Retiring from being a Cheongster

[Cat Man]

So many threads now about brudders wanting to settle down with tiraks, whether WL or non-WL. But nobody discussed the flip side of the coin -- you want to settle down, can you retire from being a cheongster?

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh :D , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Any retired cheongster brudders, or want-to-retire brudders care to share their experience?

[siamcutey]

So many threads now about brudders wanting to settle down with tiraks, whether WL or non-WL. But nobody discussed the flip side of the coin -- you want to settle down, can you retire from being a cheongster?

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh :D , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Any retired cheongster brudders, or want-to-retire brudders care to share their experience?

Every night and every morning GIVE her:D

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[oakleyeug]

Try my kind of way hope that you can use it, I tried until today I do not have a craving.

1) Cheong almost everyday
2) Cheong until u cannot tahan

Until today trust me (I in China) I never tounch a single women for the last 8 months or so, the reasons are simple cause u sian already.

When I first started in China women are crowding all over me but after 4 to 5 months I so sian until I don wanna touch or feel any forgein object anymore, alot of beautiful ladies but just don get that kind of feeling.

For all information I am a sex hungry man but just like the feeling of doing it with my love ones.

Oak

[Cat Man]

Try my kind of way hope that you can use it, I tried until today I do not have a craving.

1) Cheong almost everyday
2) Cheong until u cannot tahan

Until today trust me (I in China) I never tounch a single women for the last 8 months or so, the reasons are simple cause u sian already.

When I first started in China women are crowding all over me but after 4 to 5 months I so sian until I don wanna touch or feel any forgein object anymore, alot of beautiful ladies but just don get that kind of feeling.

For all information I am a sex hungry man but just like the feeling of doing it with my love ones.

Oak

Tried this method before. Even have a few gals each day.

This can work for a while, the sian feeling can last even a few years, but after some time, the itch comes back :(

Only blood oath and true love for my wife hold me back. :D

[siamcutey]

If u truly love the girl 100% then u will not fcuk another girl behind her back.

No need blood oath or swear to God.

It's all in the mind
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[Cat Man]

If u truly love the girl 100% then u will not fcuk another girl behind her back.

No need blood oath or swear to God.

It's all in the mind
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Not true leh. I have known so many brudders who love their gf/wife/family 100%, but still fcuk behind their gf/wife back, becoz fcuk is fcuk and love is love :D

[Siong2]

Not true leh. I have known so many brudders who love their gf/wife/family 100%, but still fcuk behind their gf/wife back, becoz fcuk is fcuk and love is love :D

Ya, they dun quit, they cut down....:p
But end of every cheong session, they will remember to go home.
That's the right way of life. heehee

[siamcutey]

Not true leh. I have known so many brudders who love their gf/wife/family 100%, but still fcuk behind their gf/wife back, becoz fcuk is fcuk and love is love :D

100% is what they say mah, but the heart maybe only 99 to 90%?

There are people in this world who really quit commercial sex or even any form of affairs after marrying the one they love lor.

It's really all in the mind.:D

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[unicornboy]

There are people in this world who really quit commercial sex or even any form of affairs after marrying the one they love lor.

It's really all in the mind.:D SC

Agreed with bro cat man and siong2. They may quit commercial sex just to marry the one they love. But what happen few years after their marriage is anybody guess. Love is what the mouth said. But dick may not agree when later on the love may fade away......Till Death Do Us Path?? :D

[free]

So many threads now about brudders wanting to settle down with tiraks, whether WL or non-WL. But nobody discussed the flip side of the coin -- you want to settle down, can you retire from being a cheongster?

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh :D , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Any retired cheongster brudders, or want-to-retire brudders care to share their experience?tell myself this:

I won't be at peace within myself after cheonging, knowing I broke a convenant to be faitthful to each other
If I really love her, I also must control myself even as I expect her to do the same
Knowing the past, the last thing I want to do is to fail her & betray her trust in me.
Can't imagine doing it with another I dun love now
Rather her than anyone else. :D


Really tough at first but it does get easier as time goes by. Finally have reached the stage where I can happily walk thru GL and ignore all the FL's calls or go sit in a Cat40 hse to wait for bros to do what they had to do. All the beckonings from the pooyings have no more effect. Just think of her can liao.

[Cat Man]

Really tough at first but it does get easier as time goes by. Finally have reached the stage where I can happily walk thru GL and ignore all the FL's calls or go sit in a Cat40 hse to wait for bros to do what they had to do. All the beckonings from the pooyings have no more effect. Just think of her can liao.

But when more time goes by, and more, and more, do u think it gets easier or tougher? How can you be sure in 5 yrs time? 10 yrs?

[free]

But when more time goes by, and more, and more, do u think it gets easier or tougher? How can you be sure in 5 yrs time? 10 yrs?I dun know, maybe cos I am intrinsically a "1-woman" man? My past experience exceeded 10 years and if she had treated me anywhere near half of what I have now, I know it would be still going strong. Again what I said works for me, maybe not for others.

[Cat Man]

I dun know, maybe cos I am intrinsically a "1-woman" man? My past experience exceeded 10 years and if she had treated me anywhere near half of what I have now, I know it would be still going strong. Again what I said works for me, maybe not for others.


"1-woman" man means you only love her, rite? But I have seen so many "1-woman" men, who will never think of leaving their "1-woman" for any other, and really love their "1-woman", but because they have been cheongster so long, they cannot quit cheonging. Like I said before, to these guys, love is love and fcuking is fcuking. Call them hypocrites if you will, but in their hearts, they really love their "1-woman"!! sometimes their "1-woman" even understand their "addiction" and forgive them for cheonging!!

So u mean in yr 10 years past marriage u never cheong at all?

[thaivisitor]

After married, every week at least two or 3 nights, start going to church with wife lor.....:cool:

[naemlo]

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.


They dun trust u, but u will also have doubt in them. Cos they r WL b4....since dun trust each other, then dun settle down till the trust thing is resolved.


So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?


How she assure u then??


For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh :D , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.


Dun stop loh, y stop?? If want to stop then stop all these activities like going HC, KTV... then when itchy, bonk your wife or download AV to pcc.

[naemlo]

It's all in the mind



Most cheongsters, small head thinks b4 big head.....

[Cat Man]

They dun trust u, but u will also have doubt in them. Cos they r WL b4....since dun trust each other, then dun settle down till the trust thing is resolved.

This trust thing take a long time to resolve...until I heh heh chuan...but In my case, finally resolved...that's why I advise brudders -- DON'T TRY TO GET INTO r/s with WL. 自找死路!

How she assure u then??

That's between me and her ;)


Dun stop loh, y stop?? If want to stop then stop all these activities like going HC, KTV... then when itchy, bonk your wife or download AV to pcc.

Abahden?? On overseas trip, I go back hotel room after business of the day is done, load up a couple of favorite porn sites on the broadband and pcc myself to sleep. :p

[Klown]

For me, it's not just talk.
I wanted to stop cheonging for her,
but I strayed & went again,
then I realised,
I didn't enjoy the feeling anymore,
no one could give me what she gave me,
I didn't feel satisfied,
I even felt guilty,
it now only feels like a waste of money,
I can't pay for the feeling she gives me,
it's up to who you are on the inside,
what do you really feel for her...
There is no replacement...:D

[ahpaul25]

For me, it's not just talk.
I wanted to stop cheonging for her,
but I strayed & went again,
then I realised,
I didn't enjoy the feeling anymore,
no one could give me what she gave me,
I didn't feel satisfied,
I even felt guilty,
it now only feels like a waste of money,
I can't pay for the feeling she gives me,
it's up to who you are on the inside,
what do you really feel for her...
There is no replacement...:D

THAT CALLED TRUE LOVE. :D

[bhoven]

For me, it's not just talk.
I wanted to stop cheonging for her,
but I strayed & went again,
then I realised,
I didn't enjoy the feeling anymore,
no one could give me what she gave me,
I didn't feel satisfied,
I even felt guilty,
it now only feels like a waste of money,
I can't pay for the feeling she gives me,
it's up to who you are on the inside,
what do you really feel for her...
There is no replacement...:D

I guess u r fortunate in that u r able to enjoy good sex with your wife...the problem is when she does not enjoy it as much and one starts to crave for the physical pleasures that some pros are so well trained to provide....which one used to get before settling down....

[donkeykong99]

its like smoking, you can quit for a few months but when you break down , you come back even worse!best thing is to not to come to forums like this anymore
if not then cheong and accept the risk and consequenses,
or just dont have sex with your wife anymore

[Kyser Soze]

its like smoking, you can quit for a few months but when you break down , you come back even worse!

Yes, the best way not to cheong is not to start at the very beginning. Everyone knows that cheonging is hurting our pockets and a potential health hazard. Retiring can always try, but it means a lot of effort. Hopefully, love and family can plays a part. :)

[naemlo]

its like smoking, you can quit for a few months but when you break down


If 1 is able to think, he can quit smoking. An example, me.... I was a smoker during my NS. But after I met my ex ex ex gf, I quitted smoking till now. Ask those who cheong regularly with me to verify this. For sex, also can control. It is how u control, as I mentioned b4, most cheongsters will still use small head to think.

[kye_76]

I guess there are no simple ways around it. Abstinence totally depends on your will power. Are they anything about commericial sex or ONS that will turn you off? If so, use that as a rallying point. E.g. if you have gotten STDs from previous encounters, you might not want to experience the trauma again. To answer the question, there is no one true way. You just have to find it in you.

[Cat Man]

This only applies to those with wife/gf that they love "100%":

Think about how you will feel if she "cheong" behind your back. Then put yourself in her shoes - how will she feel is she knows you cheong behind her back. This maybe will stop you.

Dun tell me gals dun cheong hor. There are many married women, still go for ONS when their husbands are overseas. Becoz they know their husbands go overseas sure cheong, so take revenge.

[hunter89]

Dun tell me gals dun cheong hor. There are many married women, still go for ONS when their husbands are overseas. Becoz they know their husbands go overseas sure cheong, so take revenge.

There are some gals who don't cheong at all. But these gals, are at the minimum.......
To me, I wanted to cheong, but due to financial problem, didn't cheong for very long liao...... Money is the root of all evil... When a guy gets rich, horns start to grow..... Maybe, you can lock your income by buying more insurance and pay through GIRO.... so you will not have much money to spend..... I owe bank 30k... so lan lan... have to use up all my salary to pay... :(

[murali]

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh
u mean u were ur wife's ex-customer?:confused:

must be a very brave man to go this far! i salute u!;)

[Cat Man]

u mean u were ur wife's ex-customer?:confused:

must be a very brave man to go this far! i salute u!

Yep :)

Bravest, or stupidest thing I ever did in my life. But no regrets. We together almost 7 years already. Ups and downs, thicks and thins. Changed my life totally for her, but maybe it's a good thing, becoz I feel better now living in LOS than in SG.

[murali]

Yep :)

Bravest, or stupidest thing I ever did in my life. But no regrets. We together almost 7 years already. Ups and downs, thicks and thins. Changed my life totally for her, but maybe it's a good thing, becoz I feel better now living in LOS than in SG.
all i can say is WOW!

anyway, u r staying with her in LOS so things should be a little better;)

[Eastpipper]

I am speaking as a ex-RSC chairman,kekeke

To retire from cheonging, only way & best way is to stop surfing SB! I am serious

[Sorin^^]

I am speaking as a ex-RSC chairman,kekeke

To retire from cheonging, only way & best way is to stop surfing SB! I am serious

Bro! haha!:D U just retired as the Retiring Club Chairman, u mean ya make in the sex scene rite?

Sian oso ah, wana quit, cannot quit at once...always got the urge..how what to do, no gf.

But brudders with wives, do cherish them u noe.:)

[Cat Man]

Have you ever calculated all your cheonging expenses and wondered what investments you could have done with all that money?

Someone told me get a big transparent glass jar and everytime you feel the urge to go GL, put the $40 or $150 or whatever into the jar. Very soon the growing pile of zuah jee in the jar will make you very happy.

Cheongsters I know are always broke, unless they are big towkay.

[seacher]

Seems this retirement office very quiet so i going to take over it liao

I am a retired cheongster but not willing to give up surfing sbf because i feel that there are more then FRs in here after going for the TCSS sessions. Therefore going to restart this retirement club and might try to organise some outings for retired bros if possible


Retirement Club Opening!!!

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1)Seacher


any other bros who are retired can add your nicks to the list