AM I BEING Used?

[ahit1]

Dear All Bros

please be patient for my long story below:

Got to know this girl for a few years. Quite a nice girl, have a decent job and honest sort of girl. We know each other thru mutal friends. We sort of hit off very well. We used to chat for long hours and go out quite often in the past. Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

Happen during this time, she get to know a few newly found frends. She start to treat me differently, harsh and impatient. Everytime, when i was with her, there is a guy from the group always call up to her. Although the call is short every time, but it do sound like a bf reporting to his gf about the whereabouts. I can see that she started hanging out with them very often and seems to enjoy their company more than with me. I admit I was very jealous. But there is nothing I can do.

Then i started to realise she seems to starting to make use of me. Nowadays whenever she jio me out always with a motive, not like last time, just purely going out and enjoy ourselves. On one occasion, she ask me for help to pick her up as she says she oversleep at the bus and miss her stop. Upon reaching she make me wait for almost an hour at the location. She keep msg me say she got things to settle. Later i found out that she is actually with this banch of friend playing pool. I feel like a fool, waiting and innocently thinking that maybe she really doing some shopping or wat-so-ever, without realise that she have tricked me and treat me like a 24 hour driver.

Then she started to borrow money from me. Although the amount is not big. But the attiude was what i am concerned about. For example, once she say wanted to hold a bbq for her friends and borrow some money from me. Well since the amount is not big, i lent it to her. But I realise that she did not even invite me to the bbq. I even purposely told her i will pick her and longbang her to the location. I was actually waiting for her to open mouth to at least ask me want to join. But no a word of invation come out. During the drive, she keep talking to her this banch of friends and that branch of friends, excitedly planning who and who should meet. She give me a feeling that I am a shame to bring me out to meet her friends together.

Recently she say she wanted to have a make-over and have a new hairdo. I drive her over to her usual salon. And she proceed to her salon and told me to wait outside. (again the feeling of being that I am a shame aroused.) So i sat down at the nearby cafe to wait for her. Minutes later, she told me that she did not bring out her wallet to do the make over and ask me to borrow her some money. I say ok. She ask me to meet somewhere to pass her the money. After the hairdo, we went to purchase some of the girls thing. Wat i saw really saddened me. I saw her taking out her wallet from her handbag and make payment for her purchase. There is a stack of $50 dollars in her wallet. Thru out the journey home, she even have the cheek to mumble, say next time must remember to bring out her wallet. i remain slient and do not want to talk to her.

I feel so cheated and puzzled. Why do she need to lie to me to borrow money, or ask favor from me? She was not like that in the past. She was very honest and frank person in the past. I cannot believed she just change just like tat. Is it she know that i have feelings for her, i will not reject her request and take advantage of it? Am I really a shame to her?

If she really have a bf, why don't she just approach her bf for every request she want? I dun like the feeling of 'feeding' other ppl gf for them leh.

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

[fishing around]

Bro, don't be a fool already. She is obviously just making use of u and squeezing you dry.

Don't spend time on people that don't cherish you. Find your bros, find your buddies. Spend time with them and if they are your real bros, they would help to block any urge to answer her beck and call.

[late bloomer]

Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

Bro ahit1. This is where the problem should have ended. Long ago.
She already make it clear that u r just friends.
Which part of her sentence u don't understand bro?

I feel so cheated and puzzled. Why do she need to lie to me to borrow money, or ask favor from me?

Because she has changed bro. She has change. Get it? :(

She was not like that in the past. She was very honest and frank person in the past. I cannot believed she just change just like tat.

Bro I know she not liddat in the past. I know. But she change. OK? UNDERSTAND?
People do change. Sad but true.

Is it she know that i have feelings for her, i will not reject her request and take advantage of it? Am I really a shame to her?

From the way I read yr story bro, assuming it's a real story,
my answer to all your questions is sadly YES.
Sorry bro to hurt yr feelings.

Maybe strike that out. Answer to first question, still YES.
Answer to second question, NO.
You are not a shame to her. She is a shame to you.

If she really have a bf, why don't she just approach her bf for every request she want? I dun like the feeling of 'feeding' other ppl gf for them leh.

Becos her bf got no money & no car, unlike u who own a car & prob have enough cash to spare.



Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

Bro I flame u for what. Yr girl oredy flame u jia lat jia lat liao!

As long as yr posts are real & sincere,
I'm sure other bros will be here to support u / give u their 5 cents worth.

U wants sister advise u?!
Even the sisters here will advise to stay far far away from this evil woman!

Angry at the one who take advantage of u! :mad:

[Santaclaws]

She's not even ur friend, if you have access to her conversations with her friends, they're probably laughing behind your back about how stupid you are.

[Tai_zi21]

Lol u call This friend? U wan This type of gals? I got tons of them to intro u! Cos to them u r a carrot head not a friend!

[sammyboyfor]

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

You're being used and you're a MORON!

Get a life for God's sake. :rolleyes:

[stillgottheblue]

You can actually tolerate such girl, fucking joker. Worse still you seems under as your thread says, 'am I being used?' Wake up man!

Cheebye is everywhere, our population is the fastest growing in SE Asia. There should be no lack of women for fucking and for marrying. Cheers!

[hamsapkwai]

it dont matter if women used me

what matters is did i use them back

so did you kid? :p

[huhu123]

this kind of girl must kana slap.

[wildromper]

U alr know the answer to ur question.

Ps: its not branch of friends. Its bunch of friends.

[Big Sexy]

she sounds like a douchebag, get rid off.

I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

[Jamesleejamesle]

QUESTION : ARE U BEING USED?


ANSWER : Yep, yes, of course, dang ran!

Emphatise u, bro.

Move on. It may be a bit lonely at first. And then suddenly u feel free! Enjoy the other fishes in the sea...there's millions of them n of different variety.:D

[maxsee]

Time for you to wake up .... Trust me it wun hurts being alone ... :D:D:D

[alan0338]

TS must be trying to bed her for a long time, try to play patient game but still cant her into bed end up tio snook... :D

[Schnitzer328i]

Next time when u see a door mat..imagine that it is you...get a life..lobang is everywhere if that's what you're after. but it's not worth pursuing if pride is at stake...capeesh !!!??? :mad:

[topcook1]

Obviously you been used. Better avoid her at all cost . She is just a toxic friend.

[see see only]

Women these days ... are becoming more and more shameless and practical

And very cunning ........... :eek:


Again allow me to call upon "The men's Charter to be passed down to protect and advance the rights of men & boys in Singapore"

Where there's a Act to allow us to claim back all expenses and gifts IF they fail to sleep with us to our satisfaction ....... :D:p:D

[wells]

U already got the answer but you does not want to face the truth....Listen up.... YES she is using you big time and its only the beginning....do you want to pull the handbrake now? or you want to kena milk more? its your choice.:D

[sammyboyfor]

Women these days ... are becoming more and more shameless and practical

And very cunning ........... :eek:



You don't need to be cunning when dealing with Mr Stupid. :rolleyes:

[tipspecialist]

You don't need to be cunning when dealing with Mr Stupid. :rolleyes:

thats funny :D

[hard2]

Dear All Bros

please be patient for my long story below:
..

bro ts u upped her already? if yes y not just walk away? if no try to up her legally (not get you to trouble) and dump her.

So many bros answered your question, wake up yourself :p

[hard2]

Obviously you been used. Better avoid her at all cost . She is just a toxic friend.

well said bro, best is just use her and move away, show her ts is a man :p

[MMKing]

You don't need to be cunning when dealing with Mr Stupid. :rolleyes:

Boss that is true hehe, and I would say dont afraid to be cunning when dealing with Mr Stupid. :p

[justl00king]

Bro, better wake up!

You've been taken for a fool, this type not even fit to be called friend.

Get her out of your life, sooner the better. :cool:

[Mr_don_juan]

Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

So you got LJBF. That's the problem you should not be interested in being friends with a girl especially the one you have feelings in. The reason she's not sleeping with you is because she doesn't want to, and you're not giving her any good reasons to. And perharps she sleeping with her boyfriend cause you are gay to be in the friends zone with. Don't you have enough male buddies / friends ? You should be having enough friends.

The last thing you want is to be "friends" with a babe you are attracted to because it is not fun to be around a girl with whom you are smitten and rather helpless about it.

Anyway you give her everything (money, being a emotional tampon) she wants in a guy friend, without her having to do anything at all. So how do expect her to perceive you as an intimate lover ? There should be playfull fighting, getting really close, pinning, touching, caressing, pinning and cracking jokes.

Instead you got LJBF which means "I don't like you romantically". And this point of time you should forget about her and move on. :D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGzbnbNRahw

[ColdBlood99]

Dear All Bros

please be patient for my long story below:

Got to know this girl for a few years. Quite a nice girl, have a decent job and honest sort of girl. We know each other thru mutal friends. We sort of hit off very well. We used to chat for long hours and go out quite often in the past. Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

Happen during this time, she get to know a few newly found frends. She start to treat me differently, harsh and impatient. Everytime, when i was with her, there is a guy from the group always call up to her. Although the call is short every time, but it do sound like a bf reporting to his gf about the whereabouts. I can see that she started hanging out with them very often and seems to enjoy their company more than with me. I admit I was very jealous. But there is nothing I can do.

Then i started to realise she seems to starting to make use of me. Nowadays whenever she jio me out always with a motive, not like last time, just purely going out and enjoy ourselves. On one occasion, she ask me for help to pick her up as she says she oversleep at the bus and miss her stop. Upon reaching she make me wait for almost an hour at the location. She keep msg me say she got things to settle. Later i found out that she is actually with this banch of friend playing pool. I feel like a fool, waiting and innocently thinking that maybe she really doing some shopping or wat-so-ever, without realise that she have tricked me and treat me like a 24 hour driver.

Then she started to borrow money from me. Although the amount is not big. But the attiude was what i am concerned about. For example, once she say wanted to hold a bbq for her friends and borrow some money from me. Well since the amount is not big, i lent it to her. But I realise that she did not even invite me to the bbq. I even purposely told her i will pick her and longbang her to the location. I was actually waiting for her to open mouth to at least ask me want to join. But no a word of invation come out. During the drive, she keep talking to her this banch of friends and that branch of friends, excitedly planning who and who should meet. She give me a feeling that I am a shame to bring me out to meet her friends together.

Recently she say she wanted to have a make-over and have a new hairdo. I drive her over to her usual salon. And she proceed to her salon and told me to wait outside. (again the feeling of being that I am a shame aroused.) So i sat down at the nearby cafe to wait for her. Minutes later, she told me that she did not bring out her wallet to do the make over and ask me to borrow her some money. I say ok. She ask me to meet somewhere to pass her the money. After the hairdo, we went to purchase some of the girls thing. Wat i saw really saddened me. I saw her taking out her wallet from her handbag and make payment for her purchase. There is a stack of $50 dollars in her wallet. Thru out the journey home, she even have the cheek to mumble, say next time must remember to bring out her wallet. i remain slient and do not want to talk to her.

I feel so cheated and puzzled. Why do she need to lie to me to borrow money, or ask favor from me? She was not like that in the past. She was very honest and frank person in the past. I cannot believed she just change just like tat. Is it she know that i have feelings for her, i will not reject her request and take advantage of it? Am I really a shame to her?

If she really have a bf, why don't she just approach her bf for every request she want? I dun like the feeling of 'feeding' other ppl gf for them leh.

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

She don't deserve to be your friend, just want to find carrot.

Simply just do 1 thing when she call you.

Answer the call and say fuck you bitch

[skarlett]

Like OBVIOUSLY.

[Ken79]

just say no to her next time and even retort her for treating u like a driver...
As a guy be patient and gentlemanly is a must but how many times should u let a gal treat u like a free ride, free meal or atm?

That depends how tolerant u are and how much u really like her but for me no matter how much i like her, 3 times is max.
Because u can continue to be nice to her forever but she's not going to appreciate it anyway so why not adjust your radar to another person who will?

[ahit1]

Dear All bros

thanks for your time in giving your advice and enlightenment. Although some bros flame me, i dun blame you. in fact i appericate your time in sharing your thoughts and i know you all meant well.

What puzzled me alot is her sudden change of behaviour. She used to be a woman with pride and princple, and I quite look up to her. Her current behaviour is totally I dun expect from. I really don't know what make her change.

[owl888]

one scenario is that she not keen in relationship with u, but u r very sticky that she can't get rid of you. Maybe someone advise her to play along with u till u feel very irritated and frustrated and hence give up & leaving her for good.....

Btw, have you have any sexual relationship with her previously:confused:

[sportmotor]

Don't take it too hard, as long you not loogi too much & have tat ample time than just play along. My 2cents adv.

[Mr_don_juan]

Dear All bros

thanks for your time in giving your advice and enlightenment. Although some bros flame me, i dun blame you. in fact i appericate your time in sharing your thoughts and i know you all meant well.

What puzzled me alot is her sudden change of behaviour. She used to be a woman with pride and princple, and I quite look up to her. Her current behaviour is totally I dun expect from. I really don't know what make her change.

Well, you could be doing nice things to make her happy, but you also must have concern for your own happiness in order for her to have some basic respect for you and not by being her doormat.

The signs are clear to you that she is not interested in you. You probably wouldn't be so jealous if you didn't like her so much though which you really need to get a grip on your feelings if you suffering from it.

If you are unhappy with her behavior, then show her your annoyance and tell her about it and is not something which you can tolerate. You have to say something when something is inappropriate for your own standards. Just do it with smile in a postive way.

Yes she will not understand or realise what she's doing wrong with you as long you continue to let her walk all over you. Sorry to say that but you need to stop being a doormat towards her. :D

[demonhunter]

Dear TS ,

Your immediate action required should be ..... offer her $150 for 1 shot .
Followed by a FR complete with her contact numbers for brudders here to share .:D:D:D:D

[Castrol]

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

"above my fortunes, yet my state is well. I am a gentleman"

thats what you are, you are a gentleman to her. :D

[Janet_W]

one scenario is that she not keen in relationship with u, but u r very sticky that she can't get rid of you. Maybe someone advise her to play along with u till u feel very irritated and frustrated and hence give up & leaving her for good.....

Btw, have you have any sexual relationship with her previously:confused:

Tis one sounds possible.

Wat is it abt her that makes u so hung up on her?

[late bloomer]

Dear All bros

thanks for your time in giving your advice and enlightenment. Although some bros flame me, i dun blame you. in fact i appericate your time in sharing your thoughts and i know you all meant well.

U r welcome bro.


What puzzled me alot is her sudden change of behaviour. She used to be a woman with pride and princple, and I quite look up to her. Her current behaviour is totally I dun expect from. I really don't know what make her change.

Many things cause people to turn evil bro. Many.
Instead of asking us all these questions,
why don u direct these questions at her?
We dunno her, only u do.

What u should do if u really want 2b a good friend to her
is to give her a good scolding and advise her to change back.

My advice is don't talk to her over the phone or meet face to face because
looking at her or hearing her voice might soften yr resolve.
This kind of woman not worth even meeting up to give tight slap.

Message her and say something like,

"Dear [insert evil woman name here]. I used to treasure our friendship a lot
and I had great admiration for yr
[insert all the good qualities u have for her].
But I'm sad to say that all pride and principles I found in you
seemed to have gone.
I didn't mind doing all these things for u
and if u were in any genuine difficulty
I had always been willing to lend a helping hand.
But after all that has happened,
it is only me who is giving and u who r taking.
Hence I have decided to terminate our friendship
becos I no longer wish to be taken advantage of.
Please do not call me or message me anymore.
I will also do the same and cut off all ties with u.
Consider this my last message to u.
[Insert evil woman name here]. U used to be such a nice person.
I really dunno what happened to u
and what made u change until liddat. Goodbye."

After u click the 'send' button, wait for her response.

If she does not respond to yr message at all, then the conclusion is clear.
This evil woman is a fucking bitch who only know how
to take advantage of others so sooner or later all her so call friends
will see through her true colours and one by one desert her.

If she has a little tinge of conscience left in her,
she would at least feel guilty and reply u with some form of apology.
How sincere or repentant her reply is will determine
whether yr friendship with her is worth it or not.

Do it now bro. Don waste yr time anymore asking for advice in this sex forum.
Samsters over here only looking for sex,
and if u r lucky u may find some genuine friendship ...
people far better than this evil woman.
Move on ok. 旧的不去新的不来.

[Annabelle93]

Don be silly and cling on her le.. move on and im sure u deserve a better girl than her.. :)

[sammyboyfor]

Don be silly and cling on her le.. move on and im sure u deserve a better girl than her.. :)

Low self esteem seems to be spreading like an epidemic amongst the young nowadays. :rolleyes:

[kittymae]

Definitely. Used,,taken for granted, taken advantage of etc etc

Stop doing all those things for her and see how she reacts. Actions speak louder than words.

[skarlett]

...

If she has a little tinge of conscience left in her,
she would at least feel guilty and reply u with some form of apology.
How sincere or repentant her reply is will determine
whether yr friendship with her is worth it or not..

But some girls being the bitch, upon knowing that may think this way "oh my spare tyre realise im using him, i better be nicer to him so that i can continue using him."

And TS will cont getting used by her sweet words etc when u like a person, her/his sweettalk meant alot to him/her.

Some girls are just like that. Sigh.

[ahit1]

one scenario is that she not keen in relationship with u, but u r very sticky that she can't get rid of you. Maybe someone advise her to play along with u till u feel very irritated and frustrated and hence give up & leaving her for good.....

Btw, have you have any sexual relationship with her previously:confused:

I dun tik i quite sticky to her. All along (in the past and present) she is the one calling me, jioing me out. Although i do jio her out sometimes, but most of the time she is the one calling me on the phone, or jio me out for drink and talk cock session. The only difference is in the past, we come out is purely for entertainment purpose, like go drink, see movies, or just sit around catching up, talking cock, sort of stuff. In terms of money wise, she always suggest on dutch. She never borrow money for her own pleasure, and will always wait till her payday. Now it seems to be totally reversed. And nowadays we can't sit down just to have a simple conversation. She seems very impatient and very 'cha-lian' in her words.

And no, i have never have any sexual relationship with her.

Tis one sounds possible.

Wat is it abt her that makes u so hung up on her?

I dun know bro. Maybe i was caught off guard about her recent behaviour. Like i said, she used to be a woman with princlple and pride and i quite respect her in the past.

But some girls being the bitch, upon knowing that may think this way "oh my spare tyre realise im using him, i better be nicer to him so that i can continue using him."

And TS will cont getting used by her sweet words etc when u like a person, her/his sweettalk meant alot to him/her.

Some girls are just like that. Sigh.

Bro, thanks for bringing out this point. Up to now, she have not resorted to this stage, but i guess soon to come.

[MMKing]

one scenario is that she not keen in relationship with u, but u r very sticky that she can't get rid of you. Maybe someone advise her to play along with u till u feel very irritated and frustrated and hence give up & leaving her for good.....



bro a very good explanation hehe, then she should really be just fucked and dumped :D

[pussyworm]

Definitely. Used,,taken for granted, taken advantage of etc etc

Stop doing all those things for her and see how she reacts. Actions speak louder than words.

Stop doing all those unconditionally, and ask something like sex to test her, if she provided just use at your own advantage

[Absolute]

She treats you like a brother, a brother who takes good care of her well. Like you have said it, she is not sexually attracted to you so your relationship with her will only be confined at a platonic level.

The question is whether you can still accept that she treats you like a brother and you are willing to accept her as your sister instead of a normal friend. If you treat her like a sister more than a normal friend, then your repeated willingness to be at her beck and call may still be acceptable provided you knowingly are happy to be made used of.

But you felt being made used of. This means you are expecting some form of returns from her, at least an acknowledgement in front of her friends that you are her friend. Unfortunately she is not reciprocating and you feel disconcerted.

It is obvious that you are not truly altruistic when being there for her. The title of your thread has said it all and answered it all.

[Wintermelontea]

bro,

after reading your story, did u ask yourself if all these that u have done for her, whether as a friend or otherwise more, worth it?

sometimes, logic is not enough...partly due to emotional aspects coming into play. in your situation, i believe u are pretty emotional about all these (hence the feeling of being used came up).

some people are not meant to be friends with. she is one example of it. no matter how well u treat her, it will never be mutual. so get this and treat yourself better, love yourself more and in time to come, it will be clear as to who you can befriend and make a lasting friendship, if not a permanent BGR aka husband and wifey thing.

pack your bags, turn and walk away. do not turn back and look. lastly, smile! bcoz today will be the best day of your life yet...

[Janet_W]

I dun know bro. Maybe i was caught off guard about her recent behaviour. Like i said, she used to be a woman with princlple and pride and i quite respect her in the past.


dun u noe a women's mood can change lk the wind ?

my mood can swing 180 degrees afew times a nite when i'm emo.

[Janet_W]

Men's mood can be likewise too sis......

www.mrstyleking.com

yeah tell me abt it ! :mad:
but usually a bit of sweet action from us girls and most men will be qi siao le

[Ken79]

First and foremost, do not allow a gal think that she can have her ways with u and trample over u as she pleases, let alone letting her actually do it and u become a willing victim.

You should be somewhat unpredictable, learn how and when to say 'no' and also a pinch of attitude.

Women like men, or rather all humans are like this, the more they feel they cannot totally grasp or control a person or thing, the more intrigued and invoked they are to engage that person, key point is to stoke the curiosity and interest of that person towards u.

Have to remember this, any half decent gal if they are single would be going out with more than 1 guy and out of all these guys they would fall into many categories like friends, brothers, fwb, bf, carrot head, etc.

So u need to know she place u in which category.
Then in each category there are also ratings, like some guys are better friends to her than other guys or some guys can make a better bf than other guys.
We judge and we are being judged, this is how the world goes.

[ahit1]

dun u noe a women's mood can change lk the wind ?

my mood can swing 180 degrees afew times a nite when i'm emo.

Guess i really don't know what woman want. What i can give is not really what they really want...maybe you can advise me in a point of a view of a woman (if you are a gal)

Anyway, thanks for all sbf bros her for all your advice and time. Really appreciate it. What i am trying to do now is to control myself not to be too emotionally involved, obsessed with her. I really trying very hard. Hope time will slowly heal.

[late bloomer]

She treats you like a brother, a brother who takes good care of her well. Like you have said it, she is not sexually attracted to you so your relationship with her will only be confined at a platonic level.

Bro Absolute, I humbly beg to differ.

Firstly, she does not treat TS like a brother.
She treat him like dirt.

Secondly, TS relationship with her should be confined at a level
FAR FAR below platonic.

The question is whether you can still accept that she treats you like a brother and you are willing to accept her as your sister instead of a normal friend.

I repeat. She does not treat TS like a brother
& TS should not accept her as a sister until she changes back.

If you treat her like a sister more than a normal friend, then your repeated willingness to be at her beck and call may still be acceptable provided you knowingly are happy to be made used of.

I disagree again bro. It is not acceptable.

But you felt being made used of. This means you are expecting some form of returns from her, at least an acknowledgement in front of her friends that you are her friend. Unfortunately she is not reciprocating and you feel disconcerted.

Yes this part I agree with you.

It is obvious that you are not truly altruistic when being there for her. The title of your thread has said it all and answered it all.
Agree with you, but only technically.
Bro pls don't use the word 'altruistic' in this sex forum.
TS has a thing for her, so of course it's a vested interest.
He has every right to drive whoever girl he likes and deems fit.
It's not considered altruism, unless he is driving
some handicapped lady to her destination.
Driving her around at her beck and call is not call altruism,
it's call SPOILING HER.
This woman got 2 hand 2 leg, dunno how to take bus or train ah?
If TS wants to do charity work, there are far better people
for him to be kind to. This kind of woman does not deserve his kindness.
Bro ahit, consider this my last time giving you advice.
Pls choose yr friends properly.

[thomko]

ts... honest opinion... ask her go Fly Kite... many fishes in the ocean..

[tipspecialist]

Guess i really don't know what woman want. What i can give is not really what they really want...maybe you can advise me in a point of a view of a woman (if you are a gal)

Anyway, thanks for all sbf bros her for all your advice and time. Really appreciate it. What i am trying to do now is to control myself not to be too emotionally involved, obsessed with her. I really trying very hard. Hope time will slowly heal.

girls like bad guys. no idea why but yes they do... u can be a mr nice and there are 10 mr nice before u get into the pants but normally is the mr bad who is the first whom she gives the green light to...

[bobochan]

Then i started to realise she seems to starting to make use of me.

Then she started to borrow money from me.

Minutes later, she told me that she did not bring out her wallet to do the make over and ask me to borrow her some money.

Now I ain't saying she a gold digger
But she ain't messing with no broke niggaz
Get down girl, go 'head, get down

[peekaboo]

TS what do you think a normal behavior of a friend? Is it the way you treated your friend? Do the same friend treat you back with the same thing?

Do all the things that she asked from you and see what is her reactions. You will see the full picture for yourself. Or else you will still stuck in the same situation that you think she is your "friend".

It is difficult to judge a friend when money is involved. Most of the time the money just disappeared and will not come back.

[Townsend]

i think all guys go through this period before.

that's how we learnt to be smarter and not to fall into love trap easily.

immune~

[CornStickStand]

yo bro there is alot of girl out there just look for a new one.

[ahit1]

Thanks all bro for the advice. Nowadays I am controlling myself to distance her away from me. On and off I will try not to pick up her call..Although alot of time she msg me out, but i still manage to pause a while to control my feelings and reject her, not like last time so readily to say yes. I hope she can get the signal.

[speeder500]

I can't think of a person with a decent job having a thick stack of $50 notes.
Just offer her a few more and get over with it.

[sta1100]

Dear All Bros

please be patient for my long story below:

Got to know this girl for a few years. Quite a nice girl, have a decent job and honest sort of girl. We know each other thru mutal friends. We sort of hit off very well. We used to chat for long hours and go out quite often in the past. Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

Happen during this time, she get to know a few newly found frends. She start to treat me differently, harsh and impatient. Everytime, when i was with her, there is a guy from the group always call up to her. Although the call is short every time, but it do sound like a bf reporting to his gf about the whereabouts. I can see that she started hanging out with them very often and seems to enjoy their company more than with me. I admit I was very jealous. But there is nothing I can do.

Then i started to realise she seems to starting to make use of me. Nowadays whenever she jio me out always with a motive, not like last time, just purely going out and enjoy ourselves. On one occasion, she ask me for help to pick her up as she says she oversleep at the bus and miss her stop. Upon reaching she make me wait for almost an hour at the location. She keep msg me say she got things to settle. Later i found out that she is actually with this banch of friend playing pool. I feel like a fool, waiting and innocently thinking that maybe she really doing some shopping or wat-so-ever, without realise that she have tricked me and treat me like a 24 hour driver.

Then she started to borrow money from me. Although the amount is not big. But the attiude was what i am concerned about. For example, once she say wanted to hold a bbq for her friends and borrow some money from me. Well since the amount is not big, i lent it to her. But I realise that she did not even invite me to the bbq. I even purposely told her i will pick her and longbang her to the location. I was actually waiting for her to open mouth to at least ask me want to join. But no a word of invation come out. During the drive, she keep talking to her this banch of friends and that branch of friends, excitedly planning who and who should meet. She give me a feeling that I am a shame to bring me out to meet her friends together.

Recently she say she wanted to have a make-over and have a new hairdo. I drive her over to her usual salon. And she proceed to her salon and told me to wait outside. (again the feeling of being that I am a shame aroused.) So i sat down at the nearby cafe to wait for her. Minutes later, she told me that she did not bring out her wallet to do the make over and ask me to borrow her some money. I say ok. She ask me to meet somewhere to pass her the money. After the hairdo, we went to purchase some of the girls thing. Wat i saw really saddened me. I saw her taking out her wallet from her handbag and make payment for her purchase. There is a stack of $50 dollars in her wallet. Thru out the journey home, she even have the cheek to mumble, say next time must remember to bring out her wallet. i remain slient and do not want to talk to her.

I feel so cheated and puzzled. Why do she need to lie to me to borrow money, or ask favor from me? She was not like that in the past. She was very honest and frank person in the past. I cannot believed she just change just like tat. Is it she know that i have feelings for her, i will not reject her request and take advantage of it? Am I really a shame to her?

If she really have a bf, why don't she just approach her bf for every request she want? I dun like the feeling of 'feeding' other ppl gf for them leh.

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...


Next time when she ask you out for dinner bring her to an expensive place after eating half way say you have something urgent need to rush off dump her behind to pay the bill I;am sure she will never call you again.

[raceer]

If it looks like a rat and smells like a rat, then its a RAT :-(

Sounds like you are being taken for a ride.

Suggest you take the advice given and walk away...life is too short to be ripped off.

[porscheclub]

Next time when she ask you out for dinner bring her to an expensive place after eating half way say you have something urgent need to rush off dump her behind to pay the bill I;am sure she will never call you again.

+1 :D Do it!

[Weremonkey]

Dear All Bros

please be patient for my long story below:

Got to know this girl for a few years. Quite a nice girl, have a decent job and honest sort of girl. We know each other thru mutal friends. We sort of hit off very well. We used to chat for long hours and go out quite often in the past. Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

Happen during this time, she get to know a few newly found frends. She start to treat me differently, harsh and impatient. Everytime, when i was with her, there is a guy from the group always call up to her. Although the call is short every time, but it do sound like a bf reporting to his gf about the whereabouts. I can see that she started hanging out with them very often and seems to enjoy their company more than with me. I admit I was very jealous. But there is nothing I can do.

Then i started to realise she seems to starting to make use of me. Nowadays whenever she jio me out always with a motive, not like last time, just purely going out and enjoy ourselves. On one occasion, she ask me for help to pick her up as she says she oversleep at the bus and miss her stop. Upon reaching she make me wait for almost an hour at the location. She keep msg me say she got things to settle. Later i found out that she is actually with this banch of friend playing pool. I feel like a fool, waiting and innocently thinking that maybe she really doing some shopping or wat-so-ever, without realise that she have tricked me and treat me like a 24 hour driver.

Then she started to borrow money from me. Although the amount is not big. But the attiude was what i am concerned about. For example, once she say wanted to hold a bbq for her friends and borrow some money from me. Well since the amount is not big, i lent it to her. But I realise that she did not even invite me to the bbq. I even purposely told her i will pick her and longbang her to the location. I was actually waiting for her to open mouth to at least ask me want to join. But no a word of invation come out. During the drive, she keep talking to her this banch of friends and that branch of friends, excitedly planning who and who should meet. She give me a feeling that I am a shame to bring me out to meet her friends together.

Recently she say she wanted to have a make-over and have a new hairdo. I drive her over to her usual salon. And she proceed to her salon and told me to wait outside. (again the feeling of being that I am a shame aroused.) So i sat down at the nearby cafe to wait for her. Minutes later, she told me that she did not bring out her wallet to do the make over and ask me to borrow her some money. I say ok. She ask me to meet somewhere to pass her the money. After the hairdo, we went to purchase some of the girls thing. Wat i saw really saddened me. I saw her taking out her wallet from her handbag and make payment for her purchase. There is a stack of $50 dollars in her wallet. Thru out the journey home, she even have the cheek to mumble, say next time must remember to bring out her wallet. i remain slient and do not want to talk to her.

I feel so cheated and puzzled. Why do she need to lie to me to borrow money, or ask favor from me? She was not like that in the past. She was very honest and frank person in the past. I cannot believed she just change just like tat. Is it she know that i have feelings for her, i will not reject her request and take advantage of it? Am I really a shame to her?

If she really have a bf, why don't she just approach her bf for every request she want? I dun like the feeling of 'feeding' other ppl gf for them leh.

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

Feel sorry for you bro. But there is really no excuse to being an idiot.

[NRider]

Bro TS quickly cut losses, there are still plenty of nice gals out there !!

[Ah he]

Yah dude.. not worth it. Even now if she accept u as her BF also no point. Her intension on the begining is not right..
WOman beri selfish... The more you treat them well the more they will take advantage on u ( I mean ur current babe ) . Her mind full of ideas to JUICE you dry. IF u think of fucking her and dump her...better forget about it. Dont waste ur sperm and man power... I believe u pay $100 can get better quality and smaller diameter.

[TommyPingPong]

Unless you eat her and willing to let her use you then carry on. Cos some of us guys liked to be made a fool by some ladies who are really good at that especially u ate them.

Since you had not eaten her or she is signalling you can eat her, best is to junk her quickly as they become possessive even you ARE NOT her bf or FB.

[RVFYKY]

Remember to try and get your money back from her.

Watch her face change everytime you bring up this topic. She will then stop contacting you and after a while, both of you will drift apart and then totally stop contacting each other.

Time to move on, bro!

[ahit1]

Yah dude.. not worth it. Even now if she accept u as her BF also no point. Her intension on the begining is not right..
WOman beri selfish... The more you treat them well the more they will take advantage on u ( I mean ur current babe ) . Her mind full of ideas to JUICE you dry. IF u think of fucking her and dump her...better forget about it. Dont waste ur sperm and man power... I believe u pay $100 can get better quality and smaller diameter.

Very sadly true bro, when you nice to them, they take advantage of your liking, treat you like a idiot. When the other guy treat them like dirt, they treat them back like gold. I really really dun understand their thinking.

Unless you eat her and willing to let her use you then carry on. Cos some of us guys liked to be made a fool by some ladies who are really good at that especially u ate them.

Since you had not eaten her or she is signalling you can eat her, best is to junk her quickly as they become possessive even you ARE NOT her bf or FB.

thks bro, point noted. As i mention earlier, i am avoiding her as much as possible.

Remember to try and get your money back from her.

Watch her face change everytime you bring up this topic. She will then stop contacting you and after a while, both of you will drift apart and then totally stop contacting each other.

Time to move on, bro!

Bro, actually recently i tested her before, on returning me the money, but she just brush off. I even go to the extend to ask her on her payday, she just give excuses and brush off. By right she should be avoiding me, yet she still keep calling me, sending msg to me. I really dun get what she is thinking, or trying to do.

[sadfa]

thks bro, point noted. As i mention earlier, i am avoiding her as much as possible.


Bro, actually recently i tested her before, on returning me the money, but she just brush off. I even go to the extend to ask her on her payday, she just give excuses and brush off. By right she should be avoiding me, yet she still keep calling me, sending msg to me. I really dun get what she is thinking, or trying to do.

you cant avoid her cos that means your money is gone right?

you just need to decide what you want out of her without being labelled as a pervert ie. free rubba for being her chauffeur and she save cab midnight charge.

so if she ask you out, you have to see whats in it for you to make you go eg. she got some chick to intro you. just make sure you vamoose when the bill comes if she plans to make you foot the bill! then later you can tell her to deduct your portion from the money she owes you.

btw hor, maybe she think you and her new found friends don't click cos they are the cool type and you are the nerd nerd type. Maybe.

[ZombieMania]

Next time when she ask you out for dinner bring her to an expensive place after eating half way say you have something urgent need to rush off dump her behind to pay the bill I;am sure she will never call you again.

me seconds the motion!

Do it mate!

[ZombieMania]

I really dun get what she is thinking, or trying to do.

cause she knows if and when she cooks up a story.. you will give her money...:confused::confused:

mate... its time to move on :)

[nihabaashi]

Get rid of her..ask for your money back.

No mercy..mercy is for the weak!

[maxsee]

You should definitely move on with ur life without her..but dun think asking back money is rite..whatever u spend is gone already...moving on is good enough...:D:D:D

[cataramp]

hello

http://ih0.redbubble.net/image.4040507.9617/flat,550x550,075,f.jpg

[taitaikunu]

Bro,
What you feel that is good for you.
What is for you, may not be good for anyone else.
If you or when you doubt on what you are doing, then you confront it or walk away if you are afaid of the answer that returns.

cheers.

[hornie]

TS u need to grow a spine and take control of your life. I would have left the girl long time ago. I see absolutely no reason why you are still hanging out with her? Is she hot? Treats you like dirt, does not like to hang with you, always asking you for favors, and not giving you any love and/or action. Soo... it is a bit one sided if you ask me.

[lonelygirl]

Seriously.. she is just using u

[sixplus]

take a step back, and take a look at your situation as if you are someone else. how would you think if it is your friend that is in this situation of yours? hope things get clearer for you. take care.

[Lonelyboiiii]

Becos u carry on this for her even after she make it clear u are juz a friend.and from her action already shows she dun give a damm about u.u treat her gd,she sees this as a sign of ur weakness,she as well take advantage.yes is cruel,bt tt is the fact wif all this sg girls,I am straightforward,no offence,hate all this sg bitches

[Kimchi1001]

Sadly, you are being used and taken advantage of. For your sake, stay away from her as far as possible before she bleeds you dry and fleece you for every penny you have. Love yourself.

[IAmAwesome]

Seriously.. she is just using u

Agreed here as well

[Stanisslav]

+1 :D Do it!

That would be epic :D

[desmond888]

yes bro wake up la

[Soignie]

Fool me once then shame on you, fool me twice then shame on me. She is making a fool of you and you are allowing it to happen.

[YamEater]

You are stupid, end of story.
So wake up ya?

[darrendon]

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

Bro, all I can say is that she has changed.

In the past, she haven't met this group of friends yet and that was why her character remains as the past but after meeting the group of friends, her character had evolve and this is what she is now. Sad but true.

I have been through the same before and I can definitely understand the shitty feelings. But there is really nothing you can do as we also will change as well. No right or wrong.

I will think just give her up and let her be and don't let her make use of you again. I am not saying that you should drop her as a friend but do not always give in to her demands. I have made similar mistakes as well and is also still trying to endure not to be too nice.

Bro, learning process is hard but in the long run, it will be good for you.
:)

[MissTan]

Bro
Leave her and move on

[mutantchicken]

Dear All Bros

please be patient for my long story below:

Got to know this girl for a few years. Quite a nice girl, have a decent job and honest sort of girl. We know each other thru mutal friends. We sort of hit off very well. We used to chat for long hours and go out quite often in the past. Although we are close, but she make it clear that we are just friends. I admit I do have feelings for her and I ever told my feelings for her. But was rejected, saying we remain as friends. And this is where the problem starts.

Happen during this time, she get to know a few newly found frends. She start to treat me differently, harsh and impatient. Everytime, when i was with her, there is a guy from the group always call up to her. Although the call is short every time, but it do sound like a bf reporting to his gf about the whereabouts. I can see that she started hanging out with them very often and seems to enjoy their company more than with me. I admit I was very jealous. But there is nothing I can do.

Then i started to realise she seems to starting to make use of me. Nowadays whenever she jio me out always with a motive, not like last time, just purely going out and enjoy ourselves. On one occasion, she ask me for help to pick her up as she says she oversleep at the bus and miss her stop. Upon reaching she make me wait for almost an hour at the location. She keep msg me say she got things to settle. Later i found out that she is actually with this banch of friend playing pool. I feel like a fool, waiting and innocently thinking that maybe she really doing some shopping or wat-so-ever, without realise that she have tricked me and treat me like a 24 hour driver.

Then she started to borrow money from me. Although the amount is not big. But the attiude was what i am concerned about. For example, once she say wanted to hold a bbq for her friends and borrow some money from me. Well since the amount is not big, i lent it to her. But I realise that she did not even invite me to the bbq. I even purposely told her i will pick her and longbang her to the location. I was actually waiting for her to open mouth to at least ask me want to join. But no a word of invation come out. During the drive, she keep talking to her this banch of friends and that branch of friends, excitedly planning who and who should meet. She give me a feeling that I am a shame to bring me out to meet her friends together.

Recently she say she wanted to have a make-over and have a new hairdo. I drive her over to her usual salon. And she proceed to her salon and told me to wait outside. (again the feeling of being that I am a shame aroused.) So i sat down at the nearby cafe to wait for her. Minutes later, she told me that she did not bring out her wallet to do the make over and ask me to borrow her some money. I say ok. She ask me to meet somewhere to pass her the money. After the hairdo, we went to purchase some of the girls thing. Wat i saw really saddened me. I saw her taking out her wallet from her handbag and make payment for her purchase. There is a stack of $50 dollars in her wallet. Thru out the journey home, she even have the cheek to mumble, say next time must remember to bring out her wallet. i remain slient and do not want to talk to her.

I feel so cheated and puzzled. Why do she need to lie to me to borrow money, or ask favor from me? She was not like that in the past. She was very honest and frank person in the past. I cannot believed she just change just like tat. Is it she know that i have feelings for her, i will not reject her request and take advantage of it? Am I really a shame to her?

If she really have a bf, why don't she just approach her bf for every request she want? I dun like the feeling of 'feeding' other ppl gf for them leh.

Hope any bros, or maybe gals out there can advise what actually she is thinking. I really want to maintain a friendship with her, but dun want to be a carrot to her. I dun mind kana flame but at least some advice please...

she do these things because YOU LET HER, she know she can GET AWAY with you, the fact that you know but feel you have to ask strangers is a sign of your WEAKNESS.

[debbie]

Stop doing all this things for her .. she isn't even your girlfriend ! She's treating you like a carrot , sorry to say ! You're too nice to her !

[pleasurehobby]

As a man, my opinion is always focus on your family and career. Women come and go, after a few (or more), you mght gradually understand that they are mostly looking for the same needs.