. We have helper and just a kid only. Only I know that she had the time but just refuse out of no reason. Date her?? She will just tell you not free lah have work lah bah bah bah. Yes before I intend to eat outside I really really try my best to have more time with her but to no avail due to her attitude.

[A1406]

It can mean she's simply not interested being having sex anymore.

Or it could also mean there could be another guy outside.

On your part you need to groom yourself up. Trim away the tummy inches. Go for that regular haircut and improve your wardrobe. Get a fashionable upgrade. Be romantic. Be desirable.

Bring the family out more often. And whenever possible spend time with your wife alone see movies, eat at her favourite stalls, hold her hands, make her feel good to be with you again.

Give her kisses several times a day. Long ones and short ones too. On her lips. On her neck. Hug her now and then. Squeeze her breasts. Caress her.

And when the chance comes, make sure you screw her well until her juices come out. Many times the fingers work better than the cock. And certainly can tahan longer. A combination works really well. Screw her like she was never screwed before. Then she will really miss you.

Bro. My look is ok. I had spent a lot of time with my family. Ask her out alone normally she will not wNt as she prefer to be at home. To do all the little move that u mentioned I done before but she just think that I m siao cos we are married. Aiya funny woman lah. She dun like to be finger reason she say is dirt. WTF!!

[A1406]

Bro,
U r fortunate liao. My situation worst.
my wifey dont even initiate. 95 percent of the time I secretly watch porn at night and jerk off. Only 5 percent I initiate sex and do with a piece of dead meat.


Hahaha we are in the same boat. No less than you except I dun DIY.

[fornlcator]

Bro

Sigh liao.
No kissing no foreplay = bowl leow.
怕囚请 may help

:)

[MoJoe313]

She is damm free Lor. We have helper and just a kid only. Only I know that she had the time but just refuse out of no reason. Date her?? She will just tell you not free lah have work lah bah bah bah. Yes before I intend to eat outside I really really try my best to have more time with her but to no avail due to her attitude.

A marriage is to be worked upon. If it was easy, it's not call work. You have to figure out how to get the groove back. Every time you sleep with someone else you lose something. Make it a habit and you will feel distant from your wife. As with many things in life, you make your own choices. How you account to your kids is your story to tell, as your father did before you. Good luck TS

[A1406]

A marriage is to be worked upon. If it was easy, it's not call work. You have to figure out how to get the groove back. Every time you sleep with someone else you lose something. Make it a habit and you will feel distant from your wife. As with many things in life, you make your own choices. How you account to your kids is your story to tell, as your father did before you. Good luck TS

It takes 2 hands to clap. No matter how hard I try but no support from her still no point. Yes I slept with someone else but I still care for my family minus the sex portion. On the other hand. She should jolly well know that her attitude towards me will one fine day back fire. How long can I keep "begging" her? The more I ask her for it the more she know I want and she purposely just dun give in. How about you what will you do if you are in my shoe now?

[MoJoe313]

It takes 2 hands to clap. No matter how hard I try but no support from her still no point. Yes I slept with someone else but I still care for my family minus the sex portion. On the other hand. She should jolly well know that her attitude towards me will one fine day back fire. How long can I keep "begging" her? The more I ask her for it the more she know I want and she purposely just dun give in. How about you what will you do if you are in my shoe now?

Every man says that. That he cares for his family. When I last saw my father in his coffin, he was into his 3rd wife. Needless to say, I suffered the brunts of his lust. Amongst my friends, 50% are either not married or divorced. In my office, all are divorced. I look into the eyes of their young kids. It is not a pretty sight. It all starts with a little fling, a little side romance ....at your point in life. Then the discoveries, the fights, the golf clubs swinging (not at the golf ball). I am motivated to tell my kids a different story.

Wisdom, if so easy, is not wisdom. If so why do so many bros fall.

For me, after solving the "tired" part, I talked plainly to her. I told her men are built differently. We are built to need sex else mankind would have ended long ago. Why so? Ask the creator, not me. It is something she will not feel. Women are built differently - to require love and the warmth of a family. Something we men can do without if needed. If my needs are not satisfied, I have no choice but to eat out, and I don't want that. There has to be a compromise of sorts. Meeting each other halfway. Not just her satisfying her needs only - of a beautiful family her version. She accepted it. Over time.

Some times it takes a little push. I'd sing chinese songs while bathing. She'd think I went karaoke with women. Every women operates with jealousy if you know them enough. Use it to your advantage. And yes, you gotta be a little thick skin. It's just the way things are. Its a pride swallowing process. For your kid.

[A1406]

Every man says that. That he cares for his family. When I last saw my father in his coffin, he was into his 3rd wife. Needless to say, I suffered the brunts of his lust. Amongst my friends, 50% are either not married or divorced. In my office, all are divorced. I look into the eyes of their young kids. It is not a pretty sight. It all starts with a little fling, a little side romance ....at your point in life. Then the discoveries, the fights, the golf clubs swinging (not at the golf ball). I am motivated to tell my kids a different story.

Wisdom, if so easy, is not wisdom. If so why do so many bros fall.

For me, after solving the "tired" part, I talked plainly to her. I told her men are built differently. We are built to need sex else mankind would have ended long ago. Why so? Ask the creator, not me. It is something she will not feel. Women are built differently - to require love and the warmth of a family. Something we men can do without if needed. If my needs are not satisfied, I have no choice but to eat out, and I don't want that. There has to be a compromise of sorts. Meeting each other halfway. Not just her satisfying her needs only - of a beautiful family her version. She accepted it. Over time.

Some times it takes a little push. I'd sing chinese songs while bathing. She'd think I went karaoke with women. Every women operates with jealousy if you know them enough. Use it to your advantage. And yes, you gotta be a little thick skin. It's just the way things are. Its a pride swallowing process. For your kid.

Well said Bro. Yes that why I still in the marriage LL for my son. But I had told her before that then she say ok but still NATO from her. Aiya if can I will not turn to this forum for SOS😭

[archer69]

It can mean she's simply not interested being having sex anymore.

Or it could also mean there could be another guy outside.

On your part you need to groom yourself up. Trim away the tummy inches. Go for that regular haircut and improve your wardrobe. Get a fashionable upgrade. Be romantic. Be desirable.

Bring the family out more often. And whenever possible spend time with your wife alone see movies, eat at her favourite stalls, hold her hands, make her feel good to be with you again.

Give her kisses several times a day. Long ones and short ones too. On her lips. On her neck. Hug her now and then. Squeeze her breasts. Caress her.

And when the chance comes, make sure you screw her well until her juices come out. Many times the fingers work better than the cock. And certainly can tahan longer. A combination works really well. Screw her like she was never screwed before. Then she will really miss you.

best advice so far and am sure will work.

[MoJoe313]

Well said Bro. Yes that why I still in the marriage LL for my son. But I had told her before that then she say ok but still NATO from her. Aiya if can I will not turn to this forum for SOS😭

Ya, it's all for the kids sometimes. Sigh. Start with the nights out drinking and karaoke bah. No penetration. Make sure she is aware, and that's the result of her choice. Then roll with it bah.

[sleepygordon]

Every man says that. That he cares for his family. When I last saw my father in his coffin, he was into his 3rd wife. Needless to say, I suffered the brunts of his lust. Amongst my friends, 50% are either not married or divorced. In my office, all are divorced. I look into the eyes of their young kids. It is not a pretty sight. It all starts with a little fling, a little side romance ....at your point in life. Then the discoveries, the fights, the golf clubs swinging (not at the golf ball). I am motivated to tell my kids a different story.

Wisdom, if so easy, is not wisdom. If so why do so many bros fall.

For me, after solving the "tired" part, I talked plainly to her. I told her men are built differently. We are built to need sex else mankind would have ended long ago. Why so? Ask the creator, not me. It is something she will not feel. Women are built differently - to require love and the warmth of a family. Something we men can do without if needed. If my needs are not satisfied, I have no choice but to eat out, and I don't want that. There has to be a compromise of sorts. Meeting each other halfway. Not just her satisfying her needs only - of a beautiful family her version. She accepted it. Over time.

Some times it takes a little push. I'd sing chinese songs while bathing. She'd think I went karaoke with women. Every women operates with jealousy if you know them enough. Use it to your advantage. And yes, you gotta be a little thick skin. It's just the way things are. Its a pride swallowing process. For your kid.

Call me heartless bastard but I do not think that one should start to live sub-par lifestyle simply because you have a kid. You make all the sacrifices while you are still (relatively) young and if things still continue to go bad....you might end up having to divorce when you grow old where there is almost no f**king chance of finding marital happiness ever again (generalization, but you get the hint). How many friends or family members are like that? To me, too many to count. Get stuck in a loveless marriage simply because of kid/kids, sleeping on the same bed with a stranger.

To the TS, we all live only once, and why should you remain unhappy? The lack of sex in a marriage is a symptom and usually not the only cause for an unhappy marriage. Are you engaged psychological/emotional to your wife? Do both of you confide in each other anything and everything?

Women withhold sex for various reasons whether it is physically or emotionally. With her ability to get pregnant naturally (and the fact that she got impregnated by you, i hope) means that to some degree she is not physically incapable of having sex which does mean that there is higher chance she is emotionally/mentally unable/unwilling to have sex with you.

Either talk to your wife and attempt to find out the reason or accept this fact. Is your life, how you want to live it is truly up to you.

Just in case you are wondering, I been through it all and I am glad I took the path that I am on with little regrets.

[Killala]

It alway one way from me buying gift for her and she dun seem to appreciate. Ah she not willing to share her daily life as sometime I asked her but she just dun bother. Hmmm she hiding something��
You are right that marriage is not all about sex but human beings have needs also. Keep on DIY also not a solution. Eat out will solve the problem as I dun need to approach her then will not get into an ugly situation with her. Outside you get more sex position that u want even she gave in at times when she need she will reject most or 90% of the position just to get it done and over asap.

Imo,if sex is the most impt to men, then money is the equivalent to women.I've seen way more women fall in love with money than in sex/etc, esp when you're living in a first class country like sg.I agree with Mojoe though, sometimes men need to wayang abit, in front of other people must act very sey, but in front/alone with wife must act abit thick-skinned,i agree pride gets in the way sometimes though.Maybe can try act drunk/come home late just to see how she react.
And we all know most sg women are rather cui/spoilt when it comes to sex life,they just don't seems to gum well with sg guys, that's why u can see so many sg men and women buey gum one another.But on a good note, but at least they don't plot so much like those ah tiong bu/vietbu etc.
Ts, try to weigh out the pros and cons, think of ur kids as u're supposed to be their role model, and if u got caught, shit happens.
Lastly, don't expect too much, as the sayings go, the higher the expectations, the larger the disappointment, and of cus if u expect to get sex everytime u asked, u're bound to get disappointed, and can lead to very bad side effects.
In reaction to the poster above me(sleepygordon), Ever if i'm considered young here, i've seen way too many of my friends cheated, and it's not gonna be a good sight if sometimes you're close to them, and you actually know their wife.Imagine everytime u see them together, leave it to ur imagination lol.

You know sometimes i always think that they're just patiently waiting for you to make a mistake,to see if you really love them or just simply to find an excuse to screw u over, don't ever let have that chance over you.Afterall, love is a game - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.

[jazp]

so what path did you take, bro?

Call me heartless bastard but I do not think that one should start to live sub-par lifestyle simply because you have a kid. You make all the sacrifices while you are still (relatively) young and if things still continue to go bad....you might end up having to divorce when you grow old where there is almost no f**king chance of finding marital happiness ever again (generalization, but you get the hint). How many friends or family members are like that? To me, too many to count. Get stuck in a loveless marriage simply because of kid/kids, sleeping on the same bed with a stranger.

To the TS, we all live only once, and why should you remain unhappy? The lack of sex in a marriage is a symptom and usually not the only cause for an unhappy marriage. Are you engaged psychological/emotional to your wife? Do both of you confide in each other anything and everything?

Women withhold sex for various reasons whether it is physically or emotionally. With her ability to get pregnant naturally (and the fact that she got impregnated by you, i hope) means that to some degree she is not physically incapable of having sex which does mean that there is higher chance she is emotionally/mentally unable/unwilling to have sex with you.

Either talk to your wife and attempt to find out the reason or accept this fact. Is your life, how you want to live it is truly up to you.

Just in case you are wondering, I been through it all and I am glad I took the path that I am on with little regrets.

[Johnbass]

Tiagong follow my footsteps can improve one's sexlife in marriage...
:D

[Killala]

so what path did you take, bro?

He alrdy say until likedat, it's pretty obvious actually.

[iCunt69]

Tiagong follow my footsteps can improve one's sexlife in marriage...
:D

Dumb dog it is not u follow ts' footsteps : your wife stopped giving u sex since last year. U want to ask TS go desker road to look for sex?are u out of your mind! ?

[Johnbass]

Dumb dog it is not u follow ts' footsteps : your wife stopped giving u sex since last year. U want to ask TS go desker road to look for sex?are u out of your mind! ?

XDD, u go get married 1st then come and talk ok?
:D

[sleepygordon]

so what path did you take, bro?

A divorce that took 4 years, going through affidavits of dripping venom, having your personal documents exhibited in court, legal fees of over 50k, downgrade from condo to HDB and I don't see my kid much.

Would I do the above if I am given a choice again? In a single heartbeat and with much pleasure.

Would you trade (almost) anything for freedom and happiness?

[MoJoe313]

A divorce that took 4 years, going through affidavits of dripping venom, having your personal documents exhibited in court, legal fees of over 50k, downgrade from condo to HDB and I don't see my kid much.

Would I do the above if I am given a choice again? In a single heartbeat and with much pleasure.

Would you trade (almost) anything for freedom and happiness?

I left home during one fight. Stayed at a hotel for a period. It was lonely and empty.

What would you trade to hug your son every night before he sleeps? Freedom and happiness.

It's not that bad lah. After lan lan in your 30s (and some sex), your testosterones wanes in your 40s. Once a week is sufficient. The wine glass is more appealing. She becomes your friend and confidante again. But you need that "some sex" going. So work on it.

[A1406]

Imo,if sex is the most impt to men, then money is the equivalent to women.I've seen way more women fall in love with money than in sex/etc, esp when you're living in a first class country like sg.I agree with Mojoe though, sometimes men need to wayang abit, in front of other people must act very sey, but in front/alone with wife must act abit thick-skinned,i agree pride gets in the way sometimes though.Maybe can try act drunk/come home late just to see how she react.
And we all know most sg women are rather cui/spoilt when it comes to sex life,they just don't seems to gum well with sg guys, that's why u can see so many sg men and women buey gum one another.But on a good note, but at least they don't plot so much like those ah tiong bu/vietbu etc.
Ts, try to weigh out the pros and cons, think of ur kids as u're supposed to be their role model, and if u got caught, shit happens.
Lastly, don't expect too much, as the sayings go, the higher the expectations, the larger the disappointment, and of cus if u expect to get sex everytime u asked, u're bound to get disappointed, and can lead to very bad side effects.
In reaction to the poster above me(sleepygordon), Ever if i'm considered young here, i've seen way too many of my friends cheated, and it's not gonna be a good sight if sometimes you're close to them, and you actually know their wife.Imagine everytime u see them together, leave it to ur imagination lol.



You know sometimes i always think that they're just patiently waiting for you to make a mistake,to see if you really love them or just simply to find an excuse to screw u over, don't ever let have that chance over you.Afterall, love is a game - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.

Yes I agree if u have tons of $ you can direct what you need even your own wife.
This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

[A1406]

Imo,if sex is the most impt to men, then money is the equivalent to women.I've seen way more women fall in love with money than in sex/etc, esp when you're living in a first class country like sg.I agree with Mojoe though, sometimes men need to wayang abit, in front of other people must act very sey, but in front/alone with wife must act abit thick-skinned,i agree pride gets in the way sometimes though.Maybe can try act drunk/come home late just to see how she react.
And we all know most sg women are rather cui/spoilt when it comes to sex life,they just don't seems to gum well with sg guys, that's why u can see so many sg men and women buey gum one another.But on a good note, but at least they don't plot so much like those ah tiong bu/vietbu etc.
Ts, try to weigh out the pros and cons, think of ur kids as u're supposed to be their role model, and if u got caught, shit happens.
Lastly, don't expect too much, as the sayings go, the higher the expectations, the larger the disappointment, and of cus if u expect to get sex everytime u asked, u're bound to get disappointed, and can lead to very bad side effects.
In reaction to the poster above me(sleepygordon), Ever if i'm considered young here, i've seen way too many of my friends cheated, and it's not gonna be a good sight if sometimes you're close to them, and you actually know their wife.Imagine everytime u see them together, leave it to ur imagination lol.

You know sometimes i always think that they're just patiently waiting for you to make a mistake,to see if you really love them or just simply to find an excuse to screw u over, don't ever let have that chance over you.Afterall, love is a game - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.

That why I rather find my happiness (sex) outside and return back home not to ask for it from my wife. Think this way life for the whole family will be happier. She happy and I happy also.

[HelloAngel]

A wife would normally give sex if she is emotionally connected to her hubby. Otherwise, it's difficult. The hubby gotto play his part in making that emotional attachment. Yeah, easier said than done cos most women have moods n you can never please them. Esp after kids. But if you think you still love your wife, then keep trying. Until one day you cannot tahan, then do what's necc. Life is short, must live happy.

[Killala]

That why I rather find my happiness (sex) outside and return back home not to ask for it from my wife. Think this way life for the whole family will be happier. She happy and I happy also.

Hm with regards to ur previous, I assumed ur wife is not satisfied with ur family finanicial status, maybe that's the source of ur problem.Rmb u must communicate with her, show that u care.

or u could rely on stimulus,like alcohol,trust me, it is a powerful weapon if u can ever get her drunk :)

alternatively, start a new hobby to past ur time, keeps ur mind from wandering off.

cheating should be the last of the last resort.I don't blame u if u wish to see sex as a transaction,pretty sure there're alot of men out there having the same problem as you.

[ch18]

Not too expensive to eat out anyway and you get to try different dishes.
Don't bother trying too hard lah, waste of time. Just Do It!!!

[AnusYee]

XDD, u go get married 1st then come and talk ok?
:D

XMM u go home learn how to suck egg first before calling people XDD .... fucking rude

[Pentamex]

This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

Thats really so sad :(

[Uncle2015]

Yes I agree if u have tons of $ you can direct what you need even your own wife.
This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

My friend, don't be too pessimistic. Wife or woman is sometime very right and logical. That's why the society is pushing for more female members in the board of listed companies.

Money alone can't let you push your way thru, else it would be like in China or some places, the children of the rich or powerful, abusing others, hit and run, raping around. When these princelings get caught or confronted by the crowd, they reply, "Do you know who is my father ?" Anyway, nowadays, the masses are no longer fearing these princelings, partly thanks to Internet.

Let's call it check and balance, your wife's view is equally caring weight. Just like you, she has a view and a say in house. This is the result of education, not so much of woman uprising.

If you need to feel upper hand in handling your wife, you need to "overpower" your wife, e.g. most of your decisions turned out to be as you earlier predicted and you told her about it beforehand, let her recognise or "pei fu" your judgement. This is one example. But be careful, this scenario doesn't apply, "You forecasted and told her that she won't use the baking machine that she bought and it turned out right."

But I do agree having more money can make things happen, but not coercing your wife kowtow to you bcos she is not a thing, she is a human. So, you try to play around the resources or "lubang" that are within your supreme command.

[dreamlover2010]

Bro. My look is ok. I had spent a lot of time with my family. Ask her out alone normally she will not wNt as she prefer to be at home. To do all the little move that u mentioned I done before but she just think that I m siao cos we are married. Aiya funny woman lah. She dun like to be finger reason she say is dirt. WTF!!

Then you find other ways to shoot lah.

PCC on the bed next to her. And eat outside no choice.

But hor the danger is the Woman Charter because your wife is cold liao and won't hesitate to divorce if got evidence you screwing Mei Mei outside.

Very hard to handle. Cock is hard at home. Go outside having a hard time with Mei Mei but thinking hard about WC. Hard truth.

[Feronas]

10 yrs ago i was in same position as TS. In my case its a character issue - Wife prioritised many things before what i need. This included sex, respect for husband in public, give face to husbands parents (she gives none watsoever), time allowed for kid to spend with husbands family (pathetic). Patience ruled my life for the past 10 years - many open conversations, many attempts. What i have learnt is this. It is not her conscious mind that im having issue with. Everytime we agree that sex, respect, etc is an issue and she agrees to change, the next week when her mind is back to normal and less guarded on the issue, the issue repeats itself. It is thus the sub conscious mind that is the issue. Esp when she stress. Is her life dam stress? We live in condo, maid can help with kid, gt car, gt branded everthing. So what is she stress about? Ans - her priority is to be recognised. She wan to be someone in her career - fighting for her masters degree, trying to outshine others in workplace etc. It is on these things she places priority over me, and unfortunately, its naturally built in her. This is where i feel that for my case, my wife is nt playing her natal role as wife/ mother of the household. It gets worse when she subconciously eat into the natal role of the man. When i look at myself and ask if this should be my life for the next 40 yrs? I shudder - what is in stalled for the future? I dunno, but im dam clear, some things can work out, others cannot, like a fighting a woman's habits

[Feronas]

...habits esp the ones she repeat unintentionally, where after we talk through she will say dear "it was nt my intention to reject sex cus gt exam/shout at u in public cus i stress/etc". I spent 10 years trying to make it work. Its nt going anywhere. TS, sex is nt everything. Its usually alot of thing combine like in my case. I only share that in my case where if u discover that the shortcomings (serious ones that can rip couples apart) are basically happening because "she doesnt mean it" or intepreted bluntly "she dosent care (cus subconsciously its not her priority)", and it keeps repeating, and u cant see urself living like this for the next 30 yrs, its time for change - and change to one that at the very bare minimum, will prioritise her husband/family first

[hornyhubby]

Very rarely i get rejected. If ever i was rejected....usually that she is tired.

I say : Let me give u a message. Neck and shoulders....ask her to remove top if u can. If not....dont push it. After 15 mins....give her kisses on her bare shoulders and work towards the neck and ears with your kisses. After a relaxing massage, this will usually get her into the mood. This is on the assumption that she at least unbutton 2 or 3 of her pyjama top for the message. More difficult if she uses a round neçk T shirt. If she can be coaxed into being nude for the message....much much easier.

Praise her.....compliment her....thank her for her hard work.... If you have got gold nuggets in your mouth....then the only option is to pcc hahaha

[MoJoe313]

Yes I agree if u have tons of $ you can direct what you need even your own wife.
This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

I think we found the problem. Money. You may want to re-visit this TS. Having a your-money-is-your-money, my-money-is-my-money attitude builds a wall between spouses.

If I was your wife, I'd feel disconnected to you. Its like I am on my own financially, you are hiding something from me. Don't come to me for help on sex.

[MoJoe313]

10 yrs ago i was in same position as TS. In my case its a character issue - Wife prioritised many things before what i need. This included sex, respect for husband in public, give face to husbands parents (she gives none watsoever), time allowed for kid to spend with husbands family (pathetic). Patience ruled my life for the past 10 years - many open conversations, many attempts. What i have learnt is this. It is not her conscious mind that im having issue with. Everytime we agree that sex, respect, etc is an issue and she agrees to change, the next week when her mind is back to normal and less guarded on the issue, the issue repeats itself. It is thus the sub conscious mind that is the issue. Esp when she stress. Is her life dam stress? We live in condo, maid can help with kid, gt car, gt branded everthing. So what is she stress about? Ans - her priority is to be recognised. She wan to be someone in her career - fighting for her masters degree, trying to outshine others in workplace etc. It is on these things she places priority over me, and unfortunately, its naturally built in her. This is where i feel that for my case, my wife is nt playing her natal role as wife/ mother of the household. It gets worse when she subconciously eat into the natal role of the man. When i look at myself and ask if this should be my life for the next 40 yrs? I shudder - what is in stalled for the future? I dunno, but im dam clear, some things can work out, others cannot, like a fighting a woman's habits

I feel you bro. Seen some of these ambitious career types. Disgusting (sorry). All I can say is your have chosen poorly. You mentioned 10 years ago. How is it now?

[lightweaver]

This may help young couples but not couples who have been married with habits already set in.

Agree on a house rule eg 3 times a week min no qns asked. Of cos as a guy do ur part on the foreplay. Humans tend to follow reasonable rules and freq sex builds intimacy. For ladies the more u dun do it, the more u dun think about it. So the 3 times keeps it there.

Been together with wife for 17 years and 3 times ain't enough for her lol

[Johnbass]

XMM u go home learn how to suck egg first before calling people XDD .... fucking rude

XDD, So many posts here, you choose to reply to mine.
Using new clone nick somemore... Fucking BOJI
:D

[FunnyHippo]

XDD, So many posts here, you choose to reply to mine.
Using new clone nick somemore... Fucking BOJI
:D

JiBye...
U clone mai call people clone leh...

Tiagong now u like to pick a fight with XDD?
Later tio slap hor...

:D

[Feronas]

I feel you bro. Seen some of these ambitious career types. Disgusting (sorry). All I can say is your have chosen poorly. You mentioned 10 years ago. How is it now?

Every word u said bro rings true. I have chosen poorly. Now, my heart as tempered by her over time is dead, and am searching for a soul mate. And I am determined as hell to not repeat this mistake.

[MoJoe313]

Every word u said bro rings true. I have chosen poorly. Now, my heart as tempered by her over time is dead, and am searching for a soul mate. And I am determined as hell to not repeat this mistake.

Bro, I hope you don't have kids. Sigh :(

[retsmas]

Bro, I hope you don't have kids. Sigh :(

I think the grown up kids will understand the need for divorce if the sex is not on the same page. Also, the kids would rather have happily seperated parents than to have unhappy parents living together. As bro had said,imagine to go u had just gone thro misery for 10 yrs... and 40 yrs await you:eek:

[ahLeong87]

Is sex included here (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs) ?:confused:

[MoJoe313]

Is sex included here (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs) ?:confused:

Maslow Hierachy of Needs! Hahaha. You win liao! I remember my tutor telling me sex is in the first level. It must be satisfied like food. Tio bo? LoLz

[ahLeong87]

It fall under the category of love, call "make love". Higher than career and self-actualization

[A1406]

A wife would normally give sex if she is emotionally connected to her hubby. Otherwise, it's difficult. The hubby gotto play his part in making that emotional attachment. Yeah, easier said than done cos most women have moods n you can never please them. Esp after kids. But if you think you still love your wife, then keep trying. Until one day you cannot tahan, then do what's necc. Life is short, must live happy.

This is what I think also😄

[A1406]

Not too expensive to eat out anyway and you get to try different dishes.
Don't bother trying too hard lah, waste of time. Just Do It!!!

Yes as a last resort when I succumbed to the hunger.

[Antiquated]

Is sex included here (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs) ?:confused:

Wow thats something new :D

[A1406]

My friend, don't be too pessimistic. Wife or woman is sometime very right and logical. That's why the society is pushing for more female members in the board of listed companies.

Money alone can't let you push your way thru, else it would be like in China or some places, the children of the rich or powerful, abusing others, hit and run, raping around. When these princelings get caught or confronted by the crowd, they reply, "Do you know who is my father ?" Anyway, nowadays, the masses are no longer fearing these princelings, partly thanks to Internet.

Let's call it check and balance, your wife's view is equally caring weight. Just like you, she has a view and a say in house. This is the result of education, not so much of woman uprising.

If you need to feel upper hand in handling your wife, you need to "overpower" your wife, e.g. most of your decisions turned out to be as you earlier predicted and you told her about it beforehand, let her recognise or "pei fu" your judgement. This is one example. But be careful, this scenario doesn't apply, "You forecasted and told her that she won't use the baking machine that she bought and it turned out right."

But I do agree having more money can make things happen, but not coercing your wife kowtow to you bcos she is not a thing, she is a human. So, you try to play around the resources or "lubang" that are within your supreme command.

Yes you are right to a certain extend to a certain kind of woman. Maybe my ex will be a better listener and giver. Will respect what I am. My current wife is different. Example: last time I am earning more than her and her attitude is different as in she will hear what you said and suggest but sad to say that now she is earning more than me (due to her industry pay rise faster) and she think that she is above or the best in the family that sometimes when i asked her about her daily life or give some suggestion she will tell me that no need to teach her what to do or ask her what she did. So now I dun give a damn fuck to
Care so much about her problem.

[A1406]

Then you find other ways to shoot lah.

PCC on the bed next to her. And eat outside no choice.

But hor the danger is the Woman Charter because your wife is cold liao and won't hesitate to divorce if got evidence you screwing Mei Mei outside.

Very hard to handle. Cock is hard at home. Go outside having a hard time with Mei Mei but thinking hard about WC. Hard truth.

Haha the truth is I long wanted a divorce with her due to her cold attitude and no respect to me as well. Actually had engaged a lawyer and suggested to her already but last min she backed out giving this and that excuse not to divorce so bo Bian had to LL stay put also becos of my son.

[A1406]

10 yrs ago i was in same position as TS. In my case its a character issue - Wife prioritised many things before what i need. This included sex, respect for husband in public, give face to husbands parents (she gives none watsoever), time allowed for kid to spend with husbands family (pathetic). Patience ruled my life for the past 10 years - many open conversations, many attempts. What i have learnt is this. It is not her conscious mind that im having issue with. Everytime we agree that sex, respect, etc is an issue and she agrees to change, the next week when her mind is back to normal and less guarded on the issue, the issue repeats itself. It is thus the sub conscious mind that is the issue. Esp when she stress. Is her life dam stress? We live in condo, maid can help with kid, gt car, gt branded everthing. So what is she stress about? Ans - her priority is to be recognised. She wan to be someone in her career - fighting for her masters degree, trying to outshine others in workplace etc. It is on these things she places priority over me, and unfortunately, its naturally built in her. This is where i feel that for my case, my wife is nt playing her natal role as wife/ mother of the household. It gets worse when she subconciously eat into the natal role of the man. When i look at myself and ask if this should be my life for the next 40 yrs? I shudder - what is in stalled for the future? I dunno, but im dam clear, some things can work out, others cannot, like a fighting a woman's habits

Wow your wife sounded so much like my wife. And yes she also make me lost my job years ago just to show her company that she is capable of resolving matter and eventually she got pay rise etc... Yes she show no respect in front of the maid and kid when like commanding me to do anything! WTF not becos of my son I fuck care ask her fly kite already.

[HelloAngel]

I see a lot of unhappy marriages here and my advise is, you should ask yourself if you wish to grow old this way? If it's cos of sex that you are unhappy, I guess eating outside can solve the problem if you still love your wife. I initiated a divorce and took my kid with me cos my ex wasn't providing well for the family. I was paying for most stuffs and he took it for granted. Eventually there were many issues and I lost the emotional connection with him. We stopped having sex and there was no more feeling on my part. The emotional quotient was lost. Now I am single and supporting my son on my own but happier!! I am not advocating a divorce but in this real world, we gotto think hard on what we want in life. Good luck!!

[ah rat]

Yes as a last resort when I succumbed to the hunger.

Did your wife allow u to touch her :)

[ILikeToMoveIt]

I loves to share with stranger regarding my wife. Everything about my wife I can shared with you guys. Just feel free to ask.

[ah rat]

I loves to share with stranger regarding my wife. Everything about my wife I can shared with you guys. Just feel free to ask.

Bro,got pixs of yr wife neh neh & pussy to share :p :D

[ddog]

Wife no sex nevermind, get meiki (vagina replica) bros are selling here or online, 180% cheaper than shops might feel better than wife

[ILikeToMoveIt]

Yes, bro. Of course I have as per your request

[A1406]

Did your wife allow u to touch her :)

No wor if she dun allow. If allow that mean she need and can have sex lah

[A1406]

I see a lot of unhappy marriages here and my advise is, you should ask yourself if you wish to grow old this way? If it's cos of sex that you are unhappy, I guess eating outside can solve the problem if you still love your wife. I initiated a divorce and took my kid with me cos my ex wasn't providing well for the family. I was paying for most stuffs and he took it for granted. Eventually there were many issues and I lost the emotional connection with him. We stopped having sex and there was no more feeling on my part. The emotional quotient was lost. Now I am single and supporting my son on my own but happier!! I am not advocating a divorce but in this real world, we gotto think hard on what we want in life. Good luck!!

Sis,
Allow me to ask you one question. If your hubby suddenly out of job and not due to his fault (not lazy kind) and can't find a job back for the time being and he is financially strapped. Will you pay the bills for the family first without demanding the amount that you had paid for the family back? Which mean that your money can be spent/share with the family when in tough time.

[ManInCheong]

Sis,
Allow me to ask you one question. If your hubby suddenly out of job and not due to his fault (not lazy kind) and can't find a job back for the time being and he is financially strapped. Will you pay the bills for the family first without demanding the amount that you had paid for the family back? Which mean that your money can be spent/share with the family when in tough time.

Well said~

[newyorker88]

Wow your wife sounded so much like my wife. And yes she also make me lost my job years ago just to show her company that she is capable of resolving matter and eventually she got pay rise etc... Yes she show no respect in front of the maid and kid when like commanding me to do anything! WTF not becos of my son I fuck care ask her fly kite already.

So sorry to hear about your plight. You stayed for the sake of your kid. When you get older, I wont be surprise you get hooked with another woman who will treat you better, and when the D word comes about due to your new partner, it will be " you have another woman " excuse, n she will win.

The darkness is not forever, neither does the sun shines forever. Not I am cursing her, but there may come a day when she loses her job. Or something happens. Not I curse her, but nature has a way to put those who are very high up w big attitude to lows. Perhaps it is not too late for you to take care of her, n hope she realise her mistakes.

[A1406]

So sorry to hear about your plight. You stayed for the sake of your kid. When you get older, I wont be surprise you get hooked with another woman who will treat you better, and when the D word comes about due to your new partner, it will be " you have another woman " excuse, n she will win.

The darkness is not forever, neither does the sun shines forever. Not I am cursing her, but there may come a day when she loses her job. Or something happens. Not I curse her, but nature has a way to put those who are very high up w big attitude to lows. Perhaps it is not too late for you to take care of her, n hope she realise her mistakes.

Yes every one have their ups and downs. One can be a high flyer today but to zero Tmr which no one can know. We all read from papers report as well. So for those who is riding high now dun need to be so stub out else better maintain it all the way and dun fall one day.

[ah rat]

No wor if she dun allow. If allow that mean she need and can have sex lah

any suspect of yr wife eating outside :)

[A1406]

any suspect of yr wife eating outside :)

Maybe but cannot confirm.

[ah rat]

Maybe but cannot confirm.

If really she eat outside ,she won't feel to have sex anymore .Once of my friend wife too eat outside.When my friend want to strip her panty,she anyhow used her legs to kick him.And told him I don't want to have sex :D

[guldon]

Reading a lot of post.

Me too, didn't have sex with my wife for long time. Always said tired.
She work part time job. Yes, maybe she's tired, but when not working for days,
also tired. Then, got one time I ask for a HJ. Doing it like unwillingly😔.
The last time I ask for it was the time she told me to do it myself...!
And guys are always tied down because of kids....

Got one time I re-service with my camp mate, he was saying
" can have kids but no wife or not..." Thinking about it.......sad😢

[HelloAngel]

Sis,
Allow me to ask you one question. If your hubby suddenly out of job and not due to his fault (not lazy kind) and can't find a job back for the time being and he is financially strapped. Will you pay the bills for the family first without demanding the amount that you had paid for the family back? Which mean that your money can be spent/share with the family when in tough time.

This is a different scenario cos he can't find a job due to legitimate reason not cos he don't want to. I have been paying majority of the bills cos I earn more than him and he took it for granted and refuse to improve himself. I don't ask him for any money back and my boy's tuition fees are all borne by me as he does not believe in tuition nor insurance. Lots of these issues. I endured till I feel there is no point anymore. Then I stopped the sex naturally cos I don't feel anymore connection with him. I need an emotional attachment for sex. Heh.

[HelloAngel]

Men and women programmed differently. Men needs sex from wife to feel loved. Women needs more than sex to feel loved. Of course, some women feel that the more sex their spouse gives, the more the hb loves them. Then some are happy with material goods from the spouse sans the sex. Perfect scenario would be $$ and sex creates a good balance but seldom. No perfect solution to the problems each couple face and ultimately it's up to you to either remain stuck in an unhappy marriage or attempt to improve it. :) no matter what, do what you want as long as you are willing to face the music should shit happens.

[coolguy71]

Hi bros.. dont u think the reason your wife dont want sex from us as she is getting it from somewhere else. She has her fun.. so when we a she is used. Think about it..

At least this is how i feel.. if not alway tired.. so or not.
.lol.

[williamtkk]

For womenfolk, they can flutter towards any thing as long as it suits them

[dreamlover2010]

Wife don't give you sex. Wife don't give you respect.

Your job is down. Her job is up.

I read from another website about an accountant wife married with kids. She got affair with her boss. Her young daughter stumbled on her sms and asked neighbours how to handle the sensitive issue.

I think bro that it's getting very common for married women to spread their legs outside for others to fuck.

Since already no respect for you, your marriage very hard to salvage. If you want to save it be prepared to tahan for at least a few years. Or until her lover breaks off with her. But not yet proven if she's really fucking outside.

It's very tough.

[asdfghjkl]

If you have got gold nuggets in your mouth....then the only option is to pcc hahaha

i LOL at this! :)

[A1406]

This is a different scenario cos he can't find a job due to legitimate reason not cos he don't want to. I have been paying majority of the bills cos I earn more than him and he took it for granted and refuse to improve himself. I don't ask him for any money back and my boy's tuition fees are all borne by me as he does not believe in tuition nor insurance. Lots of these issues. I endured till I feel there is no point anymore. Then I stopped the sex naturally cos I don't feel anymore connection with him. I need an emotional attachment for sex. Heh.

Understand your point. As least you can part your money for family sake without demanding it back. Yes if the man dun improve despite your kindness he ought to be shot!

[A1406]

Hi bros.. dont u think the reason your wife dont want sex from us as she is getting it from somewhere else. She has her fun.. so when we a she is used. Think about it..

At least this is how i feel.. if not alway tired.. so or not.
.lol.

Might be but can never jump the gun unless saw with our own eyes.
But to reject us is same as asking us to eat out as obvious they know we need then we are like "beggar" to ask from them and they purposely dun give. Serve them right if they found out about us eating outside. Better still no need to give them excuse here and there.

[hhlover]

I think all bro here is having the same problem.. married life wit kid = less or no sex life wit wife... last time be4 married or be4 our 2nd child.. sex life wit my wife was wonderful.. we will foreplay, she will bj n i paint her.. then pump her in few position.. or even bj till i cim..
But now sad to say.. she wont reject sex wit me but maybe twice a month.. no bj, jus i paint her to make sure she abit wet be4 pumping her.. n only one positon tat is missionary.. until she come i come.. end game..
Come to think of it.. i rather sometime wank off myself then have sex wit her... worst then commercial sex...

[JacqueMerlin]

Hi Bros

I am facing this situation that my wife refuse sex or if she need then approach me. We are on good term but once this issue being brought up it will end up she not happy. She just reject by saying next time lah, tmr lah or tired lah.
Now, what will you guys do? Eat out? Find FB?
sisters, out there can also comment.

She's cheating on you. No decent woman will change like this for no good reason. :D
Don't believe all the stories she can conjur to convince you she's not cheating. Prepare to look for a good lawyer.

[markzzz]

Read through the postings in this thread. I am also trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. Hardly talk to the wife. Sad to say maybe we made the wrong choice getting married. We got different views on so many things every once in a while will argue. So these days, I just don't bother to communicate, at leAST avoid chabce for conflict. Would have gotten a divorce but for the child..we married 11 years but 10 years of misery...I think when the kid is older, I will likely initiate a divorce... just wonder at what age would the child be able to understand and not be so emotionally affected :(

[mikealpha]

Read through the postings in this thread. I am also trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. Hardly talk to the wife. Sad to say maybe we made the wrong choice getting married. We got different views on so many things every once in a while will argue. So these days, I just don't bother to communicate, at leAST avoid chabce for conflict. Would have gotten a divorce but for the child..we married 11 years but 10 years of misery...I think when the kid is older, I will likely initiate a divorce... just wonder at what age would the child be able to understand and not be so emotionally affected :(

Sad to hear bro....男人的悲哀！

[Rickey]

Read through the postings in this thread. I am also trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. Hardly talk to the wife. Sad to say maybe we made the wrong choice getting married. We got different views on so many things every once in a while will argue. So these days, I just don't bother to communicate, at leAST avoid chabce for conflict. Would have gotten a divorce but for the child..we married 11 years but 10 years of misery...I think when the kid is older, I will likely initiate a divorce... just wonder at what age would the child be able to understand and not be so emotionally affected :(

Sad to hear bro....男人的悲哀！
Yes, its true..many bros & hubbies are in such sad circumstances...sigh..the stresses & strains of daily living as well as having to take care of the kids & family etc hv taken a big toll on most wifeys wif many cracks slowly appearing one by one over time or sometimes even all together in their marriage, making hubbies literally having to beg for sex wif their wifeys...& as a result leading to some who are unable to control their urges having to eat outside & some even committing sexual crimes....really sad...

so couples must constantly re-invent & spice up their romance for their marriages to work..& to survive & stand the test of time for the sake of both parties...just mho...

[Feronas]

Men and women programmed differently. Men needs sex from wife to feel loved. Women needs more than sex to feel loved. Of course, some women feel that the more sex their spouse gives, the more the hb loves them. Then some are happy with material goods from the spouse sans the sex. Perfect scenario would be $$ and sex creates a good balance but seldom. No perfect solution to the problems each couple face and ultimately it's up to you to either remain stuck in an unhappy marriage or attempt to improve it. :) no matter what, do what you want as long as you are willing to face the music should shit happens.

This sis raised a gd topic i wanna expand on for bros and sis out there. There are studies on the connection bet men and women. 5 love languages. Physical touch. Quality time together. Performing acts of Service for your partner. Gift giving. Words of affirmation. Theory is that we generally give love the way we want to recieve it. Hence the best partners are those whom share the same love languages i.e. soul mates. If u are looking for a soul mate, make sure your love languages synchronize. It is also noteworthy to mention that a person's true love language can only be discovered after living with and going through some form of hardship together. Marriages that require alot of compromise occur when both have dissimilar love languages. Like in my case, mine was physical and quality time, hers was gifts, acts of service and tons of affirmation. In such circumstances, communication & "trading" is required to sustain the love in the relationship (e.g. i get physical touch and kid quality time with my parents when i give her gifts). But in cases where "trading" cant even occur for whatever reason (like she prioritise other things like career, etc) or is not sustainable (cannot be buy prada bag every week so that kid can see my parents right...), it is finished, just like how it ended for mine. Food for thought bros and sis.

[coolguy71]

What does God have in mind? Here are two passages from Scripture:

Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them (Colossians 3:18-19).

 

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body(Ephesians 5:22-30).

Got this on a website...haha.

So wife who deny husband of their needs.. will need to answer for their own remptation. ..

[williamtkk]

Here are two passages from Scripture:

Wives, be subject to your husbands, ........(Colossians 3:18).

 


Please send the above message to AWARE and those feminist movements. Many thanks

[ah rat]

Yes, bro. Of course I have as per your request

Bro, where is yr pixs of yr wife neh neh & pussy :D

[lancerlution2]

She's cheating on you. No decent woman will change like this for no good reason. :D
Don't believe all the stories she can conjur to convince you she's not cheating. Prepare to look for a good lawyer.

Nonsense she's not cheating on u (not all women will cheat bcoz u r not getting good sex) is just that both of u have too many things to do and led to being tired. Cannot expect sex to be like b4 bro we just have to keep the flame alive that's all. Cheers

[ILikeToMoveIt]

Bro, where is yr pixs of yr wife neh neh & pussy :D

I can share it with you thru wechat.

[angurvadal]

和她说，家里煮不煮没关系。 你不煮， 我打抱。

[larue]

Nonsense she's not cheating on u (not all women will cheat bcoz u r not getting good sex) is just that both of u have too many things to do and led to being tired. Cannot expect sex to be like b4 bro we just have to keep the flame alive that's all. Cheers

He's saying that not because TS's wife doesn't want to have sex with him, it's the way she does it.

[NRider]

I will definitely eat out if there is no cooking in the house ;)

[MoeLanYong]

5 love languages. Physical touch. Quality time together. Performing acts of Service for your partner. Gift giving. Words of affirmation. Theory is that we generally give love the way we want to recieve it. Hence the best partners are those whom share the same love languages i.e. soul mates. If u are looking for a soul mate, make sure your love languages synchronize.

Got so complicated?? I remembered falling in love was not like this. If you like someone, you will want to be with that someone, period.

Else you have merely allowed some other things to come in between. Eg money, career, quarrels, egos, sex, kids, whether to give tuition to kids etc. Maybe some bros/sis here need to re-visit first principles.

[A1406]

和她说，家里煮不煮没关系。 你不煮， 我打抱。

Well Said! We guys are not begging. Ask once if can do if cannot forget it.

[A1406]

He's saying that not because TS's wife doesn't want to have sex with him, it's the way she does it.

Anyway I take it easy now. I try and if can do if cannot then forget it. Outside you can get more pleasure.

[A1406]

I will definitely eat out if there is no cooking in the house ;)

Yes I agree. No point begging wife and argue with her over this. Just get outside look for your ex or fb or paid sex and you still remain your diginity.

[Rickey]

What does God have in mind? Here are two passages from Scripture:

Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them (Colossians 3:18-19). 

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body(Ephesians 5:22-30).

Got this on a website...haha.

So wife who deny husband of their needs.. will need to answer for their own remptation. ..
These are 2 passages from scripture tat are so relevant to tis problem !...it's the way to go for a happy successful marriage tat will eradicate the "D" word from the dictionary once & for all :)...but here the verses go 2-ways, & the bible commands tat husbands & wives must love & submit themselves to each other !...T.Q. to bro coolguy71 for sharing & highlighting these 2 bible verses ! :)

[4getful]

Twithstand e 2 passages from scripture tat are so relevant to tis problem !...it's the way to go for a happwomen successful marriage tat will eradicate the "D" word from the dictionary once & for all :)...but here the verses go 2-ways, & the bible commands tat [COLOR="Blue"]husbands & wives must love & submit themselves to each other ![/CR]...T.Q. to bro coolguy71 for sharing & highlighting these 2 bible verses ! :)

For ancient time, we are talking about women who only had sex with their husband. They don't have lovers. But in modern time, we are talking about a women who had been fuck by many men before a nerd guy decided to marry her. Olden days wisdom can never be applied to today's context anymore. No amount of verses can withstand the allure of promises the wc will delivered to the women when they opted for the big D. Shrewd women went into marriage, wanted $ & power. Sincere women would only want status & love. The first type will choose the big D as getting victory in destroying the men while the latter choose to stay by the men whom they normally had choosen the jerk who doesn't deserve their love.

[Rickey]

For ancient time, we are talking about women who only had sex with their husband. They don't have lovers. But in modern time, we are talking about a women who had been fuck by many men before a nerd guy decided to marry her. Olden days wisdom can never be applied to today's context anymore. No amount of verses can withstand the allure of promises the wc will delivered to the women when they opted for the big D. Shrewd women went into marriage, wanted $ & power. Sincere women would only want status & love. The first type will choose the big D as getting victory in destroying the men while the latter choose to stay by the men whom they normally had choosen the jerk who doesn't deserve their love.
So Well said, bro :)...fully agreed...Thanks for yr views !

[Max77]

Maybe learn to take some time and tune ur women, prepare her for the war.

Theres no lousy dick; Only lazy dick heads

[BurnettCrockett]

I am currently in this situation now, very sad :(

[retsmas]

Hahaha we are in the same boat. No less than you except I dun DIY.

Bro,
Bo pian leh. Though old but I still hv a little sex drive. So hv to masterbate in order not to waste money on HJ service. I poor man no money.