fall for colleague!!!

[jakelkh5]

dangerous game but dont know how to get out... any advise?

[fishing around]

u married? attached? same department?
she married? attached? working in HR/Finance?

In general not good as touchy and can damage yourself in long run if not handled properly (speaking from experience).

[georgemagnum]

u married? attached? same department?
she married? attached? working in HR/Finance?

In general not good as touchy and can damage yourself in long run if not handled properly (speaking from experience).

Gd qns .... HR? Finance? Big no no .... :D

gm

[Wintermelontea]

Wah. Don't eat and shit in the same place bro.

Getting out depends on how deep you have gone in? Provide more details?

[jakelkh5]

not married, hr or fin but i am married...

now only on surface only ... hope am able to pull myself together and get out....

[esssinine]

find another job

[jakelkh5]

i am looking for one.... if not i will keep sliding deeper... sigh

[conquer]

Seems to be fun... Can bang in office toilet during lunch hour. Hmm...

:)

[Lamborghini]

It is going to be tough. You have to pull through.

For your future.

For your family. :)

[damong777]

Better not risk it...

[HappyOwl]

i am looking for one.... if not i will keep sliding deeper... sigh

Bro. jakelkh5, if you are doing well in your current role, there is no need for you to make this sacrifice because it brings home bread and butter. :)

She has nothing to lose. You have a whole family to lose. Never never never slide too deep. It will create another life. :p

Unless you already D****** before you met her then is fine. But she should never be the reason for you to be single again. :)

[Wintermelontea]

Don't need to quit. Both are adults and so do the adult way? Talk it over calmly and rationally. And if this works, at least still can maintain as friends.

Job is not so easy to find nowadays. The more senior a position, the harder it is. Think twice.

[loneyheart]

Try not to b alone w her ....

[jakelkh5]

thank you for all the advise... will be rationale and not take risk... hopefully...

[Wintermelontea]

I remembered my ex-colleague said this to me one day,

"It is better to pay and up an escort than to mess around with somebody in here (office). At least it is paid and don't have to worry of the after effects."

And that was during my early career days...stayed with me till today.

[prettymannequin]

Eh buddy you seriously thought of quitting your job for a woman? Don't impulsive leh lol.

Just keep your distance ba.

[fishing around]

do not shit and eat at the same place.
personally experienced it before and burnt myself badly.

not worth it.

[johnthiomas]

Bro,

I had a bad experience before being helplessly infatuated with a 20-year old new colleague in my previous office.

All I can remember now is that I lost all my friends & colleagues in that Company & finally lost my position and finally i quit the job to save myself from further embarrassment. not worth it.

Fucking hell, I'm not even married or attached at that time.:confused:

Jealousy was my downfall..you can't work properly if you're emotionally attached to someone sitting in the next room/dept..not to mention the sickening advances from other male species within the environment. If she keeps you hanging without an answer after you've expressed your feelings, you have to face up to the anguish of unresolved emotion every fuckin day at work and it is impossible to think straight & concentrate.

My advice is to avoid at all cost.

[Ahxi]

depends on 1 way or 2 way mah.

If 2 way and not just simply infatuation, I dun see an issue with a divorce.

[nextview]

always remember some gals are bitches, that cannot be changed

[demonhunter]

The aftermath is always a disaster , but nothing beats the thrill of having an office affair ..

The dirty look you guys exchanging in office and then looking out wondering someone saw you .

The office toilet quickie , the dirty SMS exchanges ...and so on ....

:D

[WRX_STI]

the original cardinal sin

[Parkerlon]

Yes it's dangerous look at me now I quit my job coz cannot work anymore

[lucian90]

lots of repercussions to consider man

[arsenal_84]

sorry to bump up the thread...

well they always say SYT stirs the heart strings...
now i'm beginning to experience it myself.
never thought that it could happen to me as i'm mostly non enchanted by girls in the previous companies i worked for.

a bit hard to be not distracted by her during work especially when she is in my section and she had eyes exactly like my ex.
my cup of tea but way too young (1992) while i'm already in my early 30s.
haiz :(

[Boinkboinkboink]

Do not fall for WL/ML/KTV gals, now do not fall for colleague...

Wah, never a dull moment here. :D

[Driftwood]

sorry to bump up the thread...

well they always say SYT stirs the heart strings...
now i'm beginning to experience it myself.
never thought that it could happen to me as i'm mostly non enchanted by girls in the previous company i worked for.

a bit hard to be not distracted by her during work especially when she is in my section and she had eyes exactly like my ex.
my cup of tea but way too young (1992) while i'm already in my early 30s.
haiz :(

Seen a couple of couples who met at work and successfully made it out of the company and are still together or married. Personally, if it's really love (and fondness) for each other, I think it should be able to work. After all, at the end of the day, both or either one party might not stay in the place, especially if we are still mobile. Management plays a part too. I can't comment about the jealousy part, but I do admit that there's a certain amount of distraction (cause currently, I'm in a crush at work too :p). The only way is to clear your mind, and focus (easier said than done). I mean, you can worry all you want, but if shit happens, face and solve it if possible. If not, there's always SBF.

I can't comment too much on what bros here went thru that resulted in bad endings. Think about it, we are living such busy lives with little or no social time. Work is one of those places where we might get to meet someone. Of course, you can rebutt me by saying, joining the marriage agency or some dating sites or activities. Yea, we could. But from what I heard, rumors are most are chui type or they have unrealistic expectations, among the many.

Same sentence, don't think too much, enjoy the ride while it lasts.

[arsenal_84]

Same sentence, don't think too much, enjoy the ride while it lasts.

thanks for the tips.
well been trying not to think much though i can tell that the guy beside her, seems interested in her.
he kinda keep asking her out for lunch daily with his own group, so had to take some defensive actions to prevent her from joining another lunch group.

the nick sounds familiar, you travis fan too ?

[Driftwood]

thanks for the tips.
well been trying not to think much though i can tell that the guy beside her, seems interested in her.
he kinda keep asking her out for lunch daily with his own group, so had to take some defensive actions to prevent her from joining another lunch group.

Didn't give much tips bro, just telling you to take things easy cause I'm in the same boat as you! :D

Guess it's normal to feel this way. Even I felt the same way too sometimes.But you got to tell yourself, this is part and parcel of falling for someone (or having a crush, in my case). You can't and don't expect her to treat you the same way as you are to her. In addition, if and when you do something for her, never expect any gratitude or return. This is because you did it willingly for her. This is what I tell myself time and again. Of course, as a loser, I would further console myself by saying, if it doesn't hurt anyone, why should I bother? Haha

Anyway, have you tried sounding her out? Like asking her out one for one first then perhaps an after work drink? Have you been talking to her daily? These little actions might help you decide if she's reciprocating you and your feelings. In any case, good luck! ;)

[arsenal_84]

Anyway, have you tried sounding her out? Like asking her out one for one first then perhaps an after work drink? Have you been talking to her daily? These little actions might help you decide if she's reciprocating you and your feelings. In any case, good luck! ;)

well i did ask her out for lunch with my current group, surprisingly she asked me as well after i approached her first, not sure if is out of courtesy sake.
anyway she's only been working for 2 weeks so i try not to make it look too obvious that i'm interested in her.

daily chat topics so far has been mostly about work but she seems to have some interest in investing like i do.
have not been able to get her to open up a wider range of chat topics unlike the colleague beside her.

i'm also well aware that if i don't step up my efforts, might end up losing her.
is just that i'm too preoccupied with my current workload to really pay her much attention cause i only just joined the company 1 month ago.
there are some process or procedures that i'm not aware of, so need to brush up my own knowledge first before teaching her more on my dept job scope.

[Driftwood]

well i did ask her out for lunch with my current group, surprisingly she asked me as well after i approached her first, not sure if is out of courtesy sake.
anyway she's only been working for 2 weeks so i try not to make it look too obvious that i'm interested in her.

daily chat topics so far has been mostly about work but she seems to have some interest in investing like i do.
have not been able to get her to open up a wider range of chat topics unlike the colleague beside her.

i'm also well aware that if i don't step up my efforts, might end up losing her.
is just that i'm too preoccupied with my current workload to really pay her much attention cause i only just joined the company 1 month ago.
there are some process or procedures that i'm not aware of, so need to brush up my own knowledge first before teaching her more on my dept job scope.

Hmm, well it's good that she's taking note of you by asking you out for lunch. But then again, don't overthink it. As you have mentioned, she's new and could be trying to see which lunch group fits her most. Or she could simply be just fishing for information and building good relations across the company. Hence, don't read too much into it.

Personally, I feel, since you are new in the company too, it's probably best you play it low. I can see where you are coming from when you said you might lose her. But, think of this way, you never had her in the first place, what's there to lose?

At this point, have you found out if she's seeing someone or just out of a relationship? If you have answers to these questions and if the answers are no, then maybe you could try to leave an impression on her. I learned something from my current crush. The more I tried to be nice to her, the more she ran away from me. I switched and started to treat her normally. I won't say it was a turning point but it made her took notice of me. To summarize, maybe don't show all your cards. Just play it one at a time and get her to notice you. I don't really know what she is like, so for this, I'm afraid you are in a better position to decide which card to play.

Bro, ending words are still the same, good luck and tread carefully. I didn't know you just joined the company too. Since you have just joined, I would suggest you try to find out more if your company's management is receptive to relationships and what's going to happen if the relationship is made public. I work in the finance industry and it's common knowledge that one half would have to leave for another team/department or bank.

I wish you all the best. ;)

[makeyouhappy]

anyway she's only been working for 2 weeks so i try not to make it look too obvious that i'm interested in her.
i'm also well aware that if i don't step up my efforts, might end up losing her.
is just that i'm too preoccupied with my current workload to really pay her much attention cause i only just joined the company 1 month ago.
there are some process or procedures that i'm not aware of, so need to brush up my own knowledge first before teaching her more on my dept job scope.

It's.. a love at first sight thing?

You barely even know each other. PLUS you're in a new work environment and you all have energy for infatuation?

I don't mean to belittle your feelings and all, but you probably shouldn't be so invested into this. Let things play out over time and determine first what she really means to you.

[Driftwood]

the nick sounds familiar, you travis fan too ?

Haha just saw this line, sorry bro!

Can't say I'm a Travis fan but I like their music. Soothing to the ears and the lyrics carry a meaning...kind of depicting my situation sometimes.

I suppose this line from them would best describe your current situation

"Never see you coming around..." ;):o And she just swept you off your feet..haha ok better not OT here haha

[arsenal_84]

I don't mean to belittle your feelings and all, but you probably shouldn't be so invested into this. Let things play out over time and determine first what she really means to you.

not really invested in my feelings as i got my own work deadlines to clear first.
to be honest, this is not a job i intend to stay for long, once there are other job opportunities, will intend to move on.
considering the regulations of SFA, it is a job that severely restricts me from building an efficient equities portfolio.

[arsenal_84]

Personally, I feel, since you are new in the company too, it's probably best you play it low. I can see where you are coming from when you said you might lose her. But, think of this way, you never had her in the first place, what's there to lose?

At this point, have you found out if she's seeing someone or just out of a relationship? If you have answers to these questions and if the answers are no, then maybe you could try to leave an impression on her. I learned something from my current crush. The more I tried to be nice to her, the more she ran away from me. I switched and started to treat her normally. I won't say it was a turning point but it made her took notice of me. To summarize, maybe don't show all your cards. Just play it one at a time and get her to notice you. I don't really know what she is like, so for this, I'm afraid you are in a better position to decide which card to play.


similar to your case, i'm also treating her normally, nothing nice in particular.
my viewpoint for relationships has always been "if is meant to be, is meant to be" or what's yours will be yours eventually.
maybe is always this sort of mentality that i'll been single for many years.

while i'm eager to get to know her better, just really can't find the time to do that during work for some small talk while during lunch my mind is rather preoccupied with the tasks i plan to do in the afternoon.
perhaps when i get some answers to the questions you posted, i will be better able to look at the bigger picture again.

[Driftwood]

similar to your case, i'm also treating her normally, nothing nice in particular.
my viewpoint for relationships has always been "if is meant to be, is meant to be" or what's yours will be yours eventually.
maybe is always this sort of mentality that i'll been single for many years.

while i'm eager to get to know her better, just really can't find the time to do that during work for some small talk while during lunch my mind is rather preoccupied with the tasks i plan to do in the afternoon.
perhaps when i get some answers to the questions you posted, i will be better able to look at the bigger picture again.

Well, good that you are playing it low key. Perhaps for a start, just get to know her first during lunch? Usually, I feel, girls are more comfy in lunch groups, cause it's like a way for them to assess you and maybe us to assess them as well.

The other way to know her better is probably to add her on FB or get her no, so you could whatsapp her. Since the two of you are new and the day is busy with work, you could chat on whatsapp while on your way back? It's kind keeping her company on her journey home. But of cos, you are fishing for info lah haha

For me, after the 'open' tactic, I offered to buy her lunch, when I realized her team mates weren't doing that for her. This didn't become a habit but at least when she's busy and needed lunch, she would think of me. One may look at it as being used, but then again, think positive. At least she thinks of you. I believe these are the little acts that would help score points.

The other way is probably try to get close to her female friends in office (if she has any). They might help you put in a few good words too.

;)

[bonkning]

similar to your case, i'm also treating her normally, nothing nice in particular.
my viewpoint for relationships has always been "if is meant to be, is meant to be" or what's yours will be yours eventually.
maybe is always this sort of mentality that i'll been single
i prefer direct approach... hunch....first u must feel tt u got chance. of course there r gers who r juz frenly n nothin else. then juz ask her out. in this day n age, if ger like u she wil smile n say where..watime. if she start her excuse without counter proposals....forget it.

[ringo6668]

i prefer direct approach... hunch....first u must feel tt u got chance. of course there r gers who r juz frenly n nothin else. then juz ask her out. in this day n age, if ger like u she wil smile n say where..watime. if she start her excuse without counter proposals....forget it.

Bro tikobonk I same with you also like direct.hehe don't like waste time lor:D

[bonkning]

ooii hoseibo...tikoringo ..
ya lidat gud...if not interested then u can concentrate resources on to other targets or priorties..nonid think about her liao
lidat ah.. ur skin must b thick orr ..hehehh

[bonkning]

The other way is probably try to get close to her female friends in office (if she has any). They might help you put in a few good words too.

;)
dun backfire leh... wait they say u veri tico...going for all the gers in the room...:p

[ringo6668]

ooii hoseibo...tikoringo ..
ya lidat gud...if not interested then u can concentrate resources on to other targets or priorties..nonid think about her liao
lidat ah.. ur skin must b thick orr ..hehehh

Off course lah bro skin boh thick how to sian chio bu:D

[Driftwood]

dun backfire leh... wait they say u veri tico...going for all the gers in the room...:p

Oh jialat, didn't factor that in, no wonder so far only one way traffic from me! Haha :p

[porscheclub]

My God. Is this a dating forum?

Pardon me for stirring shit but you guys need to man up & be a gentleman when it comes to dating. Hunt for the prey and take the bite but when she rejects you then take it as a gentleman and move on!

As an employer, I would close an eye on dating within the company but take your intimacy out & keep it professional or both are fired.

[arsenal_84]

The other way is probably try to get close to her female friends in office (if she has any). They might help you put in a few good words too.

won't really consider this method as it has backfired on me before when i was younger.
better to take the direct approach but slowly see how first...:cool:

[Driftwood]

won't really consider this method as it has backfired on me before when i was younger.
better to take the direct approach but slowly see how first...:cool:

Guess each to his own bah. There's no right or wrong way. For me, this is working fine as her closest friends in the office are supportive of me 'going' after her. But of course, they also don't want to see me hurt, so I could sense they are also telling me to be ready for the 'worst', if things didn't work out. However, for this to work, that close friend(s) must be putting in good words for you instead of just teasing you about it.

Bro Porscheclub, your thinking reflects the norm of what many of my closer friends are saying. If you could sense she isn't making any positive responses, time to pull the plug. An investment theory I suppose, pull the plug to cut losses instead of letting it move into the red further. Maybe I am just a sucker for this one sided thing, and as mentioned earlier, since I'm not hurting anyone else (but maybe myself), why and what do I care? It might sound dumb (and foolish), but having a crush on her actually brought a new lease of confidence in me. Something which I have been missing for some time.

:)

[arsenal_84]

but having a crush on her actually brought a new lease of confidence in me. Something which I have been missing for some time.

i do agreed it does have some motivational elements when you have someone you fancy.

for example, i have restarted my fitness regime in order to maintain weight and restore my slightly unhealthy bmi into the healthy range.
and i also don't like the idea being out pace in futsal games with the younger generation.

[Beachsea]

i do agreed it does have some motivational elements when you have someone you fancy.

for example, i have restarted my fitness regime in order to maintain weight and restore my slightly unhealthy bmi into the healthy range.
and i also don't like the idea being out pace in futsal games with the younger generation.

Dude ... if u are 84.. we are in the same age range...
Be reminded, u are at the golden age...comming to peak soon!!

dont waste it :)

[arsenal_84]

Dude ... if u are 84.. we are in the same age range...
Be reminded, u are at the golden age...comming to peak soon!!

dont waste it :)

yup born in 84, few weeks has pass and not really making any progress.
she's a good colleague (helpful & fast learner) and would prefer not to mess up the work chemistry at the moment.
can concentrate on work better now with the weird feelings subsiding.

thing is i'm currently attached to a thai lady so guess is always good to have a back up plan and she is at least of closer age range to me.
felt happy whenever i chat with her on fb messenger.

[nspgav]

not married, hr or fin but i am married...

now only on surface only ... hope am able to pull myself together and get out....

Family comes first don't make your life and people around you miserable. I been through a dark phase in my life before. Moreover is your work place. This is your rice bowl don't break it.

[eroticbomb]

dangerous game but dont know how to get out... any advise?

whats your background, really depends on that

[Botakhead]

Office romance is like a battle field, got many hidden mines waiting to explode and destroy you, tread on carefully.

Those who are married and find new love during work, these are not really love, it is replacement for what you think is void back home with your partner.

Have you considered your partners feelings when you play the office romance games? What happened in your married life that led you to find romance/love in the office?

2 lost in love people will proceed blindly together, thinking that you are made for each other and taste the forbidden fruit, there are consequences to think about. Both rice bowl might be threatened if found out or if either one backs out of the r/s. Someone will definitely get hurt more than the other, and not only the 2 persons but the family, friends and relatives may also be hurt in the end.

[joncheong]

she is single while you are attached to a thai lady...

experienced before married guy made married female colleague pregnant...how about that...the consequences are messy and ugly trust me...:eek:

[arsenal_84]

Had to break up with the thai lady due to some complication.

Is been 4 months into the new job and seems like I'm more interested in changing job than trying to get into a rs.

Tbh I have no idea whether she is single or attached as my gut feeling tells me she is attached, until somebody else find out the answer, I probably will keep a distance at the moment.
She is a nice lady to talk to with a range of topics (given her young age) but probably a social butterfly who is still fishing at the moment.

[sepp]

She is probably wondering about the same thing as you... Thinking if she should get hitched or not. Oh well, this is life isn't it...

[Curiouskrap]

If she is that kind of fuck and forget I think no issue. I did b4 it's my best fren and she's having some issue with relationship. We both mingle too frequent and the next thing I know we are kissing each other and it's just so relaxing .

[arsenal_84]

She is probably wondering about the same thing as you... Thinking if she should get hitched or not. Oh well, this is life isn't it...

my auntie colleague confirmed she is attached...oh well i'm not the kind who believes in "attached can break up" kind.
though it did happen to my own sis before in her rs, nobody likes to be the 3rd party in such cases.

nice to have her as a hardworking colleague who is willing to take on more crap than me as her pay is probably more than me due to the segregation of our degrees.
while she is interested to learn more and take up more workload, i guess she doesn't really know where her breaking point is.

[Ernnie]

Actually office romance need not be a minefield. It depends on the company's culture. In my company, work spouses are pretty common, there are also pairs that are obviously sticky to each other. This is despite either or both sides are married/attached. I ever saw this married lady resting her chin on her work-boyfriend's arm during a training session when she was explaining things on his laptop. It was a round table where everyone can see each other.
Also every time there is a project or meeting overseas, it is also common sight that I see some married/attached guys openly hitting on the prettier girls.

But of course, everyone being adult already must really be steady and watch our own actions. Don't do silly things like impregnating the girl or abandoning your own wife/family or being overly emotional about the office romance.

[thor1981]

This is an interesting question, and nice to read the different perspectives. Generally is a mine field, but if you understand the woman's status, it can be easier. Here is what i have learned from personal experience and speaking to other bros:

1. Early 20s / new recruit. Absolute No-No. These are the most tempting, the SYT, and in my industry's, chiobus with artsy background looking to impress their new colleagues. But it's a no-no because they are initially very flattered by the attention, but not mature enough to separate 'work' from emotion. Can lead to awkward moments in the office - Boss' can also pick up on their cues, when the girls are speaking to you, even if you can be discreet. Also gets very awkward if they are assigned to your team and they are 'all looks no brains'

2. Wife of a colleague - easier than #1, but still a no-no (for some obvious reasons). My company (US-based) had big parties for Christmas, July 4th and CNY. Spouses often attend these boozy events and may confess being bored at home while hubby is on travel (lots of travel in my industry, marketing) ... again tempting, because they are more mature and can be discreet. A bro i knew (bit of a cheong star) was pounding a colleague's wife for about a year, but had to stop when he was transferred overseas (not related to the affair). He would meet her because he knew exactly when hubby was overseas

3. A married woman looking to cheat.. usually the easiest, because meet-ups can be done through work or on work trips. Hubby is boring, neglectful or himself has cheated, and while everything is professional at work, work trips where hotel rooms are involved, can make things fun. But when at home hq, no flirting and everything is professional. You also develop agreements for why you are meeting, in case people see you together out of office.

4. Foreign posting - usually sent from another country office for a 3 month project or experience. Easiest and most fun - start by showing her a good time around your city, give her a cock to enjoy while she is on her 'exotic' foreign assignment, with both knowing it will end at a certain date.

These are what i have seen to date. hope they help bro. g ood luck! ;)

[Ernnie]

Generally is a mine field, but if you understand the woman's status, it can be easier. Here is what i have learned from personal experience and speaking to other bros:

1. Early 20s / new recruit. Absolute No-No. These are the most tempting, the SYT, and in my industry's, chiobus with artsy background looking to impress their new colleagues. But it's a no-no because they are initially very flattered by the attention, but not mature enough to separate 'work' from emotion. Can lead to awkward moments in the office - Boss' can also pick up on their cues, when the girls are speaking to you, even if you can be discreet. Also gets very awkward if they are assigned to your team and they are 'all looks no brains'

2. Wife of a colleague - easier than #1, but still a no-no (for some obvious reasons). My company (US-based) had big parties for Christmas, July 4th and CNY. Spouses often attend these boozy events and may confess being bored at home while hubby is on travel (lots of travel in my industry, marketing) ... again tempting, because they are more mature and can be discreet. A bro i knew (bit of a cheong star) was pounding a colleague's wife for about a year, but had to stop when he was transferred overseas (not related to the affair). He would meet her because he knew exactly when hubby was overseas

3. A married woman looking to cheat.. usually the easiest, because meet-ups can be done through work or on work trips. Hubby is boring, neglectful or himself has cheated, and while everything is professional at work, work trips where hotel rooms are involved, can make things fun. But when at home hq, no flirting and everything is professional. You also develop agreements for why you are meeting, in case people see you together out of office.

4. Foreign posting - usually sent from another country office for a 3 month project or experience. Easiest and most fun - start by showing her a good time around your city, give her a cock to enjoy while she is on her 'exotic' foreign assignment, with both knowing it will end at a certain date.


Bro Thor1981 is totally experienced in this. I totally agree and had my own observations that are similar to bro as well.

1. Indeed the most dangerous. Unmarried females below 30 are less tactful and can become overly emotional. Then things might turn ugly for all other colleagues to see.

3. The best is when both sides are married and above 30. Both male & female are mature, tactful and in control over themselves. Both are able to maneuver according to the company culture and still maintain a professional image. Also, both sides are able to split easily if circumstances call for it because they are anchored to their own respective families already.

[hugs]

what about divorcee?:o

[thor1981]

what about divorcee?:o

divorcee::

1. hasn't been with a man for a while .. say a few complimentary things to her. if she is polite but keeps distance, no go (she will prob still appreciate if they are tasteful and sincere!.)

if she is polite, gives you a big smile with flirty look, then keep chatting. chances very good she wants to feel your johnson in her since it's been a while!:D this may also be another sweet spot if she's looking for a man in her bed, but is mature enough to know it may not be a long term thing (esp if you are a younger guy) .. my "fren" says sex with a divorcee in this situation can be very wild! :D

2. Divorcee looking for economic support. Unless u really love her (and her kids?) better to be sure she isn't flirting with u for economic reasons. sad to say in these words, but it's a fact of life leh

feeling paiseh la, sound more experience than i am!!:D

[thor1981]

Bro Thor1981 is totally experienced in this. I totally agree and had my own observations that are similar to bro as well.

1. Indeed the most dangerous. Unmarried females below 30 are less tactful and can become overly emotional. Then things might turn ugly for all other colleagues to see.

3. The best is when both sides are married and above 30. Both male & female are mature, tactful and in control over themselves. Both are able to maneuver according to the company culture and still maintain a professional image. Also, both sides are able to split easily if circumstances call for it because they are anchored to their own respective families already.

agree with this bro..

but i will add (being in my early 30's and unmarried) .. i find it easier to start work related flirting if they know i am single (jus my own experience)

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feeling paiseh la, sound more experience than i am!!:D[/QUOTE]
Why paiseh? This is a sex forum and u r an adult;)

[Johnbass]

Tiagong many XDD and XMM here...
Still cannot watch RA21 movies...
:D

[dyelook]

Tiagong many XDD and XMM here...
Still cannot watch RA21 movies...
:D

cannot watch but many already actors/actress...:eek::D

[Johnbass]

cannot watch but many already actors/actress...:eek::D

You say one hor...
Later they come and zap you...
Not my fault hor...
:D

[dyelook]

You say one hor...
Later they come and zap you...
Not my fault hor...
:D

shhh.... my friend de friend de friend ask me to post de... can go zap him...:p

[Ernnie]

agree with this bro..

but i will add (being in my early 30's and unmarried) .. i find it easier to start work related flirting if they know i am single (jus my own experience)

Yes, single males above 30 are definitely most suitable for office romance. Firstly is mature and in control of oneself. Secondly is no attachment, therefore one less guesswork whether you are MBA (Married But Available) type. For married ladies, this is two less barriers on their mind to start flirting with you. Hahaha

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Falling and flirting. Not necessarily ends in bed anyway. I think it is rather amuzing:p

[ah rat]

Falling and flirting. Not necessarily ends in bed anyway. I think it is rather amuzing:p

Can I flirt with u,then ends in bed :D

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Can I flirt with u,then ends in bed :D
Orh of cos can.